“Serving to Educate, Educating to Serve”

Become a Friendlier Person 17. Try honestly to see things from the other
person’s point of view.
1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
18. Be sympathetic with the other person’s
2. Give honest, sincere appreciation. ideas and desires.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager 19. Appeal to the nobler motives.
want.
20. Dramatize your ideas.
4. Become genuinely interested in other
people. 21. Throw down a challenge.

5. Smile. Be a Leader

6. Remember that a person’s name is to 22. Begin with praise and honest
that person the sweetest and most appreciation.
important sound in any language.
23. Call attention to people’s mistakes
7. Be a good listener. Encourage others to indirectly.
talk about themselves.
24. Talk about your own mistakes before
8. Talk in terms of the other person’s criticizing the other person.
interests.
25. Ask questions instead of giving direct
9. Make the other person feel important - orders.
and do it sincerely.
26. Let the other person save face.
Win People to Your Way of Thinking
27. Praise the slightest improvement and
10. The only way to get the best of an praise every improvement. Be “hearty in
argument is to avoid it. your approbation and lavish in your praise.”

11. Show respect for the other person’s 28. Give the other person a fine reputation
opinion. Never say, “You’re wrong.” to live up to.

12. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and 29. Use encouragement. Make the fault
emphatically. seem easy to correct.

13. Begin in a friendly way. 30. Make the other person happy about
doing the thing you suggest.
14. Get the other person saying “yes, yes”
immediately.

15. Let the other person do a great deal of Fundamental Principles for Overcoming
the talking. Worry

16. Let the other person feel that the idea is 1. Live in “day tight compartments.”
his or hers.
2. How to face trouble:
 a. Ask yourself, “What is the worst 6. Don’t worry about the past.
that can possibly happen?”
Cultivate a Mental Attitude that will Bring
b. Prepare to accept the worst. You Peace and Happiness

c. Try to improve on the worst. 1. Fill your mind with thoughts of peace,
courage, health and hope.
3. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price
you can pay for worry in terms of your 2. Never try to get even with your enemies.
health.
3. Expect ingratitude.

4. Count your blessings — not your

Basic Techniques in Analyzing Worry troubles.

1. Get all the facts. 5. Do not imitate others.

2. Weigh all the facts — then come to a 6. Try to profit from your losses.
decision.
7. Create happiness for others.
3. Once a decision is reached, act!
Prevent Fatigue and Worry and Keep
4. Write out and answer the following Your Energy and Spirits High
questions:
1. Rest before you get tired.
a. What is the problem?
2. Learn to relax at your work.
b. What are the causes of the
problem? 3. Protect your health and appearance by
relaxing at home.
c. What are the possible solutions?
4. Apply these four good working habits:
d. What is the best possible
solution? a) Clear your desk of all papers
except those relating to the immediate
problem at hand.

Break the Worry Habit Before It Breaks b) Do things in the order of their
You importance.

1. Keep busy. c) When you face a problem, solve it

then and there if you have the facts
2. Don’t fuss about trifles. necessary to make a decision.
3. Use the law of averages to outlaw your d) Learn to organize, deputize and
worries. supervise.
4. Cooperate with the inevitable. 5. Put enthusiasm into your work.
5. Decide just how much anxiety a thing 6. Don’t worry about insomnia.
may be worth and refuse to give it more.
Don't Worry about Criticism The bearer said to the pot, "Did you notice
that there were flowers only on your side of
1. Remember that unjust criticism is often a your path, but not on the other pot's side?
disguised compliment. That's because I have always known about
your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I
2. Do the very best you can. planted flower seeds on your side of the
path, and every day while we walk back
3. Analyze your own mistakes and criticize from the stream, you've watered them. For
yourself. two years I have been able to pick these
beautiful flowers to decorate my master's
CRACKED POT table. Without you being just the way you
A water bearer in India had two large pots, are, he would not have this beauty to grace
each hung on the end of a pole which he his house."
carried across his neck. One of the pots Each of us has our own unique flaws. We're
was perfectly made and never leaked. The all cracked pots. But if we will allow it, God
other pot had a crack in it and by the time will use our flaws to grace his table. In
the water bearer reached his master's God's great economy, nothing goes to
house it had leaked much of its water and waste. Don't be afraid of your flaws.
was only half full. Acknowledge them, and you too can be the
For a full two years this went on daily, with cause of beauty. Know that in our
the bearer delivering only one and a half weakness we find our strength.
pots full of water to his master's house. Of
course, the perfect pot was proud of its
accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot BATTLE OUT THE UNFAIR& EMERGE
was ashamed of its own imperfection, and OUT VICTORIOUS..!
miserable that it was able to accomplish Around two weeks ago I was called to judge
only half of what it had been made to do. a talent contest at one of the city colleges. I
After two years of what it perceived to be a noticed all the participants were given slips
bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer of paper with a topic written on it and told to
one day by the stream. "I am ashamed of come up and speak for three minutes. Lots
myself, and I want to apologize to you." were drawn as to who would be the first
"Why?" asked the bearer. "What are you speaker and the next and the next. The first
ashamed of?" "I have been able, for these contestant I noticed looked a little
past two years, to deliver only half my load disgruntled as he got onto the podium to
because this crack in my side causes water address the others. "My fellow students and
to leak out all the way back to your master's respected judges," he said loudly, "this is an
house. Because of my flaws, you have to unfair contest!" I, along with my fellow
do all of this work, and you don't get full judges looked up surprised. "I have been
value from your efforts," the pot said. given this paper," he continued, "to speak
The water bearer felt sorry for the old on a subject with just a few minutes
cracked pot, and in his compassion he said, preparation whereas those after me have
"As we return to the master's house, I want more time to work on their speech. This is
you to notice the beautiful flowers along the unfair!" He then proceeded to leave the
path." Indeed, as they went up the hill, the stage and stormed out of the hall. Nobody
old cracked pot took notice of the sun missed him and the contest went on
warming the beautiful wild flowers on the smoothly.
side of the path, and this cheered it some. I met him on the landing as I was being
But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad escorted out later. "Who said life is fair?" I
because it had leaked out half its load, and asked him with a smile. He looked at me
so again the pot apologized to the bearer startled and I asked him to walk with me to
for its failure. my car. "Life," I told him, "is fighting the
unfair and still winning! Do you read It started before I was born. My biological
automobile magazines?" mother was a young, unwed graduate
"Yes," he said eagerly, "I do." student, and she decided to put me up for
"Have you seen statistics shown when a adoption. She felt very strongly that I should
new car is being introduced into the be adopted by college graduates, so
market? They talk about speed and torque everything was all set for me to be adopted
and transmission and horse power." at birth by a lawyer and his wife except that
"Yes," he nodded. when I popped out they decided at the last
"But there is a line they put after all these minute that they really wanted a girl.
figures. They say all this data is when there So my parents, who were on a waiting list,
are ideal road conditions!" got a call in the middle of the night asking,
"Yes," he said again. "We've got an unexpected baby boy; Do
"Show me ideal road conditions?" I asked you want him?" They said, "Of course." My
him and he smiled. "The car that sells well," biological mother found out later that my
I continued is the car that will deliver power mother had never graduated from college
and speed and durability in the worst of and that my father had never graduated
roads, in potholes and mud and slush. That from high school. She refused to sign the
car is a winner!" final adoption papers. She only relented a
We had reached my car and he stood by few months later when my parents promised
my side as I heaved myself in. "Don't look that I would go to college. This was the start
for ideal playing conditions," I said. "Fight in my life.
the unfair and come out a winner!" I looked And 17 years later I did go to college. But I
back in my rear view mirror as I drove away naively chose a college that was almost as
and saw him smile and wave and knew he expensive as Stanford, and all of my
would fight the unfair from now on. working-class parents' savings were being
The fight never stops. Ask all the successful spent on my college tuition. After six
people in our own country. They fight months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had
regardless whether the battle is fair or no idea what I wanted to do with my life and
unfair. Stop telling the world about the no idea how college was going to help me
unfair deal you've got out of life; start figure it out. And here I was spending all of
battling the unfair, come out victorious..! the money my parents had saved their
entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust
Steve Jobs' Convocation Speech that it would all work out okay. It was pretty
scary at the time, but looking back it was
(Stanford) one of the best decisions I ever made. The
Delivered 12 June 2005, Stanford University, Palo
Alto, CA minute I dropped out I could stop taking the
Thank you. required classes that didn't interest me, and
I'm honored to be with you today for your begin dropping in on the ones that looked
commencement from one of the finest far more interesting. It wasn't all romantic. I
universities in the world. Truth be told, I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the
never graduated from college, and this is floor in friends' rooms. I returned coke
the closest I've ever gotten to a college bottles for the five cent deposits to buy food
graduation. Today, I want to tell you three with, and I would walk the seven miles
stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. across town every Sunday night to get one
Just three stories. good meal a week at the Hare Krishna
The first story is about connecting the dots. I temple. I loved it. And much of what I
dropped out of Reed College after the first stumbled into by following my curiosity and
six months, but then stayed around as a intuition turned out to be priceless later on.
drop-in for another 18 months or so before I Let me give you one example:
really quit. So why did I drop out? Reed College at that time offered perhaps
the best calligraphy instruction in the
country. Throughout the campus every had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How
poster, every label on every drawer, was can you get fired from a company you
beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had started? Well, as Apple grew we hired
dropped out and didn't have to take the someone who I thought was very talented to
normal classes, I decided to take a run the company with me, and for the first
calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I year or so things went well. But then our
learned about serif and san serif typefaces, visions of the future began to diverge and
about varying the amount of space between eventually we had a falling out. When we
different letter combinations, about what did, our Board of Directors sided with him.
makes great typography great. It was And so at 30, I was out. And very publicly
beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a out. What had been the focus of my entire
way that science can't capture, and I found adult life was gone, and it was devastating.
it fascinating. None of this had even a hope I really didn't know what to do for a few
of any practical application in my life. But months. I felt that I had let the previous
ten years later, when we were designing the generation of entrepreneurs down --that I
first Macintosh computer, it all came back to had dropped the baton as it was being
me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It passed to me. I met with David Packard and
was the first computer with beautiful Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for
typography. If I had never dropped in on screwing up so badly. I was a very public
that single course in college, the "Mac" failure, and I even thought about running
would have never had multiple typefaces or away from the valley. But something slowly
proportionally spaced fonts. And since began to dawn on me: I still loved what I
Windows just copied the Mac, it's likely that did. The turn of events at Apple had not
no personal computer would have them. changed that one bit. I had been rejected,
If I had never dropped out, I would have but I was still in love. And so I decided to
never dropped in on that calligraphy class, start over. I didn't see it then, but it turned
and personal computers might not have the out that getting fired from Apple was the
wonderful typography that they do. Of best thing that could have ever happened to
course it was impossible to connect the dots me. The heaviness of being successful was
looking forward when I was in college. But it replaced by the lightness of being a
was very, very clear looking backwards 10 beginner again, less sure about everything.
years later. Again, you can't connect the It freed me to enter one of the most creative
dots looking forward; you can only connect periods of my life.
them looking backwards. So you have to During the next five years, I started a
trust that the dots will somehow connect in company named NeXT; another company
your future. You have to trust in something named Pixar, and fell in love with an
your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever amazing woman who would become my
because believing that the dots will connect wife. Pixar went on to create the world's first
down the road will give you the confidence computer animated feature film, Toy Story,
to follow your heart, even when it leads you and is now the most successful animation
off the well worn path, and that will make all studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of
the difference. events, Apple bought NeXT, and I retuned
My second story is about love and loss. to Apple, and the technology we developed
I was lucky I found what I loved to do early at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current
in life. Woz and I started Apple in my renaissance. And Laurene and I have a
parents' garage when I was 20. We worked wonderful family together.
hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from I'm pretty sure none of this would have
just the two of us in a garage into a two happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple.
billion dollar company with over 4000 It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess
employees. We'd just released our finest the patient needed it. Sometimes life's going
creation the Macintosh a year earlier, and I to hit you in the head with a brick. Don't lose
faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that means to make sure everything is buttoned
kept me going was that I loved what I did. up so that it will be as easy as possible for
You've got to find what you love. And that is your family. It means to say your goodbyes.
as true for work as it is for your lovers. Your I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that
work is going to fill a large part of your life, evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an
and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do endoscope down my throat, through my
what you believe is great work. And the only stomach into my intestines, put a needle
way to do great work is to love what you do. into my pancreas and got a few cells from
If you haven't found it yet, keep looking and the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who
--don't settle. As with all matters of the was there, told me that when they viewed
heart, you'll know when you find it. And like the cells under a microscope the doctors
any great relationship, it just gets better and started crying because it turned out to be a
better as the years roll on. So keep looking very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is
don't settle. curable with surgery. I had the surgery and,
My third story is about death. thankfully, I'm fine now.
When I was 17, I read a quote that went This was the closest I've been to facing
something like: "If you live each day as if it death, and I hope it's the closest I get for a
was your last, someday you'll most certainly few more decades. Having lived through it, I
be right." It made an impression on me, and can now say this to you with a bit more
since then, for the past 33 years, I've looked certainty than when death was a useful but
in the mirror every morning and asked purely intellectual concept: No one wants to
myself: "If today were the last day of my life, die. Even people who want to go to heaven
would I want to do what I am about to do don't want to die to get there. And yet death
today?" And whenever the answer has been is the destination we all share. No one has
"No" for too many days in a row, I know I ever escaped it. And that is as it should be,
need to change something. Remembering because Death is very likely the single best
that I'll be dead soon is the most important invention of Life. It's Life's change agent.
tool I've ever encountered to help me make It clears out the old to make way for the
the big choices in life. Because almost new. Right now the new is you, but
everything all external expectations, all someday not too long from now, you will
pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure gradually become the old and be cleared
these things just fall away in the face of away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it's quite
death, leaving only what is truly important. true.
Remembering that you are going to die is Your time is limited, so don't waste it living
the best way I know to avoid the trap of someone else's life. Don't be trapped by
thinking you have something to lose. You dogma which is living with the results of
are already naked. There is no reason not other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of
to follow your heart. others' opinions drown out your own inner
About a year ago I was diagnosed with voice.
cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, And most important, have the courage to
and it clearly showed a tumor on my follow your heart and intuition. They
pancreas. I didn't even know what a somehow already know what you truly want
pancreas was. The doctors told me this was to become. Everything else is secondary.
almost certainly a type of cancer that is When I was young, there was an amazing
incurable, and that I should expect to live no publication called The Whole Earth
longer than three to six months. My doctor Catalogue, which was one of the "bibles" of
advised me to go home and get my affairs my generation. It was created by a fellow
in order, which is doctor's code for "prepare named Stewart Brand not far from here in
to die." It means to try and tell your kids Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his
everything you thought you'd have the next poetic touch. This was in the late 60s,
10 years to tell them in just a few months. It before personal computers and desktop
publishing, so it was all made with Anthony Robbins
typewriters, scissors, and Polaroid cameras.
It was sort of like Google in paperback form, The secret of getting ahead is getting
35 years before Google came along. It was started
idealistic, overflowing with neat tools and Mark Twain
great notions.
Stewart and his team put out several issues For true success ask yourself these four
of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when questions: Why? Why not? Why not me?
it had run its course, they put out a final Why not now?
issue. It was the mid1970s, and I was your James Allen
age. On the back cover of their final issue
was a photograph of an early morning Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be
country road, the kind you might find happy now. Don't wait for something outside
yourself hitchhiking on if you were so of yourself to make you happy in the future.
adventurous. Beneath it were the words: Think how really precious is the time you
"Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their have to spend, whether it's at work or with
farewell message as they signed off. Stay your family. Every minute should be enjoyed
Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I've always and savoured.
wished that for myself. And now, as you Earl Nightingale
graduate to begin a new, I wish that for you.
Stay Hungry. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence,
Stay Foolish. then, is not an act, but a habit.
Thank you all very much. Aristotle

Impossible is a word to be found only in the

dictionary of fools.
Some nugget of Wisdom Napoleon Bonaparte

Twenty years from now you will be more

disappointed by the things that you didn't do
The greater danger for most of us is not that
than by the ones you did do. So throw off
our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it
the bowlines. Sail away from the safe
is too low and we reach it
harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Michelangelo
Explore. Dream. Discover.
Mark Twain
The world has the habit of making room for
the man whose words and actions show
You can have anything you want, if you
that he knows where he is going
want it badly enough. You can be anything
Napoleon Hill
you want to be, do anything you set out to
accomplish if you hold to that desire with
Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let
singleness of purpose.
others argue over small things, but not you.
Abraham Lincoln
Let others cry over small hurts, but not you.
Let others leave their future in someone
Remember, happiness doesn't depend
else's hands, but not you.
upon who you are or what you have, it
Jim Rohn
depends solely upon what you think.
Dale Carnegie
I challenge you to make your life a
masterpiece. I challenge you to join the
You must be the change you wish to see in
ranks of those people who live what they
the world.
teach, who walk their talk.
Mahatma Gandhi
 they will be able to do what they wish, plan,
and expect.
Self esteem
Having self-confidence does not mean that
A well-known speaker started off his individuals will be able to do everything.
Self-confident people have expectations
seminar by holding up a Rs. 1,000
that are realistic. Even when some of their
currency in the room of 200, he asked: expectations are not met, they continue to
"Who would like this Rs.1,000 be positive and to accept themselves.
currency?" Hands started going up.
He said:  "I am going to give this People who are not self-confident depend
Rs.1,000 currency to one of you but excessively on the approval of others in
first, let me do this." He proceeded to order to feel good about them. They tend to
crumple the currency up. He then avoid taking risks because they fear failure.
They generally do not expect to be
asked: "Who still wants it?"  Still the successful. They often put themselves down
hands were up in the air. and tend to discount or ignore compliments
"Well," he replied, "what if I do this?" paid to them. By contrast, self-confident
And he dropped it on the ground and people are willing to risk the disapproval of
started to grind it into the floor with his others because they generally trust their
shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled own abilities. They tend to accept
themselves; they don't feel they have to
and dirty.” Now who still wants it?" Still
conform in order to be accepted.
the hands went into the air. "My friends,
you have all learned a very valuable Self-confidence is not necessarily a general
lesson. No matter what I did to the characteristic which pervades all aspects of
money, you still wanted it because it did a person's life. Typically, individuals will
not decrease in value. It was still worth have some areas of their lives where they
Rs. 1,000 currency. Many times in our feel quite confident, e.g. academics,
lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and athletics, while at the same time they do not
feel at all confident in other areas, e.g.,
grounded into the dirt by the decisions
personal appearance, social relationships.
we make and the circumstances that
come our way. We feel as though we How is Self-Confidence Initially
are worthless. But no matter what has Developed?
happened or what will happen, you   will
never lose your value. To those who Many factors affect the development of self-
love you, you are priceless. The worth of confidence. Parents' attitudes are crucial to
our lives comes not in what we do or children's feelings about themselves,
particularly in children's early years. When
who we know but by who we are!
parents provide acceptance, children
receive a solid foundation for good feelings
Self Confidence about themselves. If one or both parents are
excessively critical or demanding, or if they
Self-confidence is an attitude which allows are overprotective and discourage moves
individuals to have positive yet realistic toward independence, children may come to
views of themselves and their situations. believe they are incapable, inadequate, or
Self-confident people trust their own inferior. However, if parents encourage
abilities, have a general sense of control in children's moves toward self-reliance and
their lives, and believe that, within reason, accept and love their children when they
make mistakes, children will learn to accept  ALTERNATIVE: While it is true that
themselves and will be on their way to your confidence was especially
developing self-confidence. Surprisingly, vulnerable to external influences
lack of self-confidence is not necessarily during your childhood, as you grow
related to lack of ability. Instead it is often older you can gain awareness and
the result of focusing too much on the perspective on what those
unrealistic expectations or standards of influences have been. In doing so,
others, especially parents and society. you can choose which influences
Friends' influences can be as powerful as or you will continue to allow to have an
more powerful than those of parents and effect on your life. You don't have to
society in shaping feelings about one's self. be helpless in the face of past
Students in their college years re-examine events.
values and develop their own identities and
thus are particularly vulnerable to the Self-Defeating Thought Patterns
influence of friends.
Subscribing to these harmful assumptions
Assumptions that Continue to Influence leaves you vulnerable to the following self-
Self-Confidence defeating thought patterns:

In response to external influences, people  All or Nothing Thinking. I am a

develop assumptions; some of these are total failure when my performance is
constructive and some are harmful. Several not perfect."
assumptions that can interfere with self-  Seeing Only Dark Clouds. Disaster
confidence and alternative ways of thinking lurks around every corner and
are: comes to be expected. For example,
a single negative detail, piece of
 ASSUMPTION: I must always have criticism, or passing comment
love or approval from every darkens all reality. I got a C on one
significant person in my life." chem test, now I'll never get into
 ALTERNATIVE: This is a medical school."
perfectionist, unattainable goal. It is  Magnification of
more realistic and desirable to Negative/Minimization of Positive.
develop personal standards and Good things don't count nearly as
values that are not completely much as bad ones. I know I won five
dependent on the approval of others. chess games in a row, but losing this
 ASSUMPTION: I must be thoroughly one makes me feel terrible about
competent, adequate, and achieving myself."
in all important areas of my life."  Uncritical Acceptance of
 ALTERNATIVE: This again is a Emotions as Truth. I feel ugly so it
perfectionist, unattainable goal and must be true."
suggests that personal worth is  Overemphasis On & “Should"
determined by achievement. Statements. “Should" statements
Achievement can be satisfying but are often perfectionist and reflective
does not make you more worthy. of others' expectations rather than
Instead, worth is an inherent quality expressive of your own wants and
and all people possess it. desires. Everyone should have a
 ASSUMPTION: My past remains all career plan when they come to
important and controls my feelings college. I don't so there must be
and behaviors in the present." something wrong with me."
  Labeling. Labeling is a simplistic work, etc. will give you a stronger
process and often conveys a sense sense of self and will prevent you
of blame. I am a loser and it's my from giving your personal power
fault." away to others.
 Difficulty Accepting Compliments.
You like this outfit? I think it makes Why is Self-Confidence Important?
me look fat." Self-confidence is arguably one of the most
important things you can have. Self-
The following strategies may help overcome
confidence reflects your assessment of your
such self-defeating thought patterns.
own self-worth. It will play a large part in
determining your happiness through life.
Strategies for Developing Confidence

 Emphasize Strengths. Give Sport can be both enormously effective in

improving self-worth, and highly destructive
yourself credit for everything you try.
By focusing on what you can do, you in damaging it. Where sport is used
creatively, with emphasis on enjoyment,
applaud yourself for efforts rather
than emphasizing end products. effective goal setting and monitoring of
achievement of goals, it can build self-
Starting from a base of what you
should do helps you live within the confidence as targets are reached and
improvement in performance is noted.
bounds of your inevitable limitations.
 Take Risks. Approach new
experiences as opportunities to learn Where children are compelled to participate
rather than occasions to win or lose. in a sport for which they have no aptitude,
Doing so opens you up to new this can be immensely destructive to self-
possibilities and can increase your confidence as failure and lack of self-worth
sense of self-acceptance. Not doing are consistently reinforced. Coaches should
so turns every possibility into an ask themselves whether they are prepared
opportunity for failure, and inhibits to take moral responsibility for inflicting this
personal growth. damage, even if numbers are needed to
 Use Self-Talk. Use self-talks as an make up a team.
opportunity to counter harmful
assumptions. Then, tell yourself to Self-confidence allows you to take risks, as
“stop" and substitute more you have enough confidence in your own
reasonable assumptions. For abilities to be sure that if things do go
example, when you catch yourself wrong, you can put things right.
expecting perfection, remind yourself
that you can't do everything Levels of Confidence
perfectly, that it's only possible to try
to do things and to try to do them The way in which you are self-confident is
well. This allows you to accept important: if you are under confident, then
yourself while still striving to you will not take risks that need to be taken.
improve. If you are over-confident, then you can end
 Self-Evaluate. Learn to evaluate up not trying hard enough and losing.
yourself independently. Doing so
allows you to avoid the constant Confidence should be based on observed
sense of turmoil that comes from reality. It should be based on the
relying exclusively on the opinions of achievement of performance goals: you
others. Focusing internally on how should be confident that you will perform up
you feel about your own behavior, to your current abilities. Good self-
confidence comes from a realistic Importantly, by knowing what you are able
expectation of success based on well to achieve, you are not setting yourself up
practiced physical skills, a good knowledge for surprise failure - you almost always have
of the sport, respect for your own a reasonably accurate assessment of what
competence, adequate preparation, and your abilities really are, which is unclouded
good physical condition. The success by ego or vanity.
attained should be measured in terms of
achievement of personal performance 7 Suggestions for Building Positive
goals, not achievement goals such as Attitudes
winning.
 In every class, look for positive
Where you are under confident, you will people to associate with.
commonly suffer from fear of failure (which  In every lecture, look for one more
will prevent you from taking risks interesting idea.
effectively), self-doubt, lack of  In every chapter, find one more
concentration, and negative thinking. Often concept important to you.
you may find yourself blaming yourself for  With every friend, explain a new idea
faults that lie elsewhere. These will damage you've just learned.
your flow and disrupt your enjoyment of  With every teacher, ask a question.
sport. Here you should use suggestion,  With yourself, keep a list of your
visualization, and effective goal-setting to goals, positive thoughts and actions.
improve your self-confidence and self-  Remember, you are what you think,
image. you feel what you want.
Overconfidence is dangerous - it can lead Resolutions to be made:
you into situations which you do not have
the ability to get out of. It can set you up for
serious failure that can devastate the self-  Develop Positive Thinking
confidence you should have.  Create Powerful Affirmations
Overconfidence is confidence that is not  Eliminate Stress
based on ability: it may be a result of  Take Control Of Your Life
misleading or pushy parents or coaches  Create Fulfilling Relationships
trying to help you without understanding  Improve Your Finances
your abilities, may be caused by vanity or  Eliminate Fear
ego, or may be caused by positive thinking  Boost Your Creativity
or imagery which is not backed up by ability.  Increase Self Confidence
 Stop Worrying
 Eliminate Negative Thinking
How Goal Setting Helps Self-Confidence
 Enjoy Inner Peace
 Enjoy Better Health
Goal setting is probably the most effective  Eliminate Negative Feelings
way of building self-confidence. By setting
 Take Charge of Your Life
measurable goals, achieving them, setting  Get a Better Job
new goals, achieving them, and so on you
 Secure a Promotion
prove your ability to yourself. You are able  Create and alter situations to what
to prove to yourself that you are able to
you want.
perform and achieve effectively. You can
see and recognize and enjoy your
A few Slides pertaining to your Career
achievement, and feel real self-worth in that
achievement.
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The Genesis of CIIM The Genesis of CIIM

 To impart an W a tch you r th ou gh ts ;

ideal  To generate the th ey becom e wor d s.
portfolio of Manager Employable W a tch you r wor d s;
Business workforce. India’s th ey becom e a ction s.
biggest problem is not W a tch you r a ction s;
Knowledge, unemployment; it is th ey becom e h a b its.
Skills and Knowledge Attitude UNEMPLOYABILITY. W a tch you r h a bit s;
Attitude Skills We empower our th ey becom e ch a r a ct er .
Students to Command W a tch you r ch a r a cter ;
(KSA it becom es you r
Profile). the Job.
d estin y.

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P GD M Commitment @ CIIM
The Genesis of CIIM

 To foster education If yo u h a ve th e a m b itio n , w e ha ve th e m e a n s…

through Practical
learning & Exposure CIIM is a blend of:
to become an Creation
Intellectual person Perfection
rather than becoming Innovation
a mere educated or
We are COMMITED to equip our budding Managers with:

literate one. 1) Wisdom of Krishna

2) Strategy of Chanakya
3) Cleverness of Beerbal
4) Dedication of Arjuna

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Why PGDM @ Management Community
P GD M
The Genesis of CIIM

 We strongly believe
that Theory is Attributes which differentiate a PGDM scholar from an M.B.A.
nothing without
practice; and ideas  Attitude towards challenges
cannot come alive
 Working under pressure
without action.
 We are committed  Target oriented approach
to inculcate
Applied Knowledge  Decision making ability

& Skills
 Strategy formulation

 Group Behavior

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