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 Not Without My Daughter
An Unbreakable Bond: A Mother's Fight for
Freedom
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About the book
In August 1984, Betty Mahmoody, a Michigan housewife,
embarks on what she believes will be a brief vacation in Iran
with her husband and their young daughter, Mahtob. However,
their trip quickly turns nightmarish as they become prisoners
in a country where Betty's husband is fervently dedicated to
his Shiite Muslim faith, and women are treated as second-class
citizens. In a land where hostility towards Americans is
rampant, Betty finds herself in a desperate struggle for
freedom, facing an uncertain fate and relying on a perilous
underground network that poses a grave risk to her daughter.
This gripping true story of courage and resilience unfolds in a
powerful cinematic adaptation featuring Academy
Award-winner Sally Field.

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About the author
Betty Mahmoody, born on June 9, 1945, is an American
author and speaker renowned for her compelling memoir,
*Not Without My Daughter*, which was adapted into a film.
As the President and co-founder of One World: For Children,
she advocates for cross-cultural understanding and the
protection of children in bi-cultural relationships.
Mahmoody’s harrowing journey began in 1984 when she
traveled from Alpena, Michigan to Iran with her husband and
daughter for what was supposed to be a brief visit. Instead, she
found herself and her daughter held captive in an unfamiliar
and hostile environment, facing abuse and separation. Her
remarkable tale of resilience culminates in a daring 500-mile
escape to Turkey, a story she recounts in her book.
Additionally, she has collected accounts from other parents
affected by similar struggles in her work *For the Love of a
Child*.

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Journey Begins On August 3, 1984, Betty Mahmoody and her daughter Mahtob travel to Iran with her husband, Moody,
feeling apprehensive about being trapped in a hostile land.

Conflict of As they prepare to land in Tehran, Betty feels panic and anxiety about their safety, concerned particularly
Cultures about their American passports.

Landing in Upon arrival, they experience the heat and disorder of Tehran's airport, contrasting sharply with Betty's
Tehran American lifestyle, especially regarding women's attire.

Family Reunion After customs, they are warmly welcomed by Moody's relatives, but Betty feels guilt and anxiety about her
reluctance to visit and the fear of being trapped.

Cultural Shock At her sister-in-law Ameh Bozorg's home, Betty confronts cultural traditions and receives gifts for Mahtob
but none for herself, complicating her feelings about her marriage.

Social The family meal emphasizes Iranian culture's abundance and chaos, leaving Betty feeling isolated as they
Dynamics and struggle to adapt to the food and customs.
Food

End of the Day Exhausted from the day's events, Betty and Mahtob seek rest, with Betty praying for the quick passage of
their two-week visit due to her anxiety about the uncertain future.

Chapter 1 Summary: Arrival in Iran

Journey Begins

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On August 3, 1984, Betty Mahmoody and her daughter,
Mahtob, are en route to Iran with her husband, Moody. After
a long journey from Detroit, Betty is apprehensive about the
trip and fears being trapped in a land hostile to Americans.

Conflict of Cultures

As they prepare to land in Tehran, Betty feels a sense of

panic and doubts about the trip. Moody's status as an Iranian
doctor makes him a prominent figure in his homeland, but
Betty's anxiety about their safety grows, especially
concerning their American passports.

Landing in Tehran

Upon landing, the family is met with overwhelming heat and

the chaotic atmosphere of Tehran's airport. Betty describes
her discomfort and her observations of Iranian customs,
especially the attire women must wear, which contrasts
sharply with her American lifestyle.

Family Reunion

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After navigating through passport control and customs, they
reunite with Moody's relatives, who warmly welcome them.
Amidst the joy of family reunion, Betty feels an unsettling
guilt about her reluctance to come and her fears about being
trapped in Iran.

Cultural Shock

As they arrive at her sister-in-law Ameh Bozorg's home,

Betty grapples with cultural traditions, such as stepping
across a sheep's blood as a sign of respect. She receives gifts
of jewelry for Mahtob but none for herself, further
complicating her feelings about her marriage to Moody.

Social Dynamics and Food

The family meal is a vivid display of Iranian culture, marked

by abundance but also chaos. Betty struggles with the food
and the cultural differences, feeling isolated as she and
Mahtob try to adapt.

End of the Day

As the day winds down after the initial turbulence of arrival

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and overwhelming family interactions, Betty and Mahtob
retreat to their room, exhausted and weary. Betty prays for
the two weeks of their visit to pass quickly, anxious about the
uncertain future that looms ahead.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:Cultural Displacement and Isolation
Critical Interpretation:Betty's initial reactions to Iranian
culture and customs underscore her feelings of isolation
and fear during their visit, illuminating a critical aspect
of cross-cultural experiences. Her discomfort highlights
that, while she is experiencing a foreign environment,
this perspective may not be universally applicable;
individuals born into those cultures might view their
customs through an entirely different lens. A reader
might question whether Betty’s feelings echo a broader
critique of cultural imperialism, leading to an
exploration of how cultural identity can shape
worldview (Nussbaum, Martha C. 'Cultivating
Humanity'). The contrasting perspectives on culture
encourage reflection on the subjective nature of cultural
integration and the dichotomy of familiarity versus
alienation.

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inspiration
Key Point:Embrace the unknown even when it scares
you
Life inspiration:When you face new and unsettling
experiences, like Betty did upon arriving in Iran,
remember that it is often through stepping outside your
comfort zone that you truly grow. Embracing the
unknown can lead to profound transformations, helping
you to build resilience and courage in your own life.
Just as Betty navigated through her fears and
uncertainties in a foreign land, you too can learn to
approach life's unexpected journey with an open heart,
allowing each experience to shape you and expand your
horizon.

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Living Conditions Betty and her family are uncomfortable, sleeping on hard beds and surrounded by chaos, contrasting with
Moody’s family's religious devotion.

Cultural Isolation Betty feels isolated due to language barriers and cultural differences while experiencing a growing
distaste for unsanitary living conditions.

Family Dynamics The family atmosphere is strained as Moody adapts culturally, leading to Betty's discomfort with his
changing identity.

Oppressive Numerous visitors create feelings of entrapment for Betty and her daughter Mahtob, highlighting their
Atmosphere cultural differences.

Threat of Political Shopping in Tehran is accompanied by fear and alienation due to ongoing political unrest and strict social
Unrest rules for women.

Uncertain Future Moody's job loss and declaration that they won't return to America lead to a confrontation making Betty
feel trapped and betrayed.

Control and Betty seeks help from family, which is met with indifference, illustrating Moody's control and leaving her
Dread in a precarious situation.

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Daughter" by Betty Mahmoody

In the early hours of the morning, Betty and her family wake

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to the sounds of prayers and religious chanting from the
household. The discomfort of their living conditions,
sleeping on hard beds and surrounded by domestic chaos,
contrasts sharply with the religious devotion of Moody’s
family. Betty experiences frustration due to the lack of basic
conveniences and the filthiness of the home, noticing the
stark differences between American customs and those in
Iran.
Over the next few days, they meet various relatives who
convey a mix of warmth and religious fervor, yet Betty feels
increasingly isolated due to the language barrier and cultural
differences. The family dynamic is strained, especially as
Moody begins to adapt and speak more formally, reflecting a
shift in his identity that bothers Betty.
As the family continues to host numerous visitors, the
atmosphere turns oppressive for Betty and her daughter
Mahtob, leading to feelings of entrapment. Discussions about
cultural practices, including hygiene and gender roles,
highlight the contrasting lifestyles between her and Moody’s
family. Betty’s complaints about unsanitary living conditions
and the food they are served demonstrate her growing
distaste for the stay.
The chapter escalates as they attempt to engage in outings
and shopping in Tehran amid the backdrop of political unrest

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and strict social rules for women. Betty feels both fear and
alienation due to the ongoing war and the oppressive
environment that scrutinizes women's behavior and
appearance.
The tension culminates when Moody reveals he has been
fired from his job and that their return to America is now
uncertain. Under what seems to be a well-orchestrated plan,
Moody's true intentions surface when he announces they will
not be leaving Iran, causing a dramatic confrontation that
leaves Betty feeling betrayed and trapped, unsure of her
family's fate and her own autonomy.
Betty’s pleas for help from family members result in a cold
response, revealing the extent of Moody's control and the
familial alliance that supports it, leaving her and Mahtob in a
precarious situation filled with dread about their future.

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Daughter"

Overview

In this chapter, Betty Mahmoody describes a harrowing night

with her daughter Mahtob, emphasizing the emotional
turmoil caused by her husband Moody's betrayal and their
precarious situation in Iran. The narrative reflects on Betty's
memories before their journey to Iran, her relationship with
Moody, and the subsequent realization of their dire
circumstances.

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Emotional Turmoil

- Betty and Mahtob cry throughout the night, while Moody

sleeps soundly beside them, highlighting the disconnect
between his behavior and their distress.
- Betty feels guilty for bringing Mahtob to Iran, recognizing
that her daughter is an innocent caught in a troubling
marriage.

Reflections on the Past

- The narrative shifts back to Betty's earlier life, detailing her

struggles with migraines and finding stability after a difficult
divorce.
- She recalls her determination to create a better life for
herself and her sons, Joe and John, and the achievements she
made in her career at ITT Hancock.

Relationship with Moody

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Moody's Decision Betty struggles with losing autonomy in Iran, discovers funds for potential escape, but Moody isolates
and Initial them and restricts access to important documents, causing distress for her and Mahtob.
Adaptation

Isolation and Fear Betty and Mahtob are confined in their bedroom, facing physical and emotional trauma. Betty's
attempts to assert rights and connect with family are blocked by Moody, leaving her feeling powerless.

A Glimmer of Hope: Betty receives contact information for the Swiss Embassy from her mother, boosting her hope for
The Embassy rescue as she tries to devise a way to reach out without Moody finding out, but is caught and punished.
Contact

Desperate Measures Realizing the seriousness of their plight, Betty plans an escape with Mahtob to the embassy. They
reach the U.S. Interest Section but face legal obstacles as Iranian citizens under Islamic law.

Return to Captivity After failed attempts to secure help, Betty must return to Moody, facing even more control and
despair. Despite the trauma, a spark of determination to save herself and Mahtob begins to grow.

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Daughter"

Moody's Decision and Initial Adaptation

After Moody insists they remain in Iran, Betty finds herself

grappling with the psychological effects of this drastic
change. Despite having lost much of her autonomy, she
discreetly inventories her assets, discovering nearly $200,000
rials and $100 in cash—her only source of hope for potential
escape. Moody, now a contemptuous jailer rather than a
husband, keeps their important documents, isolating them

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and making escape nearly impossible. Mahtob, their
daughter, shows signs of emotional distress, further
complicating Betty's situation.

Isolation and Fear

Betty and Mahtob remain confined to their bedroom under

Moody's watchful eye, enduring physical ailments and
emotional trauma. Betty’s attempts to connect with family
and assert her rights are consistently thwarted by Moody's
dominance. She clings to the Koran, finding mixed
interpretations about marital relationships, but her efforts to
engage Moody with these insights are met with derision and
rejection, emphasizing her powerless status in a patriarchal
society.

A Glimmer of Hope: The Embassy Contact

During a moment of isolation, Betty receives a call from her

mother who provides contact details for the U.S. Interest
Section of the Swiss Embassy. This connection ignites her
hope for rescue, leading her to devise a plan to contact the
embassy without alerting Moody. However, when she
attempts to make the call, she is caught and punished.

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Desperate Measures

As days pass, Betty's mental and physical state deteriorates.

Realizing the gravity of their situation, she devises a plan to
escape with Mahtob to the embassy. Finally, after navigating
the dangerous streets of Tehran, they manage to reach the
U.S. Interest Section. However, once inside, they confront
the legal barriers of being classified as Iranian citizens under
Islamic law, leaving them with no immediate protection or
way out.

Return to Captivity

After her attempts at securing help fail, Betty is forced to

return to Moody, facing his wrath and increased control over
her and Mahtob. The cycle of fear, isolation, and despair
deepens as Betty begins to feel the pull of resignation and
bleakness of their future in Iran. Despite the ongoing cycle of
trauma, a flicker of determination to reclaim her and
Mahtob's freedom begins to ignite as she realizes that only
she can save them.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:Isolation as a Means of Control
Critical Interpretation:The chapter illustrates the
profound impact of isolation on Betty and Mahtob,
effectively showcasing how Moody employs isolation to
exert power over them. It is crucial to recognize that
while this perspective highlights the emotional and
physical imprisonment they face, it may overlook the
complexities of cultural contexts in gender dynamics
and familial obligations. The notion of isolation as a
tool for control aligns with psychological theories on
abusive relationships, such as those discussed in
resources like 'The Verbally Abusive Relationship' by
Patricia Evans, which examines how manipulators often
isolate their victims to maintain dominance.

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Tensions and Fear in Betty panics over the sounds of war, but Moody reassures her it’s just a demonstration. He expresses
Tehran animosity towards American forces.

Rooftop Moody takes Mahtob to an anti-American demonstration, which leaves Betty shaken as they chant
Demonstrations against the USA.

Forced Pilgrimage Despite her objections, Moody insists on visiting a holy city for a ritual, which brings back traumatic
memories for Betty.

Religious Rituals and At the temple, Betty and Mahtob feel overwhelmed and are singled out for disrespect by Moody’s
Isolation sister, creating conflict.

Conflict Between A confrontation arises between Betty and Moody over her refusal to participate in religious practices,
Cultures increasing their tension.

School Pressure and Moody enrolls Mahtob in school without consulting Betty, who feels apprehensive but starts
Resistance planning their escape.

Desire for Change Betty’s living conditions worsen, prompting her to support Moody’s desires in hopes of regaining
control over her life.

Moving Out Betty persuades Moody to move in with friends, asserting a significant step away from oppressive
living conditions.

Facade of Normalcy In their new home, Betty pretends to engage with Moody while secretly planning for her and
Mahtob's escape.

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Tensions and Fear in Tehran

The narrator, Betty, experiences a moment of panic while

hearing low-flying jets and anti-aircraft fire, fearing that war
has reached Tehran. Her husband, Moody, reassures her that
it is merely a demonstration for "War Week," a celebration of
Islamic combat linked to the ongoing Iraq War. Moody
expresses his hostility toward American forces, citing a
family vendetta stemming from World War II.

Rooftop Demonstrations

Despite her reluctance, Moody takes their daughter Mahtob

to join the anti-American demonstration on the rooftop,
where chants of "Maag barg Amerika!" (Death to America)
echo in unison from millions of voices, leaving Betty shaken.

Forced Pilgrimage

The following day, Moody insists on visiting Quin, a holy

city, for a ritual during the month of Moharram, despite
Betty's objections regarding her menstrual period. Betty and
Mahtob reluctantly prepare for the visit, which brings back

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memories of a previous traumatic trip.

Religious Rituals and Isolation

At the temple in Quin, Betty and Mahtob find themselves

caught in the emotional fervor of other women, which
overwhelms them. Disoriented and frightened, Betty
becomes the target of anger from Moody's sister, Ameh
Bozorg, who accuses her of disrespecting the traditions.

Conflict Between Cultures

Upon returning home, a confrontation arises between Betty

and Moody regarding her refusal to participate in the tomb
visit. While Ameh Bozorg does not express anger toward
Moody's sister, she singles Betty out, leading to tension
between the couple.

School Pressure and Resistance

As school begins in Tehran, Moody decides to enroll Mahtob

without consulting Betty. Betty is apprehensive but maintains
her composure, planning her next steps, which include
strategizing for their escape from Iran.

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Desire for Change

Living conditions under Ameh Bozorg become intolerable

for Betty, who senses increasing discontent. She resolves to
convince Moody to leave his family's house and begins to act
supportive of her husband's desires in order to regain some
control over her life.

Moving Out

Betty eventually persuades Moody to consider moving in

with friends, Reza and Essey. Despite resistance from both
Moody and Ameh Bozorg, they leave for Reza's house late
one night, marking a critical step away from confinement and
oppression.

Facade of Normalcy

Once relocated, Betty struggles with her feelings towards

Moody while pretending to engage in their relationship for
the sake of survival. She enacts a careful performance to
maintain peace while secretly planning for a future free from
her current circumstances.

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Through this chapter, Betty portrays the complexities of
living in a culturally oppressive environment and the lengths
she must go to survive and protect her daughter amidst
ongoing challenges.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:Cultural Oppression and Personal Agency
Critical Interpretation:This chapter highlights the
nuances of Betty's struggle against cultural oppression
while trying to maintain her personal agency. As she
navigates the difficult dynamics of her marriage and
cultural expectations, her fear of violent nationalism and
her desire for independence underscore the inherent
conflict she faces. This portrayal invites readers to
question Betty's choices and feelings, suggesting that
her perspective might be shaped by her particular
experiences of fear and loss, possibly leading to biased
interpretations of her reality. It’s essential to
acknowledge the complexities of individual experiences
in cultural contexts, drawing from research on the
impacts of cultural pressure on personal freedom, such
as 'Cultural Psychology' by Steve J. Heine, which
examines how individual narratives are often entwined
with broader cultural narratives.

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inspiration
Key Point:The importance of resilience in oppressive
situations.
Life inspiration:In the face of extreme adversity and
cultural oppression, Betty's journey highlights the
incredible strength that lies within all of us to endure
and seek change. As you navigate your own challenges,
remember that you too can summon the courage to stand
firm against difficulties. Betty’s determination to plan
an escape for herself and her daughter serves as a
powerful reminder that even in the darkest times,
seeking a better life is not only a possibility but a
profound expression of hope. It encourages us to take
control of our narratives, to strategize for change, and to
hold onto our dreams, no matter how impossible they
may seem.

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Summary of Chapter 6: Not Without My Daughter

Morning Routine

Moody follows Islamic customs upon waking, but the

intimacy he shares with Betty is driven by necessity, not
affection. Betty recognizes that their situation is fraught with
discomfort as she adjusts to life in Tehran.

Setting and Environment

The chapter describes the cramped living conditions at Reza

and Essey's home. Despite the filth and chaos, Betty finds

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moments of joy as her daughter Mahtob plays with local
children amid the backdrop of their chaotic neighborhood.

Cultural Adjustments

Betty grapples with the realities of life in Iran, involving

cleaning and cooking for a family that is less accustomed to
sanitation than she is. She finds herself analyzing and
ultimately adapting to her new circumstances, realizing her
previous challenges in America now seem trivial.

Social Dynamics

Interaction with Essey and Reza reveals a mix of camaraderie

and tension as Betty begins to form connections, aiding in
cooking while maintaining her strength amid household
chaos. She faces cultural dissonance but finds joy in small
victories, such as improving cooking standards.

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Daughter"

Struggles and Fear

The chapter begins with Betty Mahmoody struggling with

the aftermath of a severe beating from her husband, Moody.
She feels physically weak and emotionally drained,
impacting her ability to interact socially, particularly with the
markets. Meanwhile, her daughter Mahtob is increasingly
withdrawn from her father and upset. The oppressive
atmosphere and Moody's unpredictability create a sense of
helplessness for both.

Reflections on Their Situation

In her reflections, Betty acknowledges the precariousness of

their situation, realizing that her safety and Mahtob’s depend
entirely on Moody's state of mind. She regrets not heeding
her fears prior to coming to Iran and finds that her attempts

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to secure freedom for Mahtob have paradoxically placed
them both in danger.

Desperate Plans for Escape

As days pass in a heightened state of alert, Betty considers

potential plans to escape. In a moment of shared
vulnerability, Mahtob expresses her desire to leave Iran.
Their prayers for help intensify when Betty connects with
Hamid, a local store owner, who sympathizes with their
plight and offers his assistance, hinting at potential ways for
them to escape, but cautioning against making Moody
suspicious.

Moody's Duality

Betty grapples with the realization that Moody's authority is

not as all-encompassing as he believes. He faces barriers in
establishing his career in Iran, and familial obligations
pressure him, which may also play in their favor. She's
forced to navigate the complex dynamics of his family,
particularly the strong figure of Aga Hakim, whose influence
extends through Moody.

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The School Experience

The introduction of preschool for Mahtob becomes a

significant turning point. Despite Betty's efforts to shield her
daughter, Moody insists on her attending a government-run
school, which Betty finds inadequate and alarming. At the
school, Betty confronts shocking conditions, including the
harsh military education and indoctrination against America.

Connecting with the Teachers

After several conflicts regarding Mahtob's schooling, Betty

begins to build connections with the female staff at the
school, who express kindness towards her despite the
government's regime. A tentative relationship forms,
allowing Betty to see that not all Iranian women fully
endorse the regime's demands, and many share a longing for
the past.

Restricted Freedom

Despite some positive interactions, Betty realizes that she

remains largely trapped by Moody's strict control, even as the
school offers her a potential window to communicate and

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teach. She attempts to navigate her reality of domestic
captivity while encouraging Mahtob to remain strong and
hopeful, believing that God may have a plan for them amidst
the turmoil.

Conclusion

The chapter illustrates the intense pressures and emotional

strains placed upon Betty and Mahtob by Moody's violent
and erratic behavior, the stark realities of life in
post-revolution Iran, and a flicker of hope through budding
relationships with others that may aid them in their search for
freedom.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:The oppressive control of a dominant
partner creates a perilous environment for
vulnerable families.
Critical Interpretation:In this chapter, Betty's reflections
reveal the stark truth of her and Mahtob's precarious
dependence on Moody's volatile demeanor, illustrating
how domestic abuse often traps individuals in dangerous
situations. This perspective highlights the complexity of
abuse, showcasing that physical power dynamics are
compounded by emotional terror, which keeps victims
from seeking help or escaping. It urges readers to
consider that while Betty's narrative gives voice to the
struggles faced by many women, it remains a personal
account influenced by her experiences and may not
universally represent all women's situations in similar
oppressive contexts. For further exploration, one might
consult works like 'The Gift of Fear' by Gavin de
Becker, which examines the psychological aspects of
abuse and the challenges victims face.

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Daughter"

Scenes at the Park

In mid-autumn, Moody reluctantly takes Betty and Mahtob

to a park where they encounter an American woman named
Judy, visiting Iran with her children. Despite Moody's
skeptical attitude, Betty discreetly shares her desperate
situation, asking Judy to inform the American Embassy in
Frankfurt about her plight.

Developing a Plan for Escape

Judy introduces Betty to her brother-in-law, Ali, who needs

medical assistance to travel to the U.S. Betty suggests that
they engage Moody in this conversation to boost his ego.
Judy later invites Betty and Mahtob to a farewell dinner,
promising to help Betty draft a letter for Moody, aiming to
create an opportunity for dialogue with Rasheed, who knows

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about escape routes.

Household Tensions Emerge

The visit to Judy’s mother-in-law’s party provides Betty a

brief moment to discuss escape plans with Rasheed. He
informs her that instant travel to Turkey is not possible due
to weather. Back home, Moody expresses frustration about
finances and feels insecure after a call from the American
Embassy seeking information about Betty, which raises
tensions within the household.

Desperate Measures and Holiday Reflections

As winter arrives, Betty attempts to fend off Moody's

financial anxieties while managing Mahtob’s needs. A call
from Helen at the embassy alerts Betty to two women
searching for her, raising hopes for escape while also
amplifying Moody's scrutiny.
On Christmas Day, Betty experiences deep sadness as she
cannot celebrate with Mahtob and is isolated from her
family. She receives thoughtful gifts from her school
colleagues but is reminded of the oppressive legal system
that could prevent her from being with Mahtob if anything

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were to happen to Moody.

A Deceptive Encounter

Later, a mysterious American woman visits, claiming to need

medical help from Moody. Betty remains skeptical about her
true intentions, fearing she might be a spy. Moody,
meanwhile, harbors paranoia about Betty's connections and
remains dominant and controlling.

Hope and Determination

By the end of the chapter, Betty reflects on her renewed

determination to find a way to escape with Mahtob. As she
establishes friendships at the school and gains some freedom,
she clings to the belief that they will soon return home,
reinvigorating her spirit to endure the challenges ahead.

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Chapter 9 Summary :

Chapter 9 Summary

Overview

In Chapter 9 of "Not Without My Daughter," Betty

Mahmoody faces increasing urgency in her quest for freedom
from Iran with her daughter, Mahtob. Her husband Moody
becomes complacent due to illness, allowing her a brief
opportunity to act.

The School Day

Betty tests the teachers' reactions by arriving late at school

but finds them surprisingly compliant. Seeking help, she
contacts Helen at the embassy, who warns her of two
American women in Iran wanting to assist her. Betty fears
the potential dangers of moving forward but feels the
mounting pressure to take action.

Planning the Escape

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Deciding to visit the embassy, Betty and Mahtob travel
discreetly, knowing they must keep their intentions hidden
from Moody. At the embassy, they learn of limited support
from the State Department and receive new American
passports, lacking the necessary visas but essential for their
planned escape.

Complications Arise

Helen advises Betty against contacting the two women

offering help, citing their reckless plans, but Betty’s
desperation leads her to contact them anyway. The women,
Trish and Suzanne, propose a dangerous escape plan
involving hiding for an uncertain period before leaving the
country.

Difficult Choices

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Socializing with the Hakims

Betty and her husband, Moody, began to regularly socialize

with Aga and Khanum Hakim. Moody developed a
friendship with Aga, who attempted to help him find
employment, either in medicine or teaching. He also
encouraged Moody to embark on a translation project,
leading Moody to hire Betty as his secretary for translating
his grandfather's work.

The Translation Project

As Betty typed the translations of "Father and Child," she

learned about Moody's cultural views, emphasizing the
father's role in a child's upbringing according to Islamic
principles, while the mother played no significant role. Betty
was emotionally affected by the narrative, driving home her
longing for her dying father back in America, which led to a
poignant conflict between her and Moody regarding cultural
responsibilities.

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Koran Study Classes

Aga and Khanum Hakim suggested that Betty and Mahtob

attend Koran study classes for English-speaking women.
Although Moody was reluctant due to fear of losing control
over Betty, he ultimately acquiesced, realizing it was an
important opportunity for her to socialize with others. The
experience of the classes deepened Betty's understanding of
her situation.

Meeting Ellen Rafaie

During the classes, Betty met Ellen Rafaie, another American

woman from her hometown. Their shared background led to
a budding friendship, and through Ellen's stories, Betty began
to see reflections of her own life. Ellen, like Betty, also faced
significant challenges within her marriage to Hormoz, an
Iranian national.

Ellen's Story

Ellen recounts her family's journey from America to Iran,

ultimately facing a grim reality of confinement and abuse in
her marriage. Their story mirrored Betty's fears of being

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trapped in a life controlled by Moody, and led to heightened
emotions within Betty as they discussed their shared
struggles.

The Descent into War

As the war escalated, Betty experienced terrifying bombings,

leading to daily routines filled with fear and tension. Moody's
behavior began to fluctuate, swinging from affection to
volatility, leaving Betty in constant doubt surrounding her
and Mahtob's safety.

Bonding Over Shared Experiences

Amid the chaos, the friendship between Betty and Ellen grew
stronger, leading to plans for Betty's escape as she confided
in Ellen about wanting to leave Iran. Ellen, burdened by her
own situation, empathized but feared repercussions if she
associated with Betty's plans.

The Impact of War

The narrative captures the distress and brutality of living

amid wartime conditions, showcasing how it affected daily

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life and relationships. Betty's longing for freedom and a safe
environment intensifies against the backdrop of cultural
expectations, fear of Moody's reactions, and the horrors of
war encroaching on their lives.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:Cultural Conflict and Gender Roles
Critical Interpretation:One key point to reflect on in this
chapter summary is the gender roles that are deeply
embedded in the cultural conflict between Betty and
Moody. The relationship dynamics are starkly
influenced by Moody's adherence to traditional Islamic
views, as emphasized in his translation project,
showcasing a father's dominion over the family while
marginalizing the mother's role. Readers should
consider how this portrayal might not wholly represent
the complexities of cultural integration, especially
between Western and Middle Eastern perspectives on
gender. The author’s viewpoint, while poignant, could
oversimplify the diverse experiences of women in
similar situations, suggesting a need for exploring
multiple narratives. Support for exploring differing
perspectives can be found in writings on cross-cultural
gender studies, such as

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Summary of Chapter 11 from "Not Without My

Daughter"

No-ruz Celebration in Iran

The chapter describes the significance of No-ruz, the Persian

New Year, celebrated annually with rituals including
cleaning homes and buying new shoes. Families gather for
festive meals over two weeks, despite the ongoing threat of
war disrupting daily life. Betty recounts how they celebrate
No-ruz at Ameh Bozorg's house, focusing on traditions such
as the haft sin table and symbolic foods.

Tensions and Emotional Isolation

Despite the festive atmosphere, Betty feels isolated and

uncomfortable, particularly around Moody's family. Her
experiences at family gatherings are filled with anxiety,
especially when faced with strict dress codes imposed by the
regime. An incident with the pasdar, Iranian guard, highlights

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the precariousness of her situation when they mistake her
attire and threaten Moody.

Moody's Job Opportunity

Towards the end of the week, Moody learns he has secured a

job at the hospital, instilling hope. Betty reflects on how this
new responsibility might afford her more freedom and create
a distraction for Moody, allowing her potential avenues for
escape.

Plans for Escape

With the arrival of spring, Betty’s desire to escape grows

stronger. She meets Miss Alavi, who offers assistance and
reveals a brother who facilitates border crossings, hinting at a
possible escape route to Pakistan. Their discussions are
fraught with urgency and care, cognizant of the risks
involved.

Increased Surveillance and Strategic Meetings

As Moody begins working, Betty's movements are under

stricter scrutiny. Through a carefully orchestrated meeting

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facilitated by Miss Alavi, Betty discovers a potential plan for
escape, relying on her brother's help for logistics. Miss
Alavi’s promise to cover the financial costs further solidifies
their collaboration.

Building Tension and Hope

Betty grows increasingly aware of the dangers but finds hope

in the idea of freedom. However, her situation is complicated
by Moody's unpredictable behavior and vigilance. The
chapter closes with heightened tension as an unexpected
crisis strikes, leaving Betty anxious about their future.

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inspiration
Key Point:The quest for freedom amidst adversity is
a universal aspiration.
Life inspiration:Imagine yourself in a challenging
situation where the walls seem to close in around you,
much like Betty's isolation during the No-ruz
celebrations in a foreign land. As you navigate through
the rituals and the festive atmosphere layered with
tension, let Betty's relentless desire for freedom inspire
you. Just as she finds hope amid her constraints, you too
can seek out opportunities for liberation in your own
life. Whether it is breaking free from limiting beliefs,
toxic relationships, or societal pressures, remember that
the first step toward embracing your freedom often
arises during times of oppression. Allow this realization
to fuel your courage, urging you to take strategic risks
and connect with those who can help you on your
journey to reclaiming your independence.

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Section Summary

Introduction of Nelufar, the affectionate daughter of Morteza and Nastaran, inadvertently disrupts Mahtob's birthday. The
Nelufar narrator is worried about her well-being while being suspicious of Moody.

Taxi Ride and The narrator and Mahtob ride with Moody to a hospital, anxious about the secret destination. They learn
Hospital Visit Nelufar is injured and Moody argues to get them inside.

Tragic News Moody receives news that Nelufar has died from a fall. The family mourns together, and friends gather to
support them through rituals of grief.

Preparations The narrator offers to care for the children during Nelufar's burial preparations, giving her a chance to
for the Funeral contact Helen for help and discover Ellen's intentions to inform Moody about her escape plans.

Pressure from Ellen pressures the narrator to share her escape plans with Moody, perceiving it as an Islamic obligation,
Ellen which raises fears about her safety.

Coping The narrator distracts herself from growing anxiety by engaging in household activities, aiming to placate
Mechanisms Moody while waiting for an opportunity to escape.

School As mourning concludes, Moody's temper worsens. He forces Mahtob to leave for school without her mother,
Tensions escalating tension and resulting in a public confrontation.

Conclusion The chapter highlights the family's deep sorrow over Nelufar's loss, the narrator’s attempts to maintain order,
and the growing danger from Moody’s unpredictable behavior.

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Introduction of Nelufar

Nelufar, the young daughter of Morteza and Nastaran, is

characterized as an affectionate and playful toddler, known
for inadvertently ruining Mahtob's birthday cake. The
narrator's initial concern for her welfare is overshadowed by

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suspicion regarding Moody's intentions.

Taxi Ride and Hospital Visit

The narrator and Mahtob accompany Moody on a taxi ride,

filled with anxiety about being taken to a secret location.
Upon arriving at the hospital across from the U.S. Interest
Section of the Swiss Embassy, they discover Nelufar is
injured and Moody argues with the reception to gain entry.

Tragic News

Moody ultimately learns that Nelufar has been fatally injured

after falling from a balcony. The grief-stricken family
gathers, and mourners fill the home, engaging in rituals to
mourn the loss of the young girl.

Preparations for the Funeral

As the family prepares for Nelufar's burial, the narrator

suggests staying back to care for children, which Moody
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Conflict and Violence

Moody violently confronts Mahtob, slapping her and causing

her to cry out in fear. Betty attempts to protect her daughter,
but Moody's strength overwhelms her. He shifts his rage
towards Betty, threatening to kill her. Despite the chaos,
Betty decides to follow him to ensure Mahtob's safety.

Desperate Escape

After a tumultuous encounter, Moody drags Betty away in a

taxi, continuing his threats to kill her. Betty's fear escalates as
she tries to outmaneuver the situation and ensure Mahtob's
safety. She realizes she needs help and begins to seek a way
to escape.

Seeking Help

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In a frantic attempt to find assistance, Betty runs toward
Ellen's apartment. When she finds a way to contact Helen at
the embassy, she pleads for help, fearing for both her and
Mahtob's safety. Helen reassures her but suggests that Betty
come to the embassy, which she refuses.

Confrontation at School

Ellen and her husband, Hormoz, come to Betty's aid, but they
encounter resistance from school authorities regarding taking
Mahtob due to Islamic law. Despite their support, they
cannot immediately intervene as Betty becomes increasingly
desperate.

Police Involvement

Betty considers involving the police but fears losing Mahtob

forever under Iranian law. Helen and Mr. Vincop from the
embassy push for greater action, but Betty remains focused
on securing Mahtob's safety first.

Absorbing the Anger

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Tensions rise as Moody arrives, leading to heated discussions
in the presence of Ellen and Hormoz. While Moody attacks
Betty verbally, Ellen advises her to remain calm for the sake
of the situation.

Uncertain Outcomes

As the day progresses, the group suggests Betty and Mahtob

stay with them, yet Moody insists on taking them home.
Betty fears the return to Moody with his threats still looming
over her. The chapter encapsulates the ongoing struggle for
safety and the threat of violence within an oppressive
atmosphere.

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Introduction to Fear and Isolation

The chapter opens with the author reflecting on the sleepless

nights spent in fear, particularly the night in question. Dire
concerns about her husband, Moody, amplify her anxiety as
she believes he may harm her and take away their daughter,
Mahtob.

Desperate Conversations

As Moody plans to take Mahtob to school, the mother shares

heartbreaking advice with her daughter, urging her to comply
with Moody's demands to ensure her safety. This moment
highlights the strong bond between mother and daughter and
the mother's desperate attempt to protect her.

Conflict and Violence

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Tensions escalate when Moody forcibly drags Mahtob,
leading to a physical confrontation between him and the
mother. She fights back fiercely, determined to protect her
daughter, but Moody quickly overpowers her, resulting in a
violent struggle.

Abduction and Despair

Moody claims victory and takes Mahtob away, leaving the

mother in despair. Watching the abduction from a window,
she is struck with fear that she may never see her daughter
again. The chapter underscores the power dynamics and
emotional turmoil faced by the mother.

Silent Support from Friends

Later, the mother communicates with her friends, Essey and

Reza, who express sympathy but remain constrained by
cultural boundaries and fears of upsetting Moody. They
discuss potential ways to intervene, but the mother feels
increasingly isolated and helpless.

Plans for Escape

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Amid the chaos, the mother devises plans to escape and
protect herself and Mahtob. She searches for tools to
potentially defend herself or flee to safety while grappling
with the reality of her challenging situation.

Uncertain Future

As Moody returns after taking Mahtob, the mother is filled

with dread. Moody's erratic behavior continues to dominate
their lives, reflecting the psychological and emotional strain
on the mother as she clings to hope for her daughter.

Conclusion

The chapter concludes with the mother lying awake in fear as

Moody leaves for work. The ongoing conflict, emotional
trauma, and her profound feelings of isolation culminate in a
devastating portrayal of a mother’s love and the lengths she
will go to protect her child.

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Chapter 15 Summary

Emotional Turmoil and Reflection

The chapter begins with Betty Mahmoody overwhelmed with

grief after a confrontation with her husband, Moody. She
contemplates her loss of her daughter Mahtob and reflects on
what went wrong in their marriage, hinting at Moody's
changing behavior over time. The chapter is marked by her
internal struggle with pain and confusion about Moody's
actions and emotional state.

Marriage Beginnings

Betty reminisces about the early days of their relationship,

discussing the decision to move for Moody's career and the
happiness they initially felt. Their marriage, celebrated on
June 6, 1977, was filled with affection, gifts, and a promising
future, leading to a comfortable life for their family in
Corpus Christi.

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Life in Corpus Christi

Moody established a successful medical practice in

anesthesiology, and Betty embraced her role, managing the
home and Moody’s professional accounts. They participated
in social circles that included a diverse group of expatriates,
highlighting Betty's integration into this new life. At this
time, Moody applied for U.S. citizenship, indicating his
commitment to their American life.

Cultural Tensions and Changes

The chapter reveals cultural differences causing friction

between them. Moody's traditional Iranian attitudes led to
disagreements, such as his possessiveness and authoritarian
parenting style. The arrival of Moody's nephew, Reza,
increased tensions in the household, leading to conflicts that
ultimately forced Reza to move out.

Political Influences and Impact on Marriage

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Isolation and Despair

In Chapter 16 of "Not Without My Daughter," Betty

Mahmoody describes her desperate isolation in the apartment
where she feels imprisoned, far away from her family and her
daughter, Mahtob. As she grapples with anxiety about
Mahtob's well-being and whereabouts, she finds solace in
prayer, despite her feelings of guilt for having strayed from
her religious faith in the past.

A Glimmer of Hope

In her solitude, Betty discovers Moody's briefcase left

behind, which contains a telephone. Determined to reach out
for help, she manages to unlock the briefcase and connects
with Helen at the embassy, expressing her wish to be
reunited with Mahtob. However, Betty is adamant that any
intervention must wait until she knows her daughter is safe.

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Threats and Fear

As Moody returns home, he exhibits hostility towards Betty,

blaming her for the problems in their family. His threats add
to her fear; she feels utterly trapped by both his unpredictable
behavior and the oppressive political climate of Iran.

Moments of Connection

Despite her isolation, Betty uses small gestures to connect

with her daughter, attempting to send gifts through Moody.
Amidst the turmoil, she finds comfort by performing Islamic
prayers, both to gain Moody's favor and to seek divine help
for her situation.

A Risky Plan

After a mysterious visit from Miss Alavi, who offers to help,

Betty remains hopeful for news of Mahtob. An unforeseen
incident, where Moody announces Mahtob is ill, catalyzes
Betty's desperation. Determined to rescue her sick child, she
hatches a reckless plan to escape their apartment.

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An Act of Faith

As the chapter unfolds, Betty grapples with her thoughts and

emotions, leading her to make a solemn promise to God—a
nasr—asking for reunification with Mahtob and vowing to
visit Jerusalem if her wish is granted.

Climactic Conclusion

The chapter culminates in an intense moment when Moody

finally returns, carrying a lifeless Mahtob wrapped in a
blanket. This scene amplifies Betty's anguish and heightens
the sense of urgency about her daughter's welfare amidst
their bleak situation.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:The complex interplay of isolation, hope,
and fear in Betty's experience highlights the
psychological toll of being trapped in an oppressive
environment.
Critical Interpretation:Betty Mahmoody's narrative
emphasizes the profound impact of psychological
oppression on individuals, particularly mothers, who are
separated from their children. Her feelings of
desperation and isolation are compounded by her
oppressive living conditions and Moody's hostile
behavior, illustrating a harrowing reality that many face
in situations of domestic violence and political turmoil.
This perspective suggests that mental anguish can often
overshadow physical confinement, leading to a
multifaceted struggle for liberation that goes beyond
mere escape. This theme is echoed in studies such as
those found in 'The Trauma of Domestic Violence' by
Lundy Bancroft, where the psychological impact of such
entrapment is thoroughly explored. It's crucial to
consider that while Betty's account articulates her
struggles, individual experiences can vary drastically,
and reliance solely on personal narratives can

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Summary of Chapter 17: Emotional Turmoil and

Struggling Hopes

Introduction

In this chapter, Betty Mahmoody expresses deep gratitude

and conflicting emotions upon seeing her daughter, Mahtob,
after a harrowing period of separation. The reuniting is
bittersweet, as Mahtob appears sickly and mentally affected
by her recent experiences.

Reunion and Fear

Betty is overwhelmed with love for Mahtob and

apprehension regarding her husband, Moody. Moody
acknowledges the emotional turmoil caused by their
separation but maintains a domineering presence, asserting
control over their living conditions. Mahtob’s silence and
illness highlight the emotional and physical toll of their
circumstances.

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Behavior Changes

As time passes, Moody shows signs of changed behavior; he

appears calmer yet increasingly focused on financial burdens.
He begins to allow more time with Mahtob under ongoing
surveillance, which complicates Betty’s sense of security and
freedom.

Secrets and Strategies

Betty grapples with the need to keep secrets from both

Moody and Mahtob. She resolves to carefully strategize their
escape from Iran while stifling hope about their potential
return to America to protect Mahtob from further heartache.

Religious Ritual and Connection

A local religious celebration prompts Betty to participate in a

ritual where she makes a heartfelt wish to return to America
with Mahtob. This act deepens her connection to Moody’s
culture and strengthens her resolve to achieve freedom.

Tensions with Family

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The chapter reveals increased tensions with Moody’s family,
particularly after Baba Hajji confronts him about their living
situation. Moody’s frustrations with his family deepen,
creating a sense of isolation but also drawing him closer to
Betty and Mahtob.

Danger and Discrimination

During a shopping trip, Betty experiences harassment from a

taxi driver, illuminating the dangers she faces as a foreign
woman in Iran. Her plea for discretion highlights her fear of
Moody’s reaction, emphasizing the control he wields over
her life.

Hope Amidst Conflict

Moody’s deteriorating relationships with his relatives and his

desperation for change offer Betty a glimmer of hope for
their future. This hope, however, is fragile as Betty learns of
Moody’s irrational fears of danger from the CIA and the
complications surrounding their potential return to America.

Conclusion

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The chapter captures the internal and external conflicts faced
by Betty as she navigates her precarious existence in Iran. It
underscores her emotional resilience and the complexities of
her relationship with Moody, while she holds onto the hope
of eventual liberation for herself and Mahtob.

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Finding a New Home

In this chapter, Betty Mahmoody explores the possibility of

finding housing for her and Moody after viewing an
advertisement. They meet with a realtor who speaks fluent
English, and despite several apartment visits, none feel right.
Eventually, they find a spacious two-level apartment north of
Tehran, suitable for Moody’s clinic and offering Betty a
sense of freedom.

Settling In

They move into the new apartment, aided by family members

who provide financial support. Betty feels conflicted
regarding the temporary nature of their situation but tries to
create a sense of normalcy for her daughter, Mahtob.

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During a dinner invitation with Aga and Khanum Hakim,
Moody reunites with childhood friends, Chamsey and Zaree.
Betty develops a friendship with Chamsey, who has a
progressive attitude and encourages Betty to consider
returning to America.

Moody’s Work Situation

Moody faces issues at the hospital concerning delayed

payments for his work, leading him to consider a reduced
work schedule. He takes steps to establish his clinic, despite
family warnings against practicing without a license.

Daily Life Challenges

Betty describes the logistics of dealing with local shops for

food supplies in Tehran while also undertaking errands on
her own, signaling a gradual increase in her independence. A
frightening incident on a bus reinforces the dangers she and
Mahtob face in their environment.
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Chapter 19 Summary

Encountering a Benefactor

Betty Mahmoody receives a mysterious address on a scrap of

paper with instructions to ask for the manager. The journey
across the city, filled with anxiety about returning home
before her husband, Moody, presents a significant risk but
she decides to proceed, driven by a growing sense of freedom
and necessity.

Arriving at the Office

After a long taxi ride, Betty and her daughter Mahtob arrive
at a bustling office building. With the help of an
English-speaking receptionist, they find the manager's office
in the basement where they wait in a comfortable lounge
adorned with Western-style furnishings.

Meeting Amahl

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Upon entering the manager's office, Betty is greeted by a
man named Amahl, who expresses his eagerness to help her
escape Iran. He lives a complicated life, appearing as a
businessman by day while engaging in secretive activities by
night. Betty makes it clear that her escape is contingent upon
Mahtob accompanying her, which Amahl respects.

Planning the Escape

Amahl assures Betty of his commitment to assist her and

shares a coded method for communication to ensure privacy.
He also offers to cover any expenses on her behalf until they
can arrange her and Mahtob's departure to America.

Reflections on Hope and Caution

As Betty reflects on their discussion during the taxi ride

home, she contemplates the possibility of escape while also
remembering Amahl's uncertain timeline for their plan. She
feels both hope and apprehension about the future, unsure of
what lies ahead but determined to find a way out.

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Key Point:Embracing Opportunity Amid
Uncertainty
Life inspiration:In life, there are moments that call for
bravery, urging you to seize opportunities even when
the path is fraught with uncertainty. Like Betty's
courageous decision to seek help despite the risks, you
too can be inspired to step outside your comfort zone.
Each time you face a daunting choice, remember that
embracing the unknown can lead to transformative
experiences. The act of reaching out—whether for
assistance or collaboration—can forge unexpected
alliances and ignite new possibilities. Let Betty's
encounter with Amahl remind you that sometimes, the
greatest rewards come from taking leaps of faith, as
each step taken towards your goal can illuminate a
brighter path.

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School Routine Begins

After summer, Mahtob prepares to start first grade in Iran.

Although aware of their difficult situation, both she and
Betty, her mother, maintain an optimistic facade.

School Search

Moody, Mahtob, and Betty visit a nearby school that appears

friendlier than others. Initially denied enrollment due to lack
of space, the principal changes her mind when she learns
Moody is a doctor. They begin preparations for Mahtob's
schooling, including obtaining her uniform.

Life Adjustments

With Mahtob in school and Moody at work, Betty finds brief

moments of freedom in Tehran. She communicates regularly

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with her family back in America, but the distance brings her
sadness.

New Friendships

Betty meets Alice Shareef, an American teacher in Tehran,

and they quickly bond. Their friendship provides Betty with
much-needed companionship, while Betty maintains secrecy
about her condition.

Social Obligations

Betty and Moody navigate social expectations with family in

Iran, preparing for dinner with Moody’s relatives. The dinner
reveals cultural differences, showcasing the challenges of
merging lifestyles.

Escape Planning

Amidst daily challenges, Betty keeps her escape plan alive.

She speaks to Amahl at the embassy, who helps to
orchestrate a potential escape for her and Mahtob, including
smuggling them out of Iran.

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Thanksgiving Preparations

In the lead-up to Thanksgiving, Betty plans a dinner with

Alice and friends, all while keeping her escape plans under
wraps. While preparing for the holiday, Betty calls her family
to share the good news of their impending return to America,
offering a sense of hope amidst their trials.

Strength in Resilience

Despite the daily challenges and uncertainties, Betty finds

courage and determination to hold onto her dream of
freedom, using her social skills and new friendships to
navigate her restricted life in Iran.

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Amahl's Arrangements

Amahl instructs Betty to remain silent and still as a visitor

observes her in his office. After the visitor leaves, Amahl
discusses plans for Betty and her daughter, Mahtob, to escape
Iran, mentioning complicated arrangements involving
contacts and potential identity changes. As Thanksgiving
approaches, Betty realizes they won't make it home in time,
feeling the weight of her father's declining health in
Michigan.

Thanksgiving in Iran

As she spends Thanksgiving in Iran, Betty struggles with

deep sadness while preparing a meal with friends. Despite
the festive atmosphere, her longing for home intensifies. A
phone call from her brother, Jim, reveals her father's

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worsening condition after Betty and Mahtob's absence causes
him depression. Betty is burdened with guilt for not being
able to keep her holiday promise.

Christmas Shopping and Bomb Scare

Betty distracts herself by buying Christmas gifts for Mahtob,

but encounters panic when the bomb squad appears near her
home. The urgency of their situation grows, and Betty feels
the pressure of their precarious life in Tehran. Alongside this
tension, she demonstrates a developing kinship with Amahl,
relying on his support and planning her escape.

Christmas Celebrations Amidst Turmoil

Christmas passes quietly in a country where the holiday

holds little significance. Moody allows a semblance of
celebration for Mahtob, who enjoys the gifts from Santa.
However, the gathering is overshadowed by the emotional
strain from a friend's husband's sentencing for dissent against
the regime. The contrast of holiday cheer against the
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Unexpected News

In a shocking turn of events, Betty learns from Moody that

she and her daughter Mahtob are allowed to return to
America. This news comes as her father’s health worsens,
and she is filled with a mix of joy and suspicion about
Moody's intentions.

Conflicting Emotions and Negotiations

Betty communicates with her sister Carolyn, insisting on

speaking to their father before his surgery. Despite Moody's
pressure to agree to the trip, Betty is confused about whether
it includes only her or both her and Mahtob. She secretly
vows not to go to America without her daughter.

Doubt and Responsibility

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As Betty grapples with her father's imminent death, she fears
Moody might insist she goes alone. Mahtob, unaware of the
complexities, expresses her happiness about the trip, while
Betty silently mourns the possibility of losing her father and
the impact on her daughter.

Realization of Moody's Motives

Betty discovers through conversation with friends that

Moody's sudden agreement to let them go is part of a plan to
retrieve money from their home in America. Moody wants
Betty to sell their possessions while holding Mahtob hostage
to ensure her return.

Striking a Balance

Despite serious concerns about the trip and Moody's

intentions, Betty feels an overwhelming need to see her
father, which complicates her emotions. Discussions about
escape plans intensify, but Amahl urges caution, warning that
if Betty leaves without Mahtob, she might never return.

Plans Turn Complicated

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As Betty’s escape plan takes form, Moody's watchful eye
complicates matters. He locks her down and prevents her
from communicating with Amahl, leading to increased
tension between them. Amidst the rising stakes, Betty
struggles with her commitment to Mahtob and the fear of
losing her if she attempts to escape.

Climactic Intervention

After an explosive confrontation with Moody that results in

violence, Betty stands her ground. She is adamant about not
leaving without Mahtob. In a moment of heightened emotion,
they reconsider the entire trip, and Betty fights for her
freedom and rights as a mother.
The chapter concludes with Betty's determination to protect
her daughter and fight against Moody’s oppressive control,
as the urgency of their situation comes to a head.

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Chapter 23 Summary:

In a state of sleeplessness and turmoil, the narrator reflects on

the events leading to their current crisis. The trouble began
almost four years earlier when Moody, the narrator's
husband, returns home distant after losing a patient. They had
previously found happiness after moving to Alpena,
Michigan, where they settled into a home that brought peace
and joy to their family life, highlighted by shared moments
with their aging parents. However, the news of the narrator's
father's cancer diagnosis deeply impacted the family, leading
to heightened stress and changes in Moody's demeanor, as he
struggled with the loss of his medical privileges and
descended into depression.
As time passed, Moody grew increasingly withdrawn and
resentful, claiming he was targeted because of his Iranian
heritage. The narrator attempted to support him but
ultimately took a part-time job to help with their financial
issues, which exacerbated Moody's feelings of inadequacy.
Their relationship became strained as Moody's refusal to seek
help led to isolation and frustration.

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The narrator eventually took control of their situation,
insisting on selling their house to salvage their financial
stability. After much conflict, Moody reluctantly agreed and
secured a job in Detroit, restoring some normalcy to their
lives. Despite the strain of their marital differences and the
arrival of Moody's nephew Mammal, whose presence
reignited tensions related to their heritage, the family
attempted to rebuild their life.
When Mammal's visit prompted concerns about Moody's
increasing ties to Iran, the narrator felt apprehensive about
their impending trip to Tehran. Facing the dilemma of risking
her daughter's safety, the narrator finally decided to go on the
trip, feeling trapped by circumstances. During the journey,
she grappled with dread and fear, fully aware of the potential
consequences of their visit to Iran. As they board the plane,
the narrator's anxiety deepens, haunted by the uncertainty of
what awaits them.

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Chapter 24 Summary :

Summary of Chapter 24

Cold and Somber Morning

The chapter opens on a cold January morning, reflecting the

protagonist's emotional state after a night of crying. Moody
insists they visit the Swissair office to submit her passport
before her impending flight back to America.

Conflict with Moody

The protagonist expresses her reluctance to return to America

during a visit to her friend Chamsey, leading to a heated
argument with Moody. He believes her father's illness is a
ruse to manipulate her return, while she insists her father's
condition is genuine.

Desperate Pleas for Help

Near the Hakims' home, an aggressive Moody drags her

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away and shouts abusive language, culminating in a
revelation that she may never see her daughter Mahtob again.
Chamsey tries to mediate but fails to change Moody's mind.

An Unexpected Opportunity

Moody departs for a hospital emergency, leaving the

protagonist with her friend Fereshteh. Recognizing this as a
chance to escape, she carefully plans her next move without
involving Fereshteh, who is unaware of the deeper issues at
play.

The Escape Plan

Feigning the need to buy flowers for a farewell dinner, the

protagonist convinces Fereshteh to let them walk home. After
parting ways, she and Mahtob take two taxis to cover their
tracks before reaching a payphone to contact Amahl for
escape arrangements.

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 Chapter 25 Summary :

Section Summary

Flight from Tehran Betty and Mahtob arrive in a small apartment in Tehran after a snowstorm, anxious and focused on
escape plans, reassured by their friend Amahl.

Communicating Betty calls her husband Moody to persuade him for a peaceful return, keeping her composure despite
with Moody his anger and threats.

Preparations for Amahl brings supplies and escape route information involving a costly smuggling operation, raising
Escape Betty's fears for Mahtob's safety.

Escaping Through They set out at night, posing as normal citizens, facing close calls with authorities but successfully
the Mountains evading capture.

Crossing into In the mountains, they face harsh weather and must take a long route to avoid detection, battling
Turkey physical and emotional challenges.

Reaching Safety They finally cross into Turkey, feeling relief but facing uncertainty as they move through safe houses
for the next part of their journey.

Final Steps Towards In Ankara, they navigate a tense situation at a hotel regarding their visas but successfully use their
Freedom American passports with embassy support.

Conclusion The chapter ends with celebration over their safety and hope for return to America, while Mahtob
expresses her feelings through her drawing symbolizing freedom.

Summary of Chapter 25 from "Not Without My

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Flight from Tehran

The chapter begins with Betty Mahmoody and her daughter,

Mahtob, arriving at a small, untidy apartment in Tehran after
a challenging journey through a snowstorm. They are
anxious and hungry, yet focused on their escape plans. They
receive reassurance from their friend Amahl, who is
facilitating their escape, indicating that they should remain
hidden.

Communicating with Moody

Following a phone call to her husband, Moody, Betty

attempts to convince him to allow her to return home
peacefully. Despite Moody's anger and threats, she keeps her
composure and uses a tactic instructed by Amahl to stave off
immediate danger.

Preparations for Escape

Amahl returns with supplies and information about the

escape route, which includes an expensive smuggling
operation via a Red Cross ambulance through Turkey. Betty

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grapples with her fears and decisions, feeling the weight of
responsibility for Mahtob’s safety.

Escaping Through the Mountains

As they embark on their escape at night, Betty and Mahtob

are driven with other families posing as normal citizens.
They endure multiple close calls with policemen and military
checkpoints. Despite the danger, they manage to evade
capture and eventually reach the mountains.

Crossing into Turkey

Once in the mountains, the group encounters extreme

weather and treacherous conditions. They must take a long,
isolated route to avoid detection, facing both physical and
emotional challenges. As night falls, fatigue takes over,
complicating their efforts to find safety.

Reaching Safety

After a strenuous journey, they finally cross into Turkey,

marked by overwhelming relief and gratitude. However, their
safety is still fraught with uncertainty as they navigate

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through various safe houses and preparations for continuing
their journey.

Final Steps Towards Freedom

Betty and Mahtob eventually reach a hotel in Ankara, where

they initially fear being turned away due to lack of proper
visas. After a tense encounter with hotel staff, they manage
to use their American passports and resolve their situation
with the help of the U.S. embassy.

Conclusion

The chapter concludes with a joyful celebration of their

safety and imminent return to America, reflecting on their
harrowing journey and the hope of reuniting with loved ones
in the future. Mahtob expresses her complicated feelings
about their escape and their country's struggles through her
drawing, which symbolizes their newfound freedom in
America.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:The perilous journey reflects the complex
interplay between personal agency and socio-political
constraints.
Critical Interpretation:In Chapter 25, Betty Mahmoody’s
harrowing escape with her daughter serves as a powerful
narrative highlighting the tension between individual
determination and the oppressive structures imposed by
society, particularly in the context of gender and
political climate in Iran. It urges readers to question the
extent to which Betty's perspective might overlook the
broader socio-political complexities surrounding her
situation, such as the experiences of women who may
not have had the same resources or support. This evokes
the need for a critical lens when interpreting personal
narratives amidst political turmoil, as seen in writings
like "Women and Gender in Iran: The Challenges of
Authoritarianism" by Judith P. Shapiro, which examines
women's rights against the backdrop of Iranian politics.

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inspiration
Key Point:The Power of Resilience Amid Adversity
Life inspiration:In the chapter, Betty's unwavering
determination and resourcefulness in the face of danger
illuminate a profoundly inspiring lesson: when you
encounter obstacles, never underestimate your own
strength and resilience. Just like Betty, you might find
yourself in situations that feel insurmountable, but it’s
crucial to hold onto hope and keep pushing forward.
This chapter serves as a powerful reminder that by
facing challenges head-on and maintaining a focus on
your goals—such as the safety and well-being of your
loved ones—you can navigate through life's stormy
weather. Embrace your own inner resolve and
remember, even in the darkest moments, there is light at
the end of the tunnel.

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Best Quotes from Not Without My
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Chapter 1 | Quotes From Pages 1-18

1.For the first four years of her life she was a happy,
chatty child with a zest for life... In Farsi, the
official language of the Islamic Republic of Iran,
the word means 'moonlight.' But to me Mahtob is
sunshine.
2.Try as I might, I could not bury the dark fear that had
haunted me ever since Moody's nephew... I was obsessed
with a notion that my friends assured me was
irrational—that once Moody brought Mahtob and me to
Iran, he would try to keep us there forever.
3.What was an American woman doing flying into a country
that had the most openly hostile attitude toward Americans
of any nation in the world?
4.I had just turned thirty-nine, and at that age a woman

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 should have a handle on life. How, I wondered, had I lost
control?
5.I hunted through my purse for the pair of heavy black panty
hose Moody had instructed me to buy. I pulled them on and
smoothed the skirt of my conservative dark green suit over
them.
6.You must do it. You have to show respect. The meat will be
given to poor people.
7.This vacation was a brief interruption of our otherwise
normal American lives. We could endure it, but we did not
have to like it. From that very moment we began counting
the days until we could go home.
Chapter 2 | Quotes From Pages 19-46
1.You are a man of God. How can you allow him to
do this to me after he promised to the Koran?
2.I never wanted to get out of any place so desperately.
3.I will get even with you someday. You did this under the
authority of Islam because you knew I would respect it.
Someday you will pay for this. God will punish you

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 someday!
4.Among his relatives, the only one who seemed to take an
interest in children at all was Majid... He was the only adult
who seemed to take any interest in children at all.
Chapter 3 | Quotes From Pages 47-57
1.I, at least, had made choices; poor Mahtob had no
say in the matter.
2.How could I bring her here? But I knew the answer. How
could I not?
3.I had never been interested in politics or international
intrigue. All I had ever wanted was happiness and harmony
for my family.
4.It was pain, in fact, that brought Moody and me together
more than a decade earlier.
5.I wanted something more than the dreary lives I saw
around me.
6.I could not bring myself to think in terms of years. Moody
would not could not do this to us.

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Chapter 4 | Quotes From Pages 58-77
1.The money was the sum total of my power, my
lifeline.
2.Dear God, please help us to get through this problem.
Please help us find a safe way to go home to America
together and be with our family.
3.My darkest fear was that Moody might take her away from
me.
4.I had no idea what I might be able to do with it, but perhaps
it could help purchase freedom.
5.I realized, I would simply accept my plight and drift away
from my family and my homeland forever.
6.No one could help. Only I could get us out of this.
Chapter 5 | Quotes From Pages 78-89
1.My God! I thought, the war has come to Tehran.
2.Come," he said, "we are going to the rooftop.
3.The crushing, debilitating, horrifying chant knifed into my
soul.
4.I thought back to our visit to Rey, a nightmarish trip that

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 ended with Mahtob receiving a beating at the hand of her
father.
5.I knew enough of Islamic law to raise a valid objection. 'I
can’t go to a tomb,' I said. 'I have my period.'
6.I was determined that Mahtob would begin first grade in
America, but I held my tongue as Moody conversed with
the principal, translating my questions.
7.I have to convince him that I share that fantasy and
accepted his decision to live in Iran.
8.I love you for bringing us here," I said.
Chapter 6 | Quotes From Pages 90-108
1.Sex with Moody was merely one of many ugly
experiences I knew I would have to endure in
order to fight for freedom.
2.How strange it was to be ecstatic over the opportunity to
remove vermin from my food!
3.Zohreh refused Essey's offer of tea, explaining, "We are in
a hurry to leave, because I am taking Mummy to hamoom.
4.In two months my priorities had changed dramatically. I

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 realized how the American lifestyle had pampered me into
fretting about minor concerns.
5.I prayed that God would intervene. And He did.
6.We cannot interfere," she explained. "We cannot go against
Dabeejon.
7.Perhaps he would even allow Mahtob and me to venture
out alone. This might give me a chance to contact the
embassy once more, to see if Helen was holding any mail
for me, or if the State Department had been able to do
anything to help.
8.We cannot go against Dabeejon. All men are like this.

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Chapter 7 | Quotes From Pages 109-124
1.To save Mahtob's life, I would have to place her at
risk, even though those risks had been freshly
demonstrated.
2.I knew this man too well. For years I had seen the shadow
of madness descend upon him.
3.I had brought Mahtob to Iran in one last desperate attempt
to assure her freedom, and the irony was all too apparent
now.
4.Our prayers intensified. Although I had neglected church
attendance for many years, I had retained a strong faith in
God.
5.Life can be so simple for a five-year-old. And so complex.
6.Don't forget, when you feel really scared and alone and
don't know what is going on, just pray. You don't have to
pay attention to what anybody else is saying, just pray.
Everything will be okay.
7.I realized that Moody was not the all-powerful potentate
whom he fantasized himself to be.

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8.These women privately exhibited scorn for Moody, who
continued to deposit Mahtob and me in the morning and
pick us up at noon, acting the role of our jailer.
9.I knew we could not lift it off our shoulders without His
aid.
Chapter 8 | Quotes From Pages 125-142
1.I'm a hostage here," I whispered. "You've got to
help me.
2.I just want to get out with my daughter.
3.I have to stay home to watch you," he said, his grumbling
becoming less rational.
4.Please God, let him be in an accident. Let him be blown
apart by a bomb. Let him have a heart attack.
5.I would die before I would allow that to happen.
6.I could sense that 1985 would be the year Mahtob and I
returned home; indeed, I could abide no other thought.
Chapter 9 | Quotes From Pages 143-151
1.Chash," Mahtob replied, unconsciously using the
Farsi word for yes, and underscoring the need for

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 action. Mahtob wanted to get out of Iran more
than ever, but she was absorbing bits and pieces of
Iranian culture every day.
2.Not without my daughter!" I said sharply.
3.I want to contact those two ladies," I said firmly.
4.I could not believe Helen could be so callous to say this in
front of Mahtob.
5.I found it nearly impossible to weigh the risks in my mind.

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Chapter 10 | Quotes From Pages 152-172
1.'There's got to be a way, I said to myself. There
has just got to be a way.'
2.'Where there is a will, there is a way.'
3.'But I knew that he must relent. Any 'suggestion' from Aga
Hakim to Moody carried the impact of a direct order.'
4.'And I was pleased, too, for the opposite reason. I had just
taken one more small step toward escaping the Islamic
Republic of Iran.'
5.'I wanted to know their stories. What were they doing here?
Were they here of their own accord? Or were some of them
as enslaved as I?'
6.'I was desperate to spend time alone with Ellen. Moody
was cautious, obviously wanting to know more about her
before he allowed us to associate too closely.'
7.'I finally answered my 'Why?' through her sobs 'Because if
I went back to America I'm afraid I couldn't make it.''
8.'I want to escape.'
9.'He wants to be a martyr like his brother.'

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10.'Moody knew he was responsible for our plight, but he no
longer knew what to do about it.'
Chapter 11 | Quotes From Pages 173-190
1.Horrible as the raids were, we found that life
continued anyway, and the threat of the Iraqi Air
Force could not deter Iran from its celebration.
2.I realized this might be good for me. I now had some
freedom, tenuous though it was.
3.If something good did not happen soon, I feared, something
bad would.
4.I realized that I was growing more pessimistic, more bitter,
more frantic with each passing day.
5.I will help you. I know I can.
6.I just want out.
Chapter 12 | Quotes From Pages 191-199
1.My heart ached for the little girl and her parents.
2.Stay here!" he commanded. Then he ran off to find word of
Nelufar's condition.
3.No one is here," he said. "Morteza has taken her to another

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 hospital. Nastaran has gone home, so we will go there.
4.I bore the empathy of motherhood in my heart.
5.I tried to comfort Nastaran, and she knew my affection was
genuine.
6.How I wished that I had held my tongue, kept my secret
from Ellen!
7.Keep busy, I commanded myself.
8.My grief for Nastaran and Morteza was genuine, but as the
long night passed in sadness and tears, I wondered how this
tragedy would affect my own plans.

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Chapter 13 | Quotes From Pages 200-211
1.As long as I am with him, she’s okay.
2.Please help me. You have to help me," I sobbed.
3.I cannot do that, even at the risk of my own life. Could I
gamble that Moody would calm down, that his threats
would remain inactive, that I would live yet another day?
Did I have any choice?
4.I’m going to take Mahtob now," I said.
5.You must!" I screamed. "He will hurt her.
6.I had to trust somebody!
7.Thank you," I whispered. "I promise to stay in Iran if I can
be with Mahtob. I promise not to try to escape.
Chapter 14 | Quotes From Pages 212-225
1.If he takes you away, you have to go with him," I
said to Mahtob softly, through my tears, as we
huddled together in the bathroom that morning.
"You have to be nice to Daddy, even if he takes you
away from me and doesn't bring you back. Don't
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 Never tell anybody that we've tried to escape. Even
if they beat you, don't tell.
2.Just remember God is always with you and it doesn't matter
how alone you feel. Anytime you are afraid, pray. And
remember that I'll never leave this country without you.
Never.
3.With tears streaming down my cheeks, knowing that my
life was over, knowing that Moody could and would snuff
out my existence at any moment, I realized that I had to
protect others.
4.He is not going to keep her away from you. He loves you.
He loves Mahtob. He does not want Mahtob to grow up
alone.
5.I could see it in his eyes and hear it in his voice as he
hurried Mahtob and as he said to me, 'I will take her to
school today. You will stay here.'
Chapter 15 | Quotes From Pages 226-243
1.I could not answer her through my tears.
2.Somehow I had to muster courage and resolve.

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3.What went wrong? I knew, and yet I did not know.
4.I was confident that time would bring equilibrium.
5.But the damage was done.
6.I still believed to be based upon a foundation of love.
7.He had chosen the name Mahtob because there had been a
full moon last night.
8.I was weak and confused by a jumble of emotions.
9.I must call a truce," I suggested in desperation.
10.The revolution took place in our home as well as in Iran.

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Chapter 16 | Quotes From Pages 244-261
1.When you feel that you are alone, you can always
pray. You are never really alone.
2.Dear God, help me!
3.As a doctor, he would recognize it immediately.
4.The same moon Mahtob saw.
5.I will make a nasr.
Chapter 17 | Quotes From Pages 262-288
1.Oh, thank you, God, thank you," I whispered
aloud. All I could think of was the nasr and the
special request prayer I had made that day. God
had answered my prayers.
2.I really love you for bringing her home," I said to Moody,
feeling utterly ridiculous, even as I spoke the words. He
was the cause of all my agony, but I was so grateful to see
Mahtob that I halfway meant the illogical statement.
3.Has she been eating?" I asked.
"Yes," he assured me. But the evidence did not support his
statement. She was scrawny.

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4.Something very strange was happening to all three of us. It
took me time to decode the subtle changes in our behavior,
but I knew intuitively that we were entering a new phase of
our existence together.
5.In detail, I did not know, but I arrived at some general
conclusions. I would now redirect and redouble my efforts
to get Mahtob and myself out of Iran and back to America,
but this campaign would take a different, more calculated
attack.
6.I would not raise her hopes. Not until we were on our way
to America—and I still had no idea how we might
accomplish this would I tell her.
7.But could I trust her to help keep Moody's behavior
manageable?
8.I had only one wish, but I fervently wanted to believe in the
miracles of Meshed.
9.I had to clear a space on Essey's floor, wiping away the
carcasses of the huge cockroaches attracted by Mehdi's
ever-present urine, spread out our blankets, and attempt to

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 sleep.
10.Reza Shaflee had to delay his return to Switzerland and,
during this evening, he confronted Moody with a plan.
"You cannot leave Betty and Mahtob here," he said. "This
is just too dangerous for them.
Chapter 18 | Quotes From Pages 289-305
1.We knew that sooner or later we would find the
right place for us, but Moody's work schedule
cramped us for time.
2.Slowly, ever so slowly, the chains were loosening
3.Here, as mistress of my own house, as the doctor's wife, I
would have even more freedom.
4.If Moody still worried that Mahtob and I might try to
escape his grasp, he could not act upon that apprehension.
Now he needed us more than ever. We were his family; we
were the only people he had.
5.Was it possible to achieve a state of relative happiness here
in Iran with Moody?

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Chapter 19 | Quotes From Pages 306-309
1.I won't leave without my daughter. If she doesn't
go, I don't go.
2.If that's what you want then I will get you both out of the
country. If you are patient - I don't know how or when it
can be arranged. Just be patient.
3.I need to hear from you every chance you have to call me.
Do not ever feel that you are bothering me...
4.Here are my phone numbers," he said, jotting them down
on note-paper. "Let me show you how to put them in code.
5.You can pay me back later, when you get to America,
Chapter 20 | Quotes From Pages 310-328
1.Here I was, walking free with my daughter. I had
accomplished another major objective.
2.I determined now to be as good and efficient a wife and
mother as possible, for three reasons.
3.I would never go to America without you.
4.You will be in Iran until Imam Mehdi returns.
5.I knew there was a key shop a few stores down from the

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 Pol Pizza Shop.
6.As I watched our guests that night, it occurred to me that of
all the people I knew in Iran, Alice and Chamsey were the
only ones who seemed truly happy.
7.Helen was genuinely excited for me. Her face broke into an
ecstatic smile. She hugged me tight. We cried tears of joy.
Chapter 21 | Quotes From Pages 329-345
1.Please hurry," I said to Amahl. "Time is not in my
favor. I want so badly to see my father. I don't
want him to die before we get back home. He will
be more at peace if he knows we've made it back.
Please find some way soon.
2.Do not talk," Amahl said. "Just sit there. Do not say
anything.
3.Yes, you will," he reassured me. "And so will I.
4.How can I have a child, when no man has touched me, and
I am not unchaste?
5.I was so good. Everyone likes me. She hears good things
about me from everyone. I work so hard. I am such a good

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wife, mother, and sister!

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Chapter 22 | Quotes From Pages 346-366
1.Where there's a will, there's a way," he said.
2.You may as well start now," he said.
3.If you go, you will never see Mahtob again," I am
convinced of it.
4.I will never leave you.
5.You have done it now! You have destroyed everything. You
are getting on that plane. If you do not, I will take Mahtob
away from you and I will lock you into a room for the rest
of your life!
Chapter 23 | Quotes From Pages 367-385
1.He could do it. He would do it.
2.I vowed to myself that I would spend as much time with
him as possible, hold his hand, say all the things that
needed to be said before it was too late.
3.You must go out and look for one. It's not going to be
handed to you from God.
4.The real reason I took Mahtob to Iran was this: I was
damned if I did, but Mahtob was damned if I didn't.

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5.I swear to the Koran, I would never make you stay in Iran. I
swear to the Koran that I would never make you live
someplace against your will.
6.Why had I waited so long? And why had I not asserted
myself more often in the past?
Chapter 24 | Quotes From Pages 386-392
1.I just don't want to go to America," I cried.
2.Please help me. Check on me. He's going to hurt us.
3.You're never going to see Mahtob again!
4.But don't worry, I'm not going to leave you in Tehran. I'm
not going to go to America without you.
5.I have to go out and get some flowers to take to dinner
tonight.
6.Mahtob, we're going to America.
7.Her spirit was bent, but not broken.

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Chapter 25 | Quotes From Pages 393-451
1.But I realized that we should take whatever
opportunity we could to build our strength for the
challenges that lay ahead amid the dark
uncertainty of the encroaching winter's night, and
the perilous days and nights that might follow.
2.For better or worse, the long debilitating months of
passivity were behind us now.
3.I realized that we were talking about Amahl's money, not
mine. He had to pay it up front, with no guarantees that I
would make it back to America and be able to repay him.
4.Her level of understanding amazed me once again. The
resolve in her voice strengthened my own. There was no
turning back now.
5.He made a pile of my money, our passports, and my gold
necklace. 'Keep these tonight,' he said.
6.What price was I to pay for freedom? I was convinced that
some of my toes were beyond reclamation.
7.And what about Joe and John and my parents in faraway

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 Michigan? Would Moody call them? Would they call to tell
me about Dad?
8.I looked at my watch. It was only one. I did not want to
loiter in the bus station for three hours, and, allowing
myself to relax a bit as we drew closer to freedom, I uttered
the one word that I knew was also foremost on Mahtob's
mind. 'Gazza,' I said, putting my hand to my mouth. 'Food.'
9.My heart leapt. I looked at him blankly, pretending I did
not understand.
10.'Can you believe we are going home, Mahtob?' I said.
'Can you believe we are finally going home?'

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Chapter 1 | Q&A
1.Question
What internal conflicts does Betty face upon landing in
Iran with her daughter?
Answer:Betty is overwhelmed with fear and panic as
she realizes the gravity of the situation she and her
daughter Mahtob are in. She worries that her
husband, Moody, will try to keep them in Iran
against their will and feels completely out of control
after having made what feels like a grave mistake by
coming on this trip.

2.Question
Why does Betty feel that her husband Moody is a
paradox?
Answer:Moody embodies both American and Persian
cultures but is emotionally complicated. He appears loving
and caring yet also shows a disregard for the needs of his

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family. This blend of his Americanized upbringing and his
traditional Iranian background leads to uncertainty about his
intentions—whether he will return to the U.S. or stay in Iran.

3.Question
What significance does the name 'Mahtob' hold for Betty,
and how does it affect her view of their journey?
Answer:'Mahtob' means 'moonlight' in Farsi, but Betty sees
her daughter as 'sunshine.' This contrast highlights Betty’s
deep love for Mahtob and her desire to protect her from the
potential dangers and harsh realities of Iran, accentuating the
motherly instinct to ensure her daughter's safety and
happiness.

4.Question
How does Betty's perception of Iran change from her
initial thoughts to her observations at the airport?
Answer:Initially, Betty views Iran as a place of hostility
toward Americans, fraught with danger and uncertainty,
particularly fearing that they may not return to America.
However, upon arrival and as she observes the warm

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interactions of Moody with his family, she begins to
recognize the depth and importance of familial ties within
Iranian culture, though she still struggles with feelings of
isolation.

5.Question
What does the act of Betty crossing the blood of the
slaughtered sheep signify for her?
Answer:Crossing the blood is a traditional act of respect and
acknowledgment of being welcomed into Moody's family. It
symbolizes her commitment to participate in and respect her
husband’s cultural practices, even when they feel foreign and
unsettling to her.

6.Question
How does Betty's family dynamics evolve during their
stay in Iran?
Answer:Despite feeling out of place and uncomfortable,
Betty begins to see the joy and connection that Moody feels
with his family, illustrating a complex family dynamic where
she feels simultaneously excluded yet also part of a rich

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cultural experience. She acknowledges her daughter
Mahtob's connection to this family, which provides her with
motivation to endure the situation.

7.Question
What does Betty’s struggle with dress codes in Iran
reflect about her situation?
Answer:Betty's discomfort with wearing the chador and the
oppressive clothing highlights her feelings of loss of
autonomy and identity in a foreign culture that imposes strict
norms. This serves as a metaphor for the larger restrictions
she feels about her life decisions regarding her family.

8.Question
How does Betty cope with her fears about being stuck in
Iran?
Answer:Throughout her experiences, Betty continually
reminds herself that this trip is temporary and clings to the
hope that they will return to America. She begins to
compartmentalize her anxieties, focusing instead on
Mahtob's needs and the familial support surrounding them,

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even if it causes her personal discomfort.

9.Question
Why does Betty feel guilty for her initial reluctance about
the trip?
Answer:Seeing Moody's emotional reunion with his family
stirs feelings of guilt in Betty, as she recognizes the
importance of family ties in his life. This realization forces
her to confront her own reservations about the trip,
acknowledging that it is not just about her discomfort but
also about supporting Moody's cultural and familial
significance.

10.Question
What does the festive family meal reveal about Iranian
culture as experienced by Betty and Mahtob?
Answer:The meal serves as a revelation of the communal and
often chaotic nature of family gatherings in Iran, marked by a
lack of personal space, shared food, and lively interaction.
For Betty and Mahtob, this experience highlights cultural
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dynamics, fostering both intrigue and discomfort.
Chapter 2 | Q&A
1.Question
What experiences highlight the challenges of cultural
differences as seen in Betty's interactions with Moody's
family?
Answer:Betty's experience with her family in law
reveals stark contrasts in daily life, from hygiene
practices to food, significantly affecting her comfort
and sense of belonging. For example, she is shocked
by the lack of cleanliness in Ameh Bozorg's kitchen,
where dishes pile up and the floors are dirty,
contrasting sharply with her Western expectations.
Additionally, her contempt for the food, especially
the rancid lamb dishes and bug-infested rice,
amplifies her sense of being an outsider in a culture
that doesn't prioritize the same standards.
Furthermore, Moody's brother's insistence on
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enforced on her, demonstrates the deep-rooted
cultural norms that clash with her Western values of
freedom and personal choice.

2.Question
How does the narrative depict the impact of gender roles
within the Iranian family dynamics presented in the text?
Answer:In this narrative, gender roles are portrayed as rigid
and oppressive, particularly through Betty's interactions with
Moody and his family. Betty faces immediate criticism for
her behavior and for not adhering to the expected norms of
modesty indoors, illustrating how familial authority rests
heavily on male figures, like Baba Hajji and Moody. Despite
being an educated American woman, she is relegated to a
subordinate role, forced to wear the chador, and her concerns
about hygiene are dismissed as frivolous. Moody's changing
demeanor, from a supportive partner in the U.S. to an
authoritative figure in Iran, underscores how traditional
gender expectations can alter relationships, positioning him
as a representative of patriarchal control.

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3.Question
What internal conflicts does Betty face during her stay,
and how do these contribute to her character
development?
Answer:Betty grapples with internal conflicts as she
navigates her identity as an American woman against the
oppressive backdrop of Iranian cultural norms. Initially, she
struggles with resentment towards her situation and Moody's
family's customs, leading to frustration and feelings of
entrapment, especially when she realizes Moody has kept
secrets about their true circumstances in Iran. Her resolve
hardens throughout the narrative, as she begins to assert her
independence and challenge the norms around her when she
confronts Baba Hajji after Moody's declaration of intent to
keep her in Iran. This pivotal moment showcases her
transformation from a compliant spouse to a defiant woman
fighting for her autonomy, setting the stage for her eventual
quest for freedom.

4.Question
What role does deception play in the family's dynamics

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and how does it affect Betty?
Answer:Deception weaves a complex web within the family
dynamics, profoundly affecting Betty's perception of trust
and security. Moody's failure to communicate the real
intention behind their visit to Iran, coupled with his
contradictory reassurances, creates a facade that ultimately
contributes to Betty's feelings of betrayal. After the
confrontation regarding their inability to leave, the revelation
that the family conspired against her amplifies her sense of
isolation and distrust. This deception underscores a broader
theme of manipulation within the cultural and familial
expectations Betty faces, eventually igniting her
determination to escape, thereby serving as a catalyst for her
character's eventual strength and resilience.

5.Question
What lessons about resilience and personal strength can
be inferred from Betty's journey in this chapter?
Answer:Betty's journey in this chapter embodies resilience
and personal strength through her gradual defiance against

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the constraints imposed upon her. Despite the overwhelming
pressures of conforming to her husband's culture and the
family dynamics that seek to undermine her agency, she
learns to assert her voice and confront the injustices she
faces. Her ability to articulate her feelings of entrapment to
Baba Hajji illustrates the power of standing up against
oppression. The chapter ultimately conveys a powerful
message about the importance of self-advocacy and the
strength it takes to navigate hostile environments, as Betty
transitions from a frightened visitor to a woman ready to
fight for her freedom and rights.
Chapter 3 | Q&A
1.Question
What message does Betty convey about the choices
parents make for their children?
Answer:Betty emphasizes that parents have the
power to make choices, but that their decisions can
significantly impact their children, often without
their child's understanding or consent. She reflects

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on her choices and the burden of her daughter's
situation, illustrating the struggle between a parent's
desire to protect and the reality of the consequences.

2.Question
How does Betty describe the struggle between personal
ambition and life’s harsh realities?
Answer:Betty recalls her aspirations for a stable and
successful life, only to be confronted by unexpected pain and
hardship. Her journey illustrates how personal goals can be
derailed by circumstances beyond one's control, leading to a
poignant realization of life’s unpredictability.

3.Question
In what ways did Betty find strength despite her suffering
from migraines?
Answer:Despite grappling with debilitating migraines, Betty
finds strength in her independence and resolve to build a
better future for herself and her children. Her experiences in
the hospital and the support of a caring doctor, Moody,
provide moments of hope that inspire her to keep moving

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forward.

4.Question
What role does community play in Betty's life as
portrayed in this chapter?
Answer:The community is shown to be a significant support
system for Betty, helping her connect and find a sense of
belonging. Her volunteer work and interactions with others
contribute to her sense of fulfillment and reinforce her
ambitions.

5.Question
How does Betty's relationship with Moody evolve
throughout this chapter?
Answer:Initially marked by a professional connection, Betty
and Moody’s relationship deepens as they share personal
experiences and grow closer. Moody becomes a source of
comfort and hope for Betty, contrasting with the anxiety her
later experiences with him evoke.

6.Question
What does Betty's experience teach about the nature of
freedom?

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Answer:Betty's reflections reveal that true freedom comes
with choices, yet those choices are often accompanied by
unforeseen consequences. While she initially relishes her
independence, she confronts the limitations imposed by her
relationship and situation, leading to a complex
understanding of what freedom truly means.

7.Question
What does Betty's transformation from a single,
independent woman to a committed partner imply about
personal growth?
Answer:Betty’s transformation underscores the complexity
of personal growth, illustrating how relationships can inspire
change. Her journey from valuing independence to
recognizing the joy of partnership reflects a deeper
understanding of love and commitment in family and societal
roles.

8.Question
How does the chapter illustrate the impact of cultural
backgrounds on personal relationships?
Answer:The chapter highlights the differences between

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Betty's American upbringing and Moody's Iranian
background, showing how cultural influences shape
individual values and relationships. Despite their love, these
differences also create challenges that complicate their union.

9.Question
What can be learned from Betty's reflections about the
importance of community ties and family?
Answer:Betty’s story emphasizes the significance of
maintaining community bonds and family connections,
especially when navigating difficult times. They provide
emotional and practical support, reinforcing that we are not
alone in our struggles.

10.Question
How does Betty's initial happiness juxtapose with her
later predicament in the narrative?
Answer:The juxtaposition of Betty’s early happiness with
Moody against her later plight of feeling trapped illustrates
the unpredictability of life. It serves as a stark reminder that
joy can quickly turn into despair, with past decisions carrying

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Chapter 4 | Q&A
1.Question
What insights did Betty gain about her situation after
Moody's declaration?
Answer:Betty recognized that her money was her
only asset and lifeline in a dire situation,
representing her power and potential means of
escape from what felt like imprisonment.

2.Question
How did Betty cope with the oppressive environment
created by Moody and his family?
Answer:Betty found solace in her daughter Mahtob, relied on
rituals like their prayer in the bathroom for comfort, and
turned to the Koran to seek guidance and justify her situation.

3.Question
What was Betty's darkest fear regarding Mahtob?
Answer:Betty's greatest fear was that Moody would take
Mahtob away from her, which would leave her feeling even
more powerless.

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How did Betty's reading of the Koran influence her
understanding of female rights?
Answer:Though she found distressing verses about women's
subservience, she held onto hope in another verse that
mentioned reconciliation in troubled marriages, leading her
to advocate for their rights to family assistance.

5.Question
What challenge did Betty face when she attempted to
reach out for help?
Answer:When she attempted to contact the embassy for
assistance, her conversation was cut short by Moody,
highlighting her isolation and the oppressive control he
exercised over her.

6.Question
How did Betty demonstrate resilience regarding Mahtob's
birthday?
Answer:Despite her strained relationship with Moody, Betty
insisted on celebrating Mahtob’s birthday to provide her
daughter with a moment of joy amidst their dire reality.

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7.Question
What realization did Betty come to about her own
empowerment?
Answer:Betty understood that ultimately, only she could
orchestrate her and her daughter's escape from their
nightmare, highlighting her resilience and determination.

8.Question
What was the outcome of Betty's escape attempt with
Mahtob?
Answer:Betty managed to flee with Mahtob and make
contact with the U.S. Interest Section of the Swiss Embassy,
marking a crucial step in seeking freedom.

9.Question
How did Betty's emotions fluctuate during her captivity?
Answer:Her fear and depression fluctuated between moments
of resolve to escape and deep despair from feeling trapped in
her marriage and environment with Moody.

10.Question
How did Betty use her relationship with her daughter as a
source of strength?

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Answer:Betty’s love for Mahtob motivated her to fight
against the oppressive situation, ensuring that she focused on
creating moments of happiness for her daughter despite the
bleakness around them.
Chapter 5 | Q&A
1.Question
What does the phrase 'Maag barg Amerika!' signify in
the context of the chapter, and why did it affect the
narrator so deeply?
Answer:The phrase 'Maag barg Amerika!'
translates to 'Death to America!' and represents the
vehement anti-American sentiment prevalent in Iran
during the war with Iraq. This slogan, heavily
propagated through government and media,
encapsulates the fervor and ideology of a population
united against perceived enemies. For the narrator,
Betty, the chant was horrifyingly impactful because
it symbolized not only the growing hostility from her
husband and his family but also the danger posed to

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her American identity and to her daughter Mahtob,
whom she feared might be coerced into participating
in such demonstrations.

2.Question
Why did Moody insist on taking Mahtob to school despite
the narrator's objections, and how did this decision
reflect his determination as a father?
Answer:Moody's insistence on taking Mahtob to school was
motivated by his desire to integrate her into Iranian society
and to mold her into a dutiful Iranian daughter. He believed
that exposing her to the local education system would
prepare her for the realities of a life in Iran, especially as she
would soon have to transition to a government school, which
he deemed harsher. This decision reflects his determination
as a father to instill values and patriotism in Mahtob,
showcasing his effort to define her identity according to his
cultural beliefs, despite the narrator's concerns for her
well-being.

3.Question
How did Betty’s attitude towards living in Iran begin to

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shift throughout the chapter, and what strategy did she
develop to cope with her situation?
Answer:Betty's attitude gradually evolved as she recognized
the need to strategically navigate her troubled life in Iran.
Initially filled with despair and resentment, she began to
formulate a plan that involved presenting herself positively to
Moody, hoping to gain his trust and perhaps negotiate a more
favorable living situation. By accepting her reality and
putting effort into her appearance and demeanor, she aimed
to convince Moody that she was committed to their life in
Iran, which she hoped would reduce his paranoia and allow
her more freedom to act on her desire to escape.

4.Question
What was the significance of the demonstration and
pilgrimage events in this chapter for Betty and her
daughter?
Answer:The demonstration and pilgrimage events were
significant for Betty and Mahtob as they highlighted the
intense political and religious pressures they faced in Iran.

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For Betty, these events were sources of fear and anxiety, as
they illustrated a reality where her values and identity as an
American were rendered vulnerable. For Mahtob, being
forced to participate in these activities underscored her lack
of control over her own formative experiences. These
external pressures complicated Betty's mission to protect
Mahtob and navigate their hostile environment, amplifying
her feelings of captivity and helplessness.

5.Question
How did the interactions and conflicts between Betty and
Moody's family illustrate the cultural and personal
tensions she faced?
Answer:The interactions and conflicts between Betty and
Moody's family served to highlight the profound cultural
chasm and personal tensions she navigated. Betty felt the
weight of her outsider status as her limits with language and
customs led to misunderstandings, particularly evident
during the pilgrimage when she was scolded for not
participating. Moody's family, rooted in Islamic traditions,

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did not grasp her perspective as an American, which added
emotional strain to her already fragile situation. This
dynamic revealed the broader theme of a clash between
Western individuality and Eastern collectivism, further
isolating Betty and intensifying her struggle for autonomy.
Chapter 6 | Q&A
1.Question
What significance do the early morning rituals
highlighted by Betty reveal about her inner conflict and
determination?
Answer:The early morning rituals, such as following
Islamic laws of cleanliness despite her discomfort,
reflect Betty's struggle and fortitude. They
symbolize her perseverance in maintaining her
identity as a mother while trying to navigate a
deeply oppressive environment. This adherence to
ritual showcases her mental resolve to hold on to her
beliefs and the essence of her fight for freedom, even
when faced with grim realities.

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2.Question
How does the environment described in the courtyard
affect Mahtob's experience in Iran?
Answer:The courtyard, a small sanctuary amidst the chaos of
the city, represents a fleeting sense of normalcy and joy in
Mahtob's life. While the surroundings are filled with clutter
and unhygienic conditions, playing with Maryam in the
backyard allows Mahtob to latch onto moments of childhood
happiness, reinforcing the importance of small escapes from
their grim reality.

3.Question
What lessons does Betty learn from the cultural
differences regarding cleanliness and household routines?
Answer:Betty learns to adapt her priorities and redefine her
standards of cleanliness. In this new environment, minor
concerns about hygiene are overshadowed by the larger tasks
at hand, like survival and care for her daughter. This shift in
perspective indicates her growing resilience and ability to
endure harsh conditions for the sake of her family's

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well-being.

4.Question
Describe the evolving dynamic between Betty and Moody
as the chapter progresses. What shifts occur?
Answer:Initially, Moody is very controlling, but as Betty
begins to adjust to life in Iran, his vigilance starts to fade.
This marks a pivotal shift as Betty cleverly maneuvers to
gain small freedoms. However, the situation escalates into a
tension-filled environment marked by Moody's growing
irritability, ultimately leading to a violent confrontation,
revealing the depths of his instability and the dangerous hold
he has over Betty and Mahtob.

5.Question
What role does Nasserine play in conveying the societal
attitudes toward domestic abuse in Iran?
Answer:Nasserine embodies the normalization of domestic
abuse within Iranian culture. Her submission to Moody's
violence and her belief that 'all men are like this' provide a
window into the tragic acceptance of such behavior as

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typical. This highlights the pervasive patriarchy and the
societal pressures that inhibit women from standing against
male dominance, trapping them in cycles of abuse.

6.Question
What can we infer about Betty's hopes for the future and
the extent of her despair when she reflects on her
relationship with her daughter, Mahtob?
Answer:Betty's desperation peaks when she considers the
potential fate of Mahtob under Moody's abusive grip. The
thought of Mahtob growing up in such an environment,
possibly subjected to the same fate as her mother, fuels
Betty's determination to fight for their freedom. Her
reflections illustrate a deep concern for her daughter's future,
blending despair with an unwavering resolve to escape their
dire circumstances.

7.Question
How does the chapter reflect the theme of resilience in the
face of adversity?
Answer:Throughout the chapter, Betty's actions—adapting to
her surroundings, taking up responsibilities in the household,

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and slowly gaining independence—highlight her resilience.
Despite significant physical and psychological abuse, her
capacity to devise small acts of rebellion and nurture a
semblance of normal life for Mahtob illustrates the strength
of the human spirit in overcoming relentless hardship.

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Chapter 7 | Q&A
1.Question
What inner strength did Betty find amidst her difficult
circumstances as she faced Moody's abuse?
Answer:Betty found that despite the physical and
emotional turmoil brought on by Moody, her resolve
to protect Mahtob only grew stronger. Each moment
spent in fear emphasized her determination to
eventually find a path to freedom for herself and her
daughter. She recognized not just her own adversity,
but also the impact of her actions on Mahtob's
well-being.

2.Question
How did Mahtob’s experiences influence Betty’s
understanding of their situation?
Answer:Mahtob's innocent suggestion of sneaking away to
America reflected the hope that children hold, yet it also
magnified the weight of their reality. Each cry from Mahtob
only deepened Betty's understanding of the grave

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consequences of their situation—she was not only fighting
for her freedom but also striving to shield her daughter from
despair.

3.Question
In what ways did prayer and faith serve as anchors for
Betty and Mahtob?
Answer:Despite the intense suffering they endured, prayer
became a vital means of maintaining hope for both Betty and
Mahtob. Betty relied on her faith to navigate moments of
desperation, teaching Mahtob that divine support could
manifest in unexpected ways, even if their prayers did not
yield immediate changes.

4.Question
What was the significance of Hamid's friendship in
Betty's life in Iran?
Answer:Hamid represented more than just a source of
logistical support; he embodied a connection to the outside
world and a glimmer of hope. His willingness to act in quiet
defiance against Moody's tyranny illustrated that not all

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Iranians supported the regime's oppressive nature, and his
friendship gave Betty both practical assistance and emotional
comfort.

5.Question
How did Betty cope with the reality of Mahtob’s
schooling in Iran?
Answer:Despite her trepidation over the conditions of
Mahtob's school, Betty chose to leverage this situation to her
advantage. By actively engaging with the school staff and
insisting on a firsthand look at Mahtob's environment, she
transformed her fear into proactive steps that could
eventually lead to opportunities for escape.

6.Question
What did Betty learn about the nature of power and
control through her interactions with Moody and the
school officials?
Answer:Betty's experience illustrated a complex web of
power dynamics; Moodys perceived authority was fragile,
and many surrounding women, despite being subjugated by
societal norms, shared common ground with Betty. Her

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understanding evolved to recognize that power is
multifaceted, often dependent on one's position—not just of
dominance, but also of shared empathy and resistance.

7.Question
How did the cultural differences affect Betty's perception
of the people she encountered in Iran?
Answer:Initially, Betty viewed Iranian women with distrust
and resentment due to their submission to a patriarchal
society. However, through her interactions and shared
experiences, she began to see them as individuals caught in a
system as oppressive as her own, realizing their humanity
and desires for connection and nurturing.

8.Question
What lesson does Betty impart through the difficult
decisions she makes regarding Mahtob’s safety and
schooling?
Answer:Betty emphasizes the importance of advocating for
one's loved ones even in perilous situations. Her insistence
on examining Mahtob's school and her discussions with staff
reflect a profound truth: that love compels individuals to

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confront danger, embody courage, and seek the best possible
outcome for the future.

9.Question
How did Betty's perspective shift regarding the possibility
of freedom as she adjusted to life in Iran?
Answer:Initially, Betty felt utterly trapped and hopeless due
to Moody's unpredictability and the oppressive environment.
However, as she began to see that there were people like
Hamid who sought change, and by recognizing the cracks in
Moody's imposed dominance, she grew optimistic that
escape would be possible, reshaping her perspective from
one of despair to a cautious hope.
Chapter 8 | Q&A
1.Question
What does Betty's experience at the park reveal about her
determination to escape from her situation?
Answer:Betty's decision to talk to Judy at the park,
despite Moody's presence and his tendency to
restrict her interactions, showcases her

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determination and resourcefulness. By whispering
about being a hostage and asking for help, she takes
a significant step towards seeking assistance,
demonstrating her fierce commitment to find a way
out for herself and Mahtob.

2.Question
How does the interaction with Judy and Rasheed
empower Betty?
Answer:The interaction empowers Betty by providing her
with hope and a plan. Judy's willingness to help, along with
Rasheed's connections to people who could potentially
smuggle them out, gives Betty a renewed sense of agency.
This plan solidifies her belief that escape is possible,
motivating her to take further risks.

3.Question
What does Betty's actions during the dinner party signify
about her resilience?
Answer:At the dinner party, Betty finds a way to
communicate secretly with Rasheed, highlighting her

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resilience. She types a letter to Moody while being socially
present, showing her ability to multitask and stay focused on
her goal of freedom, despite being surrounded by guests and
her husband.

4.Question
What internal conflicts does Betty struggle with
throughout this chapter?
Answer:Betty grapples with the tension between her longing
for freedom and the reality of her controlling marriage. She
fears Moody's reactions to her plans and struggles with the
guilt of devising an escape while feeling trapped by his
authority, revealing her emotional turmoil.

5.Question
How does the emotional toll of Betty's situation manifest
during the Christmas season?
Answer:The Christmas season amplifies Betty's feelings of
isolation and sorrow. The absence of festive spirit, coupled
with her worries about her family back home, leads her to
reflect on her painful circumstances. It emphasizes her

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longing for normalcy and connection, making her situation
feel even more dire.

6.Question
What do Betty's writings to her family reveal about her
state of mind?
Answer:Betty's letters convey a mix of despair and hope.
While they reflect her difficult reality in Iran, they also show
her desire to maintain connection with her loved ones,
indicating that despite her challenging situation, she still
clings to hope for freedom.

7.Question
How does the conversation with Helen at the embassy
change Betty's perspective on her situation?
Answer:The call from Helen introduces a glimmer of hope
into Betty's despair, hinting that there are people advocating
for her and Mahtob's freedom. It reassures her that her
struggles are recognized, igniting a new determination to
pursue a path out of Iran.

8.Question
What insights does Betty gain from reading the Iranian

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constitution, and how do they shape her resolve?
Answer:Reading the Iranian constitution exposes Betty to the
harsh realities of women's rights and her precarious position
in the marriage. It strengthens her resolve to escape, as she
understands the legal challenges she faces in retaining her
daughter and her autonomy.

9.Question
How does Betty describe her changing relationship with
Moody, and what does it signify?
Answer:Betty describes a fluctuation in Moody's demeanor,
from affectionate to threatening. This unpredictability
signifies her struggle; on one hand, it shows Moody's
insecurities and the tension in their relationship, while on the
other, it underscores Betty's ongoing quest for autonomy and
the challenges she faces in planning her escape.

10.Question
What does Betty's ability to navigate Tehran indicate
about her growth and adaptability?
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reflects her growth and adaptability. It illustrates her
resourcefulness and determination to reclaim her autonomy.
This newfound ability enables her to explore options for
escape, marking a significant shift in her mindset from
passive to proactive.
Chapter 9 | Q&A
1.Question
What motivates Betty to take action despite the dangers
involved?
Answer:Betty is driven by her deep love for her
daughter Mahtob and her desperate need to escape
the oppressive environment created by her husband,
Moody. The realization that Mahtob might
assimilate into Iranian culture against her will also
fuels her urgency to act. Additionally, the fear of
losing Mahtob to Moody or the Iranian authorities
propels her to seek any possible route to freedom.

2.Question
How does Betty feel about her relationship with Mahtob?

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Answer:Betty's relationship with Mahtob is characterized by
a profound bond and protective instinct. She cannot imagine
leaving her behind and is committed to keeping her close,
which showcases the depths of a mother's love and
determination. This bond is intensified when Mahtob
expresses fear at the thought of being separated from her
mother.

3.Question
What are the risks of contacting Trish and Suzanne,
based on the embassy's advice?
Answer:The embassy officials warn Betty that Trish and
Suzanne's plans are dangerous and unwise, suggesting it
could lead to severe consequences, including kidnapping or
exposure to the authorities. They emphasize that unknown
assistance can pose a greater risk than remaining in a
controlled but familiar situation.

4.Question
What internal conflicts does Betty experience throughout
the chapter?

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Answer:Betty experiences a significant internal struggle
between her desire for immediate action to escape and her
fears about the safety of both herself and Mahtob. She
questions whether she is making a rational decision or if her
fear is leading her to take unnecessary risks. The desire to
protect her daughter complicates her feelings about pursuing
freedom.

5.Question
What is the significance of the conversation with Mr.
Vincop regarding escape plans?
Answer:Mr. Vincop's conversation underscores the gravity of
the situation and the potential dangers of seeking an
unconventional escape. His strong warnings serve as a reality
check against the allure of an immediate escape, highlighting
that desperation can cloud judgment and lead to
life-threatening situations.

6.Question
How does Betty's perception of the women change
throughout her interactions?

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Answer:Initially, Betty views Trish and Suzanne as potential
allies in her escape plan. However, as their urgency becomes
more apparent and their methods seem reckless, she begins to
question their competence and motivations. This shift reflects
her growing wariness about trusting those who are also
embroiled in the complexities of living in Iran.

7.Question
What does Betty's decision at the end of the chapter
signify about her character?
Answer:Betty's decision to reject the immediate offer of
escape at the end of the chapter signifies her growth in
discernment and her commitment to protecting Mahtob. It
illustrates her resilience and ability to resist impulsive actions
that may compromise their safety. Despite the emotional
turmoil, she chooses caution over haste, emphasizing her
protective nature.

8.Question
What does this chapter reveal about the nature of hope
and desperation?

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Answer:This chapter illustrates the interplay of hope and
desperation. Betty's hope for freedom drives her to consider
risky options, while her desperation reveals the extremes to
which a mother will go for her child's sake. The tension
between these two forces showcases the emotional turmoil
faced by individuals trapped in oppressive situations.

9.Question
How does cultural assimilation affect Betty's concerns for
Mahtob?
Answer:Betty is concerned that Mahtob's cultural
assimilation could strip away her American identity and lead
to a loss of freedom and individuality. The fear that her
daughter may adopt behaviors and beliefs that are contrary to
her values deepens her resolve to escape, highlighting the
impact of cultural influences on her parenting.

10.Question
In what ways does this chapter foreshadow future actions
Betty may take?
Answer:The chapter foreshadows Betty's increasing

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willingness to take risks in her quest for freedom. Her firm
decision to contact Trish and pursue possible escape routes
suggests that she is willing to act with resolve, indicating that
future actions may involve bolder maneuvers as she becomes
more proactive in seeking a way out of Iran.

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1.Question
What does the relationship between Betty and Moody
reveal about their differing perspectives on
responsibility?
Answer:Betty's relationship with Moody highlights
a fundamental disconnect in their understanding of
parental responsibility and freedom. Betty feels an
emotional pull towards her father's condition,
emphasizing her role as a daughter, which clashes
with Moody’s rigid interpretation of Islamic
tradition that solely places responsibility on the
father for child upbringing. This illustrates the
strain caused by cultural expectations and personal
values within their marriage.

2.Question
How does Betty's experience in the Koran study class
reflect her journey of self-discovery?
Answer:Betty's attendance at the Koran study class
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autonomy. Although she initially resists the notion of
converting to Islam, the classes offer her a chance to connect
with other English-speaking women, nurturing her curiosity
and fueling her desire to escape her oppressive situation. This
reflects her inner struggle to find her identity amid the
constraints imposed by her marriage to Moody.

3.Question
What common elements exist in the stories of Betty and
Ellen, and how do they connect?
Answer:Both Betty and Ellen find themselves trapped in
marriages that challenge their identities and freedoms. They
share similar fears of their husbands' authoritarian control,
yet their responses differ; while Betty actively seeks a way to
escape, Ellen conforms to her circumstances out of necessity
and fear. Their stories intersect in the way societal
expectations and cultural pressures impact personal choices
for women, underlining the theme of resilience in the face of
adversity.

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What is the significance of the bombing scenes in the
narrative?
Answer:The bombing scenes serve as a powerful backdrop,
emphasizing the chaos and fear wrought by war. They
symbolize not only external conflict but also mirror the
internal conflicts within Betty as she navigates her precarious
situation with Moody. The instances of bombing highlight
the fragility of life and security, reinforcing Betty's desire for
safety and normalcy for herself and her daughter amidst the
turmoil around them.

5.Question
How does Betty’s perception of motherhood shift
throughout her experiences?
Answer:Betty’s perception of motherhood evolves
significantly as she grapples with her role in an oppressive
environment. Initially bound by her definition of a devoted
mother, her grief over her father’s condition and her desire to
protect Mahtob push her to reckon with her own needs and
aspirations. As she begins to plot her escape, motherhood

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transforms from a role defined by sacrifice to one marked by
determination and agency in ensuring a better future for her
child.

6.Question
What role do friendships play in Betty’s life during her
time in Iran?
Answer:Friendships, particularly with other expatriate
women like Ellen, prove vital in providing social support and
a sense of normalcy in Betty's isolated life. These
connections offer her emotional sustenance, knowledge
exchange, and companionship, which serves as a
counterbalance to her struggles with Moody’s domineering
nature. They empower her to explore avenues for
independence and reinforce her resolve to seek freedom for
herself and Mahtob.

7.Question
What does the phrase 'Where there is a will, there is a
way' signify in the context of Betty's journey?
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embodies Betty's resilient spirit and determination to
overcome her circumstances. It signifies her growing belief
that despite the oppressive environment, she can find
methods to reclaim her autonomy. This mantra serves as a
source of strength, guiding her actions and decisions as she
navigates her complex reality, ultimately shaping her fight
for freedom and a better life for her daughter.
Chapter 11 | Q&A
1.Question
What does the celebration of No-ruz symbolize for the
people in Iran?
Answer:No-ruz symbolizes the Persian New Year
and the arrival of spring. It represents renewal, joy,
family togetherness, and cultural traditions,
including cleaning homes and giving gifts. Despite
the challenges faced, such as air raid sirens during
the celebrations, the determination of the people to
continue their traditions underscores their
resilience.

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2.Question
How does the incident with the pasdar reflect the
challenges faced in daily life in Iran?
Answer:The confrontation with the pasdar highlights the
oppressive social conditions, particularly for women. The
protagonist's dilemma about appropriate dress signifies the
rigid societal rules that restrict personal freedom and
expression. This event serves as a stark reminder of the
constant surveillance and threat of violence that individuals
must navigate in their daily lives.

3.Question
What does Moody's reaction to the authorities illustrate
about his character and the family dynamic?
Answer:Moody's initial attempt to protect the protagonist
from the pasdar shows a conflicting desire to assert control
while struggling against oppressive societal norms. It
illustrates a complex family dynamic where control,
compliance, and potential rebellion intertwine, revealing both
his authority in the household and the underlying tensions

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that complicate their relationship.

4.Question
In what ways does the protagonist overcome her sense of
isolation during the holiday celebrations?
Answer:The protagonist begins to adjust and observe her
surroundings, even if she feels marginalized. Through
attention to her environment and interactions, she starts to
rebuild a sense of agency. Finding small ways to connect
with others despite her isolation, such as through the
arranged meetings for potential escapes, reflects her
determination and resilience.

5.Question
How does the arrival of Moody’s job change the dynamics
within the household?
Answer:Moody’s job represents a turning point that could
grant the protagonist more freedom and autonomy, as it
requires him to leave the house, thereby reducing his
watchfulness. This shift introduces a complex tension, as the
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recognizing the underlying anxieties of maintaining her
safety and planning possible escape routes.

6.Question
What role does Miss Alavi play in the protagonist’s
journey toward freedom?
Answer:Miss Alavi embodies hope and solidarity, offering a
lifeline to the protagonist and a tangible plan for escape. Her
commitment to helping others, demonstrated by her promise
to her deceased mother, reinforces the theme of kinship and
support in times of oppression, reflecting the strength found
in community and shared purpose.

7.Question
What does the emotional response of Moody at the end
signify about his character development?
Answer:Moody's breakdown over Nelufar’s tragedy reveals
his vulnerabilities and emotional depth, suggesting that
beneath his often dismissive and controlling demeanor lies a
man capable of deep feelings and connections. It also
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the lines between fear, obligation, and empathy in their
complex relationship.
Chapter 12 | Q&A
1.Question
What does the tragedy of Nelufar teach us about the
fragility of life?
Answer:The tragic death of little Nelufar illustrates
the unpredictable nature of life; just like that, a
joyful moment can turn into despair. This reminds
us to cherish every moment with loved ones, as life
can change in the blink of an eye.

2.Question
How did Betty's reaction to Nelufar's accident reflect her
protective instincts as a mother?
Answer:Betty felt a profound pang of concern for Nelufar,
indicating her deep empathy and understanding of a parent's
pain. Her immediate worry about Nelufar's welfare
showcases the protective instincts that every mother feels,
especially in distressing situations.

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3.Question
What role does cultural mourning play in the context of
Nelufar's death?
Answer:Cultural mourning rituals allowed the community to
come together, providing solace to the grieving family.
Betty's participation in these rituals underscores the
importance of solidarity during times of loss and showcases
the strength of cultural practices in coping with grief.

4.Question
How does Betty’s concern about Moody's reaction
illustrate the dynamics of her relationship with him?
Answer:Betty's fear of Moody's possible rage reflects the
controlling and frightening nature of their relationship. Her
instinct to keep her secret and maintain a facade speaks
volumes about her awareness of his volatility and the need
for self-preservation.

5.Question
What sacrifices did Betty consider in light of Nelufar's
death?
Answer:Betty contemplated staying behind to care for the

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other children instead of attending the funeral, showing her
instinct to protect Mahtob from witnessing the sorrow. This
reflects the sacrifices mothers often make for their children's
emotional well-being.

6.Question
How did Betty manage to maintain a sense of normalcy
amidst the chaos of grief and fear?
Answer:Betty turned to household tasks, such as cleaning
and cooking, to ground herself and shield her mind from the
tumult. This reflects a universal coping mechanism where
routine activities provide comfort, helping her maintain a
semblance of control.

7.Question
What does the scene at the hospital signify about the
nature of familial bonds in times of crisis?
Answer:The frantic rush to the hospital and the gathering of
family members underscore the strength and importance of
familial bonds, especially during crises. These moments
highlight the communal nature of grief, where families come

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together to support one another.

8.Question
In what ways does this chapter emphasize the theme of
motherhood?
Answer:Motherhood is a central theme throughout the
chapter, as Betty's thoughts and actions are driven by a desire
to protect Mahtob. Her empathy for other mothers, like
Nastaran, and her instinctive reactions in the face of danger
all underpin the profound connection and responsibility that
come with being a mother.

9.Question
How do external pressures impact Betty's internal
conflict regarding her plans to escape?
Answer:External pressures, like Ellen's insistence on
revealing Betty's plans, create an overwhelming sense of
urgency that heightens her conflict. These pressures force
Betty to reconsider her strategies, weighing the risks of
staying versus leaving for her and her daughter’s safety.

10.Question
What does the shared mourning experience say about

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community in experiencing loss?
Answer:The collective mourning ritual shows that shared
experiences of grief can create a profound sense of
community. It reveals how communal support can provide
comfort, making individuals feel less isolated in their sorrow
and strengthening ties among relatives and friends during
difficult times.

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1.Question
What internal struggles does Betty experience throughout
this chapter regarding her protective instincts for
Mahtob?
Answer:Betty feels an overwhelming fear for
Mahtob’s safety amidst her husband Moody's
violent outbursts. Her internal struggle revolves
around choosing between her own safety and that of
her daughter. She grapples with feelings of
helplessness as she witnesses Moody's rage unfold
and confronts the harsh reality that Islamic law
places her at a disadvantage. Despite being terrified,
she resolves to put herself in harm's way to ensure
that Mahtob is not placed in danger by Moody,
believing that as long as she is with Moody, Mahtob
is safer.

2.Question
How does Betty's perception of Moody’s threats evolve
during the taxi ride?

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Answer:Initially, Betty is terrified by Moody’s promises to
kill her, feeling his rage and the reality of his capacity for
violence. However, during the ride, as she sarcastically
challenges him to describe how he would kill her, she
momentarily shifts from fear to defiance. This moment of
sarcasm is an act of resistance against his control, indicating
how she is trying to reclaim her power, albeit briefly. Yet, her
fear quickly resurfaces, reminding her of the seriousness of
his threats.

3.Question
What role do Ellen and Hormoz play in Betty's situation,
and how does their support impact her decisions?
Answer:Ellen and Hormoz provide crucial support for Betty
during this harrowing time. They represent a lifeline and a
conduit to safety. Their insistence on standing by her side
despite the risks encourages Betty to confront Moody and
seek help, giving her a sense of solidarity she desperately
needs. Hormoz's willingness to protect her and his
reassurances help bolster her resolve as she faces the threat of

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Moody, illustrating that community support can empower
individuals in times of crisis.

4.Question
What does the conflict between Betty and the school
authorities reveal about cultural and legal barriers she
faces?
Answer:The conflict with the school authorities underscores
the cultural and legal obstacles Betty faces as a foreign
woman in a patriarchal society. When Khanum Shaheen
refuses to grant her custody of Mahtob due to Islamic law, it
highlights the systemic hurdles that women face regarding
child custody and safety. The school authorities'
unwillingness to intervene or acknowledge Moody’s threats
portrays how deeply ingrained these societal norms are,
leaving Betty feeling powerless and more isolated.

5.Question
How does the theme of fear versus hope manifest in
Betty's actions throughout this chapter?
Answer:Fear permeates Betty's actions as she navigates her
chaotic environment, constantly worrying about Moody's

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threats and the potential loss of her daughter. Yet,
intermingled with her fear is a flicker of hope—hope that she
can find a way to protect Mahtob, hope that help will arrive,
and hope that she can devise a plan to escape her dire
situation. This duality creates a sense of tension as she
fluctuates between despair and determination, illustrating the
complex emotional landscape faced by anyone in an abusive
relationship.

6.Question
In what ways does Betty show resilience in the face of
extreme adversity?
Answer:Betty demonstrates resilience by actively seeking
solutions despite her fear. She rallies her determination to
make phone calls for help, runs to find Ellen, and plans to
confront Moody. Even amidst chaos, her instinct to protect
Mahtob drives her to action, showcasing her inner strength.
Her ability to remain steadfast in her resolve, even when
faced with cultural dismissal and violent threats, emphasizes
her tenacity and commitment as a mother.

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7.Question
What does Betty’s vow not to leave Mahtob signify in
terms of her identity and values?
Answer:Betty's vow not to leave Mahtob signifies her
unwavering commitment as a mother and emphasizes her
identity as a protector. This decision illustrates her values of
maternal sacrifice and loyalty, highlighting the extent to
which she is willing to endure hardship for her daughter’s
safety and well-being. It underscores her refusal to be
separated from Mahtob, reinforcing her role as a nurturing
figure despite the overwhelming risks.

8.Question
How does Betty’s sarcasm serve as a form of coping
mechanism in this chapter?
Answer:Betty’s use of sarcasm acts as a coping mechanism
to counteract the intense fear and helplessness imposed by
Moody’s threats. By mocking his violent proclamations, she
attempts to regain a sense of agency and control over her
situation, illustrating how humor can sometimes provide a

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brief respite from trauma. This sarcasm is a strategic choice
that allows her to assert some power in an otherwise
powerless situation.

9.Question
Why is the conversation with the embassy significant for
Betty's sense of hope?
Answer:The conversation with the embassy is significant as
it reinforces Betty’s hope for intervention and assistance,
symbolizing the potential for external support in her dire
circumstances. Helen’s reassurance serves to bolster Betty’s
resolve and faith that there is a way out of her predicament. It
highlights the importance of having allies who can help
facilitate change and rescue, igniting in her the belief that her
situation can improve.

10.Question
How does information about cultural differences in child
custody laws shape Betty’s perception of her situation?
Answer:Understanding the cultural differences in child
custody laws shapes Betty's perception by making her

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acutely aware of her vulnerability and the constraints she
faces. Knowing that under Islamic law, her husband holds the
power over their daughter’s custody shifts Betty's actions
into a more desperate, protective stance, illuminating her
sense of urgency to act before she loses Mahtob forever. This
knowledge is both a source of despair and a catalyst for her
resolve to fight back against an unjust system.
Chapter 14 | Q&A
1.Question
What can we learn from Betty's experiences in dealing
with her fears and traumatic situation?
Answer:Betty exemplifies resilience in the face of
overwhelming fear and trauma. Despite the physical
and emotional violence she endures, she instills
strength in her daughter Mahtob by reminding her
of their connection and the presence of God in the
midst of their struggles. Betty's focused
determination to protect Mahtob showcases the
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encouraging us to find strength and hope even when
faced with life-threatening situations.

2.Question
How does Betty's communication with Mahtob reflect
their bond?
Answer:Betty's gentle and encouraging words to Mahtob
reveal a deep bond grounded in mutual support and love.
Their conversations are filled with reassurance, emphasizing
the idea that they are a team against Moody. This connection
is a source of strength for both, as it transforms their fear into
a plan for survival, highlighting the importance of open
communication in nurturing love and support between family
members.

3.Question
What message does Betty convey about the importance of
hope?
Answer:Betty emphasizes that hope is vital, even in dire
situations. Despite being trapped and facing potential loss,
she continuously reassures Mahtob that they will one day

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escape together. This hope acts as a lifeline for both
characters, suggesting that maintaining faith in a better future
can provide the courage necessary to endure present
hardships.

4.Question
What does Betty's relationship with the Iranian women
reveal about cultural differences in perceptions of
domestic issues?
Answer:Betty's interactions with Essey and Reza highlight
the complexities of cultural norms regarding family and
domestic violence. The Iranian women, while empathetic to
her plight, feel constrained by cultural expectations that
prioritize the family unit. This illustrates the challenges that
women in oppressive situations face, as they often have to
navigate between personal safety and societal norms,
reflecting a broader commentary on the influence of culture
in shaping responses to domestic issues.

5.Question
How does action play a role in Betty's fight for her and
Mahtob’s safety?

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Answer:Betty’s determination to act in her desperate
situation underscores that response to crisis is crucial. She
meticulously observes her environment, searching for escape
routes and finding tools to defend herself. This proactive
approach demonstrates her refusal to succumb to despair,
reinforcing the idea that taking action, no matter how small,
is vital in fighting against oppression and for personal
freedom.

6.Question
What does Betty teach us about maternal instinct?
Answer:Betty embodies the fierce protective nature of a
mother. Her willingness to confront Moody, despite the
physical threats, highlights the primal instinct of a mother to
protect her child at all costs. This immense love drives her to
advise Mahtob to keep secrets for their safety, showing how
a mother's love can motivate self-sacrifice and resilience,
offering a powerful reminder of the lengths a parent will go
to safeguard their child.

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How does Betty's narrative on her physical confrontation
with Moody impact our understanding of abuse victims?
Answer:Betty’s visceral account of her physical struggle with
Moody elucidates the terrifying reality of domestic violence.
It reveals the emotional and psychological complexities of
abuse victims who often face overwhelming fear yet summon
great strength to fight back. This harsh reality challenges
societal perceptions of victims, prompting empathy and
understanding for the difficult circumstances they endure.
Chapter 15 | Q&A
1.Question
What emotions does Betty experience after Moody
leaves?
Answer:Betty feels intense sorrow and pain, as she
weeps aloud for her daughter Mahtob. She reflects
on her emotional state, comparing her feelings to
being physically bruised, and struggles with
thoughts of loss and despair.

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How does the sound of Mahtob’s swing affect Betty?
Answer:Hearing the swing reminds Betty of her daughter and
intensifies her feelings of longing and helplessness in the
face of separation.

3.Question
What internal conflict does Betty face regarding her
marriage to Moody?
Answer:Betty grapples with feelings of betrayal and
confusion about how Moody, the man she married,
transformed into someone capable of mistreating her and
their daughter. She questions how she missed the signs of his
changing character.

4.Question
What factors contributed to the success of Moody's early
career?
Answer:Moody's specialty in Anesthesiology allowed him a
high income with less physical stress. His role in an affluent
community and supportive relationships enhanced his
professional status.

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5.Question
What cultural differences exist in Betty and Moody's
relationship?
Answer:Cultural conflicts arise from Moody's possessiveness
and traditional Iranian views on gender roles, specifically
regarding shared financial responsibilities and parenting
styles.

6.Question
How does Betty’s perspective on Moody change after she
gives birth to Mahtob?
Answer:Initially filled with joy after the birth of their
daughter, Betty's happiness soon turns to disappointment as
she perceives Moody's displeasure over having a daughter
rather than a son. This moment marks a shift in her feelings
towards him.

7.Question
What realization does Betty come to about her own
agency in the marriage?
Answer:Betty reflects on her submissions to Moody’s
wishes, particularly in naming their child and managing

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household dynamics, signaling a gradual recognition of her
lack of autonomy in the marriage.

8.Question
How does the arrival of the revolution impact Betty and
Moody's life?
Answer:The Iranian revolution leads to increased tension in
their marriage as Moody becomes more politically involved,
distancing himself emotionally from Betty and creating
conflict over their differing loyalties.

9.Question
What does the hostage crisis symbolize in their
relationship?
Answer:The hostage crisis symbolizes how external political
conflicts permeate their personal lives, exacerbating tensions
and jeopardizing their safety as an Iranian-American family
during a time of heightened nationalism.

10.Question
What overall themes can be drawn from this chapter
regarding love, loss, and identity?
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complexities, the struggle for personal identity against
cultural expectations, and the deep impact of patriarchy on
familial relationships, culminating in feelings of despair over
lost connections.

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1.Question
What key decision did Betty make to connect with God
during her confinement?
Answer:In her confinement, Betty decided to pray
sincerely, asking God for help to reunite her with
her daughter, Mahtob. Even though she struggled
with feelings of guilt for not practicing her faith
earlier, she focused on her desperate need for divine
assistance.

2.Question
How did Betty show her love for Mahtob despite being
imprisoned?
Answer:Betty expressed her love for Mahtob by cooking her
favorite dishes and making dolls' clothes to send through
Moody when he returned home. This helped maintain a
connection between the mother and daughter despite their
separation.

3.Question
What strategy did Betty develop to communicate with

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Mahtob quietly?
Answer:Betty devised a plan to cook and prepare little gifts
to send with Moody, such as bulgar pilaf and doll boots. This
was her way of reaching out to Mahtob and letting her know
that she was loved and still thinking of her.

4.Question
What internal conflict did Betty experience regarding her
faith?
Answer:Betty felt guilty about turning to God only in times
of crisis. However, her desperation led her to genuinely pray
and even learn Islamic prayers in hopes of finding favor with
Moody to gain access to her daughter.

5.Question
How did Betty handle her feelings of fear and despair
throughout her captivity?
Answer:Betty coped with fear and despair by praying,
reading Moody's books, and trying to stay mentally active
through tasks like unlocking Moody's briefcase and planning
strategies for communication with Mahtob.

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6.Question
What was the significance of Betty's decision to make a
nasr?
Answer:By making a nasr, Betty committed to fulfill a
promise to God if she and Mahtob were reunited. This act of
faith represented her hope and desperation, showing her
willingness to do anything to protect her daughter.

7.Question
How did Betty's mental state evolve during her
confinement?
Answer:At first, Betty was overwhelmed by despair, feeling
trapped and hopeless. Over time, she began to engage in
prayer and strategizing for communication, showing
resilience and determination to reunite with her daughter.

8.Question
What does Betty's longing for connection, such as gazing
at the moon, represent?
Answer:Betty's longing to connect with her family through
the moon symbolizes her hope and the enduring bond she
shares with her loved ones despite being physically separated

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from them.

9.Question
How did Betty react when she heard about Mahtob being
sick?
Answer:When Betty learned that Mahtob was sick, she was
filled with terror and desperation, prompting her to
contemplate escaping her confinement to see her daughter,
illustrating her intense maternal instinct and love.

10.Question
What emotional toll did Betty’s captivity take on her?
Answer:Betty's captivity took a severe emotional toll,
resulting in deep sadness, anxiety, and a sense of isolation.
She experienced moments of despair and hopelessness but
also moments of resilience and determination to find her
daughter.

11.Question
How did Betty's interactions with women in her
neighborhood influence her situation?
Answer:Betty's brief encounters with women, such as the
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also offered fleeting hope as they represented potential allies.
These moments reinforced her yearning for connection and
support.
Chapter 17 | Q&A
1.Question
What shows the depth of the mother's love for her
daughter in this chapter?
Answer:The mother expresses profound gratitude
and care when Mahtob is brought home, despite her
painful situation with Moody. She feels ecstatic yet
frightened, recognizing Mahtob's suffering from her
illness and taking immediate action to care for her
by bathing her forehead and comforting her through
the night.

2.Question
How does Moody's behavior change throughout this
chapter?
Answer:Moody's personality becomes more subdued and less
challenging. He appears concerned about family cohesion

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and starts bringing Mahtob home almost every evening,
allowing her to spend more time with her mother, suggesting
a subtle shift towards better familial relationships.

3.Question
What internal conflict does the mother face regarding her
hopes for freedom?
Answer:The mother grapples with her desperate desire to
escape Iran and return to America while managing the
realities of living in a confined and oppressive environment
under Moody's control. She learns to keep her hopes for
freedom secret from Mahtob to avoid raising her
expectations and putting them both at risk.

4.Question
Why does the mother decide to keep secrets from
Mahtob?
Answer:The mother determines it is safest not to share
information about their possible escape or returning to
America. She believes this will protect Mahtob, who has
faced emotional distress and might inadvertently expose

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them to danger if she reveals any plans.

5.Question
What turning point in the family's living situation occurs
in this chapter?
Answer:A significant turning point is when Moody
acknowledges that he must find a place for them to live
outside of Mammal's apartment. This marks a shift in their
circumstances, indicating a potential move away from the
constraints of Moody's family's home.

6.Question
How does the mother describe the pilgrimage experience
at the masjed?
Answer:The mother feels a deep emotional connection
during the pilgrimage, underscoring her desperation and hope
for miracles. Despite the chaotic and unfamiliar environment,
she is moved to pray fervently for freedom and expresses a
growing belief in the power of prayer, feeling a sense of
peace.

7.Question
What moments highlight the theme of female solidarity

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and support among the characters?
Answer:Ameh Bozorg's surprising support offers a glimpse
of female solidarity. She urges the mother to call her family
despite the risks, showing a willingness to help her escape
her oppressive situation, which contrasts with Moody’s
controlling nature.

8.Question
How do the mother's reflections on Moody's actions
reveal his fractured psyche?
Answer:The mother observes that Moody's external
frustrations often stem from an internal turmoil that prevents
him from finding peace. His volatile relationships with
family and erratic behaviors underscore a deeply conflicted
individual struggling for identity and acceptance.

9.Question
What does the mother's relationship with her daughter
Mahtob reveal about their circumstances?
Answer:Despite dire circumstances, their bond remains
strong, highlighted during moments of shared vulnerability

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and care. This relationship serves as a beacon of hope and a
lifeline for the mother, motivating her to persist amid
adversity.

10.Question
How does the mother take proactive steps to ensure her
and Mahtob's safety?
Answer:The mother discreetly collects contraception and
plans to develop strategies that would enable their escape,
showcasing her determination to regain control over their
lives while navigating Moody’s volatile behavior.
Chapter 18 | Q&A
1.Question
What does the search for a suitable apartment signify in
the context of Betty's journey in Iran?
Answer:The search for an apartment serves as a
metaphor for Betty's pursuit of stability and
freedom in a tumultuous environment. Each viewing
represents a step toward finding a safe haven where
she can reclaim her agency, away from Moody's

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control, reflecting her inner desire for a life that
offers comfort and independence.

2.Question
How does the interaction with Chamsey and Zaree
influence Betty's perspective on her life in Iran?
Answer:Chamsey and Zaree's friendship provides Betty with
a sense of hope and connection to familiarity, highlighting
the contrasting lives of women who navigate expectations
while also seeking freedom. Their encouragement for Betty
to consider returning to America begins to embolden her to
think about her own desires and the possibility of escape.

3.Question
What emotions does Betty experience during her
interactions with her family back in America, and how do
they affect her?
Answer:Betty feels overwhelming longing and sadness when
she communicates with her family, especially knowing they
are unaware of her struggles. This connection deepens her
resolve to seek freedom for herself and Mahtob, as the
conversations remind her of the life she left behind and the

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love that still exists despite the distance.

4.Question
What significance does the incident with the bus driver
have in Betty's understanding of her environment?
Answer:The disturbing encounter with the bus driver
underscores the danger and unpredictability of her
surroundings, reinforcing her awareness of the societal issues
women face in Iran. This moment solidifies her
understanding that she must navigate her daily life with an
acute sense of caution, heightening her desire to escape.

5.Question
Reflecting on the birthday party for Mahtob, how does
the atmosphere illustrate the changes in Betty's and
Moody's relationship?
Answer:The birthday party showcases a turning point in their
relationship as Moody's willingness to invite friends and
abandon family dynamics hints at his slow transformation
and growing acceptance of a new social circle. However,
Betty's underlying awareness of Moody's controlling nature
serves as a reminder of the fragile balance between comfort

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and safety.

6.Question
How does Betty's evolving relationship with her
surroundings and friendships shape her perception of
freedom?
Answer:As Betty builds relationships with supportive
individuals like Chamsey, she begins to redefine her
understanding of freedom—not just as physical escape but as
emotional support, shared experiences, and moments of joy,
which suggest that freedom can also be about building a life
filled with hope amidst adversity.

7.Question
What internal conflicts does Betty face regarding her
desire to return to America?
Answer:Betty grapples with the fear of Moody's potential
reactions and the practical realities of escaping versus the
longing to reunite with her family. This internal struggle
illustrates the tension between hope and despair, as she
recognizes the urgency of her situation while feeling
immobilized by circumstances beyond her control.

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8.Question
What does the conclusion of the chapter suggest about the
ongoing journey Betty faces?
Answer:The chapter concludes with a sense of unresolved
tension as Betty is determined yet stymied in her pursuit of
escape. This highlights the ongoing nature of her struggle
against the restrictions imposed by Moody and the societal
constraints of Iran, suggesting that her journey toward
freedom is fraught with challenges that require both courage
and strategy.

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Chapter 19 | Q&A
1.Question
Why did Betty decide to go to the office despite the risks
involved?
Answer:Betty felt a growing sense of determination
and boldness in her quest for freedom. She decided
it was essential to take the risk to seek help and
possibly find a way out of Iran for both herself and
her daughter, Mahtob.

2.Question
What qualities did Amahl display during his conversation
with Betty?
Answer:Amahl displayed qualities of compassion,
understanding, and a sense of urgency. He quickly
acknowledged Betty's difficult situation and expressed his
willingness to help, while maintaining a professional
demeanor.

3.Question
How did Betty’s interaction with Amahl contrast with her
previous experiences?

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Answer:Unlike previous encounters where Betty faced deceit
or betrayal, Amahl seemed genuine and trustworthy. He
openly acknowledged the challenges ahead but offered a
plan, instilling a sense of hope that her previous experiences
lacked.

4.Question
What was the significance of Betty insisting that she
would not leave without her daughter?
Answer:Betty’s insistence highlighted a theme of maternal
love and determination. It emphasized that her priority was
not just her own freedom, but ensuring her daughter's safety
and freedom as well, embodying strength and unwavering
commitment.

5.Question
How did the setting contribute to the atmosphere of the
meeting between Betty and Amahl?
Answer:The office was described as bustling and efficient,
contrasting with the oppressive atmosphere outside. This
setting provided a semblance of normalcy and hope,

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suggesting a safe space where plans could be devised away
from the scrutiny of Betty's husband and the government.

6.Question
What tactical advice did Amahl give Betty regarding
communication?
Answer:Amahl advised Betty to communicate in code when
calling him, using simple phrases that wouldn't raise
suspicion. This clever approach demonstrated his
understanding of the risks and the need for discretion in their
situation.

7.Question
What emotional transformation did Betty undergo during
her visit to Amahl's office?
Answer:Betty transitioned from a state of fear and
uncertainty to one of cautious optimism. While she remained
aware of the potential pitfalls, the meeting with Amahl
reignited her hope for escape and freedom.

8.Question
What did Betty learn from her interaction with Amahl
about trust and hope?

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Answer:Betty learned that trust needs to be carefully
evaluated, especially in dire circumstances. Although Amahl
offered hope and seemed trustworthy, she was reminded that
her journey would be fraught with uncertainties, requiring
both patience and discernment.

9.Question
In what ways does Betty's experience reflect broader
themes of resilience and courage?
Answer:Betty's relentless pursuit of her and her daughter's
freedom reflects profound resilience and courage in the face
of overwhelming challenges. Her determination to seek help
and her refusal to abandon her child showcase the strength
many individuals exhibit when faced with oppression.

10.Question
How did Betty's reflections about the future shape her
decisions moving forward?
Answer:Betty's reflections on Amahl's words and the
uncertainty of their plan intensified her resolve to be
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while hope had been rejuvenated, pragmatism was still
necessary in navigating the complexities of her situation.
Chapter 20 | Q&A
1.Question
What does Betty's behavior towards Mahtob's entry into
school signify about her hopes for the future?
Answer:Betty's pretense of support for Mahtob
entering school, despite her own fears, signifies her
hope that by acclimating to their new life in Iran,
Mahtob might find a sense of normalcy and
happiness, which could ultimately lead to their
eventual escape and return home.

2.Question
How does the principal's attitude towards Moody change
after learning he is a doctor?
Answer:The principal's immediate dismissal of Mahtob's
enrollment opportunity changes to a warm invitation once
Moody reveals his profession as a doctor, reflecting how
status and privilege can open doors in society, even in

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oppressive environments.

3.Question
What does Betty's reaction to the school's lack of proper
facilities reveal about her character?
Answer:Betty’s indignation at the school's inadequate
facilities shows her strong sense of justice and her
unwillingness to accept a lower standard of care for her
daughter, indicating her deep maternal instinct to protect and
provide for Mahtob.

4.Question
What role does Betty believe maintaining the appearance
of a happy family plays in her situation?
Answer:Betty believes portraying a happy family life is
crucial for deflecting Moody's suspicions and for keeping
Mahtob's spirits up, as well as her own sanity, while they plot
their eventual escape from Iran.

5.Question
How does Betty's relationship with Alice represent a
small beacon of hope in her life?
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connection to a happier, more normal life, offering solace
and understanding amidst the turmoil; it provides Betty a
glimpse of Western values and a reminder that freedom and
happiness are still achievable.

6.Question
What significance does the Thanksgiving dinner
preparation hold for Betty and Mahtob?
Answer:Preparing for Thanksgiving serves as a hopeful
affirmation for Betty and Mahtob, reminding them of home
and their desire to reunite with family, as well as a clever
disguise for their impending escape plan, emphasizing the
blending of resilience and joy amidst captivity.

7.Question
How do Betty's escape plans evolve throughout this
chapter?
Answer:Initially, Betty's escape plans are vague and
uncertain; however, as she builds relationships and gains
intelligence from Amahl and others, a solid plan for their
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her and Mahtob's return to America.

8.Question
What does Betty’s encounter with Fereshteh reveal about
the situation for women in Iran at the time?
Answer:Betty's conversation with Fereshteh reveals the
oppressive and dangerous climate for women in Iran, where
arbitrary arrests and brutalizations are commonplace,
reflecting a broader pattern of fear and repression under the
regime.

9.Question
How does the recurring theme of concealment affect
Betty's daily life in Iran?
Answer:The theme of concealment permeates Betty's life as
she navigates her dual existence—one as a dutiful wife and
mother, and the other plotting her escape. It creates a
constant tension that requires her to be observant and covert,
fueling her sense of urgency and desperation to protect her
and Mahtob's future.

10.Question
What does Betty’s struggle with her emotions signify

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about a woman’s resilience in dire circumstances?
Answer:Betty's struggle with her emotions highlights the
resilience of a mother; despite her fears and heartache, she
continually forges ahead, driven by her love for Mahtob and
the hope of freedom, showcasing the strength women possess
in the face of adversity.
Chapter 21 | Q&A
1.Question
What is the significance of Amahl's actions in ensuring
Betty's escape?
Answer:Amahl's actions symbolize hope and trust in
dark times. His determination to set up various exit
strategies represents the lengths one might go to
rescue loved ones from danger. He embodies
reliability, offering Betty a glimpse of faith amid
uncertainty.

2.Question
How does Betty cope with her feelings of despair during
Thanksgiving in Iran?

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Answer:Betty copes by immersing herself in the preparations
for Thanksgiving dinner, attempting to create a semblance of
normalcy amidst her turmoil. This reflects a powerful form
of resilience; through focusing on tasks and surrounding
herself with friends, she seeks to cultivate gratitude and
connection despite her profound sadness.

3.Question
What does Mahtob's desire to communicate with Santa
Claus reveal about her character and situation?
Answer:Mahtob's wish to talk to Santa Claus reveals her
innocence and underlying desire for connection to her family
back home. It illustrates a child's hope amidst confusion and
hardship, highlighting the emotional toll of their situation.
Her request to reassure her grandparents indicates a deep
empathy and longing for familial bonds, underscoring the
impact of their separation.

4.Question
What role does Christmas play in Betty's life during her
captivity?

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Answer:Christmas amplifies Betty's feelings of loss and
isolation. The holiday, typically filled with joy and family,
juxtaposes sharply against her reality in Iran. Despite trying
to make the best of the situation for Mahtob's sake, the
celebration serves as a painful reminder of what she is
missing—a sense of belonging and the warmth of home.

5.Question
How does Betty's perception of Moody change
throughout the chapter?
Answer:Initially, Moody's behavior appears supportive, but
as the narrative progresses, Betty's perception turns to one of
frustration and fear as he reverts to unpredictable behaviors.
His refusal to acknowledge significant events in their lives,
coupled with his authoritarian demeanor, casts him in a
negative light, altering her view from that of a partner to
someone who complicates her journey.

6.Question
What does the encounter with the lady pasdar reveal
about the complexities of Betty's life in Iran?

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Answer:The encounter with the lady pasdar illustrates the
nuanced interactions between Betty and her captors. It
showcases moments of empathy that can exist within
oppressive systems, highlighting the uncertainty of her
situation. This complexity reflects the multifaceted struggles
she faces, including navigating cultural norms while yearning
for her own identity.

7.Question
What theme does the call about Betty's father introduce
at the end of the chapter?
Answer:The call about Betty's father introduces the theme of
urgency and the fragility of life. It starkly contrasts her
difficulties in Iran with the reality of her father's declining
health, generating tension and highlighting the desperation
for family connection. This moment crystallizes her
emotional turmoil, embodying her fight to reunite with her
loved ones before it's too late.

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Chapter 22 | Q&A
1.Question
What emotional turmoil does Betty experience upon
hearing about her father's condition and Moody's sudden
decision?
Answer:Betty feels a whirlwind of conflicting
emotions: overwhelming happiness at the thought of
returning to America and seeing her father, mixed
with suspicion and anxiety about Moody's
motivations and what he might have planned. She
grapples with the fear that her newfound hope
might lead to a trap. This turmoil is accentuated by
her profound sorrow for her father's likely demise
and the implications it has on her relationship with
Mahtob and their future.

2.Question
How does Betty cope with the uncertainty of her
situation?
Answer:Betty seeks solace from her friends, Chamsey and
Zaree, who come to support her. She also tries to rationalize

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her feelings about her father's impending death while
considering the possibility of leaving Mahtob behind if
Moody doesn't allow them to go to America together. In her
solitude, she weeps over the impending loss of her father and
the potential loss of her daughter, showcasing her emotional
struggle.

3.Question
What realizations does Betty come to about Moody's
intentions?
Answer:Through conversations with Zaree and her own
reflections, Betty comes to realize that Moody's sudden
change of heart regarding her trip to America is not
motivated by concern for her or her father but rather by a
desire to manipulate her for his own gain, specifically to sell
their possessions and send money back to him, with the
underlying threat of keeping Mahtob as leverage.

4.Question
What decisions does Betty have to make regarding her
and Mahtob's future?

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Answer:Betty faces the harrowing decision of whether to
comply with Moody's demands and travel to America alone
for the sake of her father's funeral or to risk everything for
the possibility of escaping with Mahtob. She ultimately
resolves that she cannot leave without her daughter, and she
begins to formulate a plan to ensure their togetherness and
safety.

5.Question
Describe the significance of the phrase 'Where there's a
will, there's a way' in the context of the chapter.
Answer:This phrase encapsulates the hope and determination
that drives Betty in her perilous situation. Despite the
overwhelming odds and the threats posed by Moody, she
clings to the belief that if she and Mahtob are resolute in their
desire for freedom, they will find a means to escape the
confines of their oppressive circumstances. It underscores the
theme of resilience in the face of adversity, serving as a
guiding principle for her actions.

6.Question

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How does Betty's relationship with Mahtob influence her
decisions?
Answer:Betty's fierce love for Mahtob shapes her every
decision. The thought of leaving Mahtob behind is
unbearable for her, and it strengthens her resolve to devise a
plan for their escape. Her promise to Mahtob that she would
'never leave' her underscores the depth of their bond and the
motivation behind Betty's struggle to reclaim their freedom.
The relationship amplifies her internal conflicts as she
navigates the dangers posed by Moody.

7.Question
In what ways does Betty illustrate the theme of maternal
love throughout this chapter?
Answer:Betty's actions are driven by her deep maternal love,
from her protective instincts towards Mahtob to her anguish
over her father's illness. She expresses a willingness to
sacrifice her own desires and safety to ensure Mahtob's
well-being and happiness. Her fierce determination to not
allow Moody to separate them showcases the lengths a

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mother will go to for her child, embodying the strength of
maternal love against adversity.

8.Question
What role do Betty's friends and family play in
supporting her during this chapter?
Answer:Betty's friends, like Chamsey and Zaree, provide
emotional support and reassurance during her time of crisis.
They offer comfort and solidarity as she navigates the
traumatic experience of her father’s health crisis and dealing
with Moody. Additionally, her sister Carolyn's updates about
their father connect Betty to her family, giving her reasons to
hold on to hope despite the overwhelming challenges.

9.Question
How do Betty's feelings about her father’s condition
reflect on her character development?
Answer:Betty's deep sorrow for her father's impending death
reveals her vulnerability and depth of emotion, highlighting
her humanity amid the harshness of her life in Iran. Her
reflections on her father's struggle resonate with her evolving

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identity as a daughter, bringing forth her feelings of guilt and
helplessness. This chapter demonstrates her growth as she
becomes more determined to break free from her current life
in order to cherish and honor her familial bonds.
Chapter 23 | Q&A
1.Question
What are the key factors that led to Moody's depression
and how did it affect his relationship with Betty?
Answer:Moody's depression was primarily triggered
by the loss of a patient, which led to his suspension
from the hospital and a subsequent sense of failure.
This compounded with his father's cancer diagnosis
created overwhelming stress for both him and Betty.
Moody's withdrawal into depression resulted in him
becoming unresponsive and brooding, causing a
strain in their marriage as Betty felt isolated and
burdened with family responsibilities.

2.Question
How did Betty's role change throughout the chapter as
Moody descended into depression?

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Answer:Initially, Betty was a supportive wife, helping
Moody cope with his father's illness and career issues.
However, as Moody fell deeper into his depression, Betty
took on more responsibilities, both in caring for the children
and contributing financially by working part-time. This shift
frustrated her as she grappled with feeling like the stronger
individual in the relationship, all while Moody seemed to
retreat further into his struggles.

3.Question
What decision did Betty make regarding their living
situation and how did it reflect her growing
assertiveness?
Answer:Betty decided to sell their house despite Moody's
objection, seeing it as necessary for their financial survival.
This choice marked a significant turn in her character,
showcasing her willingness to take control of their
circumstances and push Moody to seek employment, as she
was no longer willing to endure the stagnant state of their
lives.

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4.Question
What were the implications of Betty's ultimatum for
Moody and how did it impact his behavior?
Answer:Betty's ultimatum for Moody to find a job brought
about a drastic change in their dynamic; it forced him out of
his lethargy. Upon taking the steps to seek employment,
Moody regained some of his self-esteem and agency,
signaling a potential turning point for both of them, yet
simultaneously revealing the fragility of their relationship.

5.Question
Reflecting on their circumstances, what does Betty
identify as her motivations and concerns about moving to
Iran?
Answer:Betty’s decision to go to Iran was rooted in her fear
that staying would lead to severe repercussions for both her
and her daughter, Mahtob. She felt trapped between the need
to maintain her family and the risks associated with Moody's
changing behavior and potential to keep them in Iran against
their will.

6.Question

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What is the significance of the phone call from Moody's
nephew, and how does it foreshadow future tensions in
the story?
Answer:The phone call from Moody's nephew symbolizes a
deepening connection to Moody's Iranian identity and
foreshadows the return of his cultural influences,
highlighting the conflicts that arise as Betty feels
increasingly uncomfortable with the shifts in their family
dynamics and Moody's reversion to his Iranian self.

7.Question
As Betty faced uncertainty, how did she display resilience
and assert her independence?
Answer:Despite overwhelming fear and insecurity, Betty
sought professional advice discreetly and made preparations
to ensure her and Mahtob's safety. She exhibited resilience
by standing firm in her beliefs regarding their life choices,
her demands for Moody's responsibility, and her navigation
of familial pressures.

8.Question
What does the chapter reveal about the struggle for

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power and control within Betty and Moody's marriage?
Answer:The chapter underscores a significant power
struggle, with Betty progressively asserting herself in
response to Moody's paralysis by depression. Moody's initial
authority as the provider eroded as he retreated into despair,
leading Betty to take control of their finances and household
decisions—reflecting how roles can shift drastically under
stress.

9.Question
What overarching themes can be drawn from Betty's
experience in this chapter, particularly in relation to
cultural identity and marriage?
Answer:This chapter encapsulates themes of cultural identity
conflict, personal agency, marital struggle, and the impact of
mental health on family dynamics. Betty's experience
emphasizes the complexities of navigating a relationship
where cultural expectations clash with personal desires and
autonomy.
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1.Question
What feelings did the author express at the beginning of
the chapter?
Answer:The author felt cold and somber, reflecting
a red, puffy face from a night of tears, indicating
deep emotional distress.

2.Question
How did the conversation between the author and Moody
illustrate the tension in their relationship?
Answer:Their conversation escalated into a heated argument,
where they screamed hatred at each other, highlighting the
conflict over the author's desire to stay with her daughter and
the pressure to go to America.

3.Question
What was the significance of Chamsey's intervention
during the argument between the author and Moody?
Answer:Chamsey, recognizing the emotional turmoil,
suggested that the author take a break and that a woman in
her state should not have to handle business matters, showing
a communal support for the author's emotional wellbeing.

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4.Question
What fears did the author have regarding her potential
departure to America?
Answer:The author feared being forcibly taken away from
her daughter, Mahtob, and the possibility of not being able to
fulfill her promise to Mahtob that she would not leave her
behind.

5.Question
Describe the moment the author realized she had an
opportunity to escape with Mahtob. How did she feel
about this situation?
Answer:When Moody was called to an emergency, the
author experienced a rush of determination and urgency. She
felt a mix of fear and hope, realizing this was her chance to
escape but also the risks involved in acting quickly.

6.Question
What was Mahtob's reaction when the author told her
they were going to America? Why was this significant?
Answer:Mahtob began to cry, expressing concern about
leaving her bunny behind, which highlighted her innocence

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and attachment yet also revealed her resilience when she
ultimately decided she wanted to go with her mother.

7.Question
How does the author describe Mahtob’s spirit throughout
the chapter? What does it indicate about her character?
Answer:The author describes Mahtob's spirit as bent but not
broken, showcasing her determination and intelligence,
confirming that she is not submissive but rather has the
courage akin to her mother's.

8.Question
What was the emotional impact of the chapter on readers,
based on the interactions and the climax?
Answer:The chapter likely instills a sense of empathy and
tension, conveying the struggles of a mother fighting against
oppressive circumstances and the bond between a mother and
daughter seeking freedom together.

9.Question
How did the author prepare for their escape despite the
risks involved?
Answer:The author carefully planned the escape by taking

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different taxis to avoid being followed, demonstrating her
resourcefulness and determination to protect her and
Mahtob's safety.

10.Question
What underlying message can be drawn from the
mother's commitment to her daughter in this chapter?
Answer:The underlying message is the powerful bond of
love and the lengths a mother will go to protect her child,
embodying themes of resilience, hope, and the fight for
freedom.

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Chapter 25 | Q&A
1.Question
What does the story suggest about fear and hope in
difficult situations?
Answer:The story illustrates that fear can be
contagious and overwhelming, as seen when Mahtob
and Betty share moments of dread throughout their
escape. However, amidst fear, there is also a glimmer
of hope and excitement for a better future, as both
find motivation in their determination to reach
safety and freedom in America. This duality of
emotions highlights the human capacity to find
strength in vulnerability.

2.Question
How does the character of Amahl contribute to the theme
of friendship and support?
Answer:Amahl acts as a crucial ally for Betty and Mahtob,
demonstrating the importance of compassion and support in
dire circumstances. His willingness to risk his safety to help

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them escape and his provision of food and resources
exemplify the bonds of friendship that can emerge even in
dangerous environments.

3.Question
What can we learn about the importance of
resourcefulness from Betty's character?
Answer:Betty consistently displays resourcefulness
throughout the chapter, whether it’s negotiating with Moody,
finding ways to communicate secretly, or devising a plan to
delay him through strategic conversation. Her ability to adapt
and think critically amidst the chaos offers a lesson in the
necessity of quick thinking and adaptability when facing
high-stakes challenges.

4.Question
How does the portrayal of Mahtob provide insight into
the spirit of children in the face of adversity?
Answer:Mahtob's character is marked by resilience and
bravery. Her determination to support her mother and her
hopefulness about reaching America reflect the innate

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strength children can possess, even in troubling times.
Despite the fear and uncertainty surrounding them, Mahtob
manages to find moments of joy and optimism, illustrating
the power of a child's spirit.

5.Question
What is the significance of Betty's evolution throughout
the chapter?
Answer:Betty evolves from a state of fear and uncertainty
into a proactive mother fully committed to protecting her
daughter. Her journey involves confronting her fears, making
difficult choices, and ultimately finding her voice against
oppression. This transformation underscores a powerful
message about empowerment and the will to fight for one's
freedom and loved ones.

6.Question
What does the end of the chapter convey about the idea of
home and safety?
Answer:The conclusion of the chapter, where Betty and
Mahtob reach the U.S. Embassy in Ankara, symbolizes not

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only a physical haven but also the emotional relief that
comes with safety and security. Their arrival evokes deep
gratitude and a sense of belonging, reinforcing the notion that
home is not just a location but a state of feeling secure and
free.

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Not Without My Daughter Quiz and Test
Check the Correct Answer on Bookey Website

Chapter 1 | Quiz and Test

1.Betty Mahmoody felt a sense of panic and doubts
about the trip to Iran.
2.Upon arrival, Betty Mahmoody was comforted and felt at
ease with the Iranian customs and culture.
3.Moody's status as an Iranian doctor made him a prominent
figure in Iran, which gave Betty some reassurance about
their safety during the trip.
Chapter 2 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty and her family experience a comfortable
living situation in Iran, free from chaos and
discomfort.
2.The cultural differences between Betty and Moody’s family
lead to Betty feeling isolated and frustrated during their
stay in Iran.
3.Moody has been supportive and optimistic about returning
to America throughout the chapter, leading to a hopeful

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 atmosphere for Betty.
Chapter 3 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty feels guilty for bringing her daughter
Mahtob to Iran.
2.Moody was very supportive during the night of turmoil and
comforted Betty and Mahtob.
3.Betty was able to create a stable and happy life for her sons
before moving to Iran.

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Chapter 4 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty discovers nearly $200,000 rials and $100 in
cash, which she hopes to use for escape.
2.Moody supports Betty's attempts to contact her family and
assert her rights in Iran.
3.After contacting the U.S. Interest Section of the Swiss
Embassy, Betty and Mahtob are immediately protected and
able to leave Iran.
Chapter 5 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty experiences panic due to low-flying jets and
anti-aircraft fire because she believes war has
reached Tehran.
2.Moody takes Mahtob to an anti-American demonstration
because he feels a strong allegiance to American forces.
3.Betty successfully convinces Moody to move out of Ameh
Bozorg's house without any opposition.
Chapter 6 | Quiz and Test
1.Moody's relationship with Betty is characterized
by affection and love.

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2.Betty finds joy in her daughter's interactions with local
children despite the chaos surrounding them.
3.The tensions in Betty's household stem from her successful
adaptation to Iranian culture and improved living
conditions.

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Chapter 7 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty Mahmoody feels physically weak and
emotionally drained after a severe beating from
her husband, Moody.
2.Betty believes that her and Mahtob's safety is independent
of Moody's emotional state.
3.Mahtob is excited about the prospect of attending a
government-run school supported by her father, Moody.
Chapter 8 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty Mahmoody meets an American woman
named Judy at the park during her stay in Iran.
2.Judy offers to help Betty draft a letter to Rasheed in order
to facilitate her escape.
3.The mysterious American woman who visits Moody is
genuinely in need of medical assistance.
Chapter 9 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty Mahmoody decides to ignore the advice of
Helen at the embassy and contacts two American
women for help.

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2.Betty ultimately chooses to leave with the two American
women offering to help her escape from Iran.
3.Betty Mahmoody receives renewed American passports at
the embassy, which allows her to escape Iran easily.

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Chapter 10 | Quiz and Test
1.Moody developed a close friendship with Aga
Hakim, who assisted him in finding employment.
2.Betty's role in her marriage was emphasized in the
translations of 'Father and Child', where she was considered
the primary caregiver according to Islamic principles.
3.During Koran study classes, Betty met Ellen Rafaie,
another American woman who, like her, faced challenges
within her marriage to an Iranian man.
Chapter 11 | Quiz and Test
1.No-ruz is celebrated in Iran as the Persian New
Year, involving various rituals such as cleaning
homes and festive gatherings.
2.Betty feels completely comfortable and welcomed at
family gatherings during No-ruz celebrations.
3.Towards the end of the week, Moody securing a job at the
hospital provides Betty with more freedom and potential
escape opportunities.
Chapter 12 | Quiz and Test

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1.Nelufar is characterized as a cruel and neglectful
child who often disturbs others.
2.Moody learns that Nelufar has been fatally injured after
falling from a balcony during the funeral preparations.
3.Ellen believes it is her Islamic duty to inform Moody about
the narrator's escape intentions.

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Chapter 13 | Quiz and Test
1.Moody violently confronts Mahtob, slapping her
and causing her to cry out in fear.
2.Betty willingly goes to the embassy to seek help.
3.Betty considers involving the police to ensure Mahtob's
safety.
Chapter 14 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty Mahmoody spent sleepless nights in fear that
her husband, Moody, might harm her and take
their daughter, Mahtob.
2.The chapter depicts Moody as a supportive husband who
encourages the mother and daughter to bond and thrive in
their environment.
3.The mother devises escape plans to protect herself and her
daughter amidst the chaos created by Moody.
Chapter 15 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty Mahmoody experienced emotional turmoil
after reflecting on the loss of her daughter,
Mahtob.

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2.Betty and Moody's marriage began on June 6, 1978.
3.The political unrest in Iran had no impact on Betty and
Moody's marriage.

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Chapter 16 | Quiz and Test
1.In Chapter 16, Betty Mahmoody feels isolated and
imprisoned in her apartment.
2.Betty discovers a telephone in Moody's briefcase, which
she uses to arrange an immediate escape with Mahtob.
3.Betty makes a promise to visit Jerusalem if she is reunited
with her daughter, Mahtob.
Chapter 17 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty Mahmoody feels only joy upon reuniting
with her daughter Mahtob after their separation.
2.Moody's behavior changes, and he becomes more relaxed
about Betty's time with Mahtob.
3.Betty's desire to escape from Iran is driven by her hope for
a better future in America.
Chapter 18 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty Mahmoody finds a spacious two-level
apartment suitable for Moody’s clinic in Tehran.
2.Betty develops a close friendship with a conservative
woman who discourages her from returning to America.

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3.Moody faces no issues regarding his work payments and is
able to establish his clinic without any concerns.

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Chapter 19 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty Mahmoody receives assistance from a
benefactor named Amahl who is eager to help her
escape Iran.
2.Amahl has a straightforward life, only acting as a
businessman without any secretive activities.
3.Betty plans to escape Iran by herself, without considering
her daughter's involvement.
Chapter 20 | Quiz and Test
1.Mahtob starts first grade in Iran after summer.
2.Betty successfully enrolls Mahtob in the first school they
visit without any issues.
3.Betty forms a friendship with Alice Shareef, an American
teacher in Tehran.
Chapter 21 | Quiz and Test
1.Amahl discusses plans for Betty and her daughter
to escape Iran, mentioning complicated
arrangements.
2.Betty successfully returns to the U.S. in time for

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 Thanksgiving with her family.
3.Christmas is celebrated with great significance in Iran, with
festivals and community gatherings.

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Chapter 22 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty learns from Moody that she and her
daughter Mahtob are allowed to return to
America, which fills her with joy and suspicion.
2.Moody's intention for the trip includes letting Betty go to
America with her daughter without any ulterior motives.
3.Betty vows not to go to America without her daughter,
regardless of the circumstances surrounding her father's
health.
Chapter 23 | Quiz and Test
1.Moody, the narrator's husband, struggled with
depression after losing a patient.
2.The narrator decided to take a full-time job to help with
their financial issues, which improved their relationship.
3.The narrator felt confident about their trip to Tehran
without any concerns for her daughter's safety.
Chapter 24 | Quiz and Test
1.The protagonist is emotionally stable at the
beginning of Chapter 24 after a long night of

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 crying.
2.Moody believes that the protagonist's father's illness is
genuine and not a manipulation tactic.
3.The protagonist and Mahtob successfully escape after
planning their move without involving Fereshteh.

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Chapter 25 | Quiz and Test
1.Betty Mahmoody and her daughter, Mahtob,
escape from Tehran by pretending to be normal
citizens.
2.Amahl is the friend who helps facilitate Betty and Mahtob's
escape plan.
3.Betty and Mahtob's journey to safety did not involve any
danger or obstacles.

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