Finding

your light
a practical guide for finding inner peace,
self love, joy and contentment

Freya Haley J
 FOREWORD

This book contains a lot of love from my heart to yours. No matter

where you are on your self love journey, I hope this little book may
aid you in finding your heart and learning to live to the fullest
extent of your capability. All humans are capable of loving
themselves, it is our birthright.
 content warning!

This book contains content that some might find triggering,

including: Self h*rm ment, mental illness and body shaming
CHAPTER PAGE NO
One: Finding Self Love 6

Two: Grounding 24

Three: Conscious Journalling 49

Four: Love 70
 Chapter one
FINDING SELF LOVE

I love and cherish myself, which allows me to

love and cherish every part of existence

 01 Finding Self Love

AFFIRMATIONS

Daily affirmations to yourself are a beautiful

and simple way to expand your self love.
Affirmations can be in written or verbal form,
my personal favourite is spoken word
affirmations. I feel that these solidify the
messages that each affirmation holds.
By hearing your own voice you consciously and
subconsciously pick up and believe the words
you are saying. It may take some time and it
may feel funny or uncomfortable at first, but I
suggest you try this activity for at least once
per day for one week before you dismiss it.

So, get yourself in front of any mirror and

look deeply into your own eyes. Depending on
the depth of your self hatred, this may be an
immensely difficult task. Say to yourself some
things you are that you love about yourself. If
you don't yet love anything about yourself,
make something up!

A page of example affirmations may be found on

the next page. These affirmations do not have
to be about your physical appearance, nor do
they have to be about your personality. This
practice works best when each day you are
finding something new within your reflection to
admire, send love to and be grateful for.
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AFFIRMATIONS

Examples of Affirmations that I adore:

"I am strong and resilient"

"I am compassionate and show myself this same
compassion"
"My skin is a canvas covered in unique art"
"I am courageous"
"Each day my love for myself grows stronger and
stronger"
"I am finding joy with each passing moment"
"I love the way my eyes reflect the light of
the window"
"I am grateful to exist"
"I inspire myself to be the best version of
myself"
"I love my titties"
"I release all that no longer serves me"
"I release myself from self hatred and welcome
in love"
"I am open to receiving love and light"
"I am a goddess worth worshipping"
"I am kind"
"I can persevere through any of life's
challenges"
"I love my tiger stripes"
"I give and receive love in equal measures"
"I am unashamed of my past, present and future
self"
"I feel empowered"
"I love myself"
"I am proud of myself"
 01 Finding Self Love

Toxicity

Toxicity comes in a variety of forms. When I

talk about toxicity within the self- I mean
habits, thought patterns, processes and beliefs
that are not serving you, that are holding you
back from your highest potential. Just like
there are toxicities within yourself, there are
toxicities within your environment. This could
be in the form of unsupportive or negative
friends, significant others, family, workplaces
and environments. Just as it is beneficial to
cut out people that put you down, it is
arguably even more important to acknowledge and
heal the parts of yourself that are toxic
behaviours.

Cutting out your own critical behaviour is

extremely difficult because these are habits we
have developed and have attached ourselves to
over the span of our lifetimes. Some may be so
deeply ingrained in our sense of self that no
part of us really desires to heal.

The first step to cut toxicities out of

yourself is to acknowledge that they are there.
Sit with yourself and think about the times you
have lashed out at a loved one, the times you
have talked negatively about yourself or have
felt uncomfortable in your body. What triggered
this? What thought patterns arise as you feel
this discomfort?
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Toxicity
Write these down. Then write down ways you can
send love to the roots of these toxicities.
Write down ways to welcome love into these
darker parts of yourself

Once you have acknowledged these "Shadow" parts

of yourself, the road to healing them is a
matter of calling yourself out when you
experience them and replacing them with
positive affirmations. Every time you think
negatively of yourself- realise it and say "I
send love to this part of myself, I water and
nurture this insecurity and replace all my fear
with love"

Here's a little poem from my book Chrysalis:

The parts of yourself that are

the hardest to love
are the parts who
need love the most

the people who are

hardest to love
are the ones
who need love the most
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Validation

Seeking approval is a behaviour we are taught and

forced to adopt from an extremely young age. Breaking
this cycle is a continuous journey, but as with all
aspects of self love: it is about the journey not the
destination.

When you are basing your self-worth on the opinions

and behaviours of others, you are seeking love from
the outside in, not from within yourself. Even if
this validation is constant and you always feel
supported and loved by your surroundings- if you are
not feeling love from within yourself, you will
always be hungry for more approval. This may lead you
to shape and morph yourself to fit others
expectations of you and when that validation is lower
than normal your self esteem will take a massive hit.

You do not need to be anyone less than who you are

now
You do not need to be anyone more than who you are
now

Although we talk about healing, if you accept and

forgive yourself for who you are and the way you are
in this exact moment, you instantly open up your
heart to the truth that you are worthy of love.

Feel it and watch your world grow.

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Social Media

Toxicities and validation don't just lie in the

depths of reality. With the rise of social
media and in particular social media
influencers, there is an increased drive for
validation of a digital sense. We want more
followers, better looking hair, whiter teeth,
more likes, more comments, more digitised and
pixelated love that we attach our sense of self
worth to.
We are constantly in a rat race of approval and
because of this we feel heavy. Social media is
a beautiful place of connection and human
interaction IF WE ALLOW IT TO BE.
But social media, and in particular Instagram,
has the potential to create such a detrimental
effect on mental health that leads to a
lifetime of programmed insecurities. We follow
beauty bloggers with perfectly crafted makeup
looks to sculpt their face into european
goddess forms, travel bloggers who never seem
to have financial trouble, lifestyle bloggers
who never fall out of their perfect routines
for skinny thighs and (my personal favourite)
spiritual insta gurus who never seem to have a
bad day.

No matter how real you try and be on social

media, there is always a sense of a "highlights
reel" rather than real life. Take it from me,
an "influencer"- we may be as vulnerable as
possible, but you still only see the smallest
slither of our lives.
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Social Media

Where I'm getting at with this is two things.

One: don't search for validation on social
media
Two: don't compare yourself to people on social
media

Just like we have toxic situations and people

in our real lives, we follow such a multitude
of accounts on social media that we are bound
to run into toxic people there too.

One way to limit comparing ourselves to others

is to cut out people who do not help us feel
good about ourselves. Unfollowing or muting
posts is a perfect way to eliminate anyone that
causes you to feel anything less than the best
version of yourself. I recently did an
unfollowing spree where I actually unfollowed
everyone on Instagram and started from the
bottom up again. This allowed me to only follow
people I genuinely cared about and sought after
for healing. I used to follow 900+ accounts and
currently as I am writing only follow around
100. I feel lighter, happier and less agitated
when I scroll.

Another quick tip: Don't use social media for

the first 20 minutes of your morning. Sleep
with your phone on airplane mode. Use the early
morning to feel grounded and work on
contentment, not to see what everyone else is
doing.
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The physical Body

Loving yourself is a revolution against a

society that profits from insecurity.
Be the change.
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The physical Body

Being comfortable in your physical form is one

of the most beautiful and freeing feelings in
the world. Growing up, most of us struggle with
body image and low self esteem. We tell
ourselves stories such as "no one likes me
because of my weight", "I'm ugly" and "My
appearance makes my life hell". If you feel
like these resonate with you, this journey will
be particularly hard for you.
I often say the layers of self love are like a
rose, being that you peel one petal off and all
of a sudden there are more and more layers to
unfold. One layer of this rose may be your
inability to connect with your physical form.
We are programmed to see one type of human as
beautiful: skinny, european, blonde haired blue
eyed, tanned goddess
Through this beauty ideal, people who conform a
little bit are deemed pretty, people who
conform not so much are seen (in particular by
themselves) as unworthy of confidence, love and
praise.

This is bullshit.

The sunset is beautiful. Just as a sunflower is

beautiful, just as a daisy is, just as a rose
is. There are so many types of beautiful.
Uniqueness is a blessing and, I hate to sound
corny, true beauty truly does come from within.
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The physical Body

When I think of someone beautiful, I think of

kind eyes. I think of strength and the ability
to keep going through everything that has tried
to hold them back.
What is beautiful to you? Write this down, or
ponder on it. Think deeper than skin, for when
we are all old and withered and wrinkled what
will make someone beautiful then? What do you
want to have deep within yourself that holds
your authenticity, light and beauty?
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The physical Body

Here are some practices for welcoming the love

of your physical form into your life:

- Yoga. Yoga is the art of appreciating your

body and its depths. Even just a few mindful
stretches in the morning will allow you to tap
into just how infinite your body truly is.
There are poses that make you feel empowered,
there are poses to release emotional trauma. My
personal favourites are empowering poses such
as the goddess pose, warrior one pose and sun
salutations. Look these up and allow yourself
to be flooded with empowering, divine feminine
energy. Saying affirmations whilst doing yoga
also enhances it tenfold!
- Dancing. Dancing is joy personified. Dancing
without limitation is extremely freeing and no
matter what you look like on the exterior,
makes you feel good. It releases endorphins and
for most people, takes us back to our inner
child. I'll talk more about inner child energy
at a later point in this book. Put on your
favourite music and some funky undies and let
yourself go. In the confines of your room, just
walking with your headphones down the street or
even at a festival. Having a boogie and not
allowing yourself to give a shit about how you
look whilst moving is one of the most freeing
and wonderful feelings ever.
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The physical Body

Some more practices for welcoming the love of

your physical form:

- Affirmations. Focus on physical affirmations.

Stare deeply into yourself in the mirror no
matter how uncomfortable you feel. Find one
thing you love about yourself and say it aloud.
The next day find something different about
yourself to compliment.Then the next, find
something else. Eventually you will cover the
whole span of your body with love. If you can't
find a single thing- make something up. Fake it
until you make it really does work with this.
- Stop self harming. Make a conscious effort to
stop hurting your lovely skin. This can be so
difficult, especially if we have found solace
in this activity. Something that helped me when
I was trying to stop self harming was painting
my skin, calling a friend or writing down my
thoughts every time I had the urge to
- The whiteboard marker. On your mirror- write
some manifestations that you want to love about
yourself. For example "I love my physical
body". Every time you look in the mirror, you
will be reminded to love yourself. Allow
yourself to let in the love and smile.
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The physical Body

Some more practices for welcoming the love of

your physical form:

- Taking care of yourself. Excess drinking,

smoking, weed, fast food etc can make you feel
really shitty in your own body. Try to take
care of your body. Eat more plant based foods,
but do not limit your diet. Eat until you feel
full and give love to yourself.Eat every bite
feeling nourishment coming into your body.
Taste every flavour. Eat slowly, eat mindfully.
- Being a Nudey Rudey. Getting naked is a sure
way to feel more comfortable in our own skin-
that is, all of it! When I was at my most
insecure, I couldn't stand to see my naked body
in the mirror, in photos etc. I would avoid
seeing any more skin than I had to because my
body to me held so much shame. This is no way
to live and you do not have to live this way.
Starting out just sleeping with less clothes on
then leading up to taking nudes (for yourself),
being naked around others (womens !! circles!!)
and skinny dipping. Whatever you feel
comfortable with at first, is what you should
do. The smallest steps can make the biggest
ripples
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The physical Body

Change your thoughts from "I am hurting"

to "I am healing"

And watch how forgiveness, allowance and love

lets your world bloom

 01 Finding Self Love

Learning to love being alone

If you feel uncomfortable being by yourself or

spending too much time alone- chances are this
stems from deep seated insecurity. Learning to
be alone, learning to love being alone is so
vital in your self development.
Now, this isn't to say dump whoever you're with and
cut all ties, it's just dedicating a small (or big)
part of your week/day to yourself. Giving yourself
time to settle down, zen out and recuperate. Here are
my favourite ways to spend alone time:

- meditation (had to put it in here)

- reading
- painting/creating
- having a bath with incense, candles, crystals, tea,
go FULL OUT
- nature time: beach, hike etc
- taking yourself on a date: dress up and go to a
nice restaurant, take yourself on a breakfast date,
go to the museum, have a picnic, explore somewhere
you haven't been before
- journaling/deep reflection near a body of water
- do a self timer photoshoot (sounds really funny but
don't knock it till you try it! Experiment with
lights n edits and stuff, see yourself as a work of
at)
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Self Care

Self care is sacred. I like to incorporate at

least 3 aspects of self care/self love
practices into each day. These may include and
are not limited to the following:

- meditation practice
- guided meditations
- yoga/ mindful stretching
- cleaning my room
- bath time
- journalling
- hiking
- reading a book (poetry or self help for
brownie points)
- creative expression (painting, filming,
photography, drawing, anything!)
- river/ocean swims
- dancing
- watering plants/ gardening
- dog park
- watching the sunset/sunrise
- exercise
- cloud/stargazing
- affirmation sessions
- reiki healing or other alternative healing (such as
shamanic healing, eft tapping, hypnotherapy etc)
- gratitude lists/ expressions of gratitude
- Intention setting
 Chapter two
GROUNDING

I am grounded and thriving, I choose to live in

abundance
 02 Grounding

Earthing

Go for a mindful walk. How often is it that you

walk around your neighbourhood and connect with
the environment that surrounds you.

We as humans  often get caught up in the norm

of things. We quickly grow  unsatisfied with
the “sameness” that surrounds our daily
routines. Your daily bus route has joy, your
walk to school or work has joy, your walk to
the park has joy. Oftentimes, joy is about the
perception of things.

We may walk along this same path everyday,

though rarely do we notice the simple and
beautiful complexities in the  nature that
surrounds us. 

Go for a mindful walk. Do not bring your phone,

or if you do for safekeeping, ensure that it is
switched unto airplane mode. Going barefoot may
enhance the experience if you are comfortable
doing so.

As you walk, begin to open your ears to the

soft hums of life. There are birds chirping,
squawking. There are little flies or bees or
insects flying and buzzing past your face.
There may be people talking to each other,
absorbed by the joy they find within human
company, connection and communication.
 02 Grounding

Earthing

Things that once seemed uninteresting to you

slowly transform before your eyes. The trees
are tall and flow softly in the breeze. Touch
the plants, touch the flowers. Ignite your
senses and connect with those small parts of
nature that creep into suburban life.

If you feel that there is little nature to

connect with along your walks, connect with
people. Consider yourself a beaming orb of
sunlight that seeps out to touch and lighten
all those whom you encounter. Smile at the
strangers who walk past. If they do not smile
back, shake it off and burn brighter. If they
smile back, find the joy in the most simple
interactions in this human experience. Find
something to love about everyone who crosses
your path. If they are wary and unfriendly,
find love in their strength. If they are kind
and warm, find love in that.

It is important to fully connect with your

surroundings, not just walk through it
mindlessly. The more often you do so, you will
begin to realise that there is joy and love in
the smallest things if you allow your heart to
let it in.
 02 Grounding

Worship
I want prickles to pierce my soles through a
paddock of dried grass
soil between the skin of my toes and nails

God, I want to swim naked in a sea

of salty currents
swirling crystals
galaxies in sunbeams
which pierce the surface reaching my seaweed
hair in golden rays
I want to sit beneath a hollow tree with moss
and vine
a skyscraper in a city of green with antennae
residents hardworking towns in exoskeleton
business wear
I belong out here
mountains grow taller than concrete structures
and kiss the forming clouds farewell welcoming
in their place
the rising sun
rivers flow
stronger than all that stands in their path
where stars burn brighter
than lights ever could
and the moon shines
beyond your wildest imaginings eaves whisper
tales of
a hundred years seen before you and the breeze
sings songs
that paint stories
if you open your ears
Where death is merely the beginning of life and
dreams form reality
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Worship
I want the wind on my breast, the sand on my
legs, the sea in my ears, salt encrusted on the
ends of my eyelashes, the sun kissing my skin
golden brown, the flowers delighting my nose,
the trees pressed against my gentle grasp, the
rain in my hair, waterfalls in my mouth, crisp
water engulfing my chest, the cliffs beneath my
toes, the grass brushing my ankles, the clear
sky in my eyes, fresh fruit on my tongue, dirt
under my nails, insect bites along the length
of my thigh, to breathe heavy exhilarating
euphoric gasps of fresh crisp breeze, to feel
warm light on my back.

I want
to worship this planet
the way she deserves
I want
to feel one and liberated
with the earth that gave me the greatest gift
of all life

"Worship" from my book Chrysalis

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GRATITUDE

Gratitude lists are fundamental in my opinion

to the foundation of self love and inner peace.
When we are grateful, we pay attention to all
the details that go unnoticed in our day to day
lives. All of a sudden the world blooms around
us like a conscious flower that remained hidden
from our closed eyes.
We get so caught up in our minds chatter,
illusions and negativities that we forget how
privileged we truly are. You may have internet
access, water, food, safety, an able body, a
beautiful place to live and not even realise
how truly lucky that makes you. This is not to
disempower your sufferings, rather to redirect
your attention into resting your awareness in a
place of gratitude and love rather than fear
and greed. We have so much but feel so empty.
Gratitude can take effect from the minute you
wake up. Try for the next week to, first thing
in the morning, say the words "I am grateful to
be alive" after you take your first breath of
air in the morning. How does it feel? Does it
feel foreign and untrue? Does it resonate with
your heart and make you feel open, excited and
ready for the next days adventure?
Then, overtime throughout the day, whenever you
feel anxious, sad, upset, unwanted or unlucky-
affirm to yourself "I am grateful to be alive"
" I am grateful for all the love I am able to
experience in this life"
Try it out, stick to it and see if anything
within you has changed after a week.
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GRATITUDE

When we write a daily gratitude list, we are

taking time and space to be grateful for our
existence and acknowledging that, for the most
time, we spend our life in a state of non-
gratitude. Gratitude lists can come in many
forms, I like to either take time out of each
day on the bus, at the beach, before bed and
fill out a page in my journal of bullet points
that say "I am grateful...."
Another way to do gratitude lists is by documenting
the three best things of each day. Before you go to
bed, set up a journal that has three dot points on
each page. Each page is a different day, you can get
"Sentence a day" books from a few stores on etsy,
kikki.k etc or just make your own! At the end of each
day, write down the three things that day that made
you the happiest, made you laugh or just feel good! I
did this style of gratitude list for 3 years, it
immensely improved my life!
 02 Grounding

Morning Routine

One of the worst feelings is waking up and

feeling empty, hopeless or just off. When I
have days like this, I like to force myself out
of bed in one way or another. I remember the
words of my friends' therapist and her advice
to set up a "sacred space" in the morning where
you can sit, chill out and come back into
yourself for a couple of hours. Here's how I
have a healthy, sacred and self care morning
routine:

- plan to do things ahead, so make plans the

night before whether they be a commitment to
meditate, go for a walk or see friends
- don't use your phone for the first 20 minutes
of the morning. How easy it truly is to sit on
your phone in bed for hours when you use it
first thing, when you have nothing else to do
or just when you feel generally drained. Put
your phone on airplane mode overnight
- take time out to make yourself a good
breakfast. I mean get creative, make restaurant
style presentation, follow some of those
youtube wieid smoothie bowl things, take time
to nourish yourself, eat every bite with love
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Morning Routine

- set up a sacred space. This is my personal

favourite. I like to bring out a mattress,
blankets, a heap of pillows outside and lie my
crystals, books, journals, laptop and a bunch
of flowers out over it. Use some palo santo to
cleanse the space then sit in sunny peace and
do whatever it is you feel like doing. Put on
your favourite relaxing music and chill out.
Give yourself time, space and forgiveness.
Allow yourself to slowly ease into feeling good
rather than forcing yourself to get up and make
a move
- If it's cold, you can still set up an indoor
altar at home. You can grab any items that you
feel a sacred connection to or any crystals,
books, statues, flowers etc and make it look
all pretty!
- call someone you love. If you are having one
of those days then call someone you love to
hear there voice. Tell them how you're feeling,
feel how good it feels to be loved.
- walk! Waking up and going walking is
something my grandma does everyday and I do a
few days too. It's nice to explore the world
just after dawn.
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GRATITUDE Affirmations
Here is an example of a gratitude list:

- Today I am grateful to exist

- I am grateful to be living in abundance
- I am grateful to be feeling free, liberated
and expansive
- I am grateful to be growing
- I am grateful to be finding a deeper love for
myself and the world
- I am grateful to feel joy and be able to tap
into feeling overwhelmingly happy at any point
- I am grateful to feel loved and supported
- I am grateful to love my skin and the body
I'm in
- I am grateful to be achieving my dreams
- I am grateful to have the courage to follow
passions
- I am grateful to be open to human connection
- I am grateful to be learning every day
- I am grateful to be working the job of my
dreams
- I am grateful to be improving my relationship
with my family
- I am grateful to be calm and patient
- I am grateful that I am able to remain my
calm self when I am triggered
- I am grateful to be surrounded by people I
love
- I am grateful to be healing
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Cleanse
Cleansing our space and ourselves is also so
important in self care and in welcoming
positive energy into our lives. Cleansing can
be found in many forms, the fundamentals of it
is a release of old energy that no longer
serves you. This can be done in so many ways so
take as much time and experimentation as you
need to figure out which works best for you,
here are some of my favourites:

- White sage. Pretty easy to get access to,

sage has been used for a long time to cleanse
"negative" energies and clear a space.
- Palo Santo (mexican "holy wood"), more subtle
than sage and my personal preference. Palo
santo feels gentle, warm and safe. Sage to me
can sometimes feel like an aggressive cleanse
of energy, taking out all good and bad
energies, whereas palo santo leaves the energy
in the space and kind of "smoothes" it in a
way. Brings peace and newfound calmness into a
space
- rearranging, decluttering and throwing away
old things.
- Have a good cry. It's so necessary to just
let yourself get super emotional and cry every
once in a while. Bottling emotions is not
healthy and we need to release them.
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Cleanse
- salt circles. Make a salt circle (never do
this in nature as salinity damages plant life
and the ecosystems. I like to use a little rug
so it's easy to clean) by drawing a ring of
salt crystals in a room. You can put candles in
the middle, crystals that call to you or any
other objects you find comforting. Before you
step into the circle, say all the things you
want to release or simply have the intention to
release any energies that do not serve you.
Step into the circle and take a few deep
breaths, sending gratitude to the whole body
- scream therapy. The literal BEST thing ever.
When in a safe space where you are not able to
be heard (e.g. car, late at night at the beach)
take a deep breath into all the anger stored in
your body. Take all the sadness, pain
everything and SCREAM IT THE FUCK OUT. You can
say words or just shriek like a banshee!! Might
hurt your throat a little but it feels so good
to release so much energy.
- Water. Ocean is number one. Salt water
completely cleanses your energetic body. Take
an ocean dip and feel the water lick at your
whole body, wash away all your troubles and
come out of the water feeling refreshed.
- shower. As you feel the hot water over your
body, feel your problems being pulled off by
the waterfall and picture them going down the
drain.
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Cleanse
- Bath. Run a hot bath. Take into it your
journal, maybe some crystals if you feel the
need, epsom salts if you like. As you bathe,
feel your problems melting into the hot water
and visualise them going down the drain as you
finish. Being in a bath has a similar effect to
being in a sauna. The heat and steam will open
up your pores and help your skin breathe. A
sauna is a nice option for cleansing too
- Fire. Make a bonfire and connect to it.
Imagine all your troubles and limiting beliefs
going up in flames. All that remains is smoke
that floats up into the stars. Alternatively,
write a long, long letter detailing your
"negative" feelings, thoughts or emotions. You
can also write to someone who has hurt you. Put
your whole soul into this letter then set it
alight. Watch the fire engulf your words. Watch
how warmth floods the paper and allows your
worries and problems to disintegrate into
nothingness. You feel lighter without them.
- Reiki and energetic healing. If you haven't
heard of this I highly suggest you look it up
- Meditation
- Yoga. Or just mindful stretching. Listen to
where your body wants moved. Feel the poses
opening up parts of you, releasing old stored
energy and welcoming new energy in
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Cleansing affirmations

Here are some examples of verbal and written

affirmations to help you release old energy and
patterns.

- I release all that no longer serves me

- I am devoted to the development of my self
- I release my heart from anything or anyone
who is keeping it closed
- I acknowledge past toxcitities but I do not
allow them to rule my present
- I forgive anyone who has ever wronged me and
I do not hold on to resentment, hatred or
revenge
- I forgive myself for anything I have done and
do not hold onto shame, guilt or regret
- I release myself from fear and anything that
stems from fear
- I understand that jealousy, possessiveness,
anger, sadness, disappointment, resentment and
any other "negative" feelings are all stemmed
from a lack of love. I vow to give myself this
love that I have been deprived of, so that I
may heal
- As I wash myself, I wash away my fear
- I am a phoenix who rises from the hellfire
- I allow phases in my life to end and begin as
they do. I do not hold on to anything longer
than it is necessary to stay in my life.
 02 Grounding

Cleansing affirmations

This last one is a spell for full moon

cleansing:

Gentle moon lend me light. Lend me strength to

win this fight
Wash my body gentle rain, cleanse my soul and
take my pain
Full moon ocean cleanse my wounds, for I will
heal and be renewed
 02 Grounding

Declutter
When we are around a large body of
water, we are relaxed, thoughtful
and fluid. At work we may be tense,
motivated and energised. Similarly,
the energy of our home space can
affect our moods more than we know.
Doing a "spring clean", decluttering, opting
for a minimalist approach to our rooms and
homes or just tidying up a bit can instantly
put us at ease and satisfaction.

I personally like to completely redecorate or

"cleanse" my room when I feel that I am
struggling. We all hoard so much stuff, which
in turn leaves a whole lot of old energy lying
around our spaces. By moving around old
furniture and doing a cull of old items, we
acknowledge parts of our past that no longer
serve us and call in new energy into our
spaces. We are left feeling refreshed and
light.

Another tip is to have more indoor plants in

your room. Not only do they freshen the air,
these plants are a good indicator of how well
you are taking time to take care of yourself.
Add watering and caring for your plants into
your self care routine, then if the plants seem
to be becoming dry, you can tell that you have
not taken the time to care for yourself enough.
 02 Grounding

Deer Woman

Deer woman
you have been taught
your skin must stretch
a thin layer over bone
with tenderness in your breast
succulence in your hips
so the gaze of unawakened men
may linger on your lips

Deer woman
you have been taught
to shape your curves
as an hourglass
and that your beauty
is equally as short lived
as the sand that falls
at your feet
for no man could love
the wrinkles of wisdom
and the arched back of
adversities conquered

Deer woman
you have been taught
that your voice is timid
polite and agreeable
that your duty is to look pretty
stay quiet
serve others
and remain in the shadows
 02 Grounding

Deer Woman

My dear, little do they know

that the soul of woman
comes from the howling of wolves
and that we have lived
through many moons
harbouring this oppression
from an unawakened society

Dear woman
let yourself
howl
let yourself
feel freedom
and liberation
from a society
that has taught you
shame
isolation
and abuse

Dear woman, you are a wild thing not a play

thing

Deer woman, you are not fawn but fox

not deer but wolf

Do not let them hunt or cage you again.

 02 Grounding

Meditation

Meditation is by far the most expansive,

transformational and beautiful practice you can
tap into and learn along your journey here on
earth. Meditation is not just quieting the
mind, meditation can take you so far into
yourself you feel like you are unfolding into
existence itself. Meditation allows you to see
into your past and heal old wounds, it allows
you to embody the present and live in nowness
and oneness with all, it allows you to feel
calm and expansive and it brings to you a sense
of wisdom.

A lot of people nowadays say they "can't

meditate" and I, for one, used to use that
phrase an awful lot! But meditation is
something you need to allow yourself to
experience. It's hard to explain but you will
not reach a meditative state with all these
unrealistic expectations and pressures put unto
yourself by a worried or anxious mind.
I'm going to use the next few pages to really
go in deep and explain to you a few different
mediation styles I like, there are so many
techniques and guided meditations to choose
from, so don't give up! There will be one out
there that is just perfect for you.
 02 Grounding

Meditation

The first technique in meditation that helped

me along my journey was one that I learned on a
meditation and yin yoga retreat. If you ever
have the opportunity to go on a retreat, I
would HIGHLY recommend it, this retreat turned
my life around from a depressive state into
loving awareness.

So the technique is to get into a comfortable seated

position (I use a pillow to sit on so my legs fall
cross legged and my back is straight).
Take deep, slow breaths into the heart space, feel
your heart growing and expanding with each breath in,
at the top and bottom of the breath, hold it for
about half a second before you take the next breath
cycle. With each breath, count up. Start at one and
then go to seven. When you get to seven, start again
at one and then go to 14. Then start again and go to
21 and so on. The idea is that we are focused on the
counting and therefore the normal day to day chatter
of our brain is slowed down. If we forget the cycle
we are on, or forget which number we are up to, we
start right back at the start 1-7 and start the whole
cycle again. There is no shame in forgetting a
number, it is just an indication that your mind was
drifting away from the concentration technique.

When I get to 28, I like to let the cycle go and

focus on breathing into my heart and opening it up,
observing any thoughts and letting them go.
 02 Grounding

Meditation

A second technique that I love is the "fire of

the heart". It is a concentration technique
that allows your awareness to rest in the heart
space rather than in your mind, this means we
are listening to our hearts over the chatter in
our heads. We are allowing our hearts to feel
expansive and open.
To do this technique, get yourself into
meditative position, close your eyes and slow
your breath.
Envision a small pile of coals in your heart,
at the bottom of your breath. With each breath
in, the air kisses these embers so that they
glow deep orange and splutter small flicks of
light. As you keep breathing, the air fills
these coals with light that endures.
Eventually, the air from your breath will
ignite the coals and a small flame will appear.
This flame will flicker and dim with each out
breath, but with each in breath it grows
stronger and hotter within your heart.
Let this technique go when your fire is burning
through your entire body. The flame is warm
and made of light, you feel expansive and open
hearted. You feel filled with love.
 02 Grounding

Meditation
The third technique I like to use is a
grounding meditation. As someone who does not
have a lot of earthiness to my personality, I
find it very hard to feel grounded, stable and
"on earth". I'm very floaty as a person so this
meditation makes my feet feel firmly placed on
earth.
Get yourself into meditative position outside in the
grass or in any nature space, close your eyes and
breathe slowly into your heart space. As you begin to
go into meditation, start to feel a subtle vibration
below your seated body. This vibration is lapping up
at your thighs and lower back, it is motherly, loving
and earthly. The vibration feels like an energetic
tingle, it grows towards your back. Gaias energy
flows to reach up through your legs, arms and back to
your head and minds eye. When you feel the whole of
your body connected with earth energy, begin to feel
roots sprouting from your lower back, just at the
base of your spine. These roots are slow and thirsty,
they travel down your back into the earths surface.
They travel along the surface and eventually pierce
the earths skin, searching down further for
nourishment and soil and water. The roots travel
about a metre down into the earths surface. Then you
notice how they feel. Feel your body and yourself
firmly rooted within the earths surface, feel the
intense loving energy flowing up from these roots
into your heart, root chakra and minds eye. Feel this
energy as safety, grounding and balanced energy.
 02 Grounding

Meditation

If these meditation techniques do not work for

you, don't fret! Perhaps you are only at the
beginning of your meditative journey and
perhaps need to tip your toes in before you
dive headfirst into murky waters.
Lucky there are so many resources to help you!

Here's a great way to get started:

Guided meditations. These can be found

EVERYWHERE, you can search up on youtube
"guided meditation for ..." and heaps of
gorgeous meditations will pop up!
Buddhist centres, yoga centres and
consciousness centres also run meditation
classes, which are worth a try and mostly
free! Headspace and other apps have heaps of
good meditation resources and guided
meditations to help you!
 02 Grounding

You

You hold the power of the universe inside of

yourself

Reach in
Burn your hands in the golden light

Radiate outwards
so others may shine in your rays

You are your own saviour

You are your own healer
You are your own god
You are your only reality
So make it count today
and every day

Excerpt of "You" from my book Chrysalis

 Chapter three
CONSCIOUS JOURNAL

I understand and listen to myself in order to heal

 03 Conscious Journalling

Intro
In my own personal journey, journalling is
singlehandedly what has catapulted me in
deepening my connection, self love and
awareness of self. More so than meditation,
yoga and any other self care practices
combined.
We spend a lot of our adolescence floating
about not really having a solid foundation of
who we are and what we believe in, this is
where, I believe, a lot of insecurity and
instability stems from as we do not have a
solid and supporting foundation to build our
house on.

Why Journal?
Journalling solidifies ideas in your mind such as
affirmations and positive thoughts.
Journalling opens the portal of creative expression
by using words to transport you into different
dimensions and create your own versions of reality.
Journalling allows you to more deeply uncover and
understand yourself. It allows you to unfold into
writing and gives you solid evidence to look back on
your personal growth.
Journalling is more strong than verbal affirmations.
You think, write and solidify your thoughts that you
want to manifest.
Journalling allows you to process and release your
emotions.
 03 Conscious Journalling

Love Letters

Love letters is all about journalling to

welcome in more love into your life. Love of
self, admiration of self and joy inside self.

LOVE LETTERS #1

If you were someone else talking to yourself,

what advice would you give?

If you were trying to help this person find

more self love, joy and contentment in life,
what would you tell them?
 03 Conscious Journalling

Love Letters

LOVE LETTERS #2

What are your strengths? Write down 5 parts of

yourself that you admire.

What is your authentic truth? What are you good

at that other people admire about you? Are you
an artist? Do you feel deeply? Are you
compassionate? Are you loyal?
Everyone has something special to them. What is
it that makes your soul shine brighter?
 03 Conscious Journalling

Love Letters

LOVE LETTERS #3

Where do you feel most confident? How do you

feel when you experience confidence- is it in
one part of your body or is it in various
areas? How often do you feel confident? What is
it that sparks confidence in your material
world? Do you feel confident in your physical
body as well as your sense of self?

What can you do to water this feeling of

confidence? How can you welcome more confidence
into your life and daily routines?
 03 Conscious Journalling

Love Letters

LOVE LETTERS #4

Do you allow yourself to express yourself

authentically and without limitation? Do you
reinvent yourself to try to please others? Do
you love yourself unconditionally? How can you
welcome more self love into your life? How can
you live more in line with you true self and
values?
 03 Conscious Journalling

Love Letters

LOVE LETTERS #5

Take a few pages of your journal to write

yourself a love letter.

This could be from the perspective of an

outsider seeing you for the first time like a
character in a novel or a letter from your
future self to your past self, even a letter to
your future self or your self now. Take time to
go into detail. Take time to worship your
being, so send love and unconditional healing
to yourself.

An example of mine is found on the next few

pages.
 03 Conscious Journalling

Love Letters
Example of a love letter

She glided over the concrete with barefoot

rarely kissing lower than necessary to stay
afloat. Surrounded by a mist of marching men
she seemed of faery kind, every stride moved as
though an eternal song of birds and gospel rung
in her dainty ears.

The air smelled of lavender and coconut with

each wisp of a circling limb. In her eyes you
saw a delicate ferocity. An open book, a
walking oxymoron, filled to the brim with
oxytocin. On first glance, she was light and
whimsical, though one look a little deeper into
her red molten eyes was fear and freedom and
blood and tenacity and god damned perseverance.

She was enchanting and not in the lightheaded

variety. For in he sunflower mind lay a quiet power.
A gentle string, a subtle look that mean she always
knew a few steps further than your short sight
allowed you to see. As if she had the voice of a
siren but chose to always keep things quiet.
 03 Conscious Journalling

Love Letters
Example of a love letter

Iron gates and chainmail surrounded the motes

of her tender heart. So pure and filled with
love that she bubbled over and stamped a smile
on any strangers frown. She felt like the fist
kiss of dawn. 4:44am on a friday where the
mudlarks, cockatoos and kookaburras make their
kooky chants to lull you into soft reality. She
was gentle rosy skies. The first brushstroke of
orange sun over mountainous horizon.
It was as if she was reminding you of light at
the end of a harrowing road.

Beneath her petaled exterior, you could tell

her feet had walked over lava and coals.
Blistered, bloodied and bandaged you admired
her strength. It was hard to discern which side
to her you loved more. Her full moon fierceness
or sunshine softness. No matter what, she
stirred a sense of curiosity within you. You
wanted to know her, but you didn't want to get
too close.
 03 Conscious Journalling

Love Letters

Example of a love letter

Perhaps for fear or the foresight that she

would never be what you dreamed. She would
leave you high and dry, chasing bow and ancient
arrow into the sunset. So that in another
places winter, she could always be persephone
who brings the harvest and freyja who helps the
fallen find heaven again
 03 Conscious Journalling

Welcoming Joy

Welcoming Joy is about giving gratitude to the

parts of life that go unnoticed by the
unconscious mind. Finding love in places we
have never looked before and feeling joyous to
know that we are alive and experiencing

Welcoming joy #1

Write down a list of 11 things that never fail to

make you smile. They could be anywhere from moss
growing in concrete to the laugh of a friend to your
favourite tv show. Write them down, how can you bring
more of these things into your life?
 02 Conscious Journalling

Welcoming Joy

Welcoming Joy #2

Go to the park or a place with some nature. Try

and connect with the space, take a seat and
take some deep breaths. Write down:

5 beautiful things you can see

4 beautiful things you can touch
3 beautiful things you can hear
2 beautiful things you can smell

After you have written these down, say "I am

grateful to be experiencing beautiful things
every day. I am grateful to be alive and happy
to be learning love again"

Then poke your tongue out and grin at the sky!

 02 Conscious Journalling

Welcoming Joy

Welcoming joy #3

How does joy feel within you? Where is it

centred in your body? If you tap into this
feeling without external provocation, do you
still feel the same level of joy? Is joy for
you internally acquired or externally given?
 02 Conscious Journalling

Welcoming Joy

Welcoming joy #4

Does your space at home spark joy (come thru marie

condo)? What would make you feel safer and happier in
your home? How can you bring this into effect?
 02 Conscious Journalling

Welcoming Joy

Welcoming joy #5

What does freedom feel like for you? How do you

feel freedom within yourself? Do you experience
this feeling often? How can you change your
life to bring in more liberation and more
feeling of freedom?
 02 Conscious Journalling

Releasing

Releasing is about conciously identifying where

we hold toxcitities and allowing ourselves to
release them and let go.

Releasing #1

Where do you hold onto past toxicity? Do you

hold onto blame, guilt, fear, anger,
resentment, regret or sadness with any
situation or person from your past? What or who
do you want to cut chords with?
 02 Conscious Journalling

Releasing

Releasing negative patterns #2

Judgements

The judgements we place reveal more about

ourselves than others.Judgment gives clues as
to what we need to heal within ourselves.
E.g. I used to judge others who expressed
themselves, freely, fully and truly. I learned that
this was because I did not feel that I was able to
live my authentic truth.
When I healed this, the judgements ceased.

In your journal today reflect on this:

Where do you judge others most? What kinds of people

do you place judgements on the most? What does this
judgement say about yourself? What do you need to
heal?
 02 Conscious Journalling

Releasing

Releasing #3

What activities do you physically do that make

you feel bad? What thought patterns do you have
that make you feel bad? Where do you feel
unloved? What makes you feel unappreciated?
What makes you feel inadequate? How can you
transform these thoughts and activities into
time spent loving yourself?
 02 Conscious Journalling

Releasing

Releasing #4

Write a letter to anyone who has ever wronged

you, hurt you or taken you for granted. Write
this letter and let the deepest parts of your
soul bleed onto the page. Be honest with
yourself. Be honest what you still hold onto.
Write down everything. Those you loved, those
you hated, those you still hold close to your
heart.
Once you feel like you have written enough,
scrunch the paper up and place in a safe
ceramic bowl or pot. Light the paper on fire
and watch this letter and all of your
resentment float into the air like the smoke.
When only ash remains, wash it down the drain
or into the ocean.

After it is done, write something like this:

"I release myself from bonds I have with the

past"
"I forgive everyone who has ever hurt me"
 02 Conscious Journalling

Releasing

Releasing #5

Full moon/ new moon journalling

Journalling with the moon cycles is an

incredibly powerful activity. Even if we do not
believe in the power of the moon phases, this
structure sets us up for realistic
goal/intention setting and also gives us space
to release any old energy that no longer serves
us.

Every New moon, write down intentions that you

have for the coming cycle. Write down emotions,
energies and physical things you want more of
for the next month.

Every full moon, write down a big list of all

the things you don't want to carry with you.
Carry the intention to release these from your
life. These could be people, thought patterns,
energies, emotions and beliefs.

Your mind is like a divine suitcase, only put in it

what you want to take on your next journey.
Chapter four
LOVE

I am open to receiving love.

 04 Love

Your choice
More often than not we do not experience love
because we do not allow ourselves to. This
could be because we fear human connection due
to past trauma, because we don't believe we are
worthy of love because we don't love ourselves
or because we are afraid to experience
something new.
Whatever it is, know that the only thing in the
way of you and love, between you and your
wildest dreams, is the person who sees you in
the mirror.

Once we begin to realise that we create our

reality, the world shifts. We can consciously
choose to create the life we desire or we can
choose to live in fear and repeat our cycles
and patterns all over again.

Know that every moment of your life you are

presented with a choice:
live through the eyes of love
or
live through the eyes of fear

The latter may feel comfortable to you, for

that is where you have been programmed to be,
but learning to live in love is life changing
for the better. It's liberating, exhilarating
and joyous. It may be hard at times,
particularly in the beginning but love is the
answer to a lot of the worlds problems.

Choose wisely
 04 Love

Faith > Hope

Hope is a mindset that is based in fear. In

hope we wish that something turn out a certain
way because we are afraid of what will happen
without it. Hope is being attached to a future
that has not yet arrived, therefore being
attached to illusion. Hope is a false sense of
security and only creates uneasiness within the
self

Faith is the absolute trust in the universe

that no matter how things turn out, you will
get what it is you desire. While hope is rooted
in fear, faith is rooted in love. Faith is
trust, it is openness to receive love and it is
what we should put our hearts in rather than
hope.

You may hope that after this small book you

will have deepened your self love and
connection to self
Or you could have faith that even if this
doesn't work for you, your intention to love
yourself more will manifest in its divine
timing
 04 Love

Faith > Hope

Faith is a tricky art to master, I for one am

only beginning to be able to get used to it.
Hope requires the upmost level of trust that the
universe loves you and has your deepest dreams and
desires at the forefront of fate and the way events
in your life play out.

I like to think of it in the form of this story:

Say you are travelling along a beautiful coastal

road. You are winding through hills and mountains and
are surrounded with incredible sights everywhere you
look. You reach a point in the road where there is a
road block, indicating the next stretch of gorgeous
coastline is no longer accessible due to dangers of
cliff erosion. Disgruntled, you make your slow detour
through the forest.
Now it may seem like you have to drive an extra 40
minutes to reach the beach you want to go to so
desperately, but along this forest journey you
realise that this, too is beautiful. The old trees
create a heavenly arch over the road and their tall
barked bodies seem to be angels watching over you.
The sunlight through the trees rains down on your car
and you feel grateful to have been taken along this
route.
Then the car breaks down.
 04 Love

Faith > Hope

Just when you thought things were getting

better, the car makes life complicated once
again. You call someone to come repair the car
and they inform you that it will take up to an
hour.
Now you're an hour and 40 minutes past when you
wanted to be at the beach.
You see a little hiking trail to the left and decide
to wander in the meantime. The path is poorly built
and reasonably untouched. Your body is sore by the
time you reach it: the most colossal waterfall you
have ever seen. It reaches almost as tall as the
trees and rainbows shoot out of the water like
thousands of heavenly clouds were rolling down the
expanse.
You breathe it all in.
All of a sudden you're grateful for the road block
grateful for the hour detour
grateful for the strenuous hike
even grateful for the car breaking down

for although you didn't realise it then,

the universe had a more beautiful path in store for
you
and if all that hardship had not occured
you would not be able to witness the beauty and
magnitude of this waterfall.
 04 Love

Faith > Hope

This is why we must have faith. For life gives

us roadblocks constantly. It is full of ups and
downs. We must remember that the downs are what
make the ups so damn special.
Faith is the knowledge that even when things
don't seem to be working out for you,
you know they are.
Faith is the knowledge of divine timing
and that everything happens for a reason.
 04 Love

lifting limits

Life becomes paradise on earth when we train

ourselves to live through the eyes of love
rather than the eyes of fear.
All limitations that you have are created
within the confines of your own mind.
We are born in a state of natural abundance. A
child that has not yet learned to live through
fear is in a constant state of wonder.
Everything is beautiful and exciting and
adventurous through the childs eyes.
We create the boxes in which we mould ourselves
to fit. We are all the creators of our own
experience.
By believing otherwise, we form a disconnect between
consciousness/heart and the ego/mind. This leads to
disharmony in all aspects of our manifested
existence. We are constantly at war with ourselves.
We fear what our hearts truly want because we've
never truly felt like we have deserved it, or perhaps
because we fear that if we go after it, we will never
get it. What we do not realise a lot of the time is
that these fears are furthering ourselves from our
dreams.
 04 Love

lifting limits

Similarly to how there is complete harmony and

equilibrium in uninterrupted nature, there is
this same equilibrium within each of us.
However, this equilibrium is easily thrown out
of balance when there is an excess of ego/self
other than unity/oneness. Now, ego is not evil.
Ego facilitates our existence as humans, but
when there is a severe imbalance between the
ego/spirit we experience an excess of selfish
behaviour, greed, anger and other "negative"
emotions.
When ego/self is in excess, the world from our
perspective begins to be imperfect. We are
constantly trying to fulfil our insatiable
needs. We are greedy and fearful.
We are trying to fill holes with outer worldly
things whereas if we were to practice
mindfulness we would learn that we have all the
tools within ourselves. When we live in
harmony- we have no day-to-day fight or flight
fear plaguing our lives.
 04 Love

lifting limits
Next time you notice yourself looking at the
world through the eyes of fear, try to take a
step back into love.
Everyone has their own tricks to try and
maintain the state of loving awareness.
Personally I just breathe in deep breaths and
look up towards the sky. I feel sunlight
kissing my skin and envision the endless blue
sky as if it is stemming from my being. I am
infinite, I am big and blue and open. Nothing
separates me from the stars.

I also like to remember this: we are all here

by the smallest, slimmest of chances. Not just
you, but all of us. This galaxy is here by some
random explosion of fate. This earth is here by
some random explosion of fate and the
culmination of floating rocks in space. Life is
here through some random explosion of fate and
the culmination of floating rocks in space and
the odd chance that bacteria managed to grow
and evolve into human organisms.
You're here by so many random factors, your
parents being born, living their lives and
eventually crossing over into each others to
conceive you.
You're still here by god knows how many
miracles.
You are a miracle.
You deserve all you desire
You deserve infinite unconditional love.
 04 Love

Allowance
Allowing everything to be as it is. This is a
practice stemmed from allowance within deep
meditative states.
When we try to control our realities, we get
disappointed when things do not happen as we
want them to. We feel let down, abandoned,
angry and frustrated.
The practice of allowance can be implemented
throughout day to day life. It involves being
conscious of when we are triggered into being
angry or frustrated, becoming more mindful of
this and learning to accept whatever happened
as a part of reality.
For example, if I was going out for coffee and
they accidentally served me a coffee with cows
milk (not ideal for vegans lol), part of me
would be quite upset at this. I would feel let
down and admittedly, a little disgusted,
especially if I took a sip.
The practice of allowance is realising that
unexpected events and disappointing events
happen all the time, it's a part of the human
experience.
At the coffee shop, I would focus on taking a
few deep breaths, realising that this
triggering event was an opportunity to grow. I
would then, rather than complaining, through a
deeper understanding of allowance, be kind to
the servers, rather than hostile.
 04 Love

Allowance
Allowance also applies to emotions and deeper
ways of experiencing rather than just coffee
shop mix ups.
Think of the last time you were in a rut. Did
you further yourself into the rut by growing
increasingly frustrated at yourself by being in
the rut in the first place?
Most likely yes.
This is called resistance. When we experience
stagnation of negative emotional energy, it is
because we are not allowing ourselves to feel
these emotions because we have labelled them as
"bad". Please note that a vast part of our
lives are going to be "negative" and it is
about using these "negative" emotions,
situations and feelings as opportunities to
grow rather than resisting them and fighting
them.
Allowance means we accept all our emotions when
they arise. We send them love and sit with them
until they, like emotions always do, pass. If
we resist them constantly like we have been
programmed to do so, these emotions will only
bottle up inside of ourselves and come to
surface another time 10x stronger.

Allow yourself to cry, feel depressed, anxious,

sad, guilty, shameful, empty, alone, stagnant.
Then figure out what it is that you are to
learn from these emotions.
 04 Love

Source

Source energy is difficult to describe. Source

energy can be found within you, within all
things. It is what some would describe when
they tell you they "found god".
It feels like you're holding hands with
yourself. It feels like you're a child again,
filled with infinite joy and curiosity and mere
zeal for life.
Source is your heartbeat. It is universal life
force. It is gaian energy and it beats within
all of us. So.. how do we connect to this?

It is a different journey for all of us. For

some it may require deep intense mediation and
serious self work, others stumble upon it
accidentally (like me), then lose it during a
dark night of the soul. Here are some things
that (I believe) may help awaken source energy
within you and bring you closer to that feeling
of expansion and infinite joy.
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Source

INNER CHILD WORK

Within each of us, there is something called
our "inner child". We consider this as the part
of ourself that has not truly grown up. This
inner child sees the world through childlike
joy, wonder and curiosity. They love play and
make pretend, they love to run, dance, sing and
be SILLY!
Connecting more with our inner child is
essential to reconnect with source energy.
Giving ourselves the space to escape from fight
or flight stresses of society and become
absorbed within childlike play is so vital. We
must give ourselves the time to play, explore,
dance, sing, laugh and be silly. Life isn't all
serious, letting in something a little more
inventive and interesting will help us all.

GAIA TIME
This one is a given. Time spent in nature is
time spent reconnecting to our true essence. In
current society, more and more people are being
diagnosed with a condition known as "Nature
deficit disorder" which directly relates
symptoms of anxiety, depression and stress to a
lack of quality time spent detoxing and
relaxing in nature.
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Source
GAIA TIME
When we are immersed in nature, it takes us
approx 3 days to completely reset into our
natural rhythms of breathing. When in the city,
our breathing is shallow and our state of
awareness is constantly alert. This is all
natural, but we need to be taking time to
connect with nature. Not near any national
parks? Don't stress at all, connecting with
nature can be made very simple. You can walk
barefoot,visit a park, birdwatch, touch
flowers, stare at the sky, touch a tree or
anything that gets you out of the matrix and
connecting with the real natural world!

MEDITATION
Deep meditative practices help us align with our
source energy and show us how to reconnect with .
ourselves. Our true, infinite, higher selves.

ART
Any form of art allows us to practice expression. It
allows us to explore ourselves, therefore deepening
our connection to self and becoming closer to source
energy. Craft also helps connect us to inner child
energy.

DEEP GRATITUDE
Gratitude is the foundation to being content with
the allowance of life and the mindset of abundance.
It is the foundation of joy and the law of
attraction. Being grateful is everything
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Law of attraction
The law of attraction is definitely widely
talked about over the internet sphere but I
felt I needed to include a little brief snippet
on this in this book.
The law of attraction is based n the premise of
"like attracts like" or the universal laws of
karma "what you give out is what comes back" .
It tells us that we are the creators of our own
realities and that we have the ability to
shape, change and improve our lives just by
changing our mindset.
The law of attraction only works with a few
steps:
Set your intention, e.g.. I want to be able to
love myself.
When manifesting and setting intentions, it's
important to feel a deep sense of gratitude
swelling up from within you to greet this
intention with love. This love will travel with
the intention out into the world. Phrase the
intention in the present tense, feel grateful
that you have this already. Make sure you don't
allow yourself to speak from a place of "lack".
ie. in order for the law of attraction to work,
every part of you has to believe that a) it is
possible to achieve this b) you are worthy of
achieving this and c) you will, without any
reasonable doubt, be able to manifest this into
existence.
Without going too in depth with this, I would
recommend that you read books on the law of
attraction, or search up videos on youtube.
There are a heap of great resources out there!
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human connection

Human connection is so rare, special and pure

that we mustn't keep shutting ourselves off
from it. Particularly in this world, in the age
off aquarius and social media and exponential
growth, we often close ourselves off from
others. Be it friends, potential lovers or
family. We close ourselves off because we feel
misunderstood or to prevent ourselves from
getting hurt like we have before.
Being closed like this is all good and well and
yes will protect you for a period of time BUT
one of the most beautiful things to experience
is genuine human connection. Feeling someones
words, vibe or soul flooding into yours like
you finally feel home, understood and heard.
It's like you never have to translate yourself
because they just get you.
So, we musn't be afraid of opening up.
For these people only come into our lives when
we are embodying our true selves and living
with vulnerability, transparency and honesty.
The more we reveal our soul to others (no
matter how scary it is), the faster we will be
able to shift through the fakes and phonies and
the real people that are meant to be in your
life will shine through like a beautiful
amethyst.
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the here and now

The here and now is the infinite space in which

you occupy between life and death. Between past
and future.
Being able to be centred and whole in the
present moment is a fine art that takes a lot
of hard work at first, then a lot of
maintenance following that.
In the present, there is nothing but
unconditional love.
There are a number of books that may help you
understand the concept of "nowness" more than
I, such as "The power of now" by Eckhart Tolle
and "Be here now" by ram dass!

By experiencing and allowing ourselves to

experience reality from a point of "nowness" we
accept the present moment as the only version
of reality that exists. All anxieties are
thoughts that do not exist in the present and
are looking into the future, leading ourselves
to be worried and stressed over something that
is not happening to us.
Our sadness and reminiscence are our thoughts
leading us back into the past. It is a
beautiful thing to occasionally reflect on the
past and on how far you have come, but an
excess of living in the past forces us into
stagnation and doesn't allow us to grow into
our highest potential.
The now does not hold much space for thoughts.
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the here and now

When we think, we go into our heads, thus distracting

us from all the beauty that is happening in our
present moment. Nowness and awareness is the art of
being aware of your thoughts, but letting them come
into your head and leave your head like clouds
eclipsing the sun on a windy day. Practicing nowness
requires us to pause and spend as much time in the
present moment as possible. This means being aware
when we are thinking towards the past/future and also
being aware when our thoughts are carrying us out of
reality. The more we think, the less grounded we
become.
Wholeness, completeness and peace all come from
being able to feel grounded and content in the
present moment. Each moment is infinite, we
can't experience the end of a moment because
all moments are constantly beginning,
experiencing and ending simultaneously on an
infinite loop. There is no fear in the present,
it cannot exist. Love is what rules the present
moment if we focus on it. Allow yourself to
really experience each moment as it comes, feel
the joy of each passing breath and allow
yourself to send love and gratitude to the
world for holding you here.

I really would recommend reading those books, they

have opened my mind and so many others to a
perspective of contentedness and inner peace.
 THANK YOU

Thank you so much for supporting me and for reading this little
piece of love. I really hope it has served you and brought you a
closer, deeper and more loving connection to yourself and the world.
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The earth is a magick place if we allow ourselves to see it,

all my love

Freya x