personality development is nothing but a tool that helps you realize

your capabilities and your strengths making you a stronger, a happier

and a cheerful person.

 You may have heard this a million times “Think Positive”. It works.
 Smile. And smile some more. It adds to your face value and to your
personality as well.
 Read a few articles in the newspaper loudly. This will help in
communicating fluently.
 Follow table manners and dining etiquettes
 Take good care of your health, dress well, be neat and organized
 Prepare a chart that mentions your strengths and weaknesses.
Now concentrate on the latter and find ways to improve upon the
same. Do not forget to strengthen your strengths.
 Spend some time alone concentrating on you and yourself alone.
 Practice meditation and yoga. It will help you develop inner peace
and harmony that will reflect outside.
 Do not live a monotonous life. Be creative and do something new
all the time. Nothing bigger than the joy of creative satisfaction.
 Personality is defined as the characteristic set
of behaviors, cognitions, and emotional patterns that evolve from
biological and environmental factors.[1] While there is no generally
agreed upon definition of personality, most theories focus on
motivation and psychological interactions with one's
environment.[2] Trait-based personality theories, such as those
defined by Raymond Cattell define personality as the traits that
predict a person's behavior. On the other hand, more behaviorally
based approaches define personality through learning and habits.
 Nevertheless, most theories view personality as relatively
stable.[1]
 The study of the psychology of personality, called personality
psychology, attempts to explain the tendencies that underlie
differences in behavior. Many approaches have been taken on to
study personality, including biological, cognitive, learning and trait
based theories, as well as psychodynamic, and humanistic
approaches. Personality psychology is divided among the first
theorists, with a few influential theories being posited by Sigmund
Freud, Alfred Adler, Gordon Allport, Hans Eysenck, Abraham
Maslow, and Carl Rogers.

Five-factor model[edit]
Personality is often broken into statistically-identified factors called
the Big Five, which are openness to
experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness,
and neuroticism(or emotional stability). These components are
generally stable over time, and about half of the variance appears to be
attributable to a person's genetics rather than the effects of one's
environment.[4][5]
Some research has investigated whether the relationship between
happiness and extraversion seen in adults can also be seen in children.
The implications of these findings can help identify children that are
more likely to experience episodes of depression and develop types of
treatment that such children are likely to respond to. In both children
and adults, research shows that genetics, as opposed to environmental
factors, exert a greater influence on happiness levels. Personality is not
stable over the course of a lifetime, but it changes much more quickly
during childhood, so personality constructs in children are referred to
as temperament. Temperament is regarded as the precursor to
personality.[6]Whereas McCrae and Costa's Big Five model assesses
personality traits in adults, the EAS (emotionality, activity, and
sociability) model is used to assess temperament in children. This
model measures levels of emotionality, activity, sociability, and shyness
in children. The personality theorists consider temperament EAS model
similar to the Big Five model in adults; however, this might be due to a
conflation of concepts of personality and temperament as described
above. Findings show that high degrees of sociability and low degrees
of shyness are equivalent to adult extraversion, and correlate with
higher levels of life satisfaction in children.
Another interesting finding has been the link found between acting
extraverted and positive affect. Extraverted behaviors include acting
talkative, assertive, adventurous, and outgoing. For the purposes of this
study, positive affect is defined as experiences of happy and enjoyable
emotions.[7] This study investigated the effects of acting in a way that is
counter to a person's dispositional nature. In other words, the study
focused on the benefits and drawbacks of introverts (people who are
shy, socially inhibited and non-aggressive) acting extraverted, and of
extraverts acting introverted. After acting extraverted, introverts'
experience of positive affect increased[7] whereas extraverts seemed to
experience lower levels of positive affect and suffered from the
phenomenon of ego depletion. Ego depletion, or cognitive fatigue, is
the use of one's energy to overtly act in a way that is contrary to one's
inner disposition. When people act in a contrary fashion, they divert
most, if not all, (cognitive) energy toward regulating this foreign style of
behavior and attitudes. Because all available energy is being used to
maintain this contrary behavior, the result is an inability to use any
energy to make important or difficult decisions, plan for the future,
control or regulate emotions, or perform effectively on other cognitive
tasks.[7]
One question that has been posed is why extraverts tend to be happier
than introverts. The two types of explanations attempt to account for
this difference are instrumental theories and temperamental
theories.[4] The instrumental theory suggests that extraverts end up
making choices that place them in more positive situations and they
also react more strongly than introverts to positive situations. The
temperamental theory suggests that extraverts have a disposition that
generally leads them to experience a higher degree of positive affect. In
their study of extraversion, Lucas and Baird[4] found no statistically
significant support for the instrumental theory but did, however, find
that extraverts generally experience a higher level of positive affect.
Research has been done to uncover some of the mediators that are
responsible for the correlation between extraversion and happiness.
Self-esteem and self-efficacy are two such mediators. Self-efficacy has
been found to be related to the personality traits of extraversion and
subjective well-being.[8] Self-efficacy is one's belief about abilities to
perform up to personal standards, the ability to produce desired
results, and the feeling of having some ability to make important life
decisions.[8] However, the relationship between extraversion (and
neuroticism) and subjective happiness is only partially mediated by self-
efficacy.[8] This implies that there are most likely other factors that
mediate the relationship between subjective happiness and personality
traits. Another such factor may be self-esteem. Individuals with a
greater degree of confidence about themselves and their abilities seem
to have both higher degrees of subjective well-being and higher levels
of extraversion.[9]
Other research has examined the phenomenon of mood maintenance
as another possible mediator. Mood maintenance, the ability to
maintain one's average level of happiness in the face of an ambiguous
situation (meaning a situation that has the potential to engender either
positive or negative emotions in different individuals), has been found
to be a stronger force in extraverts.[10] This means that the happiness
levels of extraverted individuals are less susceptible to the influence of
external events. Another implication of this finding is that extraverts'
positive moods last longer than those of introverts.[10]

 Openness to experience (inventive/curious vs. consistent/cautious).

Appreciation for art, emotion, adventure, unusual ideas, curiosity,
and variety of experience. Openness reflects the degree of
intellectual curiosity, creativity and a preference for novelty and
variety a person has. It is also described as the extent to which a
person is imaginative or independent and depicts a personal
preference for a variety of activities over a strict routine. High
openness can be perceived as unpredictability or lack of focus, and
more likely to engage in risky behaviour or drug taking.[5] Also,
individuals that have high openness tend to lean, in occupation and
hobby, towards the arts, being, typically, creative and appreciative
of the significance of intellectual and artistic pursuits.[6] Moreover,
individuals with high openness are said to pursue self-
actualization specifically by seeking out intense, euphoric
experiences. Conversely, those with low openness seek to gain
fulfillment through perseverance and are characterized as pragmatic
and data-driven—sometimes even perceived to be dogmatic and
closed-minded. Some disagreement remains about how to interpret
and contextualize the openness factor.[clarification needed]
 Conscientiousness (efficient/organized vs. easy-going/careless).
Tendency to be organized and dependable, show self-discipline,
act dutifully, aim for achievement, and prefer planned rather than
spontaneous behavior. High conscientiousness is often perceived as
being stubborn and focused. Low conscientiousness is associated
 with flexibility and spontaneity, but can also appear as sloppiness
and lack of reliability.[7]
 Extraversion (outgoing/energetic vs. solitary/reserved).
Energetic, surgency, assertiveness, sociability and the tendency to
seek stimulation in the company of others, and talkativeness. High
extraversion is often perceived as attention-seeking and
domineering. Low extraversion causes a reserved, reflective
personality, which can be perceived as aloof or self-
absorbed.[7] Extroverted people may appear more dominant in social
settings, as opposed to introverted people in this setting.[8]
 Agreeableness (friendly/compassionate vs. challenging/detached).
Tendency to be compassionate and cooperative rather
than suspicious and antagonistic towards others. It is also a measure
of one's trusting and helpful nature, and whether a person is
generally well-tempered or not. High agreeableness is often seen as
naive or submissive. Low agreeableness personalities are often
competitive or challenging people, which can be seen as
argumentative or untrustworthy.[7]
 Neuroticism (sensitive/nervous vs. secure/confident). Tendency to
be prone to psychological stress.[9] The tendency to experience
unpleasant emotions easily, such as anger, anxiety, depression,
and vulnerability. Neuroticism also refers to the degree of emotional
stability and impulse control and is sometimes referred to by its low
pole, "emotional stability". High stability manifests itself as a stable
and calm personality, but can be seen as uninspiring and
unconcerned. Low stability manifests as the reactive and excitable
personality often found in dynamic individuals, but can be perceived
as unstable or insecure.[7] Also, individuals with higher levels of
neuroticism tend to have worse psychological well being
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 1. Be Confident:
 Confidence is certainly the most important factor which adds to the
personality of any individual. A person’s confidence might go down due
to mistakes, failure, guilty or any other thing which is undesirable. Some
people often develop inferiority complex due to their physical
appearance, caste, financial status etc. Such people perceive
confidence as their weakness, while the truth is that confidence is an
individual’s biggest strength.
 Your confidence reflects your character, attitude and passion. You
should be confident about who you are and whatever you do. Being
confident will help you to express yourself and stand amongst the
crowd.
 2. Improve Your Communication Skills:
 The way you speak reflects who you are. Be polite and gentle with your
words. Use decent words while interacting with everyone. Always think
before you speak. English being globally accepted is preferred
everywhere. So work on your English proficiency by listening to English
news, reading English newspapers and magazines. Always use simple
words general interactions.
 3. Dress Up Well:
 Dressing sense means the general sense about how you should dress
up for office, party or any other occasion. A person should therefore
wear according to the situation and according to how well the attire suits
him/her. Good looks no doubt will add to your personality but what
matters the most is how you are dressed up. Even a 5’4 guy with a dark
complexion can have a good personality if he knows how to carry
himself. Dressing sense thus plays a major role in personality and
confidence development.
 4. Do What You’re Passionate About and Be Passionate About
What You Do:
 Always follow your passion and do what interests you. This will not only
help you to grow as a person but will also add to your confidence. Be
passionate about your work. Make sure that you give your best in
whatever you do. This will add to your growth and strengthen your self
confidence. NEVER miss a chance to prove yourself.
 5. Watch Your Body Language:
 Body language plays an important role to judge a person’s confidence
and personality. Try to make use of positive gestures while interacting
with others. This shows that you’re at ease while having a
discussion. Studies reflect that 75% of our communication happens
 non-verbally. Your gestures thus play a vital role while interacting with
others.
 6. Improve Your Social Skills:
 Man is a social animal. Every individual has to interact with a group of
people one time or the other. Being shy or introvert is the least desirable
characteristics in any individual. Always stay updated with the current
affairs and what is happening in your society. Try participating in group
discussions and seminars. This will help you to be more open and
adjust amongst a group of individuals.
 7. Develop Leadership Qualities:
 A good leader is believed to have a good personality. Leadership skills
do not mean how well you give orders to your subordinates. It means
how well you can manage your subordinates to accomplish a particular
task. Work harder to set an example to your subordinates. Express
yourself and always do as you say.
 8. Be Optimistic:
 Have a positive outlook towards everything. Nobody wants to be around
a person who is negative and complaining all the time. Nobody wants to
work or live with a pessimist. When you face a failure, let go of the
assumption that you’re the unluckiest person alive. Use positive
statements like “I can do it”, “I always have a choice” etc. Expect good
things from the future.
 9. Be a Patient Listener:
 Be an enthusiastic listener. Listening is a very essential part of
communication. This will help you to see things from the eyes of
others. Mental presence is a must to be good listener. Try to get away
from any possible distraction while talking to your family members,
friends and co-workers. Ask questions to let the other person know that
you were listening to him/her.
 10. Be a Good Learner:
 Good learning skills in an individual are highly desirable. You should
always have the zeal to learn new things while at work. This reflects
your enthusiasm. Don’t let yourself repeat the same mistakes. Learn
from them.
 Here’s a famous quote by Eleanor Roosevelt: “Learn from the
mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all
yourself”
 Everyone makes mistakes, but learning from them is the best one can
do. Working on the above mentioned characteristics will help you to be
entitled as a person with a good personality.