Tiffany Wu
Lesson Plan
1. Objective: I will teach what is emotional coaching, intro to five steps of emotional
coaching, dad’s role in emotional coaching from the Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
parenting program using discussion, quiz, and case study teaching methods and activates.
2. Materials needed: Quiz; Case study stories; Discussion question, Role play cards.
Quiz: From book page 81 to 88.
Case study examples:
a) Diane is already late for work as she tries to coax three-year-old Joshua into his jacket so
she can take him to daycare. After a too-quick breakfast and a battle over which shoes to
wear, Joshua is tense too. He doesn't really care that his mom has a meeting in less than an
hour. He wants to stay home and play, he tells her. When Diane tells him that's not possible,
Joshua falls to the floor. Feeling sad and angry, he starts to cry.
b) Seven-year-old Emily turns to her parents in tears just five minutes before the baby-sitter's
arrival. "It's not fair to leave me with somebody I don't even know," she sobs. "But Emily,"
her dad explains, "this sitter is a good friend of your mother's. And besides, we've had
tickets to this concert for weeks." "I still don't want you to go," she cries.
c) Fourteen-year-old Matt tells his mom he just got kicked out of the school band because the
teacher smelled somebody smoking pot on the bus. "I swear to God it wasn't me," Matt
says. But the boy's grades have been falling and he's running with a new crowd. "I don't
believe you, Matt," she says. "And until you bring your grades up, you're not going out."
Hurt and furious, Matt flies out the door without a word.
Discussion question:
a) Any idea of emotional coaching? What does emotional coaching stand for in your opinion?
b) Who’s going to take the responsibility for the emotional coaching? Why?
3.Procedure:
Today I will introduce your serval principles from the book Raising an Emotionally
Intelligent Child.
First, ask parents do they have any idea of emotional coaching? In their opinion what does
emotional coaching stand for? Then introduce the definition of emotional coaching to them.
Emotion Coaching is a parenting technique that helps children understand their feelings:
Teach children strategies to deal with life's ups and downs.
Do not object to their children's displays of anger, sadness, or fear.
Nor do they ignore them.
Accept negative emotions as a fact of life and use emotional moments as opportunities for
teaching children important life lessons and building closer relationships with them.
Then my partner will talk about why emotional coaching.
After she finish that part, I will teach 5 steps of emotional coaching.
Five steps of emotional coaching:
a) Become aware of the child’s emotion.
b) Recognize the emotion as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching.
c) Listen empathetically, validating the child’s feelings.
d) Help the child find worlds to label the emotion he/she is having
e) Set limits while exploring strategies to solve the problem at hand.
Next is my partner’s 5 steps in depth teaching time.
Then I will let parents to do the Emotional awareness quiz. They will check the answer by
themselves, do not need to share the result to others.
When we finish the quiz, I will teach them about dad’s role in emotional coaching. I will
talk about why father’s role is important to child’s development.
Mounting scientific evidence now suggests that involved fathers - and especially those who
are emotionally available to their kids - make a unique contribution to their children's well-
being.
Father may influence children in ways that mothers don't, particularly in areas such as the
child's peer's relationships and achievement at school.
Kids whose dads were present and involved in their care when they are five grew up to
become more empathetic, compassionate adults that those whose dads were absent. By age
41, study participants who experienced more warmth from their fathers as children were
more likely to have better social relationships.
How to improve dad’s involvement:
Get involve in partner’s pregnancy can help set the stage for a whole series of positive
family interaction that benefit marriage, benefit the child, and strengthen the father-child
bond.
Acquiring such hands-on experience during an infant’s early days is important. It provides
babies and dads with face to face opportunities to learn each other’s cues, getting their
relationship off to a positive start.
If a dad is involved in caring for the baby at an early age, he’s more likely to continue his
involvement into middle childhood and adolescence.
