Secrets of Micro-Escalation

Attracting Women with Seductive Vibe

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 Table of Contents

Part I

1. Overview
2. Harder to Detect & Reject
3. Sexual Tension
4. What Is Micro-Escalation
5. Nothing Verbal or Physical to Resist
6. It’s Rejection Proof
7. Creating Attraction With Vibe
8. Micro-Escalation is Attractive
9. Escalation is Attractive

Part II

10. Micro-Escalation & Calibration

11. Seductive Listening
12. Escalation of Vibe
13. Final Thoughts
14. Parting Words
 Introduction

The term micro-escalation means to slowly escalate to a more

seductive vibe in order to create attraction, build sexual tension
and move the seduction forward in a subtle way.
Meaning, instead of making one big verbal or physical move to
create attraction, you should use a series of small non-verbal
moves. For example, you should focus on holding face contact,
moving closer and listening versus worrying about big moves like
trying to kiss her.
The main benefit of this strategy is that by not saying or doing
anything special it makes it almost impossible for women to reject
you verbally or physically. This gives you more time to create
attraction and escalate before women even know what you doing.
 Harder to Detect & Reject

Not only is escalating the vibe harder to reject, it also increases

sexual tension and creates attraction. This is great news for guys
who are afraid to escalate by going for big moves like a kiss. All of
the moves we use are small, thus under the radar.
One of the best ways to create this sexual tension and escalate
the vibe is to use a concept I call “seductive listening”.
 Sexual Tension

Escalating the vibe does not break rapport, but it definitely creates
sexual tension.
When it comes to women your main seduction tool is to assume
attraction and create sexual tension through small, seductive non-
verbal escalations that make you attractive just by using them.
For example, the following escalations are attractive, show
confidence, and create sexual tension. Things like face contact,
contact, listening and looking at her lips. You can also build
sexual tension by keeping silent, moving closer and listening
seductively.
All of these small non-verbal escalations create sexual tension
and keep the vibe from becoming social. She may suspect you
are up to something, but you have given her no excuse to reject
you.
 What is Micro-Escalation

You don’t need to talk. Just listen. Everything you will ever need
to seduce a woman can be conveyed without words. For
example, use non-verbal statements of interest like moving
closer. The person who is talking is the person who is qualifying.
By not talking much you are the one screening her.
Of course, when you listen to her you want to make sure to use
seductive listening versus the "I'm just so happy to be here" facial
expression. It’s much easier to escalate the vibe when listening
versus talking - but you should be able to be seductive doing
both.
Here is a common scenario. You are sitting and talking with a
cute girl. You assume she probably likes you because she hasn't
left and she keeps asking you questions. So now all you can think
about is "I need to escalate”. You start to get really nervous. For
most guys escalation means only one thing, going for a kiss. It’s
no secret guys constantly worry "How can I kiss her?"
Relax, there is no need to worry about going for the kiss because
there are so many small escalations you can use to seduce her
besides kissing. For example, just shut up and listen. That is an
escalation. Or hold her gaze for an extended period of time. That
is an escalation. Stare at her lips and just imagine kissing her.
That is an escalation.
Another benefit is just by escalating in this controlled manner you
will be seen as more attractive to women. When you realize that
something as unassuming as face contact is an escalation (and
that it's attractive) it’s exciting because you realize you can both
create attraction and escalate at the same time.
 Nothing Verbal or Physical to
Reject

If you are scared to make a move the solution is to realize that

escalation in itself is attractive. Meaning you are both escalating
and creating attraction at the same time. My saying “Escalation is
Attractive” basically means there is little downside to escalating.
It's not about whether she accepts it or not. The mere fact that
you escalated the vibe, because it shows confidence, makes you
more attractive than you were a few seconds ago. In other words,
there is really no risk.
Guys think if they show interest they can no longer be a challenge
because she knows you like her. This is why we only escalate the
vibe at first. She may suspect we are doing something, but it’s not
official. This is the key to flirting.
By escalating with your vibe there is nothing verbal for her to
reject. For example, if you say “can I get your number” she can
say no. In addition, there is nothing physical for her to resist
either. For example, if out of nowhere you lunge at her for a kiss
she can just turn her head away making the situation awkward.
You want to start by only escalating the vibe and then use one
small physical move. For example, later you can grab her hand
and make the non-verbal connection between you official.
 It’s Rejection Proof

It's usually more effective to start out by using non-verbal

statements of interest like deadpan face contact, silence, and
moving closer. However, escalating the vibe is not an indirect
method. You still show her you are interested but you do it non-
verbally.
The advantage is there can be no verbal rejection of vibe. It's all
happening on a different channel of communication. For example,
let’s assume you move closer to her (which is a non-verbal
statement of interest) but she takes a step back. Despite this
temporary setback, escalating in this manner keeps the logic of
why she is resisting you from becoming real in her mind.
In other words, because she has not yet verbalized her
resistance, it’s almost like it never happened. For example, if you
just blurt out "you are really cute" letting her know that you are
definitely interested, she can simply reject you. She can say
“thanks but I have a boyfriend” or give you some other excuse.
This is similar to when an orbiter finally caves in by blurting out
"what's going on with us" and gets the let’s just be friends speech.
Now his rejection is out in the open. Her stance on him has
become official so he has little hope of turning things around and
getting the girl. As such, he was much better off keeping his
mouth shut and escalating with vibe with instead.
Whenever you make verbal statements of interest like giving
compliments you run the risk of getting resistance. Even if she
does like you this "I'm resisting him" frame becomes real because
she is the one saying it.
But by showing your intentions non-verbally you can get away
with many more points of resistance in the back and forth dance
of seduction. You do not have as much leeway with constant
resistance to your verbal escalations or physical displays of
interest.
Plus, you can tell way more about her real interest in you with
moves like moving closer or holding seductive eye contact. That’s
because when you escalate verbally or physically she will
sometimes resist you (even if she likes you) so she doesn’t seem
too easy. Especially, if her friends or co-workers are watching her.
Making non-verbal statements of interest (escalating vibe) gives
you unlimited opportunities with the same girl. No matter what
happens, it's almost as if you have never been officially rejected.
So remember, never ask her a question you don't know the
answer to.
 Creating Attraction with Vibe

You can generate attraction and seduce women just by escalating

the vibe. For example, hold her gaze, talk slowly or just shut up
while you listen. Or what I refer to as seductive listening.
Remember, it’s your vibe and presence, not your words or touch
that creates the initial attraction.
A we discussed, the best part about escalating the vibe is that she
has nothing verbal to reject or physical to resist. There is almost
no risk of rejection. That's great news all you guys who are afraid
to reveal your interest verbally or escalate physically.
In contrast, verbal escalations such as sex talk can be verbally
rejected. Don’t worry, you can create all the sexual tension you
will need with small escalations. Plus, you can calibrate much
better with smaller moves.
The only thing you have to do is calibrate to how she reacts to
things like your seductive eye contact. After escalating the vibe if
she chooses to stay talking to a man with such an obvious
"masculine presence" and "sexual aura" you know you have a
good lead on your hands. Believe me, women know exactly what
your intentions are when you escalate the vibe. You don’t have to
tell them verbally or physically.
The next step after escalating the vibe is to solidify the connection
you are building physically. If she stays with you after you
escalate the vibe you should definitely touch her. Don’t worry you
can still micro-escalate physically. For example move closer and
brush against her. Does she move back or stay? Grab her hand
for a few seconds and let go. Does she look nervous out or is she
comfortable with you?
These physical escalations are also attractive so they generate
even more interest. Again in this system both the attraction and
the escalation are happening at the exact same time. As such,
proper calibration to her reactions is key.
 Micro-Escalation Is Attractive

There is no waiting, you escalate right away non-verbally. When

you move closer does she stay or move back? When you look at
her seductively does she hold your gaze or look away? When you
shut up and relax does she restart the conversation or use the
silence as an excuse to ignore you?
Even if there is some resistance to your face contact it hasn't
been verbalized. You are still in the game. Contrast that with a
guy who's first statement of interest is verbal - you are cute - or
one who does something physical like going for a kiss.
Because he didn’t escalate the vibe and calibrate her reaction to it
- he didn't know the answer to the question, can I kiss you, before
he lunged in. When you ask questions you get answers, and most
of the time it’s not the answer you were looking for. Now you are
in damage control.
Let’s say you want to isolate a girl from her friends. If you say
“let’s go grab a quiet spot where we can talk” she can just say no.
Instead, just grab her hand and lead her off somewhere private. If
she let’s go of your hand, it’s no big deal, her resistance still
wasn’t verbalized. You can try again in a few minutes without
looking needy.
 Escalation is Attractive

There are many things that can create attraction. The dating
community has provided us with an endless supply of tools to
choose from. But in the end each man has to decide what he
wants to create attraction for him. That’s because he inevitably
will focus on that when interacting with women.
For example, if a guy thinks it's his cocky-funny attitude that
creates attraction, then that will be his main focus when talking to
women. Even worse is a guy who just wings it because he has no
idea what creates attraction for him.
I believe that escalation creates attraction. As such, your initial
focus should be on escalating the vibe. If you believe escalation
will create attraction for you it will. It’s more of a mindset than a
tactic. Sure, you still might tease women from time to time and
you might tell an interesting story. All of these things can get your
foot in the door and give you an opportunity.
But you would be foolish to think that these teasing alone can
attract beautiful women. When it comes to creating attraction, it is
your seductive vibe and presence that is the most important thing.
To summarize, escalation is attractive because it shows you have
confidence in yourself. You just assume women like you - so of
course you act seductive around them. And last time I checked
women still rank confidence as a very attractive quality in a man.
 Micro-Escalation & Calibration

Instead of talking so much, let the dance of seduction play itself

out on the non-verbal level. In other words, let her physical
reactions be your guide of what to do next. Remember, non-
verbal resistance is not always an official rejection.
In other words, ignore most of what she says in those situations.
She could be trying to make herself more desirable or just not
want to look easy. We really can’t be sure.
Guys who put too much emphasis on what women say are
usually too sensitive anyway. The best way to find out if she is
truly interested is to escalate the vibe and calibrate her reaction to
it. For example, she looks at you like you're acting weird but she
still lets you get close to her. When it comes to women, it’s usually
what she does (stays) versus what she says.
You don't always get verbal reassurance and confirmation from
women that you are liked. Nor should you need it. Again, let her
non-verbal reactions to you be your guide.
You get more opportunities to overcome her physical resistance
because it's happening on a non-verbal channel. You only get so
many verbal rejections before it becomes real to her. The reason
it becomes real is because it's been verbalized.
 Seductive Listening

It can be hard to be seductive when you are talking the whole

time. As such, you should work on getting better at listening.
Unfortunately, not many guys look seductive when listening to
women.
As soon as you can you want to switch to asking questions from a
screening frame - where she is talking (qualifying herself) and you
are listening. Despite what you have been told, you don’t have to
talk and entertain girls all night long. Plus, keep in mind, no matter
how cool or funny your stories are, women would much rather talk
about themselves. Go figure.
Of course, you don't sit there and listen to her whine about her job
and asshole boyfriend like a chump. Instead, you want to lead the
conversation in a direction where the underlying meaning of the
interaction is she is qualifying to you.
Stop trying so hard and ask her questions. Let her talk and
qualify herself.
Here are a few simple ways to Seduce Women While Listening.

- Hold deadpan face contact while you listen (poker face)

- Relax and focus on her energy more than her words
- Let her completely finish talking before responding
Try Not To:

- Interrupt her story with a better one

- Tease her or make a joke after everything she says
- Feel it's your job to fill the silences
- Give advice or judge her
- Facial Expression “I'm just so damn happy to be here”
 Escalation of Vibe

When being seductive you will be using your eyes, lips and facial
expressions to communicate. Escalating the vibe is easier to do
when you are listening, so try to relax. Don’t worry, if you use my
method of seductive listening women will feel like they want to
impress you.
Vibing is a great way to escalate because it moves the interaction
forward without showing definite interest like touching or giving
women compliments does.
By escalating with vibe she has nothing verbal to reject and
nothing physical to resist. It’s just vibe. The best part is it keeps
the game of seduction interesting and challenging for her. Is he
flirting with me or not? It can be hard to know for sure.
Escalating with vibe also helps guys who want to let a woman
know that they are interested without being over the top about it.

How to Escalate the Vibe

- Seductive Face Contact

- Sleepy Eyes
- Relax
- Don’t Say Much, Listen
- Move into Her Space

With practice, you will get good at creating sexual tension using
no words or touch, just vibe. In fact, just your mere presence
alone will attract women.
When you have a seductive vibe women that like you may start to
feel nervous. At some point they will usually say or do something
goofy. When this happens try to resist the urge to tease or call her
out. In fact, it’s much better if you say nothing and simply flash her
a seductive smile letting her know that you feel the connection
too.
You can also simplify the process of seduction by eliminating
unnecessary steps. For example, thinking you need to get a
woman alone before you can make a move. Think about it, you
don’t need to get her isolated from her friends to escalate the
vibe. In fact, you two are already vibing non-verbally, making
isolation optional.
 Final Thoughts

When you put out a seductive instead of social vibe, don’t be

surprised if women start to test you for congruence. For example,
she may look at you like you are acting weird. Or she may even
try to scare you away form being seductive by implying that you
are being creepy.
Don’t worry too much about these reactions. In most cases she is
just trying to break the sexual tension because she is becoming
attracted to you. The best option is to simply ignore it or give her a
seductive look and then turn your head away slowly. Don’t go
back to being social or verbalize what is happening.
 Parting Words

If you remember only one thing form this book, it’s that you will
get more chances to seduce women with small non-verbal
escalations than if you try to attract them with words or big
sudden physical moves.

To Your Success,
Sixty Years of Challenge