The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On

Just another toxic dating reality show, glad I don't watch these type of shows often, I can feel my brain melting. These people need therapy, not a reality show. Poor things. I do hope they all get the help they need.

..even for reality show standards. Love is Blind has a ridiculous premise, but seems mostly real, aside from the expected reality tv editing and staging. This is very hard to believe any of, to me. These people are being put in a situation (let's watch my partner (who I want to marry) date and potentially "fall in love" with & leave me for someone else whilst in the same room as me) that would trigger primal feelings of stress, jealousy and misery in the vast majority of people. But these people are all as flat as can be. It just doesn't look like real human behaviour. Entertaining but less so because of the seeming fakeness.

As a woman who doesn't want to have kids, it was pretty offensive to watch a woman who's main boundary was to not have children (she said she doesn't feel comfortable around them!) have her FIRST conversation with a man be plowed over and ultimately be asked to overcome it, as if it's a fault, and despite not fully understanding where she's coming from. He was eager for her to admit it was about pregnancy affecting her body, rather than the lifelong consequences of raising a human being that she's not comfortable with. Then for her to actually acquiesce to it like it's not even that important of a concern, is absolutely mind blowing and reinforcing of the persistent sexist mindset that still exists. So much for women representing the rest of us, not that I should have expected it from such a shallow show.

This show is literally horrific and these people are remarkably shallow and stupid but for some reason I cannot stop watching. Also what the F is this whole concept? So toxic and cringe even if it's scripted there were some scenes that was hard to watch but then I remembered those people stirred the sh*t for themselves so then I was ok again.

Five couples swap partners for 3 weeks essentially living as married couples while doing so. Without the sexual activity for the most part, though some couples do get tactilely intimate.

Obviously this disrupts the various relationships and the outcome is pretty predictable. I wouldn't necessarily call it toxic since all it is doing is exposing the nature of human interaction on a very personal level. True, some people consider this a societal low, but realistically its really only exposing human nature in a very blatant manner, stripping away the the underpinnings of intimate relationships for all to see.

Actually I think it's quite a healthy way to explore the realities of serious romantic partnerships; especially since so much of what constitutes healthy pair bonding is really undisclosed misinformation with honesty and truth buried under pretence, façade and fluff.

Having said this, I'm not sure it's for everyone. If you don't want to colour your notions of love and romance, or explore the reality of what exists under the covers of perceived romance, then give this a miss. Even though it isn't uncouth, dirty or 'for the most part' tasteless, it is pretty raw in places with notions of love and compatibility unearthed for the reality of complexity that actually exists between the various couples.

I liked it, no real surprises, and exactly what you'd expect from a modern reality series. In fact given what's on offer, its actually a pretty good production.