I saw Marc Maron perform at a comedy club way back in the late 80s. I liked him, but didn't follow his career, listen to his podcast, or know much about him. I tuned into his HBO special From Bleak to Dark because I read that in this show he talks about the death of his girlfriend Lynn Shelton from leukemia in 2020 during the pandemic. Having experienced devastating losses in my own life, I had a sense this show would speak to me, and I was right; I found it deeply moving, honest, and relatable. In fact, I thought it was so perceptive and masterful that I watched it twice.
Maron opens the show pacing the stage proclaiming, "I don't want to be negative but... I don't think anything is ever going to get better ever again. I don't want to bum anybody out, but I think this is pretty much the way it's going to be for however long it takes us to polish this planet off. And don't misunderstand me, I have no hope. I think if you have hope, what are you f---ing seven?." Right away I sensed that this is a man who has come through a terrible tragedy and has the courage to now take it to the stage. I trusted him as a storyteller from his first line.
While talking about Lynn's death he said, "I realized no one really talks about grief. No one talks about PTSD. No one knows how to process this stuff. Everybody has it. It's just, you know, locked into us. And there's not really a cultural conversation about it." While being incredibly funny, he explains that it doesn't take much to show up for someone in grief. Ask "how are you doing," wait till they stop crying, and say "okay." He met his neighbor while he was grieving during Covid. His neighbor stood across the street, distancing, while Marc cried. This mattered.
The Joan Didion book and mystical hummingbird bits are brilliant. One of my favorite lines, "When you're f---ing sad, you'll go mystical." He riffs off this in such a real way. Marc nailed so many topics from the experience of grief, loss, loneliness and the need for contact and kindness, to anti-Jewish sentiments, the softenng of vulnerable, elderly parents, and having or not having children.
The piece on children is remarkably funny and spot on. Basically, if you have love in your heart to share, go for it, but don't pass on your void. "You can now track your void on 23andMe. My void started in the chest of a tailor's wife in Belarus in the 1850s in the Pale of Settlement." Well, some of my ancestors were Jewish tailors from Belarus during that time too, so after the show ended, I immediately looked up the surname Maron, location Belarus, on my Ancestry and found dozens of DNA cousins with that name, so hmm... cousin? Probably. We're all related.
It takes a seasoned, sensitive performer and writer to create a comedy show that makes me laugh, cry, and continue thinking about it afterwards. Excellent job by Marc.
