Our Son

I wondered, with only 1s and 10s ratings, what was going to be this movie like. This spoiled me the very first part as I was looking for some strong point of views one way or another. In fact, there is nothing controversial, it's just a nice indy movie.

Acting is quite good, characters are played well enough to get involved in the story and even choose a side.

The story was not really predictable, my friend guessed one end, and I guessed another one. So just don't trust too much those too angry or too excited reviews.

About the story, it was interesting, after all those legal battles on gay marriage and surrogacy, how a judge, how families, would behave. An inevitable subject 10 or 15 years later, now in 2023.

Bill Oliver's OUR SON is a fine drama, telling the story of a gay couple whose marriage comes to an end, and their subsequent custody battle over the young son whom they fathered via IVF.

In a time when homosexuality is still illegal in some areas of the world, and there is still a large percentage of those in the West who oppose gay marriage and view the LBGTQ community as "other," what Oliver (and his co-writer, Peter Nickowitz) present to the audience is that gay people are simply regular folks, who go through the same day-to-day trials and tribulations as the hetero world does. If anything, OUR SON has far more in common with films like KRAMER VS. KRAMER than something like BOYS IN THE BAND. And it is that population who refuse to see the gay community as human beings just as they are who will benefit most from seeing this film.

Luke Evans is excellent in the lead, managing to paint a complex portrait of a man who is a driven professional, but who also loves his husband and son deeply, but who perhaps comes to that realization too late. Billy Porter gives an equally fine turn as the estranged spouse, who has found that fatherhood awakened something inside of him that he wasn't aware of previously. The rest of the supporting cast is excellent, with nary a false note among them.

There are no heroes or villains in this film, just regular people trying to cope with the same roadblocks that life seems to throw in our path randomly. Highly recommended.

Our Son is a poignant drama that resembles the 1979 film Kramer vs Kramer, featuring two divorcing New York-based dads fighting for custody of their son. The film is soapy and middlebrow, with performances from Luke Evans and Billy Porter, and Christopher Woodley as their eight-year-old son, Owen. The script, co-written by Peter Nickowitz and director Bill Oliver, portrays current gay lifestyles, from monogamous married-with-children to older men who never wanted domesticity. The film also features some lesbian characters, including Pam, Nicky's family law attorney. The film is well-received by viewers and offers a subtly shaded group portrait of gay lifestyles. Gabriel, unsure of his feelings for Nicky, must navigate separation, divorce, and custody decisions without causing harm to Owen, a resilient child. The film explores the legal implications of Owen's conception through an egg donor and surrogate, highlighting that both Nicky and Gabriel are considered fathers in Owen's eyes. While the film may feel didactic, its generosity of spirit makes the mildly preachy moments forgivable. The characters are rounded, fallible, and likable, and despite a syrupy score, it's a pleasant and engaging watch. The film's generosity of spirit makes it a pleasant and engaging watch. "Our Son" is a story of dissatisfaction and disconnection between a couple, Nicky and Gabriel, who have been committed to their marriage for nearly a decade. Gabriel's revelation forces both parties to reassess their relationship and seek divorce. The resulting divorce proceedings escalate into a heated standoff, with the main issue being custody of Owen. Nicky, who can provide for Owen but has a demanding job, decides to stay with him, while Gabriel, who has no job, decides to stay with him. The film frames the custody battle as an opportunity for Nicky and Gabriel to be honest about their desires as fathers and gay men, addressing gendered expectations and the growing family-focused LGBTQ community. These thorny topics are reflected in the film's most affecting discussions, which are often didactic due to the characters' varying perspectives on the matter. The film's portrayal of these thorny topics is a testament to the complexity of the LGBTQ community.

This is not a film with a twist, as some reviewers hope for on IMDB. It's a film about personal crossroads, growth and learning direction in life, even when you think you know it all already.

'Our Son' is all about their son and what his and their needs are as both parents have drifted apart.

This film is a slow burner, but it rewards you emotionally and maybe makes you see things as lesser 'It's a gay film' and more of how the couple could have done better for all three of them.

It's well shot, uses spaces and sets well, but does not get bogged down with showing every NY landmark it can.

Watch this one for a casual evening in, or for a Sunday afternoon movie.

Some of the comments that have been made here are difficult for me to completely understand. The acting was outstanding, the story progression and emotional leverage throughout the film were excellent, and the brilliant method in which the picture was directed is truly remarkable.

The story touches on a subject that is not typically discussed, namely gay divorce and child custody. Today, we are celebrating the first gay marriage, which took place 23 years ago. This is an important milestone. As a married gay man who is still married and has a son with joint custody, everything that is depicted in this movie is true, and the acting of the actors demonstrates that this is the truth. Billy Porter's acting was stunning.

I did wish a happy ending.