My Lover, My Killer

I know British documentaries are much different from American documentaries but in this case there is just so much redundancy and so little new information to take up the entirety of each episode. It's really not about British being more reserved, this is sadly just very mundane and reiterates itself over and over. Sad for the victims. I think it's very hard to understand not only the behavior of a stalker or someone of that kind of controlling nature that ends up murdering you because they can't control their emotions but it's equally hard to understand the lack of action from the friends and family who saw the danger far ahead of time. You just can't really know what you would do in such a situation although it's very easy to judge them and wonder why they didn't take some action especially the red-haired girl. The reviews I find intriguing and upsetting, if I can be honest. Who are all these people calling this a woke documentary series and saying that it's sexist? Are they saying that because the murderer was not put in a good light that the show is showing favoritism toward the victim? I think those people need some psychological counseling and I hope that they are not the next stalker. It's absolutely incredulous to me to read reviews that are upset that the perpetrator was shown in an unfair light. I mean the very notion that you should somehow be fair in describing or demonstrating the perpetrator is so mind-boggling that I'm at a loss for words.

The interviews are painful to watch, filled with useless information and one expert repeated himself continously just rephrasing his sentence over and over. Badly edited and put together what could be put in a 25min to 30min episode is dragged out with useless information while concluding information is just brushed over and ignored. This applies to all the episodes.

Now ive only seen the first 2 episodes of season 2,m.

The first was decent, but the family/friends/prosecutors are very repetitive and don't do a great job of making you understand the people/places/situations in the least. Also i found this series to be very dry so far. Yay the second episode i found to be ridiculous i had to button down and force myself through the episode. The guy is just as bad as the girl. He is a drinker and a drug user.. from where i'm sitting they are the same.. i understand she did some bad stuff at the end, but seriously this isn't the type of murder you show case and act like he was an angel just caught in a bad cycle. So was she. It's just not a good look the way they are beating how much she drank into the ground and acting like she's trash when he was doing the same EXACT thing. Also she can get an abortion if she wants and she should have seeing as how she couldn't support another child with how her life was going and neither could he. He didn't even have any custody with his child what does that say about him. The uk stuck in the dark ages if they look at single moms wrong but single ESTRANGED fathers like it's not their fault.

I can't watch anymore, i like myself too much. Just no, no- absolutely not.

Maybe it's because most people watching don't understand stalking behaviour. Of course the series is biased towards the victims, they were brutally murdered! My goodness! They didn't deserve to be stabbed multiple times. Makes me wonder about some of these reviewers, seriously. I think the series does a good job of showing the helplessness and guilt of the families. Nobody wants something like this to happen to their loved one, all of the victims were very young (one killed at 20 years old). I also think it does show how these toxic relationships begin and the red flags to look for....but that could have been flushed out more. I wish they had an expert who really delved into the psychology of stalking and maybe what victims and families can do other than feel helpless. Clearly police need to be able to do more as well. I am just glad several of these families have set up charities and trying to help others, bringing something positive out of something so horrific.

The cases themselves are fairly interesting, given a very detailed build-up to the eventual murder so you can really get a feel for the people involved and the narrator does a good job of tying everything together but there often lacks detail of how the actual event transpired (understandable as only the killer knows what happened in each case but it sort of glosses over it in some cases, just simply a they killed them and that's it).

There are other issues which lead me to give this a middle of the road rating. Firstly it can be quite repetitive, often repeating quotes or rehashing the story (presumably because it was made for advert breaks and there aren't any on netflix) and the portrayal of the killer/victim seems very biased and one sided. Always describing the victim as innocent and the killer as out of control or psychopathic which may be the case but no way as black and white as this documentary implies.