Summary of Ego Control
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"The leader's mirror" is the second book by David Fischman, in which he delves into the
concepts of personal and interpersonal leadership exposed in 'the leader's path', its success
first book. the title of the book already shows us a very interesting quality because a mirror
shows us just as we are and if we
If we look deeply inside him, we can observe attitudes and qualities that can be corrected.
time will help us improve our relationships with people. David Fischman addresses
very important themes for the leader such as ego control, balance, detachment, the
responsibility, teamwork, and managerial skills, that is to say, it narrates abilities
, which must be innate, to navigate the world of organizations. the control of the ego
It is very interesting since there are leaders who were driven by an ego rooted in a low
self-esteem, which leads them to live in fear. when we base our personal worth on what
What people think of us makes us dependent beings, since from that point on
point our happiness stops depending on
we ourselves. when we work to make people appreciate us we are manipulated
for our ego but our true self is revealed when we work to give
the best of ourselves in order to contribute to some meaningful activity.
the worst of the ego is that it prevents us from taking advantage of the
opportunity to learn makes a person believe that they are good at performing a certain function but
it really isn’t, that’s why it’s very difficult to listen to those who want to teach us. another topic is
the balance since leaders, due to the responsibility they face in their management, try to
maximizing their capabilities leading to serious health consequences, such as fatigue
extreme, feeling of permanent unhappiness, stress, difficulty sleeping, etc. we consider
these symptoms as part of modern life and we do not identify them as indicators that
at a certain moment
it could affect the making of any important decision in
our performance. let us remember that to be successful in business we need to be balanced
scream since the more we are, the better decisions we will make. Detachment is a
a quality that is very common in today's leaders. Clinging to a problem is
to worry, distress, or excessively blame oneself for it. Detachment implies taking distance.
of things and understand that problems are part of the learning methodology of the
Life. Achieving detachment is living with the awareness that within us we have everything to
be happy, and that the outside is just a complement to our
life. "The leader's mirror" teaches us to know ourselves and shows us various ways to identify the
negative emotions, to value ourselves and those around us, to lead others and
to empower them, to work as a team, and to serve
our followers. In summary, this book seems very interesting to me, since we can not only
apply it in our business life, but also makes us reflect on many other
areas of our personal life
FIRST PART
CONTROL OF THE EGO
The ego is a mask that we have been wearing for many years and we are
melted into it. We do not know how to differentiate what we do for ourselves.
and what we do for the manipulation of the ego. The ego is the false self that tries to
hide our insecurity when a person has a person has a
low self-esteem elevates the ego, the ego brings success in life but not always happiness.
and for that we must control our ego.
A VACCINE FOR THE EGO
Power is an addictive drug that hooks onto our ego and is hard for us to let go;
For example, there are people who were successful entrepreneurs; but whose companies failed.
so these people no longer have power and it is common to see them depressed because they have lost
their power and with it their sense of worth and personal competence (they no longer have the drug and do not
everyone knows how to find her).
Let's not allow our ego to devour us, distancing us from true happiness. If we want to
vaccinate ourselves against the ego, we must control our thoughts; stop thinking only about
we, to stand out and stand out; and to think better about everything we can do to help and
allow the people in our environment to grow
THE MISTAKES AND THE EGO
Many times managers and leaders set meaningless goals that harm the organization;
and then the subordinates try hard to communicate their mistakes to the bosses,
but it is so hard for managers to accept their mistakes perhaps because the ego tries to hide them
mistakes so that the person appears more intelligent and successful, camouflaging the feelings of
insecurity.
THE BATTLE OF LIFE BETWEEN TWO PILOTS
In our mind, there are two very powerful adversaries: the ego and the spirit.
Our body is like a car that has two drivers: the ego and the spirit. The ego wants to win the
race at all costs, so that the rest admire him as the best; meanwhile, the spirit is interested in
enjoy the journey, drive in peace, serve and help the people you encounter.
Both have very different goals in life; and it is the spirit that guides us to our
true happiness.
KNOW HOW TO VALUE WHAT YOU HAVE?
For example, when trying to stop breathing, we realize that we cannot live without breathing; the
breathing is important for life; but we rarely become aware of its importance
until we lose it. One of the main reasons why we do not value what we have is
the lack of self-esteem.
When a person does not feel competent or valued, they seek the negative in others, they
he also highlights himself and feels superior; he feels that nothing is enough for him hiding his
insecurity; and does not see the incredible and good things it has.
Let's learn to see the incredible in the organizations and people we live with and not
to wait until we lose what we have to then only discover its true value.
WHEN THE CUSTOMER IS WRONG
In many courses, books, etc. about management, it is said that the customer is always right; but there are
situations in which serving a customer can be destructive to the organization.
When a customer buys a good, it is because they have a series of needs that they wish to meet.
satisfy; but the problem arises when the customer's need is to reaffirm their worth and
personal competition through aggression and negativity towards others.
The trend today is to do the impossible to ensure the customer feels satisfied; however
In front of an aggressive customer, the worst thing the company can do is to pay attention to them. They need to feel.
powerful asking for the impossible and will never be satisfied; he who is not really seeking
service or product, but only to elevate their ego.
THE TRUE WEALTH
True wealth is found only when we are happy; to achieve happiness there are
certain basic needs that we must meet with the fruit of our work; work, the
material goods and achievements are a means to obtain happiness. For Anthony de Mello,
we live our lives oriented towards the future, we think that in the future we will be happy,
“cuando compre el carro, o la casa”, “cuando me vaya de viaje”, “cuando mis hijos crezcan”,
"when I get promoted", "when I achieve my goals". But the only way to find happiness
it is living and enjoying the present; happiness is in the things we do and not in those that
we have; for example when we help others selflessly, when we share
moments with our partner, children, and friends or when we cultivate our spirituality.
BUSINESS IS A WAR
The business world has been compared to war; companies use tactics to
competing in their market, in the business world the executives immersed in competition
they know they are fighting a cruel battle; they are fighting for their market, defending
their positions and trying to capture new ones. They use all kinds of tactics to win, they are in a
race against time to create new products, to be able to penetrate the market and have
more growth. They are focused on achieving their own goals, standing out, and growing their
company.
If our competition releases a better product, let's not be terrified by the fear of losing the
market; instead we must focus on how to better serve the customer and how to create
new products that bring more happiness and satisfaction to the customer.