SUCCESS
Introduction
Professor Richard Shell
Introduction
Who am I?
What is this course about?
How are we going to do it?
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How to Use This Course
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Using This Course
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SUCCESS: LAUNCHING YOUR
PERSONAL SEARCH FOR SUCCESS
Lecture 1 – Why This Course Will be Useful
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Launching Your Personal Search for Success
Why this course will be useful to you
Three different ways to use this course
- Self
- Parent
- Mentor
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Lecture 2 – Why I Am Teaching This Course
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Launching Your Personal Search for Success
Why I am teaching the course
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Lecture 3 – Three Truths About Success
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Three truths about success and will come to terms with
- There isn’t a secret
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“ Everything you need to be happy is simple.”
— EPICTETUS
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Three truths about success and will come to terms with
- There isn’t a secret
- Success is not something you find
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“ Itas istheyonlyare,when we have the courage to face things exactly
without any self-deception or illusion, that a
light with develop out of events by which the path to
success may be recognized.”
— I CHING
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Three truths about success and will come to terms with
- There isn’t a secret
- Success is not something you find
- There are no foolproof techniques to achieve success
- Goal setting may be good, but not for people who already set 200 goals a week
- Knowing how to win friends and influence people can be good, but not if you spend your
life trying to please those around you and never figure out what it is that you want yourself.
- Meditation can be good, but not if you relax best when your body is in motion. Then yoga
or running may be better.
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Lecture 4 – The Six Lives Exercise
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The Six Lives Exercise
- Instructions
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Lecture 5 – The Six Lives Exercise Analysis
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The Six Lives Exercise
- Teacher
- Banker
- Wealthy Investor
- Stone Mason
- Tennis Pro
- Nonprofit Executive
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Lecture 6 – The Two Side of Success
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The two sides of success
- The Outer Life
- The Inner Life
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Lecture 7 – The Role of Culture and Family in Setting Your
Success Values
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The role of culture and family in setting your success values
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for Success
What is water?
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Lecture 8 – My Story
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My story
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Lecture 9 – Where We Are and Where We Are Going
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Where we are and where we are going
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SUCCESS: How to Think About
Success on Your Own Terms
Lecture 1 – Wake Up!
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How to Think About Success on Your Own Terms
Wake Up!
- Culture, media and social pressures are hypnotic
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Lecture 2 – A Fable
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A Fable
- Ali Hafed and the Buddhist Priest
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Lecture 3 – Where Are Your Diamonds
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Where are your diamonds?
- Childhood / Youthful interests and passions
- Genuine aptitudes and skills
- The plumber who became a surgeon
- The dentist who became a jewelry-maker
- From Legos to financials modeling
- From comforting a grandfather to geriatric nursing
- Your accumulated experiences
- Your Personality
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Lecture 4 – Habits of Successful People
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How Successful People Are Like Children
- Spontaneous excitement
- Always learning
- They fall down, get right back up and try again
The Willingness to be Dissatisfied
- Recognize dissatisfaction
- Causes new actions to be conceived
- Use it as a source of motivation
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Lecture 5 – Why Are Your Success Values So Easy To Forget?
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Why are your success values so easy to forget?
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Ways to help yourself remember what is really important
- What’s your personal metaphor of success?
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Is success a ladder to climb?
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A competition you win?
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A measure of the positive influences your life is having on others?
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Ways to help yourself remember what is really important
- What’s your personal metaphor of success?
- Friends of Virtue
- Review the sources of your self confidence
- The Legacy Exercise
- Your Rites of Passage
- Faith in a power greater than yourself
- Rituals, songs, totems, symbols and keychains
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Lecture 8 – Where We Are and Where We Are Going
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Where we are and where we are going
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DIVING DEEPER: WHAT RESEARCH
TELLS US ABOUT ACHIEVEMENT
AND HAPPINESS
Lecture 1 – The Science of Success
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Achievement and Happiness
The science of success
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Lecture 2 – The Traps: If You Base Your Success on Achievements
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The Traps: If you base your success on achievements
- If success = achievements
- Pie Story
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Lecture 3 – Four Reasons to Worry About Achievement Based
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Four reasons to worry about achievement based success
- The theory of relativity
- Wrong pond
- Hungry ghosts
- Other people’s goals
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Lecture 4 – Does Success Equal Happiness?
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Does success equal happiness?
- Achievements that are sustainable
- Wealth - Financial security
- Fame - Respect
- Status - Worthy roles in the lives of others
- Shallow relationships - Friends of virtue
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Does success equal happiness?
- Let’s not define success as achievements, let’s anchor on happiness
- But is success = happiness, what kind of happiness are we talking
about?
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Diving Deeper: What Research Tells Us About
Achievement and Happiness
Momentary Happiness – Total positive mood states BUT:
- Good days / bad days tend to average out over time
- Genetic “set points” dominate
- Do moods really define “Success”?
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Overall Happiness– Global, retrospect summations of your emotional
experience BUT:
- Baseline problem: Evaluations are always relative to expectations
- You “overweigh” peaks and ends
- Your current mood triggers selective memory
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Deep Happiness– Joy / Eudemonia / Simcha / Flow BUT:
- Can you seek these or are they “gifts of grace”
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What we think we know about happiness
- What matters most: spending time with people you love who love you
- More happiness comes from experiences (especially shared ones)
than from material things
- Greater happiness comes from achieving goals requiring
“unhappiness” i.e. sacrifice / risk / uncertainty / effort
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Where we are and where we are going
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PUTTING IT TOGETHER: CHARTING
YOUR PATH TO THE FUTURE
Lecture 1 – Putting It Together
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Putting It Together: Charting Your Path To The Future
Combining achievement and happiness
- The 3x3 Matrix: Where are you now?
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In terms of success, where do you stand?
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HAPPINESS
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Lecture 2 – Putting It Together: Analyzing the Matrix
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HAPPINESS
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Lecture 3 – Asses Your Current Motivation
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Honestly assess your current motivation
- Are you running towards your goals, or away from your fears
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If fear is the issue, what are you most or repeatedly afraid of that is distorting
your decisions?
- Being alone; being a failure; begin unimportant; being disrespected
- The fear of death is the big one underlying all the rest
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- You may need to go back to take care of this before you can move
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You’ll go further for longer if you run toward the future
- Imagining a worthy future
- The Lottery Exercise
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Putting It Together: Charting Your Path To The Future
A practical path forward- start where you are
- Stepping stones
- Keep your eyes and heart open
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Putting It Together: Charting Your Path To The Future
Goal Setting Exercise
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Lecture 4 – Meaningful Work
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Meaningful Work
- Work life and success: balance or integration
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Putting It Together: Charting Your Path To The Future
The usual way we think of work and life: Balance
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But it can also be this: Integration
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Meaningful Work
- Work life and success: balance or integration
- Do you have a job, a career, or a calling?
- The Sweet Spot
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Happiness and work: A possible Sweet Spot
Work that others will pay you for doing
Work that ignites you emotionally Work that uses your unique
talents and strengths
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7 Emotional Sparks: PERFECT
- How many of these are inspiring you at work?
Personal Learning and Development
Entrepreneurial Control and Autonomy
Religious / Philosophical Values
Family Fulfillment / Thriving
Expressiveness – Are you able to be creative?
Community- Can you serve others?
Talents – Does your work fully utilize your unique combination of skills
and aptitudes
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Lecture 5 – Wise Angel
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What a wise angel taught me
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PUTTING IT TOGETHER: CHARTING
YOUR PATH TO THE FUTURE
Lecture 6 – Conclusion
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“It is only when we have the courage to face things exactly
as they are, without any self-deception or illusion, that a
light will develop out of events by which the path to
success may be recognized.”
— I CHING
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“Everything you need to be happy is simple”
— EPICURUS
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“The unexamined life is not worth living.”
— SOCRATES
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