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Filmed in London and in Pakistan. Lily James is the lead as documentary filmmaker Zoe Stevenson. She is in her 30s, does not have a serious relationship, and her mother (Emma Thompson) keeps dropping hints. She even tries her hand as a matchmaker, focusing on the nice, good-looking, age-appropriate Vet that cares for her dog.

Her good friend from childhood, growing up next door to each other in London, is Shazad Latif as Kaz Khan, a Physician. He is British of Pakistani heritage and his mom, dad, and old grandma also live there. His biological clock is ticking too and he decides to try the old-world method, a semi-arranged marriage. Much of the movie takes place in Pakistan as they all travel there for the wedding. And Zoe uses the occasion to film (digitally, of course) her next project.

The script writer as a 20-something lived and had her children in Pakistan for 10 years so she got to know the culture very well, and wanted this story to show some of the lesser known aspects of that culture. And, to explore some cross-culture issues.

There are a few very negative reviews here, along with some "1" or "2" votes. Now, having actually watched and enjoyed the movie along with my wife, I consider them all bogus. In fact it seems that some may not have actually watched the movie but somehow objected to the themes.

Good movie, meaningful and entertaining, at home on DVD from our public library.

What's Love Got To Do With It!

I liked the initial idea, however to make drama you need to compress reality and here it was reduced to some very basic premises. Arranged marriage in uk is quite different to how things might be arranged in Pakistan. Nearly everyone I know in this situation has been allowed to pursue a love match up to the age of 30, it is only when this has not worked that matchmakers are sought.

The film tried to oppose arranged marriages against a love match and this binary approach does not reflect real life. Secondly there was a sense we were, the audience, being educated but not with a realistic representation.

Did I laugh yes I did, did they follow through with any proper conclusion, no they didn't! The only conclusion I could draw from the movie was arranged marriages are all about pretence and the parents needs.

At best is was a 6 outta 10, I enjoyed it whilst I was watching it, but afterwards it really was quite unsatisfactory.

What's Love Got to Do with It? Doesn't completely commit to its central idea of a more nuanced and balanced exploration of assisted marriages but it remains a really good romantic comedy that has a little more unpredictability than the average rom com and boasts an enjoyably heartwarming story.

Lily James and Shazad Latif are real life, longtime friends and that really comes across in their on screen chemistry which is very palpable. Emma Thompson has way more screen time than expected and is a definite scene stealer with a constant stream of jokes that always land.

Shekhar Kapur's direction is really good, especially with the tone which starts of as something broader in its humour (which works) and then gradually scaling that humour back as it gets surprisingly emotional and sincere by the end.

There are good things about this film. See it if you are looking for a light-hearted experience.

It shows some good parts of "assisted" marriage very well, while also acknowledging how these traditional practices are coming under stress by modern culture.

A BULLSEYE.

The line " .. it must start with a simmer .." is just beautiful.

Another BULLSEYE.

They started showing how the positive aspects of "assisted" partnering can be hugely beneficial in "Western" culture.

Another BULLSEYE.

I like the way the female character was portrayed as someone who chases career and recognition above all else, then suddenly looks at her life, and her thoughts go to other things. Something (I think) that resonates with much of modern western society.

Another BULLSEYE.

So the movie started to take me down a deep and sensitive path about relationships, family pressures and expectations, the clash of cultures, acceptance, risk and courage. The underlying concept that people will "grow into Love" ... as heralded by the title ... made me expect a particular kind of movie. Then it changed.

They took a "stock standard" turn and cover everything in sugar syrup, whipped cream and choc sprinkles that completely overturns the whole build up. A school child could have written the last 20 mins.

. Many people will love this film, and there are some really good parts. It opens a door of great possibility with potential riches of emotion, cultural stresses and conflict, and just takes a little peek inside.

I would love someone to make a movie where this door is thrown open with abandon. Until then, enjoy this little Rom-Com.

If you remember "Last Christmas" (2019) then you will have a rough idea of what to expect here with this rather formulaic, if colourful, drama. It all centres around a film being made by "Zoe" (Lily James) about the forthcoming "assisted" marriage of her lifelong friend "Kaz" (Shazad Latif). Her mother "Cath" (Dame Emma Thompson) lives next door to his family and so is relishing the family trip to Pakistan for the traditional wedding. "Zoe" is (as, I suspect, are we) pretty sceptical of the whole arrangement - getting married to someone you've only met on Skype, but proceed we do through a lively ceremony that allows Dame Emma to don her sari and dance for all she is worth (gin-fuelled!) whilst the predictable love triangle melodrama slowly, but predictably, plays out. It all comes to an head when they have returned home and she shows her film to all concerned and, just like this, it receives mixed and divisive reviews. I found this all very twee, middle class and vaguely judgmental which after a while I felt rather defeated the purpose in the first place. It is pretty clear from the start what is going to happen, and although the route to that conclusion isn't exactly a straight line, this leaves very little room for jeopardy to a plot you can see from Mars. Latif has a degree of charm to him, and some of the scenes with Lily James are quite engaging in a cheesy sort of way, but for the most part this is eminently forgettable fayre that will do fine on telly at Christmas.