Dealing with Dad

I'm a sandwich generation parent/caregiver. In his dramedy, Dealing with Dad, filmmaker Tom Huang captures the very essence of Sandwich Generation living. He does so with heart and hilarious humor! All the while tackling themes such as parent/child dynamics, sibling issues, mental health, and racial/cultural topics.

The very first scene of this movie hooked me. It put into a visual some much of how I've felt during my caregiving journey. I feel so seen!!!

I highly recommend this movie! I've seen it about 5 times now and laugh every time!!! Definitely put it on your watch list! It'll lighten the load of what can be an overwhelming and hard road of a caregiver.

IN A NUTSHELL: The story is about Margaret, who reluctantly goes back to her hometown with her brothers to deal with the sudden depression of her father.

The film premiered at an Asian-American Film Festival and will definitely find its audience among Asian immigrants. It has already won an impressive number of awards!

The film was both written and directed by Tom Huang, based loosely on his personal experience and that of his Asian-immigrant friends.

One of my sons married a lovely girl from Hong Kong. Their little son is surrounded by Asian families in America where they live. I'm so grateful I've been able to go to China many times so that I can help instill a love for that rich culture in his heart.

THINGS I LIKED: The cast includes Ally Maki, Hayden Szeto, Peter S. Kim, Dana Lee, Karan Soni, Jeff Atlas, and Page Leong.

I've been trying to learn Mandarin, so it was fun to hear some of the characters in the story speak Mandarin.

Those in the Asian community will probably see a lot of familiar territory in the story. Non-Asians will get a glimpse into Asian families and their unique traditions and perspective.

The film could easily be turned into a sitcom and already feels a little like one.

The story seems very realistic.

There is a lot of humor, although not all of it landed for me.

THINGS I DIDN'T LIKE: So much yelling and fighting among the characters got on my nerves. I don't find that entertaining or funny.

I've never understood parents who complain when their adult kids don't call them. The phone works both ways.

I didn't really like any of the self-absorbed characters. They're constantly angry, snarky, and criticize each other. I'm so grateful I didn't grow up in a family like that. Neither did my husband, so we've been able to raise 4 respectful, kind sons.

I love alliteration in titles, but the name of the movie instantly reveals the attitudes of the children: they have to DEAL with their dad rather than CARE for him.

Unfortunately, the movie is forgettable.

TIPS FOR PARENTS: Profanity, including F-bombs Talk of racism Some crude conversations.

Siblings get into a fistfight.

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This film really hits you over the head with the fact that the children (who are now adults) had a rough childhood. They are still dealing with that trauma today - each in their own way. But, the interesting and relatable thing is that they know this. They recognize it and are dealing with it.

When it comes time to face the source (one of them) of that trauma, tough decisions are being made. There is internal and external struggles that are not unique to just this family but can be relatable to most.

Overall, yes, this is a "comedic drama" if you will. The humor is there and it delivers. It helps to soften the stronger, darker tones being discussed. It is a good film that is easy to watch and enjoy.

What a great feel good movie. I got a chance to watch an advance screening last year and it was so fun. It was my first movie in the theatre since the pandemic. The movie was witty and heartfelt. It had themes of identity. Family dunamics, societal norms etc - it was almost like a coming of age movie, but more like, "we are grown up now, and what are we doing?"

The acting was so funny, some areas were exaggerated but I think that was the point - to illustrate and build up each and individual character. I could see myself in each character which made the movie very relatable.

It was a great movie and I can't wait to watch it again with my teenagers. They need to understand what it was like for us Gen Xers growing up and how we see the world.

I watched this movie several times and loved it! I particularly enjoyed the dialog and dynamic between the siblings. Very funny! The film was entertaining and yet also talked about mental health issues, which are often not talked about in Asian families. The relationships in this film were well developed although would have enjoyed hearing more about the father and aunt childhood. So much of how we are today is the result of past experiences. I believe this film can be relatable to many Chinese Americans who grew up with immigrant parents. I would highly recommend this film to my Asian friends!