I'm Not in Love

This film offers something that I haven't seen in a long time - an honest invitation to journey with a character who, despite his flaws, is trying to make sense of what love is. It's funny that we really don't see many films like this - in attempts to generalize and gloss over it, or wishing for a sugar sweet finish, we can use romantic comedy as a way to escape our own questions, or fantasize our own better endings. This film invites us to look at ourselves, and uses humour and pathos to get there. At times uncomfortable, at times laughable, the characters bring us up close with difficult conversations about relationship, expectation and love. As a viewer, I found it an honest film - and that honesty, as well as the performances of the actors themselves, felt like an important gift that that brings the audience into maturity and honours a film tradition that demands engagement out of a friendship, or at least a kind of kinship, with its viewer.

Quality, but hits the head in the wall of nothingness and dialouges written either with invisible link, or just some clean blank papers. Its a film about a woman and a man that makes rather stupid selfish descisions, being hesitant to eachother in their relationship till all solutions has been tried until the aversion against eachother becomes far too strong to rescue. So its a downspiral turn especially for the male part and this film tend to take this much too far and relentless.

Its the trivialities of life that makes love come easy, or to some, it strangles love completely. A desperate search to consider if your love is the right person to live with for the rest of your life gone to far and too long. So if youre in for a comedy its not in a common standard and all of it becomes like everyones marriage, loving you is a dirty job but somebodys got to do it.

I think the acting and the dialouges in the battlefield were mighty fine, its just the plotting and a little bit lack of spontanity from the direction that kills this curious male chat. The clarinett and fagotto inspired score marks the transitions very well, more score there aint. There are plenty wisdomewords and advice you may learn from and for once the actors of a british film speaks clear enough for a near deaf norwegian grumpy old man to watch without cc's. A tiny recommend, a sequel could be an exciting project, dont you think?

Positive reviews are all single use accounts whose only activity in IMDB is to positively and gushingly rate/review this absolutely terrible, atrociously paced nonsense. And this is British? The Brits have the greatest actors in the world. Did they have to scour the gutter somewhere to find the only dozen brits who can't act at all?

Second, this is pitched as an anti-rom-com, and specifically as more realistic. Uhm, 40 year old never married women don't get married to men their age, they have to marry 60 year olds. Like it or not, that is the data. This guy, and any 40 year old employed guy, is going to be dating/marrying someone in their late 20's early 30s. He is going to have them chasing him in droves.

Rob is not sure about his long-term relationship...and is even less sure when an old flame turns up, and his current girlfriend suddenly wants to get married!

A gentle comedy/drama film, with some genuinely funny moments blended together with well observed drama. Beautifully directed and shot, the acting is very believable and there is even an appearance of the actress who played "Raquel" in "Only Fools and Horses"!

Recommended.

A romantic comedy in the vein of He's Just Not That Into You and When Harry Met Sally but totally unique, I'm Not In Love brings in a different perspective which allows you to delve into the male psyche. How privileged are we to get a rare glimpse, to look at things from a man's point of view , not just the main character who is surprisingly sympathetic, but his friends each one representing a different type of man at a different life stage for things and people are not just black and white. The women aren't left out either. But more than just a romantic comedy, this film which sped by which is always a good sign shows the little things that make up our everyday life. The link to the childhood effect on how men and women live their adult relationships is often overlooked and it was unusual and refreshing to see this handled here in a lighthearted but effective way. It also brings out things that everyone experiences of the banalities andmundanities of true love when or if we even find it that people often don't talk about.. It touches on the challenges men and women face every day and what it means to be human.. The movie was over before I knew it even though I rewatched bits of it. Loved it.