Personal Development

Quarter 2 | 1st Semester | 2024

Book Reference 14. Addictions

15. Excessive reliance on social media
Module 9: Personal Relationships 16. Lack of support
Personal Relationships 17. Manipulation
- Refer to close connections between people 18. Lack of communication
- Formed by emotional bonds and 19. Poor division and/or one-sided lack of
interactions responsibility for chores and tasks.
- These bonds often grow and are 20. Perceived lack of concern, care and
strengthened by mutual experiences consideration/ attentiveness
- Relationships are not static 21. Significant personal disappointments
Family 22. Long-term depression
- The Bureau of Census defines family as 23. Significant differences in opinion or how to
“two or more persons who are related by deal with children
birth, marriage, adoption and who live 24. Long-term stress
together as one household 25. Unsupportive partner during pregnancy
- Close connections Connect with Your Family
Friends - Family support can provide comfort,
- Close ties between two people that is often support and even influence better health
built upon mutual experiences, shared outcomes while you are sick
interest, emotional bonding and proximity Ways to Connect with Your Family
Partnerships a) Practice gratitude
- Romantic partnerships, including marriage, b) Learn to forgive
are close relationships formed between two c) Be compassionate
people that are built upon affection, trust, d) Accept others
intimacy and romantic love e) Create rituals together
Why Personal Relationships are Important f) Spend the right amount of time
1. Live longer together
2. Deal with stress 10 Rules for Finding Love and Creating Long-
3. Be healthier Lasting Authentic Relationships
4. Feel richer 1. You must love yourself first
Consequences of Low Social Support 2. Partnering is a choice
1. Depression 3. Creating love is a process
2. Decreased immune function 4. Relationships provide opportunities to grow
3. Higher blood pressure 5. Communication is essential
25 Most Common Relationship Problems 6. Negotiation will be required
1. Affairs/ infidelity/ cheating 7. Your relationship will be challenged by
2. Sexual issues change
3. Significant differences in core values and 8. You must nurture the relationship for it to
beliefs thrive
4. Life stages 9. Renewal is the key for longevity
5. Traumatic/ Life-Changing events 10. You will forget all this the moment you fall
6. Responses to prolonged period of Stress in love
7. Bored in or with your relationship Keeping Healthy Relationships
8. Dealing with jealous partner a) Both partners are treated with kindness and
9. Having ‘blended’ family issues respect
10. Domestic violence b) They are honest with each other
11. Knowing you should have not gotten c) They like to spend time together
married in the first place d) They take an interest in things that are
12. Lack of responsibility important to each other
13. Unrealistic expectations
 e) They respect one another’s emotional, 8. The right to live free from angry
physical and sexual limits outbursts and rage
f) They can speak honestly about their 9. The right to be respectfully asked,
feelings rather than ordered
Additional:
LOVE SHOULD NEVER HURT
 Patience
Love should never have ABUSE and ASSAULT  Honesty
 Kindness
Sexual Abuse  Respect
- A type of violence that involves any kind of
unwanted sexual advances
Emotional Abuse
- Anything that harms your self-esteem or
causes shame
How to Communicate
- Taking openly makes relationships more fun
and satisfying
What to talk about?
o Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)
o Possibility of Pregnancy
o Right Time for Sex
o Boundaries
Making the Decision: Deciding Whether or Not to
Have Sex
- Talk to your parents
- According to a survey for young people,
drugs and alcohol are often consumed
before having sex
How to Avoid Peer or Date Pressure
a) Hang out with friends who also believe its
okay to not be ready to have sex yet
b) Go out with a group of friends rather than
only your date
c) Introduce your friends to your parents
d) Invite your friends to your home
e) Stick up for your friends if they are also
pressured to have sex
f) Think of what to say in advance in case
someone tries to pressure you
Basic Rights in a Relationship
1. The right to emotional support
2. The right to be heard by the other and to
respond
3. The right to have your own point of view,
even if it differs from your partner’s
4. The right to have your own feelings and
experiences acknowledged as real
5. The right to live free from accusation
and blame
6. The right to live free from criticism and
judgment
7. The right to live free from emotional and
physical threats
PPT Reference • Long lasting commitments are
Relationship exchanged
- A relation between people Three Components of Triangular Theory of Love
- A state of connectedness between people, 1. Intimacy
especially an emotional connection • An intimate interpersonal
Personal Relationships relationship that involves physical
- Relationships between people, especially intimacy or emotional intimacy
those of friends, lovers and family members • Involves connectedness, closeness
Love and bondedness
- Strong affection for another arising out of 2. Passion
kinship or personalities • An intense emotion
- Attraction based on sexual desire; affection • Compelling enthusiasm
and tenderness felt by lovers • Desire for something
- Affection based on admiration benevolence 3. Commitment
or common interests • The attitude of someone who works
Commitment very hard to do or support
- The act of binding yourself (intellectually or something
emotionally) to a course of action • An act of deciding to completely
- A message that makes a pledge fulfill and live by agreements made
Attraction with another person
- The act, power or property of attracting • Integrity and respect serve as a
- Attractive quality; magnetic charm; guide to one’s behavior and thinking
fascination; allurement; enticement Types of Love
Responsibility 1. PHILIA – Affectionate Love
- Social force that binds you to courses of • A love that runs deep in true
action demanded by that force friendship
- A form of trustworthiness • Occurs between friends or family
- The trait of being answerable to someone members
for something or being responsible for • Called brotherly love when both
one’s conduct people share the same values and
Three Brain Systems of Love or Stages of Falling in respect each other
Love 2. PRAGMA – Enduring Love
1. Lust • Mature love that develops over
• Refers to an urge or desire that time
motivates us to partake in sexual • Commitment and effort are needed
activity
• Instead of “falling in love” you
2. Attraction
“stand in love” with your partner
• Described as the love-struck phase 3. STORAGE – Familiar Love
• A stage where a person loses sleep • Naturally occurring
and appetite over someone and
• Rooted in parents and children
becomes excited over someone
• Infinite love built upon acceptance
while daydreaming of that special
and deep emotional connection
person
• Comes easily and immediately,
• Focusing our attention to a
flows between parents and children
particular person or desire
or childhood friends
Factors of Attraction
4. EROS – Romantic Love
o Physical Attractiveness
• Personal infatuation and physical
o Proximity
pleasure
o Similarity
• Passionate love displayed through
o Reciprocity
affection
3. Attachment
5. LUDUS – Playful Love
• A deep and enduring emotional
• Flirting and beginning stages of
bond that connects one person to
love
another across time and space
 • Childlike and flirtatious D. Children
• Consists of teasing, playful motives • they are the ones that need to be
and laughter between two people cared more and ensured that they
6. MANIA – Obsessive Love are supported with services they
• Obsessiveness or madness over a mostly need.
love partner E. Celebrities
• Leads to unwanted jealousy or • people who promote ethical
possessiveness behavior, responsible personal
7. PHILAUTIA – Self Love decisions, social justice.
• Healthy “self-compassion” love • They are also expected to show
towards one’s self good behaviors
• You recognize your self-worth and F. Church Members
don’t ignore your personal needs • people who commit to practice
• Begins with acknowledging your their faith.
responsibility for your well-being • They let their faith grow and carry
8. AGAPE – Selfless Love out their faith traditions.
• Empathetic attitude of love towards Leadership
everyone and anyone - is the ability of the person in authority to
• The highest love to offer guide others to achieve certain goals
• Given without any expectations of - a way of influencing other people by which
receiving anything in return the leader influences the followers to
• Unconditional love achieve the organizational goals
Followership
Module 10: Social Relationships in Middle - is the act or condition of following a leader.
and Late Adolescence - Being a follower is not passive, one must be
Social Relationships a critical thinker and interactive in the act of
- Your interactions with other people helping the leader achieve the goal
- Vary from the degree of intimacy and Social Influence
vulnerability you offer to other people so as - is the impact of a person to another person
to cooperate and achieve a certain objective which causes the latter to change his
Four Main Types of Relationships that Influence behavior as convinced by the influencer.
You as an Adolescent Some social influences are known as:
1. Parents • Conformity
2. Peers • Compliance
3. Community • Obedience
4. Society Perception of One’s Self and Others
Roles of Individuals and the Influence of
Leadership
A. Political Leaders
• these are the people who create and
implement the laws of the land.
• They are the role models through
which we follow the laws
B. Religious Leaders
• individuals who guide their
followers according to their faith. 1. Self-Concept
• They are keepers of religious • Your awareness of yourself
traditions and are also moral leaders 2. Self-Efficacy
C. Teachers • making use of all the personal
• they are the educators of young resources: talents, skills, energy
minds. and time, to enable you to achieve
• They impart knowledge to the young goal.
generation to become the next
generation of leaders.
 3. Self Esteem 6. Bi-racial or multi-racial family
• Self-esteem is how we value and • the parents are the members of
perceive ourselves different racial identity groups.
• Confidence 7. Trans-racial adoptive family
4. Self-Perception • the adopted child is of a different
• How a person view someone of his racial identity group than the
or her self or of any of the mental or parents.
physical attributes that constitute 8. Blended family
the self. • consists of members form two (or
Knowing Something About Filipino Relationships more) previous families.
Values 9. Conditionally separated families
- guide to man’s behaviors and actions as • A family member is separated from
they relate with others in most situations in the rest of the family.
life. • They remain significant members of
- Filipinos believe values are somehow the the family.
symbol of identity which helps them keep 10. Foster family
harmonious relationships. • one or more of the children is legally
Examples a temporary member of the
 sense of propriety or ‘hiya’ household.
 pakikipagkapwa-tao 11. Gay or lesbian family
 Hospitality • one or both parents’ sexual
 utang na loob orientation is gay or lesbian.
 Bayanihan 12. Immigrant family
• the parents have immigrated to
Module 11: Family Structures and Legacies
another country as adults
• Their children may or may not be
Family Structure immigrants.
- considered a family support system which 13. Migrant family
involves two married individuals providing • regularly moves to places where
care and stability for their biological they have employment
offspring Family Legacies
Different Kinds of Family Structures 1. Emotional Legacy
1. Nuclear family • our children need an enduring sense
• Family unit consisting of at most a of security and stability
father, mother, and dependent • nurtured in an environment of safety
children. and love.
• It is considered the “traditional” 2. Social Legacy
family • They need to learn the fine art of
2. Extended family relating to people.
• consisting of parents and children, 3. Spiritual Legacy
along with either grandparents, • adopt attitudes and beliefs about
grandchildren, aunts or uncles, spiritual matters from one source to
cousins etc. another.
3. Step families • Parents are primary in spiritual
• Two families brought together due upbringing
to divorce, separation, and
remarriage
4. Single parent family
• can be either a father or a mother
who is singly responsible for the
raising of a child.
5. Adoptive family
• A family where one or more of the
children has been adopted.
 Module 12: Persons and Careers 6. Gender
• Posses’ challenges and opportunities
for us when choosing a career
Career • But in modern times, the gender
- Combination and sequence of roles played divide in terms of career have slowly
by a person during the course of their narrowed
lifetime Super’s Career Development Theory
- Dictates a lot of things in your life, the life Donald Super
you’ll lead, the relationships you’ll have and - Influenced the idea that developing a sense
the balance you’ll keep of self and realize that change over time is
Career Concepts important when planning your career
1. Job - One of his greatest contributions to career
• A position an individual holds doing development has been his emphasis on the
specific duties importance of the development of self-
2. Occupation concept
• The similar work for which people - Argues that occupational preferences and
have similar responsibilities competencies, along with an individual’s life
• They develop a common set of skills situations, all change with time and
or knowledge experience.
The Trait and Factor Model - Developed the concept of vocational
- A model that shows the factors that maturity, which may or may not correspond
influence career choices to chronical age: people cycle through each
1. Skills and Abilities of these stages when they go through
• It is important that you take stock of career transitions
the skills, knowledge, and abilities Super’s Five Life and Career Development Stages
that you currently posses and those
that need development as these Stage Age Characteristics
greatly impact the kind of career Growth Birth- Development of self-
that is a good match for you. 14 concepts, attitudes,
2. Personality and Interests needs and general world
• According to John Holland, popular of work
Exploration 15-24 “Trying out” through
career counselor, said that certain
classes, work hobbies.
careers require certain personality
Tentative choices and
traits and must also fit our interests
skill development
3. Life Roles Establishment 25-44 Entry-level skill building
• A strong factor that influences our and stabilization through
career choices. work experience
• Your role as child, sister, brother, Maintenance 45-64 Continual adjustment
student, and eventually when you process to improve
choose it, as a parent. Decisions that position
will influence your life as adults Decline 65+ Reduced output, prepare
• According to Donald Super, career for retirement
development theorist, our life roles
change over time and will likely need
other forces to maintain a career
4. Race and Ethnicity
• The culture in which we belong to
shapes our values and expectations
5. Family
• They have a strong influence in our
choices
• They influence our will to achieve
great heights in our career
Developmental Tasks at These Different Stages

Life Stage Adolescence Early Adulthood Middle Adulthood Late Adulthood

14-25 25-45 45-65 65+

Decline Giving less time to Reducing sports Focusing on Reducing working

hobbies participation essentials hours
Maintenance Verifying current Making occupational Holding one’s own Keeping what one
occupational choice position secure against competition enjoys
Establishment Getting started in a Setting down in a Developing new Doing things, one
chosen field suitable position skills has wanted to do
Exploration Learning more about Finding desired Identify new tasks to Finding a good
opportunities opportunities work on retirement place
Growth Developing a realistic Learning to relate to Accepting one’s own Developing and
self-concept others limitations valuing non-
occupational roles

Kaya niyo yan guys, Goodluck!!!

- Ate Hannah