Tonight You're Sleeping with Me

As Tonight You'll Sleep With Me (2022 release from Poland; 93 min.) opens, we are introduced to a family including 2 young girls. The husband isn't particularly nice to his wife Nina. To make matters worse, he decides to take off on a month long solo vacation in Iceland. Meanwhile Janek, Nina's ex-boyfriend from over a decade ago, starts a new job as Nina's assistant at a magazine. No, really! At this time we are 10 minutes into the movie.

Couple of comments: this Polish marriage drama is almost from the get-go predictable. The husband character is more than a little unpleasant. There is little subtlety. Ingmar Bergman's "Scenes From a Marriage" this ain't! Yet not all is lost. Nina is played by leading Polish actress Roma Gasiorowska and she pretty much takes the movie on her shoulders. Alas, it is not sufficient, but it does make watching the movie bearable.

"Tonight You'll Sleep With Me" recently started streaming on Netflix. As I was scrolling through the newly added titles, I stumbled upon this, and decided to give it a shot. If you are in the mood for a Polish marriage drama that is a little too predictable, I'd readily suggest you check it out, and draw your own conclusion.

Another polish flop about cheating and playing victim. Why am I not surprised. I wanted to enjoy this but there were too many cringe moments. Such as the lack of chemistry, the touching scenes were hot but not hot enough, her mother she didn't get on with but then took bad advice from, her husband we didn't really know much about, the story involving Janeks character who liked older women and had a track record we didn't know too much about other then he comes on strong but seems to get to base quickly and the most annoying part for me was yet again it's a huge mansion in a movie. Have you seen Poland lately? Do you realise how impossible and unrealistic it would be to afford that house? What's wrong with an ordinary house? And what was polish about the movie? Nothing.

For starters Nina who played Roma the blonde lead with a very questionable hair cut, seemed to pack on weight the more the movie went on. It was obvious how she was hiding a bit multiple times in a romantic scene that she was a tad insecure and probably out of her depth. Maybe not a good actress but it was her character from the start I really had big problems with. I mean, how awful of her to flirt during the interview or first meeting with the handsome blonde male? How wrong of her colleagues or friend to push for it knowing she's married? This is what's wrong with society. Women play victim, men just often want to escape their reality and then communication is to blame suddenly. Never wanting more as a female who fancied dipping her toe is to blame. Disgusting character.

But then you've got to admit as the movie went on and we saw how we could feel sorry for her because she really stepped into her role and looked vulnerable and desperate for attention. They didn't seem to get much work done though. She says she has nothing but the kids but yet she has a job like that. Very strange. Then throws herself into the arms of him to make herself feel hot and wanted. But having him in the house in front of her kids I mean who does that.

Finally Janek. Or whatever the male lead was called. That facial hair got in the way. He's toned but not muscular and blonde which is what girls tend to go for these days if they can, he seems really nice but then jumps all over women at the first chance. Almost felt forced. And the facial hair was disgusting.

I know how it feels to be her. I'm in that boat because I left my job to look after my son full time so my partner can work. That was the way things went after financial damage caused by lockdown. I feel unwanted every week. I could be out there dipping my toe. But for what it's worth, I don't. Because it's knowing what's important and right and wrong. And also because girls these days are exactly like her and her friends let's be spot on about that. So it's not worth it. Never would I ever is what I've read but that's false because most would.

All in all I could go on and on about this movie. I've not finished the ending yet but I've read that was bad. But as I said again a polish film, which couldn't make its mind up and didn't have a strong enough story, messed up.

I really don't understand the low ratings on this romantic movie Called "Tonight You're Sleeping with Me" on Netflix. It was an excellent romantic film. I suspect it is because of the crappy ending. I was thinking myself.......will someone explain it to me please? How did this end? Does she stay with her husband or not? And that is why I took off a star from a 10 to a 9. Maybe I missed something. However up until that point, everything was perfect. The main male 10 years later her body image isn't the best (stretch marks for 2 children that weren't his, didn't care that she had a crappy boyish haircut, just loved her for who she was), lead, Maciej Musial was excellent in his role as the younger lover. He is handsome, loyal, does't care that1 Is it cheating? Yes. Buy why? And he loved her first, and was forced to relocate because of his love for an older woman - family interference. He never got over her and comes back a whole 10 years later, still loving her, to reclaim her, only finding out that she is in a dismal sexless marriage with 2 kids that have names that they actually picked out for their own children. So their initial love was more than just a fling - and her husband had something wrong with him. What is a woman to do???? Worth watching, but didn't like the ending.

I will be very specific with what shuts me down on a movie: stupidity. I accept all kind of cinematographic metaphors, because it's an art, I have imagination and also I mark movies according to the genre, so I don't decrease the mark of a well done action movie because it does have no stellar life idea. I decrease it for absolutely nonsensical action scenes.

On the very beginning, probably the main characters have an intended torrid scene. Oh well, that can be suggested (as I have seen in plenty of other movies) by a very hot start, with no need for nudity; our imagination does the rest. However, when the scene is long and she wears the bra during it (as in this case) or they have a sheet between them while torridly kissing in bed or, after a night of love he/she gets out of bed and desperately tries to hide the supposedly nude body with linen when there is no other but their love partner in the room (sometimes not even...), that is absolute nonsense: the director just made me a cheap and dumb spectator. Again, there is no need for nudity. I have seen movies where just taking the shoes off in a certain way says everything. I didn't continue watching it.

This is yet another look at how relationships can turn upside down, how love can be hostaged by circumstances that we hardly can control because of who we are. I like the ending, which is open-ended. This just goes to show that there are no easy choices in a marriage because of a lot of considerations: one's children, work, parents and the couple's will to make their stand and/or compromise or even sacrifice.

The cast is talented enough. Theirs are thoughtful portrayals of what can happen inside a marriage. The actor playing Nina succeeds in portraying her angst and the dilemma she's facing as she weighs the ifs and buts of the momentous decision before her.

The casual commentary on why Icelanders are the happiest people in Europe is an eye opener but which fits into the ongoing narrative.

This is a quiet and a insightful film. It should be a welcome reminder of how it is to be alive and married.