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Dr. Russ Harris | 304 pages | 13 Apr 2011 | Little, Brown Book Group | 9781849016889 | English | London, United Kingdom
Unpicking the confidence gap between men and women in leadership
Two-thirds of junior employees are female, but women hold only about one in five senior roles. This is a question with a thousand answers. But too
often, the one that gets attention is confidence and its related trait, competitiveness. Many of these arguments rely on data gathered from teenagers
—stories of adolescents that psychologists have treated, or data from high-school-age subjects. While there is evidence that teenage girls are less
confident than their male peers, the gap between adult women and men shrinks to a sliver, and there is a fierce debate among researchers about
whether even this small gap exists. Kling and her colleagues found in a canonical study that the adolescent confidence gap shrinks markedly by age
Other research has found that while there may be a small—again, small—gender confidence gap among adults, this is because men rate their
abilities more highly than their performance would warrant.
One of the biggest landmark studies on gender differences found no innate differences at all , other than a handful of physical differences such as
the distance men can throw a ball. We need to look for answers in the research conducted on living, breathing, adult women in the workforce.
Look there, and what do we see? That women get less credit for the work they do, especially when they collaborate with men.
That women ask for raises just as often as men, but are less likely to get them—and when they do get raises, they get smaller pay bumps. That
women who are mothers have their commitment unrelentingly questioned even though research on academics has shown that mothers are more
productive than non-mothers. That women are less likely to be referred to by their professional credentials when introduced by men but not by
other women. Be prepared to work even harder the second time around. Then be willing to go to bat for yourself. One of the best motivators for
self-promotion is envisioning where you want your career to be five or 10 years from now. Confidence and self-promotion are essential to fulfilling
your career goals. Women need to step out from behind the cloak of anonymity to make real change in the corporate world. You may experience
backlash on occasion, but let your results and success speak for themselves. Latest Video Start A Business. Women Entrepreneurs.
To erase the gender pay gap, we first need to address the gender confidence gap. Here's how women can create space for themselves and others
to advance. Next Article -- shares link Add to Queue. Image credit: Hero Images Getty Images. Sona Jepsen. January 4, 5 min read. Women
were able to translate their self-confident image into influence only when they also displayed high prosocial orientation, or the motivation to benefit
others. Another study revealed that people prefer leaders to show stereotypically masculine traits while stereotypically feminine traits are seen
simply as nice add-ons. Sheryl Sandberg, author of Lean In , says this is one of the biggest barriers stopping women from going after leadership
positions. Being bossy can actually be quite useful because it means you get things done and you get other people to get things done too. But, it
only ever tends to be used in a negative way and is usually only applied to women. Unfortunately, despite how much is happening in the arena of
diversity and inclusion, these unconscious biases still exist.
The biggest problem with these labels is that we accept them without question. When in reality, you may not be lacking confidence, but actually,
you are a classic introvert and just don't need to talk out loud as much as others. This is where self-awareness , fueled by feedback and a better
understanding of your own personality , proves invaluable.

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Being bossy can actually be quite useful because it means you get things done and you get other people to get things done too. But, it only ever
tends to be used in a negative way and is usually only applied to women. Unfortunately, despite how much is happening in the arena of diversity
and inclusion, these unconscious biases still exist. The biggest problem with these labels is that we accept them without question. When in reality,
you may not be lacking confidence, but actually, you are a classic introvert and just don't need to talk out loud as much as others. This is where
self-awareness , fueled by feedback and a better understanding of your own personality , proves invaluable. If we understand how we are
perceived and why we behave in a certain way, we can become more sure of ourselves.
If we are more sure of ourselves, we can lead with greater conviction, and as a consequence, yield better results. But, you can change your
conviction. Even by just adding stats or by stating things more simply, you can come across as more assured. At the same time, the leaders we
need in business today are those who have conviction, but who are confident enough to put their hand up and say "I don't know". In our
experience, where women often need more support is in encouraging them to play with their strengths and to let go of things they perceive as
weaknesses. Whereas now I think for women to succeed we need women to be themselves. Topics: Featured women in leadership. A lion fights!
With practice, we can choose how to discharge our natural anxiety into productive action. Anxiety is simply an energized signal, how we react to it
is up to us. This is where confidence, self-esteem, and courage come in. Courage is fundamental to taking action amidst anxiety, making brave
decisions, and leading.
Like any muscle, courage needs to be practiced and exercised to get stronger. Every time we stretch, and try to the point of vulnerability,
confidence and self-esteem grow. Women need to be clear on how insidious anxiety can be, and start to see it as a natural response that can be
mobilized into action, not simply avoided. Anxiety can be viewed as a good thing, a positive force for change. A catalyst for actualizing confidence.
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But, it only ever tends to be used in a negative way and is usually only applied to women. Unfortunately, despite how much is happening in the
arena of diversity and inclusion, these unconscious biases still exist. The biggest problem with these labels is that we accept them without question.
When in reality, you may not be lacking confidence, but actually, you are a classic introvert and just don't need to talk out loud as much as others.
This is where self-awareness , fueled by feedback and a better understanding of your own personality , proves invaluable. If we understand how
we are perceived and why we behave in a certain way, we can become more sure of ourselves. If we are more sure of ourselves, we can lead with
greater conviction, and as a consequence, yield better results.
But, you can change your conviction. Even by just adding stats or by stating things more simply, you can come across as more assured. Examples
they point to include:. Widespread change is possible when women receive support from many different sources to bolster their skills, confidence,
and opportunities in their careers. Learn more about the benefits of the Barriers to Entry program. Skip to content. Examples they point to include:
A study by the Cornell psychologist David Dunning and the Washington State University psychologist Joyce Ehrlinger: Before giving male and
female college students a quiz on scientific reasoning, they asked them to rate their own scientific skills.
All too often what holds women back is not our actual ability, but how we perceive our ability due the yardstick we're measuring it against. Little
wonder so many women are perpetually exhausted. Speaking of which…. We may have more rights and opportunities but we still only have 24
hours in a day and we still can't be in two places at once. I could stay up until 1 a. Warning: this could be life changing.
Who do you think you are? What will people say? Brady advises practicing self-compassion at those moments when that voice pipes up and
threatens to take the reins of power. Giving your doubts and misgivings the power to call the shots will keep you playing too small, settling for too
little and missing out on all the learning and confidence—boosting that flows from daring to do more than you have until now.
Hillary Clinton was famous for her pant suits, a fashion choice she no doubt felt necessary to assert her authority and conform to the gendered
norms of what a leader looks like. It had its merits but by avoiding appearing too soft or feminine, many found her to be too hard. Clinton faced the
double bind of so many ambitious women, you can be nice and likable or you can be strong and competent. Regardless of gender, real authenticity
requires giving up the need to and embracing who we are… and who we are not.
Diversity in all its forms is invaluable. Celebrate and elevate rather than compare and compete with other women. Men have been sponsoring and
mentoring other men for time eternal. Women… not so much. A crucial lever to emboldening women and addressing the imbalance of sponsors
and mentors that women have relative to men is to fully unleash the collective power of the 'sisterhood'. Until now, there have been two barriers to
this.

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Those in the anonymous group gave themselves higher praise than those who knew they would be identified. Anonymity is more difficult to
maintain in the working world than it is in a university setting. But fears of backlash manifest not just in a failure to self-promote but in other ways as
well. Every time a woman chooses not to speak up during a conference call or decides against introducing her ideas during a meeting, she hinders
her own progress and that of other women. Yet we women can change the tide. By taking steps to own our power, we can combat negative
backlash and create space for other confident, powerful women to advance. Here are three ways how:. The better you know yourself, the more
likely you are to achieve your goals. Pay attention to the projects and responsibilities that inspire passion, creativity and motivation.
Note, too, the things you struggle with or those that drain your energy. Being self-aware, Manning said, allows her to steer the business into the
future with confidence. Too often, women try to brush over professional setbacks and disappointments. They suppress the frustration, anger, and
doubt that come from those instances. But those are the moments that teach you the most. Learn from it and reflect on how you can do better. Be
prepared to work even harder the second time around. Then be willing to go to bat for yourself.
One of the best motivators for self-promotion is envisioning where you want your career to be five or 10 years from now. Confidence and self-
promotion are essential to fulfilling your career goals. Women need to step out from behind the cloak of anonymity to make real change in the
corporate world. You may experience backlash on occasion, but let your results and success speak for themselves. Thanks for telling us about the
problem. Return to Book Page. The Confidence Gap by Russ Harris. Too many of us miss out on opportunities in life because we lack self-
confidence. Whether it's public speaking, taking on a leadership role, or asking someone for a date, there are situations in which we just don't feel
equipped to handle the challenges we face. Russ Harris offers a surprising solution to low self-confidence, shyness, and insecurity: rather than trying
to " Too many of us miss out on opportunities in life because we lack self-confidence.
Russ Harris offers a surprising solution to low self-confidence, shyness, and insecurity: rather than trying to "get over" our fears, he says, the secret
is to form a new and wiser relationship with them. Paradoxically, it's only when we stop struggling against our fearfulness that we begin to find
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order. Start your review of The Confidence Gap. Oct 04, Carrie Mullins added it. After reading this book I now have the confidence to put it on
my Goodreads.
So I guess it worked. Sep 03, Daniel Weaver rated it liked it. So I really really really hate self help books. I really just picked this book up
because I put it on my audiobook wish-list long ago for some forgotten reason. However, this one wasn't too bad, and I'm glad I read it. I think
the most important part is learning about "thought diffusion", where you become aware of your thoughts and catalog them. But honestly, you learn
this in any self-help or mediation book you can also learn it from Dune, which talks about similar concepts with fear. Other t So I really really really
hate self help books. Other than that, it's basically just "the feeling of confidence comes after action", and "live by your values".
I wouldn't recommend the audiobook, as it asks you to do a bunch of "stop reading and do so and so", which is pretty annoying while listening to
an audiobook. It later makes you feel bad about by saying things like "Oh.. Did you not do it because it was too difficult? Also, it tries to end
sentences in the name of the next chapter, so it's a lot of " Something about doing this in an audiobook bothers me. View all 3 comments. May 25,
James rated it liked it. I'm not telling you to 'feel the fear and do it anyway' 2. But first I want you to feel the fear 3. Then I want you to do it
anyway You can buy the book here. Dec 07, Carmen rated it it was ok. This book started out good, but went downhill fast. To save yourself time,
here is the main takeaway from the book: Whatever you are afraid of, just take that risk. Confidence will follow. Pros: 1. Harris takes issue with
the perception that fear and negative thinking are weaknesses.
He also takes issue with the problema This book started out good, but went downhill fast. He also takes issue with the problematic side of the law
of attraction, that you bring bad things upon yourself if you have negative thoughts. For those who have tried law of attraction, positive thinking,
self-affirmations and whatnot and have not found them unhelpful, you might find this book refreshing Cons: 1. His style of writing. It always bugs
me whenever authors interrupt the narrative to presume what the reader is thinking. Stop wasting my time. His arrogance. He acts like Action
Commitment Therapy is unique and shits all over other methods people use to gain confidence like self-affirmations, positive-thinking, fake-it-til-
you-make-it, etc.
First, that stuff does work for some people, so to just write it off is ridiculous. Second, ACT is hardly unique, it borrows a lot from other self-help
approaches. View 1 comment. Oct 30, Morgan Blackledge rated it really liked it. It's common for people to believe that they can't do the things
they would like to do because they lack confidence. But if you stop and think about it for a second, this is totally absurd. It takes practice to feel
confident. If you wait to feel confident before you take a step, you're likely to stay exactly where you are.
In other words; confidence the action comes before confidence the feeling. The message of the book is that it's normal to feel anxious, afraid,
reluctant etc. If you let difficult thoughts and feelings of self doubt keep you from doing the things that matter to you, than you're likely to become
stuck exactly where you are. This book is all about getting unstuck by learning to make space for the difficult thoughts and feelings, and bring them
with you, in a way that is honest and authentic, as you go ahead and do what matters. In a nut shell, it's about accepting what is, contacting your
values and taking action. Lots of great leaders, thinkers, athletes, artists and performers feel full of conflict, anxiety and self doubt on every step of
there journey. But they show up, time after time, with a head full of doubts, and a body full of fear, and they do what others won't, and that's what
makes them great.
All of us are capable of doing exactly that, if we are simply willing to experience the intense feelings that inevitably accompany pursuing anything of
worth. Name one thing that's worth a damn that doesn't entail at least some discomfort to achieve. If it were magically some other way, and you
could effortlessly wish it into existence, how much authentic growth would such a pursuit engender? The author would have sold a lot more books
if he had said that all you have to do is think differently, or visualize your desired outcome, or ask the universe for what ever. Everyone wants to
eat what ever they want and loose weight, or wish their way to millions, but to put it bluntly, that shit doesn't work. How exactly could simply
thinking about anything bring about change? The fact of the matter is, all things being equal, you get what you do.
And that's the good news. Thinking alone doesn't make it so. Change entails action. Actions are the horse, feelings are the cart. If you do
"confidence the action" enough, odds are spectacular that "confidence the feeling will follow", and even if confidence the feeling never shows,
you're still finding a way to do what matters, and that's all that matters. Sep 03, Deb rated it it was amazing. Do you often find yourself waiting to
feel ready before you go after your goals? Do fear and anxiety keep you stuck? The solution lies in embracing uncomfortable feelings, and letting
them be a guide to helping you become more in tune with living a life that's in line with who you really are. The sweet irony is that when we stop
trying to avoid negative feelings, we actually feel better: "When we let go of trying to control our feelings, and instead start acting on our values and
engaging fully in whatever we're doing, then pleasant feelings often show up for the ride.
We are likely to feel healthier, happier, and calmer. Handling your thoughts and feelings effectively using key aspects of mindfulness: defusion
becoming "unhooked" from your thoughts ; expansion making room for emotions,sensations, and feelings ; and engagement being fully
psychologically present in the here-and-now 2. Taking control of your actions, even--and especially--when thoughts and feelings are "negative" or
uncomfortable 3. Engaging fully in whatever you are doing, irrespective of the thoughts and feelings you are having And, in contrast to other self-
help approaches which tend to emphasize flooding yourself with positive thoughts so you can "fake it until you make it," the approach presented
here just requires you to be real and present: "When you take action, mindfully acting on your values, there is no need to fake anything.
You just do what is important to you, and engage fully in what you are doing. And guess what? In each moment you do this, you already "make it":
instant success! The actions of confidence come first; the feelings of confidence come later. Genuine confidence is not the absence of fear; it is a
transformed relationship with fear. Negative thoughts are normal. Don't fight them; defuse them. Self-acceptance triumphs self-esteem. True
success is living by your values. Hold your values lightly, but pursue them vigorously. Don't obsess about the outcome; get passionate about the
process. Don't fight your fear; allow it, befriend it, and channel it. Failure hurts--but if we're willing to learn, it's a wonderful teacher. The key to
peak performance is total engagement in the task. The book addresses the most common culprits of low self-confidence of: excessive
expectations, harsh self-judgment, preoccupation with fear, lack of experience, and lack of skills.
Overcoming each of these culprits, the solution offered to filling the confidence gap involves pp. In the encouraging words of the author: "If we
choose to make our lives a daring adventure--to step out of our comfort zone; to grow, explore, and face our challenges--then we will fear what
people feel on daring adventures. Our hearts will race; our bodies will sweat; our stomachs will churn. Fear will show up in all its different varieties:
from anxiety to insecurity, from stress to self-doubt, from "pumped" to panic However, if we make room for those feelings, unhook from those
thoughts, and engage in fully acting on our values, then we are free. We are free to behave like the person we want to be; free to do the things that
truly matter to us; and free to live our lives with genuine confidence. View 2 comments. Mar 16, Jamaul Finley rated it really liked it.
This was my first exposure to ACT and Dr. Russ Harris and I was impressed by his simple writing style and the use of examples to drive home key
points. The Confidence Gap teaches you how to gain more confidence by letting go of negative thoughts, accepting life for what it is with all of its
ups and downs, and taking committed action based on values.
Harris dives deep into what he calls the Confidence Cycle. You can't wait to "feel" confident before you act with confidence. The underlying
message is take committed action despite how confident you are at first with the understanding that confidence is a result of your actions not a goal
you can accomplish or check off your life. Apr 10, Affan rated it it was amazing Shelves: self-help. This book is based on Acceptance and
Commitment Therapy which focuses on mindfulness and self acceptance.
Although not ground breaking I did get some good stuff out of it. Instead of eliminating it one should be mindful by learning to diffuse, expand and
be engaged. The book revolves on the following 10 rules: Rule 1: The Actions of confidence come first; the feelings of confidence This book is
based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy which focuses on mindfulness and self acceptance. The book revolves on the following 10 rules:
Rule 1: The Actions of confidence come first; the feelings of confidence come later. Rule 2: Genuine confidence is not the absence of fear; it is a
transformed relationship with fear.
Rule 4: Self-acceptance trumps self-esteem. Rule 5: Hold your values light; but pursue them vigorously. Rule 6: True success is living by your
values. Rule The key to peak performance is total engagement in the task. Jan 28, David rated it it was amazing. Reading through the ratings I was
wondering what had more truth to it. That it's yet another shallow self help book or actually provides valuable information.
Well I quickly came to find out that it is not in any way shallow. This book is hands down one of the best I have read on that matter. It is not one
of these books that claim to make your life perfect just by reading it. Instead it provides actually helpful techniques and guidelines on h Reading
through the ratings I was wondering what had more truth to it. Instead it provides actually helpful techniques and guidelines on how to address
confidence and anxiety problems. In case you have read "your brain at work" you will find a lot of similarities in the underlying principles.
Of course practicing the skills described in this book will take time but I already had first successes which show me that these parts work. For me
this opens up a new perspective. It is work, not magic. Just give it an honest try. Mar 12, Sasha rated it did not like it. This book would have
probably been better as a bulleted list of steps. Jun 27, Sarah rated it it was amazing Shelves: non-fiction , own , hypnotherapy-and-mental-health ,
ylto-movies This is probably the best non-fiction book I've read this year.
It all makes a lot of sense. Whilst it focuses on confidence, the theory and techniques could be used for most issues where negative thoughts are
problematic. Jul 06, Hayley rated it really liked it Shelves: from-netgalley. All too often we put off working toward our dreams because we're not
feeling confident in our skills, but we will rarely, if ever, find the confidence we need if we just sit around waiting for it. The book introduces
techniques that teach us how to work towards the feeling of confidence, providing compelling evidence as to why putting aside y The latest book
from the author of The Happiness Trap shows us how to renegotiate our relationship with fear using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy ACT.
The book introduces techniques that teach us how to work towards the feeling of confidence, providing compelling evidence as to why putting
aside your dreams does more harm than good in the long run.
Initially I found The Confidence Gap off-putting because Harris so firmly claims that his method in no way reflects the saying, "Fake it 'til you make
it" but then introduces us to his first rule being, "The actions of confidence come first, the feelings of confidence come later". Two claims that
sounded extremely similar to me. But as the book progressed it became clear why his method is so different from the common mantra, and so
much better. I have let fear get in the way of every aspect of my life and I'm pleased to say that I genuinely think this book has enabled me to stop
making this mistake. The Confidence Gap is extremely thorough, compelling and simple and has entirely changed my attitude about fear by
highlighting how being fearful is perfectly okay; it's simply how we choose to handle it that makes all the difference.
With references to one of my favourite books, 'Oh the Places You'll Go! I just hope the message sticks. Jul 28, Lars rated it it was amazing. I
listened to the audiobook edition, and it was excellent. It addressed exactly my issues and gave me ways to deal with them that are completely
different from any other books or methods. I particularly enjoyed the end parts of each chapter where the author would say "what is your mind
telling you" and his estimations were dead on. This book told me that it is o. By allowing this, I could now accep I listened to the audiobook
edition, and it was excellent. By allowing this, I could now accept them instead of fight with them.
And, by accepting them, I can now diffuse and expand them to the points where they are not harmful to me mentally and physically. I highly
recommend this book whether the audio book Audible or print. The Audible book is well read by the narrator so it is particularly useful to listen to.
Jan 10, Zaki Shaheen rated it it was ok. Too repetitive and non substantial and trivial.
Jul 08, Bastard Travel rated it it was amazing. God willing, I won't bring any more acronyms into this book review. ACT, like CBT and every
other therapeutic method we've established since slam-dunking Freud's body into the earth, focuses on coping skills and relaxation strategies that
can then be used to descalate the client which, in the case of a self-help book, is you when the work begins, poking around at exposed
psychological nerves, irrational thought patterns and behavioral schema.
The difference is modern CBT leans heavy on mindfulness and positive psychology, and as a result comes flush with meaningless platitudes about
positive thinking snatched directly from the bottom of those office motivator posters. ACT brings with it a degree of humanity. The treatment
becomes less of a script and more of an opportunity for growth.
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