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What most people recognize about safety is that you need to
always be able to communicate, even when you’re in the midst of
a heavy scene, filled with role playing, humiliation or playing on the
edge of one’s limits.
This is where the role of a safeword can come into play.
Generally speaking, there are a few types of safewords that can
be used during a scene:
Words that mean stop
Words that mean slow down
Words that mean something’s wrong – Medical issue, Past injury
re-injured, Anxiety/Panic Attack, etc
Now, for some relationships, simply shouting out the problem is
the easiest way to deal with a particular situation. If something is
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not going well or the submissive wants the Dominant to stop for
some reason, they will simply tell the Dominant what is going on
and the scene can stop or change direction.
But for others, the scene’s intensity might rely on the idea that they
are both playing roles and that breaking these roles might cause
the emotional response to be lessened – and that can cause a
scene to dissolve.
This is where safewords can be used to alert a Dominant as to a
problem or situation.
Some common safewords include:
‘Red’ for ‘Immediate Stop & End the scene’
‘Yellow’ for ‘Slow Down’
Various object names – fire truck, elephant, blueberry pancakes,
etc. Normally you name it after something that is highly unlikely to
ever be said in normal conversation, but means enough to the
person who uses it that it will be easily remembered during times
of stress and/or panic.
You can certainly use any word that’s easy to remember and to
say when you need to stop a scene for whatever reason – but it
needs to be something that you both recognize and that you can
both understand immediately.
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When would you use a safeword
When a person is in more pain than they are able to handle
physically, mentally, or emotionally. Always keep in mind a
person's pain threshold can be different everyday depending on a
number of factors including stress, energy, mood, etc.
When a person is feeling overly anxious, uncomfortable and/or
unsure about a certain act
When a person is feeling too scared to continue in a scene
When a scene is begins to become too physically intense or
emotionally overwhelming
When a person is running out of breath and/or having a hard time
breathing
When a person notices something that might be harmful,
dangerous or unsafe
When a person feels something out of the ordinary about their
person, ie tingle, dizziness, light headedness, etc
When a person's soft or hard limits have been approached or
crossed
A safeword is one of the most important things to include in your
negotiations and key to a safe, sane and consensual (SSC) life.
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