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195 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 2006
We were allowed a single Crayola from the box at a time. One Christmas Eve he shrieked at Kimmie for wasting an apple slice. He hovered over us as we poured ketchup, saying, Good enough good enough good enough.A not-so-life-affirming utility-maximizing, gratification-delaying uber-Protestant, in other words. Thing is, though, both parents are on Team Puritan in The Discomfort Zone, and it is mom who seems to deserve, or at least receives, more of the son's scrutiny. The book opens with Franzen relating his returning home after her death to sell the house which was not only her pride and joy, but seemingly one of her chief reasons for living. Life in that house was about improving that house, and improving it was about its future sale—I won't spoil that saga for you. Living in it was to be
cocooned in cocoons that were themselves cocooned. I was the late-arriving son to whom my father, who read to me every weeknight, confided his love of the depressive donkey Eeyore in A. A. Milne, and to whom my mother, at bedtime, sang a private lullaby that she’d made up to celebrate my birth. My parents were adversaries and my brothers were rivals, and each of them complained to me about each of the others, but they were all united in finding me amusing, and there was nothing not to love in them.All that love though? It comes very late in the book, much later in life (by Franzen's own confession), when the father is gone and the mother is terminally ill. Only then does he at last learn to love her "properly" (I'll get to that). Earlier on, though? It was all about control, control over every single aspect of young Jonathan's life. Here's an example:
In our hotel room in Orlando, I begged my mother to let me wear my cutoff jeans and a T-shirt for the day, but my mother won the argument, and I arrived at Disney World in an ensemble of pleated shorts and a Bing Crosbyish sport shirt. Dressed like this, miserable with self-consciousness, I moved my feet only when I was directly ordered to. All I wanted to do was go sit in our car and read. In front of each themed ride, my mother asked me if it didn’t look like lots of fun, but I saw the other teenagers waiting in line, and I felt their eyes on my clothes and my parents, and my throat ached, and I said the line was too long. My mother tried to cajole me, but my father cut her off: “Irene, he doesn’t want to ride this one.” We trudged on through diffuse, burning Florida sunshine to the next crowded ride. Where, again, the same story.No wonder, then, that young JF becomes rather tightly-wound, and that budding writer JF has to fight them every inch of the way to study German at college (as, unlike English, it can at least be dressed up as possibly leading to a career international banking or something), or that still-older JF tries to control every aspect of his relationships with women.
“You have to ride something,” my father said finally, after we’d had lunch. We were standing in the lee of an eatery while tawny-legged tourist girls thronged toward the water rides. My eyes fell on a nearby merry-go-round that was empty except for a few toddlers.
“I’ll ride that,” I said in a dull voice.
To know that something is doomed and to cheerfully try to save it anyway: it was a characteristic of my mother. I had finally started to love her near the end of her life, when she was undergoing a year of chemotherapy and radiation and living by herself. I’d admired her bravery for that. I’d admired her will to recuperate and her extraordinary tolerance of pain. I’d felt proud when her sister remarked to me, “Your mother looks better two days after abdominal surgery than I do at a dinner party.” I’d admired her skill and ruthlessness at the bridge table, where she wore the same determined frown when she had everything under control as when she knew she was going down. The last decade of her life, which started with my father’s dementia and ended with her colon cancer, was a rotten hand that she played like a winner.Has JF, in learning to love his mother learned to love his fellow humans, much less himself??? Again, I have no idea. JF is still a weird, weird dude, in my estimation, an author I am not sure I would enjoy having a beer with (kind of a litmus test with me, that). But I'm still not sure that I wouldn't enjoy said beer, either. That's a testament to Franzen's skill, here, in making a crazy, uncomfortable (yet still at times compensatory, if not quite comforting) kind of art out of a strange and difficult, yet obviously at times rewarding life and life-in-art.