La solitudine dei non amati

As a Norwegian, I felt like praising this film. I think it is appropriate, Norwegian film was both ridiculed and often poorly reviewed when I was growing up. There have been some exceptions over the years, but this one puts Norwegian film on the map!

In professional reviews of this film, it was written that all couples should see this film. I would add that it is for absolutely everyone, single or in a relationship.

The film is a close and intimate insight into a relationship that is slowly but surely unraveling. I think many people can identify with the conflicts we witness. This is about blaming other loved ones and blaming them for something that we should perhaps point the finger at ourselves. So the starting point for the film is a fairly young couple, who are struggling terribly. Then the film's main character is revealed and confronted with a different reality than the one she has been hiding behind herself. This phase of the film is incredibly strong and credible. I don't think I've ever seen any actors manage to convey such vulnerability on film before. That this film wasn't Norway's Oscar hope last year is a big mystery to me. But then it has certainly picked up many other film awards. So deserved.

A warm recommendation.

Lilja Ingolfsdottir " Elskling " is probably the most powerful and best Norwegian film I have seen since ØYENSTIKKER of Marius Holst, 23 years ago . Nothing compares. It makes every other Norwegian film work I have seen since , look amateurish, except for a very few, like " Armand " and " The worst Person in the World" . Naturally they're a few more. It's hard to make a great film . I know it personally. It's even rarer to see a filmwork that moves your heart and mind in such a way that you can't let it out of your mind for a few days . Possibly weeks. I remember watching the anti war movie of Elem Klimov "Come and See " and the way it haunted me for months. I recently rewatched " Amour "by Michael Hanneke " and was amazed again how a director is capable of brutally bring true " LIFE" on screen through his masterly work of actors and unique personal film language . Elskling has that honesty and rawness . It's has no flaws . It's brilliantly directed and executed. It moves you powerfully. Lilja Ingolfsdottir is a true mature and gifted director that brings her actors in an emotional landscape that is difficult to bring out on screen . She does it without any mistakes . All the actors bring to the screen an amazing performance . Helga Guren, Oddeir Thune and Elisabeth Sand deliver an incredible performance that hits home right through our rib cage . It rings so true like it rarely does .

This film could have easily fallen apart and drown into unnecessary pathos. Instead, it intelligently dwells into the most difficult subject that touches our lives with an honesty that is disarming. Love and relationships. Like John Cassavete, Hanneke s or Jaques Audiard , Lilja Ingolfsdottir uses a very personal film language and knowledge, to reveal the subtleties and contradictions of our emotional makeup . She reveals the complexity of our feelings in the way we communicate with each others through our ordinary lives . She never uses the easy cliches and tricks of the commercial trade that so many uses . No. Not once she takes that easy road that so many film makers take. Instead, she has an inner instinct and film ability , that only a great sensitive film director can acquire with the years. Some manage to get it at a young age like Xavier Dolan. But most film makers struggle to find their own personal voice, due partly by the demands of the commercial film industry and the producers . But often it's because they don't have a story to tell or because they aren't really yet film directors. But here in Elsking, Lilja Ingolfsdottir is backed by the talented producer Thomas Robsahm and this is essential if you are going to make a strong personal film.

It's truly a brilliant and beautiful film to watch . À hymn to love , that I hope will inspire other film makers in Norway . It demonstrate what is so often , missing in their films. Soul . Credibility. Truth. And most of all ,the daring to be personal, to be naked in front of your audience . Bravo Lilja Ingolfsdottir. And thank you for your story and courage to do it .

I shall watch it again at the cinema before it leaves the big screen.

For anyone out there who had/has a family member suffering from mental health issues, or he/she him/herself struggling with such malaise, this film certainly hits home. And it hits hard.

The "familiarity" with which it brought me all these thoughts of my mother - taking care of 4 kids, being 'entrapped' - and how I got affected by her raising me, incapable of being in touch with my emotions and having any connection, to anyone...

I cried. I cried hard, throughout this movie, for the similarities with my own life, my mother's, and my own human experience, are simply hard to ignore...

I wish by now this is less of a taboo - talking about mental state and having difficulty to cope with life in general. I left the theater a bit disoriented, wishing I could talk to someone about what I had just experienced, but failing to think of anyone I could call up...

Loneliness...

Guess this says it all. It resonated and touched me because of strictly personal reasons, but I wish everyone had the open mind and heart to watch this movie and take lessons from it - we're all different, some of us have more difficulty being in touch with their emotions, and pushing people away is not done in self-defense, it's done out of fear.

If this is what getting angry means in Norway they must be the calmest people on earth. This would count as a friendly argument where I'm from.

Not what I expected and not what the synopsis tells you.

It's about this woman's journey towards herself and her self-realization about the patterns she keeps repeating to sabotage herself.

But I don't think it translated that well, also the subtitles were bad.

Maybe it was too subtle for me, although I did get the gist. I also suspect the cultural differences played a part. Or something like that. It just didn't hit me as much as I expected it to or as much as I had hoped.

What a truly magnificent film! Fantastically written story and cinematography that drags you through an emotional rollercoaster, going left and right. Director Lilja has created a masterpiece with this. I'm so glad this film got to see the light of day. Perhaps the struggle of getting it made and realized is some of the frustration and intensity we can absorb through the film.

The acting from Helga is nothing but pristine! Never seen such a great performance from any Norwegian actor or perhaps even others. The film has scenes that will keep you pulling your hair, not sure who's side you're on, keeping you on the edge of your seats. While at the same time it WILL make you cry when you finally get there. Is the mirror scene perhaps one of the best shots and scenes in Nordic cinematography history? See it and judge for your self!