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1. Think of someone you have a relationship with as you read each box below.

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2. Circle the five traits you think are important for that person to have.
3. Find five different people in the room who have circled one of the same traits.

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4. Have them sign in that box.
5. The first person to get all five boxes signed by a different person shouts “Bingo.”

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Entry 1
List people in your life who have helped you feel good about yourself. These people may
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be family members or friends. They may have been in your life for a short time or for a

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long time. They may not be part of your life anymore. You can list names or the person’s
relationship to you (such as father, mother, or history teacher).
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Entry 2
You have written down the names of some people who have helped you feel good about

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yourself. Now think about what these people did to help you feel this way. Describe some
of the ways they treated you.
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DIRECTIONS
Below is a figure and a list of ways people may treat each other. The figure represents you.
On the two solid lines above the figure, write the two most important ways you want to be
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treated by someone you care about. On the five dotted lines surrounding the figure, list five

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additional actions that are important to you. Feel free to write in ideas that aren’t on the list.
respected controlled
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treated treated
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NEGOTIATION BEHAVIOR:

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AND FAIRNESS: Talking and acting so that
Seeking mutually expressing feelings is
satisfying resolutions comfortable. Acting in a way
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to conflict. Accepting that creates a safe feeling
changes. Being willing and environment.
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to compromise.

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RESPECT:
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COMMUNICATION:
Willingness to have open and emotionally affirming and
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each person is happy with the
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SHARED POWER: TRUST AND SUPPORT:
Taking mutual Supporting each other’s goals

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responsibility and
having equal influence
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on the relationship.
Making decisions
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SELF-CONFIDENCE
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Accepting responsibility
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GROWTH:
Respecting each other’s for self. Acknowledging

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personal identity and past use of violence.
encouraging individual Admitting being wrong.

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growth and freedom. Communicating openly
Supporting each other’s and truthfully.

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self worth.

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ANGER/EMOTIONAL
ABUSE:
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PEER PRESSURE:
Threatening to expose Putting someone down.

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someone’s weakness Making someone feel bad
or spread rumors. about himself/herself. Name
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about an individual to think they are crazy. Playing
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Controlling what someone Treating someone like a
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where they go. Limiting outside “master of the castle.”

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involvement. Using jealousy to
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Manipulating or making
INTIMIDATION:
Making someone afraid by
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threats to get sex. Getting

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Smashing things. Destroying
someone drunk or drugged to property. Abusing pets.

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get sex. Pressuring someone Displaying weapons.
to have sex when they don’t
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MINIMIZE/DENY/
AND BLAME:

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THREATS:
Making and/or carrying
Making light of and
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out threats to hurt
someone. Threatening
concerns seriously.

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Saying bad behavior
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or to commit suicide. responsibilty for one’s
Making someone do bad behavior.
something illegal.
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Section 2: Defining Unhealthy Relationships
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Scenario 1
Kim-Lee and Michael have just started dating. Michael doesn’t know all of Kim-Lee’s friends. As he walks out
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of school in the afternoon, he sees Kim-Lee talking to Jon. It looks like a private conversation and Kim-Lee is

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laughing. Michael thinks she is flirting and becomes angry. He walks over to Kim-Lee, puts his arm around
her, and says, “Let’s go,” as he pulls her away. Kim-Lee tries to introduce Jon to Michael, but Michael cuts her

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off, saying, “I said, let’s go now!” Michael drags Kim-Lee away. Kim-Lee tries to explain that Jon is her older
brother’s best friend. They’ve known each other since they were small children. She wasn’t flirting. Michael

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says he won’t have his girlfriend embarrassing him in front of the entire school by talking to other guys. Later
that evening, Michael goes to Kim-Lee’s house with a dozen roses and tells her that he loves her very much.

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That’s why it drives him crazy when she talks to other guys.

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A. How does Michael want Kim-Lee to act?

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B. Why might Michael want Kim-Lee to act this way?

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Mario and Cassie have been dating for about a month. One Saturday night, Mario borrows his brother’s car
and comes to pick Cassie up to go to the movies. Cassie meets him at the door in a new outfit. Mario gives

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her a kiss and then asks if she’s going to change before they go out. Cassie almost cries. She explains that she
bought this outfit just for their date tonight. Mario sighs, pats her on the shoulder, and says, “Cassie, no one

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else would ever put up with you. I don’t know why I love you so much. I have to do everything for you.” Then
he goes up to Cassie’s room and chooses a different outfit.

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A. How does Mario want Cassie to feel?
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Miley and Chris have been dating for several months. They’ve been having a number of disagreements lately.
Chris is angry and frustrated. Things between them don’t seem like they’ll ever get better. Chris has been

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confiding in a friend, Carrie. Chris’s friendship with Carrie makes Miley jealous, causing even more fights.
Last week, Chris told Miley that this relationship might not work. Miley said that if he would stop flirting and
cheating with Carrie, the fighting would stop and they could be happy again. Chris said Carrie was just a friend,
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but it didn’t really matter because if they weren’t fighting about Miley’s jealousy, they were fighting about

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something else. That night, Miley called Chris. She was crying and saying things like, “I need you and I couldn’t
stand to lose you to someone else. You are the best part of my life. If you break up with me, I’ll hurt myself.”

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Since then, Miley has called and sent texts to Chris, saying, “I’ll hurt myself if you leave me.” Chris feels trapped.

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A. What does Miley want Chris to think?
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Take each item (1-10) and list it on the continuum where you believe it falls (healthy, unhealthy, abusive).

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1. Checking your partner’s phone.

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2. Constantly checking up on where your partner is.
3. Encouraging your partner to run for student government.

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4. Calling your partner names in front of his/her friends.
5. Telling your partner when you are upset with them and why.
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6. Pressuring your partner to text you inappropriate photos.

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7. Making decisions together.

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8. Making you feel guilty when you spend time with your friend.

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9. Pressuring your partner to do something he or she does not want to do.
10. Getting jealous when you do better on a test or assignment.

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healthy unhealthy abusive

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Scenario 1
Jason invited several of his friends and his girlfriend, Megan, to his house to watch movies on
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Friday night. Jason asked Megan if she would put out some chips and drinks for everyone. She

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said that she didn’t mind. When Jason’s friends arrived, they all sat down to watch movies. When
someone finished a drink or when the bowl of chips was empty, Jason would tell Megan to go
to the kitchen for refills. When this happened for the third time, Megan said that she wouldn’t be
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their waitress. She wanted to watch the movie and they could help themselves to the food in the

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kitchen if they wanted it. Jason got angry. He ordered Megan to get his friends’ drinks. When she
refused, Jason hit her across the face and pulled her into the kitchen. Jason’s friends have seen

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Jason and Megan fight like this many times.

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Questions

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A. What stereotypes does Jason hold of females?
B. What stereotypes does Jason hold of males?
C. Did Megan hold any stereotypes?

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D. Did Jason’s friends hold any stereotypes?

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Scenario 2
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Tyrone bought Nicole an iTunes gift card for her birthday so she could buy new music for her iPod.

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Nicole opened the gift card and at first she seemed to love the gift. Then, however, she asked where
the rest of her gifts were. When Tyrone said that he just got the iTunes gift card for her birthday

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present, Nicole got angry. She started screaming at him. She said that she expected more than a
stupid gift card for her birthday, and she threw the gift card across the room.

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Questions

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A. What stereotypes does Nicole hold of males?
B. What stereotypes does Nicole hold of females?

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C. Did Tyrone hold any stereotypes?

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afraid foolish paranoid
aggressive friendly peeved

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agonized frightened perplexed

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angry frustrated persecuted
annoyed funky pleasant
anxious funny private
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apologetic grateful proud

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argumentative greedy puzzled
arrogant grief-stricken regretful
ashamed grieving relieved
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peaceful guilty remorseful

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bashful
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happy
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righteous
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blissful heartbroken satisfied

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bored helpless secure
brave hopeful self-conscious

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cautious
cheerful
horrified
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self-pitying
sheepish

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cocky
cold
hysterical
impatient
shocked
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conceited
confused
independent
indifferent
silly
smart

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contemptuous
crabby
cruel
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insulted
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sour
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spiteful

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depressed
determined
irritated
jealous
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superior

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devilish joyful surprised
disappointed left out suspicious

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disapproving
disgusted
lonely
mad
sympathetic
tenacious

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dumb
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empty mellow uneasy

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enraged mischievous unworthy
enthusiastic miserable vengeful

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envious mixed-up victimized
exasperated negative vindictive

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excited nervous wary
exhausted nice worried

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fabulous obstinate
optimistic
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Section3: How We Feel and How We Deal

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Directions
For each scenario, look at the “Feelings” list in your workbook and identify a feeling you might experience.

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You cannot use the same word twice.

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1. Your math teacher tells you that you have a test today. ______________________

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2.
3.
Someone you like asks you out on a date. ____________________________________
Your friend compliments you on your outfit. _______________________________
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4. Your parent grounds you for something you didn’t do. ____________________

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5. You found out that you made a team you tried out for. ______________________

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6. Your mom made your favorite dinner. _____________________________
7. You show up to a birthday party where you only know one person. ________________
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8. Your friend texts you every five minutes.____________________________

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9. You failed an assignment or test._________________________________
10. The person you like calls you stupid in front of your friends.____________________

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11.
12.
Your friend doesn’t text you back.__________________________________
Your best friend is going out with the person you like. ______________________
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13. You lied to your friend and got caught.________________________________

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14. Your sibling closes his/her computer every time you walk into the room.________________
15. You show up at school wearing the same outfit as your teacher.___________
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16. You were not invited to a party that your friend is throwing._______________________
17.
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You go to a concert with your friends._____________________________________
18. You stand up for your friends when someone is making fun of them.________________

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19. Someone sends you an inappropriate photo from your phone.________________________
20. You lost your iPod and someone returns it to you.________________________________
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Directions
Think about a time when you were angry with someone you cared about; a time you wouldn’t

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mind sharing with people. Write down the person and the situation and why you were angry.

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When (someone) __________________ did (action)______________________________

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I felt angry because (response) ___________________________________________.

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What other feelings did you experience in that situation? (Refer to Feelings List if needed)

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Discuss with a partner

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with that person?

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How could you have responded differently?

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Section3: How We Feel and How We Deal

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Look at each scenario and write down what the primary feeling is and how you would handle that
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situation in a healthy way. (Refer to Feelings List if needed)

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A. The person you are dating doesn’t call you when they said they would.
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Primary:__________________
Secondary: Angry
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B. Your friend shows an embarrassing video of you to your classmates.
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Secondary: Anger

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C. Your best friend is hanging out with the person you like.

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Primary:__________________
Secondary: Anger
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D. You catch your brother or sister using your iPod after you told them
not to.

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Primary:__________________
Secondary: Anger
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E. Your teacher falsely accuses you of cheating on an assignment.
Primary:__________________

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Secondary: Anger

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1. Use calming strategies to stay cool and collected.
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1. Ask honest and open-ended questions to better understand the situation.
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2. Don’t jump to conclusions.

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3. After listening to answers, you may realize that the conflict was all a misunderstanding.

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ind out feelings.

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1. Find out how the other person feels about the situation that is causing the disagreement.
2. Express your own feelings-be honest and specific, referring to the situation and what

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about it upsets you.

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3. Use “I” statements when expressing your feelings (I feel ______ when you_____).

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xchange ideas for a possible solution.
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1. With all of this information, suggest possible solutions.

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2. Talk about which ones work best for the two of you.

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Scenarios:
LaToya and Marcus met in April when they were both in 8th grade and have been dating for about six months.
Throughout the summer the two teens were inseparable. They went swimming at the pool and walking in the
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park. They went to the mall and to the movies. When they were apart, they talked on the phone, sent texts back

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and forth, and left Facebook messages for each other. Both LaToya and Marcus agreed that it was the best summer
they had ever had.

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Now, it’s the fall and they’re beginning high school. LaToya is going to be a freshman cheerleader.

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Marcus is very proud of her. It’s an honor to be on the squad. because their high school cheerleading squad wins

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national awards every year. LaToya has been working very hard all week. After school she has cheerleading practice
for two hours. However, today is Friday and the coach let them go early. She ran home and called Marcus to ask him
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to come over. She was eager to see him, as she hadn’t spent much time with him this week. Marcus was happy she
had gotten off early as well and went to LaToya’s house right away.

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Marcus (M) LaToya (L)

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M: (Knocks on the door)

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L: (Answers the door and sees Marcus) Oh, I’m so glad to see you. I have so much to tell

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M: I haven’t seen you since school has started. You’re too busy.

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L: Oh, I know I’m busy. I have no time. I do miss you, but I love cheerleading. Marcus,
it’s so much fun. I’m learning so much. I can’t wait until the first football game when

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you can come and watch me. You’re going to be so proud.

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M: I’m already proud of you.

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L: But just wait until you see me. I’m paired up with Darnell. He’s so strong. I’m learning
to balance in his hands. I feel so tall up there.

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M: Darnell?

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L: Yeah, the freshman squad has three male cheerleaders this year. The squad can do
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a lot more stunts with them. They’re so much stronger than the girls and can lift us
up and stuff.
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M: Well, I’m pretty strong; maybe I should join the cheerleading squad.

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L: (Laughs) Oh Marcus, you have to be a lot more than strong to be a cheerleader.
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Darnell has been a gymnast since he was five years old. He won a national award

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last year. That’s why it amazes me that he thinks I’m such a good cheerleader. He’s

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M: (Raising his voice) Darnell, Darnell, Darnell! I’m sick of hearing about Darnell. If you like
him so much why don’t you date him?
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L: (Wants to yell back at him, but instead takes a deep breath and pauses a minute. She
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looks carefully at Marcus.) I don’t understand why you’re so mad?

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M: (Shouting) Why am I mad? (Gets up from his chair) Are you kidding me? You’re letting
some other guy touch you, put his hands on you.
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L: (Takes another deep breath and is careful not to raise her voice) Marcus, don’t you trust

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me? Being a cheerleader is important to me and you’ve always supported me. Why are

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you freaking out?

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M: Because all you have done since I walked in the door is talk about Darnell. What about
me? I’m your boyfriend.

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L: Yes, you’re my boyfriend. What do you mean by “What about me?” Do you feel like I don’t

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pay enough attention to you?

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M: Well, no. I mean yes. Well, I don’t know. I never felt like that during the summer, but
since school has started you’ve been so busy I wonder if you’re still interested in me.

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L: Yes, of course. I’m not interested in dating Darnell or anyone else. We just hang out at
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cheerleading practice. I know that I’ve been busy.

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M: I know. But I wish things wouldn’t have changed.

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L: Me too. But I don’t want to stop cheerleading. What can we do?

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M: Are you always going to get out early on Fridays?

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L: No, but I can see you in the evenings on Fridays and over the weekend.

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M: Yeah, and during the week we have Facebook.

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L: Definitely. Maybe you could come over after dinner sometimes, or even have dinner

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with us.

M: Look, LaToya, I’m sorry I got so mad.

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Conflict Scenario 1

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Character 1: Jamie and Character 2: Taylor

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Jamie: You’ve been dating Taylor for five months. You have been spending a lot of time
together and when you are not together, you like to keep in touch via text messaging. You
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like to know what Taylor is up to and who he is with. Things are getting more serious and

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you feel that Taylor should let you read his text messages and Facebook page. Recently,
the two of you have talked about sending each other nude pictures. Taylor has some
friends who send nude pictures to their girlfriends/boyfriends and think this could be
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fun for you two to try, but you don’t think this is a good idea.

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Taylor: You’ve been dating Jamie for five months. You really like her, but she constantly

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sends text messages asking where you are and who you are with. You feel like you could
use a little bit of space. When the two of you were hanging out one evening you found
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her reading through your Facebook page. She told you she did not like that you were
sending messages to another girl in your class and asked you not to do it anymore. You

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don’t have anything to hide from Jamie, but you were not comfortable with her reading
your private messages.

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Questions:
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When Liam goes to pick up Keshia, he mentions his friends invited him to a basketball game. At

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the party he ignores Keshia and texts his friends the entire time.

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1. How could Taylor tell Jamie that she is texting him too much?
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2. What should Taylor tell Jamie to let her know that he is not comfortable with her reading
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through his private messages?
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3. What should Jamie do since she doesn’t think sending nude pictures to Taylor is a
good idea?

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4. Could they have come to a compromise before the party?
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Conflict Scenario 2

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Character 1: Mia and Character 2: Serena

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Mia:You’ve been having problems with this one girl, Serena, at school. You think she doesn’t like

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you because you went out with one of her ex-boyfriends. You didn’t have more than four dates with
the guy, but she seems jealous and is always rude to you. You just found out that she’s spreading
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rumors about you on Facebook. She’s saying that you skipped class to drink beer by the school
fence. This rumor isn’t true. You’re extremely angry at this girl and decide to confront her.

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Serena: There’s this girl, Mia, who you really don’t like. You think she’s trying to steal your
boyfriend. You’ve been dating this guy for six months but have recently decided to “cool things

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off a bit” because you’ve been fighting a lot. You talked briefly about dating other people, but no
decisions were made. Then, your boyfriend went out with Mia a few times. You always knew she

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was a flirt! You’re very jealous. You heard a rumor that Mia and some other students skipped class
and were drinking beer by the school fence. You didn’t actually see them doing it but you’ve told

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the story to some other people and posted it on Facebook.

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Questions:

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1. What should Mia have done differently?
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4. Have you ever been in a situation similar to this? How did you resolve this?
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Conflict Scenario 3
Character 1: Jammal and Character 2: Amara

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Jammal: You’ve been dating Amara for a few weeks. She’s a lot of fun and beautiful as well. You
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know that all the other guys are jealous. Everyone says the two of you look great together. Today,
when you walked down the hall, you saw her talking to a whole group of guys, just her and five or
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six guys. You got really angry. Don’t they know you are her boyfriend? Why would Amara want to
talk to them anyway? You don’t understand why she didn’t come to find you to talk to in between
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classes. Now, it’s the evening. You usually call her at about this time. Tonight, however, you decide

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to go to her house because you want to talk to her in person. You’re feeling very jealous.

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Amara: You’re at home in the evening, hoping Jammal will call soon. You’ve been dating Jammal
for a couple of wonderful weeks. You really like the way your relationship has been going. You

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missed him in between classes today because you were talking to some friends. Your friends are
really important to you and you always make time for them. You’ve seen some girls give up all their

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friends when they start dating someone; you’d never want to do that.

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Questions:

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1. Why was Jammal so upset?
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4. How should Jammal communicate effectively?

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DON’T GOSSIP:

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GIVE HELP:
Know the resources
Talk in private. Don’t tell
other people without your

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in your community.
Is there a hotline?
friend’s permission. Tell a
trusted adult if you feel your
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What legal, medical, or
counseling options are
friend is in danger.

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available?

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MAKE A SAFETY PLAN:

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abuse? Is it working? Do they
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have a safe place to escape to if
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LET YOUR FRIEND
MAKE HIS/HER TELL THE PERSON THEY DIDN’T

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OWN DECISIONS: DESERVE TO BE ABUSED:
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right to make a decision
when he/she is ready to
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Violence LINK Line 1-800-897-5465
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and Sexual Violence Peace EQUAL Communication HEALTHY Support
Line 1-800-421-1100

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VICTIM ADVOCATE PROGRAMS (VAP)

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(Community programs to assist victims with advocacy, court, and abuse in the community)
Beaver County SALT LAKE County continued
BEAVER COUNTY SHERIFF’S OFFICE (435) 438-6494 SOUTH JORDAN VICTIM SERVICES 801-254-4708

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Box Elder County
BOX ELDER COUNTY ATTORNEY’S OFFICE (435) 734-3329
TAYLORSVILLE POLICE DEPARTMENT 801-955-2067
TOOELE CITYVAP (435) 882-8900

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UNIFIED POLICE DEPARTMENT, NORTH VALLEY 801-743-5861
Cache County UNIFIED POLICE DEPARTMENT, SOUTH VALLEY 385-468-9365
CACHE COUNTY VICTIM SERVICES (435) 755-1832 WEST JORDAN VAP (801) 566-6511

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WEST VALLEY VAP (801) 963-3223
Carbon County
CARBON COUNTY SHERIFF’S OFFICE (435) 636-3250 San Juan County

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HELPER CITY POLICE DEPARTMENT (435) 472-3719
PRICE CITY POLICE DEPARTMENT (435) 636-3190
SAN JUAN COUNTY SHERIFF’S OFFICE (435) 459-1819

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Sanpete County
Daggett County SANPETE COUNTY SHERIFF’S OFFICE (435) 835-3352
DAGGETT VAP (435) 784-3255
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Sevier County
Davis County SEVIER COUNTY ATTORNEY’S OFFICE (435) 979-0936

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LAYTON CITY VICTIM SERVICES (801) 336-3599 Summit County
Duchesne County SUMMIT COUNTY VAP (435) 615-3850
DUCHESNE COUNTY VICTIM SERVICES (435) 722-8003

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Tooele County
Garfield County TOOELE CITY POLICE DEPARTMENT (435) 882-8900
GARFIELD COUNTY ATTORNEY (435) 690-9140 TOOELE COUNTY ATTORNEY’S OFFICE (435) 843-3171

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Grand County Uintah County

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VERNAL CITY POLICE DEPARTMENT (435) 789-4250
Iron County
IRON COUNTY VICTIM SERVICES (435) 865-5318 Utah County

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Juab County
AMERICAN FORK POLICE DEPARTMENT (801) 763-3020 EXT. 143
LEHI POLICE DEPARTMENT (801) 768-7110

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JUAB COUNTY ATTORNEY’S OFFICE (435) 623-3460 LINDON CITY POLICE DEPARTMENT (801) 769-8601
LONE PEAK POLICE DEPARTMENT (801) 756-9800
Kane County

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OREM DEPARTMENT OF PUBLIC SAFETY (801) 229-7128
KANE COUNTY VICTIM SERVICES (435) 644-4989
PLEASANT GROVE POLICE DEPARTMENT (801) 785-3506
Millard County PROVO POLICE DEPARTMENT (801) 852-6375
SARATOGA SPRINGS POLICE DEPARTMENT (801) 766-6503
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MILLARD COUNTY ATTORNEY’S OFFICE (435) 743-6522
SOUTH UTAH COUNTY (PAYSON CITY )VICTIM SERVICES (801) 465-5224
Morgan County SPRINGVILLE/MAPLETON VAP (801) 489-9421

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MORGAN COUNTY ATTORNEY’S OFFICE (801) 845-6093 UTAH COUNTY ATTORNEY’S OFFICE (801)851-8015
SALT LAKE County Wasatch County

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DRAPER VAP (801) 576-6355 WASATCH COUNTY ATTORNEY’S OFFICE (435) 657-3300
MIDVALE VAP (801) 256-2505
MURRAY VAP (801) 284-4203 Washington County

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SALT LAKE CITY VAP (801) 580-7969
SALT LAKE COUNTY VAP (801) 743-5860
EASTERN WASHINGTON COUNTY (435) 635-9663
ST. GEORGE POLICE DEPARTMENT (435) 627-4399

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SANDY VAP (801) 801-568-4627 WASHINGTON CITY P.D. (435) 986-1515
SOUTH SALT LAKE VAP (801) 412-3662
Weber County
OGDEN CITY PROSECUTOR’S OFFICE (801) 629-8597
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WEBSITES
Choose Respect www.chooserespect.org/scripts/index.asp

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End Abuse http://endabuse.org/programs/teens/
My Strength www.mencanstoprape.org/index.htm
National Sexual Violence Resource Center www.nsvrc.org/
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Utah Coalition Against Sexual Assault www.ucasa.org/home.html
Utah Department of Health www.health.utah.gov/vipp/
Support Utah Teen Dating Scene www.facebook.com/utahteendatingscene

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