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Divorce

Why DIVORCE shouldn't be legalized in the Philippines

Divorce or dissolution of marriage is the ending of a marriage before the death of either spouse.

Divorce by definition divorce is a legislatively created, judicially administered process that legally
terminates a marriage no longer considered viable by one or both of the spouses. Divorce is also
known as dissolution of marriage. Traditionally, divorce was fault based. In other words, there was
an "innocent or injured" party and a party that had done "wrong" with the "innocent" party being
able to obtain relief or a divorce. This system was adversarial in nature. Even if both parties wanted
a divorce, one party had to allege wrongdoing by the other. In the 1970's this system was reformed
and a "no fault" system was put in place.

It is not the answer to the growing violence against women and children. Most divorce advocates
gives emphasis on the growing children and women abuse. It is not a solution for these problems. In
fact it extends to the growing problem of immorality and sexually related diseases and problems
such as unwanted pregnancies and sexually related diseases. These problems are a threat to
women, children and even family. Simply because people were given the so-called choice and
chance to change while the fact is, it is where the so-called "rights" is abused. It is where many
people make use of the right and abuse it for their own self-centered selfish quest for happiness
and will only bring them to the same situation again and again and again. That's why you will see
people divorced not just once, nor twice, but multiple times.

It gives a wider path to domestic problems. This right has proven to be easily abused. And we are
not actually giving people a solution to their problems, but a chance to repeat the same mistakes.
Divorce is like a medicine... but not a recommended one. For example, there is an abusive husband
who have been divorced by his wife. This husband will then just look for another woman to abuse.
While the woman if she's the one having some problems, she will just look for another guy and if
things will not get well, all she has to do is to apply again for divorce. It is just a picture of FREEDOM
TO TRY MARRIAGE.

It gives a wider path for immorality and marital infidelity. Greatest example is the US. Did the stats
of violence against women and children dropped by the use of divorce law? We talk much about the
positive things that we can get from the divorce law, while the negative effects far outweighs the
positive.

It degrades the value of marriage. One of the reasons is that if you make divorce an option for the
couple, most of them who are not in a good marriage as of the moment will go for divorce. By
making it an option, you are encouraging people to go on their separate ways rather than trying to
work it out first. You ruin the sanctity and value of marriage when you give options to easily break it
apart.

• The problem is women and children are constantly getting abused, so if that is the case, will
separation be enough? I believe if we really want to end the problem regarding abuses, we should
rather penalize the wrong actions. But most of all, uplifting morals and values would be the long
term key towards this problem.

Divorce and annulment are both legal procedures designed to dissolve a marriage. However, a
divorce ends a marriage and an annulment voids the original marriage contract, so it's as if the
marriage never occurred. Either a divorce or an annulment still requires you to address issues of
property division, spousal support and child custody. One of the differences between annulment
and divorce is a matter of semantics: You are technically "unmarried" or "single" if you get an
annulment but you are "divorced" if you get a divorce.

Technically speaking, divorce by definition nullifies marriage. It defeats the purpose of getting
married. In a wider sense, divorce shouldn't be legalized because there is annulment it is enough if
marriage is not working between the couple. Divorce would be the primary hindrance in promoting
family values.

Some say divorce is needed when couples have a conflict and need "freedom". This is not at all
what marriage is for. With marriage, mind you, it is a RELIGIOUS CELEBRATION, eliminating the
religious act but emphasizing the VOW and agreement made by two mutual parties, you vow before
everyone there that you will take them "for better or worse, in sickness and in health, and til death
do you part". It says until death do you part, not til your first fight gets you angry.

On Right of humanity. Yes everybody has the right to choose. But freedom isn't absolute. If we
follow the thought that we have the freedom to choose in a wrong context, everybody should have
the right to do whatever they want just because of right of humanity?

"Incompatibility" is not a valid reason in getting a divorce. That is why you have a dating period and
an engagement period before you get married. Dating can range from several months to several
years, and an engagement is usually about 9 months. This is plenty of time to figure out if the two of
you are compatible or not. Granted you will not know every aspect about this person in this time,
but, you will NEVER know everything about your spouse.

EDUCATION and NOT DIVORCE. Education can give them knowledge, while divorce can only give
them to options, to divorce or not. Education opens up their mind, while Divorce "locks" their mind
with the thought that, "At any moment, I can divorce my spouse". IS BREAKING SOMETHING A
SOLUTION? Divorce breaks marriage, it DOES NOT HELP. We can give them A LOT OF OPTIONS,
But please, DO NOT INCLUDE DIVORCE, FOR IT WILL REALLY DESTROY THE SENSE OF FAMILY
AND OF MARRIAGE AND EVEN IN THE SOCIETY. And since, by the way, we can offer them a lot of
solutions, it means, they have the freedom to choose.

• It can be true that "Divorce" is a solution, but, what will it bring to the family? With the Filipino
quote, "There is always a solution for the willing and reason for those who give up and unwilling" I
can say that Divorce is NOT a SOLUTION, rather, a REASON.

It is not the answer to the growing violence against women and children. Most divorce advocates
gives emphasis on the growing children and women abuse. It is not a solution for these problems. In
fact it extends to the growing problem of immorality and sexually related diseases and problems
such as unwanted pregnancies and sexually related diseases. These problems are a threat to
women, children and even family. Simply because people were given the so-called choice and
chance to change while the fact is, it is where the so-called "rights" is abused. It is where many
people make use of the right and abuse it for their own self-centered selfish quest for happiness
and will only bring them to the same situation again and again and again. That's why you will see
people divorced not just once, nor twice, but multiple times.

It gives a wider path to domestic problems. This right has proven to be easily abused. And we are
not actually giving people a solution to their problems, but a chance to repeat the same mistakes.
Divorce is like a medicine... but not a recommended one. For example, there is an abusive husband
who have been divorced by his wife. This husband will then just look for another woman to abuse.
While the woman if she's the one having some problems, she will just look for another guy and if
things will not get well, all she has to do is to apply again for divorce. is just a picture of FREEDOM
TO TRY MARRIAGE.

It gives a wider path for immorality and marital infidelity. Greatest example is the US. Did the stats
of violence against women and children dropped by the use of divorce law? We talk much about the
positive things that we can get from the divorce law, while the negative effects far outweighs the
positive.

It degrades the value of marriage. One of the reasons is that if you make divorce an option for the
couple, most of them who are not in a good marriage as of the moment will go for divorce. By
making it an option, you are encouraging people to go on their separate ways rather than trying to
work it out first. You ruin the sanctity and value of marriage when you give options to easily break it
apart.
The problem is women and children are constantly getting abused, so if that is the case, will
separation be enough? I believe if we really want to end the problem regarding abuses, we should
rather penalize the wrong actions. But most of all, uplifting morals and values would be the long
term key towards this problem.