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THE

BECOMING
JOURNEY TO PURPOSE DISCOVERY

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 DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to the creator of life, my daily inspiration, the person of the Holy Spirit, my always available
help in time of need, my supporter, and all in all.

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 ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

I want to extend a huge appreciation to God for allowing me to write this and the Holy Ghost who has always
ascertained himself as my teacher. After God in my life, is my spiritual Father, Daddy you have been the best father,
I can ask for. You are all I prayed for and more. Thank you for all the consistent teachings, thank you for insisting
on the best from me, thank you for loving me the way you do. I bless God you are in my life. Thank you very much,
Dad.

This book would also not have been a success without the support of some amazing individuals, my darling friend,
Oladimeji Abolade, and my darling sister, Tinubu Dorcas. Thank you for my unique cover design, Akinwa Opeyemi,
thank you all so much. I can't keep mentioning names, I am filled with so much gratitude for all the amazing people in
my life.

To my biological parents, thank you, I believe you are proud of your baby girl. To my amazing readers, thank you.

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 TABLE OF CONTENTS

Acknowledgments

Dedication

Introduction……………………………………………………………………………………….1

Chapter One: You are loved by God…………………………………………………………….2

Chapter Two: You have a purpose……………………………………………………………….6

Chapter Three: Your walk/relationship with God………………………………………………..8

Chapter Four: The mountains of influence……………………………………………………...13

Chapter Five: Requirements for Destiny fulfillment……………………………………………17

Chapter Six: Your local church………………………………………………………………..19

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 INTRODUCTION

Over the years, I realized a good number of people believe that they are in this world for lots of things such as to
go to school, finish school, have a certificate, get a good job, make money, get married, raise kids, grow old, and
then die.

Many people believe that is how life works. However, have you ever wondered what's next, after all of your desired
imaginations come to fulfillment?

Have you ever for once marveled at why you were created, or why you were born into the particular family you are?
Are you concerned with the mere thoughts of the above questions?

It's no longer news that children grow up with different intentions to become a particular person when they grow old,
and this is usually influenced by the sets of people they were exposed to while growing up.

Still, it's sad that the concept of purpose is not usually commonly discussed and this is one of the reasons why this
book was inspired by the Holy Spirit.

You are not in the world to just be a plus one to the people in the world, there is a prophecy you are here to fulfill.
The Bible says in the book of Hebrews 10:7-“Then said I, Lo, I come (in the volume of the book it is written of me,)
to do your will, O God.”

There is something originally written about you from God, all you need to do is discover what was written of you
and work towards becoming that which was written concerning you.

YOU ARE LOVED BY GOD

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Let's take a look at this scenario together, during festive seasons in an average Nigerian home, you tend to kill
chickens for the festive seasons.

During any of the episodes of the killing spree of these animals, has it ever crossed your mind how the animals feel
when they are being killed? And the fact that the same God that created you also created them?

Have you ever imagined why you are human and why you are the particular gender that you are? In essence, God
made an important decision to make you human because you're important to him.

The Bible says in the book of Jeremiah 1:5, “Before you were formed in your mother’s womb, I have known thee, and
I have ordained thee to be a prophet unto nations."

This should give you a glimpse of how much God loves each and everyone on earth.

There are lots of bible passages that endorses the love of God to mankind. The popular bible scripture, John 3:16 says
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes in him, should not perish,
but have everlasting life."

Alas, you are one of the people in the world, so you are loved by God.

Romans 8:32 says he did not withhold or spare his son, but gave him up for us, will he not also with him freely and
graciously give us all things?."

Let me give an illustration to explain Christ's love for you. Imagine a particular man having just one son, and the man
gives up the one son. He wants to save a particular set of people because he loves them.

Sometimes when we read this, there is a subconscious knowledge and feeling of what is the big deal about what God
did.

At least, he is God, so it should be easy for him. Imagine if you have to give up your only son for some random
person, and the person takes it in as something irrelevant.

Tell me, if it were you, how would you feel?

What makes you believe it was easy for God to give up his only son for some people he created?

Have you ever thought of what it might look like if Jesus didn’t agree to be the sacrificial lamb?

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This should give you enough reason and proof of Christ's love for you. So, this is me, saying it directly to you, YOU
ARE LOVED BY GOD.

Countless people struggle with low self-esteem and the belief that God loves some particular set of people more than
some other sets of people. Dealing with low self-esteem is entirely something different to deal with, and the fact
that you have low self-esteem does not mean God does not love you.

DEALING WITH LOW SELF-ESTEEM

What is low self-esteem?

Let's begin with self-esteem, it is the way you think about yourself and the value you place on yourself. Low self-
esteem can now be defined as the act of low thinking about yourself, thinking every other person is better than you,
not loving yourself, and focusing on every other person apart from yourself.

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Low self-esteem is not from God. Most times, all of the thoughts of people better than you, the thoughts of people
being perfect and seeing the imperfect you, are not true. The Bible says “Be thou perfect, even as your Father in
heaven is perfect”. We are all working towards perfection, no one is perfect, and so people who look perfect are not
always perfect. They only make you see what they want you to see and no one loves showing their imperfections.

Here are the signs of low self-esteem:

1. Feeling worthless: When there is a recurrent feeling of no worth, feeling unloved, and feeling others are better than
you, then you have low esteem.

2. Feeling sad, depressed, anxious, ashamed, or angry.

3. Saying negative things and being critical about yourself.

4. Not accepting compliments.

5. Avoiding challenges for fear of failing.

HOW TO DEAL WITH LOW SELF-ESTEEM

One major way to deal with low self-esteem is recognizing Christ's love for you, when you come into the
consciousness of Christ's love for you, dealing with your esteem gets easier.

Other ways include personal development, reading soul-inspiring books, watching inspirational videos, building quality
relationships with people who value and support you, avoiding toxic relationships, building a positive mindset, and
spending much more quality time with God and his word.

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 YOU HAVE A PURPOSE

Myles Munroe once said, IF THE PURPOSE OF A THING IS NOT KNOWN, ABUSE IS INEVITABLE.

After establishing that God loves you, the next thing to solidify is that YOU HAVE A PURPOSE.

Jeremiah 1:5 says “Before you were formed in your mother’s womb, I have known thee, and I have ordained
thee to be a prophet unto nations."

Since the bible made us know in the book of Genesis that you are created in the image of God, this means that you
have a purpose of being created in his image and a reason why you have to be on the earth.

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The Bible tells us that we should be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth, subdue it, and have dominion over the things on
the earth (Genesis 1:28).

There is a dominion mandate given to man, and the mandate is so that the kingdom of God can be replicated on
earth.

While Jesus was teaching his disciples how to pray in the book of Matthew, he said that THY KINGDOM COME.

This means that there is a kingdom of God that must come on earth, and the only way God's kingdom can effectively
come on earth is when men realize their purpose, and each man fulfills that purpose.

My father, Apostle B.H. Michael taught me that GLOBAL DECADENCE IS A RESULT OF TRANSGENERATIONAL
IRRESPONSIBILITY.

This is to say the reason lots of things are happening today in the world is because men have left their
responsibilities undone, and then the kingdom mandate is therefore left undone.

For the kingdom of God to be established on earth, every man needs to take responsibility for the assignments, God
has given him, and the first way to implement the assignments God has given to you is to realize that YOU HAVE A
PURPOSE.

The Bible tells us in the book of Hebrews 10:7 “Then said I, lo, I come (in the volume of the book it is written of me)
to do your will, O God.”

The amplified version simplified it saying, “Then I said, Behold, here I am, coming to do your will, O God-(to fulfill)
what is written of me in the volume of the book."

There is a book that was written before you were formed, and in that book are the details of the life you are here
to live.

There is a prophecy you are here to fulfill, there is a way it has been written about you before you were formed.

God has always had you in mind, so your birth is not by coincidence.

Lots of people have different stories surrounding their birth, and they therefore live their lives according to the
story surrounding their birth.

The life you are to live here on earth is not influenced by the occurrences surrounding your birth, the dominion

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mandate given to you is not influenced by the family you grew up in.

The most important thing is that God knew you before he formed you, he ordained you for dominion before you were
formed.

You are not a mistake, let it sink, you are not a mistake. You were formed before copulation formed you.

There is something that you were before you were formed, and the way to live life according to his will is to fulfill
everything that has been written of you in the book.

You have a purpose, you have a destiny, the question now is WHAT PROPHECY AM I HERE TO FULFIL? WHAT
PURPOSE AM I HERE TO FULFIL?

YOUR WALK/RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD

In the previous chapter, I discussed fulfilling the prophecy as it is written in the volume of the book.

There is another part to that scripture, which is “Then I said, Behold, here I am, coming to do your will.” Before
you can do the will of God, you need to have a relationship with God."

We refer to God as our father, and every child has a relationship with the father.

My father, Apostle B.H. Michael said that “Our father is the definition of a relationship”. I love to use this scenario,
you have at least one person you refer to as your father on earth, this man might be your biological father, an uncle,
or a relation, who is responsible for your life.

Growing up, you had lots of needs, and then you ran to your father in time of need.

And when you speak to your father, he gives a response. Imagine the time that you needed to pay your school fee,
then you met your dad, and he gave you a response as to when he would pay the fee.

This is to certify the claim that one way or the other, when you speak to your earthly Father, he gives a response.

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There are times that the response could be silence, but even in your father's silence, you can interpret whatever he
means.

This relationship with your earthly father should be similar to that of God, your heavenly father, and even more.

Some of you grew up where the only knowledge of God you have is God as the all-powerful God, the God that judges,
the one that is a consuming fire, the one that is most feared and reverent.

I don’t disregard the fact that all of these attributes are truly the attributes of God, we have seen lots of places in
the bible where God has functioned as the judge, where he operated as the consuming fire, where he has done things
that makes the fear of God in men intensify, so all of these attributes are true.

However, have you ever acknowledged that GOD IS OUR FATHER? When Jesus taught his disciples how to pray, the
first thing he said in Matthew was “OUR FATHER, WHO ART N HEAVEN."

Jesus needed to bring the consciousness of God as our Father to his disciples, and so he started the prayer by
acknowledging God as our Father.

GOD IS YOUR FATHER. The earlier you realize that the easier you will be able to build a relationship with your father.

There is a kind of relationship that a father expects from his children, therefore, there is a relationship that God
expects from you. You already know that God loves you, he has always had you in mind, and that he is your father.

The first step to fulfilling the will of God is knowing the will, and you can only know the will of God when you know
God.

The will of God is embedded in God, the volume of the book you want to fulfill is in God.

God has the book with him, and you can only know the details of the book when you know him.

Remember that God has always known you before you were formed, so the only way to know the you God created is
to know God.

Knowing God is the secret to knowing and fulfilling destiny, knowing God is the secret to your becoming.

Your becoming in God's will is dependent on how much of God you know. What relationship do you have with your
father?

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Let's take Jesus and his disciples as a case study on your relationship with your Father. Jesus had twelve disciples
while he was on earth, and there are cases in the scriptures where his disciples have asked him questions.

Most of the time when Jesus teaches parables on the mountain, he does not interpret the parable to the multitude,
he interprets it when they get home, when it is only him and his disciples.

When Judas wanted to betray Jesus, and the disciples didn’t know who the betrayer was, the bible recorded that
John asked Jesus, and Jesus told him who the betrayer was, (John 13:25-26).

This serves as proof of the kind of relationship Jesus was having with his disciples.

David had an awesome relationship with God. The Bible referred to him as a man after God's heart.

He can only be a man after God's heart because of the relationship he has with God.

Do you remember when David slept with Beersheba, and God got angry with him? Do you remember that David talked
out his punishment with God? The almighty God gave David three options and permitted him to pick one of the
options. (2samuel 24:12-14). This could have happened only because he had a relationship with God.

Let's take a look at the life of Job, he suffered that much because he didn’t have a father-son relationship with God.

When God wanted to inform the devil about Job, he told the devil Has he considered his servant job?” That could
have only happened with a servant, you could depict the relationship Job has with God through his response to the
situation.

There is a kind of result you can’t access until you have a father-son relationship with God. The Lord desires a
good relationship between his children and himself.

Here are some practical ways to build a relationship with your father:

1. Prayer: Prayer is simply the act of talking to God. The disciples of Jesus asked Jesus to teach them how to pray,
and Jesus taught them how to pray, but at the beginning of the prayer, Jesus taught them that prayer is the act of
talking to the Father. "But when ye pray, say our father, who art in heaven." Prayer is talking to God.
One thing you must understand about prayer is that prayer is a communion (fellowship) and not just inquiring.

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Prayer is the communication between two people and not just one person. What this implies is that when you pray,
you are meant to have a conversation, which results in receiving a response from the person, and not just talking
without getting a response.

When you talk to your father, your father replies to you and that is how a conversation is made, the same with God.
When you speak to God, you are meant to get a response, and that is how conversation with God is established.

The Bible says, “My sheep hears my voice, and they listen to me." You are his sheep, so you should recognize the
voice of your father.

Hearing from God is an important quality of a child of God. Have you been finding it difficult to hear God? Then this
is for you. There are different ways God speaks to his children;
● The word: A major way, God speaks to his children is through the word. The Bible has been given to us as
the word of God, and one way God communicates is through his word. How often do you read the bible? And
when you read the bible, do you take the time to meditate and understand what you read? The Bible says
that the word is life, until you realize the life dimension of the word, the bible will just look like a storybook
to you.
● Dreams and visions: Dreams and visions are important ways God speaks to us. Dreams are the visions you
have in your sleep, while visions don’t necessarily require you to sleep.
● Inner voice: Another way, God speaks to us is through an inner voice. The inner voice is also referred to as
the still, small voice. It might speak to you through your thoughts.
2. The word: To build a quality relationship with God, you have to know and understand the values and precepts of
God. All of the values of God are embedded in the word of God which is the scriptures. 2timothy 3:16-17 says “All
scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for
instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be made perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.”
The scripture is given to us by the inspiration of God and is necessary to know the identity of God. You have to
build up yourself in the knowledge of God by studying your bible. Do you have a study plan? If not, why not create a
study plan today? Start reading the bible from somewhere, don’t allow confusion, start reading the bible from a place.
You can decide to start from Genesis, Matthew, John, or any book of the bible. The most important thing is starting
and being consistent with it. Start reading your bible today, and your relationship with God will get better.
3. The Holy Spirit: The holy spirit is the spirit of God. John 14:26 says “But the comforter, which is the holy spirit,
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whom the father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance,
whatsoever I have said to you.” The holy spirit helps in having a good relationship with God. Do you want to know
more about the holy spirit? I would advise you to get the book GOOD MORNING HOLY SPIRIT by Benny Hinn.
I implore you to build a quality relationship with God today.

THE MOUNTAINS OF INFLUENCE

The mountains of influence are the various strata that God has put in place to establish dominion on Earth. The
various areas of life have been divided into these strata, and dominion will be established in all these areas. These
mountains of influence are divided into seven:

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 1. Family
2. Politics
3. Arts and Entertainment
4. Media and News
5. Finance
6. Education
7. Religion

The Mountain of Family

As popularly known, the family is the smallest unit in society. Family is the bedrock of every society, it is the
foundation of every society.

Everyone that lives comes from a family, a successful person is from a family, an unsuccessful person is from a
family. Everybody comes from a family.

Most of the crisis we have in society today arises from people who come from a family. The family consists of the
father, mother, and children. The fruit of every marriage is children, and all children grow up to become adults.

As the popular saying, charity begins from home. How well a child is trained can determine how the child will look
when grown.

The Bible says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he grows up, he will not depart from it.”

How well were you trained? Right now, as you are reading this, you will realize that a substantial part of your belief
system was the belief system you learned from your family, your parents, your cousins, and the people you grew up
with.

There is a culture in every home, and each family member grows up with that culture.

The Bible says in 2corinthians 5:17 that “If a man is in Christ, old things are passed away, behold all things become
new.” This implies that once you are in Christ, there is a kind of culture that is expected of you to absorb. There is
a culture in Zion, there is a belief system that Christians are expected to have.

And once you become born again, you need to have the belief system of those who love Christ and discard every

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belief system that isn't Christ-like.

However, before dominion can be established on earth, the family should be paid attention to. When every family
member grows up in the way of the lord, the world will be a better place to live in, And this exactly is the reason
why Godly marriages should be solidified.

When two Christians marry, they tend to raise godly seeds, and when godly seeds are raised, the dominion mandate
for men starts getting easier.

The Bible says in Genesis that, “Be fruitful, multiply, replenish the earth, subdue and have dominion."

The first step to having dominion is multiplication, and multiplication is achieved through marriage. When the fruits
of multiplication are raised with the dominion mandate in mind, dominion becomes easy.

THE MOUNTAIN OF POLITICS

Politics in this context is governance. Abraham Lincoln defined politics as the government of the people, by the
people, and for the people.

The Bible says “When the righteous are in power, the people rejoice."

I want you to know that the lord desires the righteous should be in power because when the righteous is in power,
the people rejoice.

There is a popular saying that, POLITICS IS A DIRTY GAME. Let me debunk that now, politics is not a dirty game, the
only way the righteous can be in power is when Christians are involved in politics. It is not a sin for Christians to be
involved in politics.

Daniel in the bible is an example of a politician. Daniel worked with Nebuchadnezzar in government, which was why he
was privileged to be able to interpret the king's dream.

Do you remember where the bible says that a decree was made throughout the land of Daniel and that no one
should pray? The decree was made because of Daniel and that was because Daniel was already becoming a threat, and
they were looking for a way to get him out of the picture.

Before dominion can be established on the mountain of politics, the righteous have to be the ones in power. Some

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believers are sent to the mountain of politics. There are people God has trusted with this mountain, and these people
will rule in the way of the lord.

They will rule using the precepts of God as their standard and will give all the glory to God. They will serve the
people faithfully, and love God as they serve.

THE MOUNTAIN OF ARTS AND ENTERTAINMENT

The mountain of arts and entertainment is another mountain that influences us. This mountain consists of anything
that entertains and art.

This mountain comprises the music industry and the movie industry. Something beautiful about songs is that songs
linger in the spirit of people. When you listen to songs, the song travels directly to your spirit, and the lord dwells in
the spirit.

There are two categories of songs that we have today, there are gospel songs and secular songs. The kind of songs
you expose yourself to determines what dwells in your spirit.

THE MOUNTAIN OF MEDIA AND NEWS

The mountain of media and news is one of the mountains that influences you. Lots of news is communicated by the
media people. Social media is an arm of media that influences almost everyone in the world today.

What kind of news are you exposed to? This mountain influences it.

THE MOUNTAIN OF FINANCE

The Bible says that money is the root of all evil. An average man today is in a high pursuit of money. It's a subtle
mountain in which the devil has used a lot of things to veil the eyes of many concerning finance.

It's now left to men on this mountain to use their influence to help people grow in the area of finance and also give
for the propagation of the kingdom.

THE MOUNTAIN OF EDUCATION

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This mountain is a major mountain that fights belief in the certainty of God. It is on this mountain that every other
mountain is trained. Just like the saying, knowledge is power, the sole purpose of education is to make knowledge
abound greatly. It is very different from having certificates. From the spiritual realm to the physical realm, some
people are sent to nullify the tactics of the devil in swaying students by encouraging everything about God and the
kingdom.

THE MOUNTAIN OF RELIGION

Christianity is just one of the religions on this mountain. However, how do we exert dominion on this mountain if we
haven't conquered it yet? This is why the body of Christ needs to come together in unity and love and go against
the plans of the devil to overthrow Christianity. Christianity is a light amid the darkness.

REQUIREMENTS FOR DESTINY FULFILMENT

There is a preparation requisite for every man's destiny. Before you can be all God has ordained you to be, there is
a level of preparation you must have been exposed to.

Every man's destiny is unique, at the same time, there is a unique level of preparation required from every man.
However, there are some general levels of preparation required from every man, and I will be discussing that in this
chapter.

AREAS OF PREPARATION

There are different areas to every man's destiny, so there are different areas of preparation. A man in pursuit of
destiny should prepare in the following areas;

1. Spiritual preparation
2. Prophetic preparation
3. Intellectual preparation
4. Building relationships

SPIRITUAL PREPARATION

A man is made up of a spirit, soul, and body. There is a level of preparation you need to have spiritually to make

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your destiny come to fulfillment. What does spiritual preparation mean? Spiritual preparation comprises prayers,
fasting, studying the bible, paying spiritual sacrifices, and all. How extensively in prayer are you preparing for your
destiny?

The Bible says that you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free. There is a truth regarding your
destiny, and the truth can be found in the word of God, so studying the bible is necessary for your destiny and the
way you can implement the word you have read is through prayers.

There are things God has said about you, these things can only be revealed to you through the moments spent with
him, and that is why your relationship with God is important.

PROPHETIC PREPARATION

The book of Hebrews 10:7 says “Then said I, Lo, I come (in the volume of the book it is written of me,) to do your
will, O God.” There is a prophecy that has been written ahead of you, and there is a prophetic preparation needed
for the fulfillment of the prophecy.

My Spiritual Father would say between prophecy and fulfillment is a long line of alignment that can be gotten in the
place of preparation.

INTELLECTUAL PREPARATION

As Christians, it is necessary to know that there is a cognitive preparation needed for destiny. Don’t just stay with
knowing your bible only, there are lots of mind-lifting books you need to read and comprehend.

There are books related to your calling, and reading them will make you more informed about your destiny. You must
be smart, and be vast in knowledge. The Bible made cognizance of the fact that you should study to show yourself
approved.

The book of Daniel showed how Daniel knew by reading and how the spirit of excellence was upon him. There is so
much wisdom in books. The question is, how largely do you read?

BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS

The lord didn’t create anyone to be alone. There is a relationship aspect every man should understand and take note
of, and when relationships are being discussed, it's not solely on relationships leading to marriage, there are lots

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more kinds of quality relationships apart from marital relationships. Let's explore the three kinds of relationships:

● Relationship above
● Relationship with peers
● Relationship below

There is a necessity for building a relationship with people who are above you, they help in making you forge ahead in
destiny. Building relationships above could include mentors, Kings, and nobles, people who have gone far ahead of you.
There is a right way to communicate with Kings and nobles. Taking the life of Joseph as an example, Joseph
understood how to relate and build relationships with people of higher authority, and that contributed to him
becoming the prime minister of Egypt.

Building relationships with peers is a lot easier because you people can relate well. Relationships built with peers
should be targeted towards destiny so that you people can grow together.

Building relationships with people who are below could be a little demanding and excruciating, still, it's still necessary.
These people tend to be much more accessible, and easy to deal with. You can teach them easily, make an impact, and
also learn from them.

These few mentioned above are areas you should invest in, and you will be grateful you did.

YOUR LOCAL CHURCH

I know you might be probably wondering, how is the church related to my becoming? The Bible says “I will give you
pastors after my heart." The Lord has a way he wants his children to be sheep. We all are sheep following a
shepherd's lead.

Jesus trained his disciples, and after he was done, he sent them out to make disciples of all nations, that means that
we are all disciples of God, and all disciple needs a shepherd. So it made sense that Jesus gave us pastors after his
heart.

In your journey of becoming, there is a place for going to a church where God has placed you. You should not just
attend any church because you love their sermon, or because you love the way they sing, the church environment, or
any other thing.

These things can be so beautiful, but there is another greater motive for going to church. The Lord has planted you
somewhere, which could be referred to as your making place, it is in your position to pray and stay where God has
placed you.

After discovering where God has placed you, it is vital to learn there. The primary purpose of going to church is to
learn about God, every other thing comes secondary. If you are in a place where you are not learning, it is the wrong
place to be.

Please, be informed that the church you attend will go a long way in your journey of becoming.

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