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Some people are a joy to be around.
They light up any social gathering, and at work, worries melt away when you discover a
team project includes them.
This is usually thanks to their positive personality traits.
These traits influence some to become inspiring leaders, empathetic parents, and
thoughtful friends. The key to using these traits for good is to leverage strengths and
improve weaknesses.
It’s never too late to improve your personality, either. Scientists have found that
personalities change due to age, a significant life event, or persistent discipline.
Becoming a better version of yourself takes work, and facing less agreeable personality
traits might be a daunting place to start. First learn about your strengths to leverage these
qualities and feel better prepared to tackle weaknesses.
What’s a personality trait?
Personality traits refer to our patterns of thought and behavior. Examples include being
open-minded, hot-tempered, easygoing, confident, or nervous.
Roughly 30–60% of our personality traits are inherited — our genetics often dictate how
we behave. But personality traits can also be socialized. You might be predisposed to be
disorganized but living in a well-organized household could create this behavioral habit in
you, for example.
This flexibility is great — you have the power to affect change in yourself and the way you
behave isn’t out of your control.
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Identifying good qualities in a person
It’s often easier to notice our weaknesses rather than strengths, but learning about your
positive characteristics will give you the confidence boost you need to improve on
weaknesses.
A great place to start is by identifying your Big Five personality traits score, each being
ranked out of 100.
A higher score means you express more of this trait, and vice versa.
Agreeableness: This describes someone’s tendency to be trusting, sympathetic, and
helpful.
Conscientiousness: People who take their responsibilities seriously, are highly organized,
and are dependable, display a high level of this character trait.
Extroversion: Those who naturally gravitate toward and are energized by social interaction
are extroverts.
Neuroticism: People who tend toward anxiety and are highly detail-oriented, sometimes to
a fault, score higher for this personality trait.
Openness: This regards how receptive someone is to new experiences and perspectives.
These people are often intellectually curious and imaginative.
Every other personality trait fits within these five categories. If you’re 75% agreeable, for
example, this also means you’re a more positive person, since positivity is included in
agreeableness.
Once you’ve done your Big Five assessment, drill down on specific positive qualities about
yourself by creating a positive personality traits list. This list helps you zero in on smaller,
more easily manageable traits to work on. Consider doing this with a close friend or loved
one to gain their perspective.
Here are some personality trait suggestions to inspire your brainstorming session:
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Positive interpersonal traits
These qualities help you get along with others and are vital to your social health.
A good leader: taking charge and directing people to complete tasks or achieve shared
goals
Compassionate: caring for others even when their pain is greatly disconnected from your
own
Empathic: being able to put yourself in another person’s position to understand their
perspective and emotions
Generous: responding to others’ needs by freely giving your time, energy, and resources
Spontaneous: having an affinity for living in the moment and acting on impulse to seize
opportunities as they arise
Supportive: a natural cheerleader, offering encouragement and assistance to help others
reach their goals
Humble: taking pride in accomplishments without being arrogant or conceited
Trusting: demonstrating faith in the inherent goodness, integrity, and strength of others
Cooperative: displaying an affinity to take direction and work well with others
Passionate: demonstrating deep emotion and enthusiasm for a subject, activity, or person
Funny: finding and sharing the humor of everyday situations to amuse yourself and others
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Positive intellectual traits
Possessing and practicing intellectual qualities helps us engage with and make sense of the
world. We assess information better and can critically think about situations to make
better decisions.
Curious: demonstrating an enthusiastic desire to learn as much as possible about a subject
Observant: paying attention and noticing details
Intelligent: displaying the capacity to use knowledge and logic to draw conclusions or
develop solutions to complex problems
Analytical: an aptitude to reason logically, allowing you to draw correct conclusions and
plot possible outcomes
Innovative: the capacity to evaluate an existing product, belief, or process to find and make
improvements
Decisive: quickly assessing a situation to determine all potential outcomes and making a
decision without hesitation
Creative: the power to bring something new into existence
Industrious: being hard-working and determined to fulfill responsibilities
Objective: the ability to assess an argument fairly by looking at it from all perspectives
without bias or preconceptions
Proactive: thinking ahead to anticipate future difficulties and taking action to prevent or
solve a problem
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Positive emotional traits
Emotional personality traits help you better understand and respond to emotions in
yourself and others.
They’re vital to maintaining a positive outlook and overall well-being.
Calm: the inclination to move a situation or person from a place of volatility to tranquility
and serenity
Whimsical: a person who delights in sharing spontaneous flights of fancy and imaginative
activities with others
Idealistic: the characteristic that allows someone to pursue noble — sometimes unrealistic
— goals to create a better world
Centered: an individual with emotional stability who helps others maintain focus and
balance
Easygoing: a carefree person who’s relaxed and mellow — often described as the opposite
of a Type A personality
Optimistic: an individual who sees events positively and anticipates the best possible
outcome
Determined: having the resolve to work toward goals no matter the cost or difficulty
Nurturing: the capacity to encourage and sustain others' efforts as they work toward their
goals
Mature: a person who’s developed wisdom and a solid understanding of themselves and
their values through experience
Resilient: the ability to bounce back from disappointment or failure with renewed
determination to reach or exceed a desired outcome
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5 tips for developing positive personality traits
Your personality isn’t carved in stone. With consistent effort and self-awareness, you can
habituate the traits you’d most like to exemplify.
Here are some tips to make the process easier:
1. Identify your more challenging characteristics
You’ve already gained some confidence brainstorming your more positive qualities —
now’s the time to face your weaknesses. Everyone has a combination of good and bad
traits, so don’t let shame hold you back. This process isn’t about self-criticism but noticing
where to improve to become the best version of yourself.
Example: You’re impatient and get easily irritated when people make mistakes.
2. Decide what quality you’d like to change
Once you have your list, choose a trait you’d like to focus on improving. Focus on smaller,
more easily adjusted traits that contribute to larger ones. If you’re wanting to improve
your agreeableness, you might begin by becoming more easygoing, for example.
Example: You want to improve your temper within a set time frame.
3. Incorporate positive behaviors and practices
The best way to improve a negative characteristic is to practice its opposite. If you’re
impatient, look to patient individuals to see what they do when things move slowly or
what practices they incorporate into their lives.
Ask them, “How do you remain so calm when traffic’s bad or a line’s taking forever?” You
can also ask yourself “What would I do in this scenario if I were the most patient version of
myself?”
Research habits and practices that improve these positive characteristics. Regarding
patience, you might take up calming practices like yoga, meditation, or journaling to
remind yourself to slow down and appreciate the moment.
Example: When you feel irritated, take 10 deep breaths. If that doesn’t always work, find
an anger management book about other calming strategies.
4. Find a mentor
Changing your personality is challenging work that often requires outside support. Ask
someone who exhibits the characteristics you want to develop for advice. This could be a
coach or a friend or partner you trust. They’ll teach and encourage you while holding you
accountable to your goals.
Example:
If you’re having issues coping with your temper, attend anger management training that
pairs you with a buddy who’s been through the program to provide support.
5. Keep going
Personal growth doesn’t happen overnight. It takes about 66 days to form a new habit, so
practice having a growth mindset to remember that improvement is a long-term goal.
Don’t let mistakes discourage you. The fact that you’re putting in the hard work to better
yourself is remarkable enough — let yourself be human by accepting your faults and
embracing failure.
This builds resiliency to keep you moving toward your goals.
Example:
If, despite your efforts to become more patient, you lose your temper with a coworker, try
not to self-criticize but rather react to the situation with good character and move forward
to keep building the habit of patience.
You can do this by apologizing to your teammate, brainstorming ways to improve your self-
discipline, and recommitting to maintaining your composure.
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