1) If all of life's constraints were eliminated, what would you want to do every

day?

2) How long do you see our relationship going to last for ?

3) How important is marriage to you? How important are children and family? Do you
have a personal timeline set for such things?

4) How would you like for your life to change in the next year? Do you see me as a
part of this change?

5) What about me stands out the most to you?

6) Do you have needs in your life that are not being met? What can I do to help
with those needs?

7) Would you remain with me if you discovered that I couldn't bear children? If I
had a criminal record? If I had a lot of debt? If I had a terminal disease?

8) Would you stay with me if I were in an accident that scarred my appearance for
life?

9) Have I ever hurt you in any way that you haven't told me about since we met?

10) What thoughts make you unhappy?

11) What could I do that would make you believe that I like you?

12) What could I do that would make you like me more?

13) Have you ever questioned the existence of love?

14) Is there a point in your past that you regret more than anything else?

15) Do you ever dwell on past occurrences? Would you like to erase certain memories
from your mind?

16) Do you feel as though you could tell me anything?

17) Do you still have feelings for someone from your past?

18) Why were you initially attracted to me?

19) How important is physical attraction to you?

20) Would you be hurt if I had still had feelings for someone from my past?

21) When did you have your first kiss?

22) When did you lose your virginity? How did it happen?

23) How many people have you slept with?

24) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? Why? What were the circumstances? If
not, how close have you come to doing so?

25) Do you ever have dreams about sex? What specifically?

26) What do you fantasize about? Is there any particular fantasy that you'd like to
make a reality? How would you feel about role playing?

27) How would you define a good sexual relationship?

28) Do you masturbate? How often?

29) Would you be hurt if I masturbated, fantasizing about other people? What if I
only masturbated fantasizing about you?

30) In an ideal intimate relationship, how often would you have sex?

31) How do you feel about the merits of pornography?

32) How was your parents' marriage? Would you have considered theirs a good
relationship?

33) What about me would you change?

34) What would you change about yourself?

35) How would you define love?

36) When you talk about me to others, what do you say?

37) When I talk about you to others, what would you like for me to say?

38) What moment in your past would you like to return to? Why?

39) In which of your past relationships were you the happiest? Why did that
relationship end?

40) When a conflict arises, how do you react?

41) What would you consider the greatest obstacle you've ever had to face? How did
you overcome it?

42) What would you consider your greatest accomplishment in life? What would you
like to be the greatest accomplishment of your entire life?

43) What moment in your past would you most like to forget?

44) Do you have nightmares? What happens in them?

45) Have you forgiven yourself for your wrongdoings?

46) Do you believe in a power greater than humanity? How do you incorporate this
belief, or lack thereof, into your life?

47) Do you ever wish to escape reality? Do you have a way of doing so?

48) What do you most want to tell me?

49) Have you ever loved anyone more than you love me? Can you see that changing?

50) Is there anything particular that you don't know about me but would like to
know?

51. What should I never say to you, even in anger or frustration?

53. What activities and interests can we develop that will bring us closer?

54. What is going to really set you off?

55. What happens if we can�t agree on something important that involves both of
us?

56. What kind of physical touch best says �I love you� to you?

57. What could I do that would cause you to pull away from me?

58. How many days between sex will be too long?

59. When you get home from work, what would you like me to do or say in the first
few minutes?

60. Who do we know that has the kind of intimacy that we want?

61. What changes will I need to make in order for you to be really happy?

62. Where will we be in this relationship five years from now?

13. What�s the biggest lesson I can learn from you?

64. What do you do when you feel hurt by me?

65. What will ruin our relationship?

66. What habits do I have that are upsetting to you ever since we met?

67. How can we both get our needs met when we want different things on a particular
day?

68. What happens if one of us needs more space that the other?

69. What do we do if both of us are having a bad day?

70. How affectionate would you like to be with me?

71. What can we do to avoid fighting or arguing entirely?

72. What about our financial situation might become a recurring problem?

73. What about our work might become a recurring problem?

74. How will we let each other know what we want sexually?

75. What will I have to say to get your attention when I�ve not been able to?

76. What need of yours have I not been able to satisfy?

77. What kind of memories do we want to create together?

78. What will keep us happily together for years to come?

79. What will be the early warning signs that our relationship is in trouble?
80. How will you be able to forgive me if I�ve done something that really hurts
you?

81. What will you do if you feel tempted by another person?

82. What personality differences do we have that might cause a problem?

83. When we argue, how will you take responsibility for your part of the problem?

84. How can we make our sex life even better?

85. What are your deepest wounds and how can I support you there?

86. Where are you unwilling to compromise?

87. What about my voice or communication style makes you want to spend less time
around me?

88. What do you expect from me that you should really be expecting of yourself?

89. What are you willing to do with or for me that you haven�t been able to do in
previous relationships?

90. What are your deepest dreams and desires for yourself and for us?

100.What was the first thing that attracted you about me?

102.Do you think that physical attributes are more important to maintaining a
successful relationship or do you think that friendship maintains a relationship?

103.When you look at a woman, what is the first thing you notice?

104.Do you think it's ok to keep noticing another woman after you are in a
committed relationship? Does this change when you are married?

105.What is the first thing that you notice when you look at a man?

106.If I don't say so, how do you know that I want to make love?

107.Describe the way I smell.

108.Tell me how you describe me to other people?

109.How often do you believe it is normal to want sex?

110.Do you masturbate?

111.How do you feel if I come into the bathroom when you are using the facilities?

112.When was the last time you took a shower together?

13.If your friend was cheating on their spouse, do you think you should tell their
partner?

114.If your friend was cheating on their spouse, would you tell your spouse about
it?

115.What were you thinking about right before you kissed me for the first time?
couple therapy, 100 questions,

116.After I had asked you out for the first time, did you consider saying no?

117.Was there anything that you were worried about the first time we were about to
become naked?

118.How old were you when you had your first kiss?

119.How old were you the first time you had sex?

120.How old were you the first time you thought you were in love?

121.Who helped you figure out how to ask someone out on your first date?
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