Sample Handfasting Ceremonies
Handfasting with a Simple Ribbon or Cord:
*HANDFASTING is an ancient Celtic wedding ritual in which the couples' hands are tied together with a
ceremonial ribbon or cloth (if you saw the movie BRAVEHEART you might remember the scene where
they were married in the forest. The priest wrapped their hands in a strip of cloth, his family's tartan). It's
often done in modern times with a beautiful ribbon or cord the couple chooses. One couple I married
actually had Celtic origins, and had a special tartan cloth woven for them that incorporated the plaids of
both their clans. It's tied in a bow with an opening loose enough so that the hands can come out freely, or
simply draped across the hands. The couple saves the ribbon or cloth as a keepsake. Here are some words
that can be said with handfasting:
"(Bride and Groom), as your hands are bound together now,
so your lives and spirits are joined in a union of love and trust.
Above you are the stars and below you is the earth.
Like the stars your love should be a constant source of light,
and like the earth, a firm foundation from which to grow."
Handfasting Ceremony with 4 cords:
(Bride and Groom) have chosen to incorporate the ancient Celtic ritual of Handfasting into their wedding
ceremony today. Traditionally, in the British Isles it was performed by a priest or priestess, who would
invoke the energies of the four natural elements to create a sacred circle in which the couple could be
joined as embodiments of god and goddess. The cloth that binds their hands was usually the tartan plaid,
representing the bride's clan or family group. One of the things we like about handfasting is that it is also
a declaration of intent,
where the bride and groom clearly state that they are marrying of their own free will.
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(Bride and Groom), know now before you go further,
that since your lives have crossed in this life,
you have formed eternal and sacred bonds.
As you seek to enter this state of matrimony you should strive
to make real the ideals that to you, give meaning this ceremony
and to the institution of marriage.
With full awareness, know that within this circle
you are not only declaring your intent to be handfasted before your friends and family,
but you speak that intent also to your creative higher powers.
The promises made today and the ties that are bound here
greatly strengthen your union
and will cross the years and lives of each soul's growth.
Do you still seek to enter this ceremony?
Yes.
INVOKING THE FOUR DIRECTIONS
In many cultures it is believed that the human soul
shares characteristics with all things divine.
It is this belief which assigned virtues to the four cardinal directions;
East, South, West and North.
It is according to this belief that we align ourselves with these elements.
Each of these blessings from the four cardinal directions emphasizes
those things which will help you build a happy and successful union.
[Guests are invited to stand and face the four directions]
Blessed be this union with the gifts of the East and the element of Air,
for openness and breath, communication of the heart,
and purity of the mind and body.
From the east you receive the gift of a new beginning
with the rising of each Sun, and the understanding
that each day is a new opportunity for growth.
Blessed be this union with the gifts of the South and the element of fire,
for energy, passion, creativity and the warmth of a loving home.
From the fire within you generate light, which you will share
with one another in even the darkest of times.
Blessed be this union with the gifts of the West, the element of water,
for your capacity to feel emotion.
In marriage you offer absolute trust to one another,
and vow to keep your hearts open in sorrow as well as joy.
Blessed be this union with the gifts of the North, the element of earth,
which provides sustenance, fertility and security.
The earth will feed and enrich you, and help you to build a stable home
to which you may always return.
[guests are seated]
(Bride and Groom), I bid you look into each other’s eyes.
Will you honor and respect one another,
and seek to never break that honor?
We will [the first cord is draped over the couples' hands]
And so the first binding is made.
Will you share each other's pain and seek to ease it?
We will [Second cord is draped over the hands]
And so the binding is made
Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union?
We will [third cord is draped over the couples' hands]
And so the binding is made.
Will you share each other's laughter, and look for the brightness in life
and the positive in each other?
We will. [fourth cord is draped over the couples' hands]
And so the binding is made.
[Tie cords together]
(Bride and Groom), as your hands are bound together now,
so your lives and spirits are joined in a union of love and trust.
Above you are the stars and below you is the earth.
Like the stars you love should be a constant source of light,
and like the earth, a firm foundation from which to grow.
(from this point the ceremony can move on to traditional vows
and/or the traditional ring exchange)
