WHAT IS EMOTIONAL RELAPSE?
Think of emotional relapse as the behind-the-scenes trigger to destructive
behavior. In this stage, you haven’t actually started thinking about using
drugs or alcohol again. It’s just a resurfacing of negative emotions and
stress that eventually lead you to contemplate drinking or using drugs
again.
You might be thinking, “if it’s not using drugs or alcohol, why is this such a
big deal?” The truth is, relapse can become a problem before any
substances are taken. During emotional relapse, your negative thoughts
start to erode many of the healthy behaviors and coping strategies you
worked on in recovery. In fact, that’s why being able to recognize the signs
of emotional relapse is such a key skill. If you can spot these red flags
before they pick up momentum, you can lower your risk of relapse.
THE WARNING SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL
RELAPSE
To spot a red flag in your behavior or thought process, you have to know
what to look for. The majority of warning signs for emotional relapse can be
broken down into two categories: They are emotional conditions and
dysfunctional behaviors. Let’s take a look at examples of each:
WARNING SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL RELAPSE
1. Depression: Feeling a loss of motivation and an overwhelming sense
of hopelessness.
2. Anxiety: Intense worry, fear and uncertainty about your sobriety.
3. Mood Swings: You have a hard time controlling your feelings and
often go from one extreme to the other.
4. Anger: You’re more likely to lose your temper, even over little things
that you used to be able to brush off.
BEHAVIORAL WARNING SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL RELAPSE
1. Isolation: You’re avoiding spending time with family or friends and
prefer to be alone.
2. Breaking Routine: You had a set routine for your sobriety, but you
haven’t been following your routine or only do it when it’s convenient.
3. Trouble Sleeping: You have trouble falling asleep and might even
suffer from insomnia, nightmares or waking up frequently.
4. Refusing help: You don’t want to get help for anything. You’re
determined to do everything yourself even if it means failing as a result.
HOW TO DEAL WITH EMOTIONAL
TRIGGERS
Emotional triggers are one of the most dangerous parts of the first stage of
relapse. But what can you do to help limit the impact these feelings have on
you?
During your recovery, you probably were told to avoid your triggers. That
could mean staying clear of certain people, situations or places that are
linked to your addiction. Remember that having these negative emotions is
okay. It’s not a failure to feel these emotions. The real challenge of recovery
is finding healthy ways to resolve them.
Think back to what you learned in recovery. Don’t ignore the negative
emotions that arise; acknowledge them and find a positive way to move
forward.
THREE WAYS TO PREVENT EMOTIONAL
RELAPSE
While sinking back into the negative emotions that once contributed to your
addiction can be hard to manage, there are ways to avoid emotional
relapse:
1. SELF-CARE
One of the first things to take a hit from emotional relapse is self-care. It’s
important to stay on top of your physical, mental and emotional wellness.
Activities like exercise and getting enough sleep can go a long way.
2. USE YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM
You worked hard to put a support system is place, so be sure to use it.
Sobriety is not something you have to go through alone. Don’t be afraid to
ask for help.
3. ACTIVELY ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR FEELINGS
Try not to suppress your thoughts or feelings. Work towards practicing
higher self-awareness through activities like journaling or meditation.
QUESTIONS FOR YOURSELF:
1. ARE YOU JOURNALING YOUR EMOTIONS EVERYDAY?
2. ARE YOU IDENTIFIYING THE EMOTIONS THAT LEAD TO THE RELAPSE?
3. WHEN ARE YOU STARTING TO GET YOUR EMOTIONS TRACKED