As a kid, I've always been envious of boys who are friends with each other, you know

boys who have lot of friends and were easy to socialize. When you are alone you figure out a
lot of things that you’ve never really know about yourself. When you're just completely alone
with no friends, I feel like there's a certain breakthrough that you probably never have,”am I
worthy of having friends?” And what I'm trying to say here is don't ever let having no friends
to stop you from living your best life..

that was a really intro. anyways hi everyone welcome to my videos, we're going to be
talking about why having no friends is completely okay. So you might be like “dude, what the
hell are you talking about?” I'm kinda shocked that I will talked about this, because as you
guys can see I do a lot of things by myself. I've always kept my feelings to myself, I've
always kept my problems to myself, I've always fixed everything by myself, gone
everywhere by myself, even played online games by myself where they can play together.
Ah, I'm reminded of a song, Masak... Masak Sendiri Makan.... Makan Sendiri, Cuci Baju
Sendiri Tidurku Sendiri. Ok stop, I'm just kidding.

Actually I've always had trouble keeping friends long term this can go into a lot of
issues of mine and as a kid I've always been extremely insecure.. because I didn't have you
know.. a lot of friends that I had like really low self-esteem. ever since I was a kid I did
everything by myself! but it was always kinda like I had to, I didn't really learn to enjoy
doing things by myself. For real, why no one told me that being alone as a kid was ok,
actually I liked it. as a kid I've always been envious of boys who are friends with each other
you know boys who have lot of friends and I always wanted to be like that but as I’ve gotten
older and I realized how having no friends is.. really okay, for real. it really is when you’re
alone you figure out a lot of things that you've never really known about yourself because
sometimes when you're in group settings, a lot of us tend to just like go with the flow.. you go
with what your friends want. I want to do this because I just want to enjoy their company
which is completely fine, but you don't realize what you want you like this activity because
you guys are doing it together right? you have your friends company you like their company
so hence you like this activity, that doesn't mean YOU like this activity when you have no
friends to hang out with, all you have is yourself, so you really try to do things that you enjoy,
right? You can enjoy online games that you really like, although playing together with other
people sounds fun but spending time alone is more fun. You can vacation at the beach where
you love instead of going with your homies who only plan trips to the mountains every week
that you hate because of all the bugs. Yeahh, you can do it all by yourself. No more bugs, no
more ghost spawns in the mountains, no more boring games that you'll keep playing every
day. Ok next.

(But I get lonely so easily, what should I do without friends?)

You're not an introvert, get out of here and make friends! Okay, again I'm just kidding.
It's very obvious like you know, we all want friends so it's very very normal to feel lonely cuz
sometimes when we feel lonely it's like you feel bad about it. you're like “I can’t believe I
feel lonely” but you need to understand that is very very normal, it is normal to feel lonely, it
is normal to want company from people instead of pushing the thought away, I tell myself
that this is normal. I'm a human being I should want to socialize with people, friendships can
also make you feel lonely. just because you're in a group of people doesn't mean that you
would feel included, right? Sometimes you're in a group of people feel like an outcast, you
just feel like OMG, I feel like nobody here really gives two shits about me, I feel like I'm just
here just to be here. I just want the company of others even though I'm not really enjoying
their company.

so would you rather be feeling lonely by yourself or feeling lonely in a group.

personally I would rather feel lonely by myself, like what's the point hang out with people if
you feel lonely [with them]? when you're with friends, you can become so fixated on them,
you can become so focused on them that you don't really care about what you want, you don't
care about the goals you have because some of us just want to hold onto that someone, you
want to hold onto these friends because you just feel you've been alone for so long. “what if
they leave me?” “what if they leave me for someone else?” “what if I'm not good enough?”
“what if I'm hated by others?” almost everyone has felt this way, including me ofcourse..and I
don't blame you because, you know we all want friends.

I feel like sometimes when you just have no friends sometimes you try to prove
yourself am I worthy of having friends and then you start doing things to make yourself feel I
need to better myself feel I'm worthy for friends, but the things that you are worth your friend
you can create a better version of yourself but make sure that you're creating it for the right
reason you're creating it for yourself that's a proof to anyone that you are worth to have
friends. I had this negative mind this where I feel "oh I don't deserve friends because I can't
remember whoever I met, I can't remember their name because a lot of people I don't know
suddenly come into my life, I tell myself that just because I am hard to recognize and
remember them doesn't mean that I don't deserve friendships and this was something that I
felt like almost as if I'm punishing myself. but when I came to realize is that I am trying to
better myself and I feel like that counts for something if you feel like OMG I feel so alone I
have no friends like I must be such a loser but the thing that you cannot force it just because
you have no friends doesn't mean that you're less worthy compared to other people who do
and I'm also not saying that like oh we should look down on people who have friends because
there are friendships that are extremely beautiful healthy friendships, you know supporting
each other.

some of us just haven't found the right people but sometimes you realize maybe I'm
the problem. it speeds up your self-growth when you realize that there's a problem within you
because we're human we all have problems, right? Don't try to close yourself off just because
you think you're the problem now, it doesn't mean you won't have friends in the future, you
will start to grow better in this phase and one day you will start to be able to socialize with
others, make friends with others and get happiness when you are with others. But while you
still don't have them, "friends". You can still seek or get your own happiness, there are still
many ways to achieve your happiness and there are still many dreams and goals that you can
start to achieve.

sometimes you might even lose your passions and your goals, you might set that
aside, it's like a thing that you don't even realize and that is not to say that ‘this is a friend's
fault, actually it's our fault. I'm not encouraging you to suddenly cut off all your friends. when
you're just completely alone with no friends I feel like there's a certain breakthrough that you
probably never have, I mean of course, it gets dark sometimes but also, it can be a
breakthrough. you realize how capable you are to do absolutely everything by yourself, once
you have this mindset even when you get back into friend groups, you will still have this
mindset. I personally don't think it can be taken away once you have this breakthrough, when
you have no friends you realize that I have to do everything for myself! sometimes these
things is just like you have to just do it, you have so much fear you're like ‘OMG I cannot do
this, I have to do this with someone else, but you can. Literally. sometimes we just overthink
but when we think so much about it, it's a waste of energy. it's literally a waste of energy to be
anxious about it 24/7. just do it, cuz trust me, when you actually do the “thing” it's not as
scary as you think. I just wanna say that have no friends it’s okay.
 Just because you have no friends doesn't mean that you can't achieve your dreams or
whatever you want. You might be like “OMG what if I have certain issues that prevent me
from making friends?”

that's why self-reflection is really important, going to therapy, journaling, self growth
is really important, when you have these issues you want to get better [Music] um that's the
end of my videos that I talk about why having no friends is completely okay. I hope you guys
enjoyed this videos. I'm really happy to be able to talk about this, I guess I wish someone had
told me this maybe when I was younger, trust me you'll find good people along the way but
as of now better yourself and do what makes you happy, I hope you guys are always happy at
morning afternoon or night bye bye [Music]

I feel like sometimes when you just have no friends sometimes you try to prove
yourself am I worthy of having friends and then you start doing things to make yourself feel I
need to better myself feel I'm worthy for friends but the things that you are worth your friend
you can create a better version of yourself but make sure that you're creating it for the right
reason you're creating it for yourself that's a proof to anyone that you are worth your friends
because you are I I had this negative mind this where I feel oh I don't deserve friends because
I have mental issues friendship breaks down I blame it all myself I'm like oh this is my fault
this is my fault I was the one who called it off I'm the one who who left for friendship to
work there needs to be both parties right I sometimes need to remind myself that they also
didn't do anything to fix the friendship I tell myself that just because I am mentally ill doesn't
mean that I don't deserve friendships and this was something that I felt like almost as if I'm
punishing myself but when I came to realize is that I am trying to better myself and I feel like
that counts for something if you feel like oh my God I feel so alone I have no friends like I
must be such a loser but the thing that you cannot force it just because you have friends
doesn't mean that you're you're less worthy compared to other people who do and I'm also not
saying that like oh we should look down on people who have friends because there are
friendships that are extremely beautiful healthy healthy friendships you know supporting one
another some of us just haven't found the right people and I want you guys to stay home cool
really genuine so easy to just be like that's their fault steer for us for somebody it is but
sometimes you realize maybe I'm the problem it speeds up your self-growth when you realize
that there's a problem within you because we're human we all have problems don't shame
yourself don't try to close yourself off just because all my friends down it doesn't mean that
you're not gonna have friends in the future right there's a lot of people who are dealing with
us especially if you're in your early 20s it's not talked about enough once you realize how
capable you are when you are alone it's almost like a superpower in how your happiness can
come from just within yourself you don't need anyone to complete you yes I can help it can
make you happier but you can get all the happiness you want from within yourself you can
spread happiness when you are happy if you are unhappy how the hell can you spread
happiness [Music] I'm not saying that no you have to spread happiness to others it can make
an interaction more joyful and you can realize how when you are happy you attract more
people like I tend to get insecure and sometimes like I project I sometimes just think oh just
because I'm insecure about so and so they probably think bad of me which is really toxic and
it goes to show you this because I'm insecure but if I was happy if I was confident this
interaction that happens with another person will be great I wouldn't be so self-conscious I I
wouldn't think about it I want to think that because I'm confident I'm feeling good which is
why I believe that you need to achieve your happiness foreign you can achieve all the
happiness with yourself you want to go sit by the beach go sit by the beach and when you do
these things that builds up your confidence and when you build up your confidence you
realize how you can do almost everything by yourself I'm not saying that you're doing all of
this to just you know attract people but you're becoming happier at the same time you're
attracting people so it's like a win-win why not I'm not trying to be like oh you can do
everything by yourself so you don't need other people I'm saying that don't close yourself off
to people I want you guys to enjoy her alone time but when people come you can be the
judge of that who you want to let in slowly get to know them don't get attached too fast don't
build this image of them of food they're gonna be and don't feel like and so be it they're not
right for you slowly get to know them and be patient they'll slowly show you who they are
and then get to decide whether you want to continue pursuing the apprenticeship I feel like I
have been more open to people that I have been able to meet a lot of good people good
friends this year when I hang out with friends I like it's like I genuinely enjoy it like I
genuinely go back home like I really enjoy that interaction which I'm really proud to say
because like back then I sometimes go get home from interaction with like friends and it just
it feels awful however I still at the same time enjoy my alone time as well because there's
something different when you hang out by yourself it's also amazing when you can hang out
with really good friends you need to make sure that you don't lose your sense of identity
when you hang out with people I mean of course your identity can always change but just
hold on what feels true to you hold on to yourself no matter who you hang out with it took me
to lose the Friendship to understand who I was and I'm not saying like oh my God that
friendship in order to figure out who I am when the friendship ended I realized how much
things I wanted to do that I never realized I wanted to do before because I was just fixated on
them ever since then I know what I want and I have goals I know what I like and I know what
I don't like and this all happened because I was alone for so long [Music] do a lot of things by
myself a lot what you guys can clearly tell from the content of this channel life can be very
lonely something that makes it more bearable is just finding things that you like doing life is
worth living with kind people and sometimes it can just take a little tiny thing to make your
day really really great it's normal to feel lonely and feel like you have no one to talk to but
don't let that stop you from living don't ever let having no friends to stop you from living
your best life okay because you're life does not depend on others you have yourself and that
is more than enough all you need to do is believe in yourself and when you realize how much
you can achieve when you are alone you become Unstoppable and I'm not lying with that I'm
really not the reason why you'll be unstoppable is because the things that you want to do no
one can stop you the only person that can stop you is yourself so when you realize that I'm
not gonna become my own obstacle and you go achieve that you can do it just because you
have no friends doesn't mean that you can't achieve your dreams or whatever has certain
issues that are preventing your own reading products that's why self-reflection is very
important going to therapy journaling self growth important when you have these issues you
you want to get better [Music] um that's the end of my journal entry episode eight why
having your friends is completely okay I hope you guys enjoyed the journal entry I'm really
happy to be able to talk about this I guess I wish someone had told me this maybe when I was
younger um which is why I'm making this video trust me you'll find good people along the
way but as of now better yourself and do what makes you happy okay okay anyways I will
see you guys all very very soon I hope you guys will have a lovely rest of your morning
afternoon or night okay okay bye [Music]