From the moment of our birth, God places us in an order.
We have a father and a mother who have
begotten and birthed us. Even if we have been adopted or have stepfathers or mothers, God has set us
into the holy order of a household as children under the authority of our parents.
This is the very heart of the 4th commandment. “ Honor your father and your mother.” Out of fear and
love of God we should not despise or anger our fathers and mothers, but honor them, serve and obey
them, love and cherish them. Father and mother are God’s deputies; they share a verb normally
reserved for the Lord alone: to honor. Their rules are God’s law for us. This is why the apostle Paul warns
fathers not to exasperate their children. Don’t frustrate them with endless, useless rules, which will only
make them worse and teach them to despise God’s Law.