Bad Vegan: Arnaque au menu

This would be a mediocre story about a woman who falls for a run-of-the-mill con game, but perhaps people need to have a little sympathy that this happened to a real person, not an actor in a drama.

This show is framed as a documentary, but it's more like a docufiction that's based on a true story. You don't get his side of the story (for whatever that's worth), and you may argue how much of her vulnerability was caused by her loneliness and naivete (as she claims), or her trying to dig herself out of a hole she created that the con exploited.

She doesn't come across in the show as someone you would feel much sympathy for--a privileged, beautiful, Wharton business school grad, engaged in the pop culture foodie scene with celebrity connections, who falls from grace, ensnared by a ludicrous con man. But part of that is that this happened during a vulnerable time (emotional and/or financial?), which should be understandable. We can't really be a judge of how stressful it becomes when playing with big stakes, and the stupid things we do when we're trapped. And once we're trapped, we're trapped--and that's the point, I suppose. It's embarrassing, shameful, and cringy for us to watch, but I'd imagine it's more so to have to tell the story herself.

It's about as exciting as watching a train wreck in slow motion, a vegan version of Holmes and Theranos, but there are far worse shows out there.

I get why people think Sarma has to have been in on it with her manipulative husband Anthony because the manipulations he's said to have subjected her to sound so absurd. What I don't see is what the motive would have been for her to ruin her life and business just to feed his gambling addiction. Also the doc includes ample recorded evidence of phone calls in which she argued desperately with him about his demands for money, even if she ultimately acceded to them. It does seem pretty clear she was being manipulated, bizarre as it all is.

Given the mind games said to be at work here, it's a real shame the documentary makers didn't include interviews with psychologists or shrinks. Absent that, I'll hazard my own theory, which I think at least makes more sense than seeing Sarma as an out-and-out deliberate crook.

It's clear that, in huge debt as she already was when she met Anthony, she married him not for love but on the promise that he'd get her out of the hole. I think this was his leverage in the demands that followed. She felt guilty enough about trying to use him financially to unconsciously allow him to punish her. The onslaught of his demands, torturous though it was, was a distraction from the guilt - a sort of obsessional state for Sarma, not unlike addiction. It's especially extreme, but it's not that different from self-harming behaviours many of us engage in without knowing why we can't stop: over-eating, alcoholism and addiction, OCD, stupid rows with our partners, self-woundig and many more examples down to just spending too much time dumbly scrolling, liking and swiping.

Let them who are without irrationality cast the first stone, and watch out that the stone-throwing doesn't become your own addiction.

On the one hand I have sympathy for her being psychologically abused by this despicable guy but on the other hand she never once shows any remorse for her employees who suffered. She cared more about her dog.

4 episodes is way too long. There is so much redundancy or things that are drawn out. There is no twist, conclusion, or closure.

The series is absolutely biased toward Sarma. Most of it is her telling her side of the story - whether it's truth is another thing entirely.

Speaking of what's true or not, I can't wrap my head around someone actually believing the supernatural claims she supposedly did. Making her dog immortal? Making her some non-human queen? What?! And she doesn't even acknowledge that she believed those things, really. She brushes EVERYTHING off by basically saying "I don't know why, I just did though." I do find the story itself interesting to an extent. But this presentation is extremely overdrawn and very disingenuous and emotionally manipulative.

This could have been made a short movie or 2 episodes, instead it's 4 hour-long episodes. I can't in good conscience recommend anyone invest that amount of time into this.

Sorry too much like Tinder Swindler where they get conned out of money. It's hard to keep feeling sorry for these people. Never give out that amount of money to someone who you don't know very well. Why does Netflix keep taking off good shows and putting crap like this on? There is enough programs that are worth watching on Netflix that after one episode I am passing this one up.