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Michelle Pfeiffer, Renée Zellweger, Robin Wright, and Alison Lohman in White Oleander (2002)

Quotes

White Oleander

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  • Ingrid: Don't attach yourself to anyone who shows you the least bit of attention because you're lonely. Loneliness is the human condition. No one is ever going to fill that space. The best you can do is know yourself... know what you want.
  • [first lines]
  • Astrid: [narrating] Everybody asks why I started at the end and worked back to the beginning. The reason is simple, I couldn't understand the beginning until I had reached the end. There were too many pieces of the puzzle missing, too much you would never tell. I could sell these things. People want to buy them, but I'd set all this on fire first. She'd like that, that's what she would do. She'd make it just to burn it. I couldn't afford this one, but the beginning deserves something special. But how do I show that nothing, not a taste, not a smell, not even the color of the sky, has ever been as clear and sharp as it was when I belonged to her. I don't know how to express that being with someone so dangerous is the last time I felt safe...
  • Ingrid: Love humiliates you. Hatred cradles you.
  • Astrid: How long were you gone?
  • Ingrid: About a year, give or take a few months.
  • Astrid: My God.
  • Ingrid: You're not asking the right question. Don't ask me why I left. Ask me why I came back.
  • Astrid: You should have been sterilized.
  • Ingrid: I could have left you there, but I didn't. Don't you understand? For once, I did the right thing! When I came back, you knew me. You were sitting by the door, and you looked up, and you reached for me. It was as if you had been waiting for me all along.
  • Astrid: I was always waiting for you, mother. That's the constant in my life. Waiting for you. Will you come back? Will you forget that you tied me in front of a store or left me on a bus?
  • Ingrid: Are you still waiting?
  • Astrid: No. I stopped when Claire showed me what it felt like to be loved. What did you think, that I would amuse you? That's what babies are like, mother. What'd you think? We'd exchange thoughts on Joseph Brodsky?
  • Ingrid: I thought Klaus and I would live happily ever after. That's what I thought, Adam and Eve in a vine-covered shack. I must have been out of my mind.
  • Astrid: You were in love with him.
  • Ingrid: YES, I was in love with him. ALRIGHT? I was in love with him, and baby makes three, and all that crap!
  • Astrid: Then why did you leave him? Why did you leave him?
  • Ingrid: I didn't leave him! He left me. You wanna know about your father? He left us when you were six months old for another woman, and I never saw him again until he showed up looking for you when you were eight years old.
  • Astrid: He came to see me?
  • Ingrid: Yes, he came to see you but it was a little late, wasn't it? Why should I let him see you after what he did to me?
  • Astrid: Because it wasn't about you! It was about me, and I wanted to see him! My whole life, I've wanted to see him. That decision was MINE, not yours. Everything's always been about you, never about me. I knew you were gonna kill Barry, but you didn't even care. You didn't give a damn about what that would do to me. I'll say whatever Susan wants me to say, but I gotta get outta here.
  • Ingrid: No! No, no, no. You don't just walk away from me. I made you, I'm in your blood. You don't go anywhere until I let you go!
  • Astrid: Then let me go. You look at me and you don't like what you see, but this is the price, mother. The price of belonging to you.
  • Ingrid: If I could, I'd take it all back. I would.
  • Astrid: Then tell me you don't want me to testify. Tell me you don't want me like this. Tell me you would sacrifice the rest of your life to have me back the way I was.
  • Astrid: Looks don't interest me.
  • Paul: That's easy for you to say, you've never been ugly.
  • Claire Richards: What was the best day of your life?
  • Astrid: Today.
  • Claire Richards: Take my advice and stay away from broken people.
  • Paul: I was born addicted to heroin.
  • Astrid: And what was that like?
  • Paul: I don't know - I was out of rehab by the time I was six months old.
  • Astrid: There's nothing wrong with being a Christian.
  • Ingrid: Are you out of your mind? How did this happen? I raised you, not a pack of Bible-thumping trailer trash. I raised you to think for yourself.
  • Astrid: No, you didn't. You raised me to think like you.
  • Astrid: My mother was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. She was also the most dangerous.
  • Astrid: Beauty was my mothers law, her religion.
  • Rena: You're a stupid girl, you walk away from money to punish mother?
  • Astrid: Never let a man spend the night, she said. Never apologize, never explain. She was breaking all her rules, and it would change everything.
  • [last lines]
  • Astrid: No matter how much she damaged me... no matter how flawed she is... I know my mother loves me.
  • Rena: Workers of the world arise. You've got nothing to lose but Visa card, happy meal, and Kotex with wings.
  • Paul: What happened?
  • Astrid: She let me go.
  • Carolee: Don't look at me like that. You're no different than I am... you just don't know it yet.
  • Paul: I get this feeling like... you're not interested in guys.
  • Astrid: You're right, I'm not.
  • Ingrid: I made you. I'm in your blood. You don't go anywhere until I let you go
  • Astrid: Then let me go
  • Starr: Astrid, those are ugly shoes.
  • Astrid: Snakes don't bite above ankle.
  • Starr: Well, take my word for it, you better being bitten by snakes then dressin' for them.
  • Astrid: But...
  • Starr: Don't "But" me. He is a man, and he sees what he sees, and does what he can.
  • Astrid: You're either an artist or you're not. You are.
  • Starr: He who believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall live. And don't you forget it, missy.
  • Ray: So you're goin' to the Jesus show, huh?
  • Astrid: Aren't you coming?
  • Ray: To Bible study? No. In my opinion, if there is a God, he sure as hell ain't worth prayin' to.
  • Astrid: [chuckles] That sounds like something my mother would say.
  • Astrid: You look at me, and you don't like what you see. But this is the price, Mother - the price of belonging to you.
  • Ingrid: Of course I was jealous. I live in a cell with a women who has a vocabulary of 25 words.
  • Ingrid: You don't go anywhere until I let you go.
  • Astrid: Then let me go.
  • Rena: Hey you, cheerleader. You want smoke? Russian cigarette. No cancer.
  • Davey Thomas: Do you believe in God now?
  • Astrid: Maybe it's not such a bad thing to believe in something.
  • Davey Thomas: It's better to know things.
  • Astrid: Why? What does knowing things get you? Does it tell you the difference between right or wrong? She didn't kill that guy alone. I knew what my mother was doing, you know. I could have saved his life, but I didn't.
  • Ingrid: Have you accepted Christ as your personal savior?
  • Astrid: There's nothing wrong with being a Christian.
  • Ingrid: Are you out of your mind? How did this happen? I raised you, not a pack of Bible-thumping trailer trash. I raised you to think for yourself.
  • Astrid: No you didn't. You raised me to think like you. Maybe thinking for yourself isn't so great. Reverend Daniels says it's evil.
  • Ingrid: Evil? If thinking for yourself is evil, then every artist is evil. Is that what you believe, now that you've been washed in the blood of the Lamb? Man's ability to reason is evil? Am I evil?
  • Astrid: No, but killing people who don't want you is evil. We pray for your redemption every Sunday.
  • Ingrid: Fuck my redemption! I don't want to be redeemed; I regret nothing. It's good that you're trying to identify evil, Astrid, but evil is tricky. Just when you think you know what it is, it changes its form. Learning its nature takes a lifetime of study.
  • Ray: Did you see anything yet?
  • Davey Thomas: It's just starting. But we should be getting forty an hour pretty soon. The Quadrantid is the shortest lived meteorite shower, but the densest. Except for the Perseids.
  • Starr: I have waited up for you all night long. I want to know who you were with, right now.
  • Carolee: Don't give me your shit. You stayed up all night to drink.
  • Starr: I stayed up to catch you, you whore.
  • Carolee: You should know... Try it again, I'll take you out, bitch.
  • Starr: Carolee, you walk out that door, don't you bother coming back.
  • Carolee: Why the hell would I want to? I've been down this road before with you, Mom. Sorry, Davey; I can't go through this again.
  • Carolee: That slut thinks she can tell me what to do? She said I was grounded, like she's the mother in the Brady Bunch. Listen to that! Saved by Jesus; she's such a hypocrite. They shouldn't be doing it; they're not even married. Revered Daniels always sniffing around here blah-blahing about Jesus. All he really wants to do is look at her ass. Don't forget to leave the window open. Don't look at me like that; you're no different than I am. You just don't know it yet.
  • Starr: Oh, are you kidding? It's a miracle I'm not dead; they took my kids and everything. I was an alcoholic, I was a cokehead, I was dancing topless, you name it.
  • Carolee: Shut up, for Christ's sake! People are staring.
  • Ingrid: I would rather see you in the worst kind of foster hell than living with that woman. What can you possibly learn from her? How to pine artistically? 27 names for tears? All I can say is... keep your bags packed.
  • Ingrid: How can you stand to live with poor Claire? Did you know there's an entire order called the Poor Claires?
  • Astrid: You leave her alone.
  • Ingrid: Oh, but it's such fun. Easy, but fun. And in my present situation, I have to get my fun where I can.
  • Astrid: The next time you and your friends jump me, I'll cut your throats when you're sleeping.

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