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The Irish step dance scene starts with a cutaway where the center dancer is actually a male dancer.

The film cast includes one Oscar® winner: Laura Dern; and two Oscar® nominees: Naomi Watts and Mark Ruffalo.

In his review, Roger Ebert was critical, writing the film's problem is "that it's too desultory. Maybe the point of the Dubus stories was to show perfunctory transgressions between characters not sufficiently motivated to accept the consequences. They approach adultery the way they might approach a treadmill, jumping on, punching the speed and incline buttons, working up a sweat, coming back down to level, slowing to a walk, and then deciding the damn thing isn't worth the trouble." However, he added, "What must be said is that the actors are better than the material. There are four specific people here, each one closely observed and carefully realized. Ruffalo's Jack, driven by his lust, finds his needs fascinating to himself; Naomi Watts' Edith finds them fascinating to her. Terry and Hank seem almost forced into their halfhearted affair, and Laura Dern and Peter Krause are precise in the way they show dutiful excitement in each other's presence, while Dern vibrates with anger and passion in her arguments with her husband."

We Don't Live Here Anymore (2004) is a drama film directed by John Curran and starring Mark Ruffalo, Laura Dern, Peter Krause, and Naomi Watts. It is based on the short stories "We Don't Live Here Anymore" and "Adultery" by Andre Dubus. Set in Washington state, the film was shot around Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada.

Naomi Watts, who had been longtime friends with director John Curran, had the choice of lead roles. She declined to play Terry because she had just finished filming "the emotionally draining" 21 Grams (2003). Laura Dern had initial reservations about playing Terry, saying "I was halfway through the script, I thought, 'OK, I've read this before. This is a great part, but the guy has this ogre wife and he's about to get into this affair. They're obviously going to run off together and I'll be this boorish character who ends up alone.'" However, Curran convinced Dern that the character and her relationship with Jack would be more complex.