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"Die My Love" follows young couple Grace and Jackson (Jennifer Lawrence and Robert Pattinson), who relocate to Jackson's rural hometown in Montana for a new start. The couple soon welcome the birth of a son, but their relationship splinters as Grace descends into severe mental illness, while an often emotionally-absent Jackson falters in supporting her.

This emotionally exhausting film by Lynne Ramsay (no stranger to darkness) is a psychological rollercoaster that, despite lacking in some exposition, is no less an effective, turbulent, and abstract journey into one individual's mental decline. Many have characterized this film as one about postpartum depression, but I believe this is both an oversimplification and a mischaracterization. As someone whose lifelong best friend has suffered from inconsistently-medicated bipolar disorder for decades, I found that this film succinctly illustrated exactly what this disorder looks like to a level that is uncanny. Grace's temperament and actions throughout reminded me so much of my friend that I found the film at times extremely difficult to watch.

In terms of story, "Die My Love" is fairly sparse. The film mostly consists of a push-and-pull, a chaotic dance between Grace and Jackson that is both exasperating and occasionally touching. There remains a clear sense that, despite their respective flaws and problems, the two deeply care for each other; however, there is a vortex in the room consuming Grace that goes unchecked for far too long. Grace's reality is entirely obfuscated by her illness, while a distracted Jackson is ill-equipped to be a source of legitimate support. His mother, Pam (Sissy Spacek), who is experiencing her own grief, seems to intuitively recognize the emotional forces that are consuming Grace, but her efforts also remain limited due to a number of interpersonal family dynamics.

The storytelling here employs nonlinear and abstract tactics that are, for the most part, effective. I do think it suffers from a lack of exposition, as the audience gets no real sense of who these people were before Grace's decline. Instead, we are dropped into their lives at the precipice of all this turmoil. A few details about Grace's past eventually emerge near the film's conclusion, but it feels like a case of "too little, too late." Perhaps this was done intentionally so as to mimic the unpredictable, hard-and-fast progression of some mental illnesses, but I still felt as though there was an undergirding to the two leads characters that was sorely missed. Despite this, both Lawrence and Pattinson's performances are outstanding, and Spacek serves as a warm (albeit often helpless) maternal figure between the two.

There is a repetitive nature to the events that unfold as the film hurls toward its conclusion which some may find a slog to get through (and I do think it could have benefitted from some slight editing), but I mainly found it a slog because it was a painful and dispiriting viewing experience. Given my experiences with Ramsay's other films, I expected this, but it hit me harder because it brought up many personal memories. Despite what flaws it may have, as an emotional portrait, it is a real gut-punch of a film. 7/10.

Its truly a sad story about postpartum. Its something that isn't talked about enough and does happen. This was on the deep end of the pool in my opinion and the whole movie is just weird, depression or not. Too much went into the shots that it kinda took away from the story a bit in my opinion. Thats weird for me to say because I normally love that. Throwing in the dog and the disrespect from the husband didn't help add to her postpartum depression, of course she was. Why was that never focused on? Overall this sad movie was good catching emotions and the pain. It just wasn't for me and the movie felt long.

Watched at AMC with Heather on 11-9-2025.

This is a very good move. It's also an awful movie. Jennifer Lawrence acts the heck out of it - seriously good work. It's a huge rule that could have been cartoonish but she gives it nuance and depth. Robert Pattinson isn't quite as good but he holds his own.

Postpartum depression is not a topic I've seen done before, surely because it makes us confront uncomfortable things about mothers, who we'd rather idealize. So I give the producers a lot of credit for tackling the subject.

But it's about an unlikable woman going through miserable times, causing havoc in her wake. Of course people aren't going to like that.

My only possible criticism is that the portrayal of mental illness didn't seem fully authentic to me. But I say "possible" because I'm not a mental health professional and obviously I have not had postpartum depression.

But, the protagonists problems weren't only postpartum depression but that pushes her over the edge. I'll guess that's how it usually works.

Greetings again from the darkness. For the sake of her friends, family, and self, I do hope Lynne Ramsay's movies do not reflect her real-life persona. Don't get me wrong ... she's an extraordinary filmmaker, but to put it mildly, her films are not what we would label 'uplifting'. Proof of these two descriptions can be found in WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT KEVIN (2011) and YOU WERE NEVER REALLY HERE (2017), and now again in her latest. The 2017 English translated novel by Ariana Harwicz has been adapted by Ms. Ramsay, Enda Walsh (HUNGER, 2008) and Alice Birch (THE WONDER, 2022). It's an absorbing film featuring what is likely the year's best and most haunting performance.

When we first meet Grace (Oscar winner Jennifer Lawrence) and Jackson (Robert Pattinson), they are a wild and free couple who dance to the Pinky & Perky (not Alvin and the Chipmunks) version of "Let's Twist Again." Jackson has inherited a rundown house in rural Montana from his recently deceased uncle, and they fix up the place enough to move in. Sex and laughter fill their days right up until the baby is born. Postpartum depression has been conveyed in other movies, yet I don't believe it's ever been as visceral as what we witness here. Grace clearly loves her baby, while everything else about her own existence seems to anger and disappoint her ... the house, the dog, and especially Jackson.

Grace sinks to a level we don't often witness. It's so painful and uncomfortable to watch, and Jennifer Lawrence is fearless in her portrayal of Grace's downward spiral. Robert Pattinson plays Jackson as a normal guy who loves his wife, while having no clue how to handle the situation. Therein lies the power of this story. We could know Grace and Jackson, and we could be the folks at the party trying so hard to say the right things ... those things that turn out to be the worst things to say. We could also be that spouse willing to give the other enough space to find themselves.

Thanks to superb cinematographer Seamus McGarvey, the film has a gritty 1970's look and feel to it, and excellent (though limited) supporting work is provided by (Oscar winner) Sissy Spacek, rarely seen Nick Nolte, and the always interesting LaKeith Stanfield. The soundtrack is unusual and fascinating, including songs by such diverse artists as Elvis, Toni Basil, Cocteau Twins, Peggy Lipton, Nick Lowe, and Cream. As a bonus, the film features the best ever use of John Prine and Iris Dement singing "In Spite of Ourselves", a perfect fit. Mental health issues and depression are serious topics, and have rarely (if ever) been more accurately portrayed than what we see in this latest from filmmaker Lynne Ramsay. Despite the brilliant filmmaking and memorable performance, it's not an easy movie to recommend. It's only for those who can appreciate the magic within the dark clouds.

Opening in theaters on November 7, 2025.

'Die My Love' is an emotionally charged tale that follows a woman's slow descent into postpartum psychosis. Lawrence plays Grace, a new mother and writer, while Robert Pattinson co-stars as Jackson, Grace's partner. The movie is based on Ariana Harwicz's novel of the same name.

As well as being unconventional, this movie is a slow burn. There are long periods of tedium, punctuated by moments of deep intensity that literally shock the viewer into a sudden state of alertness. This is part of what makes 'Die My Love' work so well. I say this because there are times where, as a viewer, you almost get lulled into a false sense of security. But before you can get too comfortable, the plot takes an unexpected turn, and you quickly become engaged with the story again. Black humour is also used selectively to break the tension, which works well.

The overall mood of the film is one of mystery and unease. Being set in rural Montana adds to the mystery. A lot of the scenes occur in the family home Grace and Jackson share. That the house is in the middle of nowhere adds to Grace's sense of isolation, which only serves to compound her psychosis. Having the bulk of the scenes in the family home creates a sense of immediacy and also provides a solid foundation for the story. It also provides context for other scenes in the film.

One thing I liked about the story is that sometimes you aren't always sure what's real and what's only happening in Grace's mind. This added an element of mystery that I found compelling. And while it made the plot complicated, it was authentic. Madness is not linear, so it makes sense for the film to portray madness in a non-linear fashion.

Thanks to the direction of Lynne Ramsey, the viewer gets a harrowing window into what it's like to experience postpartum psychosis. The editing has also been done well too. With a plot that jumps around quite a bit, the different elements of the story are weaved together skilfully.

Lawrence plays her role with nuance and a raw intensity. One minute she is glassy eyed and looking off into nowhere. The next she is apparently lucid and calm, or is otherwise oblivious to her surroundings and the chaos and confusion for which she is responsible.

Pattinson delivers a compelling performance as a partner doing his best to make what he has with Grace and their child work.

Together, Pattinson's and Lawrence's performances combine to highlight the inner workings of a relationship that, while not loveless, is truly dysfunctional.

There's a great supporting cast too. Sissy Spacek plays the role of Jackson's Mum, Pam. While Pam appears well intentioned, ultimately, she isn't really sure what to do. Then there is Nick Nolte who plays Harry. Nolte does well in his nuanced portrayal of an old man who, despite his confusion, still has feelings he wants to express.

The film also features a really good soundtrack with a wide variety of music, including some heavy rock and industrial tunes. There are also some more upbeat tracks like 'Hey Mickey', which adds a moment of humour. Also in the mix are some acoustic numbers. The heavy numbers meld perfectly with the chaotic events occurring on screen, while the acoustic songs help to slow the pace. They also bring an element of melancholy to the story.

The cinematography has been done well too, with several scenes taking place at night, as well as others that occur at low light. This helps to create the film's dark mood and also heightens the sense of loneliness Grace is experiencing. There are also some great scenes shot in a field of tall grass that, while elegantly simple, also show the emotions Grace and Jackson are going through.

Another thing I really liked about the film was its use of symbolism to explore the theme of letting go of one's past. That this theme is communicated symbolically through visual effects - rather than through dialogue - is much more powerful. It also provides the story with a lot more depth.

I also liked the character development that came through in Pattinson's and Lawrence's performances. Despite many difficult situations and some really intense moments their characters share, I felt a degree of empathy for both of them.

Part dark psychological thriller, part black comedy, 'Die My Love' is a unique story that in some ways is elegantly simple, yet also uniquely complex. Pattinson and Lawrence deliver stellar performances, with Pattinson doing a fantastic job of portraying a frustrated partner who, despite everything, still cares about his family.

Then there is Lawrence, who continues to showcase her diverse range. She can do it all. From playing characters like the ballerina turned spy in 'Red Sparrow', to a down on her luck uber driver struggling to pay her property taxes in 'No Hard Feelings', Lawrence demonstrates her ability to work across genres with great skill. She was also one of the producers on this film, so is clearly multi-talented.