Sexual desire is typically viewed as an interest in sexual objects or activities.
More precisely, it is the subjective feeling of
wanting to engage in sex. Sexual desire is sometimes, but not always, accompanied by genital arousal (such as penile erection in
men and vaginal lubrication in women). Sexual desire can be triggered by a large variety of cues and situations, including
private thoughts, feelings, and fantasies; erotic materials (such as books, movies, photographs); and a variety of erotic
environments, situations, or social interactions.
1. AcceptanceThe first step to control your sexual urges is to accept that there is no shame in feeling this way. Most societal
norms deem these urges as moral depravity and force us to bury these feelings, instead of accepting it as a part of life. We are
born to believe that sex is sin and sexual urges are an abomination. These urges are nothing but physical needs which only seek
fulfillment, in some way or the other. Instinctually, man cannot abort sexual thoughts. With this acceptance and a strong desire
to curb it, you can keep your feelings in control
2. TriggersThe next step to controlling your sexual feelings is to know what sets them off. Admittedly, man is surrounded by
sexual innuendoes and signs so obvious, that they are almost a part of our daily lives. When one is sexually satiated, these signs
tend to pass by unnoticed, but in the face of sexual starvation, these signs end up titillating more than pacifying. Identifying
these triggers will help keep the mind alert enough to steer clear of them
3. Will PowerWhen it is considered that with enough will power, one can move a mountain, controlling sexual urges on the
same plane should ideally be anyone’s cup of tea. While it is impossible to obliterate sexual thoughts completely, curbing the
intensity to a bare minimum will help you get through the day without distractions. A mental reminder, can serve as ample
inspiration to help you power through the day without being tempted.
4. TransmutationTranslating your sexual urges to creative outputs will not only take your mind off them, but will help you make
something new. At the end of the day, an urge is nothing but a feeling that enforces a lack of the desired object. Thus it is easy
to manipulate with an equally engaging creative thought. Read a book, write poetry, paint or make pots. The end product of
your misplaced creativity will provide equal satisfaction.
5. ExerciseFocusing your energy on something that consumes most of it and also helps you feel good, is a certain winner. Wake
up early and go for a jog, or make swimming thrice a week a habit. You can also hit the gym every morning before work.
Whatever be the means, allow your body to get the much-required exercise to keep your mind more in control.
6. Seek HelpIf nothing seems to get your mind off sex, this might be the start of a potential problem. If you are in a relationship,
try to talk to your partner about these unmet needs. Maybe with regular intercourse, these urges will successfully be siphoned
off. If not, then consult your doctor for psychological counselling to find a way out of these extensive urges. Obsessive thinking
can be relieved with medication and therapy.
1. Communication skillsYou’re always extremely thorough when writing letters or emails. And when you relay a story,
you’re sure to not leave out any important details—painting a vivid and accurate account of what occurred. You’ll be happy to
hear that these communication skills can be leveraged in a law enforcement career. In fact, they can be completely vital on the
job.“When you write a report, your specific wording can be the difference between something usable in court and something
that gets thrown out,” says Brian McKenna, a retired Lieutenant with over 30 years of law enforcement experience under his
belt. “You have to be very exact, and you have to know the laws that impact your reports.”
That attention to detail your friends tease you for may finally come in handy. Additionally, your ability to communicate clearly
will help you earn the trust of the community in which you’re serving.
“Interpersonal communication skills are important because they allow officers to develop a good rapport with the community,
with fellow officers and with those from diverse cultures,” says Eileen Carlin, state program coordinator for the Rasmussen
College School of Justice Studies.
“People don’t realize how often officers need to patiently listen,” McKenna says. “Officers who take the time to really hear
what people are saying and who ask questions with real curiosity are going to get better results.” McKenna explains that when
citizens feel like officers care, they cooperate, offer more information and often help law enforcement get to the bottom of an
issue.
2. Empathy and compassion
In the past, you may have considered a compassionate personality a drawback, or at best a neutral attribute, when it comes to
pursuing the tough work of being a police officer. You’ve learned when to show empathy and when to provide tough love with
your children, siblings or friends. What you may not have considered is that much of an officer’s work requires the ability to
relate to those going through incredible hardships and show compassion, while still remaining professional.
“You will find yourself inserted into the most tragic and chaotic moments of people’s lives,” says Charles Redlinger, former
officer and co-founder of MissionX. “Their world will be upside down, and you will need to be a compassionate, strong
authority figure. You will be the symbol of both calm and sympathy.”
"You have to hang onto your compassion without letting things get to you."
Not only will your empathetic personality help you relate to the public, but it can also become the driving force behind your
work. Redlinger recalls his years as a homicide detective, saying the compassion he felt for the victims’ families helped motivate
him to solve the crime and bring them closure.
“This is a tough balance,” McKenna says. “You have to hang onto your compassion without letting things get to you.” McKenna
recalls when he first started working in law enforcement and was called to the scene of a suicide. “I made myself see the body,”
McKenna says. “It disturbs you, and it can really get to you over time. But I thought, someday I’ll see a scene like this and the
person might still be alive. I might have to try to save them. I can’t lose my composure.”
McKenna has seen officers with lots of empathy struggle against the harsh realities they see on the job. “I think having a belief-
system or faith really helps with this,” McKenna says. “Your instinct is to detach. You start thinking of your loved ones in those
scenes, and it’s tougher than people understand. But if you can keep your compassion without carrying everything home with
you, that’s a really valuable quality.”
3. Integrity
If you’re a person who always follows through, performing top-quality work whether or not a superior is present, then you
already possess one trait that officers cannot be without: integrity.
“Integrity is a fundamental trait required for police work and quite possibly the most important,” says Redlinger. He believes
this is what allows the public to put their trust and confidence in their law enforcement officers.
“An officer who really goes above and beyond, who hustles, doesn’t necessarily get rewarded,” McKenna says. “You can sit
back and try to minimize risk as much as possible—and still earn a paycheck.” But McKenna emphasizes that while engaging the
community and actively investigating can open you to more risk, it also results in better trust with the community and more
results against crime.
Why do citizens allow officers into their homes as strangers? Why do they feel safe stopping their car for an officer in a dark
alley? Why are officers given the benefit of the doubt when testifying in court? Redlinger says it all comes down to one
quality—integrity.
4. Negotiation
Perhaps you’ve talked a friend or your own child “off the ledge” by helping them find solutions instead of simply reacting. You
have a way with talking your way through a problem and convincing others to act appropriately. These skills would fall under
the umbrella of negotiation—one of the vital qualities of a police officer.
Redlinger adds that negotiation skills not only protect the general public, but other officers involved as well. “Officers working
patrol duties are constantly responding to 911 calls for service. It is in these vital moments upon the first officer arriving that
negotiations skills will prove useful.”
5. Service-minded
When a friend needs help moving boxes, you’re there. When someone is struggling with groceries, you’re there. You
reallysee the people in your community, and you find it very natural to assist a stranger when you can be useful.
According to McKenna, being service-oriented is an important trait in the best police officers. “You have to actually like
people,” McKenna says. “Looking back on my career, what I most miss is helping people. Every day. When they really needed
help, they called the police—that’s you.”6. Love of learningDo you love gaining new skills? Are you naturally curious and
eager to improve your knowledge and abilities? Do you try new things and dig into research when you are wondering about
something? This is an important trait for police officers who want to excel.“One of the things people don’t realize about police
work is that you have to be a jack-of-all-trades,” McKenna says. “Expectations for officers are really high, and new things are
always getting added to their plates.” McKenna says back when he started as an officer, they had a radio. “We would radio
something in, and dispatch took care of things.” Now, police cars are equipped with computers. Officers became responsible to
learn the technology and the job that used to fall to someone else.McKinnon says the equipment officers carry now is twice as
extensive as in prior years. “Additionally, there are more drugs on the market than ever, and laws change and update.
Departments don’t always have the funding to make sure everyone gets the training they need.”McKinnon adds that he took
classes throughout his career and taught himself the different skillsets and laws he needed. “Lots of police officers attend
conferences and classes on the side of their jobs.”7. Physical & mental fitnessIf you’re someone who enjoys hitting the
gym, that’s a good sign you care about your overall well-being, another essential aspect of being a police officer.
“As an officer, you will have to chase people on foot, you will have to climb over fences, you will get into car crashes and you
will have to restrain people,” says Redlinger. Needless to say, staying physically fit is important.
Redlinger also emphasizes that police officers need to be mentally fit as well. The nature of the job can cause a lot of stress and
negative emotions to build up and keeping them pent up can be hazardous. He recommends getting in the habit of “opening
up” to colleagues, family members or even professionals to avoid burnout.
8. Mental agility
You might not have had the best grades in class, but you’ve always had plenty of common sense. You know how to “read the
room” and adjust your conversation or your attitude, as circumstances require. Where some people have a hard time adjusting
when their plans are disrupted, you have no problem adapting and are always open to new information. This mental agility can
be a life-saving skill on the job according to McKenna.
"You go into so many scenarios expecting one thing, when something completely different happens. You might only have
seconds to react."
“You go into so many scenarios expecting one thing, when something completely different happens. You might only have
seconds to react.” McKenna explains that officers who have mental agility can switch their mindset instantly without losing
composure. “You have to be able to remain calm when things don’t go as planned. Twice, I pulled a gun on another police
officer in the confusion of a situation, but I had the presence of mind not to pull the trigger.”
You can see how mental flexibility can be a lifesaving skill, for officers and for those they encounter, but it’s also vital when
pursuing an investigation. “We had a saying, ‘The one who did it is never the one you expect,’” McKenna says. “Officers who go
into a situation with preconceived ideas, who don’t carefully observe and adjust their expectations are going to get it wrong.”
McKenna emphasizes that this is a skill you can practice—to hone your ability to adapt under stress. “There’s a very subtle
difference you can observe between someone reaching for a gun and someone reaching for a wallet,” McKenna offers as an
example. “It’s hard to spot, but if you know what to look for, you’ll be able to read warning signs.”
"The new guidelines demonstrate that, based on the best science, everyone can dramatically improve their health just
by moving — anytime, anywhere, and by any means that gets you active," Adm. Brett Giroir, assistant secretary of
health at the Department of Health and Human Services, said in a release. The new guidelines marshal a growing
body of evidence that documents immediate benefits of exercise such as reduced anxiety, improved sleep and
improved blood sugar control, and long-term benefits (of regular physical activity), including cognitive benefits, and
significantly lower risks of heart disease and certain cancers.
So, how much physical activity do we need? On this point, the new guidelines haven't changed: Adults need a
minimum of 150 minutes a week of moderate-intensity physical activity.
One way to think about this: Aim for at least 22 minutes of movement a day. You don't necessarily need to go to the
gym or take up jogging. Pick any activity that gets your heart rate up, including walking. In addition, the guidelines
call for adults to do muscle-strengthening activity on two or more days a week.
What has changed this time around is an emphasis — for people who are sedentary — to increase movement in their
lives even in very short increments.
The old message was you needed at least 10-minute bouts of aerobic activity for it to count toward the goal of 150
minutes a week. But, no longer. The new guidelines conclude that all movement that helps you stay physically active is
important.
"Everything counts," says Loretta DiPietro, an epidemiologist at George Washington University who helped write
the review of the science on physical activity, upon which the new guidelines are based.
So, if you take the stairs instead of the elevator and it takes you 3 minutes to climb, you can count that toward your
daily goal. Since lack of time is a major obstacle to fitting in exercise, the new message is to aim to engineer more
movement into your day.
Could you bike or walk more as part of your daily commute? Can you take mini-breaks during the workday or school
day to walk around the block? Things like this "can accumulate over the course of the day," DiPietro says. This may
help people make a mind shift toward becoming more active.
"Everything adds up and contributes to reduced risk for diseases and day-to-day feeling better," says Kathleen Janz,
of the University of Iowa, who also served on the committee reviewing the science of physical activity.
Other changes in the guidelines include messages to older Americans and to the very youngest. The guidelines nudge
older Americans to get on board — or stay on board — with a physically active lifestyle, including balance training to
help prevent falls.
"What we were amazed with is the amount of new research — really strong evidence — that supports the role of
physical activity in preventing and reducing the progression of disease," Janz says.
Physically active lifestyles help reduce the risk of high blood pressure, Type 2 diabetes and cancers (including bladder,
breast, colon, endometrium, esophagus, kidney, lung and stomach). In addition, physical activity can reduce the risk
of dementia, including Alzheimer's disease.
For the first time, the guidelines make recommendations for young children aged 3 to 5 years old, noting that
"preschool-aged children should be physically active throughout the day to enhance growth and development."
And there are specific recommendations for older kids and adolescents: Children aged 6 to 17 years old should do 60
minutes or more of moderate-to-vigorous physical activity daily.
This recommendation hasn't changed since 2008, but what is new is what's known about the range of benefits for this
age group. Over the past 10 years, scientists have documented much more about the cognitive benefits. "A physically
active lifestyle leads to a healthier brain during youth," says Charles Hillman, who directs the Center for Cognitive and
Brain Health at Northeastern University.
Hillman points to a few specific studies that show improved performance of academic tests following exercise. "What
we find is that a single bout of exercise has a beneficial effect on brain function," Hillman says.
There are studies pointing to a link between exercise and brain benefits in adults, too. It's one factor that could
motivate more people to become more active.
Janz says you don't have to wait around for the benefits of exercise. While it's true that exercising today may help reduce the
risk of heart disease decades from now, there also are immediate benefits.
"Every time you're active, you feel better, think better and sleep better," Janz says.
Someone once asked me what I believed in, what I wanted to get out of life and where I saw myself a couple of years from
now…I was speechless, just standing there with a blank look upon my face, guess I looked like a deer in the headlights. At first I
was outraged for not knowing what to say, and then I became concerned. Looking back I can say that I was afraid, afraid of
wanting anything. I figured wanting would lead to trying and trying would lead to failure, and failure is not an option. A friend
once told me I was much better than I thought I was, and he would help me do more in a positive sense, he was the one that
helped me realize failure was something I shouldn’t be afraid of.
Since that moment I find that I can’t stop wanting. …show more content…
I want the courage to make decisions and live with those decisions afterwards. I want to be a leader by being reliable without
being predictable and consistent without being anticipated. I want to be trustworthy. I want curiosity to be a never ending
quality. I want the possibility of knowing that with hard work, good values and perseverance things will change. I want to be
better than other people at something. I want to excel. I want to be excellent!
However as Michael J. Fox accurately stated we must be careful not to confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence we can
reach for; perfection is God’s business.
Perfection is defined by the dictionary as freedom of fault or defect, being flawless. Excellence is not about never making
mistakes or never failing; excellence is defined by the dictionary as the quality of being exceptionally good. Some say excellence
is doing ordinary things extraordinarily well, knowing how to do something well and enjoying it or when time comes that doing
your best it’s not enough and you must do what is required to get things done.
Personal excellence I believe is having a positive influence on everyone else, being in constant growth, transforming obstacles
into opportunities and turning them into positive actions, helping others without doing for them stuff they could do
themselves. Being excellent means knowing how to protect without being asphyxiating, guiding
Learning to listen to your urges, is incredibly important. Your urges are the best signals of your own needs. They tell you what
you need, in order to lead a satisfied life.
When the other aspects of your life aren’t fulfilled, then you simply can’t do your best work.
You will try to sit down and work.
But your other urges will constantly keep your mind busy.
You will produce your best work, when your body is telling you that right now is the time to sit down and do your work. When
your need to work is the most important thing to you right now.
Procrastination is not a sign of laziness.
It is a sign that your other needs are unfulfilled.
Listen to your urges, and fulfil your other needs. When these needs are fulfilled, then you will do your best work possible.
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The desire to survive and continue living is in humans’ nature, in spite of any accidents or difficult situations. “Night” and “All But
My Life” are two fantastic books written by Elie Wiesel and GerdaWeissmann, reveal what helped each of them to survive the
horrible period of the Holocaust. To illustrate it, Elie had his profound connection to his father, strong emotions, and his significant
eagernessto write a book about the Holocaust and his past experience. Similarly, Gerda had her deep connection to her past, strong
hope and desire to create a future where the Holocaust could have never taken place.Due to the fact that Elie and Gerda preserved
their humanity as well as conquered their apathetic survival attitude, they overcame their challenges. They had inconsiderably
different strategies towards surviving.Firstly, “Night” and “All But My Life” have demonstrated family as one of the most significant
themes which provided Elie Wiesel and Gerda Weissmann with a powerful reason to be alive. There were a large amount of tactics
used by Elie in “Night”, however, Elie determined the relationship with hisfather as the most considerable. Elie’s father Shlomo was:
“…a cultured man, rather unsentimental. He rarely displayed his feelings, not even with his family, and was more involved with the
welfare of others than with that of his own kin. The Jewish community of Sighet held him in highest esteem; his advice on public
and even private matters was frequently sought” (Wiesel 4). The quote depicts the idea that his father was a man highly respected in
the society. In addition, it is clear that he was admired by many people and asked for advice. Yet in Auschwitz, Elie witnessed how
his father degenerated and transformed into a completely different man at Auschwitz right before his eyes. Elie claims: “I looked up
at my father’s face, trying to glimpse a smile or something like it on his stricken face. But there was nothing. Not the shadow of an
expression. Defeat” (Wiesel 69). Likewise, Gerda’s deep connection to herfamily played a crucial role in her survival. From her
family she possessed an absolutely important sense of foundation where, Elie Wiesel says, so many others were “doomed and
rootless” (Wiesel 87). Having a
