Die My Love

I knew this type of movie would be for me, but I also understand it's a very niche genre. I think to some level, you have to understand what she's going through to appreciate it. I didn't suffer PPD, but my husband and I were in a car accident that almost killed me and took the life of our 19yr old daughter. We had only just moved to a new state for a fresh start 2mos prior. The year after the accident, I became isolated, depressed, and started to lose it, much in the same as she did. My husband still had to work and provide for me and our other children since I was injured and broken mentally. She literally was living out my intrusive thoughts in the movie. Maybe my situation made it hit close to home and appreciate seeing that on the screen. It also made me feel for my husband who had the weight of the world on his shoulders while grieving and losing me at the same time. My husband and I have been separated for awhile and I don't blame him. The story plays out much like a fractured mind, it's all over the place, but that's the most honest way to depict the story. Despite some negative reviews, I loved it and am glad this movie exists. The performances were amazing, especially Jennifer's. I hope she gets another Oscar for this.

Despite its committed performances, occasionally intriguing choices and generally quite gorgeous - and delightfully textured - cinematography, very little about Lynne Ramsay's 'Die My Love (2025)' worked for me, and I'm not sure why. It's definitely well-crafted in almost every area, and it knows what it's doing and does it exactly how it wants to, but it's honestly pretty boring. It says everything it's going to say by the halfway point, and it just keeps going. It's the kind of film that I feel as though I should've liked, especially since my brother - whose taste in cinema is almost identical to mine - genuinely enjoyed it, but I just don't and I can't lie about it. It doesn't move me, it doesn't work its way under my skin, it doesn't excite or delight or even frustrate me. It just plays out in front of me. I can tell it's quite good in its own way, but it simply doesn't connect with me and I'm pretty sure it's not just because I don't have first-hand experience of the subject matter. There have been plenty of movies about people and places and feelings and actions entirely unfamiliar to me, and many of them have found their way into my heart and touched me on a deep level. I'm aware that this kind of reads more as an apology than a review, but I simply can't quite put my finger on why I don't like this feature and therefore don't feel comfortable completely condemning it. It's exactly what it wants and needs to be, but it isn't for me. Sometimes, that's just the way it is I suppose.

'Die My Love' is an emotionally charged tale that follows a woman's slow descent into postpartum psychosis. Lawrence plays Grace, a new mother and writer, while Robert Pattinson co-stars as Jackson, Grace's partner. The movie is based on Ariana Harwicz's novel of the same name.

As well as being unconventional, this movie is a slow burn. There are long periods of tedium, punctuated by moments of deep intensity that literally shock the viewer into a sudden state of alertness. This is part of what makes 'Die My Love' work so well. I say this because there are times where, as a viewer, you almost get lulled into a false sense of security. But before you can get too comfortable, the plot takes an unexpected turn, and you quickly become engaged with the story again. Black humour is also used selectively to break the tension, which works well.

The overall mood of the film is one of mystery and unease. Being set in rural Montana adds to the mystery. A lot of the scenes occur in the family home Grace and Jackson share. That the house is in the middle of nowhere adds to Grace's sense of isolation, which only serves to compound her psychosis. Having the bulk of the scenes in the family home creates a sense of immediacy and also provides a solid foundation for the story. It also provides context for other scenes in the film.

One thing I liked about the story is that sometimes you aren't always sure what's real and what's only happening in Grace's mind. This added an element of mystery that I found compelling. And while it made the plot complicated, it was authentic. Madness is not linear, so it makes sense for the film to portray madness in a non-linear fashion.

Thanks to the direction of Lynne Ramsey, the viewer gets a harrowing window into what it's like to experience postpartum psychosis. The editing has also been done well too. With a plot that jumps around quite a bit, the different elements of the story are weaved together skilfully.

Lawrence plays her role with nuance and a raw intensity. One minute she is glassy eyed and looking off into nowhere. The next she is apparently lucid and calm, or is otherwise oblivious to her surroundings and the chaos and confusion for which she is responsible.

Pattinson delivers a compelling performance as a partner doing his best to make what he has with Grace and their child work.

Together, Pattinson's and Lawrence's performances combine to highlight the inner workings of a relationship that, while not loveless, is truly dysfunctional.

There's a great supporting cast too. Sissy Spacek plays the role of Jackson's Mum, Pam. While Pam appears well intentioned, ultimately, she isn't really sure what to do. Then there is Nick Nolte who plays Harry. Nolte does well in his nuanced portrayal of an old man who, despite his confusion, still has feelings he wants to express.

The film also features a really good soundtrack with a wide variety of music, including some heavy rock and industrial tunes. There are also some more upbeat tracks like 'Hey Mickey', which adds a moment of humour. Also in the mix are some acoustic numbers. The heavy numbers meld perfectly with the chaotic events occurring on screen, while the acoustic songs help to slow the pace. They also bring an element of melancholy to the story.

The cinematography has been done well too, with several scenes taking place at night, as well as others that occur at low light. This helps to create the film's dark mood and also heightens the sense of loneliness Grace is experiencing. There are also some great scenes shot in a field of tall grass that, while elegantly simple, also show the emotions Grace and Jackson are going through.

Another thing I really liked about the film was its use of symbolism to explore the theme of letting go of one's past. That this theme is communicated symbolically through visual effects - rather than through dialogue - is much more powerful. It also provides the story with a lot more depth.

I also liked the character development that came through in Pattinson's and Lawrence's performances. Despite many difficult situations and some really intense moments their characters share, I felt a degree of empathy for both of them.

Part dark psychological thriller, part black comedy, 'Die My Love' is a unique story that in some ways is elegantly simple, yet also uniquely complex. Pattinson and Lawrence deliver stellar performances, with Pattinson doing a fantastic job of portraying a frustrated partner who, despite everything, still cares about his family.

Then there is Lawrence, who continues to showcase her diverse range. She can do it all. From playing characters like the ballerina turned spy in 'Red Sparrow', to a down on her luck uber driver struggling to pay her property taxes in 'No Hard Feelings', Lawrence demonstrates her ability to work across genres with great skill. She was also one of the producers on this film, so is clearly multi-talented.

Die, My Love? More like Day, For Night.

I'll give it this. The film taps into something authentic when it comes to looking at the impulsiveness that comes with depression. When it's jarring by showing something destructive happening, you feel it, and it feels real. Also, Jennifer Lawrence is very good, even though she doesn't really have an actual film to work with.

This thing is abysmally written and paced. A good performance and a certain honesty about mental illness - and how it feels - can only take this so far. There are parts of this film where it was almost like someone was trying to kneecap those somewhat redeeming qualities. You can have a film that's unpredictable and that shows a sense of psychological deterioration, but you still need pacing or a sense of momentum/escalation.

Die My Love has none of that, and whatever it's trying to be beyond a depiction of depression (and it is trying to be other things; it has to, with a runtime of about two hours), it fails. There's a randomness that doesn't feel clever or particularly purposeful; more just lazy. But I also thought Lynne Ramsay's previous film, You Were Never Really Here, was smug and kind of frustrating, so take my take with a decent amount of salt (We Need to Talk About Kevin was good, though).

Its truly a sad story about postpartum. Its something that isn't talked about enough and does happen. This was on the deep end of the pool in my opinion and the whole movie is just weird, depression or not. Too much went into the shots that it kinda took away from the story a bit in my opinion. Thats weird for me to say because I normally love that. Throwing in the dog and the disrespect from the husband didn't help add to her postpartum depression, of course she was. Why was that never focused on? Overall this sad movie was good catching emotions and the pain. It just wasn't for me and the movie felt long.

Watched at AMC with Heather on 11-9-2025.