Denial
Denial
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DOI: 10.1080/10538712.2013.735356
BARBARA REICHER
Private Practice
INTRODUCTION
Denial tends to go part and parcel with sexual offending (Barbaree, 1991;
Conte, 1985; Marshall & Barbaree, 1990; Marshall & Eccles, 1991; Pithers,
1990; Stevenson, Castillo, & Sefarbi, 1989). Though it is a complex phe-
nomenon with numerous definitions, many sexual offender treatment models
attempt to simplify denial into a dichotomy of truth and falsehood. When this
is taken to the extreme, deniers are “denied” access to therapy due to their
disavowal of offense issues (Langevin & Lang, 1985; Schwartz, 1995). A vari-
ation on this approach deems denial a counterindication to therapy in that
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it implies that the client rejects the need for help. Other writers pinpoint
the need for therapists to actively (and sometimes aggressively) confront
the abuser’s denial (Salter, 1988; Sharp, 2000; Wyre, 1989), which can often
play out like a he-said, she-said scenario, creating two diametrically opposed
camps rather than a therapeutic alliance.
Conventionally, therapy deals with what the client brings to a session,
and therefore the denial of offensive behavior becomes a clinical conun-
drum. For example, the delineation between facts and subjective truths in
children with sexual behavioral problems (SBP) may be unclear. As a result,
therapists may find themselves vacillating between face value acceptance of
what the client says to taking on a more investigative role. Considerations
about the therapy being compromised may result from the therapist’s sense
of doubt regarding the veracity of what the client brings up in treat-
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ment. Lastly, the compatibility between the client’s accountability and his
or her claim that no offense was committed can pose a difficult therapeutic
dilemma.
The sexual offender literature is also sparse in regard to analyzing the
complexities of denial (Laflen & Sturm, 1994). This is even more prevalent
in the literature on children and youth with SBP. Similar to the situation
with adults, some form of denial tends to constitute the basis of the initial
encounter an assessor or therapist has with these children and adolescents.
It often becomes a major element in the therapeutic discourse. However,
despite its empirical presence, denial still tends to only be mentioned in
passing in the literature and a broader discussion of ways to cope with this
mechanism is generally lacking.
This article is a modest attempt to enrich therapeutic understanding of
denial in children and adolescents who sexually offend. To counter the ten-
dency to deny denial, its multifaceted manifestations will be spotlighted as
will the various conceptualizations that exist regarding denial and its ther-
apeutic management. A number of vignettes detailing interactions between
therapist and client from my clinical experience as therapist and supervisor
will be used as illustration. The construct of denial will be explored from
both psychodynamic and cognitive-behavioral models.
Defining Denial
DENIAL AS A DEFENSE MECHANISM
Psychodynamically, denial is considered a primitive defense mechanism
employed from infancy. Its goal is to aid adaptation by reducing anxiety and
bolstering self-esteem (Cramer, 2006). Denial is “the conscious or uncon-
scious repudiation of part or all of the total available meanings of an event
to allay fear, anxiety or other unpleasurable affects” (Weisman & Hatchett,
1961, p. 232). In its simplest form, it is a mental operation enabling the
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Categories of Denial
Denial can also be categorized into two broad and sometimes overlap-
ping categories. The perceptual system is dominant in some of the previously
mentioned mental operations in that reality is not seen or heard (“turning a
blind eye”), avoidance is implemented (“turning one’s back”), and what is
perceived can be distorted. The other category of denial relates more to
cognition and fantasy construction. An individual creates a potent fantasy
or narrative of events that includes both an account of what transpired as
well as the narrator’s psychological perspective on what happened (Laszlo,
2008). This narrative is generally geared to reflect positively on the subject.
This fantasy or narrative can overshadow reality and even becomes a par-
tial replacement for certain portions of personal experience. The following
vignette is an example of a denial narrative heard in my clinical practice.
Several irate parents complained about an 8-year-old boy who kissed and
fondled their children on numerous occasions. On being presented with
these complaints, the parents of this child were convinced that there
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Spectrums of Denial
Denial can also be conceived of as a continuum. Along these lines, the
literature on sexual offenders has put forward many specific typologies.
Schneider and Wright (2004) used categories of denial identified in various
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typologies (see Schneider & Wright, 2004, Table 1) to create their own self-
report measure that they proceeded to empirically test using factor analysis.
They identified seven categories of denial: denial of offense, denial of victim
impact, denial of extent of abuse, denial of responsibility, denial of planning,
denial of sexual deviancy, and denial of relapse potential. To illustrate the
different aspects of denial, the following vignette is taken from a group ther-
apy session that I led for adolescents with sexually offensive behavior. The
participant “O.” demonstrated various levels of denial in different contexts.
O., a 16-year-old boy, did not deny his multiple sexual offenses against
younger boys in therapy. More to the point, he appeared to get some kind
of exhibitionistic satisfaction from recounting his behavior. However, he
was committed to working on his problem and was very cooperative
in the group treatment. After a year of group sessions, he recounted to
the group that he had “befriended” a 10-year-old boy who shared with
him many common interests. Both the therapists and the group began
confronting O. with the implications of this “friendship.” O. was in total
denial of the manipulative nature of his behavior, and only after much
group effort could he realize the relapse potential of being in contact
with a younger boy.
This quote relates to the paradox inherent in denial: to know and not
to know. Denial can never be absolute as at least some information is
registered in order for it to be disavowed. From a neurological point of
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A., a 13-year-old boy with social difficulties, heard his peers discussing
sex. This caused him to feel that, once again, he was left out and “not nor-
mal.” He had full sexual relations with his 6-year-old sister and repeated
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this behavior several times over a period of 6 months. Eventually the sis-
ter accidentally disclosed the abuse to her kindergarten teacher. A. loved
his sister dearly and, though he was secretive about the sexual contact,
he denied that he did anything wrong and that she could be hurt by his
actions. He was negativistic toward the therapy and, though very bright,
his therapeutic dialogue was lame and piecemeal, leaving the therapist
with a disjointed sense of whom this child was.
Z., a 16-year-old youth exploited the fact that a 14-year-old girl with
low-normal intelligence was flirting with him. He cajoled her into an iso-
lated area and urged her to perform oral sex on him. This youth came
from a disadvantaged background characterized by neglect and physi-
cal and financial hardship. His dominant experience of his parents and
other authority figures was of disappointment. Z. developed an attitude
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FAULTY SCHEMAS
Schemas are cognitive abbreviations of details that can facilitate the pro-
cessing of information, fill in gaps in knowledge, and offer interpretations
(Taylor, Peplau, & Sears, 2000). Schemas are cognitive manifestations of pre-
existing belief systems or assumptions and their use is not necessarily fully
conscious. Children with sexual behavior problems, like adult sexual offend-
ers, can be guided by schemas that color their interactions in an improper
light. As such, denial that relies heavily on a faulty schema can be automatic
and semiconscious and not necessarily an attempt to avoid social disapproval
(Barbaree, 1991; Marshall & Eccles, 1991). Furthermore, when cognitive dis-
sonance is caused by a discrepancy between one’s belief system and other
information, the schema can be maintained by altering one’s perceptions and
memories to create consistency. The following vignette helps to illustrate
these clinical issues.
Denial is there for a purpose. It is the glue that holds an already shat-
tered self-esteem together. And it is the tactic through which otherwise
overwhelming anxiety can be contained.
—Wallace (1977, p. 18)
overwhelmed.
Clinical practice has shown that as denial is worked through in the
therapeutic process, many children with SBP begin to show depressive affect.
The loss of denial heralds insight but also the coming to grips with the
inner and outer consequences of their offensive behavior. As such, denial
should be treated as a major defense, often protecting a fragile ego. The
following vignette provides a salient example of the emotional ramifications
of conceding on denial.
C., an 8-year-old boy, watched as his friend stripped his 4-year-old sister
and proceeded to touch her genitals. C. was both scared and mesmer-
ized by this scene and eventually also began touching the little girl. The
boys were caught in the act when C.’s parents happened to enter the
room. While at first attempting to deny any wrongdoing, C. soon admit-
ted to everything that he had done. His parents’ reaction was strong and
harsh. C.’s father slapped his son, leaving a bruise on his face. C. was
not allowed out of the house for 4 weeks except to attend school and
he was forbidden to watch any television or use the computer. Soon
thereafter, C. developed encopresis and became withdrawn, effectively
isolating himself socially.
Microgenesis of Denial
A step-by-step breakdown of the unfolding of denial commences with a
disturbing trigger that pains or otherwise holds the potential for negatively
impacting the child. The ensuing emotional disequilibrium causes the child
to arrest his usual thought processes by blocking information and responses
that could help him manage the perceived danger or threat. The stage of
cognitive arrest necessarily preempts making a more balanced assessment
of the situation. Screen behavior, similar to a “cover story,” is the next step
intended to round out the rough edges caused by the cognitive arrest.
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Denial Developmentally
less stable. It is in this developmental period that the ego ideal can become
particularly salient, as its standards can be derived from many (extrafamilial)
sources. This can be seen, for example, in adolescent aspirations such as
hero-worship and strong group identification, etc. In order to illustrate indi-
vidual and group dynamics in adolescence, an example vignette was taken
from a consultation I made for social services after several teenagers banded
together to commit sexually offenses against a female peer.
CLINICAL IMPLICATIONS
Therapeutic Tools and Approaches
Children and adolescents with SBP who display various forms of denial
pose a major therapeutic challenge. Denial is a complex phenomenon that
needs to be approached through a broad lens rather than a simplistic,
truth–deceit dichotomy (Schneider & Wright, 2004). Cognitive-behavioral and
psychodynamic theories can contribute to this wider approach in that they
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Acted-Out Denial
It has been the author’s experience, both as a clinician and as a supervi-
sor of other clinicians in this field, that a certain percentage of youth with
sexually abusive behavior reoffend during treatment. Such an occurrence is
difficult to contain as a therapist: it arouses strong emotions such as anger
and frustration at the client for victimizing another person and doubt about
the effectiveness of the therapy. However, because this type of therapeutic
crisis has the potential to occur, it is important to analyze its meaning. The
reoffense sends a very concrete message that there is no room for denial.
The subtext may be for the therapist to treat the denial in another fashion, to
revisit the causality of the SBP, and/or to alert the milieu as to the need for
the offending youth to be more closely supervised. Although at a huge price
of another person’s victimization, such a crisis of reoffending may become
a therapeutic breakthrough. The offending youth has broken through his or
her own denial.
in families of children with SBP, but that is beyond the scope of the present
article (see Abu-Baker, 2013, this issue, for ways in which denial manifests
in dysfunctional families affected by sexual abuse of one of the children).
Therapists, too, are not immune to the looplike effect of denial. This can
play out as the therapist denying denial.
Therapists facing a youth who has abused a fellow youth can be over-
whelmed by the youth’s actions. With children and adolescents especially
there can be a huge discrepancy between how the youth presents in therapy
and the severity of his or her abusive actions. There can be a basic cognitive
dissonance between a naïve young child and reports of actions including
elements of adult sexuality or aggression. Such an onslaught of disparate
material can cause therapists to mentally minimize the extent of the offense
or inadvertently aid the youth in not fully verbalizing his or her actions. Some
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therapists overidentify with the abusive (and often abused) youth, which can
lead to accepting denial at face value (Benedek, 1985). In such scenarios, the
therapist is, for various reasons, “infected” as it were with the youth’s denial
and the therapy can be compromised as a result.
SUMMARY
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AUTHOR NOTE
Barbara Reicher received a BSW from Tel Aviv University, Israel, and an
MSW degree from Bar Ilan University, Israel. She did advanced training in
family therapy and is certified as a family therapist and supervisor in Israel.
She was trained as a researcher in Expressed Emotion (a qualitative research
format) in the Mental Research Center, London, England, and researched that
subject with Nigerian schizophrenics. She has done brief training in TF-CBT
and PCIT.In the past 15 years, Ms. Reicher’s main professional and research
interests are in the field of child sexual abuse. She has taken part in sev-
eral national think tanks in Israel to discuss treatment strategies and advise
government agencies as to effective interventions. She is presently working
on two research projects. One is a qualitative research designed to under-
stand the traumatic bond between children who sexually offend and their
child victims. The second project is to examine the clinical sensitivity of the
Wartegg psychological test to detecting sexual abuse and sexual offending
in children.