Tú no eres yo

Meet-the-parents horror films have created their own sub-genre. Since recent favourites like Get Out and Ready or Not, many films have filtered the real anxiety of meeting a couple's family through genre violence. But the Spanish thriller YOU ARE NOT ME takes a twist on this classic and shows us that the greatest terror is not meeting your partner's parents, but that you've stopped knowing yours and it's your partner who seems to know them best.

Aitana returns home for Christmas with her partner and the baby they have adopted and discovers that her parents have replaced her with a stranger... It's hard to go on without revealing more details but, as it moves towards an (unsurprisingly for genre fans) inevitable ending, the thematic play becomes richer, capturing the pain of familial rejection. The journey is very worthy and the epilogue is memorable.

Saw this at the Imagine film festival 2023 in Amsterdam. Very tense and very surprising due to many unexpected turns of events it offers. From the start, the story could go in many directions, none of which seem actually pursued while the story develops, so surprise after surprise can be expected.

Ample plot elements are available. Take the lesbian couple bringing a "surprise" visit to the family of one of them, after losing contact three years ago. They carry an adopted black baby with them. The former room of the daughter proves occupied by a woman who is treated as a replacement, who also wears her clothes. Many things happen before and during the Christmas meal. Remarkably, an aunt and uncle who attended each and every foregoing year, were not invited. Instead, non-family members are welcomed as VIP guests.

Feeling alienated and unwelcome is the main observation. Near the finale I had reminiscences (incorrect, in hindsight) of Get Out (Jordan Peele 2017), possible misled by the black boy they brought along (casted a black baby here on purpose?). I was wrong, as developments went in a totally different direction. I cannot reveal anything further without giving away the ending.

When leaving the venue, I scored 5/5 for the audience award. All in all: tense, unexpected developments, ample ingredients to keep us guessing how the story would proceed, and finally surprising us with a totally different outcome. Sufficiently complex but not overly convoluted.

For me, the biggest problem with the movie is that it's way too predictable. The final twist/explanation is set up throughout the movie in a way that makes it glaringly obvious what's going on. You see it coming from the moment the rich guy talks about raising pigs, so you spend the next hour waiting for the main character to catch up with the audience.

The cabal of old satanists is also kinda cliched and ridiculous and some of the dialogue and performances are pretty weak.

It's a small, low-budget movie and it shows, not so much in the production values (which are fine) but in the caliber of the actors involved.

It could have been a good movie but it is really bad and decisions they made during the drafting have been bad, there is the situation at Karate Kid put the wax, remove the wax, here we have the suitcase prepares the suitcase, the suitcase prepares the suitcase prepares the suitcase, the film could simply be resolved with the parents who instead of letting the daughter stay at home just angry because nobody gives him an explanation! And this is a side effect of the poorly written script could simply tell him that the daughter had to do it would have angry the same but at least it would have been safe, so predictable situations for but not for the protagonist as per screenplay, I add I do not understand where to the difficulty in choosing between the life of a newborn and the life of an adult between 40/50 years, this thing does not create me only sadness towards this script really bad and clearly ruined the subject.

Short review: 'You're Not Me' is a Spanish horror/thriller/mystery that I was lucky enough to attend the premiere of. It's a film that wants to put you in its lead character's shoes. It wants you to understand her frustration and bewilderment at the situation. So any frustration you as a viewer are finding while watching, just know that was the intention.

I love the ending of this film. It was worth the wait. I was so eager for the film to commit itself to whichever ending path it went down, and it did just that. While this isn't a perfect film, I do think most will find more than enough enjoyment in it one way or the other. 6/10.