Real Mothers: Love Is The Answer A Life Doubly Blessed
Real Mothers: Love Is The Answer A Life Doubly Blessed
REAL
MOTHERS
What makes one?
LOVE IS THE
ANSWER
A parent’s greatest asset
A LIFE DOUBLY
BLESSED
A daughter reflects
personally speaking
lift your spirit, strengthen your family, Have you ever heard or read something
and provide fun learning times for your and wished you’d said that? That hap-
children, please contact one of our pened to me when I was sorting material
distributors below, or visit our Web site at
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Activated Africa “My, he’s got a nerve
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And do hereby attest
Activated India That indeed you’re the best!
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EDITOR With love’s fertilizer,
Keith Phillips And warmed us with sunshine and care.
DESIGN You fed and you clothed and you taught us,
Giselle LeFavre
And kept us in line when essential,
ILLUSTRATIONS But at the same time
Doug Calder, Hugo Westphal
Gave us freedom to climb
PRODUCTION To new heights, to reach hidden potential.
Francisco Lopez
I could surely provide further data,
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But my time and my paper’s run out.
May 2003
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Unless otherwise indicated, all
Scripture quotations in Activated are Keith Phillips
from the New King James Version of the
Bible © 1982 Thomas Nelson, Inc.
When other versions are quoted, some
typographical changes have been made For the Activated Family
for the sake of clarity and uniformity.
(IAN BACH IS A FULL-TIME FAMILY VOLUNTEER IN THE MIDDLE EAST.)
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life blessed
DOUBLY blessed
IT’S MOTHER’S DAY. I take my place on “Laughing and singing, what a way
stage, test the microphone, and scan to live...” Now I think about my step-
the hotel restaurant where some mom, who I love just as dearly and
friends and I are about to perform. can only think of as “Mom,” whose
Most of the 200 people who came voice I heard on the phone just days
for the Sunday brunch are mothers ago. As usual, she was full of laugh-
and daughters—young mothers with ter. If there is one person who knows
little girls, elderly mothers with adult what it means to live, it’s her. “Life
A young daughters, short round mothers with ain’t worth living, if it’s not to give…”
tall slender daughters, and some I can see her now, giving tirelessly as
mother
who look like they could be sisters. she cares for my dad and their eleven
gets up There are a few sons and husbands, children who are still at home. (Three
but they are greatly outnumbered of us are grown and living abroad.)
from her by the women, who are all radiant. Twenty-four hours a day, seven days
table and The reception desk is heaped with a week, giving.
individually wrapped pink roses, the A young mother gets up from her
dances hotel’s gift to the mothers on their table and dances through the restau-
with her special day. rant with her baby girl in her arms.
As the opening chords of our The baby laughs. She is secure. She is
baby girl in first number fill the room, I feel my loved.
mother’s presence. The lyrics remind Then I realize why I can smile and
her arms.
me of her. “Surround me with the laugh and come halfway around the
The baby little people...” Mom brought eight world to show other people God’s
little people into this world, each love. It is because I have been blessed
laughs. She of us her favorite in some inexplic- with the love of not one, but two
is secure. able way. “I want to be held in the mothers—one who had to leave me
everlasting arms of eternity...” Those but is ever near in spirit, and one
She is arms hold her now. It’s been seven who came when I needed a mother
loved. years since she died of cancer. My the most. What am I doing, fight-
dad held her in his arms till she took ing back the tears? I am secure. I am
her last breath. We kids still hug her loved. God has blessed me in double
goodnight as we say our prayers. measure. ◆
Now she’s in Jesus’ arms for eternity. I (MICHELLE CHARISSE IS A FULL-TIME FAMILY
blink away the tears. VOLUNTEER IN INDIA.)
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REAL T
THERE’S A LOT MORE TO BEING A
MOTHER THAN JUST HAVING A BABY!
Almost any woman can have children,
mothers
homemaking before they are plunked
down with a full-grown man and a
baby and find they don’t know what
but it takes a real mother to raise and to do with either one of them, much
care for them and do all the work less the housekeeping and cooking.
that’s involved—and it’s a full-time To them, boys were romantic play-
job! Motherhood is probably one of things and a husband some kind of
the hardest jobs in the whole world, a dream, apparently with no work
yet one that is seldom appreciated attached. But real life is a drastically
enough. People who have never done different picture. Even with all the
it can’t possibly appreciate what a conveniences of modern living to take
big job it is! It takes great faith and a much of the pain out of housekeep-
whole lot of plain hard work. ing, children are still a full-time job!
Up until a couple of generations To do the job of a mother takes the
ago, most women believed that their strength of Samson, the wisdom of
calling in life was to be a wife, mother, King Solomon, the patience of Job,
and homemaker. They gave them- the faith of Abraham, the insight of
selves to it, and began learning it at Daniel, and the administrative ability
an early age by helping their mothers and courage of King David. David was
do all the things they would one day a fighter, and it takes a lot of fight to
need to know. be a mother. It also takes the love of
In many modern countries today, God, that’s for sure!
however, girls grow up without I think motherhood is just about
learning that kind of responsibility. the greatest calling in the world!
Young women may receive little or Mothers of the next generation are the
no preparation for motherhood and ones that are molding the future. The
IS THE
ANSWER
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Everybody
L THE PRIMARY FACTOR IN RAISING
CHILDREN IS LOVE. If parents can just
learn to treat their children with love
and consideration, the children will
feel loved and secure.
Most parents can’t be with their
so none of them think they’re just
one more child in the line-up.
Give each one lots of love and
encouragement, because words have
the power to build them up and help
them feel loved. “Look what a big boy
children all the time, but it’s difficult you are! We’re so proud of you. You’ve
needs to feel for small children to understand learned so much!” Say things that will
that. Children think they should be let them know they really are special
special to the most important things in the to you.
somebody, world to their parents, so when the Small children, especially, don’t
parents can’t show them constant yet have a concept of time, so if you
to have a attention because of other obliga- give one child something and tell
tions, it hurts the children—and of the others that theirs will come next
personal
course, the more children you have, time, “next time” will probably seem
sense of the less individual time and attention a long way away and very nebulous.
you can give each one. That’s why it’s So in most cases when you give one
belonging. so important for parents to tune in something, you should try to do a
to their children and give them love little something special for the others
and attention when they do have the too.
opportunity. You can’t and shouldn’t treat all
The first step is to pray for under- of your children the same all the
standing of your children. Ask the time. Each needs to know they are
Lord to show you what each child special in their own way. And when
needs in each situation, and then one needs something that the others
do the little things that can mean so don’t, they have to be taught that it’s
much. according to need, not because one is
Everybody needs to feel special to more loved. If you take one out to get
somebody, to have a personal sense a needed pair of shoes, for example,
of belonging. No matter how many and you bring the others back a little
children you have, you can still give toy or something that may cost only
each one something special—either a few cents, this shows that you love
special attention or a special some- them and remembered them too.
thing that means a lot to them—and A lot of adults don’t realize how
you should try to do this consistently CONTINUED ON PG 10
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What can I give my children, Lord, For things so priceless, precious, rare,
When there’s not much I can afford? Most mortal men seem not to care.
They rate the best, these girls and boys, But when the earth begins to quake,
Yet get along with so few toys. Their stores and mighty buildings shake,
I see nice things I’d like to get, When towers tall come tumbling down,
But can’t, for we are poor, and yet And all man’s dreams lie on the ground,
We have great riches in our keep God’s own “poor” children then shall find,
That kings but dream of when they sleep! A place of rest for heart and mind.
We’ve wealth to share with all our house, Yes, we are the more truly blessed
The Words of Heaven, from God’s mouth. For having sought and found the best.
We’ve love that stands when all else flees, Now all the Words God’s given me,
And mountains tumble to the seas. I’ll share with children on my knee.
We’ve trust that will not break or tear, Yes, untold wealth is what we own.
And hope we know is always there. It fills our hearts and fills our home!
We’ve Heaven in our hearts today, What greater gifts could we impart
The Son of God who’s come to stay. Than Heaven’s Words to children’s hearts?
We’ve got a Rock on which to stand,
—KAY SPAIN
When fears and tremors fill our land.
(KAY SPAIN IS A FULL-TIME FAMILY VOLUNTEER
We’ve faith to stand the toughest test,
IN MEXICO, MOTHER OF 11 AND GRANDMOTHER
And give us peace when none can rest. OF 16.)
It whispers softly in our ears
To calm our hearts and melt our fears.
It stills the storm and sends the sun,
And helps us stand when all is done.
Jesus, Jesus, what a store
Of treasures, diamonds, at our door!
Your precious Words, so great yet free—
What riches You have given me!
I’ve gifts, new gifts, to give each day,
And when they’re gone, I hear You say,
“Come here, My child, peer in My chest,
Behold it all and take the best.
QUESTIONS
he would do the same for me, but it seems that’s just not “him.” This
is only a small part of our lives, but these little gestures of affection
mean a lot to me. What should I do?—Try to change my husband by
encouraging him to be more like that, or ask the Lord to change me so
TO YOUR
I don’t desire those things so much?
A: Your husband’s personality is probably one of the things that
attracted you to him in the first place, so you wouldn’t want to change
that in a big way. Of course, there are probably some things about his
personality that you didn’t realize when you married him, and this
may be one of them.
Couples whose marriages have stood the test of time often credit
their success to three things: respect, acceptance, and communica-
tion. Marriage partners who genuinely respect each other find it much
easier to accept their mates as they are, blemishes and all. If you don’t
feel this type of love, ask God to give it to you. His love is great enough
to overlook shortcomings, and keeps on loving even when we fail.
Also remember that just because people are a certain way doesn’t
mean they need to stay that way—and love is a great catalyst for
change! People who are in love are willing to do almost anything in
ANSWERS
ENDTIME
AN OVERVIEW OF BIBLE PROPHECY – PART 2
seven-year reign; 4) the breaking of
that covenant three and a half years
later; 5) a time of unprecedented
trouble and suffering known as the
“Great Tribulation”; 6) a nuclear war
that will destroy “Babylon, the great
whore” in one hour; 7) the “Rapture,”
when Jesus returns at the end of the
Great Tribulation to rescue His chil-
dren out of this world.
8. Marriage supper
In the Rapture, Jesus has come
back to catch His bride, His Church,
out of the evil clutches of the Anti-
christ and to whisk her away to unite
with Him and each other in the
grandest, most glorious and thrill-
ing wedding party that’s ever been
held, the great marriage supper of
the Lamb in Heaven, where the Lord
will reward all His faithful children
with beautiful, eternal “crowns of life”
(Revelation 19:7–9; 2:10).
9. Wrath of God
After the Lord rescues and raptures
His children to be with Him, the hor-
rific vials of the great “wrath of God”
will be poured upon the Antichrist
and his evil forces still remaining on
earth—the most horrible plagues the
Dear Jesus, I open my life and heart to You now and Examples of fatherly love:
accept You as my Savior. Please forgive me for all the Genesis 37:33–35
wrongs I’ve done, give me a fresh start, and help me get Mark 5:22–23
to know You and Your love. Amen. ◆ Luke15:20–24