My Lover, My Killer

All these couples are made for each other. All the relationships are toxic and started off from the opposite of what love relationships should be. Feel sorry for their families, friends and the marital partners who got dragged and still believed their loved ones were the victims from the beginning. Definitely no. I continued watching the series to see where the point they got murdered and how. That's all.

Maybe it's because most people watching don't understand stalking behaviour. Of course the series is biased towards the victims, they were brutally murdered! My goodness! They didn't deserve to be stabbed multiple times. Makes me wonder about some of these reviewers, seriously. I think the series does a good job of showing the helplessness and guilt of the families. Nobody wants something like this to happen to their loved one, all of the victims were very young (one killed at 20 years old). I also think it does show how these toxic relationships begin and the red flags to look for....but that could have been flushed out more. I wish they had an expert who really delved into the psychology of stalking and maybe what victims and families can do other than feel helpless. Clearly police need to be able to do more as well. I am just glad several of these families have set up charities and trying to help others, bringing something positive out of something so horrific.

I know British documentaries are much different from American documentaries but in this case there is just so much redundancy and so little new information to take up the entirety of each episode. It's really not about British being more reserved, this is sadly just very mundane and reiterates itself over and over. Sad for the victims. I think it's very hard to understand not only the behavior of a stalker or someone of that kind of controlling nature that ends up murdering you because they can't control their emotions but it's equally hard to understand the lack of action from the friends and family who saw the danger far ahead of time. You just can't really know what you would do in such a situation although it's very easy to judge them and wonder why they didn't take some action especially the red-haired girl. The reviews I find intriguing and upsetting, if I can be honest. Who are all these people calling this a woke documentary series and saying that it's sexist? Are they saying that because the murderer was not put in a good light that the show is showing favoritism toward the victim? I think those people need some psychological counseling and I hope that they are not the next stalker. It's absolutely incredulous to me to read reviews that are upset that the perpetrator was shown in an unfair light. I mean the very notion that you should somehow be fair in describing or demonstrating the perpetrator is so mind-boggling that I'm at a loss for words.

The cases themselves are fairly interesting, given a very detailed build-up to the eventual murder so you can really get a feel for the people involved and the narrator does a good job of tying everything together but there often lacks detail of how the actual event transpired (understandable as only the killer knows what happened in each case but it sort of glosses over it in some cases, just simply a they killed them and that's it).

There are other issues which lead me to give this a middle of the road rating. Firstly it can be quite repetitive, often repeating quotes or rehashing the story (presumably because it was made for advert breaks and there aren't any on netflix) and the portrayal of the killer/victim seems very biased and one sided. Always describing the victim as innocent and the killer as out of control or psychopathic which may be the case but no way as black and white as this documentary implies.

I found the people who were interviewed were either biased or prejudiced.

Now i only watched the first two episodes but this is the first show in at least two years that have me mad!

The first was told like the directer was a supporter of the taleban. No understanding that the woman was forced to mary. & he could have let her go with dignity for both of them, but he did not.

The seconded episode was just as bad, but it was just a western way of trying to own a woman!

I don't want to watch anymore because no person should hear people blame a woman for trying to get out of a relationship. If you sham her for religion or force her to stay because you have given money to her. You need to get your head checked because that is evil & it is more pathetic, sad & evil & may I mention again pathetic!