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QUANTUM
LIVING

How to master your health, wealth, and

happiness... the simplest way.

SAM ROSSI & ANDRA PICKENS

 Quantum
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Forward from Andra

“In life, there are few things that are ever certain.”

This is a phrase that you hear many people say.

They say it because it brings comfort to them when they

don’t know how to explain what’s going on in their
experience.

This idea alone has caused a lot of confusion and suffering,

and it limits us in ways you cannot imagine.

It is not that there is nothing in life that is certain; rather,

why does anything need to be certain at all?

Why do we want certainty in our lives?

The idea alone creates predictability, and predictability

may as well be a synonym for “limitation.”

If you’re reading this book, it’s because there is something

deep inside of you that is saying, “this needs to change.”

It’s telling you that you are sick of predictability, sick of

living the same day, week, month, and year over and over
again.

You want more out of your life than just the things you’ve
been promised, and you want so much more of it that you
really don’t know what exactly it is you want more of.
In the past year, we (myself and Sam) have seen and helped
many people change their entire outlooks on their lives and
their experiences, beyond what they could have ever
predicted.

Beyond what we could have predicted.

We know—rather, we are aware—that the type of life you

want, a life of unpredictability, wonder, adventure,
happiness, and fun, does not come without one critical
piece to the puzzle.

A piece that many of us miss, without ever knowing it.

That piece is guidance.

This book, although it will contain some philosophical

elements, is going to be a practical manual for you to get
exactly what you’re looking for in your experience.

And I’m not just talking about money or material things

(although those things are included). There is really only
one thing you want—maybe you didn’t know how to define
it before now, but there’s only one thing you want:

You want to be happy.

Sure, maybe you could get some more money so you could
afford all the things you want to do in your life.

I’m not talking about that brief moment of “happiness” that

comes from buying something, before you go back to being
miserable.
You want to be happy.

Sure, maybe you could get some more money so you could
afford all the things you want to do in your life.

But does that make you happy?

I’m not talking about that brief moment of “happiness” that

comes from buying something, before you go back to being
miserable.

I’m talking about the type of happiness that some people

exude, that makes you wonder how it’s possible, and
perhaps assume that they’re pretending.

While we will not tell you how to live your life, we will help
you navigate the situations that come up in your life.

We will help you make the transition from wishing your life
was different, to it actually being different.

I will warn you though—if you continue reading this book,

there will be things that will challenge the way you see the
world.

Things that will challenge the way you’ve lived your entire
life, up until the moment you opened this book.

Don’t just have an open mind—have an open heart, too.

Guidance Point:

You may feel a lot of things as you read this book, and if you
do, the moment that you feel something, I want you to stop
reading. Pause. Pay attention to the feeling you’re
experiencing.

Don’t just brush it off.

While you read this book, there may be times where these
thoughts occurs to you:

“They don’t know what they’re talking about.”

“That’s impossible.”

“How can you expect me to believe something so

ridiculous?”

While you’re thinking those thoughts, there will be another

part of you that will say this:

“But it actually kind of makes sense.”

When this duality occurs, this is where having an open mind

comes into play.

I encourage you don’t just skim through this book—read it

all the way through before making any decisions.
Gain the context of what it is that we’re sharing with you.

It is likely that we will address a question that comes up

while you are reading.

You wanted an opportunity to change your experience—

that opportunity is now placed before you.

Make the most of it. Use the information provided, and live
differently.
Part 1:
Awareness
Before we get started into the three main topics of this
book, let’s talk about the one thing that brings all of them
together: awareness.

Awareness is simply the ability to see something and ask

yourself, “What is that?”

For example, imagine walking a path every day. During the

walk, as you look around, you become aware of different
things each time you go for a walk.

Maybe one day you notice flowers, and then the next day
you notice two people arguing, and it draws your attention
away from the flowers and onto the people.

On the third day, you become aware of a line of ants

marching down the sidewalk.

Awareness is the moment your attention becomes drawn to

something.

Why is this important for your life?

Because many of us go through our lives being completely

unaware of what’s going on in our experience.

We behave automatically.

We wake up in the morning, make coffee, get dressed, go to

work, get home, put on Netflix, make dinner, and go to
sleep.
Rinse and repeat daily—all while being completely
unaware of the fact that something else could be taking
place in your experience.

This lack of awareness locks you into limited patterns of

behavior.

When this happens, it becomes very difficult for you to

expand and grow. If you can only see things one way, how
could you possibly change your life?

Do you expect to somehow have a different life but still see

yourself and your experiences the same way?

This lack of awareness is why you may have done many

things in the past and seen little to no results.

Maybe you’ve done manifestation, visualizing, mindset

work, subconscious reprogramming, or any number of
different systems and ideas, and you have no idea why they
didn’t work or why they don’t work consistently.

Simply put, this happened because of your lack of

awareness.

Your lack of awareness of yourself and your own behavior.

How exactly does a lack of awareness affect you?

You engage in behaviors without actually knowing why

you engage in them.

We will refer to this as a state of “unconsciousness.”

While in a state of unconsciousness, you are subject to a lot
of behaviors that could be sabotaging your efforts without
you ever realizing it.

Despite how hard you work at something, because of this

state of unconsciousness, you could be sabotaging the
same efforts you are attempting to put forth.

You become a prisoner of your own behavior.

Imagine someone does something that you feel wrongs you,

and you respond with anger
.
This can cause you to have the experience of feeling like a
victim. You may feel that something is being done to you,
and therefore think you are justified in responding the same
way each time someone does something that you think is
wrong.

This isn’t just limited to emotional responses—your

automatic responses can also be physical or even financial.

Let’s take finances as an example:

Imagine an unexpected expense pops up.

What do you do?

Very interestingly, when asked how they would handle this

experience, most people say they do everything they can to
handle it right away.

Do you see how this creates a lack of awareness?

Follow along for a moment.

If people are able to tell you exactly how they would

respond when a situation like this comes up, what is
happening?

These people have already locked themselves into a pattern

of behavior, without even realizing it.

They say, “If an unexpected expense pops up, I handle it

right away.”

So the next time it happens, that is exactly what they will

do—immediately spend however much money is needed for
the “unexpected expense,” without even considering that
there may be another option.

Are you beginning to see how this lack of awareness gets in

the way of your life changing?

If you already have responses selected for future events,

how could you possibly allow for a different experience?

It’s important to note that there are no inherent “correct” or

“incorrect,” “right” or “wrong” ways to respond to any given
situation, and to believe that there are right and wrong
ways to respond is to limit yourself to a small collection of
possible behaviors and experiences.

The more awareness you develop around your decisions,

thoughts, surroundings, and life, the simpler things become.

This book aims to help you raise that awareness on a daily

basis.
Be mindful that, without awareness, nothing we tell you in
this book will work for you at all.

You cannot skip this part.

You cannot skip it because it is everything in the first place.

Awareness of yourself is paramount, more important than

everything else.

Because without awareness, you cannot change.

Do This Exercise:

Turn on a faucet, and leave it on for three minutes. Use a

timer.

During the three minutes, pay attention to what comes up in

your mind from the very moment you begin to the moment
it’s done.

Simply take the time to observe yourself. Don’t pay

attention to the faucet so much as your own responses.

If, while doing this exercise, you have a difficult time

focusing on yourself and you become drawn to focusing on
the faucet, do not consider this to be a failure.

In fact, you’re still becoming more aware of yourself.

You’re becoming aware that you place a lot of energy into

your external circumstances.
We want to be very clear about the following point:

There is nothing you need to change about yourself.

Awareness isn’t about finding all sorts of things to “fix.”

It’s simply about being able to see what you’re doing, so

that you can make a different choice in the moment if you
desire to do so.
Awareness: The Monistic Worldview

In the previous section, we talked about awareness and how

a lack of it can limit you.

It may help you to be able to identify what it is that you are

becoming aware of.

Well, that’s simple: You are becoming aware of yourself.

If you’re familiar with the idea that “all is one, and one is
all,” you may have heard a phrase such as “everything is
you,” or something similar.

It may have been really difficult for you to grasp what that
means, and it’s one of those things that’s so difficult to
explain that even those who say phrases like these often
can’t come up with the words to describe it.

Why? Because there are no words to accurately depict the

meaning of “everything is you.”

However, we would like to give the best description of what

that means that we can.

Mind you, this is not going to accurately depict it. It’s just
going to give you a glimpse into what it means so you at
least have a foundation to work from as you gain self-
awareness.

The idea that everything is you comes from knowledge that

has been passed down through many generations.
It is of Hindu origin.

The concept is that everything is made of the same thing,

but that same thing takes different forms.

For example, you and your friend are made of the same
thing, the same substance, but you have different
appearances.

Are you aware that no two people are exactly the same?

Let’s go even further into that:

If everything is made of the same substance, for which

there is no agreed-upon name but we will refer to as
Consciousness, then that would mean that everything is you
because you are the Consciousness that everything is.

Maybe this depiction still causes some confusion, so let’s

narrow the field.

Imagine picking up an apple.

The first thought that may pop into your mind is, “How can
this apple be me?”

It is you who gets to experience the apple, right? You are

holding it, so you get to experience it.

If you were to bite the apple, you would be the one

experiencing eating the apple.

If you were to throw the apple, you would be the one

experiencing throwing the apple.
Do you see the common thing amongst these examples?

It’s you.

Your actions, your behaviors, your experience.

To tie this up, anything that you experience is you creating

the experience.

If you are creating the experience and then having the

experience, your life becomes very simple: you are
experiencing what it would be like to have the experiences
and do the things you engage in in your life.

So instead of looking at your life as if things are happening

to you, with the monistic worldview, start looking at your
life as things happening through you.

Because, without you, none of the experiences of your life

would be possible.
Part 2:
Expanding Your
Wealth
The point of view we would like for you to have throughout
this section is that your most pressing need is to deal with
your finances as soon as possible.

By “deal with your finances,” we don’t mean “become

instantly rich in five seconds.”

We mean allowing yourself to be in a position where you are

no longer worried about your finances.

This section will sacrifice all other considerations or ideas

you may have about how money works in your experience
and focus strictly on the shortest path to attain the goal of
no longer being worried about your finances.

There are an infinite number of different strategies and

ideas about how to make more money.

You can start an Amazon business, sell books, get a job,

collect disability payments, be a coach, stand on the corner
with a cardboard sign, the list goes on and on.

However, there is an underlying reason why every single

one of these methods works.

Every single one of the “traditional” methods of making

money works due to “pre-construction.”

Pre-construction is where an entire model is planned and

then executed according to that plan.

For example, to sell products on Amazon, there has to be a

pre-constructed method for making the sales. You can’t sell
products on Amazon without Amazon existing first.
Another example: Your job must be pre-constructed in order
for you to work it. The business must exist or be in the
process of being built in order for you to be hired by it.

Now let’s apply this to the way that you view money in your
life:

Pre-construction exists there, too.

Every one of the beliefs that you have creates the

foundation of how you approach money.

If you think you’re supposed to get a job in order to make

money, this is a pre-constructed idea that may have been
fed to you by your parents or some other trusted authority
on how to make money.

As such, you continue to operate under these ideas because

they were already established.

For you to formulate completely new ideas requires far

more work than most of us are willing to engage in.

For us to change the paradigm that we have operated under

throughout our lives is probably the most daunting task that
any of us will undertake, especially regarding money.

It is imperative that you become aware of the pre-

constructions that you have built around money—not
necessarily each individual one, but simply that you have
them in the first place.

This is you developing awareness, like we discussed in the

previous section.
How Money Works

Get away from the idea that money works in any way,
whatsoever.

Money doesn’t “work” at all, at least not according to the

definitions that you have of “work.”

Money is inanimate. It is incapable of functioning on its own.

Have you ever seen a dollar bill get up and walk away?

No, you have not.

Money is not capable of any thought or independent action.

With this in mind, drop the idea that money “works” in any
way at all.

There are way too many explanations of how money works,

and none of them are helpful. You do not have a
“relationship” with money. You are not “enslaved” by money.
Money is not a “motivator.”

Money can only act in accordance with the directions you

give it.

Money does not transfer itself from one bank account to

another—some agent or person must create the movement
of money.

The reason why you have had an incredibly difficult time

with money up until this point is because you have not
realized this idea, this truth of money.
You may have heard the phrase, “money is energy.”

Many spiritual and self-help teachings share this idea, and

we agree with it.

Money is drawn to those who are willing to go and pick it up.

Imagine the world is littered with dollar bills, like the leaves
fallen from trees in autumn.

Do you have the energy to go and pick it up?

Many people would say “yes,” but the truth is, if they were
to do that and see just how simple making money is, it
would absolutely destroy their worldview.

They would have to admit that they have never had a clue
about how the world works.

They would be forced to see that they were wrong, they

were lied to, they accepted the lies, and they lied to other
people.

It is not how money “works”—it is how money moves.

Money cannot move without someone moving it.

Money is no different than your car—your car is not driving

itself. You have to get in the car, turn it on, and use the
mechanical parts of the car to get it to go anywhere.

Money is no different than the food you eat—the food does

not eat itself or put itself in your mouth. You must do that. If
you don’t put food in your mouth or into your body in some
way, you starve.
Money moves the way you move it, as the creator of your
experience.

If you don’t move money in your experience, you are broke.

It is important that you see this for yourself.

Do this exercise:

Go to an ATM and withdraw any amount of money.

During this process, pay attention to yourself. What do you

notice? How do you feel? What thoughts are coming up?

Do you feel your body become tense? Do you feel relaxed?

How does this experience make you feel?

The next thing to notice is, how did the money come out of
the ATM?

In order for money to be withdrawn from an ATM, you place

your card into the slot. Then, you tell the ATM how much
money you’d like to withdraw, press some buttons, and the
ATM presents that money to you.

All of this is movement, and that movement could not have

started unless you started it.

Remember this experience, because this experience is how

you should view money from now on.

Money moves when you tell it to—you are in complete

control of that movement.
You may want to know how to increase the flow of that
movement.

Read on to find out.

Ideas About Money

There are some ideas about money that we recommend you

let go of.

Those ideas are… every single one of them.

Don’t worry about credit scores, debt, loans, the federal

minimum wage, or anything else. All of these things are
elements of the money game that will continue to exist
regardless of whether you’re broke or rich, so you might as
well focus on becoming rich.

Empty your brain of everything you think you know about

money, and replace all those bulky, exhausting, limiting
ideas with the following very simple, straightforward, and
efficient premise:

Money moves when you move it.

It is just as simple to make money as it is to spend it.

There is a way to turn literally any activity into a money-

making endeavor—the only reasons your favorite activities
don’t appear to make you any money are because:

You’ve accepted the bullshit idea that making money

from an activity turns said activity into a job (this is
false. YOU turn your activities into jobs. What even is a
“job?”).
You’re lying about wanting to make money from a
particular activity, and the truth is you simply don’t want
to make any money from it (because if you wanted to,
you would be).
 You have decided that you lack the creativity to find a
way to make money from a particular activity, and are
therefore experiencing the effects of such a decision.
You’re too much of a wimp to simply tell someone to pay
you.

When you focus on the simple idea that “money moves

when you move it,” you cut right through all the other
bullshit hang ups that you have about money, including (but
certainly not limited to) the four bullshit hang ups listed
above.

Money moves when you tell it to move. When you tell people
to give it to you. When you ask to be paid.

Money moves when you move it.

Why People Work So Hard But
Never Become Wealthy

In a world where hard work is so universally lauded as so

important for success, health, and happiness, you’d think
there would be a lot more wealthy, healthy, and happy
people.

Perhaps you can name ten people you know who work
extremely hard, but aren’t anywhere near being wealthy.

You might even be one of those people yourself.

Even Andra and I were like that, before we learned the

following lessons, and you, too, can learn how to stop
engaging in the behavior that’s cutting you off from wealth
in spite of all your “hard work.”

The first reason why some people work so hard but never
become wealthy is arrogance.

In Andra’s experience, especially over the last year of

mentoring dozens of people, he has observed that the
people who make zero progress toward anything in their
lives are the ones who are so certain that they know
everything there is to know.

This is ironic because, if they really did know everything

there is to know, they wouldn’t need to come to Andra or
any other mentor for help.

Clearly, what they think they know isn’t working out very
well for them.
When someone is so certain of how things work, it becomes
impossible for them to obtain wealth because they’re not
willing to change the way they see their experience.

In order to obtain wealth, one must be both open-minded

and open-hearted, prepared to receive a vast array of new
awareness and experiences.

Arrogance puts a stop to all of that.

So what’s the solution to arrogance?

You can stop being such an arrogant know-it-all by

becoming totally okay with being wrong and not knowing
something.

If the idea of confidently giving the wrong answer in a

classroom full of people makes your skin crawl, you’re
certainly not open to learning, let alone wealth.

If it makes you cringe to imagine admitting out loud the

words, “I don’t know” to something you think you should
know, you’re definitely not open to learning, let alone
wealth.

So, get over it.

Pretending you know things (or even being convinced that

you know things) doesn’t make you smart, special,
desirable, or better than anyone else.

It actually makes you stupid, because you become someone

who fails to learn and grow.
The second reason why people work so hard and fail to
become wealthy is their inability to stick to one thing.

It isn’t often that Andra encounters people who are willing

to simply travel one road.

Many people like to describe themselves as “multi-

passionate,” meaning they have many different things they
like to do.

Although we can’t say for certain that there has never been
a multi-passionate millionaire, we can say we’ve never met
one.

Out of the hundreds of multi-millionaires and beyond that

we’ve encountered, all of them learned how to do one thing
and then continuously expanded on that one thing, over and
over and over again.

An example: Billy wants to be wealthy, and he’s willing to

travel along one path to get there.

He decides to start a social media page about his life, and

posts about everything he does.

Eventually, Billy decides he wants to expand and do

something different. Instead of quitting social media and
starting a band instead, he makes content about what it’s
like to start a band and continues to focus on his social
media presence.

Billy even expands his page even further by offering

merchandise, products, and collaborations.
Here’s another example: If Sally gets into sales and finds
that she likes it, she might expand on that by working in
sales, offering sales coaching, and eventually opening her
own sales company.

If you consider yourself to be multi-passionate, our advice

to you is to simply pick one thing—the thing that you feel
most energized by.

In order to make this choice, you must eliminate all

concerns you have about judgments, comparisons, and
expectations, both your own and other people’s.

For example, if you love playing the glockenspiel, baking,

and making cat toys, you might be inclined to focus on
baking because it’s a “normal” thing that many people are
successful at.
But if playing the glockenspiel is the thing that really lights
your soul on fire and scares the fuck out of you, not baking,
then choose that.

Don’t worry about whether or not it will “work out.” You love
it as much as you do because it can work out (if you allow it
to).

The third reason why people don’t become wealthy is their

inability to follow instructions.

Students of wealth tend to have a lot of questions.

This is absolutely fine. Asking questions is a great and

necessary skill for wealth.

There is a point, however, where questions become a

hindrance; at that point, asking questions becomes a
replacement for taking action.

For example, if your mentor tells you that your next step is
to do your first public speaking tour, you may be shit-your-
pants terrified and decide to try to delay the experience by
asking your mentor tons of questions, in the hope that you’ll
get a different answer or somehow avoid the experience
altogether.

So what can you do instead?

Follow your instructions. Set up the tour. Pull up your big-

kid pants and accept all of the following possibilities:

Your speaking tour flops horribly and becomes the most

humiliating thing you’ve ever done (leading to immense
growth on your part)
It turns out to be the greatest thing you’ve ever done
(also leading to immense growth on your part)
Nothing really happens at all. It’s very meh (and maybe
you learn not to be so afraid of things that haven’t
happened yet).

When we refer to “following instructions,” we don’t just

mean the instructions given to you by a mentor or this book.

We’re also referring to the instructions that are presented

to you by your intuition.

Following your intuition can be a huge challenge for people,

as intuition very often suggests courses of action that are
completely outside of what seems “logical” or “rational.”

For example, my (Sam’s) intuition suggested that I bind

myself with a belt and tape, literally kidnapping-style.
I saw the image very clearly in my mind, and although I
hesitated for a moment, I went ahead and did it.

The first thing I did was stick a piece of tape across my

mouth, then I bound my ankles together with a belt. Finally, I
put my arms behind my back and twisted my wrists up
inside a pair of Spandex shorts, so I could get myself out
while still simulating the experience.

I ended up laying there on my bed for a while, squirming

around and feeling the feelings that were coming up.

By the end of it, I became very aware of how I had convinced

myself that I was tightly bound and unable to escape, even
though I bound myself and could escape easily.

It was a great metaphor for how we convince ourselves that

we’re stuck, when in truth we made it that way through our
own doing and we can easily undo it.

To sum up this section, if you’re willing to accept the feeling

of not knowing, choose one exciting thing to pour all your
love, energy, and attention into, and follow your intuition…

…you are already wealthy.

Everything else is just catching up.

Money’s In The Way

Generally, people want tons and tons more money.

We want to make as much money as we can, and we want to

do this because we believe that making money will allow us
to be able to spend more money.

We accept the idea that the more money we have, the more
money we can spend.

Have you ever noticed that every belief you have about
making money also applies to you spending it?

Here’s an example:

Imagine you’ve got $20,000 in the bank and a friend comes

along and invites you along on a vacation.

You look at your bank account and start thinking of all the
different things you have to pay for, and you tell your friend,
“No, sorry, I’d love to go but I have responsibilities I have to
handle before I can afford a vacation.”

You may be familiar with this scenario.

This is a case of you spending money—you’d be spending

money on the trip, but you don’t feel like you have enough to
be able to do it.

You believe you need to make more money, right?

Do you see how being afraid to spend money when you have
the money to spend is the same as being afraid to make
more?

You may ask yourself, “Well, what if I don’t have the money
to spend?”

In that case, when you don’t have the money to spend, what
do you do?

You may do one of the following things:

1. Sell some things to make enough money to go on the

trip.
2. Ask for more hours at your job.
3. Simply give up altogether and not bother to find a way
to make the money to go on the trip.

How does this apply to you spending money?

You may have a million dollars in the bank and still feel like
you don’t have enough, because you’re afraid of the number
going down.

Every single one of your beliefs about making money or

spending money works in both ways—when you are afraid
of making money, you are afraid of spending it, and vice
versa.

In order for you to obtain the wealth you want in your life,
you must let this go.

If you want to never worry about money again, then you

must allow yourself to not worry about it regardless of how
much money is in your bank account.
It does you no good to not worry about money as long as you
have X amount in your account.

You must allow yourself to not worry even if you have zero
dollars (or less).

If you can live your life, feeling free, unbothered by the

illusory numbers in your bank account, always doing
whatever you feel like doing regardless of how much money
you appear to have…

…you can’t possibly have a money problem.

Let me repeat that:

When you live your life as if there is no problem, you can’t

possibly have a problem.

Shocking, right? How utterly unexpected.

No matter how much money you appear to have, if you

think/feel/act independently of the state of the illusion of
money in your life, you’ll always be good. You’re covered.
Somehow, someway, everything will always work out for
you.

Let’s be clear: we’re not suggesting that you should pretend

that you’re all good financially.

We’re not telling you to “think positive” or “be delusional.”

We are telling you to give yourself the opportunity to feel

like your money experience simply doesn’t matter.
To move your money experience to the background of your
life, instead of the front-and-center first-thing-you-think-
of-when-you-wake-up-and-last-thing-you-think-of-before-
bed foreground of your life.

Give yourself the opportunity to focus on yourself and your

daily inspiration first, instead of what you think you should
be doing in order to get more money.

This is the essence of what we first talked about at the

beginning of this section:

Getting money out of the way.

If “making more money” is at the front of your mind at all

times, always in the foreground of your life, always right in
front of you, always an obstacle, then you must get money
out of the way.

Which leads us to our next section:

Wealth Exercises: Getting Money
Out of the Way

Just like we mentioned in the previous section, getting

money out of the way is simply about not worrying about
your money.

You will be giving yourself the following opportunities:

The opportunity to feel like your money experience

doesn’t matter.
The opportunity to focus on yourself and what you feel
inspired to do every day, instead of trying to figure out
how to make more money.

In order to make more money, you must first stop being so

obsessed with making more money.

Can you accept the experience of never making more

money than you’re making now?

Can you accept the experience of always having the same

money experience that you’re having now, forever?

If you had a meeting with a fortune teller and she told you
that your experience would never change, that you’re stuck
with what you’ve got now forever, you might be pretty upset
at first.

You might even go through all the stages of grief about it.

But remember—the final stage of grief is acceptance.

At some point, after becoming aware that your life and
money experience is destined to stay the same forever, you
would reach a point of acceptance.

Maybe it takes you 10 minutes, 10 days, or 10 years (that’s

up to you), but it would still happen.

Your task is to reach that point—the point where you simply

give up and surrender to what’s already happening in your
life.

Where you accept that this is just the way it is, because
then, at that point, you’ll stop fighting for change.

Instead of fighting for change, you will just change.

You change when you do something different—giving up

the fight IS you doing something different.

Your entire money experience up until this point in your life

has been one long fight. One long battle to try to force your
experience to be what you think you want it to be.

And it hasn’t worked. Your efforts have been in vain. Womp

womp.

How do we know this? Because if you’re investing your

energy into reading this chapter of this book, you’ve
certainly been telling yourself that your money experience
isn’t what you want it to be.

And that has been a LIE.

If you wanted your money experience to be different, it

would be different.
If you want a piece of chocolate, you get a piece of
chocolate.

Money and chocolate are not different. They’re the same.

Chocolate doesn’t move itself from the grocery store to

your mouth hole.

Money doesn’t move itself from wherever it is into your

wallet hole.

Remember—money (and chocolate) move when you move

them.

If you don’t have the money you claim you want to have in
your experience, you simply aren’t moving it.

In other words, you’re full of shit!

Wealth Expansion Task 1

Now that you’re aware your task is to accept your money

experience, let’s talk about exactly how to do that.

Take ten minutes to one hour to lay down and be with

yourself. Remove distractions.

Relax your body, take several deep breaths, and begin

imaging yourself letting go of everything you think you
want.

If you’ve always dreamt of going on a luxurious African

safari, but you believe you can’t afford it the way your
money experience is right now, allow yourself to imagine
getting to the end of your life and never getting a chance to
go on that safari.

If you’re desperately trying to make enough to buy a house,

imagine never getting the opportunity to buy a house.
Imagine laying on your deathbed in your rental, your
apartment (oh, the horror of having a roof over your head…
how do you survive the agony?).

Allow yourself to ponder what it would be like if your

friends, family, and even strangers found out that you never
made more money than you’re making now.

Let yourself feel all the feelings that come up when you
imagine everyone finding out that you simply never got past
any of the financial issues and challenges you’re facing
now.
If you have very little money, imagine telling a very rich
person that you’re broke as hell and you have no intention of
changing it. Don’t imagine yourself bullshitting and
pretending that you’re “working on making more.” Accept
where you’re at.

Let it all come up and come out. Everything you’ve been

avoiding in your fight to try to change your money
experience.

You may cry. You may laugh. You may feel sexually aroused.
You may feel numb.

Observe yourself. Observe what happens in your mind and

body.

Repeat this exercise until you gain the awareness and the
willingness to no longer react to any of the scenarios you
imagined.

Repeat this exercise until you’re simply tired of doing it.

Until you no longer care to spend your time on it.

Repeat this exercise until you accept your life as it is now,

and you feel the urge to do literally ANYTHING other than
continue to worry about money.

That is how you “grieve” your money experience, reach

acceptance, and finally allow it to change.

IMPORTANT NOTE: Acceptance doesn’t make things

permanent. Although it may feel like accepting your money
experience is like accepting your fate, and you’re stuck with
it forever, that’s not actually the case.
That’s just a story you’re telling yourself.

So don’t get caught up in the idea that accepting your

money experience (or any experience, for that matter) will
become permanent when you accept it. It won’t.
Wealth Expansion Task 2

Unlike the Wealth Expansion Task 1, which you may only

need to do one time or a few times in order to reach the
point of acceptance, this second task you will engage in
every single day, every single time you think about and/or
engage with money.

This task is very simple: Observe yourself.

Try this: Pull up your bank account and look at the number.

Don’t do anything else—just observe the number. Look at it.

Turn your observation to your mind and thoughts.

Are you feeling the urge to judge the number? Are you
afraid to even look at it? Is your mind blank? What are you
thinking?

Now, observe your feelings and body.

Do you feel warm and jittery? Nauseous? Are your hands

tingling? Do you feel anything at all?

Remember, when you observe yourself and your experience,

you must remain neutral about it. Do not judge the
responses and behaviors you observe—to do so would be to
add more energy into them and thus perpetuate them even
longer.

If you never notice yourself, if you never observe your

reactions to the experiences you are having, you couldn’t
possibly ever change them.
Creating a different experience comes down to being able
to see yourself creating the experiences you’re having
already, so you can stop yourself and make a different
choice.

This exercise isn’t about looking at your bank account every

day—that’s just an example.

Instead, you can observe yourself all the time, including

when you spend money, when you make money, when you
handle money (physically), and when you give people money
for nothing in return.

Again, you can observe yourself all the time, with

everything you do—these are just examples.

You’ll start learning a lot about yourself, and you’ll see how
easy it is to make different choices when you’re aware of
what choice you’re making in the first place.
How to Make a Different Choice

You can’t go back in time and undo it, but you can choose to
behave differently than you’ve behaved before in similar
situations.

Does this take a lot of effort? No.

It does, however, take conscious effort.

“Conscious effort” is effort that is deliberate and intended,

as opposed to effort that occurs as an explosion of
unguided energy (such as when you’re frantically trying to
mop up water off the surface of your friend’s cracked
laptop screen).

In other words, making a different choice takes no more or

less effort and energy than anything else, but it’s directed
in a deliberate way.

You must deliberately choose NOT to react the way you

normally would.

The way we are telling you to choose to react is with pause,

relaxation, and observation.

In this scenario, your friend’s reaction to their broken laptop

is none of your business, so don’t worry about it. Worry
about yourself.

Even if your friend starts having the meltdown of all

meltdowns, choose still to pause, relax, and observe.
Only when you pause, relax, and observe can you be aware
of your intuitive guidance.

Your intuition is ready, able, and willing to show you a way

out of this situation that will save you money, time, and
energy.

In other words, if you react to breaking your friend’s laptop

with stress, guilt, and frustration, you may rush to get it
replaced and end up spending your rent money on a new
laptop.

However, if you slow down and observe yourself, you may

remember that you were gifted a laptop that you have no
use for, and you could give it to your friend instead (it
could be anything—this is just an example).

To summarize this section, you can make a different

choice by making a conscious effort to slow down, relax,
observe yourself, and then deliberately choose different
behavior.
Wealth Expansion Task 3

This is another task that you will be engaging in as often as

possible, ideally multiple times a day.

You may engage in it for 10 seconds, 10 minutes, or an hour

or more.

Your task is to appreciate the wealth you have in your life

already.

In order for you to do this, you must first become aware of

what exactly wealth is.

Wealth isn’t just about money. Money is only a small part of

it.

Wealth is about freedom.

Freedom to not worry about anything, ever.

Freedom to buy those shoes you want in both colors, so you

don’t have to choose just one.

Freedom to live where you want to live, do what you want to

do, and be who you want to be.

The only person hindering you from enjoying these

freedoms is you.

When you go to an ice cream store, you get to take your pick
from a wide selection of different flavors. You’re free to ask
for anything you want. There are several different ice cream
stores you could visit, and many more grocery stores where
you can take home gallons and pints of ice cream all for
yourself.

There is already an abundance of freedom in your life.

When something happens, when a “problem” comes up, you

always have the freedom to choose your response. You
don’t have to worry about anything, ever.

And that’s not something that happens once you have

“enough” money… you make that choice now, and your
entire experience shifts to reflect it.

Choosing not to worry about money now (or time, aging,

your health, your looks, etc) is what leads to you not ever
needing to worry about it.

Appreciating what you have now leads to growth and

expansion in all areas of your life.

But you can’t appreciate what you can’t see.

You can’t appreciate what you’re not aware of, what you
don’t observe.

Take a few moments right now to identify the freedom that

already exists in your life.

Consider your freedom to cry when you want to cry, laugh

when you want to laugh, speak when you want to speak (or
not), dress how you want to dress, and be how you want to
be.
Important note: Abiding by your self-imposed limitations
around how you think you have to be/look/act DOES NOT
mean you don’t have the freedom.

It just means you’re not appreciating it. You’re not using it.

Which means you’re not appreciating your wealth.

Which is why your wealth isn’t expanding.

But you have the opportunity to make a different choice

right now.

So slow down, relax, and observe the wealth that exists all
around you, right now.

Use the wealth that exists all around you, right now.

USE your freedom. BE free.

Or don’t be surprised when it gets taken away from you.

Fun Exercise:

Take a moment right now to flex your freedom.

Do whatever you want—put on that outfit you’ve been

afraid to wear and go to the grocery store, send a gibberish
text to your mom, play a song you haven’t heard in a long
time and dance to it. Pick a totally new band you’ve never
heard before and listen to a whole album. Visit a new bar or
restaurant that you’ve never thought about going to.

Do something you’ve never done, just to do it.

Most importantly, pay attention to yourself and how you
feel when you do it.

Be aware of your experience.

If you struggle to keep your focus on yourself and find

yourself being distracted and consumed by thoughts about
problems, other people’s opinions, worry, trying to manage
every detail of the experience, etc…

…simply notice that that’s what you’re doing.

That is how you gain self-awareness.

That is how you become aware of yourself as the creator of

your entire experience, and when you become aware of that,
you realize your ability to expand on the wealth and
freedom you already have.

Freedom and wealth aren’t some lofty concepts or the great

unfolding result of huge effort over a long time.

Freedom and wealth are decisions that you can make in

every moment.

Slow down and enjoy your coffee. Stretch your legs and let
yourself feel it. Enjoy the breath that fills your lungs. Taste
your food, don’t just eat it. When you talk with people, listen
to them.

This brings us to our next section:

Part 3:
Expanding Your
Health
The words “health” and “healthy” are thrown around a lot,
but most people have no idea what those words actually
mean.

Everyone has their own definition of what is “healthy,” and

they project their ideals onto everyone else, creating
arguments and endlessly confusing contradicting ideas
about what people should and should not eat, indulge in,
consume, and do.

If you do a Google search of what “health” means, you’ll find

that “health” is defined as “the state of being free from
illness or injury.”

Having “bad health” means you’re not free from illness or

injury.

If you’re not free, then you must be a slave/prisoner.

But a slave/prisoner to whom? The answer to that question

is you.

Having “bad health” means you’re in a state of being a slave

and prisoner of yourself.

The good news is, you can change that… if you’re willing to
accept that nothing “outside of you” has any impact on your
health.

There is nothing outside of you. There is only you, the

ultimate source and creator of your entire life simulation.

One of the greatest ironies of the human experience is that

the more you focus on trying to “make healthy choices” and
“avoid unhealthy things,” the more sickness you create.
The more you avoid hurting yourself, the more you hurt
yourself.

The more you make yourself a victim of chemicals,

microplastics, seed oils, fat, sugar, breathing the wrong
way, the sun, and whatever else, the more of a victim you
experience yourself being.

This only deepens the illusion of separation and

victimization.

It’s the same exact thing as having an “emergency savings

account”—you’ll find yourself having lots of emergencies
that require you to use those funds, which just validates
your belief that you need the emergency savings account in
the first place.

What if maintaining your health isn’t about trying to avoid

being “unhealthy,” but rather about appreciating your
health as it is and following your intuition?

What if being “sick” is necessary to appreciate being well

and feeling good?

What if your health is a perfect reflection of how much you

appreciate yourself and take responsibility for yourself as
the creator of your entire human experience?
Andra’s Cancer Experience

When Andra was 25, he worked at a dojo as a women’s self-

defense instructor.

His employer mandated that all dojo employees receive

physicals every six months.

At his physical, Andra’s doctor told him he suspected Andra

might have testicular cancer and referred him to an
oncologist.

The oncologist confirmed (CON-firmed… another “con”

word) that Andra had testicular cancer—and like most
people who are diagnosed with cancer, Andra blindly and
hurriedly agreed to do whatever they told him in order to
solve the “problem” as quickly as possible.

The suggested solutions were to remove the testicle and

begin chemotherapy, both of which Andra agreed to.

It wasn’t until Andra began his chemotherapy that he

started to feel bad, and he indeed felt awful. He felt so bad
and ended up experiencing so many life-altering
complications that he eventually decided that he didn’t
want to get chemo anymore, and he dropped it.

At this particularly painful point in his life, Andra didn’t care

what would happen as a result of his decision. He just didn’t
want to feel bad anymore.

But once Andra stopped his chemo… he started feeling

better.
Years later, thinking back on it all, Andra remembers he
never felt sick (until he started chemo), and he never
actually was able to feel the lump that his doctors claimed
they found.

He simply accepted the stories (problems) that other people

told him, and acted without consulting his intuition.

Of course, Andra created this entire scenario. He is not a

victim of anything or anyone, even though at the time he
believed himself to be.

Since he was simulating the experience of “having cancer”

and he chose to invest his precious energy into “fixing it,”
the creation expanded into a full-blown cancer experience.

Perhaps if he had chosen to not react to his doctor’s

diagnosis, his life would have gone on as if there wasn’t an
issue at all.

Of course, mortality is a terrifying concept for most of us.

We look to medical professionals as our “saviors,” standing
between us and death, finding ways to prolong our lives so
we can avoid the inevitable.

But what if our stories about health, life, and death are
simply some of our best and most convincing work at
creating the illusion of limitation?

What if we, as fractals of Consciousness, have designed the

Game of Health to be one of the most brilliant and
challenging games within the Human Experience?
Most people agree that money and wealth mean nothing if
you don’t have your health… which suggests that the Money
Game is not nearly as thrilling or challenging as the Health
Game.

So how can you master the Game of Health? Read on to find

out.
Playing the Health Game

For such a seemingly high-stakes game, the rules are quite

simple:

1. Become aware of the limiting stories you’re telling

yourself
2. Stop reacting to that which you don’t want to
experience

From the Phase 2 perspective, you create your health

experience the same way you create every other experience
—with your reactions.

The world you’re simulating for yourself is absolutely

chock-full of information about health, and many of the
messages contradict other messages, making for a very
confusing playing field to navigate.

The confusion is eliminated, however, when you become

aware that you need not react to any of the information you
come across.

You need not believe anyone else’s stories about health, nor
your own.

In fact, stop believing everything you believe about your

health.

Open yourself up to the awareness that you don’t actually

know anything about how it works, because you don’t.
You’ve just accepted ideas from other people and drawn on
made-up past experiences.
Place your trust in your intuition, your Consciousness, that
you will always be supported in your experience, and follow
your intuitive guidance.

When you do these things, your outward experience of

health must reflect your inner experience—one of peace,
security, and joy.

If your inner experience is one of fear, insecurity, and worry,

your health will reflect that too.

Getting your information about health from random sources

whom you created in order to play the Health Game
typically results in plenty of fear, insecurity, and worry—
because that’s the fun of the game!

To the unlimited fractal of Consciousness masquerading as

a limited human being that you are, the Health Game would
be boring as heck if the stakes were low and the difficulty
level was set to Easy.

You’d see right through it, ruining the game the same way
finding out how magic tricks are done ruins a magic show.

Of course, you’re here reading this book because you want

to see through the game and claim your power back.

Nothing wrong with that!

The Diagnosis Experience

When someone says they want to get “healthy,” they are

saying a few things.

1. They aren’t already healthy.

2. That they are generally in a constant state of not being
healthy.

Once again, before we continue, let’s define health. The

dictionary definition of it is “the state of being free of
illness and injury.”

So generally, when someone is saying that they want to

“get healthy,” they are saying they want to be free of illness
and injury.

The irony here is that many of us are already in this state!

We are already free from illness and injury. Yet somehow,
we need to become MORE healthy.

People work themselves into a frenzy regarding their

health; maybe you’ve done this yourself or you’re doing it
now.

Perhaps you decide to judge yourself as overweight,

believing you need to work out a ton in order to lose weight.
You start working out feverishly for days, weeks, and
months, only to discover you aren’t losing weight the way
that you thought you should be.

You begin to work harder at it because you accepted the

idea that if you are overweight, then you aren’t healthy.
Stories such as “you’re unhealthy if you’re overweight” can
lock you into an endless cycle of behavior that doesn’t help
you at all.

Why?

WHERE did you get the idea that you aren’t healthy in the
first place?

If you’ve been following along with our previous books, we

talked about the beliefs that many of us have and where
they came from. Health is no different.

Health and self-worth are often tied together, and when

someone wants to improve their self-worth, they look at
their physical body, their health, as a major source of their
problems.

A practically universal experience is spending a great deal

of time worrying about our appearance and coming up with
expectations about how we think we look.

You might gain a little bit of a belly, and now all of a sudden
you think you’re fat.

Or you might be smaller than someone else, so you’re too

skinny.

All of these things are related not only to appearance, but

health as well.

Let’s say you’re someone who has a mental illness or an

autoimmune disease.

How did you discover that? You were diagnosed, right?

Someone decided that you fit a certain established criteria,
and then labeled you as having that particular condition.

Next, you’re given some type of medication in order to

“combat” this illness or condition.

But what would happen if you were never actually

diagnosed with that condition in the first place?

Note: We are NOT saying that those conditions aren’t

something that someone might be affected by. They are
certainly parts of the Human Experience. Just consider the
possibility of what would happen if you were never
diagnosed.

What would happen if you were never given ideas of what

health is?

What would happen if you weren't given a diagnosis?

What would happen if you weren’t given those medications?

Although I don’t know what would happen in your case, in

my (Andra’s) case, when I rejected all the stories I had
accepted about health, diagnoses, and medication, I simply
stopped having problems.
The Pain Experience

Sometimes, we get hurt.

CRAZY, right? But it’s true!

Sometimes, we do things that cause us to experience pain

—or, at least, “pain” is what we’re calling it for the purposes
of this discussion.

Physical pain, emotional pain, brain pain, it’s all included

here.

However, we like to look at pain in a completely different

way:

Pain isn’t designed for you to suffer from. Instead, pain is

designed for you to learn from!

In my (Andra’s) experience, pain is the body's way of doing

what it can to get your attention. The more you continue to
ignore it, the more pain you experience.

This can lead to us becoming dependent on pain medication

because that’s what we do when we experience pain. We’re
taught to get the bottle in the medicine cabinet and take
the pills to dull the headache.

But what happens when the headache comes back?

You end up getting more pills, thus creating the cycle of

never actually learning from your pain. You go to the doctor.
You don’t get a satisfactory answer, so you go to ten more
doctors until one of them gives you a diagnosis and you feel
validated in your perceived problems.

In short, you’re busy doing everything you can to avoid it.

If you touch a hot stove, your body has an immediate

reaction to the heat. You are forced into removing your hand
involuntarily because that is a lesson you learn right away.
Don’t touch hot stoves.

Instead of avoiding the pain you’re experiencing, I

encourage you to take the approach of looking at pain as
your teacher.

Bruce Lee had a great quote for this, “The pain will leave
you once it is done teaching the lesson.”

This applies to all types of pain too. If you are experiencing

physical pain, what are you doing that is causing the pain?
Do you think that if you stopped doing that thing, the pain
would go away? Do you think that this would also apply to
emotional pain?

The answer is, yes, it does.

Pain Exercise

When experiencing pain, lay down and close your eyes.

Do everything you can to relax. Take a few minutes of deep

breaths.

It is recommended that you put some headphones on and

turn on some rain sounds. You can find them easily on
YouTube. The idea is to block out all other sounds while you
are focused on this exercise.

Imagine in your mind that you are observing the area where
the pain is being presented.

Once you can clearly see the area in your mind, what do you
notice? Is it flashing a particular color? How does it feel
when you observe it this way? Take note of this.

Once you see the affected area in your mind, move to the
second part of this exercise. Do not attempt to skip to this
part, do the entire thing.

Imagine yourself NOT experiencing the pain, but simply

observing it from a third-person perspective.

This may take some practice, but there is no reason you

cannot get this on your first attempt at this exercise.

Use this exercise to address any physical and/or emotional

pain you experience.
Health Expansion Task 1

Movement, every day.

That is your task.

Not just any movement—inspired movement.

Here’s a story for some background:

I (Sam) always struggled with keeping up with a fitness

habit. This wasn’t much of a surprise, considering the fact
that everything I did relating to my health felt like an
obligation.

An obligation to be skinnier.

An obligation to be stronger and more attractive.

An obligation to “do healthy things” to avoid being

“unhealthy.”

Of course I hated keeping up with all the stiff, uninspired,

boring exercises I was doing.

Of course I gave up after not seeing the results I wanted

after working out for three days.

Of course I skipped my workouts when it was all based on

counting to higher numbers every time, NOT based on
feeling good and enjoying the experience of having a body.

But everything changed when I started using my intuition.

It began when my intuition suggested to me that I do some
stretching as an expansion exercise, and I found out that
seated forward-fold hamstring stretches can feel
soooooooo goooooood when you do them slowly and focus
on the sensation.

Then, almost three months ago as of the writing of this

book, I suggested to Mandy that we stretch for 30 minutes
every morning, which we began doing and have (easily) kept
up with ever since.

Recently, I started feeling inspired to do some bodyweight

strength building exercises along with our stretching, and
Mandy felt like doing some cardio.

I knew that, in the past, I had a habit of giving up on doing

strength training. I found it difficult and tedious. But this
time, I let go of the stories and opened myself up to having a
completely different experience—and I was very pleasantly
surprised by what happened.

My intuition still guides me to do specific exercises every

day, often with no particular rhyme or reason, but now I feel
so inspired to do the exercises.

My favorite part is that I’ve incorporated flowy, connected,

graceful movement instead of just doing the reps to get
them done.

Shockingly, when I move my body for the purpose of

enjoying the feeling of the movement (think ballerina arms,
body waves, graceful motion instead of jerky), I want to do it
more.
I happily challenge myself to do more reps or longer holds,
instead of desperately rushing to be done.

I don’t even care that I’m working out, nor am I remotely

concerned about “health.”

I’m just moving to move.

So, again, your task is to move.

Here’s how:

Stand or sit in the middle of an open space, where you have

room to move and stretch.

Set a timer for 10-30 minutes or more and put your phone
away.

Next, just relax your body. Breathe.

Allow an image of some pose or stretch to come into your

mind, or notice if some part of your body wants to move.

Then, slowly begin to move into position. Focus on the

feelings. No need to force anything, just observe what your
body can do without judgment or expectation.

Keep moving as you’re inspired to (in your mind’s eye or in

your body) until the timer runs out.

Do this every day, even if just for a few minutes, and most
importantly—let yourself enjoy it!
Health Expansion Task 2

This is an exercise you can do as needed, and it works for all

different areas of your life—not just your health.

Fundamentally, this exercise is about questioning what you

think you know about your experience.

If you have any type of body image issues, illness, pain, or

even if you fear you will eventually experience some type of
health problem, use this exercise to remove your energy
from the stories you’re telling yourself about it.

When you remove your reaction to the stories you tell

yourself, you stop creating your experience with them.

The way to remove your reaction, your energy, from a story

is by coming into the awareness that you don’t actually
know it’s true.

If you’ve been dealing with a health issue for a long time,

you may be totally CON-vinced that it’s real, it’s a problem,
and you have to physically do something to fix it.

But how do you know you’ll wake up with the same issue
tomorrow?

You don’t know—you couldn’t possibly know that.

But you’ve convinced yourself you do… and your experience

reflects that story.

So here’s what to do:

Select a topic or idea that you’d like to challenge—maybe
your doctor told you that you have six months left to live, or
you believe your body is ugly, or you think you have
schizophrenia.

Then, identify everything you think you know about the

topic, idea, or experience.

Write it all down. Write out everything you believe about

what’s happening in your life right now.

Once it’s all on paper, take a moment to acknowledge how

much energy it requires to keep all those stories running in
your experience.

If you were a computer and each one of those stories was a

program, you would be moving at a glacier’s pace and near
crashing.

Next, question all of it. Rip it to shreds. Leave no story

unchallenged.

You can ask yourself questions like:

“Where did I get this idea from?”

“How do I know that person is right? How do I know I’m

right?”

“What does their experience/story have to do with me?”

“How can I accept this as the truth if it happened in the

past/it hasn’t happened yet/I wasn’t there when it
happened?”
IMPORTANT NOTE: Past experience does not qualify as
evidence of a future or present experience.

The past is made up. If it’s not happening right now, you can
only speculate as to what happened. No memory you have,
no matter how vivid it is or how certain you are it happened,
is evidence that the same thing will happen again.

You can’t even be certain you actually experienced anything

“in the past.”

All you can do (and all you’ve ever done) is accept the idea
that if you think something happened in the past, it must
happen again, and then you invest your energy into creating
validation that you’re right.

Stop doing that.

Past experience does not count as evidence of a future or

present experience.

Here’s an example of this exercise:

Imagine you have severe acne, and you’ve accepted the idea
that dairy makes it worse, you need strong medication to
manage it, people think you look ugly, and it’s genetic.

You might write down all those stories and begin

questioning them the following ways:

“How do I know that dairy has anything to do with my skin?”

“How do I know that correlation is correct?”

“How do I know there’s any correlation at all?”

“Where did I get the idea that my acne is ugly?”

“What does “genetic” even mean? How do I know that’s

even a real thing?”

“How do I know for sure that medication helps? What if I’m

just telling myself that it’s the medication, but it’s not?”

You can go on with this exercise for ages, but the point is to
get to the following:

Realizing that you don’t actually know.

If you’re being honest with yourself, you’ll hit a genuine “I

don’t know” point and feel your energy physically coming
back into your body.

There is nothing else to do other than become aware that

you don’t know.

We get it—knowing is comfortable.

Having a reason for why your experience is the way it is is

comfortable.

Having something to blame for why you feel the way you do
is comfortable.

But you’re not reading this book because you want to stay
comfortable and stay the same.

You’re reading this book because you want to grow and

expand.

Accepting the unknown is the way to do that.

Pick Your Side

If you’re open to learning about Phase 2 and accepting the

idea that life is a simulation that you are creating for
yourself, meaning nothing is “physically real” and nothing
has meaning other than the meaning you give it, then you
must also accept that your supposed “health issues” are
just as simulated as anything and everything else.

You don’t get to pick and choose what’s “real” and what’s
not.

So if you open yourself to the awareness that either

everything is real or nothing is real, and you desire to
experience a life without your health issues, wouldn’t you
choose to accept that perhaps nothing is real, and so your
health issues aren’t real either?

We acknowledge that there is a LOT of convincing evidence

that goes into the creation of the illusion of your health, and
there are a lot of things that might be happening in your life
that feel really real.

But what if you opened yourself to looking beyond the

illusion? What if you allowed yourself to see that everything
is nothing more than feelings? Sensations?

Throwing up is a feeling. Pain is a feeling. Seeing blood is a

feeling. Hating your body is a feeling. Fear is a feeling.
Fatigue is a feeling. Everything is a feeling.

Your health experience is nothing more than a collection of

feelings.
People often have a hard time imagining what their life
would be like without their struggles.

Their struggles become such an innate part of their identity

that they can’t even imagine themselves existing without
them.

If you’re willing to peek behind that curtain, to peer into the

unknown, to question what you think you know, you might
find that everything is and has always been working out
exactly the way you want it to, whether you realize it or not.

You may realize that your entire experience is perfectly

crafted to benefit you in the way you wish to be benefited.

It has to. Because it’s all you.

Part 4:
Expanding Your
Happiness
You may have heard us say many times before: “Stop
labeling your feelings.”

Happiness is indeed a label, and an interesting one at that.

If you look up the definition of the word, “happy,” you may

notice several different “con” words are included and
associated with it.

I found the words, “contentment,” “confidence,” and

“convenient” included among the definitions listed for the
word “happy” in the online Oxford Languages database.

What does this mean?

Like we always say, the only meaning is that which you give
it.

“Happiness” is not better or worse than any other emotional

state. It does not affect your ability to create your
experience, as it’s the same energy as any other flavor of
feeling.

In other words, you create everything in your life with your

energy, no matter how you label it, and the labels don’t
affect the energy itself. They only affect your experience of
it.

For the purposes of this book, we are using the words

“happy” and “happiness” to describe being in whatever
emotional state you desire to stay in more often.
Your Emotional Appearance

Sometimes we get so overwhelmed by all the things we

think we have to do, all the stuff to keep up with, all the
“bad news” happening, and all the problems we think we
have, that it seems like “happiness” is just a frivolous luxury
we can’t afford (which is a bullshit story).

Other times, we stop ourselves from feeling how we want to

feel in order to match and reflect the emotional states of
the people around us.

This lesson about “expanding your happiness” isn’t

necessarily about helping you feel more energy that you
might label as “happiness”—it’s about how you can accept
your life to the point where you feel at peace and even
joyful no matter what your circumstances are.

It’s also about staying true to how you want to feel in

situations where you might deny yourself those feelings in
favor of fitting in with others.

Here’s an example: Imagine you’re at a work meeting, and

several of your coworkers are being reprimanded for not
finishing a project on time.

Everyone in the room has a somber expression, and even

though the project being late has absolutely nothing to do
with you, you feel like you, too, should act like you’re getting
in trouble.

You’re trying to fit in with everyone else, whether you

realize it or not.
Another example: You’re sitting at a bar with friends and
strangers. Most people are watching the news playing on
the TV, and the news segment is about a war in some other
country.

The person sitting at the barstool next to you turns to you

and starts talking about how much of a shame it is that this
war is happening, and how awful things have become in the
world.

You, on the other hand, are enjoying your drink and feeling
good, ignoring whatever is happening on TV.

In that moment, do you turn off your happiness to reflect

the energy/emotion of the person talking to you about how
awful it is to be a human?

Or do you just stay feeling how you want to feel?

Once again, whatever choice you make in both of these

scenarios is not a problem.

There are no problems—there is only awareness of yourself

and the choices you make.

So, to expand your happiness, you must become aware of

when you’re changing your emotional state in an attempt to
“fit in” with other people, and stop doing that.
Happy Life, Dis-Liked

Let’s take the bar scenario again—the person sitting next

to you is talking to you about how much of a shithole planet
Earth is and how sad it is that children are being blown up
on TV.

What do you think would happen if you didn’t agree? How

do you think that person would react if you stayed happy
and didn’t match their emotional state?

Take a second to answer those questions for yourself.

Your answer, whatever it is, does not apply only to this

imaginary scenario—it’s the same story you tell yourself in
your “real life.”

How you do one thing is how you do everything.

If you’re afraid that people will get mad at you and accuse
you of being some kind of sociopath for not being sad about
what’s happening on the news, what you’re really afraid of
is not being liked.

And so you cut off your happiness in order to be liked.

Therefore, part of expanding your happiness is becoming

okay with not being liked.

The other part is choosing to feel good just to feel good—

literally being happy just to be happy.
If you’re sitting in a work meeting, at a bar full of strangers,
or at your family dinner table, and everyone around you is
pissed off, but you’ve got a smile on your face and you’re
feeling good just to feel good…

…you are unfuckwithable.

You’re emotionally bulletproof.

You’ve transcended the supposed “innate human need” to

fit in with your clan (which is a story, just like anything else)
and unlimited yourself in a way that most people can only
imagine.

Sure, lots of people can make tons of money and unlimit

themselves financially, and still others can discover the
most extreme capabilities of their physical body, yet in
spite of it all they can’t be happy when others around them
feel like shit.

But you can.

Read on to find out how.

Getting Over Yourself
(to the Next Level)

Fundamentally, we manipulate our emotional state to fit in

with others in order to avoid having an impact on ourselves.

It’s a misconception that people-pleasers want to make

everyone around them comfortable and avoid affecting
other people’s feelings.

People-pleasers really just want to avoid affecting their

own feelings.

In other words, people-pleasers want to make themselves

comfortable. They don’t seek growth. They seek to stay the
same.

They say, “I act this way because I’m a people-pleaser and I

don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings” but what they
really mean is “I’m pointing the finger at everyone around
me to justify my behavior!”

Take a moment to come to this awareness within yourself:

In what ways are you avoiding becoming a different version

of yourself by cutting off your happiness to fit in with other
people?

Here’s an example:

I initially got into networking several years ago, in 2020. At

the time, I saw myself as a “nice person” and a “good
listener” because I would let people talk my ear off and then
try to convince myself I enjoyed it.

In truth, I wasn’t listening, I didn’t care, I was just trying to

get people to like me, and every time I came home from a
meeting, I would complain about how much the other person
talked.

Spoiler alert: This is not an effective networking strategy.

I knew I was avoiding becoming the version of myself that

speaks up and says, “I’m not interested in this topic,” but I
chose to prevent myself from enjoying meeting new people
by letting my desire for comfort overrule my desire to be
happy and have a good time.

Eventually, I did manage to get the fuck over myself, and I

ended up telling someone “I don’t care to hear any more
about your failed relationships.”

It felt amazing, and the person I was speaking to wasn’t

even mad. They just moved on to a different topic.

It was like they knew they were just talking to talk, and the
conversation didn’t mean much to them either anyway.

So, again, in what ways are you avoiding becoming a

different version of yourself and therefore suffering in
unnecessary ways?

Therein lies the key to expanding your happiness.

Become that much more okay with not being liked.

You might even find that liking yourself is far more
meaningful than being liked by other people.

The way to become emotionally bulletproof and feel how

you want to feel regardless of your circumstances is by
seeking your own growth.

Your expansion is always the sweetest fruit. It’s a source of

unimaginable joy, peace, and happiness.

You’ll never feel free to be yourself (in all ways—wealth,

health, and happiness) if you’re invested in staying
comfortable.

Once again, like we said in previous books, making yourself

uncomfortable is an incredibly simple task. You can do it in
every moment.

You don’t need to climb Mount Everest, rob a grave, run into
a house fire to save a hamster, or jump out of a helicopter to
“face your fears,” get over yourself, and get uncomfortable.

You can just say the shit you’re afraid to say to the person
you’re afraid to say it to.

You can smile when everyone around you is frowning.

You can do as many pushups as you possibly can, and then

do just one more.

Just take one step beyond your supposed limits.

Commitment (to Suffering)

Another awareness point that we’d like to open your eyes to

is something we call “commitment.”

“Commitment” is when you’re having an experience that you

may be unhappy about/don’t like, and you attempt to
express your dissatisfaction/unhappiness with this
experience to everyone else by committing to a certain
emotional state (such as anger, sadness, frustration, etc).

You feel like you have to feel a certain way, or your desired
message won’t be expressed.

For example, imagine you’re being mentored by someone

and you make a big mistake. Your mentor is very upset with
you.

In the moment that your mentor is scolding you, you may

commit to feeling guilty and beating yourself up in order to
try to “apologize” for what you’ve done.

For the rest of the day, you’re quiet and dejected. You feel
like you have to behave/feel a certain way, because you tell
yourself the story that if you were to behave/feel some
other way (such as with happiness), your mentor will think
that you don’t care and you’re not taking your mentorship
seriously.

You’re committing yourself to a certain emotional

experience in order to express some idea or message to
other people.
We can say from personal experience that, when it comes to
being mentored, taught, or even just being in a relationship
where growth is a mutual value, your
mentor/teacher/partner doesn’t want you to beat yourself
up for making a mistake.

They just want you to listen so you can avoid making the
mistake again.

To the mentor/teacher/partner, your emotional state is your

business.

It is not their business. It’s yours. Be happy if you want to be

happy, even if you fuck up.

Another example: Parents may commit to giving their kids

the cold shoulder all day when their kids make a mess or
cause damage, because the parents think that staying
unhappy will get the message of how upset they are across
to their kids (instead of just telling their kids how upset they
are about what happened, and then moving on).

A third example: If your partner forgets your birthday, you

get mad and commit to being mad for a week in an attempt
to show them how disappointed you are.

Even in moments where your partner tries to make amends,

you choose still to commit to your anger and reject them.

Commitment to an emotional state as a method of

expressing yourself is just you avoiding your own growth.
It’s an ego-based reaction. It’s another form of self-
sabotage.
Instead of learning how to speak up and say what you want
to say, you act like a victim and choose to feel unhappy even
when you want to be happy.

The fact is, from the Phase 2 perspective, your feelings are
your responsibility. You can claim that someone or
something else “caused” you to feel a certain way, but that
is just you passing blame and being a victim.

Right now (and in every moment), you have the opportunity

to accept that your feelings aren’t anyone else’s problem…
and nobody else’s feelings are your problem.

That is a major expansion point for your happiness.

Happiness Expansion Task 1

Get into the habit of noticing how you feel.

As I’m writing this book, I’m noticing myself feeling kind of

flat. Neutral.

I ask myself, “What’s stopping me from being happy right

now?”

It’s a rhetorical question—the only thing that ever stops

anyone from being happy in the moment is themselves.

Suddenly, my spark for writing comes back. A slight smile

graces my lips. I feel energized. I begin typing faster. The
happiness begins to build until my eyes start to water and I
feel immense appreciation for the fact that I get to do this.

The way you want to feel is always right there, waiting for
you to invite it forth.

Go to an area of your house that might be cluttered, dirty,

disorganized, or in need of attention.

Notice how you feel looking at it.

Then, ask yourself, “what’s stopping me from being happy

right now?”

Again, notice how you feel after asking the question.

If some bullshit answer comes up about how your family

members are slobs, or you have so much to do, or something
like “why am I the only one who fucking cleans this house?”
Notice that too.

You’ve just discovered your discomfort.

Your opportunity for growth.

It’s called “appreciation.”

Heard of it?

Now you get to do something different.

You don’t necessarily have to clean up after everyone or

even do anything with whatever it is you’re looking at at all
—that would probably still be you doing the same stuff you
always do anyway.

Instead, ask your intuition how you can expand. What you
can do differently.

Then, do it.

And notice how you feel.

This exercise requires one simple step, and we recommend

that you use it as often as possible.

Make it your phone background, put a sticky note on your

fridge, get it tattooed, whatever.

Just ask yourself, “What’s stopping me from being happy

right now?”
Again, coming up with an answer is not the point of asking
the question.

Your awareness of your feelings is the point.

But if for some reason you do come up with something that

you think is stopping you from being happy, you’ve found
your growth point.

Your chance to do something different. Make a decision.

Take responsibility for YOUR life, because, at the end of the

day, everything that appears to be stopping you from being
happy is just shit that you created for yourself to
experience, and you can un-create it by removing your
reaction to it and choosing to be happy anyway.

It’s this simple.

Happiness Expansion Task 2

Unlike Happiness Expansion Task 1, this one you’ll only need

to engage in once in a while (or even just one time).

You’re going to allow yourself to experience not being liked.

Take some time (10 minutes to an hour) to lay down and

relax with no distractions.

Breathe, become aware of your body, and begin imagining

scenarios in which you’re actively being hated or disliked by
one or many people.

Take it to the extreme—imagine being a billionaire and

everyone thinks you’re exploiting the poor just for monetary
gain.

Don’t even disagree with it—agree. Accept it. You’re just an

asshole. A piece of shit. Totally unlikeable.

Maybe you’re even a dictator. A murderer beyond the reach

of the law. Someone who is so unlikeable that other people
wish death upon you. Let your mind explore these
experiences.

Note: If you struggle with seeing images in your mind, you

can simply use your thoughts to simulate having
conversations with people based on these scenarios.

As part of your visualizations, imagine yourself being happy,

no matter what other people think or feel about you.
Imagine you are simply pursuing your own growth, and you
have no reason to feel guilty or ashamed about anything
you’re doing.

Remember to really feel the feelings that come up in your

body, without judging them or having any expectation of
how you “should” feel.

Eventually, you will become bored of the experience and

feelings of imagining people disliking you (and physically
experiencing them disliking you), and you will no longer
react to it.

This exercise is meant to help you accept the fact that your
feelings are your own, and other people’s feelings are
theirs.

Your growth, no matter what direction it leads you in,

doesn’t have to be a source of shame (and if it is, that’s a
choice you are making).

You don’t have to suppress your happiness in some attempt

to “apologize” for becoming all you came here to be (even if
you’re a cruel billionaire, dictator, or anything of the sort).

You also don’t have to suppress your happiness to apologize

for not being where you think you should be in life. Fuck
that. Be happy now.

The Human Experience is one big drama, and we’re all

players in it. It wouldn’t be complete without people and
experiences of all types and varieties.
Allowing yourself to be disliked is a necessary, yes,
necessary expansion point for you if you want to discover
who you really are and what you’re capable of in this
lifetime.

So, do it now. Don’t wait.

Thank You!

The irony of exploring the experience of being disliked as an

exercise to expand your happiness is not lost on us, nor is
the irony of accepting poverty to create wealth, nor
accepting illness to create health.

It’s (for lack of a better word) counterintuitive, but that’s

why it works so well.

When everyone else is trying to find a way to become more

efficient at struggling, you are reading our books and
learning to stop trying and simply be.

We love you for that. Thank you!

In this book, you were presented with several simple one-off

exercises and daily exercises for expanding your wealth,
health, and happiness.

You may have noticed this yourself, but all of the daily
exercises are pretty much the same.

They revolve around simply paying attention to yourself.

Observing yourself. Gaining awareness.

Because that’s all you need to do.

Again, you can’t make a different choice if you don’t see

what choice you’re making in the first place.

For your reference, here is a table of the exercises shared in

this book:
Daily Expansion Exercises:

Self-observation: Pay attention to yourself (your

thoughts, feelings, and reactions) throughout the day
(especially when interacting with money). Observe the
choices you make in every moment.
Ask yourself, “What’s stopping me from being happy
right now?”
Move your body intuitively.

Occasional Expansion Exercises:

Allow yourself to feel and accept the experience of your

financial circumstances staying the same forever.
Do something you’ve never done before, just to do it.
Question everything you think you know about your
health.
Allow yourself to mentally experience being completely
unlikeable, and accept those feelings and that
experience.