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Andie MacDowell, Laura San Giacomo, James Spader, and Peter Gallagher in Sex, Lies, and Videotape (1989)

James Spader: Graham

Sex, Lies, and Videotape

James Spader credited as playing...

Graham

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  • Graham: I remember reading somewhere that men learn to love the person that they're attracted to, and that women become more and more attracted to the person that they love.
  • Graham: You're right, I've got a lot of problems... But they belong to me.
  • Ann: You think they're yours, but they're not. Everybody that walks in that door becomes part of your problem. Anybody that comes in contact with you. I didn't want to be part of your problem, but I am. I'm leaving my husband, and maybe I would have anyway, but the fact is, is, I'm doing it now, and part of it's because of you. You've had an effect on my life.
  • Graham: This isn't supposed to happen. I've spent nine years structuring my life so this didn't happen.
  • Ann: So let me see, you said, um, you said that I should never take advice from someone that I haven't had sex with, right... right?
  • Graham: Basically.
  • Ann: Right. And, uh, *we* haven't had sex...
  • [giggle]
  • Ann: right?
  • Graham: So...
  • Ann: So, I, I, I guess from your own advice, I shouldn't take your advice.
  • Graham: I wouldn't.
  • John Mullany: I'm sorry?
  • Graham: No, it's just, I, you know, I just think - right now I have one key and everything I own is in the car, and I just... I like that, you know? I mean, I just, if I get an apartment, that two keys, if I... get a job, you know, I might have to open or close, that's more keys, you know, buy some stuff, I'm afraid it's gonna get ripped off, or something, and I get more keys, and I just, I, you know, I just like having the one key, it's clean.
  • Ann: You're not gonna worry in losing them, I always lose my keys, I hate that.
  • Ann: My life is shit. It's just shit. Nothing's what I thought it was. John's a bastard. Let's make a videotape.
  • Graham: No, I... ahem... I don't think that's a good idea.
  • Ann: Why not?
  • Graham: Because I don't think it's a choice that you'd make in a normal frame of mind.
  • Ann: And what would you know about a normal frame of mind?
  • Graham: That's a good question.
  • Cynthia: [asked whether or not her first sight of a man's organ lived up to her expectations] Mm. No. Not really. I...
  • [leans forward to put her drink on the floor]
  • Cynthia: I didn't... I sort of... I didn't think it would have, uhm, veins or ridges or anything. I just thought it would be smooth like a test tube. It's weird thinking about it now. The organ itself seemed like a - a separate thing, uhm, a separate entity to me. I mean, when he finally pulled it out, and I could look at it and touch it, I completely forgot that there was a guy attached to it. I remember literally being startled when the guy spoke to me.
  • Graham: What did he say?
  • Cynthia: He said my hand felt good.
  • Graham: Then what happened?
  • Cynthia: And then I started moving my hand - and then he stopped talkin'.
  • Graham: So, I don't... I don't understand, uh, what made you want to come here. I can't imagine Ann painted a very flattering portrait of me.
  • Cynthia: Yeah, well, see, um, I don't really listen to Ann when it comes to men. I mean, look at John, for Christ's sake.
  • Ann: I want to know why you are the way you are!
  • Graham: And I'm telling you it's not any one thing that I can point to and say "That's why!" It doesn't work that way with people who have problems, Ann, it's not that neat, it's not hat tidy! It's not a series of little boxes that you can line up and count. Things just don't happen that way.
  • Ann: I thought about you. Have you thought about me?
  • Graham: Yes.
  • Ann: What did you think?
  • Graham: I thought about what you would look like having an orgasm.
  • Ann: I'd like to know what I look like havin' an orgasm. Can you do that?
  • Cynthia: If Ann got freaked out by these, there must be something sexual: are these tapes of you having sex with these girls?
  • Graham: No, not exactly.
  • Cynthia: Well, either you are or your aren't; which is it?
  • Graham: Why don't you let me tape you?
  • Cynthia: Doing what?
  • Graham: Talking.
  • Cynthia: About what?
  • Graham: About sex... your sexual history, sexual preferences.
  • Cynthia: What makes you think I'd discuss that with you?
  • Graham: Nothing.
  • Cynthia: Hmm. And you just want to ask me questions?
  • Graham: I just want to ask you questions.
  • Cynthia: That's all.
  • Graham: That's all.
  • Cynthia: Is this how you get off or something? Taping women talking about their sexual experiences?
  • Graham: Yes.
  • Ann: You know, my therapist...
  • Graham: You're in therapy?
  • Ann: Aren't you?
  • Cynthia: [entering Graham's apartment uninvited and unannounced] I'm Cynthia Bishop
  • Graham: [looking confused] Who?
  • Cynthia: [interrupting] I'm Ann Mullaney's sister
  • Graham: The extrovert
  • Cynthia: She musta been in a good mood when she said that; she usually calls me 'loud.'
  • Graham: She called you that too!
  • Ann: So, all these are... are interviews, huh?
  • Graham: Uh, yes.
  • Ann: Can we watch one?
  • Graham: No, I'd - uh, no.
  • Ann: Why not?
  • Graham: Well, I... promised each of the subjects that no one would see the videotapes except for me.
  • Ann: What are the interviews about?
  • Graham: The interviews are about sex.
  • Ann: Sex? What about sex?
  • Graham: Everything about sex.
  • Ann: Like what?
  • Graham: What they've done. What they do. What they want to do; but, are afraid to ask for. What they wouldn't do even if asked.
  • Cynthia: I was eight years old, and, um, Michael Green, who was also eight, asked if he could watch me take a pee... And I said he could if I could watch him take one, too. So we went to the woods behind my house. And I got this feeling he was chickenin' out cos he kept sayin' "Ladies first!" So I pulled down my little panties and urinated, and he ran away before I even finished.
  • Graham: Was it a topic of conversation between you after that?
  • Cynthia: No! He kind of avoided me for the rest of the summer, and then his family moved away... To Cleveland, actually.
  • Graham: What a shame. When did you finally see a penis?
  • Cynthia: When I was 14.
  • Graham: So, what'd you think? Was it what you expected it to be?
  • Cynthia: No. Not really. I - I didn't - I sort of pictured it - um - I didn't think it would have - veins or ridges or anything. I just thought it would be smooth like a test-tube.
  • Graham: Do you have orgasms?
  • Ann: I don't think so. I mean, I guess, since I'm not sure, that I've never had one.
  • Graham: I'm impotent.
  • Ann: You're what?
  • Graham: Impotent.
  • Ann: You are?
  • Graham: Yeah, well, I can't - I can't get an erection - in the presence of another person. So, for all practical purposes, I'm impotent.
  • Ann: Does that bother you?
  • Graham: No.
  • Ann: Does it make you feel - self-conscious?
  • Graham: Um, not usually. No, yeah. Yeah, I'm self-conscious. Um, I'm not in the same way you are.
  • Ann: Me? Me, you think I'm self-conscious?
  • Graham: Well, I've been watching you. You know, I've been watching you. I've watched you eat, you know, I've watched you speak, I've watched you move, and I - I see somebody who is extremely aware of people looking at.
  • Cynthia: Will anyone else see the tape?
  • Graham: Absolutely not. Nobody else sees the tapes except for me.
  • Cynthia: How long will it take.
  • Graham: Well, that depends on you. One woman used up only three minutes and another used three two hour tapes.
  • Cynthia: How do we start?
  • Ann: So, where do you get your money from? For rent and - tapes - and stuff like that?
  • Graham: Underneath my mattress.
  • Ann: And what are you going to do when this money runs out?
  • Ann: You don't believe in therapy?
  • Graham: No, I - I, you know, I - I believe in it for some people. I - I don't know, it was silly for me. I was confused going in. So, I just - I formed my own theory that - you should never take advice from someone that doesn't know you intimately.
  • Ann: Oh, but, I'm - I know my therapist intimately.
  • Graham: Oh, you've had sex with your therapist.
  • Ann: No! No. No.
  • Graham: Oh, I'm sorry. That's what I meant.
  • Ann: Graham - that's an unusual name.
  • Graham: Yeah. Yeah, I guess it is. My mother is a complete Anglophile, anything British makes her drool like a baby. So, she - you know, I mean she heard the name in a movie or something. She's a prisoner of public television now.

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