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Though "Betrayed: A Story of Three Women" has its faults — it's VERY much to the Lifetime formula (just read the synopsis in TV Guide and you could practically write the script yourself), starting with a hot soft-core porn scene between the illicit lovers and at times getting so melodramatic I wondered if I should turn it off and watch something a little more understated, like "Il Trovatore" — I'm posting here because I really resent some of the sexist attacks on the movie. I'm a man and men ARE like the philandering husband in the movie, or at least enough men are to make the broad outlines of the story believable. (And if you'll look at the credits again you'll notice that the director and writer were both male.) I liked the film — it wasn't a world-beater and I found the ending WAY too optimistic, but it was well-crafted and did what it set out to do. Also, decent roles for middle-aged actresses are rare enough one can see why Meredith Baxter and Swooosie Kurtz wanted to do this one; they tore into their cat-fight scenes like starving tigers descending on a piece of raw meat.

Does anyone else wonder why some psychiatrist or clinical psychologist hasn't written a book entitled:

•••"A View of All the Problems Women Can Experience and Endure - from Marital Infidelity, to Being Menaced by Psycopaths, Along With Every Conceivalble Type of Problem Imaginable In-Between - as Depicted by Made-for-Television Movies Starring Meredith Baxter" ???????•••

In this movie, Meredith is blind-sided by the fact that her best friend's daughter has been having a protracted affair with her husband (she works for his law firm).

The husband, portrayed by John Terry, may not be the least-sympathetic, as well as completely "dull" character in the history of this genre (or any other, for that matter) - but he certainly is a contender.

Swoosie Kurtz's daughter (Swoosie is the inevitable "best friend") is also wholly-unsympathetic, and presents no qualities whatever which would make one like or care about her in the least.

It's also difficult to care much about Birney's character, and Swoosie Kurtz is the only one, whose widowed-mother-of-the-adulterous-daughter, and best-friend-of-the-betrayed-wife is remotely "realistic" and completely sympathetic in this Lifetime extravaganza.

As in most of the movies, the women have varying amounts of strength (even the daughter has a modicum), but the male characters schlep around like Woody Allen on downers. But at least Woody's characters are intended to be as he presents them, and are engaging.

Well, what can you say? Betrayed: A Story of Three Women is about as prototypical of a Lifetime movie as you could possibly expect. I'll try my best not to spoil all the details... but honestly, does it really matter? All of these story lines are essentially the same. Here's the scenario - an attractive middle-aged housewife has the perfect life... she's married to a wealthy, attractive and successful businessman, has two wonderful children and lives in a huge house in the middle of an upscale neighborhood. What else could you possibly ask for, right? Well, her perfect lifestyle comes to a screeching halt when she finds out that her husband is sleeping with her best friend's 20 year old daughter, who's home from college. And really, that's all the plot you need. Light the torches and start beating the war drums, because it's man-bashing time!

I'm not sure how many Lifetime masterpieces I've watched over the years, but I think it's safe to say that I can count the number of times ( on one finger ) where the doting housewife is actually the culprit and not the victim. More often that not, instead of heart-warming, positive films about love and relationships, we're always treated to the deepest, darkest fears of every American woman - her husband/boyfriend/uncle/brother/"insert your own male presence here" is a slime ball of the highest degree. Obviously, this is what women want to see, or else the network wouldn't keep churning this garbage out on a weekly basis. It's pathetic, really... and sad. In the movie, one of the characters points out that middle-aged husbands sleeping around with college girls, and best friends punching each other out at the supermarket is, "completely normal.. and just a part of every day life." Sorry, hon.. maybe it's considered normal behavior in Orange County, California but not where I reside.

The only people I could recommend this film to, are angry lesbians or desperate housewives who want to spend an afternoon sulking around the house and reconfirming their belief that men are scum.

and yes, there is a great cat-fight scene wherein they have it out at the local supermarket. Clare Carey is the other, younger woman.

Yes, a common story that ends up better than real life...John Terry is an attorney who has an affair (if we check for this theme on IMDb there would probably be 300 more movies made this year with the same theme). Still, there is a sub-plot with Kurtz and Baxter, and they manage to pull it off.

Swoosie Kurt is underrated as an actress. She is always believable, and never appears shrill or fabricated, which is more than can be said for standard television fare. Just look at media hype like Jessica Simpson or Paris Hilton, to see what an actor is NOT. However, I digress.

If you enjoyed films like Adrian Lyne's "Unfaithful", think of this as an amusing TV version. The performances are decent, John Terry and Nicholas Pryor are also good, and the sub-plot about Baxter's husband not living up to her standards is realistic, while Kurtz tries to repair their damaged friendship.

Meredith Baxter lends a realism to the story, and I would certainly hope to see Kurtz and Baxter in similar TV movies. 8/10

As usual, I was flipping thru the channels and came across this movie. I started watching it, and being on Lifetime, I was ready with my toilet paper roll I use as kleenex.

So the movie progressed and it was getting more stupid by the minute. Meredith Baxter and Swoosie Kurtz's rolls started out to be really crappy, but when "the affair" is revealed they're at eachother's throats like some cat fight from Dynasty.

The entire movie sucked. That I know for a fact. The love story in the middle was just like watching a Carrot Top commercial, only more sickening. I was waiting for a house to be set on fire by one of the other family members. THAT would've been interesting.

Joan Bixler's, played by Swoosie Kurtz, daughter Dana (played by Clare Carrey) gets "REALLY CLOSE" to Amanda Nelson's (played by Meredith Baxter) husband Rob (played by John Terry). The movie is predictable and still crappy.

Yes, I will probably watch this movie again, but only because it's that bad and laughable. I don't know why this movie was even made, and it certainly didn't help any of the actors and actresses careers after this. Even with its predictability, there was no saving this movie. It went from "WHAT THE *** WERE THEY THINKING?" to "OH MY GOD! WHAT THE **** WAS I THINKING IN WATCHING THIS?" ...It's such a shame this movie was that bad. Then again, it was on Lifetime.

You can still watch this for yourself and for your own opinion, but you were warned! You might want to bring a bucket just in case.