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RULER Skills for Family Emotional Intelligence

The document provides an overview of RULER, an emotional intelligence program. RULER stands for five skills: Recognizing, Understanding, Labeling, Expressing, and Regulating emotions. It describes each skill and provides examples of how families can practice them at home. Families can discuss emotion expression, acknowledge emotions, explore emotional responses, build a shared vocabulary, help children evaluate expression, and model regulation strategies. The goal is to help both children and adults better understand themselves and others.

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RULER Skills for Family Emotional Intelligence

The document provides an overview of RULER, an emotional intelligence program. RULER stands for five skills: Recognizing, Understanding, Labeling, Expressing, and Regulating emotions. It describes each skill and provides examples of how families can practice them at home. Families can discuss emotion expression, acknowledge emotions, explore emotional responses, build a shared vocabulary, help children evaluate expression, and model regulation strategies. The goal is to help both children and adults better understand themselves and others.

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RULER and Emotional Intelligence: Overview for

Families

RULER Skills: RULER is an acronym that stands for the five key skills of emotional
intelligence. Read about each skill below.

Identifying emotions in ourselves and others allows us to:

๏ Better understand ourselves and others


R Recognizing
๏ Work well in groups
๏ Know when children need emotional support

Knowing the causes and consequences of our emotions helps us to:

U Understanding ๏ Anticipate, manage, or prevent unwanted feelings in ourselves and others


๏ Promote wanted feelings in ourselves and others
๏ Support children’s emotional needs

Knowing feeling words allows us to:

๏ Communicate our feelings accurately


L Labeling
๏ Manage our emotions

๏ Recognize and understand the range of emotions others have

Learning how to display our feelings helps us to:

E Expressing ๏ Act in social situations skillfully

๏ Model acceptable social behavior for our children

Developing strategies to manage feelings allows us to:

R Regulating ๏ Be more effective in reaching our goals

๏ Make wise choices about how we respond to emotional situations

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Practicing RULER Skills at Home
Practicing RULER at Home:
All emotions matter. Everyone wants to feel understood and valued. The ability to get along with others is
the glue that holds us together; Understanding ourselves and others, expressing our emotions in
compassionate ways, and respecting ourselves and each other are essential life skills.

To recognize emotions, families can:


๏ Discuss how emotions are expressed on our faces, in our voices, and
bodies
R Recognizing ๏ Notice and honor your children’s and your emotions
๏ Acknowledge your children’s and your own emotions instead of dismissing
or minimizing them

To understand emotions, families can:

๏ Reflect on your emotional response to and your interpretation of a situation or


event
U Understanding ๏ Explore how feeling this way influences your child’s or your behavior
๏ Ask your children questions about what emotions might be underlying
or driving their behaviors (i.e. I notice you’re feeling sick every morning
before school. What’s going on? My sense is that you are anxious about
something)

To label emotions, families can:

๏ Use a wide range of feeling words with children


๏ Find the best word to describe your feelings and encourage your children to
L Labeling
do the same
๏ Build your family’s feeling word vocabulary by discovering new words in
books, films, or conversations

To express emotions, families can:


E Expressing
๏ Help children evaluate the best time, place, and way to express their feelings

To regulate emotions, families can:

๏ Model different, effective strategies for children when you manage your own
emotions
R Regulating
๏ Help children find useful and successful strategies for managing the range of
emotions they experience
๏ Validate that your children’s emotions are okay and clarify acceptable
behaviors for expressing their emotions.

Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence


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ei.yale.edu

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