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INTRO

PASSION

Why It's Important to Have Passion

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How to Come Alive Again by Re-Engaging With Your Passions

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How to be a More Passionate Person

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Wise Words About Passion

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OPTIMISM

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Are you an Optimist, Pessimist, or Realist?

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Important Benefits of Optimism

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How to be More Optimistic

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Wise Words About Optimism

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HAPPINESS

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Understanding Happiness

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The Neuroscience of Happiness

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Self Happiness

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Wise Words About Happiness

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CONFIDENCE

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Never Underestimate the Power of Confidence

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What is Your Confidence Quotient?

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5 Tips to Achieving Success with Confidence

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Wise Words About Confidence

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POSITIVITY

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Tips to Eliminate Negativity and Increase Positivity

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Eliminate Negativity by Developing a Positive Attitude

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5 Tips to Eliminate Negativity

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Wise Words About Positivity

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INSPIRATION

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Five Effective Ways to Get Inspiration

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The Key to Finding Inspiration Inspiration Walks

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How to Use a Moodboard to Get Inspiration

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Wise Words About Inspiration

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PRESSURE

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Common Causes of Pressure

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The Keys to Understanding Pressure

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Three Easy Ways to Reduce Pressure

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Wise Words About Pressure

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LEADERSHIP

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Top 7 Traits of a True Leader

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What is Your Leadership Style?

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5 Common Mistakes Leaders Make

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Wise Words About Leadership

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MOMENTUM

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What is Momentum and How Can It Work in Your Life?

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The Unstoppable Power of Momentum

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5 Simple Exercises to Create Daily Momentum in Your Business

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ASSERTIVENESS

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How Assertive are You?

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You Can Learn to be Assertive

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How to Set Personal Boundaries

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Wise Words About Assertiveness

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THE END?

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Your Better-You Goals

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A Month Until A Better You

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This book is designed to be used whenever you need a li5le boost of self-help content.
While you could easily read and enjoy this book front to back, it is also a great idea to keep it somewhere
convenient. That way, when you need a boost on a specic topic you can easily nd it in the table of contents.
You dont have to work super hard to become the best version of yourself you just have to work smart and
have the right mindset. This book helps you accomplish that by cuCng out the fat, and sharing direct, helpful Dps
on specic areas we all need to work on. Each secDon also includes powerful quotes that you can use for
inspiraDon, or as an armaDon.
Hope you enjoy and good luck on your journey to becoming a be5er you.

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Why It's Important to Have Passion

If you've ever felt as though life doesn't make much sense or as though you're driKing kind of aimlessly, then what
you're missing is real passion. Having passion in your life is oKen the secret to nding real happiness and there are
countless reasons that this is the case. If you're wondering what it means to have real passion and why it's so
important then read on and re-discover what really ma5ers.
What is Passion?
When we're talking about passions, we're not talking about sex. Sure, it's important to have passion in your
relaDonship and this is one type of passion but it is also not the only type of passion there is.
Passion then refers instead to anything that you feel super excited about and anything that makes you eager to
get out of bed in the morning. Everyone has dierent passions and there's no limit on what you can be passionate
about, or on how many passions you can have. For some, music is the burning passion that drives them while for
others it's more about teaching, or math or Star Trek.
Really it doesn't ma5er what you're passionate about but what ma5ers is that you have things that you feel
completely excited about and that you let yourself feel that way about them.
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Well for starters, having a passion even one that other people don't nd exciDng will give you tons to look
forward to and to be interested in. Even if you passion is just 'acDon lms', it means that you'll have something to
do in the evenings (watch old acDon lms) and things to look forward to excitedly (Die Hard).
Likewise, passions tell us about ourselves and they force us to grow. If you're passionate about music then you'll
no doubt pracDce playing an instrument which will help you to develop dexterity, Dming, rhythm and creaDvity
and which will make you more a5racDve even to the opposite sex.
Passions can also give us direcDon in life. If you feel passionately about stopping global warming then that gives
you a mission. No longer are you just living life from day to day, instead you are working towards a goal and for a
cause that's bigger than yourself. This is what makes people feel moDvated and important.
So if you're wondering what it's all about, you're asking the wrong quesDon. The quesDon should be: what's it all
about for you. Time to nd out.

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How to Come Alive Again by Re-Engaging With Your

Passions

SomeDmes, life can feel a li5le bit like you're just trying to survive. If you come home from work every day feeling
Dred and listless only to lie on the couch and if you are constantly stressed and aggravated while you're at work
then what is it that you're living for?
The problem is rest. Many of us work so that we can rest. But then when we do get a chance to rest, we don't feel
very rewarded because ulDmately rest normally just means staring at the TV. That's hardly rewarding!
So what do you do instead? How do you make yourself 'come alive again'? Simple: you re-engage with your
passions.
We All Had Dreams
All of us have dreams and passions. At some point, these dreams and ambiDons are what put you on the path
you're on now. Perhaps your aim was to work that job just long enough to earn the money you need to fund your
dream. Or perhaps you're working because you found a partner you loved and you were willing to postpone your
ambiDons for them.

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Neither of these aCtudes are wrong but if you have lost sight of why you started puCng in the Dme and work in
the rst place, then something has gone wrong. If you've lost a reason to work, then you will just be listless and
cruising through life.
So what do you do? You reignite those passions and you chase aKer them again!
Ask yourself: why is it that you do what you do? Where do you see yourself in the future? What are your beliefs
and your values? What were the things that gave you direcDon when you were a young teenager? And how can
you get yourself back on track?
The problem is that many of us feel that our passions are 'silly' or maybe they're 'childish' or they're irresponsible.
Thus we end up just burying them for more respectable aims like 'being area manager'. But who said that being
area manager of a staple company was more respectable than being an acDvist or an arDst?
The point is that you don't have to give up your job or your responsibiliDes. You just have to keep the burning
passion alive so that you're pursuing it when you can. When you do this and you remember the 'why', then life
will have meaning and direcDon

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How to be a More Passionate Person

Most of us admire and look up to people who are highly passionate and rey. SomeDmes they might frustrate or
aggravate us sure, but deep down that's oKen because we wish we could be them: we wish we could follow our
passions, speak our mind and live life to the fullest.
Well guess what: you can. Being passionate isn't a ma5er of geneDcs it's a choice. And once you know that
that's what you want, it's something that's very much worth working towards. Read on and let's look at some
things you can do to start living a more passionate life right now
Be Who You Really Are With No Apologies
The most important thing you need to do to be truly passionate, is to be who you really are and to not apologize
for it. That means that you should follow what interests you no ma5er how weird or strange it is. When you do
what you love, you give it 100% and when you give it 100% then you do it be5er. Don't do the thing that's
expected of you do the thing that you really want to do. Be Billy Elliot!
Speak Your Mind
This extends generally to stopping worrying what people think. NoDce how passionate people always seem to be
shouDng or proclaiming their love? They are in lms and TV anyway. This is because they are following their heart
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and not worrying what others think.

Most of us are so afraid to speak our minds because we think we're going to oend people that we end up
walking around with our heads down. You'll sDll oend people because it's impossible not to so you might as
well be you and have a good Dme while you're doing it.
Get Back Your Energy
What's also important if you want to be passionate and full of life is to get your energy back. To be passionate, you
need to indulge yourself in the things you love. And to do that you can't be brow beaten and exhausted all the
Dme. If life and work always seem to be on top of you, then it's Dme to make a change by spending less Dme
commuDng and working and more Dme eaDng right, geCng sunshine and going to the gym. If it seems like life will
get on top of you if you take Dme out, then that's sign enough that something needs to change!

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Wise Words About Passion

"Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you."
Oprah Winfrey

"We must act out passion before we can feel it.

Jean-Paul Sartre

"Nothing is as important as passion. No ma5er what you want to do with your life, be passionate."
Jon Bon Jovi

"I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious."

Albert Einstein

Pleasure in the job puts perfecDon in the work.

Aristotle

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Are you an Optimist, Pessimist, or Realist?

Everyone has a dierent personality. This is what makes the world go round. When it comes to how you look at
things or what kind of outcome you expect, people tend to fall into one of three categories: opDmist, pessimist, or
realist. An opDmist will typically make lemons into lemonade. This means that they see everything that happens
to them in a posiDve light. A pessimist is the exact opposite. Pessimists tend to look at things negaDvely and
believe that most things will turn out badly. A realist tends to see things as they are and accepts that things are
not always perfect. They deal with problems in a pracDcal way.
An opDmist as menDoned will look towards the posiDve. For example, if they are looked over for a promoDon at
work they will be understanding and think that they may not be ready for the posiDon right now.
A pessimist looks towards the negaDve when something happens. If a pessimist is overlooked for a promoDon at
work they will likely start blaming themselves and look for all of the reasons that they will never be promoted.
A realist is more grounded. When a realist is overlooked for a promoDon they see the big picture. They will be
clearheaded about being passed over and look for what they can do so that the next Dme there is a promoDon
opportunity available they are chosen.
Generally speaking, most people fall between these categories. Not every opDmist will always be posiDve and not
every pessimist will always be negaDve. There are pros and cons of each type of personality, but research shows
that being opDmisDc tends to be the healthier choice.
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While there are posiDve and negaDve aspects of each personality type, research has recently shown that being
more opDmisDc can actually be benecial. NegaDvity breeds negaDvity. This means that being negaDve or a
pessimist can aect your quality of life. Changing your thought process to something more posiDve can actually
have a posiDve eect on your enDre outlook. The research shows that people who tend to think more posiDvely
tend to get along be5er in the work place, are healthier, and feel be5er overall.
Trying to look for the posiDve in things can help you improve your situaDon. While this is not possible all the Dme,
it is possible to change your aCtude about your life and reap the rewards.

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Important Benefits of Optimism

When it comes to how you look at life, studies show that being more opDmisDc can dramaDcally improve your life.
OpDmism is simply looking at adversity in a posiDve light. Taking the Dme to see things from a dierent
perspecDve and shining a light on the posiDve can be extremely benecial in all areas of your life.
Here are just a few ways that being opDmisDc can help you in your everyday life.
1. OpLmism promotes happiness
2. It will help you keep your emoLons in check.
3. Research into opLmism shows it can actually increase your lifespan.
4. Being opLmisLc can reduce the level of stress you experience during certain events
5. OpLmism provides you with a reason for living.
6. OpLmisLc people are more proacLve.
7. It provides you with a way to deal with failure in a construcLve manner.
8. It is an essenLal trait that is necessary for being successful.
9. It increases your producLvity.
10. OpLmism provides you with a way to deal with life in a balanced manner as it provides you with a
way to deal with negaLve thoughts that tend to pop up during your day to day life.

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These are just ten of the wonderful benets of being more opDmisDc. There are many more a5ributes to taking a
more posiDve approach to the things that life throws your way. People who tend to see the good in things rather
than the bad are typically healthier as it improves both your psychological and physiological well-being.
When you are faced with adversity the way that you approach it is extremely important. Those who take a
negaDve approach tend to live in a world that is out to get them. These people oKen fail to see the bigger
picture, which can have a negaDve impact on their life.
Those who face adversity with a posiDve aCtude tend to have a happier life simply because they choose to see
the light at the end of the tunnel. When life throws something at them they look for the posiDves that can come
out of it and move on towards a future that looks much brighter.
The next Dme you have negaDve thoughts take a moment to think about how this negaDve experience could
actually be a good thing. This will benet your enDre well-being and help you experience a more fullling life.

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How to be More Optimistic

Research has shown Dme and Dme again those who think posiDvely or opDmists tend to have happier and
healthier lives. If you are a pessimist you can create a worst case scenario out of any event. For example, you get
invited to dinner with a new co-worker and you imagine how awkward it will be and how this will turn into a
tormented work relaDonship for the rest of your career, buying new clothes is a torment, or taking a trip to a
fabulous island results in you thinking about sunburn and diseases. While it may seem that being negaDve can be
a good defense mechanism, it can aect your enDre life from your relaDonships to your work, school, and sports -
taking this approach can be depressing.
How to Become more OpLmisLc
One of the tricks to changing your thought process from negaDve to posiDve is that you cannot try to be too
happy. In order to truly be happy you have to stop trying. Instead of thinking about whether or not you are
happier yet, become more engaged in things. When you get fully involved with something it can help to distract
you from your negaDve thoughts.
Another trick to becoming more posiDve is to adjust your aCtude. Look for quick distracDons to help you when
you conDnue to have the same negaDve thoughts. Try an acDvity that will demand all of your a5enDon. Exercise
classes such as yoga or kickboxing can be a great way to distract yourself. Exercise will help improve your aCtude
by releasing endorphins, or happy hormones, into your body that can improve your mood overall.
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Reframing Problems
When it comes to becoming more opDmisDc it is about learning to reframe problems as they arise. When you are
faced with an issue instead of blaming yourself, reframe it so that it is not all your fault. For example, if you are
alone at a party and thinking that you are boring and no one wants to talk to you, try thinking about where the
host of the party is and wondering why they have not introduced you to any of the guests. While this method of
looking for a scapegoat is not something a true opDmist would do, it will give you a dierent outlook on the
situaDon and can help you to nd other soluDons to the issue as you realize that you are not enDrely to blame.

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Wise Words About Optimism

A pessimist sees the diculty in every opportunity; an opDmist sees the opportunity in every diculty.
Winston Churchill
Choose to be opDmisDc, it feels be5er.
Dalai Lama XIV
We are all in the gu5er, but some of us are looking at the stars.
Oscar Wilde
There is some good in this world, and its worth ghDng for.
J.R.R.Tolkien
Pessimism never won any ba5le.
Dwight D. Eisenhower

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HAPPINESS

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Understanding Happiness

Just what is happiness? Many people have dierent views on this but the most commonly agreed upon deniDon
is: Happiness is a mental state of well being encompassing feelings like thankfulness, enjoyment and joy.

Living a meaningful life can make you happy as you use your knowledge and your Dme to leading your life with a
purpose.
Feeling happy for most people can be achieved by becoming part of a community. Humans have a strong desire to
belong somewhere. People become happy when they make an eort to do something. This can be learning a
new skill, helping someone or just doing anything that gives them pleasure.
Living a meaningful live is thought by many to be the path to happiness. But just how do you achieve this? One
way is to sit down and think about what you truly want to do with your life and then taking acDon to make this
happen.
How many Dmes have you wished or thought about how your life could be? You dont take acDon so your daily life
becomes a mundane rouDne. What is stopping you from changing your life?

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One of the biggest reasons that people dont chase their dreams is because of fear. Fear of the unknown or of
what if is huge and is an enormous road block for many people.
While being happy has a lot to do with your own emoDonal feelings and well being. Your state of happiness can be
inuenced by outside factors. Mainly by those around you, have you ever noDced that if you are with a group of
people who are feeling dejected you start to feel the same way too?
Other people can easily reect their mood and feelings onto you and you take this mood on without even
realizing it. This is why it is important to surround yourself with well meaning people and people who are taking
posiDve acDon in their lives.
Many people assume that money will buy them happiness and while it will to some point money cant buy you
everything you need. Money cannot boost your well being or your feelings but doing good things with your
money can. Have you ever considered giving some money to charity? You may be surprised at how your act of
generosity will be received. This thankfulness can really explode that joyful feeling inside of you and make you
happy.
There are so many things which contribute to your happiness. Live your life in the best way you can, create you
bucket list and do each thing on it.

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The Neuroscience of Happiness

Whether you're happy, sad, angry, creaDve, stressed or something else enDrely, it all ulDmately comes down to
your neuroscience. The wiring and chemistry of our brains is what denes our every experience and our every
behavior and as such, the best way to unravel and understand any aspect of the human experience is to look
inwards towards the brain.
This is parDcularly useful if you're trying to improve your mood and be consistently happier. What is going on
inside the brain when you feel truly content and at peace. And what can you do to try and get your stubborn brain
to be like that more oKen?
Neurochemicals
UlDmately our mood comes down to chemistry specically it comes down to neurochemicals or
'neurotransmi5ers' which are produced in the brain in response to certain other acDviDes in the brain. When you
think of something or experience something that is happy, sad, scary or stressful, the brain responds in kind by
producing the relevant neurotransmi5er. These transmi5ers include serotonin, corDsol, norepinephrine,
dopamine, oxytocin, adenosine and many others.

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When it comes to happiness, we want to increase the number of 'feel good' neurotransmi5ers which include
serotonin, oxytocin and dopamine. These are chemicals that make us feel alert, happy, content and even loved.
On the other hand, we want to reduce ones like corDsol (which makes us stressed).

How to Control Neurochemistry

At this point, you might be wondering how you can control your neurochemistry. One way of course is with drugs
and that's where recreaDonal drugs and anDdepressants come in. AnDdepressants oKen work by increasing the
amount of serotonin in the brain or increasing GABA which makes us Dred but also reduces corDsol.
The problem with changing brain chemistry directly though is that the brain is all about adaptaDon. If you add a
certain amount of parDcular chemicals to your brain then it will oKen respond by producing less of those
chemicals naturally. This can then lead to tolerance, dependence and withdrawal symptoms worsening
depression and triggering addicDon.
You can also alter your neurochemistry through lifestyle changes. Diet impacts on which neurotransmi5ers our
brain can create, while things like sleep, exercise and social interacDons can all also boost our mood.
UlDmately though, the very best way to control your mood is to change what you focus on and the way you react
to what you focus on. Remember, your neurotransmi5ers are released in reacDon to your subjecDve experiences.
Change your experience by changing your beliefs and you can improve that neurochemistry.

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Self Happiness

You have no doubt heard about self help. There are thousands of books and arDcles on the topic of self help.
When it comes to being happy have you thought about how you get yourself into that state?
Happiness is a mental state which you feel as joy and contentment and just feeling happy. When was the last Dme
you can truly say you felt this emoDon? If it was a while ago have you considered self happiness?
Self happiness is simply the act of placing yourself in the right situaDon so you experience these emoDons. There
are several ways you can achieve this. One is by reading happiness quotes each and every day. Find ones that are
meaningful to you and repeat them out loud several Dmes a day. There are enDre websites with happiness quotes
on them. Search through some and copy down the ones which you like.
Your own acDons can bring you happiness as well and by doing or sharing something with others you can easily
experience this. It is well known that if you make someone else happy you will feel happy too. Why not try helping
someone with a task or chore. Do you have an elderly neighbor that needs help? Or is there a young mom in your
neighborhood who would appreciate some help with her kids? You could oer to watch them for a while or take
them to the park.
Many experts will tell you that all you need to be happy is a posiDve mind set, this may not always be true.
Another stream of thought is being conscious of the things you should not be doing. In other words you know
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what doesnt make you happy, so dont conDnue doing them.

So it may be worth thinking this way instead. The majority of people are eager to go out and buy the next gadget
or tool that will supposedly make them happy. In reality what happens is you end up hoarding items and end up
with a clu5er of useless or unused tools around your home.
Declu5ering your home and your mind is one way to nd happiness. Instead of searching for happiness get rid of
everything that makes you unhappy. You will be taking acDon instead of chasing rainbows. Your new found path
could lead to the true joy of happiness aKer all.

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Wise Words About Happiness

For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own acDons.
Dalai Lama XIV
The most important thing is to enjoy your lifeto be happyit's all that ma5ers.
Audrey Hepburn
No medicine cures what happiness cannot.
Gabriel Garca Mrquez
To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.
Albert Camus

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CONFIDENCE

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Never Underestimate the Power of Confidence

You can have all the educaDon and the best experience in the world and lack the condence you need for ulDmate
success. Condence is a catalyst which can make a real dierence in the scope of your life and propel you to a
greatness you wouldnt have without it.
With condence, you can turn the impossible into the possible create success where others might give up.
While you can gain condence from educaDon and experience, the condence must come from inside and you
must project it in a way that others nd inspiring.
Condence provides the power you need to step into unknown situaDons unafraid and determined to succeed.
Leaving behind the secure and the known in your life may take incredible condence. Without it, you may become
stuck in a milk-toast type of life and never get out of a rut or a career thats going nowhere.
If you do lack condence, it may not be obvious to you unDl you get real with yourself. If you procrasDnate or feel
overwhelmed much of the Dme, it may be very dicult to turn the Ddes unless you do address your condence
issues. Its dicult for you to take acDon to get out of ruts and bad situaDons because you feel you cant do it right
or you need to learn more.
Condence can also help your decision-making skills. You may be hesitant to make decisions about even the
smallest of issues because you lack condence in your own abiliDes to succeed. You may become paralyzed with
indecision and become isolated and withdrawn. Second-guessing yourself only makes it worse.
SomeDmes you just need to behave as if youre condent and use that power to take acDon rather than simply
waiDng for something to happen to cement an idea or solve a problem. At least be condent in your
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determinaDon to work on your goals. That determinaDon will spur you on to take the acDon(s) you need to
succeed.
Soon, condence can become a habit in your life a good habit that youll welcome and want to culDvate. That
ingrained habit will help you leave your comfort zone and take chances. Even if you fail, youll learn from the
mistakes you make and have the resolve to go on to try the next idea or level of success.
Condence provides the power you need to commit and work toward goals and know that your eorts are going
to succeed in the long run. Not only does that increase your chances of succeeding it also creates a sense of
saDsfacDon in your mind.

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What is Your Confidence Quotient?

While you dont want to be too condent so as to seem arrogant, you do want to project the amount of
condence needed to succeed in life and reach the goals that youve set for yourself. Read and answer the
following quesDons (all yes or no) and then look back on your answers. You should have a pre5y good idea if your
condence quoDent is high or low or in the middle -- and what areas you need to work on to raise it.
Do you feel guilty when you say no? Saying no can be extremely traumaDc for you if you lack
condence in your decisions. You may nd yourself making up lies to get out of things rather than just
saying, no.
Do you compare yourself to others? Theres always going to be someone smarter, richer and be5er looking
than you. UnDl you become comfortable with yourself youll lack condence to go farther in life.
Do you feel inLmidated in most situaLons? Youre likely to feel inDmidated by others if you compare
yourself to others (see previous quesDon) and see yourself as inferior to them. Stop comparing yourself and
enjoy the moment.
Do you stand up for your values and beliefs? If you easily get swayed by others or dont speak up when
youre in an uncomfortable situaDon, you could lack condence. Compromising your belief system can be a
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 Do you try hard to impress others? When youre condent, you dont have to strive to impress others will
be automaDcally impressed by your presence. Condence exudes an image that means you dont have to
try to impress it will come naturally.
Are you nancially sound? Financial well-being can add to your condence quoDent. If you have problems
when it comes to planning a budget and spending money, you may need help from a professional nancial
planner to make you feel more condent in your nancial future.
Do you hesitate to take the iniLaLve on projects or ideas? Part of learning to become condent is the
ability to feel good about taking on challenges and new ideas. Its okay to take a back seat to someone who
knows more and whom you can learn from, but put yourself out there by taking iniDaDve at Dmes.
Do you feel condent about your future? Its important that you feel comfortable about the choices youre
making that will impact your future. That future encompasses your health, family and job decisions that
youre making now. Be sure theyre based on facts.
AKer youve assessed your condence quoDent and determined what you need to do to raise it, begin to take
acDon on those determinaDons. Later, when you feel youve made progress in the areas you needed to work on,
answer the quesDons again and see how far youve progressed.

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5 Tips to Achieving Success with Confidence

Achieving success can make you a more condent person, but its dicult to reach the level of success you desire
without condence. Condence is the catalyst to overcoming doubts and fears and can help you through the
worst obstacles youll encounter on the road to success. Here are some sure-re Dps to help you get the
condence you need to climb the success ladder:
1. Be true to yourself. Your values and belief system must be rmly in place if you want to achieve a success
you can be proud of and to ensure you like yourself when you do reach the top of the ladder.
If you achieve success in ways which compromise who you truly are, you wont be able to enjoy your
achievements. It will be a success built on sand rather than solid ground and may crumble and fall with
Dme.
2. Trust in your abiliLes. You may have much to learn before you can succeed in a chosen eld or path. Think
of all that youve achieved so far and obstacles youve already overcome and trust that you can do more.
Dont dismiss what youve learned so far in life. You might think it was easy and that anyone could do it, but
others may see it as remarkable and look up to you for it.
3. Use your subconscious mind. RepeaDng posiDve armaDons and shooing negaDve thoughts away builds
strength for your subconscious mind a powerful ally in your quest for success.

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Your subconscious mind, when trained to do your bidding can make a real dierence in how you and others
see yourself. It can also be a detriment if you let negaDve thoughts permeate and gain control making you
doubt your true abiliDes.
4. Use correct body language. Watch your posture, stance and control of your body language. It can be
powerful when dealing with others and expecDng a great outcome. SiCng up straight (as your mother used
to tell you) can send a far dierent and more posiDve message than slumping.
Study body language and begin to pracDce it. When you enter a room with your head held high and walking
like you own where you are and how you present yourself, people will take noDce in a posiDve way.
5. Pay afenLon to your personal look. When you present yourself as unkempt and looking wrinkled and
ungroomed, the image isnt one that reaps success.
If this is an area of your life where you lack skills, seek the help of others and develop a style youre
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Wise Words About Confidence

Self condence is the best ouoit. Rock it and own it
Unknown
Accept who you are; and revel in it.
Mitch Albom
"The way to develop self-condence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences
behind you."
William Jennings Bryan
"If you hear a voice within you say 'you cannot paint,' then by all means paint, and that voice will be
silenced."
Vincent Van Gogh
Self-condence can be learned, pracDced, and mastered--just like any other skill."
Barrie Davenport

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Tips to Eliminate Negativity and Increase Positivity

Here are a few Dps that can help you eliminate negaDvity and help you to bring a posiDve spin to your life and
make posiDve thinking easier:
Read books about posiLve thinking.
When you read books that are posiDve and upliKing, it helps you to be more posiDve. InspiraDonal quotes and
armaDons can also help you eliminate more negaDvity and get into a posiDve mindset.
Learn how to visualize.
Your imaginaDon and ability to visualize things is an extremely powerful tool. By imagining yourself being posiDve,
and doing more posiDve acDons, your body actually responds in the same way as if you were doing the things that
you are imagining. Athletes and other successful people have used visualizaDon for years to help improve
themselves and their abiliDes. By tapping into this ability, you too can eliminate negaDvity and become more
posiDve.

Focus on using posiLve words as much as possible.
Avoid negaDve words, or turn them into their opposite. When thinking, or talking to others, try to always use
posiDve words. Avoid saying I can't, and start saying I can. This may take some Dme to put into pracDce, but as you
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Remember to smile.
Use your smile to project your posiDve aCtude. It is amazing how much of a dierence a smile makes. People can
actually tell you are smiling when talking to you on the phone, even though they can't see you smiling. Smiling
makes you and those around you feel more posiDve.
Do not quit no mafer what.
When you quit, you truly fail. What most people think of failure is really just a chance to learn. OKen, people quit
just before they reach their goal. This is something that successful people know and use all the Dme. They know
that as long as they do not quit, they will eventually achieve what they want.
Become more aware of your negaLve thoughts.
Learning to recognize when you are having a negaDve thought and turning it immediately into a posiDve one is
important. It can take Dme to develop a sense of when you are having negaDve thoughts, but it is a skill well
worth focusing on, so you can change them. Over Dme, you will nd it easier to recognize when you are having a
negaDve thought. Remember it takes Dme to change a habit, so be persistent.
Make Lme to do the things that make you happy.
When you take Dme to do things that make you happy, it can overow into the rest of your life. Even when life has
major challenges, you will nd you have more energy to tackle them, if you spend Dme doing things that make
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Eliminate Negativity by Developing a Positive Attitude

The best way to eliminate negaDvity is to develop a posiDve aCtude. Your thoughts and outlook on life have a
profound eect on how you live your life. They are also contagious and aect those around you. You can't have
both posiDve and negaDve in the same space. So why not focus on turning the negaDvity into something more
posiDve?
You will nd you have more energy and enthusiasm when you have a more posiDve aCtude. People will want to
be around you more, and will be more posiDve as well, leading to a cascade eect. NegaDvity tends to bring you
down and steal away your energy. It can also cause health issues over Dme. Some ways you can develop a more
posiDve aCtude are:
Read Books about PosiLve Thinking
There are many books out there that can teach you about how to develop a posiDve mindset and eliminate the
negaDvity in your life. Reading is not only a great way to learn, but it helps your brain build more connecDons
which keep it healthy for a longer Dme. You can even nd many very good books on this subject in your local
library and read them for free.
ArmaLons
ArmaDons are a way of reprogramming the negaDve thoughts you tell yourself and in many cases, you may
not even be aware that you have them. By doing armaDons, you can change these negaDve thoughts into
posiDve ones. You can start thinking be5er of yourself.
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MeditaLon
MeditaDon is a great way to help eliminate negaDvity and turn it into posiDve thinking. It also reduces stress.
Because you get past the conscious level, you can really help reprogram your mindset with meditaDon. If you
combine this with the armaDons, you can increase the results.
Spend Lme with posiLve people
Try to eliminate or limit contact with people who tend to have a negaDve mindset. SomeDmes you can't
completely break o contact with them, especially if they are family or people you work with, but as much as
possible try to spend Dme with posiDve people. Not only will you nd it easier to be posiDve around them, but
you may learn new ways to help yourself be more posiDve.
You can eliminate negaDvity if you set your mind to it, and use tools and techniques to make it happen. You will
not only feel be5er about yourself and have more energy and zest for life, but you will be physically healthier.
NegaDve people drain their mental and physical well-being by their mindset. So learn to have a posiDve aCtude.

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5 Tips to Eliminate Negativity

NegaDvity can really aect your life. It can lead to depression, cause health issues, and destroy your connecDons
with others. Here are a few Dps to help you eliminate the negaDvity in your life.
1. First, gure out what is triggering the negaLvity.
Before you can eliminate it, you have to idenDfy it. You will probably nd that much of your negaDvity comes from
those self-tapes you play in your head. You need to nd ways to change those tapes from negaDve to posiDve.
One way of doing this is using armaDons. Just make sure the armaDons are very specically Ded to the actual
negaDve thoughts.
This is were a lot of people go wrong with armaDons. They use general ones that really are not relevant to their
own issues. This is like general praise, it works some of the Dme, but can be overdone. Good job is not as useful
as, for example, I like the way you share with Bobby during play Dme. Same with armaDons, try to sDck as
close to the negaDve tape as possible, and only change the negaDve to a posiDve.
2. MeditaLon and yoga are both great ways to cut down on the negaLvity in your life.
Both focus on using breathing exercises to replenish your body. Yoga also helps with developing exibility and
strength in your body. MeditaDon mainly focuses on mind, but can really help you change how you think about
things, especially if you combine this with the armaDons.

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3. Smiling more can help, too, and is a simple way to help eliminate negaLvity.
Studies have shown that you can even sense when talking on the phone to someone that they are smiling. Smiling
is contagious and can not only help you feel more posiDve, but help those around you, as well.
4. Have you ever noLced that when you are in a good mood, and you talk with that one person who is always
negaLve, it brings your mood down?
Focus on people in your life who are posiDve. As much as possible, get rid of, or limit contact with negaDve
people. SomeDmes you can not completely do this, especially if they are family, but try to limit as much as you
can.
5. Playing the vicLm keeps you in a negaLve mindset.
By taking control of your life and your choices, you can eliminate a lot of the negaDvity. No ma5er how much it
seems everything is out of your control, you do have choices. Even if you have disabiliDes, or health condiDons,
you can nd ways to work around them to accomplish what you want to do.

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Wise Words About Positivity

An aCtude of posiDve expectaDon is the mark of the superior personality.
Brian Tracy
Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.
Winston Churchill
The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking.
Robert H Schuller
Hope is a waking dream.
Aristotle

If you think you can do a thing or think you cant do a thing, youre right.
Henry Ford

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Five Effective Ways to Get Inspiration

Lost for inspiraDon? Here are ve techniques you can use to try and coax something new and exciDng out of your
brain! They wont always work, but give them a go, and you might just be surprised.
Go for a Walk
Walks are inspiring for a number of reasons. For starters, they allow us to take a break from what were doing and
to change our environment. In turn, this leads to new input that can help us to gain new perspecDve on whatever
problem or task were wrestling with.
At the same Dme, walking is a monotonous task that allows our default mode network to kick in. This, essenDally,
means that were daydreaming, which is, oKen, a source of great inspiraDon.
Ask the Right QuesLons
SomeDmes, inspiraDon is just about asking the right quesDons, which can help to reframe the problem youre
facing in order to look at it in a new way. For instance, if youre wondering how to solve a problem and you cant
come up with an answer, try asking yourself how Johnny would approach it. Likewise, instead of thinking about
what you want something to be, decide what you dont want it to be.

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Take a Break
SomeDmes, the best thing you can do to spark some creaDvity or solve a problem is to take a break. This way, you
stop trying to force the idea, which simply creates stress, and instead, you simply let it come to you now that
youve entered all your input. This is why were oKen encouraged to sleep on big decisions.
Listen to Music
Music can be highly inspiring as it alters our mood and energy level and takes us to dierent places. OKen, youll
nd that music can leave you lost in thought, so try listening to some tracks while you mull over a subject, and see
if that helps.
Talk it Over
Theres a myth that ideas take the form of lightbulbs or lightning strikes and that they come in a ash, fully
formed. Actually, when quesDoned, most people admit that their best ideas formulated slowly, that they gestated
for days, months, or even years before emerging.
OKen, the best ideas are not formed in isolaDon either but rather when we discuss them with other people. Even
if were just thinking aloud, this can help us to see new perspecDves and will oKen result in new breakthroughs.

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The Key to Finding Inspiration Inspiration Walks

Looking to nd inspiraDon for the next great novel? For your musical masterpiece? For your next business idea?
OKen, the best way to nd it is just to go for a walk: an inspiraDon walk!
What is an InspiraLon Walk?
The idea behind an inspiraDon walk is to leave the connes of the home or oce to go for a stroll and, in doing
so, to discover the inspiraDon youre looking for.
So, why might this work? There are several reasons that inspiraDon oKen lies in the great outdoors. For starters,
walking is a mindless acDvity that has been shown to acDvate the brains default mode network. The default mode
network is a series of brain areas that kick into gear whenever were doing something that doesnt require a lot of
higher-order thinking (thinking with the prefrontal cortex).
This type of brain acDvity is implicated in daydreaming and oKen leads to the discovery of great ideas. In fact, its
thought that Einstein was in this brain state when he discovered his world-changing Special Theory of RelaDvity.
EecDvely, walking lets our mind wander, and this is what oKen leads to the best ideas.
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Another key aspect of going for a walk is that it takes us outside and lets us explore our environment. This works
best when we walk in a natural seCng, which has been shown to trigger creaDvity all on its own.
EssenDally, when were relaxed, this also allows our mind to wander and explore dierent ideas and memories. In
turn, this leads to new creaDve breakthroughs and insights. This is the opposite of when were in a stressed and
focused state, which causes us to focus on just one thing at the expense of other, related ideas.
Being in scenic seCngs has been shown to trigger creaDvity because, to our primiDve brains, a lush environment
represents natural resources and safety. In the wild, coming across an area of lush green plants would have meant
sources of food, water, and shelter. Thousands of years later, this sDll triggers a relaxaDon reex in our brain to the
extent that having plants around the oce or even just painDng a wall green can increase creaDve thinking.
Finally, going for walks gives us a change of scenery, gives us exercise and gets fresh air in our lungs; all things that
result in a new perspecDve and a chance to break out of lazy or habitual thinking pa5erns.

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How to Use a Moodboard to Get Inspiration

When you start on a new project, you can oKen nd yourself geCng stuck before you even manage to get started.
Its like a type of writers block, except it aects every kind of project from website designs to wedding planning
to interior design.
The problem is geCng that iniDal spark that will subsequently lead to all the other ideas coming through like an
avalanche. Its about going from nothing to something and pulling that something eecDvely out of thin air.
But designers and arDsts who do this sort of thing for a living need a way to reliably overcome this problem on a
consistent basis. One tool they use to this end is the moodboard. Lets take a look at what that is and how it can
help you.
What is a moodboard?
EssenDally, a moodboard is a type of collage. This means youll be taking dierent images and arranging them on a
single page. They can be cuCngs, or they can be snapshots taken from websites. The idea is to nd everything
thats related to the topic or thing youre trying to create.
So, if you were making a website for a tness company, you might create your collage using screenshots of other
tness company websites, imagery related to tness that could inspire a logo, inspiraDonal photos of people
working out, etc. Collect as many things that inspire you as possible, and from there, you should have a single
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page full of inspiraDon.

Why moodboards are so eecLve
When youre looking for an abstract direcDon for a design or project that you cant quite put into words,
moodboards oer the perfect soluDon. When you have all these things arranged on a single page, you should
start to noDce that common themes and ideas start to emerge. This, in turn, should allow you to start geCng a
feel for the direcDon that you want to take for your site.
You arent copying the imagery youve taken. Instead, youre combining it into something unique but inspired by
the best examples in your niche.
This actually corresponds nicely with the way we know that creaDvity works, by combining exisDng ideas to create
something new. If you can take all your inspiraDon and put it in one place, you should nd that ideas start owing
and you overcome that creaDve block!

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Wise Words About Inspiration

I dream my painDng and I paint my dream.

Vincent van Gogh
While I take inspiraDon from the past, like most Americans, I live for the future.
Ronald Reagan
We're taught to be ashamed of confusion, anger, fear and sadness, and to me they're of equal value to
happiness, excitement and inspiraDon.
Alanis Morissefe
You can't wait for inspiraDon. You have to go aKer it with a club.
Jack London
InspiraDon exists, but it has to nd us working.
Pablo Picasso

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Common Causes of Pressure

There are numerous situaDons that cause pressure. We usually think of causes of pressure as being negaDve, such
as a rocky relaDonship or an exhausDng work schedule. However, anything which puts high demands on you or
forces you to adjust can cause pressure. This includes posiDve events such as purchasing a house, receiving a
promoDon, geCng married or going to college. Pressure can also be self-generated, for example when you have
pessimisDc thoughts about life. What cause pressure depends, at least in part, on your percepDon of it. Below are
some causes of pressure.
1. Money
Financial trouble is a common cause of pressure. Rent, not being able to make ends meet, or credit card debt can
put a serious amount of pressure on a person. In this society, where a lot of emphasis is on what youve and what
you can aord, nancial pressure is something that almost everyone can relate to.
2. RelaLonships
Arguments with a parent, child or a spouse can increase stress. When you live together, the pressure may feel
compounded. Issues among members of family or relaDves, even if you are not directly involved can cause
addiDonal pressure.
3. ProcrasLnaLon
Everybody procrasDnates for dierent reasons. However, in many causes, many of us despair because we feel
overwhelmed or scared of what we need to do. This can develop frustraDon and unnecessary pressure. Instead of
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tackling a thought-provoking project in stages, people try doing the enDre project at once. We should be proud of
ourselves for every accomplishment we make, regardless of how li5le it is.
4. PercepLons and Altudes
How you view a parDcular situaDon or the world can determine whether it causes stress. For example, people
who think that they are doing a great job at work will have less pressure out by a huge upcoming project than
those who worry that theyre incompetent or incapable.
5. Uncertainty and Fear
Fear and uncertainty can hit closer to home , such being worried that you will not nish a project at work or won
t have enough money to pay your monthly bills. This makes you feel like you have no control over those events
and this can be a major cause of pressure.
6. CogniLve Dissonance
When theres a split between what we think and what we do, we do experience dissonance that is felt as
pressure. Dissonance also occurs when we fail to meet our obligaDons. Most of us believe we are commi5ed and
honest, but when situaDons prevent us from meeDng our obligaDons we are all faced with possibility of being
seen as incapable thus generaDng a lot of pressure.

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The Keys to Understanding Pressure

It's easy enough to give the dicDonary deniDon of pressure. We know that it is a feeling of intense urgency
caused by an impending task. But what does that really mean? And how does pressure aect the way that we
work? Most importantly, how can we cope with pressure in order to keep from geCng stressed? The dicDonary
won't tell you any of that, but they're all keys to understanding pressure.
What is Pressure?
First and foremost, pressure is a psychological feeling. Just like anger and sadness, we feel pressure someDmes
when it's appropriate and other Dmes when it doesn't seem to be. Healthy amounts of pressure can help us to
work more eciently and eecDvely, moDvaDng us to do our very best. Unhealthy amounts of pressure, or
feelings of pressure at Dmes when it's not really there, can cause us to lock up nervously, siCng around and
procrasDnaDng unDl the very last minute. The chances are good that you've felt both types of pressure before.
What Does Pressure Do?
Pressure does dierent things to dierent people, it's a complicated feeling. For some people pressure raises their
heart rate, causes sweaDng and nervousness, and leads to stress. Stress intensies the feelings of pressure and
can cause a feedback loop that leaves us feeling u5erly worthless and unable to complete the task at hand.
AlternaDvely, pressure can be seen as a challenge. It can moDvate us to do our very best work. Pressure can be
seen as a challenge to rise above, or as an opportunity to deliver on a dicult assignment. Believe it or not, it's
largely up to you which kind of pressure you feel.
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The key to feeling pressure as a posiDve all lays in your coping skills. If you know how to handle pressure, that can
go a long way toward understanding pressure and rising above it. For some people, handling pressure is as simple
as doing a few deep breathing exercises. On the other end of the spectrum, some people with situaDonal anxiety
need therapy and occasionally medicaDon to handle pressure and stress. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle.
That means that it's possible to build coping skills to handle pressure. On this site, there is a list of dierent things
you can try, but the most important thing is to distract yourself when you're feeling stressed. Stress is negaDve
pressure that we place on ourselves when things seem hopeless. Strive to feel pressure as a posiDve factor, as a
challenge, and you'll not only understand pressure but you'll be able to rise above it.

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Three Easy Ways to Reduce Pressure

When you have an insurmountable amount of pressure in your life, it can feel as if you are carrying a large burden
on your back that can really slow you down when it comes to achieving your goals.
Fortunately however, like most of the problems in life that we will come across, pressure is all in our minds. As
such, there are some things you can do to change your percepDon of the situaDon which will result in the release
of pressure from your life.
1) Don't Strive To Be A PerfecLonist
Many people agree that the whole concept of a5empDng to be a perfecDonist is pre5y pointless. By striving to
ensure that everything goes exactly the way you want it do, ulDmately you will be seCng yourself up for future
failure as well as to put unnecessarily pressure on yourself as well. This has a counterproducDve eect which will
essenDally reduce your ability to do an excellent job.
That isn't to say that you shouldn't strive to complete the job in a Dme ecient manner, however, you should be
aware of the fact that obstacles or shortcomings may manifest themselves. As such, as opposed to striving to be a
perfecDonist, understand that you may experience a few shortcomings here and there.
The most important thing to remember is that you shouldn't let them aect your performance.
2) Forget About What Others Think
Most of the pressure that you're experiencing may be due to the fact that you're overly concerned about the
opinions of others. But as a wise man once said, the trick isnt to avoid hurDng, the trick is to not mind that that it
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hurts. The same thing can be said about the opinions or validaDon of others: the trick isn't to change the way they
think or to gain their validaDon, the trick is to not care about what they think. As far as pressure goes, the trick
isn't to see how you can prevent yourself from experience pressure, because you will, the trick is to not mind that
you're experiencing pressure and as such, you will release it.
3) Just Do It
One of the interesDng things about pressure is that it has a way of trapping us in a state of procrasDnaDon. We
may experience so much pressure, that we simply do not know where to begin. As such, we strive to focus on
other things or in essence, procrasDnate as opposed to focusing on the task at hand. However, by "just doing it", it
can help to stop overthinking as well as to get you out of a state of procrasDnaDon.

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Wise Words About Pressure

Pressure makes diamonds

George S. Pafon Jr.
Courage is grace under pressure.
Ernest Hemingway
Pressure is something you feel when you don't know what you're doing.
Chuck Noll
When we long for life without diculDes, remind us that oaks grow strong in contrary winds
Peter Marshall
The only pressure Im under is the pressure Ive put on myself.
Mark Messier

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LEADERSHIP
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Top 7 Traits of a True Leader

There are some common traits found in a powerful leader. You may already have some of these traits and others
can be developed if a goal in your life is to become a true leader. Remember, you dont have to want to lead an
army to reap the benets of learning leadership skills.
The top seven traits of a true leader include:
1. Knowing when to delegate tasks. An important skill for a leader to learn delegaDng to others means that
you must idenDfy the strengths and weaknesses of those on your team and capitalize on the strengths by
passing out tasks accordingly.
2. Maintain a posiLve altude. Keeping your team upbeat and opDmisDc means that you must maintain a
posiDve aCtude and present an energeDc front. There must be producDvity to meet goals, but you should
be able to balance the working hours with some fun Dmes. When those around you see your posiDve
aCtude, it will rub o.
3. Be ethical and honest. Hold yourself and those who work with you to a high level of honesty and ethical
conduct. Your family and followers are reecDons of you, so if you pracDce honest and ethical behavior,
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4. Ability to communicate. Ronald Reagan was known as The Great Communicator, and looking back at his
lifestyle, its easy to understand why. He was able to clearly explain and focus on what needed to be done
and express it in a way that was understood. If you have trouble communicaDng, read books or take a
course in achieving be5er communicaDon skills.
5. Ability to commit. George Pa5on, commanding general in World War II was a soldier who got up close and
personal to those under his command. He fought in the trenches and made it a point to be wherever his
men were experiencing diculty. As a leader, you must make a commitment to lead by example.
6. Maintain a sense of humor. The day to day business of being a leader can wear you down, but if you
maintain a sense of humor through the discouraging Dmes, your followers will maintain higher morale.
7. CreaLvity. A leader should have the ability to change from a path theyre on to another path by taking a
creaDve stance. SomeDmes, the decision involves how youre guiding others, but whatever the reason,
creaDvity helps everyone work toward the goal youre seeking.
You need to become a true leader of yourself if you want to accomplish great things or even meet small goals.
Leading your family through trials and tribulaDons is another reason to know how to lead. If your aspiraDon is to
become CEO of your own company, its vitally important that you know how to lead.

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What is Your Leadership Style?

Knowing your leadership style can help you in many areas of your life and career choices. Styles of leadership
dier from person to person and involve your style of implemenDng strategies, how you moDvate others and how
you provide direcDon to followers. Some styles of leadership to study are:
1. PaternalisLc As you might have guessed, the paternalisDc style of leadership is becoming a father gure
for your followers whether family or work-oriented. The paternalisDc style of leadership promotes trust
and loyalty and followers tend to become commi5ed to the person.
2. Laissez-faire A leadership style where the rule of thumb is hands o. This leader lets the workers and
subordinates make all the decisions and only oer support when its requested. The Laissez-faire worker/
leader relaDonship may be eecDve in certain cases such as in an environment where the workers are
very skilled and/or educated and where the followers can be trusted.
3. Authoritarian Strictness is the style of this type of leader. They may micromanage because they prefer to
keep close control over their followers. Policies and procedures are the main emphasis of the Authoritarian
leadership style and the focus is on eciency.
4. DemocraLc Decision making is shared with followers in this type of leadership style. PromoDng the
desires and needs of group members is paramount and the leader believes that everyone should play a part
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in every decision made.

5. TransformaLonal This type of leader has the objecDve of transforming his or her followers. These leaders
may be very charismaDc (such as evangelists or poliDcal leaders) and meet challenges with excitement and
a clear purpose. Theyre great communicators and may oKen be found in top roles of leadership.
6. TransacLonal The focus of this leadership style is on moDvaDng through rewards or forms of punishment.
These leaders recognize good performances and may provide material or psychological rewards for eort.
They may also use correcDve intervenDon if they feel that a workers performance isnt up to par.
TransacDonal leaders are good at enforcing rules and laws.
When you know your style of leadership, you can be5er have a vision of the work you may be suited for. If you
decide youre a laissez-faire type of leader, you likely wouldnt be happy in a career suited for an authoritarian
style (such as policeman or judge).
Knowing your leadership style is especially helpful if youre considering making a career change or taking courses
which put you on a certain career path. Get to know the various leadership styles before you make a crucial lifedecision.

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5 Common Mistakes Leaders Make

Leaders are prone to take risks and those risks may cause others to see them as losers, especially if the leaders
dont have full knowledge of what the endeavor consists of before they become involved. Some mistakes come
from thinking so radically that its impossible to know how taking a chance will turn out. If it turns out well, the
leader is a hero. If not, serious consequences may be the result.
There are some common mistakes made among most leaders that are avoidable if you know some leadership
strategies. Here are ve common mistakes which can and should be avoided if youre in a leadership role:
1. Focusing on tasks rather than reaching the ulDmate goal. Focusing too much on busy work can keep you
from geCng the results you want and desire from a team. Great leaders tend to focus on the end results
being reached more than looking or being busy at all Dmes.
2. Checking up on employees rather than engaging them. Make it a point to get to know your team members
and engage them in conversaDon which can pinpoint what makes them Dck. Its important to get your
vision across, and you cant do that if you merely check in once in a while.
3. Dont sDck to your own leadership style. You can learn from other leaders in history and in your business,
but dont mimic them when it comes to your leadership style. Develop your own and sDck to it to become a
leader who stands out from the others.
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4. Resist change. Many leaders tend to do what theyve always done in terms of leading. One reason is that
theyre too overwhelmed with the complex tasks and responsibiliDes that leaders must take on. If you want
your business or team to prosper and grow, take some Dme to expose yourself to new ideas that will impact
your leadership ability in a posiDve way.
5. Hire people too fast to ll a slot. Hiring someone just to ll a void isnt a good way to build a team you can
count on. Youll invest Dme and eort in managing the new hire, but may eventually need to let him go if
you nd youve made a mistake in hiring. True leaders take their Dme when hiring and make sure they can
complete the work and grow along with the company or team.
Know whats expected of you in the leadership posiDon. You cant lead others if you dont know what youre
striving for, so be sure youre clear and focused on the vision rather than the small tasks of the job.

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Wise Words About Leadership

"The task of the leader is to get his people from where they are to where they have not been."
Henry Kissinger
"Never give an order that can't be obeyed."
General Douglas MacArthur
"To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart."
Eleanor Roosevelt
"Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage with others."
Robert Louis Stevenson

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MOMENTUM
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What is Momentum and How Can It Work in Your Life?

The scienDc theory of momentum can work similarly in your own life and to help you reach goals. The same facts
which can liK a jet plane o the ground can liK you out of a stagnant life and put you in a world where posiDve
things happen and you reach the success you desire.
The scienDc theory of momentum is Mass x Velocity = Momentum. Youve probably seen trucks barreling down
the highway at rapid speeds and the results of hiCng a slick spot in the road. The faster the truck is speeding,
the more dicult it is to slow it down.
It takes powerful brakes to slow that truck aKer it gathers a certain amount of momentum. Its the same
momentum that gets a jet plane o the ground and the same momentum that gets a train to its desDnaDon on
Dme.
As momentum relates to your life once you gather momentum and keep it going, its going to be dicult to stop
the forward moDon youve created. In the beginning many things can throw you o track, but when youve
worked for a period of Dme, momentum builds and can propel you on to success.
Momentum can make you successful in many areas of your life if you have weight to lose, it becomes easier to
keep losing weight aKer youve lost a few pounds. Your mind is set, your habits of eaDng and exercising have
improved and you have fewer doubts that youll reach the nish line.
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In relaDonships, momentum can work to establish commitment and sharing with others. RelaDonships are fragile
and must be nourished and nurtured consistently to bring about the results you want.
Work related momentum can guide you through the maze of climbing the corporate ladder or beginning a
business and making a success of it. No one wants to be stuck in a going-nowhere job, and you need to
recognize when momentum just isnt working and make a decision to move forward in another area or career.
Learn all you can about momentum and how the scienDc principle can be used in all areas of your life. Once the
wheels start turning, it will be dicult to stop you achieving what you set out to do.

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The Unstoppable Power of Momentum

Have you ever thought about what it would mean to have the power of momentum in every aspect of your life?
Your career would surely soar, relaDonships would thrive and youd prosper in your nances because momentum
would be helping you achieve every goal you have in life.
You may have once had incredible excitement and enthusiasm about a goal in your life only to have it shot down
in mid-air. What happened? Why couldnt you accomplish what your mind wanted so much to complete?
If this has happened to you, you should ask yourself a number of quesDons about your aCtude and abiliDes
before you a5empted to meet the challenge. Renowned speaker and moDvator, Tony Robbins, stated: The most
important thing you can do to achieve your goals is to make sure that as soon as you set them, you immediately
begin to create momentum.
Did you immediately begin to create momentum when you decided on a goal in your life or did you
procrasDnate, lose condence, and become inDmidated by the challenge or other reason? Unless momentum is
begun and kept moving along, resistance sets in and destroys the headway youve made.
Momentum can be unstoppable in your life if you understand its power. If youve ever sat on the beach and
watched surfers catch a giant wave, you realized there was a phenomenal power behind the acDon of the surfer
with the wave. Catching that wave at just the right Dme, propelled him on to the end of the waves journey.
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CreaDng momentum at just the right Dmes in your life can propel you on to the success youve always dreamed of.
It can become an unstoppable force in your life and help you create some posiDve changes in your lifestyle.
Momentum can be used in virtually every part of your life. You can change bad habits into good ones, help put a
shaky relaDonship back on track and move forward in your career or business path to success.
A snowball can turn into an avalanche if it gathers enough force along the way and although an avalanche can
cause damage, the same force in your mental and physical acDons can propel you ahead to all good things.
The sheer force of the momentum you create will also mean that youll turn into a fast-moving machine. Youll
gain more condence just as a snowball gathers more snow and there wont be anything you cant achieve.

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5 Simple Exercises to Create Daily Momentum in Your

Business

How dierent would your business look if you added the power of momentum every day? If you own your own
business, its especially important that you create and gather all the momentum you can to help set your
reputaDon as honest because you deal with others fairly and accurately.
You may not need momentum to simply hang up a shingle and call yourself a business-person, but if you want to
realize success and create a solid business, base momentum is essenDal.
Below are ve important acDons you can take to ensure your business success:
1. Understand your present situaLon. Youve got to honestly and accurately assess your present business
situaDon to get to the next level of business success. Take some Dme to evaluate your income, customers
and bills so that you have a good understanding of where you are now so you can focus on which things you
might improve upon.
2. Visualize your success. Where do you want your business to be a year from now how about ve years
from now? Research some challenges you might face when a5empDng to grow your business and address
how youre going to handle (minimize) them. Before momentum can help you become successful, you have
to visualize what the success looks like.
3. IniLate a plan. AKer you understand the background of your business, look to the future and create a plan
of acDon which will propel you ahead of where you are right now. You wouldnt think of beginning a
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journey without looking at a map rst (or carrying your GPS) and you shouldnt think of expanding your
business without rst implemenDng a good plan.
4. Take acLon. Momentum will never take you o the ground oor if you dont take some decisive steps to
complete your goals and dreams of success. Your master plan should consist of large goals broken down
into small ones. CompleDng one small goal will create the momentum you need to go on to the next and
so on.
5. Never stop. No ma5er how discouraged you become, insert posiDve thoughts and acDons in place of the
negaDve ones and keep on the path with your momentum pushing you forward.
Rather than self-sabotaging your business success by limiDng yourself with fears and doubt, vow to become
determined in your quest for success and do what it takes to get where you want to be.

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Wise Words About Momentum

One way to keep momentum going is to have constantly greater goals.

Michael Korda
The world is wide, and I will not waste my life in fricDon when it could be turned into momentum.
Frances E. Willard
Enthusiasm is the energy and force that builds literal momentum of the human soul and mind.
Bryant H. McGill
SomeDmes thinking too much can destroy your momentum.
Tom Watson
GeCng momentum going is the most dicult part of the job.
Robert J. McKain

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ASSERTIVENESS

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How Assertive are You?

An important part of life skills is the development of asserDveness. Without it, you could feel disrespected or
disregarded in relaDonships and career paths. AsserDveness is all about feeling condent in your ideas, thoughts
and beliefs that you can ask or demand what you want in a calm and eecDve manner.
AsserDveness is also about refusing to accept what you dont want. For example, if someone cuts in front of you
at the supermarket, do you call them on it or just keep quiet? If you dont speak up, you probably leave the store
feeling angry and frustrated.
If youre an aggressive personality, you may react to the same situaDon by becoming over-angry and shouDng at
the person who cut in line. That type of behavior is unacceptable and can cause serious conict.
You may have problems being asserDve with those in authority for example, parents, bosses or others who you
feel are above you. You may not have the condence to speak up around these people for fear that youll lose
your job or be looked at as confrontaDonal.
Ask yourself the following quesDons to gauge how asserDve you are:
Do you speak up when you disagree with someone?
Do you do whats right even though it goes against what others are doing?
Would you remind a person about money they borrowed and need to pay back?
Can you ask for help if needed?
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 Can you tell people when youre disappointed in them?

Do you tell someone if theyve hurt your feelings?
If someone is consistently late, do you tell him how it makes you feel?
Can you refuse if someone asks you to do something wrong?
Think about people whom you really admire? Chances are they display the honorable quality of being asserDve
when needed. Theres a ne line between aggressiveness and asserDveness, but the consequences may be farreaching.
Common sense can lead you away from being too aggressive so that feelings are hurt and relaDonships are lost.
As you pracDce asserDveness in your daily life, youll become more adept at knowing when and where the line is
crossed and being able to avoid it.
Learn all you can about asserDveness and apply the lessons where needed in your life. The self-esteem that comes
from standing up for yourself and demanding that your rights be respected can transform your life and lead you to
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You Can Learn to be Assertive

Are you Dred of leCng others take advantage of you? It could happen at work or when someone cuts in front of
you at the supermarket. Youre irritated, but dont say anything and the anger and frustraDon builds to a boiling
point.
If youre passive that anger and frustraDon never escapes your body and may cause health problems. If youre
aggressive, the anger and frustraDon may end with you being abusive to a pet or loved one.
You can learn to become more asserDve, speak up for yourself and become more condent. But rst, you need
the asserDveness skills that will help you be surer of yourself and the acDons you want to take.
Become an Advocate for You!
The rst step in becoming more asserDve is to decide to become your own advocate. That means you have to
assert yourself in your job, with friends and family and others who may disrespect you.
Its someDmes scary to stand up for yourself especially when youre afraid of losing your job or a special
relaDonship. Even though it can someDmes be a challenge, having your own back will make you happier and help
you live life on your own terms.
There are three main ingredients to developing asserDveness skills and becoming your own advocate:
1. Know what you want.
2. Believe that its your right to have it.
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3. Express it with courage and determinaDon.

Learning to say no is one of the hardest things to overcome when asserDng yourself eecDvely. Friends and
family, spouses and your job may have taken advantage of you for years and youve been trained to say yes to
every request, even though it may mean youre overworked and under-appreciated.
When you become an advocate for yourself, youre actually befriending yourself and when you become your own
BFF, good things will begin to happen. Youll be able to sDck to your beliefs and values because you dont want to
let yourself down.
When you break the destrucDve pa5erns of passiveness or aggressiveness, youll be amazing at the new sense of
freedom and the posiDve outcomes youll gain when you sDck up for yourself in a healthy manner.
Becoming asserDve in your personal and working life is the most important tool you can culDvate for your
ulDmate success. Its the ability to state your wants and needs clearly and share your feelings calmly, but forcefully
to get what you want.
Learn to become asserDve and love the freedom and self-condence it brings to your life.

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How to Set Personal Boundaries

If you have trouble taking up for yourself and saying no when needed, you may need to think about seCng
personal boundaries which will protect you from those who would take advantage of you.
SeCng personal boundaries is the top method you can use to improve your life. By standing up for yourself, youll
gain self-esteem and freedom from trying to please everyone.
You may have trouble in the beginning to assert yourself and set personal boundaries especially if youve been
passive in the past. If youve been aggressive, you may have handled boundaries with anger and lashing out.
Dealing with boundaries with passive or aggressive methods isnt good behavior.
Some of the issues you need to deal with before beginning to stand up for your personal boundaries include the
following:
1. Know your boundaries. Be clear with yourself about your beliefs and values what makes you feel
uncomfortable and how you now handle situaDons which compromise your boundaries.
2. Use clear and concise language. AKer you know your boundaries, assert yourself by using clear language
about how you feel when boundaries are being crossed.
3. Dont be a yes man. Part of seCng boundaries is knowing when to say no to people you work with and
in your personal sphere of family and friends. You lose your personal freedom when you take on too much.

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4. Pay afenLon to your internal boundaries. If someone oends or disrespects you, ask yourself if what was
said is true. Your internal boundaries are lines drawn within yourself which prevent you from believing
everything someone says about you.
5. Know your rights. You shouldnt feel guilty about expressing yourself and asking for what you need in a
respecoul manner. You have every right to demand that youre treated fairly and with respect in all areas of
your life.
Begin seCng personal boundaries by using simple and direct statements in a non-threatening tone. You may feel
uncomfortable for a while, but youll soon feel a power that will make you stronger and more adept at drawing
lines at behaviors you will accept or not accept from others.
You dont need to debate the issues of your boundaries or explain yourself to others. Be rm and consistent in
repeaDng your requests or statements and reinforce your acDons by staying determined.
You may need to overcome guilt feelings when you begin to set personal boundaries. Remember that you should
rst consider yourself in any dealings and make yourself the priority rather than someone elses beliefs and
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Wise Words About Assertiveness

The dierence between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to
almost everything.
Warren Buef

I encourage people to remember that "no" is a complete sentence.

Gavin de Becker

Choose to be pro-acDve, asserDve and self-dening.

Bryant McGill

There are always Dmes when self-asserDveness requires courage

Nathaniel Branden

AsserDveness is your ability to act in harmony with your self-esteem without hurDng others.
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THE END?

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An ending is oKen the beginning.

Now that you have worked your way through this book - you should have acDonable steps to take so that you can
truly become a be5er you.
Your next steps:
Work your way through this guide again, but this Dme jot down three goals for each secDon. These goals should
be specic steps that you can take to increase your ability in each of the secDons.
As an example, for the passion secDon you could make it a goal to write down 3 things you are passionate about.
That one goal might not sound like a game changer, but it is just one small part of a whole.
If you write down 3 goals like that for each of the ten secDons then you will have an easy to follow blueprint that
will tell you exactly what you have to do to become a be5er you.
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Your Better-You Goals

3 Goals to Help Me Become More Passionate:
1. __________________________________________________________________________________________

2. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3 Goals to Help Me Become More OpLmisLc:

1. __________________________________________________________________________________________

2. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3. __________________________________________________________________________________________
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3 Goals to Help Me Become Happier:

1. __________________________________________________________________________________________

2. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3 Goals to Help Me Become More Condent:

1. __________________________________________________________________________________________

2. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3. __________________________________________________________________________________________

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3 Goals to Help Me Become More PosiLve:

1. __________________________________________________________________________________________

2. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3 Goals to Help Me Find What Inspires Me:

1. __________________________________________________________________________________________

2. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3. __________________________________________________________________________________________

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3 Goals to Help Me Befer Deal With Pressure:

1. __________________________________________________________________________________________

2. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3 Goals to Help Me Become A Befer Leader:

1. __________________________________________________________________________________________

2. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3. __________________________________________________________________________________________

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3 Goals to Help Me Build Personal Momentum

1. __________________________________________________________________________________________

2. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3 Goals to Help Me Become More AsserLve:

1. __________________________________________________________________________________________

2. __________________________________________________________________________________________

3. __________________________________________________________________________________________

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A Month Until A Better You

CongratulaDons on wriDng down 3 goals for each secDon. Simply wriDng down your goals is a very powerful
exercise. So few people do it, that you instantly gain an edge as soon as you put pen to paper.
You might not have noDced as you were wriDng your goals, but the 3 goals per secDon was chosen for a reason.
You now have 30 goals. That is basically a month. If you work on one of these goals each day - you will have
completed your list in a month.

Think about it - a be5er you in just a month. What could be be5er>

You dont have to work through your goals that quickly though. The important thing is that you work through
them as soon as you can. As long as your pace is steady, and you keep the momentum rolling, you will do great.
Best of luck - I hope you look forward to meeDng the be5er you.

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