You will get what you want, when you stop making excuses on why you don’t have

it.”

How do you wake up in the morning?

Do you jump out of bed and look forward to starting the day?

Do you wake up in the morning and you did not want to get out of bed, hear the alarm clock

ring and you press the snooze button over and over again until you are forced to get up

and go to the bathroom?

Or wake up even more tired?

With the busy life style that we lead today, most of the time human beings are operating

on autopilot, seldom do we stop and ask ourselves essential questions.

In addition we are being constantly bombarded with information ( breaking news,

whatsapp messages, tweets, emails…) and we are reacting to the situations, that our lives

are being controlled by external environment that we have forgotten simple concepts of

life.

What do you think about when you wake up?

Do you think about all the things you need to do, the list is endless and you feel

overwhelmed before you get out of bed.

Or

You wake up in the morning, thinking about all the challenges that you are facing in your

life, think about all the critics that people have given you, even the areas where you

have not succeeded. Then you feel discouraged and de-motivated.

Or

Think about what is missing in our lives not enough money, no big title ( Director, CEO)

after your name or you do not have a flashy car and so on.

When faced with a problem what do you do?

Spend time discussing and analyzing the problem in great depth and then defining it in unsolvable
terms?
Or do you find out who is to blame?
 
Our thoughts
Human beings think between 50,000- 70,000 thoughts a day ( mental chatter, images or movies playing in our
head) 95% of these thoughts are repetitive of previous days and 80% of the habitual thoughts are
negative.
In order to achieve success we need to learn how to focus these thoughts on what we want.

Don’t limit your challenges, challenge your limits.

The moral of the story is we need to consistently focus on what we want and we need to realize that :
 What thoughts we focus on we FEEL, therefore our thoughts have a direct effect on our emotions
 What we focus on and feel we attract in our lives. Our destiny is consistently shaped by our
thoughts.
Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.

How to control the FOCUS of your thoughts

When faced with a challenge or a problem spend 5% of your time discussing the problem, 95% of your time finding
innovative and creative solutions. Remember “The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude
to the problem”

Ensure that you do the following on a daily basis:

Learn something new on a daily basis. Learning does not end when you obtain your degree or leave
university. The journey of life is a learning process, successful people converted their failures into
stepping stones by learning from it and moving on. When you try something and it does not work out,
do not despair, all you have to do is find a better way to do it.
Enjoy – Ensure that on a daily basis that you are able to enjoy and have fun. You have the ability to
create memorable moments on a daily basis.
Remember: “life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but how many moments that take
our breath away”
Appreciate – As soon as we develop a sense of appreciation (gratitude), we are shifting our focus of
thoughts on what we have and what we have been able to achieve.
Reflect on your life. “An unexamined life is not worth living” Socrates. Reflection allows for self
assessment, checking that you are on the right track. Reflection gives you time to monitor your thoughts
and actions, to check whether they are in alignment with your purpose in life.

Negative thoughts have a way of coming when you least expect it to. People spend too much time
thinking about what happen to them in the past or the possibility of negative things happening to them
in the future.
To get rid of these negative thoughts ask yourself one QUESTION “ If this was my LAST day alive, what
would I Love to do..” then go and do it.
Do not postpone living.
 
10 Things You Need to Understand About Self Motivation
Often, many of us find ourselves in motivational slumps that we need to escape. Sometimes it resembles
a continuous cycle where we are motivated for a while, fall out and afterward need to build things back
once more. This vicious cycle can be harmful to a person’s life, work, and relationships too.
Self-motivation can be lost due to a wide variety of reasons and factors. This could be dissatisfaction at
work or a horrible boss, difficulty in personal and professional relationships, financial constraints, or
health issues. 
Demotivation has also become very common in youngsters too. It results from studies, inability to cope
with pressure, exam stress, education loans or fear of unemployment. Motivation is gained or lost due
to deeply personal issues.
There is nothing more imperative for self-motivation than the correct attitude. You can’t pick or control
your situation, yet you can pick your attitude towards your circumstances. 
Famous American inspirational orator and author, Dr. Stephen R. Brood once commented: “Inspiration
is a fire from within. If another person attempts to light that fire under you, odds are it will burn
quickly.”
How Would You Characterize Motivation? 
There are two distinct kinds of motivation: 

 Intrinsic Motivation which originates from within ourselves. 

 Extrinsic Motivation that is derived from an outside source, for example, a companion, partners,
seniors at the workplace, religious or spiritual leaders, spouse, kids, or any other source.
Basically, motivation can be depicted as a reason or cause by which an individual or a group of
individuals behave in a specific way. The reason or cause must be very strong, and it often involves
personal interests. 
Here are a few things you need to understand to develop your Self-Motivation Plan:
1. Setting a Goal
Defining an objective for yourself is a tried and tested technique to stay motivated. In any case, it is
necessary to set practical and attainable goals. Set yourself a deadline by which you expect to
accomplish these objectives. 
There are three kinds of goals: 
 Short-term goals: These might be accomplished in 15 days or a few months. 
 Mid-term goals: These typically take a year or two to accomplish.
 Long-term objectives: Here you can include your career, plans for marriage, purchasing a home
or anything that takes a longer period of time. 
 “All successful people have a goal. No one can get anywhere unless he knows
where he wants to go and what he wants to be or do. ”
2. Money Matters 
In any case, money does make a difference in staying motivated. While we are not talking about a very
large sum of money, you should have adequate funds to lead a decent life. This is an excellent
motivator. You can begin by saving a substantial part of your pay daily or monthly. 
3. Get Rid of Any Loans
Without a doubt, people burdened with loans show a propensity to lose motivation. The explanation is
straightforward: A substantial part of your profit will go towards clearing any debt or loans you have.
Avoid taking credit, except under specific circumstances.
4. Mingle with Constructive Individuals 
Mostly, people with a positive attitude and disposition are the best motivators. Despite your
circumstances, they will consistently attempt to elevate your perspective. Such positive-minded
individuals will inspire you regardless of whether you are feeling low and depressed. Further, if you
experience negative thoughts, talk with such individuals to get a different perspective.
5. Value Yourself First 
Whenever you lose inspiration, think about all the positive stuff you have done before and think about
the good things you have had. Similarly, recollect all the unpleasant occasions you have experienced and
how you cruised through them safely. Valuing yourself for your accomplishments is an incredible
motivator.
6. Use Mistakes as Experiences 
This implies gaining from your past mistakes, on the grounds that as people we are inclined to missteps
because of innate imperfections or flaws in our character. Keep in mind, mistakes don’t last, and they
are essential lessons for us. The vast majority of people will lose motivation when things go astray and
favorable outcomes are not inevitable. 
7. Inspect Your Motive 
The path to motivation lies in our thought process itself. If your motives are good, motivation follows
automatically. Still, be careful because the wrong motive can prompt a lack of motivation which can land
even the most steady and calm individual into a major dilemma. When your motives are certain and
clear, motivation comes naturally. 
8. Avoid Getting Stressed 
Stress can be separated into two distinct classes: 

 Negative stress: This emerges out of negative actions, interacting with irritating individuals and
lethargy, or continuous exposure to difficult circumstances and depression. 
 Positive stress: Accrues by resolving business-related or domestic issues. Positive stress
usually leaves you fulfilled and happy once the issue has been settled or after a difficult day’s
worth of effort. 
Worry in everyday life is impending. Remaining motivated causes you to stay driven. 

9. Decide to be Happy 
Currently, this may seem like a difficult task for anybody experiencing unfavorable circumstances. However, it is
beneficial to take note of each terrible circumstance that consistently passes. 
Know that each unfortunate circumstance will in the end disappear. Losing motivation won’t help take care of any
issue and neither will be stressing over something. You can maintain your motivation with the sheer idea that each
issue is short. 
“The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have. ”
10. Chart Your Path
Sadly, most people begin a journey or endeavor without much regard for the final result. Instead, you
can chart your own path. Take stock about how you want to start and why. This in itself is a big
motivational factor. Simultaneously, keep in mind what is the precise goal or the end where your
journey should come to a full circle. Be fearless in the pursuit of your dreams and goals.
Conclusion
It is worth remembering that at some point or the other, we all lose motivation in our lives. It is perfectly
normal and nothing to be ashamed or worried about. However, when one is feeling low or demotivated,
one should try to analyze the causes of losing motivation, understanding its reasons, and finding ways to
counter it.

How do you motivate yourself to push forward?

Here are six life lessons from the king of the jungle:

1. Your goal is the only way to survive

Set a life goal and work hard to achieve it; consider that there are no alternatives. As lions are born to
hunt and rule; acknowledge that you are born to accomplish your life goal. Consider your purpose and
work as a source of motivation. They will keep you going through good and bad times because fame is
temporary, but work pleasure and sense of achievement are permanent.
2. Fail and evolve
Lions fail eight out of ten times in hunting, but this makes them fine-tune their skills; thus, they can
catch bigger prey to feed their family. Likewise, we should also embrace our failures and evolve each
time we face them. We must study and analyze our failures and make sure to not repeat them. As Jack
Ma has rightly said, “If the guy only checks himself, yeah, something wrong with me here, something
wrong with me there. Then, this guy has hope.” Also, we must follow this law of nature: ‘Evolve and
survive’ to achieve success in life.
“Everyone wants to eat, but few are willing to hunt.”
3. Focus is the key
When lions go on a hunt, they make less noise and focus on the prey. They always have an element of
surprise and keep everything low to make their raid successful. Now imagine, if a lion makes noise, will
they be able to hunt? The answer is no! So, what do we learn? Too much talking makes us lose focus.
Don’t tell everyone about your goals and what you are doing, keep it low and completely focus on
your aim.
4. Always trust each other
A pride of lions always back each other in good and bad times. Rather in tough phases as an individual
they contribute more to the survival of the pride. We should also learn that strength is in the pack. It’s
necessary to not break each other’s trust for a short-term gain. Also, we must support each other in
overcoming tough problems and situations.
5. Survival is everything
Lions don’t harm anyone without any reason. But, when someone tries to mar their territory, life, and
family, they leave no stone unturned in giving a tough fight. Likewise, we should concentrate on our
own betterment. However, if someone is trying to ruin our career or life, then instead of getting
disappointed we should fight back and overcome such smotherers.
The world is a jungle. You either fight and dominate or hide and evaporate.”
6. Have fun in life
Lions go through a harsh life filled with everyday challenges. But they don’t let them ruin their daily
moments. They always enjoy every minute with their pride members. They play with each other and
take care of everyone. You should also make sure to relish each moment of your life. Leave your stress
and worries in your workplace, and when you are at home, relish the time with your family.
Lions teach us to dominate problems in life and live like a true winner. As someone has rightly said, “If
size really mattered, the elephant would be king of the jungle.” Similarly, every animal’s life is full of
struggle, and we can learn a lot from them to become successful and prosperous in our own lives. So
next time you watch a documentary on lions, try to learn from them.
5 Multi-Tasking Tips for the on the Go Mogul
1. The Magic of the Meal Meeting
2. Harnessing the Power of Your Smart Phone and Its Email Capabilities
3. Rethink Your Commute
4. Put the “Work” in Workout
5. Master the Art of Delegation
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5 of the Worst Pieces of Advice and How to Understand Them Better

1. Follow your passion
2. Never give up (Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the ax)
3. Good things only come to those that wait
4. You are perfect just the way you are (When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and
willingness to change)
5. You can do anything that you put your mind to

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There are four mental skills you need to master to be and feel your best at any given time.
This is based on scientific study and even taught in Navy SEAL training camp.
Think of your mind as a software and your body as the hardware. 

You're using the software to bend the hardware. It's as simple as that.

Big Four” mental skills taught to Navy SEALs:

Mental Skill #1: Goal setting

This is your ability to set a clear target. 

Mental Skill #2: Mental Rehearsal

How often do you imagine success in doing something you may be anxious about? Take a moment now,
and give this a try. 

Envision what it will be like when you do that thing successfully and easily. Notice how your body feels
and what you hear and smell. Do this over and over again, and you will provide your brain with the extra
experience of success.

Mental Skill #3: Self-Talk Control

We are constantly talking to ourselves, at a rate that is many times the speed of normal speech. So when
you notice something negative, say “Stop!” or “Cancel!” and then create your own “cheering section” to be
your encouraging chorus. Have them (or your voice, whatever works) say, “You can do it”, “This is easy!”
or “Forget that glitch—focus on the next one!”

Mental Skill #4: Arousal Control

This skill is used to calm the physical symptoms of a panic response. You know, the sinking feeling in the
pit of your stomach, and sudden cold sweats or hot spells.
You control this response with deliberate breathing.

Practice the four mental skills to take control over your life and results.

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Tessa, a tech support specialist from Melbourne in her late twenties, has an active social life.

She often goes to sci-fi conventions, regularly holds video game marathons at her place and
meets a lot of people who share the same interests - including guys.

As it was, Tessa had been single for some time and was hoping to find a partner who could
complement her personality. And even though she had a lot in common with the guys in her
social circles, she couldn't quite hit it off romantically with any of them.

So it was a complete surprise when Ben came along and swept Tessa off her feet.

"He's super active in the local sports scene and is very athletic, so he wasn't my type at all...or
so I thought," Tessa shared with a girlish smile.

They met by chance at a charity auction set up by mutual friends, and they clicked the moment
they met.
"I couldn't put my finger on it at first, but I knew right away he was different, and in a good way,"
she gushed.

"He wasn't like any other guy I've met, and I don't think it had anything to do with our interests.
Ben has this energy and warmth about him that I absolutely LOVE."

How to spot The One

Their worlds were pretty far removed from each other, but that didn't stop Tessa from falling
hard for Ben.

It's surprising how couples who seem like polar opposites at first turn out to be a perfect fit.

And most of the time, it can be a tricky business to figure out if a certain guy is a good match for
you.

Considering his unique personality and quirks - along with the whole deal about mixed signals -
it's hard to sift through all of that and see the signs he's MEANT for you.

So how can you tell he's your Mr. Right...or if you should keep looking?

Read on to find out...

Click here to discover the sure-fire way to make him stay...

Sign #1: He's got your back

One thing I've noticed in a lot of couples who've been together for years is how supportive they
are of each other.

It's always a good sign when a guy endlessly encourages his partner to pursue her interests
and passions - no matter how "out there" they might seem.

If you see that your guy is always trying to push you forward in a HEALTHY direction -
especially when you doubt yourself - that's a clear indication he's a good match for you.

When looking for a partner, it's important to find someone who wants to see you GROW and
evolve. A guy who acts as a positive force in your life is worth keeping around.

Sign #2: He's part of your world

Like Tessa learned, hitting it off doesn't have much to do with how similar your personalities or
interests are.

Sure, having stuff in common makes it easier to break the ice, but in the long run it's not going
to keep the relationship going.

The more important factor is how willing he is to be part of your life anyway.

Tessa recalled fondly: "Ben didn't know the first thing about Star Wars, or sci-fi movies in
general, but he went with me to the midnight screening of The Force Awakens with my geek
friends...and we even wore matching Jedi outfits! I didn't ask Ben to do that, but he suggested
the idea and I loved him for that..." If he's into you, he'll care about the things you do. He'll
spend his time on them because he knows those things make you, YOU.

And that's exactly what he wants to be part of - your fun and happening life.

Sign #3: You share a special bond

You know how some couples almost seem to know what the other is thinking without saying a
word?

It's amazing - and a little eerie - to see them connect at this level that no one else can.

It's not ESP or some other supernatural phenomenon - some people are empathic this way and
have a kind of radar for it.

Your guy doesn't have to be psychic or have a sixth sense, nor should you expect him to be.

But if he has the awareness to at least ask you if you're ok, then that's the sign of a concerned -
and CONNECTED - partner.

This is the kind of man who can sense that's there's something amiss in your inner world and
respond to it.

When he picks up on your signals, he won't just ask if you're doing alright...

...he'll also want to help you get out of your funk, get the proverbial fly out of your soup...

...and basically do anything to make you right as rain again.

And the fact that he cares about what you're feeling or thinking speaks volumes of the kind of
guy he is.

Sign #4: He's making the EFFORT

If a guy's important to you, he'll always be working overtime to make sure you're happy.

Men are big on making their partner feel provided for and protected, so he's going to do this in
every way he can.
If he's not making plans with you and create amazing, shared experiences together...

...he'll try to help you with something that's bugging you, like your fixing your smartphone or
running some errand you hate.

A guy worth keeping is one who'll do anything to take the load off your mind and make your life
easier.

Another thing you might notice is how a guy will do things with you on a regular basis.

He'll take you out for morning coffee, walk your dog with you every Saturday or schedule a
monthly expedition at his favorite camping spot.

If he does this, take note, because a man doesn't change his schedule that easily.

Only a guy who's in "single" mode will insist on keeping his appointments as they are.

A guy IN LOVE, on the other hand, will suddenly have all the reasons in the world to make his
schedule more flexible than a contortionist at the circus.

More than that, he wants to create a shared life with you.

So it's not just what he does - it's also the amount of time he gives up and trouble he goes
through in the name of your happiness.

This is one of the most precious gifts he could give anyone.

Click here to discover the sure-fire way to make him stay...

Sign #5: He makes everything AWESOME

Even the most boring, everyday things become amazing when you're with him.

Maybe you need to run to the store to get pasta noodles or pick up a package at the post office -
but you wouldn't miss it for the world if he offers to go with you.

You're so attracted to each other that everything else seems to fade into the background when
you're together.

He wants to know every little you were up to today, and likewise for you.

That's what being soulmates is all about - he turns the mundane into the magical by simply
being there.
And when you're having the worst of days, you STILL want him around because you know he's
such a positive presence in your life.

He's there to hear you rant about the crazy drama you had with a co-worker, or some other
struggle you're going through.

Whatever it is, he's all ears and isn't itching to jump in with a solution to your problems.

He'll sit back, listen quietly and only speak after you're done talking.

He'll only offer his opinion when you ask for it and always make you feel like he's hearing you
out.

All of these add up to the unmistakable fact that you've found The One.

Finding this kind of connection with a man is RARE, so you should pay attention when he's
showing you the right signs.

More importantly, you need to make sure that spark keeps burning bright and strong with your
Mr. Right.

I've seen a lot of couples who were perfect for each other, but drift apart for one reason or
another.

Maybe he's not as affectionate as he was before...

...or the passion has faded...

...or he's simply going through the motions.

Worse, it might even seem that he's pulling away.

If you have a terrible feeling in the pit if your stomach that you can't ignore any longer, then it's
time to know the REAL reasons Why Men Pull Away

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10 Mindful Habits to Build the Power of Focus (with action items)

1. 1.Think About What You Want – VIVIDLY.
2. Be Grateful in Advance.
3. Learn to Be Ruthless With Your Time.
4. Create "Layers" of Focus.
5. Pay Attention to HOW You’re Eating.
6. Devise a Bedtime Routine.
7. Make a Game of Clearing Up Clutter.
8. Reward Yourself.
9. The Sex Advantage.
10. Focus on Your Posture.