The​ ​INFJ  Perhaps​ ​you’re​ ​not​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​but​ ​another​ ​type.​ ​This​ ​book​ ​can​ ​still​ ​hold 

Wise,​ ​Kind,​ ​Idealistic,​ ​Private​ ​&​ ​Independent​ ​Leaders  answers​ ​for​ ​you.​ ​It​ ​can​ ​get​ ​you​ ​thinking​ ​about​ ​what​ ​you​ ​need,​ ​in 
  comparison​ ​to​ ​the​ ​INFJ.​ ​Sometimes,​ ​there’s​ ​similarities​ ​with​ ​us​ ​and 
By​ ​Erik​ ​Thor 
other​ ​types.​ ​INFPs​ ​may​ ​relate​ ​to​ ​much​ ​that​ ​is​ ​mentioned​ ​in​ ​these 
 
Forewords  pages.​ ​ENFJs​ ​as​ ​well.​ ​INTJs​ ​too.​ ​ENFPs​ ​may​ ​find​ ​a​ ​great​ ​bouncing 
 
block​ ​for​ ​self-discovery,​ ​in​ ​their​ ​own​ ​personal​ ​rebellion​ ​against​ ​my 
I’ll​ ​keep​ ​this​ ​short​ ​and​ ​simple.​ ​Thank​ ​you​ ​all​ ​for​ ​supporting​ ​my​ ​works. 
words,​ ​they​ ​may​ ​hear​ ​plenty​ ​of​ ​insights​ ​that​ ​they​ ​can​ ​use​ ​to​ ​improve 
We​ ​hit​ ​5000​ ​subscribers​ ​on​ ​youtube​ ​by​ ​November​ ​2017.​ ​That’s 
their​ ​own​ ​life.​ ​At​ ​least,​ ​that’s​ ​my​ ​hope.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​handbook​ ​is​ ​meant 
amazing.​ ​The​ ​website​ ​is​ ​doing​ ​great,​ ​with​ ​1200​ ​people​ ​checking​ ​in 
to​ ​be​ ​a​ ​handbook​ ​for​ ​everyone.​ ​In​ ​it,​ ​there​ ​are​ ​echoes​ ​that​ ​go​ ​beyond 
every​ ​day.​ ​The​ ​community​ ​is​ ​awesome.​ ​I’m​ ​surrounded​ ​by​ ​so​ ​many 
being​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​and​ ​all​ ​the​ ​way​ ​into​ ​what​ ​it​ ​means​ ​to​ ​be​ ​human.​ ​I​ ​hope 
brilliant,​ ​funny,​ ​and​ ​good​ ​hearted​ ​people.​ ​I’m​ ​really​ ​happy​ ​to​ ​have​ ​you 
you​ ​like​ ​it. 
all​ ​in​ ​my​ ​life.​ ​Yeah,​ ​you’re​ ​in​ ​my​ ​life​ ​now.​ ​In​ ​my​ ​books,​ ​my​ ​pages,​ ​and 
 
my​ ​words.​ ​People​ ​have​ ​that​ ​effect​ ​on​ ​me​ ​in​ ​which,​ ​all​ ​they​ ​have​ ​to​ ​do 
Introduction 
is​ ​say​ ​hello,​ ​and​ ​then​ ​they’re​ ​with​ ​me​ ​forever.​ ​As​ ​a​ ​small​ ​soft​ ​voice​ ​in   
All​ ​humans​ ​have​ ​this​ ​fascinating​ ​myth​ ​behind​ ​them.​ ​Think​ ​about​ ​it. 
my​ ​head,​ ​my​ ​own​ ​personal​ ​“collective​ ​unconscious.”​ ​I’m​ ​giving​ ​this 
Imagine​ ​any​ ​person​ ​you’ve​ ​met​ ​recently,​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be​ ​a​ ​friend,​ ​or​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be 
e-book​ ​away​ ​for​ ​free.  
someone​ ​who​ ​annoys​ ​you​ ​at​ ​work.​ ​Now​ ​imagine​ ​this​ ​person​ ​as 
 
someone​ ​heroic.​ ​Someone​ ​who​ ​did​ ​something​ ​truly​ ​great,​ ​brave, 
Now​ ​you​ ​have​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​handbook.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​who​ ​walks​ ​their​ ​own 
wise,​ ​kind,​ ​someone​ ​truly​ ​remarkable.​ ​We​ ​should​ ​be​ ​asking​ ​ourselves 
path.​ ​The​ ​goal​ ​is​ ​to​ ​provide​ ​a​ ​discussion​ ​on​ ​what​ ​the​ ​healthy​ ​and 
what​ ​the​ ​potential​ ​is​ ​of​ ​our​ ​friends​ ​and​ ​family,​ ​we​ ​should​ ​see​ ​what 
happy​ ​and​ ​self-realised​ ​INFJ​ ​looks​ ​like.​ ​It​ ​outlines​ ​challenges​ ​and 
they​ ​could​ ​become​ ​and​ ​what​ ​they​ ​could​ ​do​ ​if​ ​they​ ​came​ ​to​ ​develop 
struggles​ ​we​ ​face​ ​and​ ​starts​ ​a​ ​discussion​ ​on​ ​how​ ​we​ ​can​ ​deal​ ​with​ ​it. 
and​ ​recognise​ ​their​ ​own​ ​strength.​ ​The​ ​problem​ ​is​ ​that​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​people 
Only​ ​25​ ​years​ ​into​ ​life,​ ​I’ve​ ​only​ ​scratched​ ​the​ ​surface.  
attracted​ ​to​ ​studying​ ​and​ ​understanding​ ​themselves​ ​are​ ​quite​ ​far 
from​ ​this​ ​ideal.​ ​It​ ​was​ ​only​ ​because​ ​I​ ​got​ ​burnt​ ​out​ ​that​ ​I​ ​decided​ ​that  what​ ​was​ ​wrong​ ​with​ ​me,​ ​the​ ​question​ ​became,​ ​how​ ​was​ ​I​ ​right?​ ​And 
I​ ​needed​ ​to​ ​know​ ​myself​ ​better.​ ​I​ ​had​ ​hit​ ​my​ ​limits,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​made​ ​me  if​ ​there​ ​is​ ​anything​ ​I​ ​would​ ​like​ ​to​ ​tell​ ​INFJs​ ​and​ ​their​ ​friends​ ​and 
realise​ ​that​ ​there​ ​was​ ​an​ ​I,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​it​ ​actually​ ​had​ ​limits.   family​ ​it​ ​is​ ​this:​ ​this​ ​is​ ​a​ ​book​ ​on​ ​what​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​needs​ ​to​ ​be​ ​happy, 
  healthy,​ ​and​ ​functional​ ​in​ ​our​ ​modern​ ​society.  
Initially,​ ​my​ ​goal​ ​was​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​what​ ​these​ ​limits​ ​were.​ ​And​ ​so,   
my​ ​focus​ ​on​ ​self-awareness​ ​was​ ​constantly​ ​focused​ ​on​ ​identifying​ ​my  When​ ​we​ ​ignore​ ​this​ ​ideal,​ ​or​ ​put​ ​on​ ​masks,​ ​we​ ​become​ ​like​ ​a​ ​badly 
problems,​ ​issues,​ ​and​ ​weaknesses.​ ​I​ ​think​ ​I​ ​was​ ​far​ ​too​ ​negative​ ​in  oiled​ ​engine,​ ​or​ ​an​ ​overly​ ​greasy​ ​gear,​ ​or​ ​an​ ​out​ ​of​ ​tune​ ​piano.​ ​How 
how​ ​I​ ​studied​ ​myself,​ ​focusing​ ​mainly​ ​on​ ​overcoming​ ​issues,​ ​traumas,  you​ ​feel​ ​about​ ​being​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​all​ ​related​ ​to​ ​your​ ​skill​ ​at​ ​playing​ ​your 
and​ ​gaining​ ​insight​ ​into​ ​bad​ ​experiences.​ ​And​ ​overtime,​ ​my​ ​study​ ​of  own​ ​piano.​ ​Chances​ ​are,​ ​you’ve​ ​been​ ​taught​ ​all​ ​the​ ​wrong​ ​things 
the​ ​self​ ​became​ ​a​ ​more​ ​negative​ ​experience​ ​than​ ​I​ ​had​ ​intended.​ ​I  about​ ​what​ ​all​ ​the​ ​different​ ​keys​ ​do.​ ​Truth​ ​is,​ ​most​ ​of​ ​us​ ​have​ ​had​ ​bad 
think​ ​I​ ​ended​ ​up​ ​seeing​ ​my​ ​personality​ ​type,​ ​INFJ,​ ​as​ ​something  teachers,​ ​that​ ​did​ ​not​ ​know​ ​or​ ​understand​ ​us.​ ​In​ ​the​ ​end,​ ​the​ ​best 
negative,​ ​a​ ​curse​ ​or​ ​something​ ​I​ ​had​ ​to​ ​overcome.​ ​I​ ​think​ ​I​ ​even  teacher,​ ​the​ ​one​ ​with​ ​all​ ​the​ ​right​ ​answers,​ ​is​ ​somewhere​ ​within​ ​you.  
fantasised​ ​about​ ​becoming​ ​another,​ ​more​ ​functional​ ​personality   
type.​ ​But​ ​alas,​ ​I​ ​am​ ​just​ ​the​ ​same​ ​person​ ​today​ ​as​ ​when​ ​I​ ​started,​ ​just  The​ ​ideal​ ​we​ ​envision​ ​can​ ​feel​ ​heavy​ ​to​ ​carry:​ ​and​ ​we​ ​can​ ​grow 
hopefully​ ​a​ ​little​ ​more​ ​wise​ ​and​ ​accepting.​ ​I​ ​used​ ​to​ ​be​ ​so​ ​hard​ ​on  frustrated​ ​by​ ​our​ ​inability​ ​to​ ​reach​ ​the​ ​ideal​ ​we​ ​see​ ​for​ ​ourselves.​ ​But 
myself​ ​back​ ​in​ ​the​ ​days.   really,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​not​ ​the​ ​ideals​ ​that​ ​are​ ​heavy,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​the​ ​masks​ ​that​ ​are​ ​heavy. 
  There​ ​are​ ​so​ ​many​ ​masks​ ​we​ ​put​ ​on​ ​to​ ​“endure”​ ​when​ ​we​ ​should 
When​ ​I​ ​encountered​ ​american​ ​scholar​ ​Joseph​ ​Campbell​ ​I​ ​was​ ​taught  thrive.​ ​There​ ​are​ ​ideals,​ ​and​ ​then​ ​there​ ​are​ ​false,​ ​forced​ ​ideals.​ ​What 
many​ ​important​ ​things​ ​about​ ​the​ ​nature​ ​of​ ​being​ ​a​ ​hero.​ ​In​ ​going​ ​back  we​ ​have​ ​been​ ​taught​ ​by​ ​our​ ​education​ ​system,​ ​our​ ​parents,​ ​or​ ​the 
to​ ​old​ ​greek​ ​literature,​ ​I​ ​was​ ​also​ ​taught​ ​more​ ​and​ ​more​ ​lessons  people​ ​around.​ ​Duties​ ​we​ ​think​ ​we​ ​have​ ​to​ ​live​ ​up​ ​to,​ ​ways​ ​of​ ​life​ ​that 
about​ ​virtue,​ ​goodness,​ ​and​ ​happiness.​ ​Thanks​ ​to​ ​the​ ​old  make​ ​things​ ​unnecessarily​ ​difficult​ ​and,​ ​really,​ ​exhausting.​ ​We​ ​can 
philosophers,​ ​I​ ​began​ ​to​ ​ask​ ​myself​ ​important​ ​questions​ ​about​ ​what​ ​I  idealise​ ​being​ ​popular,​ ​being​ ​hyperproductive,​ ​being​ ​a​ ​go-getter,​ ​or 
needed​ ​to​ ​be​ ​happy,​ ​healthy,​ ​and​ ​positive.​ ​Instead​ ​of​ ​focusing​ ​on  winning​ ​the​ ​olympic​ ​championship.​ ​But​ ​it​ ​is​ ​important​ ​to​ ​ensure​ ​that 
your​ ​ideals​ ​are​ ​always​ ​internal,​ ​not​ ​externalised​ ​notions​ ​of​ ​what​ ​we  I​ ​believe​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​myth​ ​often​ ​aligns​ ​with​ ​the​ ​ideal​ ​of​ ​a​ ​Messiah​ ​figure, 
think​ ​other​ ​people​ ​want​ ​for​ ​you.​ ​To​ ​find​ ​the​ ​ideal,​ ​we​ ​need​ ​to​ ​step  with​ ​people​ ​sometimes​ ​portraying​ ​INFJs​ ​as​ ​the​ ​personality​ ​type​ ​that 
away​ ​from​ ​outside​ ​expectations,​ ​and​ ​into​ ​internal​ ​ones.​ ​Goals​ ​we  most​ ​closely​ ​follows​ ​the​ ​way​ ​of,​ ​say,​ ​a​ ​Jedi​ ​or​ ​Jesus​ ​like​ ​figure.​ ​INFJs 
have​ ​truly​ ​chosen​ ​for​ ​ourselves.   are​ ​sometimes,​ ​because​ ​of​ ​this​ ​ideal,​ ​confused​ ​to​ ​be​ ​almost 
  superhumanly​ ​ethical,​ ​wise,​ ​and​ ​almost​ ​magical.​ ​Gifted​ ​with​ ​the 
This​ ​can​ ​be​ ​a​ ​difficult​ ​experience​ ​at​ ​times,​ ​and​ ​perhaps​ ​we​ ​can​ ​never  ability​ ​of​ ​an​ ​empath​ ​to​ ​read​ ​human​ ​emotions,​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​often​ ​raised 
completely​ ​filter​ ​out​ ​influence​ ​from​ ​the​ ​outside.​ ​But​ ​we​ ​can​ ​get  up​ ​to​ ​an​ ​impossible​ ​piedestal.​ ​In​ ​almost​ ​every​ ​single​ ​article​ ​about 
closer,​ ​and​ ​closer,​ ​and​ ​closer,​ ​through​ ​introspection​ ​and​ ​honesty.​ ​At  INFJs​ ​that​ ​I​ ​have​ ​come​ ​across,​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​described​ ​as​ ​extremely​ ​rare. 
times,​ ​we​ ​may​ ​think​ ​that,​ ​to​ ​truly​ ​find​ ​it,​ ​we​ ​must​ ​give​ ​up​ ​on​ ​our​ ​place  This​ ​is​ ​based​ ​on​ ​American​ ​statistics,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​will​ ​discuss​ ​why​ ​in​ ​part,​ ​the 
in​ ​society.​ ​There​ ​are​ ​people​ ​who​ ​leave​ ​to​ ​become​ ​monks,​ ​selling​ ​all  notion​ ​of​ ​INFJ​ ​rarity​ ​is​ ​problematic,​ ​or​ ​at​ ​least​ ​more​ ​complicated 
their​ ​possessions​ ​and​ ​giving​ ​up​ ​their​ ​career​ ​ambitions​ ​to​ ​focus​ ​on  than​ ​we​ ​think.  
something​ ​more​ ​internal.​ ​That​ ​can​ ​help,​ ​for​ ​a​ ​time,​ ​but​ ​I​ ​think​ ​society,   
if​ ​we​ ​relate​ ​to​ ​it​ ​correctly,​ ​can​ ​aid​ ​personal​ ​understanding.​ ​It​ ​is​ ​often  First,​ ​let​ ​me​ ​tell​ ​you​ ​why​ ​this​ ​messiah​ ​ideal​ ​is​ ​problematic.​ ​And​ ​let​ ​me 
when​ ​we​ ​approach​ ​and​ ​step​ ​into​ ​various​ ​situations,​ ​such​ ​as  begin​ ​in​ ​the​ ​other​ ​end​ ​of​ ​the​ ​equation,​ ​by​ ​mentioning​ ​that​ ​INFJs​ ​are, 
relationships,​ ​work,​ ​and​ ​personal​ ​ambitions,​ ​that​ ​we​ ​realise​ ​who​ ​we  simultaneously​ ​as​ ​they​ ​are​ ​compared​ ​to​ ​Jesus,​ ​compared​ ​to​ ​“ultimate 
are.​ ​I​ ​am​ ​not​ ​so​ ​sure​ ​that​ ​the​ ​monks​ ​living​ ​in​ ​caves​ ​know​ ​more​ ​than  evil”​ ​figures​ ​such​ ​as​ ​Adolf​ ​Hitler​ ​and​ ​Osama​ ​Bin​ ​Laden.​ ​I​ ​often​ ​end​ ​up 
the​ ​busybodies​ ​driving​ ​Teslas​ ​and​ ​driving​ ​their​ ​kids​ ​to​ ​soccer  feeling​ ​like​ ​there​ ​is​ ​just​ ​such​ ​a​ ​loss​ ​of​ ​nuance​ ​in​ ​these​ ​images. 
practice.​ ​No,​ ​there​ ​are​ ​probably​ ​many​ ​ways​ ​to​ ​enlightenment.  Consider​ ​this:​ ​If​ ​Adolf​ ​Hitler,​ ​or​ ​Jesus​ ​for​ ​that​ ​example​ ​lived​ ​today, 
Actually,​ ​especially​ ​for​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​being​ ​able​ ​to​ ​translate​ ​that​ ​inner  both​ ​would​ ​have​ ​followers​ ​and​ ​critics.  
wisdom​ ​to​ ​actual​ ​life​ ​experience​ ​appears​ ​a​ ​key​ ​component​ ​of​ ​growth   
and​ ​happiness.   Why​ ​do​ ​we​ ​become​ ​associated​ ​with​ ​all​ ​these​ ​power​ ​figures?​ ​Because 
  we​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​have​ ​the​ ​highest​ ​symbolical​ ​capital​ ​of​ ​all​ ​personality 
types.​ ​INFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​become​ ​associated​ ​with​ ​the​ ​symbols​ ​of​ ​emerging 
change,​ ​humanist​ ​values​ ​and​ ​new​ ​ideas.​ ​When​ ​we​ ​look​ ​and​ ​point​ ​to  Actually,​ ​that​ ​happens​ ​all​ ​the​ ​time.​ ​Rude​ ​is​ ​often​ ​confused​ ​with 
the​ ​representatives​ ​of​ ​the​ ​future​ ​and​ ​new​ ​belief​ ​systems​ ​and  honest.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​a​ ​problem​ ​that​ ​often​ ​hits​ ​negatively​ ​against​ ​INFJs.​ ​Our 
emerging​ ​trends​ ​in​ ​music​ ​and​ ​the​ ​likes,​ ​we​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​point​ ​to​ ​the​ ​INFJs.   kindness​ ​is​ ​often​ ​regarded​ ​as​ ​manipulative​ ​and​ ​less​ ​real,​ ​and​ ​people 
  are​ ​more​ ​inclined​ ​to​ ​trust​ ​a​ ​honest​ ​douchebag​ ​than​ ​a​ ​well​ ​intentioned 
For​ ​necessary​ ​contrast,​ ​INFJs​ ​only​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​be​ ​of​ ​minor​ ​cultural  sweet​ ​talker.​ ​Now,​ ​I’m​ ​not​ ​saying​ ​that​ ​a​ ​well-intentioned​ ​and 
importance:​ ​we​ ​are​ ​not​ ​the​ ​tight​ ​glue​ ​that​ ​keeps​ ​the​ ​community  charming​ ​person​ ​can’t​ ​let​ ​us​ ​down​ ​once​ ​in​ ​awhile​ ​-​ ​sadly,​ ​they​ ​do​ ​all 
together,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​are​ ​not​ ​the​ ​people​ ​that​ ​make​ ​sure​ ​your​ ​company  the​ ​time.​ ​But​ ​I​ ​think​ ​we​ ​should​ ​be​ ​more​ ​open​ ​and​ ​accepting.​ ​Because 
can​ ​remain​ ​afloat.​ ​We’re​ ​not​ ​the​ ​ones​ ​doing​ ​all​ ​the​ ​important​ ​legwork  people​ ​can​ ​surprise​ ​you. 
in​ ​the​ ​various​ ​cultural​ ​movements,​ ​no,​ ​but​ ​somehow​ ​we​ ​are​ ​the​ ​one’s   
that​ ​people​ ​point​ ​at​ ​when​ ​they​ ​want​ ​to​ ​use​ ​someone​ ​as​ ​an​ ​example​ ​of  If​ ​we​ ​detach​ ​somewhat​ ​from​ ​the​ ​idea​ ​of​ ​Jesus​ ​ ​or​ ​Hitler​ ​would​ ​be 
something.​ ​Walking​ ​your​ ​own​ ​path​ ​also​ ​means​ ​becoming,​ ​to​ ​some  INFJs,​ ​and​ ​look​ ​at​ ​the​ ​bigger​ ​picture,​ ​all​ ​I​ ​can​ ​say​ ​is​ ​that​ ​the​ ​INFJ,​ ​as​ ​a 
extent,​ ​an​ ​outsider.​ ​We’re​ ​neither​ ​associated​ ​with​ ​academic​ ​or  hero​ ​or​ ​a​ ​mythical​ ​ideal,​ ​embodies​ ​the​ ​virtues​ ​of​ ​a​ ​spiritual​ ​leader, 
financial​ ​success.​ ​We’re​ ​associated​ ​with​ ​people​ ​such​ ​as​ ​the​ ​monk  someone​ ​who​ ​brings​ ​forward​ ​new​ ​values,​ ​increased​ ​understanding 
who​ ​sold​ ​his​ ​ferrari.  and​ ​awareness.​ ​The​ ​INFJ,​ ​as​ ​a​ ​hero,​ ​will​ ​surely​ ​be​ ​a​ ​person​ ​who​ ​can 
  see​ ​and​ ​understand​ ​people’s​ ​deeper​ ​purpose​ ​and​ ​hidden​ ​intentions. 
Yes,​ ​there​ ​would​ ​surely​ ​be​ ​tons​ ​of​ ​gossip​ ​social​ ​media​ ​articles  Yeah,​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​the​ ​wise​ ​hero,​ ​the​ ​visionary,​ ​a​ ​shepherd​ ​or​ ​a​ ​guide​ ​of 
painting​ ​Jesus​ ​as​ ​a​ ​problematic​ ​individual,​ ​bringing​ ​up​ ​gossip​ ​photos  the​ ​people​ ​and​ ​of​ ​society​ ​and​ ​our​ ​culture.  
and​ ​out​ ​of​ ​context​ ​quotes​ ​to​ ​make​ ​Jesus​ ​seem​ ​like​ ​a​ ​hypocrite.​ ​Of   
course,​ ​every​ ​ideal​ ​has​ ​its​ ​cracks,​ ​and​ ​every​ ​evil​ ​has​ ​it’s​ ​bright​ ​spots.  But​ ​if​ ​we​ ​take​ ​a​ ​step​ ​back,​ ​most​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​not​ ​heroes,​ ​and​ ​not 
An​ ​Adolf​ ​Hitler​ ​today​ ​would​ ​surely​ ​be​ ​painted​ ​on​ ​blogs​ ​as​ ​a​ ​“strong”  spiritual​ ​leaders​ ​in​ ​any​ ​right​ ​-​ ​that​ ​is​ ​an​ ​exclusive​ ​position​ ​reserved​ ​to 
“bright”​ ​and​ ​“talented​ ​speaker”​ ​who​ ​“dared​ ​to​ ​talk​ ​about​ ​subjects  a​ ​select​ ​few.​ ​The​ ​average​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​perhaps​ ​better​ ​seen​ ​as​ ​that​ ​friend 
nobody​ ​else​ ​would​ ​approach.”   you​ ​go​ ​to​ ​for​ ​spiritual​ ​counselling,​ ​the​ ​one​ ​that​ ​challenges 
  perspectives​ ​and​ ​shows​ ​you​ ​the​ ​bigger​ ​picture.​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​also​ ​the 
more​ ​sweet​ ​and​ ​sensitive​ ​in​ ​your​ ​circles,​ ​friendly,​ ​open,​ ​and​ ​inclined  forward​ ​to​ ​embody​ ​your​ ​ideal,​ ​you​ ​have​ ​people​ ​beside​ ​you,​ ​also 
to​ ​be​ ​understanding​ ​and​ ​non-judgemental.​ ​Inclined​ ​to​ ​lead​ ​and​ ​to  striving​ ​to​ ​become​ ​heroic.​ ​All​ ​with​ ​different​ ​ideas​ ​on​ ​what​ ​being 
guide,​ ​but​ ​never​ ​to​ ​tell​ ​you​ ​what​ ​to​ ​do.​ ​Perhaps​ ​that’s​ ​why​ ​INFJs​ ​tend  heroic​ ​means.​ ​You​ ​have​ ​the​ ​future​ ​Achilles,​ ​Thor,​ ​Vishnu​ ​and​ ​Iron 
to​ ​speak​ ​in​ ​riddles.  Man​ ​all​ ​standing​ ​next​ ​to​ ​you,​ ​all​ ​doing​ ​their​ ​best,​ ​the​ ​best​ ​they​ ​can 
  offer​ ​at​ ​this​ ​moment.​ ​If​ ​I​ ​would​ ​sum​ ​up​ ​what​ ​the​ ​hero’s​ ​journey​ ​is​ ​all 
To​ ​put​ ​it​ ​frankly,​ ​most​ ​INFJs​ ​start​ ​out,​ ​sure,​ ​as​ ​children​ ​with​ ​an  about,​ ​it’s​ ​about​ ​just​ ​being​ ​true​ ​to​ ​yourself,​ ​finding​ ​your​ ​integrity, 
unusually​ ​adept​ ​wisdom,​ ​originality,​ ​a​ ​gifted​ ​tongue,​ ​and​ ​a​ ​basic  your​ ​moral​ ​code,​ ​your​ ​life​ ​philosophy,​ ​your​ ​vision,​ ​your​ ​life​ ​path.​ ​And 
ability​ ​to​ ​read​ ​nature​ ​and​ ​people​ ​intuitively.​ ​But​ ​this​ ​is​ ​undercooked  then​ ​staying​ ​on​ ​it. 
wisdom,​ ​a​ ​stumbling​ ​originality,​ ​misguided​ ​words,​ ​and​ ​naive​ ​intuition.   
Yes,​ ​most​ ​INFJs​ ​will​ ​find​ ​themselves​ ​needing​ ​to​ ​spend​ ​many​ ​years  I​ ​want​ ​to​ ​talk​ ​for​ ​a​ ​minute​ ​of​ ​my​ ​personal​ ​experiences.​ ​I​ ​am​ ​sure​ ​you 
translating​ ​this​ ​base​ ​wisdom​ ​into​ ​true​ ​wisdom,​ ​the​ ​wisdom​ ​that​ ​can  will​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​relate​ ​to​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​it.​ ​Even​ ​if​ ​you’re​ ​not​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​or 
only​ ​be​ ​achieved​ ​through​ ​following​ ​this​ ​vision,​ ​and​ ​translating​ ​their  someone​ ​just​ ​looking​ ​to​ ​get​ ​to​ ​know​ ​the​ ​INFJs,​ ​a​ ​family​ ​member,​ ​a 
philosophy​ ​into​ ​answers​ ​for​ ​the​ ​real​ ​world​ ​and​ ​for​ ​the​ ​people​ ​of​ ​the  partner,​ ​or​ ​a​ ​friend​ ​of​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​you​ ​might​ ​relate​ ​to​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​that​ ​I​ ​have​ ​to 
future.   say​ ​in​ ​this​ ​book.​ ​Humans​ ​have​ ​more​ ​in​ ​common​ ​than​ ​we​ ​have 
  differences.​ ​And​ ​we​ ​are,​ ​if​ ​we​ ​want​ ​to,​ ​able​ ​to​ ​relate​ ​to​ ​more​ ​than 
The​ ​INFJ​ ​must​ ​speak​ ​and​ ​let​ ​their​ ​voice​ ​be​ ​heard​ ​and​ ​translated​ ​by  what​ ​we​ ​disagree​ ​with​ ​in​ ​other​ ​people.  
people,​ ​and​ ​they​ ​must​ ​come​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​how​ ​they​ ​impact​ ​others.   
And​ ​our​ ​first​ ​steps​ ​to​ ​talk​ ​to​ ​and​ ​guide​ ​other​ ​people​ ​will​ ​surely​ ​be​ ​met  My​ ​name​ ​is​ ​Erik​ ​Thor​ ​and​ ​as​ ​a​ ​five​ ​year​ ​old​ ​kid,​ ​I​ ​was​ ​frequently 
with​ ​multiple​ ​failures,​ ​words​ ​that​ ​had​ ​the​ ​opposite​ ​effect​ ​than​ ​we​ ​had  described​ ​by​ ​my​ ​family​ ​and​ ​friends​ ​as​ ​“an​ ​adult”.​ ​I​ ​would​ ​enjoy​ ​the 
intended.​ ​It​ ​is​ ​important​ ​that​ ​early​ ​failures​ ​in​ ​expressing​ ​yourself  company​ ​of​ ​older​ ​people,​ ​and​ ​would​ ​enjoy​ ​having​ ​discussions​ ​about 
does​ ​not​ ​translate​ ​to​ ​shame​ ​or​ ​a​ ​fear​ ​of​ ​speaking​ ​out.​ ​The​ ​only​ ​way​ ​to  everything​ ​from​ ​life,​ ​astrology,​ ​politics,​ ​and​ ​science​ ​at​ ​an​ ​early​ ​age.​ ​I 
learn​ ​to​ ​pilot​ ​this​ ​rocket​ ​ship​ ​you​ ​were​ ​born​ ​into​ ​is​ ​by​ ​holding​ ​on​ ​to  was​ ​easily​ ​amused​ ​and​ ​an​ ​avid​ ​reader​ ​from​ ​a​ ​young​ ​age.​ ​I​ ​would 
the​ ​steering​ ​wheels.​ ​We’re​ ​all​ ​the​ ​same.​ ​While​ ​you​ ​are​ ​moving  constantly​ ​have​ ​my​ ​nose​ ​behind​ ​a​ ​magazine​ ​or​ ​book,​ ​and​ ​my​ ​mom 
and​ ​I​ ​would​ ​make​ ​frequent​ ​visits​ ​to​ ​the​ ​library,​ ​returning​ ​home​ ​with  and​ ​I​ ​mostly​ ​wrote​ ​articles​ ​on​ ​video​ ​games,​ ​computers,​ ​and​ ​popular 
books,​ ​books,​ ​and​ ​more​ ​books.   psychology. 
   
I​ ​was,​ ​with​ ​friends,​ ​a​ ​storyteller,​ ​someone​ ​who​ ​would​ ​create​ ​tales​ ​and  I​ ​wrote​ ​to​ ​the​ ​local​ ​newspaper​ ​anonymously,​ ​complaining​ ​about 
games​ ​that​ ​everyone​ ​could​ ​take​ ​part​ ​in​ ​playing​ ​out.​ ​I​ ​was​ ​often​ ​the  teachers​ ​that​ ​would​ ​treat​ ​students​ ​badly,​ ​and​ ​argued​ ​that​ ​teachers 
support​ ​character​ ​in​ ​a​ ​group,​ ​the​ ​behind​ ​the​ ​scenes​ ​leader,​ ​behind  need​ ​to​ ​treat​ ​students​ ​with​ ​more​ ​respect.​ ​I​ ​often​ ​felt​ ​held​ ​back​ ​in 
someone​ ​else​ ​who​ ​would​ ​micromanage​ ​all​ ​the​ ​people.​ ​In​ ​school,​ ​I​ ​was  school​ ​and​ ​wanted​ ​to​ ​skip​ ​a​ ​class​ ​to​ ​finish​ ​school​ ​as​ ​early​ ​as​ ​possible.​ ​I 
not​ ​necessarily​ ​the​ ​best​ ​or​ ​the​ ​brightest,​ ​really,​ ​I​ ​think​ ​I​ ​was  was​ ​not​ ​allowed​ ​to,​ ​and​ ​to​ ​motivate​ ​myself,​ ​I​ ​would​ ​create​ ​various 
somewhere​ ​in​ ​the​ ​middle.​ ​I​ ​sat​ ​in​ ​the​ ​corner​ ​of​ ​the​ ​classroom,  exercises​ ​for​ ​myself,​ ​exploring​ ​science,​ ​reading​ ​advanced​ ​books​ ​in 
preferring​ ​to​ ​have​ ​the​ ​big​ ​picture​ ​overlook.​ ​Teachers​ ​would​ ​often  the​ ​library,​ ​and​ ​setting​ ​goals​ ​for​ ​myself​ ​to​ ​write​ ​and​ ​to​ ​achieve 
think​ ​that​ ​I​ ​was​ ​sleeping​ ​in​ ​class,​ ​but​ ​when​ ​they​ ​tried​ ​to​ ​call​ ​me​ ​out​ ​on  various​ ​goals.​ ​I​ ​did​ ​not​ ​get​ ​enough​ ​satisfaction​ ​from​ ​science​ ​however, 
it,​ ​I​ ​would​ ​still​ ​have​ ​answers​ ​to​ ​their​ ​current​ ​topics​ ​and​ ​questions.​ ​As  and​ ​always​ ​drifted​ ​more​ ​towards​ ​spiritual​ ​and​ ​religious​ ​studies.​ ​I 
a​ ​kid,​ ​I​ ​wanted​ ​to​ ​be​ ​an​ ​artist​ ​or​ ​writer,​ ​so​ ​I​ ​would​ ​often​ ​doodle​ ​and  would​ ​perceive​ ​science​ ​as​ ​fascinating,​ ​albeit​ ​sometimes​ ​cold​ ​and 
write,​ ​and​ ​while​ ​I​ ​was​ ​interested​ ​in​ ​school,​ ​I​ ​would​ ​much​ ​have  stale.  
preferred​ ​a​ ​school​ ​where​ ​I​ ​could​ ​choose​ ​my​ ​own​ ​topics​ ​to​ ​study​ ​and   
research​ ​at​ ​my​ ​own​ ​pace.   I​ ​initially​ ​started​ ​studying​ ​physics​ ​and​ ​mathematics​ ​in​ ​high​ ​school,​ ​but 
  I​ ​grew​ ​bored​ ​and​ ​switched​ ​to​ ​international​ ​political​ ​studies.​ ​I​ ​joined​ ​a 
I​ ​would​ ​write​ ​epic​ ​tales​ ​about​ ​vikings​ ​or​ ​fantasy​ ​like​ ​scenes​ ​and​ ​I  political​ ​party​ ​to​ ​promote​ ​issues​ ​close​ ​to​ ​me,​ ​such​ ​as​ ​increased 
would​ ​draw​ ​up​ ​complicated​ ​maps​ ​of​ ​worlds​ ​that​ ​I​ ​would​ ​imagine.​ ​I  democracy,​ ​sustainability​ ​and​ ​humanist​ ​values.​ ​I​ ​felt​ ​blocked​ ​by​ ​older 
was​ ​more​ ​interested​ ​in​ ​books​ ​and​ ​stories​ ​than​ ​in​ ​school.​ ​I​ ​got​ ​an  party​ ​members​ ​who​ ​were​ ​more​ ​traditional.​ ​When​ ​I​ ​felt​ ​that​ ​the 
interest​ ​in​ ​philosophy​ ​from​ ​Sophie’s​ ​world​ ​and​ ​would​ ​sign​ ​up​ ​for  hierarchy​ ​was​ ​too​ ​high​ ​to​ ​be​ ​passed,​ ​I​ ​left​ ​the​ ​party.​ ​Because​ ​I​ ​had 
voluntary​ ​philosophy​ ​classes,​ ​but​ ​dropped​ ​out​ ​because​ ​I​ ​didn’t​ ​like  made​ ​a​ ​name​ ​for​ ​myself​ ​within​ ​the​ ​party​ ​for​ ​my​ ​ideas​ ​and​ ​my 
the​ ​approach​ ​to​ ​the​ ​subject​ ​too​ ​much.​ ​I​ ​was​ ​in​ ​the​ ​school​ ​newspaper,  emphasis​ ​on​ ​change,​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​people​ ​were​ ​upset​ ​that​ ​I​ ​decided​ ​to 
leave.​ ​I​ ​had​ ​such​ ​a​ ​strong​ ​idea​ ​of​ ​what​ ​I​ ​wanted​ ​to​ ​do​ ​and​ ​I​ ​wanted​ ​to  bitterness.​ ​Over​ ​time,​ ​I​ ​came​ ​to​ ​believe​ ​that​ ​there​ ​was​ ​an 
make​ ​sure​ ​that​ ​the​ ​actions​ ​I​ ​took​ ​truly​ ​led​ ​me​ ​to​ ​those​ ​ideals.​ ​If​ ​I​ ​had  overarching​ ​message​ ​or​ ​idea​ ​that​ ​we​ ​could​ ​all​ ​get​ ​behind,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​we 
held​ ​on​ ​to​ ​the​ ​status​ ​and​ ​the​ ​connections​ ​I​ ​made​ ​there,​ ​it​ ​would​ ​have  needed​ ​to​ ​come​ ​to​ ​a​ ​greater​ ​understanding​ ​and​ ​mutual​ ​respect 
hindered​ ​my​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​truly​ ​achieve​ ​the​ ​goals​ ​I​ ​had​ ​set​ ​out​ ​to​ ​achieve.  towards​ ​one​ ​another.​ ​If​ ​I​ ​could​ ​find​ ​that​ ​message​ ​and​ ​a​ ​way​ ​to 
What​ ​I​ ​mean​ ​with​ ​stumbling​ ​is​ ​this,​ ​INFJs​ ​can​ ​have​ ​a​ ​clear​ ​idea​ ​of  develop​ ​it​ ​better,​ ​I​ ​could​ ​bring​ ​greater​ ​harmony​ ​and​ ​more 
what​ ​to​ ​do,​ ​but​ ​the​ ​actions​ ​we​ ​take​ ​may​ ​not​ ​be​ ​sufficient​ ​to​ ​achieve  understanding​ ​between​ ​people.​ ​As​ ​I​ ​developed​ ​this​ ​message,​ ​I​ ​would 
the​ ​vision​ ​we​ ​desire.​ ​We​ ​may​ ​find​ ​that​ ​we​ ​constantly​ ​have​ ​to​ ​adjust  constantly​ ​run​ ​simulations​ ​in​ ​my​ ​head,​ ​debating​ ​with​ ​fictional 
our​ ​path​ ​to​ ​ensure​ ​we​ ​actually​ ​reach​ ​the​ ​ideas​ ​that​ ​we​ ​see​ ​for​ ​the  representatives​ ​of​ ​different​ ​sides​ ​of​ ​various​ ​political​ ​issues.​ ​I​ ​could 
future.   hear​ ​what​ ​people​ ​would​ ​have​ ​to​ ​say​ ​to​ ​me​ ​and​ ​I​ ​would​ ​change​ ​my 
  mind​ ​and​ ​adjust​ ​according​ ​to​ ​what​ ​resonated​ ​the​ ​best​ ​with​ ​me​ ​and 
The​ ​same​ ​goes​ ​for​ ​our​ ​code​ ​of​ ​conduct​ ​and​ ​our​ ​communication.​ ​I​ ​took  my​ ​(fictive)​ ​crowd.​ ​My​ ​inner​ ​parliament​ ​of​ ​truth. 
up​ ​blogging​ ​in​ ​2007​ ​and​ ​would​ ​mostly​ ​discuss​ ​politics​ ​and​ ​philosophy   
in​ ​these​ ​posts.​ ​By​ ​2014​ ​I​ ​had​ ​written​ ​over​ ​a​ ​thousand​ ​posts,​ ​probably  What​ ​I​ ​sought​ ​was​ ​a​ ​message​ ​that​ ​people​ ​could​ ​get​ ​behind, 
enough​ ​text​ ​to​ ​print​ ​a​ ​bible.​ ​Going​ ​back​ ​to​ ​older​ ​posts,​ ​I​ ​would​ ​find  something​ ​that​ ​everyone​ ​could​ ​agree​ ​on.​ ​But​ ​to​ ​find​ ​this​ ​message,​ ​I 
that​ ​overall,​ ​my​ ​values​ ​had​ ​remained​ ​more​ ​or​ ​less​ ​the​ ​same  needed​ ​to​ ​gain​ ​a​ ​better​ ​understanding​ ​of​ ​people.​ ​I​ ​made​ ​a​ ​mistake 
throughout​ ​the​ ​years.​ ​However,​ ​my​ ​message​ ​was​ ​constantly  getting​ ​so​ ​caught​ ​up​ ​and​ ​overwhelmed​ ​by​ ​day-to-day​ ​political 
sharpened,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​would​ ​early​ ​on​ ​struggle​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​with​ ​feeling  realities​ ​and​ ​conflicts,​ ​that​ ​I​ ​never​ ​found​ ​enough​ ​time​ ​to​ ​detach​ ​and 
misunderstood.​ ​My​ ​posts​ ​would​ ​be​ ​taken​ ​out​ ​of​ ​context,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​would  introspect.​ ​This​ ​made​ ​many​ ​feel​ ​more​ ​misunderstood​ ​by​ ​what​ ​I​ ​was 
alienate​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​my​ ​readers,​ ​causing​ ​unnecessary​ ​polarisation  saying,​ ​and​ ​no​ ​matter​ ​how​ ​much​ ​I​ ​tried​ ​to​ ​polish​ ​it,​ ​my​ ​message​ ​was 
between​ ​various​ ​groups.   not​ ​based​ ​on​ ​genuine​ ​insight​ ​into​ ​people’s​ ​real​ ​issues​ ​and​ ​problems.​ ​If 
  I​ ​would​ ​sit​ ​down​ ​with​ ​people​ ​and​ ​listen​ ​more,​ ​I​ ​would​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​find 
This​ ​was​ ​also​ ​true​ ​in​ ​my​ ​political​ ​activism,​ ​where​ ​I​ ​would​ ​over​ ​time  ways​ ​to​ ​make​ ​them​ ​feel​ ​more​ ​connected​ ​to​ ​my​ ​cause.​ ​But​ ​since​ ​I 
realise​ ​that​ ​my​ ​rhetoric​ ​would​ ​cause​ ​unnecessary​ ​conflict​ ​and  didn’t​ ​listen,​ ​I​ ​was​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​build​ ​bridges​ ​with​ ​no​ ​idea​ ​on​ ​where​ ​the 
other​ ​side​ ​of​ ​the​ ​lake​ ​was.​ ​Psychology​ ​became​ ​my​ ​way​ ​of​ ​finding​ ​that  things.​ ​Do​ ​as​ ​Plato,​ ​and​ ​find​ ​the​ ​world​ ​of​ ​ideas.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​your​ ​intuitive 
other​ ​side​ ​of​ ​the​ ​bridge:​ ​it​ ​became​ ​a​ ​method​ ​to​ ​evaluate​ ​my​ ​failures  world​ ​map,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​can​ ​use​ ​it​ ​to​ ​find​ ​comfort​ ​and​ ​peace​ ​when​ ​the 
and​ ​to​ ​process​ ​what​ ​essential​ ​truths​ ​I​ ​had​ ​missed​ ​as​ ​I​ ​was​ ​working  world​ ​is​ ​overwhelming​ ​you.​ ​When​ ​you​ ​understand,​ ​everything​ ​just 
towards​ ​my​ ​political​ ​aspirations.​ ​And​ ​the​ ​way​ ​I​ ​see​ ​it,​ ​the​ ​next  feels​ ​better.​ ​All​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​do​ ​is​ ​explain​ ​pain,​ ​difficulty,​ ​and​ ​hardship, 
chapter​ ​for​ ​me​ ​will​ ​be​ ​about​ ​connecting​ ​what​ ​I​ ​have​ ​learnt​ ​to​ ​political  to​ ​reduce​ ​some​ ​of​ ​the​ ​weight​ ​that​ ​it​ ​can​ ​put​ ​on​ ​you.  
and​ ​sociological​ ​questions:​ ​How​ ​does​ ​the​ ​future​ ​need​ ​to​ ​change​ ​to   
allow​ ​people​ ​to​ ​flourish?   If​ ​you​ ​can​ ​find​ ​out​ ​why​ ​things​ ​are​ ​the​ ​way​ ​they​ ​are,​ ​that​ ​can​ ​help​ ​you 
  make​ ​peace​ ​with​ ​a​ ​somewhat​ ​inhospitable​ ​and​ ​sometimes​ ​cold​ ​world. 
Harmony​ ​was​ ​the​ ​start​ ​of​ ​my​ ​more​ ​existential​ ​journey.​ ​After​ ​studying  The​ ​ancient​ ​philosophers​ ​believed​ ​that​ ​you​ ​could​ ​gain​ ​insight​ ​into​ ​all 
various​ ​philosophies,​ ​I​ ​decided​ ​that​ ​my​ ​purpose​ ​in​ ​life​ ​was​ ​to​ ​help  kinds​ ​of​ ​things​ ​through​ ​just​ ​intuitive​ ​reasoning.​ ​In​ ​one​ ​example, 
people​ ​understand​ ​each​ ​other​ ​better.​ ​I​ ​ended​ ​up​ ​printing​ ​a​ ​theory  Socrates​ ​would​ ​ask​ ​an​ ​illiterate​ ​slave​ ​questions​ ​about​ ​various 
called​ ​“The​ ​theory​ ​of​ ​balance”​ ​in​ ​which​ ​I​ ​discussed​ ​how​ ​to​ ​bring  complex​ ​issues.​ ​Socrates​ ​demonstrated​ ​in​ ​one​ ​of​ ​his​ ​famous 
forward​ ​greater​ ​harmony​ ​between​ ​various​ ​groups,​ ​solving​ ​political  examples​ ​that​ ​the​ ​slave​ ​could​ ​figure​ ​out​ ​the​ ​answers​ ​to​ ​many​ ​things 
conflicts​ ​and​ ​promoting​ ​a​ ​new​ ​equilibrium.​ ​My​ ​thoughts​ ​on​ ​this​ ​were  that​ ​he​ ​should​ ​have​ ​no​ ​knowledge​ ​of.​ ​Perhaps​ ​we​ ​already​ ​have​ ​truth 
primitive,​ ​after​ ​all,​ ​I​ ​was​ ​only​ ​thirteen,​ ​but​ ​I​ ​still​ ​see​ ​this​ ​as​ ​my  within,​ ​and​ ​all​ ​we​ ​need​ ​to​ ​do​ ​is​ ​ask​ ​ourselves​ ​the​ ​right​ ​questions?​ ​As 
overarching​ ​purpose.​ ​I​ ​want​ ​to​ ​advance​ ​peace,​ ​human​ ​rights,​ ​and  an​ ​introverted​ ​and​ ​intuitive​ ​type,​ ​I​ ​would​ ​like​ ​to​ ​believe​ ​that​ ​is​ ​true.  
promote​ ​balance​ ​and​ ​harmony​ ​in​ ​the​ ​world.​ ​All​ ​INFJs​ ​need​ ​a   
philosophical​ ​framework​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​the​ ​world,​ ​a​ ​system​ ​of  The​ ​way​ ​I​ ​see​ ​it,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​have​ ​one​ ​marble​ ​in​ ​the​ ​correct​ ​place,​ ​you​ ​can 
revelations​ ​or​ ​insights​ ​into​ ​the​ ​hidden​ ​nature​ ​of​ ​everything.   already​ ​see​ ​the​ ​shadow​ ​outlines​ ​of​ ​what​ ​marbles​ ​should​ ​fit​ ​next​ ​to​ ​it. 
  And​ ​by​ ​filling​ ​in​ ​the​ ​marbles​ ​together,​ ​one​ ​at​ ​a​ ​time,​ ​through​ ​intuitive 
Don’t​ ​set​ ​any​ ​boundaries​ ​anywhere​ ​-​ ​everything​ ​can​ ​be​ ​connected.  reasoning​ ​and​ ​existential​ ​thought,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​already​ ​gain​ ​insight​ ​into 
Study​ ​physics,​ ​metaphysics,​ ​values,​ ​life,​ ​religion,​ ​and​ ​psychology.  things​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​never​ ​seen.​ ​I​ ​believe​ ​intuition​ ​works​ ​exactly​ ​this 
Reflect​ ​and​ ​contemplate​ ​and​ ​reveal​ ​to​ ​yourself​ ​the​ ​hidden​ ​nature​ ​of  way:​ ​it​ ​fills​ ​in​ ​the​ ​blanks​ ​and​ ​it​ ​spots​ ​patterns​ ​in​ ​how​ ​reality​ ​is 
arranged.​ ​And​ ​using​ ​this​ ​pattern,​ ​we​ ​can​ ​cheat​ ​our​ ​way​ ​to​ ​insight​ ​and  traits​ ​unrelated​ ​to​ ​being​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​such​ ​as​ ​how​ ​religious​ ​you​ ​are,​ ​or 
truth.​ ​I​ ​think​ ​that​ ​is​ ​how​ ​it​ ​is​ ​with​ ​knowledge,​ ​too.​ ​Often,​ ​there​ ​is​ ​this  how​ ​aggressive​ ​you​ ​are​ ​as​ ​a​ ​person.  
weird​ ​thing​ ​going​ ​on​ ​with​ ​the​ ​universe,​ ​where​ ​patterns​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​repeat   
themselves​ ​everywhere.​ ​Perhaps​ ​if​ ​you​ ​can​ ​figure​ ​out​ ​the​ ​pattern​ ​of  Now,​ ​I​ ​know,​ ​I​ ​am​ ​just​ ​one​ ​of​ ​many​ ​INFJs,​ ​and​ ​my​ ​answers​ ​and​ ​my 
patterns,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​figure​ ​out​ ​anything.   experiences​ ​may​ ​have​ ​been​ ​different​ ​than​ ​yours,​ ​but​ ​hopefully,​ ​I​ ​have 
  at​ ​least​ ​set​ ​the​ ​tone​ ​for​ ​how​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​can​ ​think​ ​and​ ​approach​ ​life.​ ​If 
There​ ​is​ ​nothing​ ​magical​ ​about​ ​that:​ ​You​ ​are​ ​just​ ​puzzling​ ​together  your​ ​experiences​ ​are​ ​different​ ​than​ ​mine,​ ​feel​ ​free​ ​to​ ​send​ ​me​ ​an 
marbles.​ ​But​ ​still,​ ​there​ ​can​ ​be​ ​an​ ​uncertainty​ ​to​ ​this​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​insight:​ ​if  e-mail​ ​and​ ​share​ ​your​ ​stories.  
you​ ​have​ ​not​ ​seen​ ​it,​ ​you​ ​still​ ​don’t​ ​know​ ​for​ ​sure​ ​that​ ​it​ ​is​ ​right.​ ​Still,   
there​ ​are​ ​many​ ​things​ ​that​ ​we​ ​see​ ​in​ ​the​ ​world​ ​around​ ​us,​ ​that​ ​are  How​ ​To​ ​Recognise​ ​An​ ​INFJ 
clearly​ ​not​ ​right.​ ​Why​ ​should​ ​we​ ​trust​ ​our​ ​eyes​ ​more​ ​than​ ​our   
intuition?​ ​And​ ​why​ ​should​ ​either​ ​be​ ​valued​ ​above​ ​the​ ​other?​ ​We​ ​all  How​ ​do​ ​we​ ​best​ ​describe​ ​an​ ​INFJ?​ ​I’ve​ ​heard​ ​people​ ​see​ ​all​ ​kinds​ ​of 
use​ ​different​ ​strategies​ ​to​ ​deduce​ ​the​ ​same​ ​truth.​ ​And​ ​I​ ​believe​ ​no  patterns​ ​with​ ​INFJs.​ ​Posts​ ​are​ ​asking​ ​“why​ ​all​ ​INFJs​ ​wear​ ​scarves” 
matter​ ​if​ ​you​ ​are​ ​a​ ​sensor,​ ​who​ ​prefers​ ​to​ ​rely​ ​on​ ​the​ ​five​ ​senses,​ ​or  and​ ​others​ ​are​ ​obsessed​ ​with​ ​the​ ​distinct​ ​gaze​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ.​ ​As​ ​a​ ​type 
an​ ​intuitive,​ ​who​ ​prefers​ ​to​ ​use​ ​intuition,​ ​you​ ​have​ ​an​ ​equally​ ​high  touted​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the​ ​most​ ​rare​ ​(this​ ​might​ ​not​ ​be​ ​the​ ​case)​ ​many​ ​feel​ ​a 
chance​ ​of​ ​gaining​ ​truth​ ​and​ ​enlightenment,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​let​ ​yourself​ ​be  sense​ ​of​ ​rush​ ​or​ ​thrill​ ​when​ ​they​ ​can​ ​meet​ ​or​ ​spot​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​in​ ​their 
curious​ ​enough​ ​to​ ​ask​ ​the​ ​right​ ​questions.  private​ ​lives.  
   
You​ ​should​ ​know​ ​that​ ​this​ ​ideal​ ​is​ ​only​ ​my​ ​approximation:​ ​I​ ​can​ ​only  Sometimes,​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​touted​ ​with​ ​some​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​special​ ​powers​ ​to 
point​ ​you​ ​in​ ​the​ ​right​ ​direction,​ ​I​ ​can​ ​not​ ​say​ ​what​ ​that​ ​means  boost​ ​this​ ​“uniqueness”.​ ​We​ ​are​ ​dressed​ ​up​ ​to​ ​be​ ​seers,​ ​prophets, 
specifically​ ​for​ ​you.​ ​Intuition​ ​and​ ​feeling​ ​can​ ​be​ ​channeled​ ​in​ ​many  saints,​ ​shamans,​ ​magicians,​ ​wizards,​ ​yeah,​ ​I’m​ ​getting​ ​performance 
workplaces,​ ​hobbies,​ ​and​ ​outlets.​ ​There​ ​are​ ​a​ ​million​ ​personality  anxiety​ ​just​ ​thinking​ ​about​ ​it.​ ​And​ ​what’s​ ​worse​ ​is,​ ​when​ ​we’re​ ​not 
saints,​ ​we’re​ ​sinners,​ ​so​ ​people​ ​are​ ​either​ ​obsessed​ ​with​ ​the​ ​evil 
INFJs​ ​gone​ ​bad,​ ​or​ ​the​ ​seemingly​ ​perfect​ ​saints.​ ​This​ ​really​ ​just​ ​leaves  patterns​ ​into​ ​a​ ​grand​ ​and​ ​unified​ ​theory​ ​or​ ​association​ ​of 
most​ ​INFJs​ ​feeling​ ​like​ ​they’ve​ ​been​ ​forgotten,​ ​because​ ​most​ ​of​ ​us  associations. 
are​ ​just​ ​somewhere​ ​in​ ​the​ ​middle.​ ​Because​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​chameleons,​ ​we   
often​ ​take​ ​on​ ​the​ ​form​ ​that​ ​we​ ​think​ ​is​ ​the​ ​most​ ​ideal​ ​in​ ​each  Now,​ ​don’t​ ​get​ ​me​ ​wrong,​ ​it​ ​makes​ ​sense​ ​why​ ​we​ ​are​ ​seen​ ​as 
moment:​ ​we’re​ ​changing​ ​how​ ​we​ ​present​ ​ourselves,​ ​speak,​ ​and​ ​act,​ ​to  prophets.​ ​INFJs​ ​have​ ​many​ ​special​ ​skills​ ​and​ ​traits​ ​that​ ​strike​ ​us​ ​apart 
better​ ​connect​ ​to​ ​and​ ​reach​ ​the​ ​people​ ​we​ ​are​ ​interested​ ​in.   from​ ​the​ ​other​ ​types.​ ​We​ ​can​ ​be​ ​the​ ​visionary​ ​humanists​ ​ ​and​ ​yes,​ ​the 
  spiritual​ ​gurus​ ​that​ ​transform​ ​how​ ​people​ ​see​ ​the​ ​world​ ​and​ ​the 
Other​ ​people​ ​are​ ​preoccupied​ ​with​ ​our​ ​introverted​ ​intuition:​ ​touted  future.​ ​We​ ​can​ ​be​ ​the​ ​diplomats​ ​that​ ​unite​ ​people​ ​towards​ ​a​ ​common 
as​ ​the​ ​cognitive​ ​function​ ​most​ ​associated​ ​with​ ​unconscious​ ​thoughts  vision.​ ​We​ ​can​ ​speak​ ​about​ ​the​ ​unknown​ ​and​ ​things​ ​to​ ​come​ ​that 
and​ ​ideas,​ ​perhaps​ ​alongside​ ​with​ ​extraverted​ ​intuition,​ ​our  most​ ​people​ ​do​ ​not​ ​even​ ​dare​ ​to​ ​think​ ​about.​ ​We​ ​can​ ​manage​ ​difficult 
introverted​ ​intuition​ ​is​ ​vaguely​ ​and​ ​broadly​ ​described​ ​and​ ​associated  topics​ ​and​ ​deeper​ ​discussions​ ​on​ ​life,​ ​death,​ ​meaning,​ ​and 
with​ ​all​ ​kinds​ ​of​ ​magical​ ​elements​ ​and​ ​characteristics.​ ​Intuition​ ​is​ ​not  meaninglessness.​ ​Things​ ​that​ ​most​ ​people​ ​would​ ​rather​ ​not​ ​speak 
actually​ ​unconscious,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​is​ ​less​ ​conscious.​ ​Intuitives​ ​are​ ​interested  about.​ ​We​ ​find​ ​answers​ ​to​ ​many​ ​things​ ​most​ ​people​ ​are​ ​only​ ​barely 
in​ ​what’s​ ​happening​ ​at​ ​the​ ​edge​ ​of​ ​their​ ​consciousness.​ ​Introverted  aware​ ​of,​ ​and​ ​put​ ​words​ ​on​ ​thoughts​ ​that​ ​people​ ​have​ ​been​ ​thinking 
intuitives​ ​want​ ​to​ ​explore​ ​what’s​ ​on​ ​the​ ​edge​ ​of​ ​their​ ​mind.  of,​ ​but​ ​not​ ​realising​ ​they​ ​were​ ​thinking​ ​of.  
Extraverted​ ​intuitives​ ​want​ ​to​ ​explore​ ​what’s​ ​on​ ​the​ ​other​ ​side​ ​of   
that​ ​hidden​ ​door​ ​behind​ ​the​ ​bookcase.​ ​Like​ ​I​ ​wrote​ ​in​ ​one​ ​of​ ​my  INFJs​ ​are​ ​often​ ​gifted​ ​speakers,​ ​and​ ​our​ ​voice​ ​can​ ​charm​ ​and​ ​have 
recent​ ​blog​ ​posts:  great​ ​influence.​ ​We​ ​have​ ​a​ ​great​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​memorise​ ​and​ ​to 
  understand​ ​and​ ​to​ ​speculate​ ​about​ ​things​ ​that​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​personality 
Introverted​ ​intuition​ ​is​ ​like​ ​a​ ​memorisation​ ​of​ ​complex​ ​patterns  types​ ​would​ ​need​ ​great​ ​effort​ ​to​ ​entertain.​ ​Often,​ ​we​ ​struggle​ ​to 
and​ ​associations​ ​that​ ​we​ ​make​ ​often​ ​less​ ​consciously,​ ​and  make​ ​ourselves​ ​understood,​ ​and​ ​other​ ​people​ ​may​ ​find​ ​it​ ​difficult​ ​to 
intuitive​ ​judging​ ​is​ ​like​ ​the​ ​organisations​ ​of​ ​these​ ​complex  follow​ ​our​ ​thinking​ ​and​ ​our​ ​new​ ​ideas.​ ​Some​ ​INFJs​ ​deal​ ​with​ ​this​ ​by 
assuming​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​smarter​ ​than​ ​other​ ​people,​ ​where​ ​other​ ​INFJs 
assume​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​dumber​ ​than​ ​average.​ ​Personally,​ ​I​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​feel 
●    An​ ​INFJ​ ​will​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​talk​ ​in​ ​general​ ​or​ ​detached​ ​terms,​ ​rather 
like​ ​a​ ​mix​ ​of​ ​both.​ ​In​ ​one​ ​day,​ ​I​ ​can​ ​squeeze​ ​in​ ​struggling​ ​to​ ​tie​ ​my​ ​own  than​ ​in​ ​personal​ ​terms. 
shoes​ ​with​ ​offering​ ​great​ ​insights​ ​to​ ​my​ ​coworkers​ ​about​ ​how​ ​to  ●    They​ ​are​ ​adept​ ​at​ ​remembering​ ​and​ ​processing​ ​patterns​ ​and 
code​ ​in​ ​javascript.​ ​(I​ ​am​ ​not​ ​a​ ​programmer,​ ​I​ ​just​ ​‘know’.)   seeing​ ​an​ ​“overarching​ ​pattern​ ​of​ ​life” 
  ●    They​ ​know​ ​“why”​ ​things​ ​are​ ​the​ ​way​ ​they​ ​are​ ​and​ ​will​ ​often 
I​ ​fear​ ​feeling​ ​better​ ​than​ ​any​ ​of​ ​the​ ​other​ ​types​ ​-​ ​I​ ​know​ ​that​ ​at​ ​least,  have​ ​a​ ​multitude​ ​of​ ​explanations​ ​for​ ​everything. 
according​ ​to​ ​evolution,​ ​we​ ​are​ ​not​ ​prioritised​ ​highly.​ ​I​ ​believe​ ​that​ ​in  ●    Tend​ ​to​ ​end​ ​up​ ​inventing​ ​their​ ​own​ ​careers,​ ​concepts,​ ​and 
projects. 
society,​ ​we​ ​are​ ​not​ ​paid​ ​more​ ​in​ ​average,​ ​than​ ​other​ ​types.​ ​I​ ​do​ ​not 
see​ ​us​ ​outperforming​ ​other​ ​students​ ​in​ ​school,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​don’t​ ​think  ●    Tend​ ​to​ ​discipline​ ​themselves​ ​and​ ​their​ ​own​ ​behaviour, 
telling​ ​themselves​ ​how​ ​to​ ​and​ ​how​ ​not​ ​to​ ​act​ ​and​ ​treat 
partners​ ​of​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​more​ ​satisfied​ ​than​ ​partners​ ​of​ ​other  others. 
personality​ ​types.​ ​I​ ​believe​ ​that​ ​if​ ​you​ ​lose​ ​your​ ​modesty​ ​as​ ​an​ ​INFJ, 
●    Have​ ​an​ ​informal​ ​code​ ​of​ ​ethics​ ​on​ ​how​ ​to​ ​live 
you​ ​lose​ ​your​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​connect​ ​with​ ​other​ ​people,​ ​and​ ​in​ ​this,​ ​you 
lose​ ​your​ ​own​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​access​ ​your​ ​feeling​ ​side​ ​normally.​ ​But​ ​we​ ​do  ●    Able​ ​to​ ​“read”​ ​people's​ ​intentions​ ​and​ ​predict​ ​reasons​ ​why 
people​ ​act​ ​a​ ​certain​ ​way 
have​ ​our​ ​unique​ ​quirks​ ​and​ ​assets​ ​and​ ​we​ ​can​ ​use​ ​them​ ​to​ ​make​ ​the 
●    “Knows"​ ​how​ ​you​ ​feel​ ​and​ ​think,​ ​but​ ​does​ ​not​ ​share​ ​their 
world​ ​a​ ​better​ ​or​ ​a​ ​worse​ ​place​ ​than​ ​it​ ​already​ ​is.   knowledge​ ​unless​ ​asked 
 
●    Intense​ ​and​ ​deep,​ ​hidden​ ​feelings,​ ​struggle​ ​to​ ​explain​ ​and 
INFJ​ ​Checklist  define​ ​what​ ​they​ ​feel​ ​objectively. 
 
The​ ​more​ ​of​ ​these​ ​you​ ​can​ ​check​ ​in,​ ​the​ ​more​ ​likely​ ​it​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you 
●    Skilled​ ​at​ ​influencing​ ​and​ ​communicating​ ​with​ ​other​ ​people. 
are​ ​dealing​ ​with​ ​an​ ​INFJ  ●    Appears​ ​to​ ​be​ ​driven​ ​by​ ​a​ ​strong​ ​coherent​ ​ideology​ ​or​ ​a 
  system​ ​of​ ​belief 
●    The​ ​INFJ​ ​can​ ​control​ ​and​ ​discipline​ ​their​ ​own​ ​minds,​ ​telling 
themselves​ ​how,​ ​and​ ​what​ ​to​ ​think​ ​about.  ●    Can​ ​manage​ ​relationships​ ​and​ ​how​ ​a​ ​group​ ​feels,​ ​guide 
people​ ​to​ ​a​ ​direction. 
●    Create​ ​and​ ​manage​ ​their​ ​own​ ​social​ ​spaces,​ ​“buddy​ ​groups”  ●    Can​ ​use​ ​one​ ​simple​ ​idea​ ​to​ ​extrapolate​ ​forward​ ​much 
around​ ​their​ ​ideas​ ​and​ ​interests.  information. 
●    Good​ ​at​ ​memorising​ ​patterns​ ​or​ ​long​ ​chains​ ​of​ ​complex  ●    “Just​ ​know”​ ​how​ ​things​ ​work​ ​and​ ​can't​ ​explain​ ​how​ ​they 
information  arrived​ ​at​ ​the​ ​answers​ ​they​ ​did. 
●    Pays​ ​attention​ ​to​ ​what​ ​people​ ​think​ ​and​ ​“why"​ ​people​ ​do  ●    Tend​ ​to​ ​invent​ ​their​ ​own​ ​ways​ ​of​ ​solving​ ​problems,​ ​rather 
things  than​ ​following​ ​the​ ​schoolbook’s​ ​assigned​ ​methods. 
●    Frequently​ ​counselling​ ​other​ ​people  ●    Like​ ​to​ ​figure​ ​out​ ​answers​ ​for​ ​themselves​ ​rather​ ​than​ ​being 
told​ ​how​ ​to​ ​do​ ​something. 
●    Show​ ​tact​ ​and​ ​diplomacy​ ​when​ ​they​ ​express​ ​their​ ​views 
 
   Seem​ ​to​ ​disappear​ ​or​ ​mentally​ ​check​ ​out​ ​frequently 
●
The​ ​Body​ ​Language​ ​Of​ ​An​ ​INFJ 
●    Readily​ ​use​ ​intuition​ ​or​ ​gut​ ​feeling​ ​to​ ​guess​ ​the​ ​right​ ​answer   
to​ ​problems  You​ ​can​ ​also​ ​study​ ​the​ ​facial​ ​expressions​ ​and​ ​the​ ​gestures​ ​of​ ​an​ ​INFJ 
to​ ​find​ ​out​ ​their​ ​personality​ ​type.​ ​The​ ​best​ ​way​ ​to​ ​do​ ​this​ ​is​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​to 
●    Lives​ ​according​ ​to​ ​vague​ ​or​ ​open-ended​ ​social​ ​rules​ ​and 
ideals,​ ​avoid​ ​simple​ ​or​ ​stereotypical​ ​rules.  think​ ​about​ ​what​ ​a​ ​smile​ ​means​ ​and​ ​to​ ​look​ ​at​ ​the​ ​quality​ ​of​ ​a​ ​persons 

●    Appears​ ​to​ ​have​ ​access​ ​to​ ​some​ ​higher​ ​truth​ ​on​ ​how​ ​to​ ​live  gestures​ ​or​ ​how​ ​they​ ​speak.​ ​Do​ ​they​ ​have​ ​a​ ​more​ ​charming​ ​or 
and​ ​be  authentic​ ​smile?​ ​Do​ ​they​ ​have​ ​a​ ​more​ ​dreamy​ ​or​ ​attentive​ ​gaze?​ ​This 
●    Sees​ ​how​ ​all​ ​ideas​ ​and​ ​thoughts​ ​fit​ ​together​ ​into​ ​one  method​ ​is​ ​as​ ​successful​ ​as​ ​your​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​remember​ ​past​ ​expressions 
coherent​ ​story  and​ ​to​ ​draw​ ​connections​ ​between​ ​people.​ ​The​ ​more​ ​you​ ​practice 
●    Frequently​ ​writing​ ​and​ ​rewriting​ ​their​ ​own​ ​life​ ​story  studying​ ​people​ ​in​ ​this​ ​way,​ ​the​ ​more​ ​impressive​ ​your​ ​ability​ ​to 

●    Feel​ ​a​ ​need​ ​to​ ​have​ ​some​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​impact​ ​on​ ​other​ ​people,​ ​how  understand​ ​and​ ​to​ ​study​ ​an​ ​individual.​ ​Body​ ​language​ ​is​ ​another​ ​level 
they​ ​think​ ​and​ ​feel  of​ ​communication.​ ​How​ ​we​ ​say​ ​something​ ​matters​ ​almost​ ​as​ ​much​ ​as 
●    Can​ ​quickly​ ​rule​ ​out​ ​a​ ​multitude​ ​of​ ​possibilities,​ ​swiftly  what​ ​we​ ​say. 
spotting​ ​the​ ​most​ ​likely​ ​or​ ​beneficial​ ​option. 
  
At​ ​their​ ​best  At​ ​their​ ​worst  INFJs​ ​will​ ​often​ ​have​ ​a​ ​pattern​ ​of​ ​sweeping,​ ​relaxed​ ​hand​ ​movements 
and​ ​gestures,​ ​especially​ ​when​ ​their​ ​palms​ ​are​ ​facing​ ​towards​ ​you. 
I​ ​find​ ​INFJs​ ​to​ ​often​ ​be  More​ ​negatively,​ ​INFJs​ ​can​ ​be 
described​ ​as​ ​clever,​ ​cunning,  described​ ​as​ ​sleepy,​ ​absent,​ ​and  They​ ​may​ ​look​ ​as​ ​if​ ​they​ ​are​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​sway​ ​or​ ​manipulate​ ​you 
and​ ​more​ ​aware​ ​than​ ​the  inattentive.​ ​They​ ​may​ ​also​ ​be  towards​ ​a​ ​certain​ ​action.​ ​It​ ​can​ ​also​ ​look​ ​as​ ​if​ ​they​ ​are​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​cast​ ​a 
average​ ​person.​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​also  described​ ​at​ ​times​ ​as​ ​nervous, 
described​ ​as​ ​dreamy,  restless,​ ​and​ ​somewhat​ ​rattled.   spell​ ​or​ ​illusion.​ ​This​ ​makes​ ​sense,​ ​because​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​often​ ​trying​ ​to 
philosophical,​ ​and​ ​easily    change​ ​our​ ​perspective​ ​on​ ​reality.​ ​This​ ​includes​ ​making​ ​us​ ​see​ ​things 
amused.   Beyond​ ​that,​ ​INFJs​ ​can 
  sometimes​ ​be​ ​seen​ ​as  differently.​ ​After​ ​speaking​ ​to​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​someone​ ​that​ ​you​ ​thought​ ​was 
You​ ​might​ ​find​ ​INFJs​ ​to​ ​be  somewhat​ ​delicate,​ ​sensitive,  annoying,​ ​was​ ​actually​ ​just​ ​a​ ​person​ ​having​ ​a​ ​bad​ ​day.​ ​A​ ​politician​ ​you 
surprisingly​ ​charming,​ ​good​ ​at  and​ ​fragile.​ ​I​ ​also​ ​often​ ​hear 
disliked​ ​was​ ​just​ ​trying​ ​their​ ​best​ ​to​ ​balance​ ​their​ ​economy.​ ​Someone 
building​ ​rapport​ ​and  INFJs​ ​described​ ​as​ ​somewhat 
connecting​ ​with​ ​others.​ ​INFJs  soft​ ​and​ ​flawed,​ ​as​ ​INFJs​ ​lack  that​ ​you​ ​looked​ ​up​ ​to​ ​was​ ​actually​ ​a​ ​person​ ​with​ ​many​ ​human​ ​flaws 
are​ ​seen​ ​as​ ​very  the​ ​normal​ ​guard​ ​that​ ​most 
and​ ​issues.​ ​INFJs​ ​love​ ​to​ ​warp​ ​and​ ​transform​ ​perspectives.​ ​That’s 
understanding,​ ​accepting  types​ ​possess.  
personality​ ​types.  why​ ​I​ ​call​ ​this​ ​form​ ​of​ ​gesturing​ ​“illusionist​ ​gesturing” 
   
If​ ​you’re​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​most​ ​people​ ​will​ ​describe​ ​you​ ​as​ ​amused,​ ​playful,  When​ ​INFJs​ ​gesture​ ​with​ ​their​ ​palms​ ​facing​ ​towards​ ​themselves, 
goofy,​ ​diplomatic,​ ​friendly,​ ​persuasive,​ ​charming,​ ​eerie,​ ​scheming,  they​ ​rather​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​engage​ ​in​ ​resonating,​ ​thoughtful​ ​hand​ ​motions,​ ​as 
secretive,​ ​sneaky,​ ​philosophical,​ ​thoughtful,​ ​easy​ ​to​ ​talk​ ​to,​ ​sensitive  they​ ​pick​ ​up​ ​and​ ​grab​ ​information​ ​from​ ​within​ ​that​ ​they​ ​then​ ​share​ ​or 
and​ ​intense.​ ​Sleepy,​ ​distant,​ ​detached,​ ​people​ ​throw​ ​all​ ​kinds​ ​of  weigh.​ ​When​ ​they​ ​do,​ ​they​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​assume​ ​a​ ​dreamy​ ​and 
associations​ ​at​ ​us,​ ​and​ ​all​ ​see​ ​different​ ​things.   introspective​ ​gaze.​ ​It​ ​can​ ​look​ ​as​ ​if​ ​they’re​ ​looking​ ​for​ ​something,​ ​or 
  trying​ ​to​ ​remember​ ​something.​ ​This​ ​more​ ​philosophical​ ​style​ ​of 
Gestures  gesturing​ ​shows​ ​that​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​not​ ​just​ ​about​ ​changing​ ​perspectives, 
  but​ ​changing​ ​perspectives​ ​to​ ​bring​ ​out​ ​increased​ ​insight. 
Philosopher​ ​Illusionist​ ​Gesturing   
Our​ ​gestures​ ​mark​ ​this​ ​process​ ​to​ ​dig​ ​inside​ ​to​ ​find​ ​something​ ​new  with​ ​the​ ​ENFJ​ ​style​ ​of​ ​storytelling,​ ​that​ ​has​ ​much​ ​more​ ​passion​ ​and 
and​ ​hidden,​ ​close​ ​to​ ​our​ ​personal​ ​core.​ ​INFJs​ ​value​ ​this​ ​personal  enthusiasm​ ​behind​ ​it.  
quest​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​more​ ​about​ ​who​ ​they​ ​really​ ​are.​ ​And​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be​ ​quite   
therapeutic​ ​to​ ​talk​ ​to​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​in​ ​this​ ​state.​ ​What​ ​we​ ​find​ ​is​ ​often​ ​a  I​ ​will​ ​often​ ​say​ ​that​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​has​ ​a​ ​philosophical​ ​speech​ ​style,​ ​in​ ​which 
general,​ ​deeper​ ​human​ ​truth,​ ​that​ ​carries​ ​relevance​ ​to​ ​more​ ​than​ ​just  they​ ​will​ ​taste​ ​and​ ​weigh​ ​the​ ​words​ ​they​ ​say​ ​as​ ​they​ ​speak.​ ​INFJs​ ​will 
ourselves.​ ​Other​ ​people​ ​can​ ​find​ ​themselves​ ​quite​ ​interested​ ​in  also​ ​seem​ ​very​ ​deliberate​ ​in​ ​how​ ​they​ ​speak​ ​-​ ​as​ ​if​ ​they​ ​know​ ​where 
hearing​ ​what​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​has​ ​been​ ​able​ ​to​ ​dig​ ​up​ ​this​ ​time,​ ​as​ ​they​ ​feel  they​ ​are​ ​going​ ​and​ ​as​ ​if​ ​every​ ​word​ ​they​ ​use​ ​has​ ​been​ ​woven​ ​together 
they​ ​might​ ​apply​ ​this​ ​understanding​ ​to​ ​also​ ​understand​ ​themselves  to​ ​a​ ​coherent​ ​message.​ ​INFJs​ ​will​ ​generally​ ​be​ ​emotionally​ ​composed 
better.   as​ ​they​ ​speak,​ ​and​ ​all​ ​emotional​ ​expressions​ ​and​ ​the​ ​passion​ ​in​ ​their 
voice​ ​will​ ​appear​ ​deliberate​ ​and​ ​more​ ​proper.​ ​Diplomatic​ ​is​ ​a​ ​good 
Voice  label​ ​for​ ​it​ ​-​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​careful​ ​about​ ​how​ ​they​ ​influence​ ​others​ ​and 
  will​ ​show​ ​courtesy​ ​in​ ​how​ ​they​ ​speak​ ​and​ ​phrase​ ​their​ ​opinions​ ​to 
Sober​ ​Storyteller  affect​ ​people​ ​in​ ​a​ ​positive​ ​way.  
   
Ideally,​ ​the​ ​voice​ ​of​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​elaborate,​ ​focused,​ ​and​ ​slowly​ ​rising  If​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​more​ ​nervous​ ​however,​ ​they​ ​will​ ​have​ ​a​ ​habit​ ​of​ ​rushing 
and​ ​fading​ ​in​ ​tone.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​voice​ ​will​ ​build​ ​up​ ​slowly​ ​and​ ​end  through​ ​their​ ​words​ ​and​ ​hasting​ ​to​ ​the​ ​end,​ ​fearing​ ​they​ ​will​ ​lose 
abruptly.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​has​ ​a​ ​storyteller​ ​voice,​ ​ideal​ ​for​ ​building​ ​up  their​ ​audience.​ ​Other​ ​INFJs​ ​feel​ ​a​ ​need​ ​to​ ​be​ ​more​ ​on​ ​and​ ​engaging 
anticipation.​ ​INFJs​ ​will​ ​sound​ ​as​ ​if​ ​they​ ​are​ ​thinking​ ​about​ ​the​ ​words  than​ ​natural,​ ​and​ ​will​ ​speak​ ​unusually​ ​loud​ ​or​ ​with​ ​higher​ ​energy​ ​than 
they​ ​say​ ​while​ ​they​ ​speak,​ ​and​ ​there​ ​will​ ​be​ ​a​ ​quality​ ​of​ ​musing​ ​on​ ​or  normal.​ ​Other​ ​INFJs​ ​will​ ​hide​ ​their​ ​emotions​ ​too​ ​much​ ​out​ ​of​ ​a​ ​fear​ ​of 
tasting​ ​the​ ​words​ ​as​ ​they​ ​are​ ​pronounced.​ ​The​ ​sober​ ​storyteller​ ​is​ ​a  influencing​ ​other​ ​people​ ​in​ ​a​ ​negative​ ​way.  
good​ ​term​ ​to​ ​explain​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​manner​ ​of​ ​speech:​ ​sober​ ​and​ ​honest   
storytelling,​ ​without​ ​any​ ​major​ ​embellishments.​ ​It​ ​can​ ​be​ ​contrasted 
 freedom​ ​and​ ​autonomy.​ ​But​ ​there​ ​are​ ​more​ ​ways​ ​to​ ​lead​ ​than​ ​the 
INFJ​ ​Gifts  classic​ ​ones.​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​incredibly​ ​self-motivated,​ ​autonomous,​ ​and 
work​ ​hard​ ​to​ ​control​ ​their​ ​own​ ​emotions​ ​and​ ​to​ ​focus​ ​on​ ​their 
 
personal​ ​conduct.​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​not​ ​interested​ ​in​ ​correcting​ ​or​ ​judging 
Leadership 
other​ ​people’s​ ​behaviour,​ ​but​ ​will​ ​instead​ ​turn​ ​this​ ​judgement 
 
towards​ ​the​ ​self​ ​:​ ​what​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​person​ ​do​ ​I​ ​need​ ​to​ ​be?  
Leadership​ ​is​ ​used​ ​broadly​ ​here,​ ​in​ ​that​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​instigators​ ​of​ ​and 
 
guides​ ​of​ ​change.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​not​ ​a​ ​manager​ ​or​ ​an​ ​executive,​ ​ ​ideally, 
INFJs​ ​will​ ​typically​ ​hold​ ​back,​ ​restrain,​ ​and​ ​direct​ ​their​ ​own​ ​emotions, 
they​ ​lead​ ​from​ ​a​ ​distance,​ ​by​ ​showing​ ​and​ ​carving​ ​out​ ​a​ ​new​ ​path​ ​that 
trying​ ​to​ ​control​ ​when​ ​and​ ​how​ ​they​ ​show​ ​their​ ​emotions.​ ​As 
other​ ​people​ ​can​ ​follow.​ ​They​ ​like​ ​to​ ​guide​ ​without​ ​telling​ ​other 
idealists,​ ​INFJs​ ​have​ ​very​ ​strong​ ​emotions,​ ​but​ ​they​ ​will​ ​typically​ ​hold 
people​ ​where​ ​to​ ​go,​ ​but​ ​the​ ​priority​ ​is​ ​always​ ​“leadership”,​ ​to​ ​lead,​ ​to 
these​ ​emotions​ ​back​ ​and​ ​within,​ ​causing​ ​them​ ​to​ ​appear​ ​more​ ​cold 
start​ ​up​ ​new​ ​processes,​ ​to​ ​create​ ​new​ ​spaces.​ ​To​ ​use​ ​their​ ​voice​ ​to 
and​ ​unfeeling​ ​than​ ​the​ ​ENFJ​ ​counterpart.​ ​INFJs​ ​do​ ​not​ ​relate​ ​their 
guide​ ​and​ ​to​ ​use​ ​their​ ​intuition​ ​to​ ​pave​ ​the​ ​way​ ​for​ ​concepts​ ​and 
emotions​ ​to​ ​what​ ​other​ ​people​ ​have​ ​said​ ​or​ ​their​ ​current 
ideas​ ​whose​ ​time​ ​has​ ​come.   
environment,​ ​but​ ​see​ ​emotions​ ​as​ ​coming​ ​from​ ​within,​ ​from​ ​their 
 
own​ ​mindsets​ ​and​ ​perspectives.​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​deeply​ ​aware​ ​of​ ​their 
A​ ​leader​ ​type​ ​(IJ)​ ​has​ ​a​ ​strong​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​personal​ ​responsibility,​ ​a 
emotions​ ​and​ ​feelings​ ​but​ ​also​ ​show​ ​deep​ ​care​ ​in​ ​how​ ​they​ ​express 
feeling​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​responsible​ ​for​ ​the​ ​feelings​ ​and​ ​needs​ ​of​ ​the 
their​ ​emotions.​ ​It​ ​can​ ​feel​ ​as​ ​if​ ​you’re​ ​carrying​ ​around​ ​an​ ​explosive 
people​ ​around​ ​them.​ ​A​ ​feeling​ ​that​ ​they​ ​must​ ​control​ ​or​ ​deliberately 
keg​ ​of​ ​emotions,​ ​and​ ​as​ ​if​ ​you’re​ ​doing​ ​your​ ​best​ ​to​ ​ensure​ ​this 
guide​ ​the​ ​world​ ​in​ ​some​ ​way​ ​towards​ ​some​ ​goal.​ ​A​ ​leader​ ​is 
careful​ ​mix​ ​of​ ​emotions​ ​does​ ​not​ ​intermix​ ​in​ ​a​ ​way​ ​it​ ​shouldn’t, 
goal-oriented,​ ​driven,​ ​and​ ​self-motivated,​ ​they​ ​can​ ​tell​ ​themselves​ ​to 
blowing​ ​up​ ​and​ ​causing​ ​unnecessary​ ​damage​ ​and​ ​harm​ ​to​ ​others.  
go​ ​a​ ​certain​ ​direction,​ ​and​ ​enforce​ ​and​ ​keep​ ​pushing​ ​themselves​ ​in 
 
that​ ​direction​ ​even​ ​when​ ​tired.​ ​I​ ​tell​ ​INFJs​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​leader​ ​types, 
If​ ​someone​ ​is​ ​rude​ ​or​ ​hurtful​ ​towards​ ​you​ ​as​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​your​ ​typical 
but​ ​many​ ​of​ ​them​ ​don’t​ ​relate,​ ​perhaps​ ​because​ ​their​ ​values​ ​of 
mindset​ ​is​ ​“Why​ ​did​ ​this​ ​hurt​ ​me?”​ ​and​ ​this​ ​will​ ​cause​ ​you​ ​to​ ​focus​ ​on 
what​ ​the​ ​other​ ​person’s​ ​rudeness​ ​brought​ ​up​ ​in​ ​you,​ ​insecurities,  change​ ​and​ ​what​ ​is​ ​happening​ ​in​ ​front​ ​of​ ​you.​ ​A​ ​tendency​ ​to 
doubts,​ ​and​ ​worries.​ ​This​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​disregard​ ​your​ ​surroundings​ ​and  disregard​ ​current​ ​affairs​ ​and​ ​to​ ​focus​ ​on​ ​your​ ​own​ ​goals​ ​for​ ​the​ ​day. 
external​ ​culprits​ ​can​ ​allow​ ​you​ ​as​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​to​ ​show​ ​a​ ​higher​ ​degree​ ​of  Inflexibility,​ ​even​ ​getting​ ​upset​ ​and​ ​annoyed​ ​when​ ​plans​ ​change.​ ​An 
personal​ ​responsibility​ ​and​ ​an​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​walk​ ​your​ ​own​ ​path  inability​ ​to​ ​assign​ ​blame​ ​and​ ​to​ ​consider​ ​external​ ​factors.​ ​A​ ​tendency 
regardless​ ​of​ ​what​ ​other​ ​people​ ​think.​ ​If​ ​you,​ ​as​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​can​ ​find​ ​the  to​ ​overvalue​ ​your​ ​inner​ ​state​ ​and​ ​to​ ​assume​ ​that​ ​attitude​ ​or​ ​personal 
inner​ ​resolve​ ​and​ ​purpose,​ ​that​ ​can​ ​help​ ​you​ ​resist​ ​any​ ​outer  beliefs​ ​will​ ​overcome​ ​environmental​ ​obstacles.  
criticism,​ ​any​ ​obstacles,​ ​and​ ​any​ ​bullies.​ ​But​ ​as​ ​much​ ​as​ ​mindsets   
matter,​ ​don’t​ ​fool​ ​yourself​ ​that​ ​other​ ​people​ ​or​ ​their​ ​opinions​ ​do​ ​not  Idealism 
matter.    
  Idealism​ ​is​ ​the​ ​idea​ ​of​ ​“what​ ​could​ ​be”​ ​and​ ​“what​ ​is​ ​kind”​ ​and​ ​what​ ​is 
Your​ ​external​ ​environment​ ​serves​ ​a​ ​core​ ​purpose​ ​in​ ​showing​ ​you  wise.​ ​What​ ​is​ ​wise​ ​is​ ​not​ ​always​ ​what​ ​is​ ​smart,​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be​ ​more​ ​rational 
what​ ​your​ ​insecurities​ ​are,​ ​what​ ​you​ ​are​ ​afraid​ ​of,​ ​and​ ​what​ ​you​ ​need  to​ ​pick​ ​option​ ​A​ ​over​ ​option​ ​B.​ ​But​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be​ ​more​ ​idealistic​ ​to​ ​pick 
to​ ​process.​ ​You​ ​can’t​ ​deny​ ​that​ ​the​ ​external​ ​environment​ ​matters,  option​ ​B,​ ​because​ ​of​ ​your​ ​personal​ ​awareness​ ​of​ ​what​ ​you​ ​need,​ ​what 
and​ ​you​ ​can’t​ ​think​ ​yourself​ ​happy,​ ​so​ ​do​ ​not​ ​overestimate​ ​the​ ​power  is​ ​right​ ​for​ ​you,​ ​and​ ​for​ ​the​ ​people​ ​as​ ​a​ ​whole.​ ​Idealism​ ​is​ ​often 
of​ ​mindset.​ ​Instead,​ ​pick​ ​up​ ​the​ ​lessons​ ​that​ ​mindset​ ​can​ ​offer,​ ​and  confused​ ​with​ ​optimism.  
use​ ​their​ ​lessons​ ​to​ ​help​ ​you​ ​navigate​ ​the​ ​problems​ ​of​ ​the​ ​world,​ ​but   
don’t​ ​use​ ​them​ ​to​ ​hide​ ​from​ ​the​ ​problems​ ​of​ ​the​ ​world.​ ​In​ ​the​ ​end,  Idealism​ ​is​ ​a​ ​desire​ ​to​ ​do​ ​something​ ​kind,​ ​benevolent,​ ​and​ ​good,​ ​and 
there​ ​are​ ​plenty​ ​of​ ​matters​ ​in​ ​the​ ​world​ ​that​ ​need​ ​our​ ​help​ ​and​ ​our  idealism​ ​is​ ​about​ ​a​ ​need​ ​for​ ​freedom,​ ​self-direction,​ ​change,​ ​and 
action.​ ​Often,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​in​ ​the​ ​real​ ​suffering​ ​and​ ​troubles​ ​of​ ​the​ ​world​ ​that  growth.​ ​Idealism​ ​is​ ​about​ ​how​ ​we​ ​think​ ​we​ ​can​ ​change​ ​and​ ​how​ ​we 
your​ ​mindset​ ​can​ ​be​ ​put​ ​into​ ​practice,​ ​and​ ​where​ ​your​ ​beliefs​ ​can  can​ ​make​ ​the​ ​world​ ​better.​ ​Optimism​ ​is​ ​instead​ ​thinking​ ​that​ ​this 
actually​ ​become​ ​true​ ​beliefs,​ ​in​ ​the​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​wisdom​ ​that​ ​has​ ​been  change​ ​will​ ​happen​ ​quickly,​ ​that​ ​it​ ​will​ ​be​ ​easy,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​there​ ​won’t 
translated​ ​into​ ​practical​ ​ideology.​ ​The​ ​core​ ​INFJ​ ​weakness​ ​here​ ​is​ ​an  be​ ​any​ ​issues​ ​on​ ​the​ ​way.​ ​You​ ​can​ ​be​ ​an​ ​idealistic​ ​pessimist,​ ​and​ ​you 
inability​ ​to​ ​adjust​ ​to​ ​circumstance.​ ​An​ ​inability​ ​to​ ​spot​ ​emerging  can​ ​want​ ​to​ ​do​ ​better,​ ​even​ ​though​ ​you​ ​think​ ​it​ ​will​ ​be​ ​difficult.  
  pursue​ ​decisions​ ​that​ ​objectively​ ​have​ ​the​ ​opposite​ ​of​ ​the​ ​intended 
Optimism​ ​is​ ​a​ ​mindset.​ ​Idealism​ ​runs​ ​much​ ​deeper.​ ​And​ ​even​ ​if​ ​you  effect.​ ​Believing​ ​intentions​ ​will​ ​overcome​ ​practical​ ​circumstances, 
can​ ​lose​ ​your​ ​optimism,​ ​INFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​always​ ​remain​ ​idealistic.​ ​We  they​ ​can​ ​rest​ ​on​ ​ideology​ ​in​ ​matters​ ​that​ ​are​ ​best​ ​solved​ ​with​ ​a 
are​ ​hardwired​ ​to​ ​want​ ​to​ ​do​ ​good.​ ​We​ ​will​ ​often​ ​do​ ​good​ ​even​ ​if​ ​it  practical​ ​approach.  
comes​ ​at​ ​the​ ​expense​ ​of​ ​career​ ​ambitions,​ ​financial​ ​success,​ ​or   
personal​ ​goals.  Independence 
   
​ ​We​ ​will​ ​want​ ​freedom​ ​and​ ​change,​ ​even​ ​if​ ​it​ ​requires​ ​us​ ​to​ ​make  INFJs​ ​can’t,​ ​and​ ​should​ ​not,​ ​try​ ​to​ ​fit​ ​or​ ​adhere​ ​to​ ​a​ ​certain​ ​traditional 
personal​ ​changes​ ​or​ ​to​ ​let​ ​go​ ​of​ ​personal​ ​comforts​ ​and​ ​security.​ ​We  recipe​ ​of​ ​life.​ ​You​ ​don’t​ ​need​ ​to​ ​follow​ ​or​ ​succeed​ ​in​ ​traditional 
are​ ​ready​ ​to​ ​leap​ ​at​ ​something,​ ​even​ ​if​ ​it​ ​is​ ​hard​ ​to​ ​prove​ ​or​ ​explain​ ​to  ladders​ ​and​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​need​ ​to​ ​take​ ​over​ ​business​ ​or​ ​expectations 
other​ ​people.​ ​We​ ​dream​ ​more​ ​than​ ​most,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​dream​ ​more​ ​about  from​ ​your​ ​family​ ​or​ ​parents.​ ​You​ ​don’t​ ​need​ ​success​ ​in​ ​the​ ​traditional 
the​ ​future​ ​and​ ​what​ ​could​ ​be,​ ​than​ ​what​ ​is.​ ​The​ ​idealism​ ​is​ ​deeply  sense,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​will​ ​do​ ​far​ ​better​ ​if​ ​you​ ​understand​ ​this.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​is 
related​ ​to​ ​the​ ​INFJs​ ​“Explosive​ ​keg​ ​of​ ​emotions”​ ​-​ ​it’s​ ​like​ ​a​ ​spellbook  one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​four​ ​most​ ​original​ ​types,​ ​along​ ​with​ ​ENFJs,​ ​ENTJs,​ ​and 
full​ ​of​ ​complex​ ​formulas,​ ​words,​ ​sentences,​ ​poems,​ ​sayings,  INTJs.  
memories,​ ​all​ ​drawn​ ​up​ ​with​ ​perfect​ ​symmetry.   
  Usually,​ ​these​ ​types​ ​have​ ​all​ ​made​ ​major​ ​mistakes​ ​in​ ​their​ ​youth,​ ​in 
​ ​Lines,​ ​symbols,​ ​tables,​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​always​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​organise​ ​and  school,​ ​or​ ​in​ ​the​ ​traditional​ ​corporate​ ​ladder.​ ​Often,​ ​these​ ​mistakes 
understand​ ​their​ ​emotional​ ​lives.​ ​The​ ​INFJs​ ​core​ ​strength​ ​is​ ​their  will​ ​teach​ ​us​ ​one​ ​thing​ ​-​ ​we​ ​are​ ​not​ ​meant​ ​to​ ​copy​ ​or​ ​simply​ ​go​ ​along 
idealism,​ ​their​ ​biggest​ ​flaw​ ​is​ ​their​ ​lack​ ​of​ ​practicality.​ ​Their​ ​world​ ​of  with​ ​what​ ​we​ ​are​ ​given,​ ​we​ ​are​ ​supposed​ ​to​ ​pave​ ​our​ ​own​ ​path​ ​and​ ​to 
abstraction​ ​and​ ​their​ ​values​ ​can’t​ ​always​ ​be​ ​properly​ ​translated​ ​to  design​ ​our​ ​own​ ​success.  
smart​ ​and​ ​practical​ ​decision​ ​making.​ ​They​ ​may​ ​hide​ ​behind​ ​vague​ ​and   
generic​ ​jargon,​ ​avoiding​ ​to​ ​specify​ ​in​ ​practice​ ​what​ ​they​ ​want​ ​and  Because​ ​of​ ​this,​ ​most​ ​NJs​ ​will​ ​end​ ​up​ ​starting​ ​or​ ​designing​ ​their​ ​own 
believe.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​somewhat​ ​unutilitarian,​ ​in​ ​that​ ​they​ ​tend​ ​to  workplace,​ ​career,​ ​or​ ​environment.​ ​The​ ​downside​ ​of​ ​this​ ​originality​ ​is 
a​ ​tendency​ ​to​ ​dismiss​ ​all​ ​outside​ ​influence:​ ​to​ ​disregard​ ​what​ ​other  what’s​ ​around​ ​the​ ​literal​ ​message,​ ​what’s​ ​underneath​ ​it,​ ​that​ ​we​ ​don’t 
people​ ​say,​ ​to​ ​ignore​ ​advice​ ​and​ ​information,​ ​because​ ​you​ ​seek​ ​to  even​ ​take​ ​in​ ​the​ ​immediate​ ​truth​ ​of​ ​what​ ​we​ ​are​ ​told.​ ​We’re​ ​flicking 
maintain​ ​said​ ​originality.​ ​Often,​ ​the​ ​ideal​ ​is​ ​to​ ​turn​ ​outside​ ​inspiration  immediately​ ​to​ ​“why”​ ​and​ ​we’re​ ​scrolling​ ​past​ ​“what”.​ ​What​ ​is​ ​usually 
and​ ​to​ ​find​ ​your​ ​own​ ​perspective​ ​on​ ​what​ ​you​ ​hear.​ ​While​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​is  just​ ​less​ ​fun.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​also​ ​why​ ​in​ ​class,​ ​I​ ​would​ ​never​ ​really​ ​be 
very​ ​original,​ ​the​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​also​ ​often​ ​the​ ​most​ ​likely​ ​to​ ​disregard  interested​ ​in​ ​the​ ​current​ ​subject​ ​the​ ​teacher​ ​was​ ​talking​ ​about.​ ​I​ ​was 
circumstance​ ​and​ ​physical​ ​needs.   always​ ​more​ ​interested​ ​in​ ​what​ ​his​ ​next​ ​subject​ ​would​ ​be.  
   
Private  What​ ​was​ ​in​ ​the​ ​chapter​ ​we​ ​were​ ​not​ ​allowed​ ​to​ ​read?​ ​What​ ​were​ ​we 
  going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​reading​ ​next​ ​year?​ ​I​ ​remember​ ​a​ ​classroom​ ​dedicated​ ​to 
You​ ​can​ ​tell​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​what​ ​the​ ​truth​ ​is,​ ​and​ ​they​ ​may​ ​still​ ​not​ ​believe​ ​it  the​ ​study​ ​of​ ​viking​ ​history.​ ​As​ ​a​ ​kid​ ​I​ ​found​ ​myself​ ​far​ ​more​ ​interested 
until​ ​they​ ​have​ ​seen​ ​it​ ​for​ ​themselves​ ​to​ ​be​ ​true.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the  in​ ​the​ ​vikings​ ​and​ ​how​ ​they​ ​lived,​ ​and​ ​instead​ ​of​ ​answering​ ​questions 
more​ ​infuriating​ ​things​ ​to​ ​friends​ ​and​ ​family​ ​members​ ​of​ ​INFJs,​ ​the  about​ ​the​ ​viking​ ​kings,​ ​when​ ​they​ ​were​ ​born,​ ​and​ ​what​ ​wars​ ​they 
stubbornness​ ​in​ ​how​ ​we​ ​see​ ​the​ ​world​ ​and​ ​our​ ​tendency​ ​to​ ​cling​ ​to  participated​ ​in,​ ​I​ ​was​ ​more​ ​interested​ ​in​ ​how​ ​the​ ​vikings​ ​lived,​ ​what 
our​ ​own​ ​personal​ ​theory.​ ​We​ ​are​ ​theoretically​ ​inclined​ ​-​ ​we​ ​live​ ​in​ ​a  their​ ​beliefs​ ​were,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​various​ ​nordic​ ​gods.​ ​Because​ ​that​ ​was​ ​not 
world​ ​of​ ​ideas,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​find​ ​our​ ​answers​ ​through​ ​silent​ ​contemplation  on​ ​the​ ​actual​ ​curriculum,​ ​my​ ​teacher​ ​gave​ ​me​ ​a​ ​“D”.​ ​This​ ​illuminates​ ​a 
in​ ​the​ ​safe​ ​confines​ ​of​ ​our​ ​mind​ ​palace.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​all​ ​about​ ​finding  key​ ​INFJ​ ​weakness:​ ​a​ ​tendency​ ​to​ ​be​ ​too​ ​far​ ​away​ ​from​ ​present 
answers​ ​and​ ​insights​ ​and​ ​revelations​ ​to​ ​the​ ​world​ ​around​ ​them.   events​ ​and​ ​present​ ​realities,​ ​because​ ​we​ ​are​ ​so​ ​focused​ ​on​ ​the​ ​future.  
   
As​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​it​ ​can​ ​feel​ ​like​ ​you’re​ ​constantly​ ​looking​ ​for​ ​something,  Wisdom 
like​ ​there’s​ ​a​ ​crucial​ ​piece​ ​of​ ​insight​ ​that​ ​you’ve​ ​missed.​ ​So​ ​you’re   
thinking,​ ​and​ ​searching​ ​inside​ ​yourself​ ​to​ ​find​ ​what​ ​it​ ​is.​ ​The​ ​same  INFJs​ ​can​ ​find​ ​themselves​ ​obsessed​ ​with​ ​questions​ ​of​ ​‘why’​ ​-​ ​‘why’ 
goes​ ​for​ ​when​ ​you​ ​are​ ​presented​ ​with​ ​an​ ​outside​ ​truth:​ ​often,​ ​the  everything?​ ​Why​ ​are​ ​we​ ​here?​ ​What​ ​is​ ​your​ ​purpose?​ ​What​ ​do​ ​you 
INFJ​ ​struggle​ ​to​ ​take​ ​in​ ​the​ ​literal​ ​message.​ ​We’re​ ​so​ ​focused​ ​on  mean,​ ​if​ ​we​ ​look​ ​deeper,​ ​what​ ​is​ ​hidden​ ​behind​ ​everything?​ ​INFJs 
never​ ​take​ ​emotions​ ​literally,​ ​but​ ​always​ ​want​ ​to​ ​look​ ​below.​ ​No  We​ ​do​ ​not​ ​always​ ​want​ ​what​ ​we​ ​say​ ​we​ ​want,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​do​ ​not​ ​always 
emotion,​ ​no​ ​expression,​ ​no​ ​social​ ​or​ ​cultural​ ​ritual,​ ​is​ ​ever​ ​as​ ​simple  know​ ​what​ ​we​ ​mean.​ ​INFJs​ ​know​ ​this​ ​more​ ​than​ ​anyone:​ ​we​ ​are 
as​ ​it​ ​is​ ​presented.​ ​We​ ​believe​ ​there’s​ ​a​ ​deeper​ ​natural​ ​truth​ ​or​ ​an  inclined​ ​to​ ​doubt​ ​our​ ​own​ ​experiences,​ ​feelings,​ ​and​ ​emotions,​ ​and​ ​to 
essence​ ​of​ ​things.   want​ ​to​ ​take​ ​time​ ​to​ ​process​ ​and​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​to​ ​ensure​ ​that​ ​we 
  truly​ ​understand.​ ​What​ ​is​ ​love​ ​really?​ ​Is​ ​this​ ​really​ ​love​ ​that​ ​I​ ​am 
While​ ​we​ ​all​ ​know​ ​that​ ​there​ ​are​ ​chairs,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​we​ ​can​ ​sit​ ​on​ ​chairs,  feeling​ ​or​ ​is​ ​it​ ​something​ ​else?​ ​Why​ ​am​ ​I​ ​angry?​ ​Is​ ​it​ ​really​ ​just 
INFJ​ ​philosophers​ ​such​ ​as​ ​Plato​ ​were​ ​more​ ​interested​ ​in​ ​what​ ​the  because​ ​of​ ​what​ ​that​ ​person​ ​said​ ​or​ ​is​ ​it​ ​because​ ​it​ ​hit​ ​me​ ​somewhere 
essence​ ​of​ ​a​ ​chair​ ​was,​ ​what​ ​it’s​ ​purpose​ ​was.​ ​Another​ ​INFJ​ ​may​ ​be  deeper?​ ​This​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​ambivalence​ ​and​ ​care​ ​and​ ​sensitivity​ ​towards 
investigating​ ​how​ ​we​ ​are​ ​affected​ ​by​ ​sitting​ ​on​ ​chairs,​ ​and​ ​what  your​ ​own​ ​emotional​ ​state​ ​allows​ ​you​ ​to​ ​look​ ​deeper​ ​-​ ​you​ ​feel​ ​the 
existential​ ​implications​ ​chairs​ ​pose​ ​to​ ​humanity.​ ​Ridiculous  same​ ​emotional​ ​responses​ ​as​ ​everyone​ ​else,​ ​but​ ​you​ ​see​ ​the​ ​smaller 
questions,​ ​sure.​ ​But​ ​at​ ​times,​ ​INFJs​ ​can​ ​actually​ ​hit​ ​the​ ​nail​ ​right​ ​on  pixels​ ​that​ ​make​ ​up​ ​emotions.​ ​Everything​ ​you​ ​see​ ​and​ ​feel​ ​becomes 
the​ ​head.​ ​For​ ​most​ ​people,​ ​these​ ​questions​ ​pass​ ​above​ ​our​ ​heads,​ ​we  rich​ ​nuance.​ ​So​ ​when​ ​people​ ​say​ ​something​ ​that​ ​they​ ​will​ ​dismiss​ ​as 
are​ ​all​ ​affected​ ​by​ ​these​ ​things​ ​-​ ​but​ ​we​ ​don’t​ ​realise​ ​how.​ ​Chairs​ ​exist  insignificant,​ ​to​ ​you,​ ​it’s​ ​not.​ ​And​ ​when​ ​you​ ​show​ ​to​ ​them​ ​the​ ​deeper 
-​ ​tables​ ​exist​ ​-​ ​cars​ ​exist​ ​-​ ​we​ ​all​ ​get​ ​stuck​ ​in​ ​traffic​ ​jams​ ​-​ ​we​ ​all​ ​live​ ​in  meaning,​ ​you​ ​confound​ ​them.​ ​People​ ​don’t​ ​always​ ​know​ ​what​ ​they 
this​ ​world,​ ​but​ ​we​ ​often​ ​forget​ ​what​ ​it​ ​means​ ​to​ ​live​ ​in​ ​this​ ​world,  mean​ ​and​ ​just​ ​how​ ​they​ ​mean​ ​things.​ ​How​ ​far​ ​do​ ​our​ ​emotions 
with​ ​all​ ​this​ ​technology,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​don’t​ ​see​ ​the​ ​connections.​ ​In​ ​other  stretch​ ​and​ ​how​ ​deep​ ​is​ ​our​ ​humanity?​ ​In​ ​my​ ​experience,​ ​endlessly 
ways,​ ​it​ ​just​ ​shows​ ​how​ ​sensitive​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​personality​ ​type​ ​is.​ ​Like​ ​the  deep. 
INFPs,​ ​we​ ​dwell​ ​and​ ​grumble​ ​and​ ​simmer​ ​on​ ​people’s​ ​choice​ ​of​ ​tone   
and​ ​their​ ​actions.​ ​We​ ​take​ ​things​ ​seriously.​ ​We​ ​hold​ ​things​ ​deep  The​ ​INFJs​ ​exhibit​ ​a​ ​wisdom​ ​that​ ​INTJs​ ​can’t​ ​compete​ ​with,​ ​unique​ ​to 
inside​ ​for​ ​a​ ​long​ ​time,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​effect​ ​can​ ​be​ ​quite​ ​profound.​ ​We​ ​can  them​ ​as​ ​introverted​ ​and​ ​feeling​ ​types.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​an​ ​intrapersonal 
take​ ​the​ ​smallest​ ​things​ ​and​ ​find​ ​the​ ​most​ ​significant​ ​of​ ​meaning.   wisdom,​ ​an​ ​awareness​ ​of​ ​the​ ​hidden​ ​truth​ ​of​ ​the​ ​people.​ ​Where 
  INTJs​ ​are​ ​driven​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​how​ ​things​ ​work,​ ​INFJs​ ​focus​ ​their 
analysis​ ​on​ ​people’s​ ​hidden​ ​meanings​ ​and​ ​intentions​ ​instead.​ ​How​ ​do 
people​ ​intend​ ​for​ ​things​ ​to​ ​work,​ ​and​ ​why​ ​do​ ​things​ ​not​ ​always​ ​go​ ​the  with​ ​your​ ​beliefs​ ​at​ ​all​ ​times​ ​and​ ​to​ ​show​ ​that​ ​you​ ​practice​ ​what​ ​you 
way​ ​we​ ​want​ ​it​ ​to?​ ​This​ ​can​ ​lead​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​towards​ ​deeper  preach.  
introspective​ ​pursuits.​ ​But​ ​this​ ​is​ ​a​ ​highly​ ​unpragmatic​ ​approach.​ ​It   
requires​ ​you​ ​to​ ​disregard​ ​power​ ​games,​ ​power​ ​dynamics,​ ​hierarchies,  INFJs​ ​practice​ ​careful​ ​diplomacy​ ​and​ ​bridge-building,​ ​and​ ​will 
and​ ​the​ ​day​ ​to​ ​day​ ​rules​ ​of​ ​the​ ​game.   voluntarily​ ​let​ ​go​ ​of​ ​personal​ ​ambitions​ ​and​ ​prestige​ ​when​ ​necessary 
  to​ ​advance​ ​their​ ​beliefs​ ​and​ ​to​ ​connect​ ​more​ ​with​ ​other​ ​people.​ ​In 
Kindness  personal​ ​interactions,​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​prestigeless,​ ​goofy,​ ​and​ ​friendly, 
  sparking​ ​trust​ ​and​ ​a​ ​good​ ​chance​ ​for​ ​connections.​ ​When​ ​other​ ​people 
The​ ​INFJ​ ​work​ ​hard​ ​to​ ​gain​ ​the​ ​trust​ ​of​ ​the​ ​people​ ​they​ ​care​ ​about.​ ​It  resort​ ​to​ ​games,​ ​INFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​remain​ ​unengaged,​ ​more​ ​focused​ ​on 
is​ ​important​ ​for​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​to​ ​know​ ​that​ ​people​ ​will​ ​take​ ​their​ ​words  being​ ​liked​ ​and​ ​connecting​ ​than​ ​on​ ​winning​ ​or​ ​being​ ​the​ ​best​ ​in​ ​the 
seriously​ ​and​ ​that​ ​people​ ​will​ ​not​ ​dismiss​ ​our​ ​promises​ ​and​ ​ideals​ ​as  group.  
“just​ ​words”.​ ​INFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​work​ ​hard​ ​on,​ ​and​ ​pride​ ​themselves,​ ​on   
their​ ​charisma​ ​and​ ​their​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​communicate​ ​their​ ​values​ ​and​ ​to  When​ ​INFJs​ ​do​ ​win​ ​in​ ​a​ ​game​ ​or​ ​when​ ​they​ ​make​ ​other​ ​people​ ​feel 
influence​ ​people​ ​in​ ​a​ ​positive​ ​direction.​ ​This​ ​includes​ ​keeping  inferior,​ ​they​ ​will​ ​often​ ​feel​ ​a​ ​tinge​ ​of​ ​shame​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​or 
people’s​ ​mood​ ​up​ ​when​ ​people​ ​have​ ​doubt.​ ​It​ ​involves​ ​making​ ​other  worry​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​starting​ ​to​ ​alienate​ ​other​ ​people.​ ​At​ ​times,​ ​INFJs 
people​ ​believe​ ​them​ ​when​ ​they​ ​make​ ​a​ ​promise.​ ​And​ ​it​ ​includes  can​ ​have​ ​so​ ​strong​ ​ideals,​ ​that​ ​they​ ​will​ ​naturally​ ​alienate​ ​other 
getting​ ​people​ ​to​ ​unite​ ​and​ ​work​ ​together​ ​and​ ​to​ ​trust​ ​one​ ​another.   people​ ​somewhat​ ​from​ ​their​ ​cause.​ ​The​ ​changes​ ​INFJs​ ​propose​ ​for 
  their​ ​community​ ​can​ ​appear​ ​so​ ​radical​ ​that​ ​people​ ​simply​ ​find​ ​them 
INFJs​ ​will,​ ​in​ ​the​ ​name​ ​of​ ​this,​ ​work​ ​to​ ​present​ ​an​ ​image​ ​of​ ​an​ ​ideal​ ​or  impossible.  
to​ ​become​ ​a​ ​symbol​ ​that​ ​other​ ​people​ ​can​ ​count​ ​on.​ ​They​ ​will​ ​be   
working​ ​on​ ​maintaining​ ​this​ ​ideal​ ​and​ ​to​ ​appear​ ​like​ ​the  Being​ ​a​ ​visionary​ ​sets​ ​an​ ​additional​ ​challenge​ ​for​ ​you​ ​as​ ​a 
manifestation​ ​of​ ​their​ ​beliefs​ ​and​ ​ideology.​ ​In​ ​this,​ ​it’s​ ​important​ ​for  communicator​ ​-​ ​you​ ​have​ ​to​ ​be​ ​a​ ​diplomat​ ​for​ ​your​ ​ideals​ ​and​ ​your 
an​ ​INFJ​ ​to​ ​practice​ ​morally​ ​coherent​ ​actions,​ ​to​ ​act​ ​in​ ​accordance  visions,​ ​even​ ​if​ ​your​ ​ideas​ ​are​ ​difficult​ ​to​ ​explain,​ ​or​ ​sound​ ​impossible. 
You​ ​have​ ​to​ ​express​ ​the​ ​values​ ​you​ ​believe​ ​in​ ​without​ ​risk​ ​of  only​ ​requirement​ ​to​ ​have​ ​a​ ​scientific​ ​worldview.​ ​Many​ ​INFJs​ ​may 
becoming​ ​seen​ ​as​ ​a​ ​saint​ ​or​ ​somehow​ ​impossibly​ ​good,​ ​to​ ​the​ ​point  miss​ ​that. 
where​ ​other​ ​people​ ​start​ ​to​ ​see​ ​you​ ​as​ ​fake​ ​or​ ​inauthentic,​ ​or​ ​secretly   
malicious.​ ​The​ ​idea​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​as​ ​a​ ​saint​ ​or​ ​a​ ​somehow​ ​higher​ ​person  The​ ​INFJ​ ​Consciousness 
is​ ​completely​ ​incorrect​ ​but​ ​as​ ​many​ ​INFJs​ ​will​ ​want​ ​to​ ​appear​ ​as​ ​if   
they​ ​are​ ​perfect​ ​or​ ​somehow​ ​without​ ​flaws​ ​many​ ​will​ ​still​ ​get​ ​this  The​ ​normal​ ​state​ ​for​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​to​ ​hold​ ​a​ ​mental​ ​monologue,​ ​or​ ​an 
idea​ ​about​ ​the​ ​INFJ.​ ​ ​It​ ​is​ ​not​ ​uncommon​ ​for​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​to​ ​attempt​ ​to  uninterrupted,​ ​coherent​ ​stream​ ​of​ ​thought.​ ​They​ ​will​ ​imagine 
cover​ ​up​ ​major​ ​character​ ​flaws​ ​or​ ​to​ ​hide​ ​personal​ ​problems​ ​out​ ​of​ ​a  themselves​ ​talking​ ​for​ ​a​ ​long​ ​time​ ​without​ ​being​ ​interrupted​ ​or 
belief​ ​that​ ​it​ ​will​ ​alienate​ ​their​ ​followers.   without​ ​changing​ ​the​ ​nature​ ​of​ ​the​ ​conversation.​ ​This​ ​stream​ ​of 
  thought​ ​can​ ​naturally​ ​be​ ​channeled​ ​into​ ​blogging,​ ​writing,​ ​or 
But​ ​often,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​more​ ​true​ ​that​ ​INFJs​ ​only​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​seem​ ​more​ ​human  blogging.​ ​For​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​this​ ​stream​ ​of​ ​thought​ ​usually​ ​requires​ ​an 
when​ ​they​ ​can​ ​speak​ ​up​ ​about​ ​personal​ ​issues​ ​and​ ​show​ ​how​ ​they  active​ ​or​ ​perceived​ ​recipient. 
struggle.​ ​ ​This​ ​level​ ​of​ ​authenticity​ ​demands​ ​tremendous   
vulnerability​ ​from​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​and​ ​it​ ​is​ ​more​ ​difficult​ ​when​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​has  They​ ​will​ ​imagine​ ​themselves​ ​talking​ ​with​ ​someone​ ​or​ ​engaging 
become​ ​a​ ​public​ ​figure.​ ​It​ ​is​ ​typically​ ​that​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​has​ ​a​ ​deep​ ​level​ ​of  someone​ ​somehow.​ ​Or​ ​they​ ​will​ ​channel​ ​someone​ ​else’s​ ​thoughts, 
caring​ ​for​ ​other​ ​people​ ​and​ ​that​ ​they​ ​will​ ​act​ ​proactively​ ​to​ ​give  from​ ​within,​ ​imagining​ ​what​ ​another​ ​person​ ​would​ ​say​ ​if​ ​they​ ​got​ ​to 
people​ ​things​ ​other​ ​people​ ​do​ ​not​ ​even​ ​know​ ​that​ ​they​ ​need.​ ​INFJs  talk​ ​for​ ​a​ ​long​ ​time​ ​without​ ​anyone​ ​interrupting​ ​them.​ ​The​ ​INFJ 
will​ ​speak​ ​to​ ​and​ ​try​ ​to​ ​soothe​ ​and​ ​guide​ ​people​ ​who​ ​struggle​ ​and​ ​will  monologue​ ​is​ ​usually​ ​of​ ​an​ ​original​ ​nature,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​avoids 
anticipate​ ​people​ ​and​ ​find​ ​ways​ ​to​ ​be​ ​there​ ​for​ ​other​ ​people.​ ​At​ ​other  repeating​ ​themselves,​ ​by​ ​thinking​ ​of​ ​new,​ ​and​ ​new,​ ​and​ ​new​ ​ways​ ​to 
times,​ ​INFJs​ ​have​ ​a​ ​clear​ ​flaw​ ​in​ ​which​ ​they​ ​will​ ​believe​ ​something​ ​to  speak​ ​about​ ​a​ ​topic.​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​unusually​ ​focused​ ​and​ ​disciplined 
be​ ​true​ ​just​ ​because​ ​other​ ​people​ ​will​ ​agree​ ​with​ ​it.​ ​Belief​ ​is​ ​an  thinkers,​ ​and​ ​can​ ​think​ ​about​ ​one​ ​particular​ ​subject​ ​for​ ​a​ ​long​ ​time, 
important​ ​part​ ​of​ ​gaining​ ​knowledge​ ​in​ ​various​ ​areas,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​is​ ​not​ ​the  without​ ​changing​ ​the​ ​conversation​ ​or​ ​bouncing​ ​between​ ​different 
ideas.​ ​The​ ​INFJ’s​ ​thoughts​ ​are​ ​however​ ​typically​ ​of​ ​a​ ​general​ ​and 
broad​ ​nature,​ ​and​ ​INFJs​ ​will​ ​often​ ​consider​ ​or​ ​explore​ ​an​ ​idea​ ​or​ ​a  accordance​ ​with​ ​these​ ​laws,​ ​and​ ​will​ ​act​ ​to​ ​correct​ ​and​ ​intercept​ ​bad 
topic​ ​from​ ​multiple​ ​situations​ ​or​ ​contexts.  intentions. 
   
They​ ​will​ ​find​ ​new​ ​perspectives​ ​or​ ​viewpoints​ ​to​ ​engage​ ​a​ ​situation  The​ ​leader​ ​temperament​ ​is​ ​a​ ​core​ ​part​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​and​ ​their​ ​inner 
from​ ​and​ ​will​ ​constantly​ ​reinvent​ ​themselves​ ​and​ ​how​ ​they​ ​act​ ​and  wiring.​ ​HSP​ ​is​ ​also​ ​a​ ​crucial​ ​component​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​to​ ​navigate 
behave.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​typically​ ​focused​ ​on​ ​their​ ​own,​ ​or​ ​someone​ ​else’s  to​ ​be​ ​healthy​ ​as​ ​an​ ​INFJ.​ ​As​ ​a​ ​leader,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​independent, 
hidden​ ​intentions​ ​and​ ​purpose.​ ​They​ ​will​ ​be​ ​introspecting​ ​and  autonomous,​ ​and​ ​self-oriented.​ ​You​ ​are​ ​in​ ​your​ ​comfort​ ​zone​ ​when 
reflecting​ ​on​ ​why​ ​people​ ​do​ ​what​ ​they​ ​do​ ​and​ ​will​ ​be​ ​seeking​ ​answers  you​ ​think​ ​about​ ​how​ ​you​ ​can​ ​respond​ ​to​ ​emotions​ ​in​ ​a​ ​longer 
within​ ​to​ ​who​ ​they​ ​are​ ​and​ ​what​ ​they​ ​need​ ​to​ ​do​ ​to​ ​move​ ​forward​ ​in  perspective​ ​and​ ​you​ ​prefer​ ​to​ ​take​ ​responsibility​ ​for​ ​your​ ​own 
life.​ ​INFJs​ ​will​ ​typically​ ​think​ ​in​ ​the​ ​term​ ​“we”.​ ​They​ ​will​ ​see  feelings​ ​than​ ​to​ ​share​ ​your​ ​emotional​ ​state​ ​and​ ​your​ ​thoughts​ ​with 
themselves​ ​as​ ​a​ ​group​ ​of​ ​people​ ​or​ ​as​ ​a​ ​representative​ ​of​ ​a​ ​group​ ​of  other​ ​people.​ ​INFJs​ ​can​ ​appear​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​their​ ​own​ ​thoughts​ ​and 
interests.   emotions​ ​more​ ​or​ ​less​ ​confined​ ​and​ ​carefully​ ​composed.​ ​While​ ​this 
  can​ ​help​ ​them​ ​solve​ ​many​ ​problems​ ​and​ ​to​ ​hold​ ​on​ ​in​ ​situations​ ​that 
They​ ​will​ ​see​ ​themselves​ ​as​ ​diplomats​ ​and​ ​will​ ​see​ ​their​ ​experiences  are​ ​more​ ​chaotic​ ​and​ ​disorienting,​ ​it​ ​can​ ​cause​ ​them​ ​to​ ​neglect​ ​short 
as​ ​universal​ ​and​ ​shared​ ​with​ ​other​ ​people​ ​across​ ​the​ ​world.​ ​The​ ​INFJ  term​ ​feelings.  
will​ ​see​ ​themselves​ ​as​ ​“spokespersons”​ ​of​ ​a​ ​collective​ ​unconscious​ ​or   
of​ ​shared​ ​human​ ​interests.​ ​An​ ​INFJ​ ​will​ ​have​ ​no​ ​problem  INFJs​ ​can​ ​struggle​ ​with​ ​being​ ​unaware​ ​of​ ​what​ ​they​ ​feel​ ​in​ ​the 
compromising​ ​their​ ​own​ ​needs​ ​to​ ​fit​ ​with​ ​these​ ​general​ ​values​ ​and  moment​ ​as​ ​they​ ​focus​ ​narrowly​ ​on​ ​how​ ​they​ ​want​ ​to​ ​feel​ ​in​ ​the 
interests.​ ​The​ ​healthy​ ​INFJ​ ​will​ ​have​ ​a​ ​strong​ ​code​ ​of​ ​conduct​ ​and​ ​a  future.​ ​They​ ​can​ ​tell​ ​themselves​ ​short-term​ ​emotions​ ​are​ ​fleeting​ ​and 
set​ ​of​ ​fluid​ ​social​ ​laws​ ​and​ ​open-ended​ ​rules​ ​that​ ​they​ ​live​ ​and  unimportant​ ​and​ ​can​ ​discipline​ ​themselves​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​a​ ​solid​ ​or 
behave​ ​in​ ​accordance​ ​with.​ ​They​ ​will​ ​see​ ​the​ ​world​ ​operating  composed​ ​emotional​ ​state​ ​outwards.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​what​ ​makes​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​a 
according​ ​to​ ​these​ ​laws​ ​and​ ​according​ ​to​ ​this​ ​idea​ ​of​ ​how​ ​life​ ​is  great​ ​leader,​ ​their​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​take​ ​responsibility​ ​over​ ​things​ ​that 
intended​ ​to​ ​be.​ ​They​ ​will​ ​notice​ ​when​ ​the​ ​world​ ​is​ ​not​ ​acting​ ​in  happen​ ​in​ ​the​ ​world,​ ​making​ ​the​ ​issues​ ​of​ ​the​ ​world​ ​their​ ​own 
problems.​ ​But​ ​also​ ​the​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​set​ ​aside​ ​their​ ​personal​ ​feelings​ ​to  types,​ ​but​ ​that​ ​they​ ​just​ ​don’t​ ​see​ ​anything​ ​but​ ​what​ ​they​ ​envision 
focus​ ​on​ ​the​ ​feelings​ ​of​ ​the​ ​group​ ​and​ ​on​ ​long-term​ ​strategies.​ ​On​ ​the  and​ ​hope​ ​for. 
negative​ ​end​ ​of​ ​things,​ ​INFJs​ ​can​ ​struggle​ ​with​ ​being​ ​too​ ​much​ ​in   
their​ ​own​ ​heads.​ ​It​ ​can​ ​appear​ ​as​ ​if,​ ​to​ ​the​ ​INFJ,​ ​the​ ​only​ ​person​ ​with  The​ ​Big​ ​Four:​ ​Issues​ ​INFJs​ ​Need​ ​To 
any​ ​power​ ​or​ ​significance​ ​is​ ​themselves,​ ​and​ ​they​ ​take​ ​responsibility  Confront 
for​ ​both​ ​all​ ​the​ ​good,​ ​and​ ​all​ ​the​ ​positive​ ​that​ ​occurs​ ​in​ ​the​ ​world.    
Here​ ​is​ ​a​ ​collection​ ​of​ ​struggles​ ​and​ ​issues​ ​that​ ​I​ ​have​ ​found​ ​that​ ​all 
 
INFJs​ ​need​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​to​ ​confront​ ​and​ ​manage.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​has​ ​a​ ​unique 
They​ ​can​ ​also​ ​appear​ ​to​ ​ignore​ ​real​ ​feelings​ ​and​ ​issues​ ​that​ ​pop​ ​up, 
flow​ ​type,​ ​but​ ​also​ ​four​ ​key​ ​blocks,​ ​four​ ​experiences​ ​that​ ​are 
pretending​ ​it,​ ​or​ ​certain​ ​evidence​ ​does​ ​not​ ​exist,​ ​until​ ​they​ ​are​ ​ready 
detrimental​ ​to​ ​their​ ​growth.​ ​Life​ ​demands​ ​that​ ​we​ ​not​ ​only​ ​confront 
to​ ​accept​ ​it.​ ​It​ ​takes​ ​time​ ​for​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​to​ ​process​ ​their​ ​feelings,​ ​and 
the​ ​best​ ​in​ ​ourselves​ ​but​ ​also​ ​the​ ​things​ ​we​ ​struggle​ ​with​ ​the​ ​most 
because​ ​of​ ​their​ ​inclination​ ​to​ ​push​ ​down​ ​their​ ​feelings,​ ​their​ ​feelings 
and​ ​often,​ ​our​ ​inferior​ ​functions​ ​are​ ​easy​ ​to​ ​find​ ​in​ ​our​ ​environment 
can​ ​often​ ​become​ ​intense,​ ​deep,​ ​contained,​ ​condensed,​ ​and​ ​focused. 
and​ ​in​ ​our​ ​surroundings.  
To​ ​become​ ​the​ ​target​ ​of​ ​an​ ​INFJs​ ​complete​ ​focus,​ ​attention,​ ​and​ ​their 
 
deep​ ​emotions,​ ​that​ ​is​ ​quite​ ​an​ ​experience.​ ​If​ ​you’re​ ​not​ ​the​ ​target, 
While​ ​we​ ​personally​ ​do​ ​not​ ​get​ ​any​ ​value​ ​from​ ​sensing​ ​or​ ​thinking, 
however,​ ​INFJs​ ​can​ ​strike​ ​you​ ​as​ ​cold,​ ​unfeeling,​ ​oblivious,​ ​and 
sensing​ ​and​ ​thinking​ ​is​ ​still​ ​a​ ​necessity​ ​and​ ​a​ ​struggle​ ​that​ ​we​ ​must 
distant.​ ​But​ ​don’t​ ​be​ ​fooled.​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​deeply​ ​feeling​ ​types​ ​that 
develop​ ​intelligent​ ​responses​ ​to.​ ​What​ ​I​ ​advice​ ​all​ ​INFJs​ ​to​ ​do​ ​is​ ​not 
constantly​ ​keep​ ​a​ ​distance​ ​and​ ​controlling​ ​hand​ ​over​ ​their​ ​own 
develop​ ​their​ ​inferior​ ​functions,​ ​but​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​strategies​ ​to​ ​manage 
emotions,​ ​reigning​ ​themselves​ ​in.  
them​ ​without​ ​becoming​ ​drained,​ ​overwhelmed,​ ​or​ ​deadened​ ​by 
 
them.​ ​INFJs​ ​that​ ​force​ ​themselves​ ​to​ ​overuse​ ​their​ ​inferior​ ​values 
INFJs​ ​are​ ​often​ ​highly​ ​passionate,​ ​and​ ​emotionally​ ​involved,​ ​with 
will​ ​often​ ​find​ ​themselves​ ​losing​ ​their​ ​inner​ ​zest​ ​-​ ​becoming​ ​less 
their​ ​goals​ ​and​ ​with​ ​the​ ​people​ ​or​ ​ideals​ ​they​ ​care​ ​about,​ ​but​ ​cold 
warm,​ ​more​ ​dead​ ​in​ ​their​ ​eyes,​ ​more​ ​cold,​ ​and​ ​more​ ​at​ ​a​ ​loss​ ​of 
about​ ​everything​ ​and​ ​everyone​ ​else.​ ​Not​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​actually​ ​cold 
energy.​ ​ ​No,​ ​most​ ​self-actualised​ ​INFJs​ ​do​ ​not​ ​force​ ​themselves​ ​to​ ​be 
this​ ​way,​ ​but​ ​act​ ​primarily​ ​to​ ​reach​ ​their​ ​dominant​ ​needs​ ​and​ ​values.  that​ ​there’s​ ​something​ ​else​ ​going​ ​on​ ​inside​ ​their​ ​minds.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​are 
Only​ ​secondarily,​ ​do​ ​they​ ​develop​ ​strategies​ ​to​ ​manage​ ​sensory​ ​and  prone​ ​to​ ​inner​ ​monologues,​ ​and​ ​when​ ​inside​ ​these​ ​monologues,​ ​they 
rational​ ​stimulation.​ ​Often,​ ​they​ ​find​ ​that​ ​by​ ​allowing​ ​their​ ​dominant  may​ ​not​ ​pay​ ​enough​ ​attention​ ​to​ ​people​ ​who​ ​may​ ​need​ ​it.​ ​It​ ​is​ ​often 
needs​ ​to​ ​come​ ​first,​ ​their​ ​secondary​ ​needs​ ​often​ ​follow  that​ ​INFJs​ ​appear​ ​more​ ​present​ ​than​ ​they​ ​are.​ ​They​ ​can​ ​have​ ​a 
automatically.   strong​ ​and​ ​attentive​ ​gaze​ ​but​ ​their​ ​thoughts​ ​are​ ​often​ ​elsewhere. 
  INFJs​ ​often​ ​spend​ ​more​ ​energy​ ​on​ ​appearing​ ​present,​ ​than​ ​actually 
1.​ ​Availability​ ​and​ ​presence​ ​to​ ​friends​ ​and​ ​family  being​ ​present,​ ​covering​ ​up​ ​for​ ​their​ ​lack​ ​of​ ​attention​ ​and​ ​trying​ ​their 
  best​ ​to​ ​give​ ​energy​ ​that​ ​isn’t​ ​there.  
The​ ​biggest​ ​critique​ ​online​ ​against​ ​INFJs​ ​revolve​ ​around​ ​INFJs   
tendencies​ ​to​ ​ghost​ ​or​ ​to​ ​“disappear”​ ​from​ ​the​ ​face​ ​of​ ​the​ ​earth.​ ​You  This​ ​is​ ​often​ ​a​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​“ghostwalking”​ ​as​ ​INFJs​ ​can​ ​appear​ ​as​ ​zombies 
might​ ​notice​ ​that​ ​things​ ​that​ ​seem​ ​normal​ ​to​ ​most​ ​people,​ ​like  from​ ​the​ ​perspective​ ​of,​ ​say,​ ​an​ ​ISTJ.​ ​ISTJs​ ​who​ ​have​ ​a​ ​distrusting, 
answering​ ​the​ ​phone​ ​when​ ​someone​ ​calls,​ ​or​ ​responding​ ​to​ ​your  concerned,​ ​meticulous​ ​and​ ​focused​ ​gaze​ ​will​ ​often​ ​notice​ ​how 
email,​ ​or​ ​saying​ ​“yes”​ ​at​ ​the​ ​end​ ​of​ ​a​ ​conversation​ ​is​ ​difficult​ ​for​ ​an  peculiar,​ ​absent,​ ​distant,​ ​and​ ​detached​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​gaze​ ​is​ ​in 
INFJ​ ​personality​ ​type.​ ​INFJs​ ​can​ ​struggle​ ​with​ ​remaining​ ​present​ ​in  comparison.​ ​The​ ​twilight​ ​zone​ ​is​ ​a​ ​good​ ​reference​ ​to​ ​where​ ​the​ ​INFJ 
their​ ​life​ ​and​ ​showing​ ​important​ ​things​ ​and​ ​good​ ​conversation​ ​their  likes​ ​to​ ​spend​ ​the​ ​main​ ​part​ ​of​ ​their​ ​life.​ ​The​ ​twilight​ ​zone​ ​is​ ​this​ ​inner 
attention.​ ​This​ ​can​ ​lead​ ​us​ ​to​ ​ignore​ ​or​ ​miss​ ​out​ ​important​ ​truths​ ​and  simulation​ ​or​ ​idea​ ​world​ ​often​ ​of​ ​a​ ​philosophical​ ​and​ ​abstract​ ​nature, 
things​ ​happening​ ​around​ ​us​ ​that​ ​match​ ​with​ ​our​ ​intuitive​ ​interests.  an​ ​abstraction​ ​of​ ​the​ ​reality​ ​around​ ​them.​ ​You​ ​could​ ​also​ ​say​ ​that,​ ​to 
There​ ​are​ ​new​ ​patterns,​ ​changes,​ ​and​ ​new​ ​interests​ ​waiting​ ​for​ ​us​ ​to  the​ ​INFJ,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​the​ ​ISTJ​ ​that​ ​is​ ​a​ ​zombie​ ​in​ ​this​ ​twilight​ ​world.​ ​The​ ​ISTJs 
listen,​ ​but​ ​finding​ ​the​ ​mindset​ ​where​ ​you​ ​can​ ​be​ ​open​ ​to​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be  presence​ ​can​ ​appear​ ​completely​ ​absent​ ​from​ ​this​ ​more​ ​imaginative 
difficult.   and​ ​abstract​ ​mind​ ​palace.​ ​These​ ​judgements​ ​are​ ​however​ ​more​ ​a 
  question​ ​of​ ​personal​ ​projections​ ​and​ ​differing​ ​ideas​ ​of​ ​what​ ​it​ ​means 
So​ ​what​ ​is​ ​going​ ​on​ ​inside​ ​the​ ​INFJ?​ ​First,​ ​you​ ​may​ ​notice​ ​that​ ​the  to​ ​be​ ​attentive​ ​and​ ​aware.​ ​Beyond​ ​ghost​ ​walking,​ ​INFJs​ ​have​ ​a​ ​habit 
INFJ​ ​is​ ​struggling​ ​to​ ​remain​ ​“present”​ ​in​ ​reality.​ ​Then​ ​you​ ​may​ ​notice 
of​ ​walking​ ​away​ ​or​ ​removing​ ​themselves​ ​from​ ​a​ ​situation,​ ​sometimes  if​ ​you​ ​can​ ​find​ ​the​ ​answer​ ​to​ ​these​ ​questions​ ​in​ ​whatever 
without​ ​even​ ​saying​ ​goodbye.​ ​We’re​ ​a​ ​bit​ ​absent​ ​minded.   conversations​ ​or​ ​patterns​ ​life​ ​has​ ​decided​ ​to​ ​throw​ ​at​ ​you​ ​today.​ ​If 
  you​ ​become​ ​a​ ​master​ ​of​ ​the​ ​art​ ​of​ ​listening​ ​to​ ​yourself,​ ​you​ ​can 
The​ ​twilight​ ​zone​ ​is​ ​where​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​likes​ ​to​ ​spend​ ​their​ ​time,​ ​as​ ​this​ ​is  actually​ ​become​ ​more​ ​outgoing,​ ​more​ ​present,​ ​and​ ​more​ ​available​ ​to 
a​ ​place​ ​where​ ​they​ ​can​ ​recharge​ ​batteries​ ​and​ ​regain​ ​consciousness.  other​ ​people.  
Reality​ ​is​ ​rather​ ​where​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​goes​ ​to​ ​“lose”​ ​their​ ​consciousness.   
Yes,​ ​the​ ​more​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​pressures​ ​their​ ​sensing​ ​function,​ ​the​ ​more  A​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​INFJs​ ​equally​ ​struggle​ ​with​ ​not​ ​feeling​ ​heard​ ​or​ ​seen​ ​by​ ​other 
bored​ ​and​ ​understimulated​ ​they​ ​feel.​ ​A​ ​person​ ​that​ ​loses​ ​their  people.​ ​Because​ ​we​ ​love​ ​the​ ​big​ ​picture,​ ​we’re​ ​often​ ​sitting​ ​in​ ​the 
recreative​ ​function​ ​will​ ​also​ ​struggle​ ​to​ ​remember​ ​their​ ​experiences  corner​ ​of​ ​the​ ​classroom,​ ​or​ ​atop​ ​a​ ​building,​ ​looking​ ​down​ ​at​ ​everyone 
and​ ​to​ ​maintain​ ​attention​ ​and​ ​interest​ ​in​ ​what​ ​is​ ​said.​ ​It​ ​is  else.​ ​Living​ ​outside​ ​society​ ​or​ ​behind​ ​a​ ​counter​ ​or​ ​in​ ​the​ ​twilight​ ​zone, 
understandable​ ​then​ ​that​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​in​ ​extraverted​ ​sensing​ ​gains​ ​a  we’re​ ​harder​ ​to​ ​spot​ ​than​ ​the​ ​average​ ​person.​ ​When​ ​they​ ​actively​ ​do 
poor​ ​and​ ​fickle​ ​concentration.​ ​It​ ​can​ ​be​ ​that​ ​INFJs​ ​avoid​ ​presence  share​ ​their​ ​energy​ ​and​ ​when​ ​they​ ​make​ ​an​ ​effort​ ​to​ ​use​ ​sensing​ ​to 
because​ ​presence​ ​makes​ ​us​ ​slightly​ ​anxious:​ ​it​ ​requires​ ​us​ ​to​ ​go  make​ ​themselves​ ​understood,​ ​they​ ​may​ ​overwhelm​ ​other​ ​people, 
outside​ ​our​ ​comfort​ ​zone​ ​and​ ​to​ ​face​ ​a​ ​world​ ​where​ ​our​ ​theories​ ​and  and​ ​risk​ ​sending​ ​confusing,​ ​mixed​ ​signals.​ ​I​ ​often​ ​see​ ​INFjs​ ​that​ ​will 
ideas​ ​may​ ​not​ ​apply.   either​ ​switch​ ​between​ ​a​ ​very​ ​private​ ​and​ ​downtuned​ ​introverted 
  intuition,​ ​and​ ​then​ ​a​ ​full​ ​pronged​ ​extraverted​ ​sensing​ ​death​ ​ray. 
At​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​I​ ​find​ ​that​ ​it​ ​is​ ​not​ ​possible​ ​to​ ​force​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​or​ ​INTJ  Often,​ ​the​ ​better​ ​answer​ ​is​ ​to​ ​tune​ ​up​ ​your​ ​introverted​ ​intuition​ ​and 
to​ ​pay​ ​attention​ ​to​ ​you.​ ​What​ ​tends​ ​to​ ​happen​ ​in​ ​reality​ ​is​ ​you,​ ​as​ ​the  to​ ​share​ ​without​ ​overwhelming​ ​your​ ​listeners. 
good,​ ​kind​ ​INFJ,​ ​want​ ​to​ ​give​ ​other​ ​people​ ​your​ ​attention,​ ​but​ ​you   
end​ ​up​ ​taking​ ​more​ ​time​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​look​ ​like​ ​you’re​ ​paying​ ​attention,  In​ ​the​ ​end,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​important​ ​to​ ​realise​ ​that​ ​attention​ ​is​ ​overrated.​ ​When 
than​ ​actually​ ​listening.​ ​I​ ​think​ ​rather,​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​has​ ​to​ ​go​ ​somewhere​ ​to  we​ ​tell​ ​people​ ​to​ ​“pay​ ​attention”​ ​often,​ ​surprisingly,​ ​what​ ​people​ ​do​ ​is 
find​ ​attention.​ ​Go​ ​within,​ ​and​ ​find​ ​a​ ​theory​ ​you’d​ ​like​ ​to​ ​test,​ ​or  they​ ​tense​ ​up​ ​the​ ​muscles​ ​around​ ​the​ ​face.​ ​That’s​ ​it.​ ​They​ ​frown.​ ​It’s 
something​ ​you’re​ ​searching​ ​for​ ​the​ ​answer​ ​to.​ ​Then​ ​go​ ​outside​ ​to​ ​see  not​ ​that​ ​we​ ​learn​ ​more,​ ​but​ ​that​ ​we​ ​try​ ​to​ ​appear​ ​like​ ​we’re​ ​learning, 
even​ ​though​ ​we’re​ ​not​ ​actually​ ​interested.​ ​Attention​ ​is​ ​not​ ​an​ ​off​ ​or  attention​ ​you​ ​find​ ​in​ ​introverted​ ​intuition.​ ​And​ ​the​ ​INFJs​ ​that​ ​can 
on​ ​switch,​ ​and​ ​it​ ​is​ ​definitely​ ​not​ ​something​ ​we​ ​can​ ​pay.​ ​Instead,​ ​we  relax​ ​the​ ​grasp​ ​of​ ​Enneagram​ ​3​ ​will​ ​actually​ ​absorb​ ​more​ ​information 
make​ ​people​ ​appear​ ​like​ ​they​ ​are​ ​paying​ ​attention,​ ​when​ ​in​ ​reality,  than​ ​their​ ​seemingly​ ​“more​ ​attentive”​ ​INFJ-3​ ​counterparts.   
they​ ​are​ ​more​ ​focused​ ​on​ ​appearing​ ​attentive,​ ​than​ ​actually​ ​paying 
attention.​ ​Take​ ​note,​ ​teachers.   2.​ ​Managing​ ​your​ ​nerves​ ​and​ ​HSP 
   
Often,​ ​the​ ​surprising​ ​secret​ ​to​ ​attention​ ​is​ ​this:​ ​to​ ​get​ ​people​ ​to​ ​pay  Many​ ​INFJs​ ​struggle​ ​with​ ​bad​ ​nerves​ ​and​ ​instincts.​ ​There​ ​is​ ​a​ ​sense 
attention,​ ​we​ ​have​ ​to​ ​make​ ​attention​ ​interesting.​ ​And​ ​while​ ​many​ ​will  of​ ​chronic​ ​nervousness​ ​over​ ​events​ ​and​ ​actions​ ​happening​ ​in​ ​the​ ​real 
complain​ ​that​ ​INFJs​ ​appear​ ​inattentive,​ ​the​ ​surprising​ ​truth​ ​is​ ​INFJs  world.​ ​Unanticipated​ ​events​ ​can​ ​repeatedly​ ​risk​ ​spinning​ ​the​ ​INFJ 
may​ ​just​ ​be​ ​paying​ ​attention​ ​on​ ​another​ ​level.​ ​An​ ​example​ ​is​ ​to​ ​ask  away​ ​from​ ​their​ ​life​ ​path​ ​or​ ​their​ ​vision,​ ​and​ ​so,​ ​mental​ ​discipline​ ​is 
the​ ​INFJ​ ​certain​ ​questions​ ​about​ ​what​ ​you​ ​have​ ​said​ ​or​ ​done  important​ ​to​ ​manage​ ​these​ ​nerves​ ​and​ ​to​ ​ensure​ ​you​ ​as​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​don’t 
throughout​ ​the​ ​day:​ ​you’ll​ ​be​ ​surprised​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​that​ ​INFJs,​ ​while​ ​they  become​ ​too​ ​antsy.​ ​Many​ ​young​ ​INFJs​ ​struggle​ ​with​ ​getting​ ​caught​ ​up 
may​ ​seem​ ​absent,​ ​are​ ​constantly​ ​absorbing​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​information,  in​ ​this​ ​restlessness,​ ​making​ ​bad​ ​calls​ ​in​ ​the​ ​moment.​ ​It​ ​is​ ​the​ ​inferior 
especially​ ​subtle​ ​information.​ ​And​ ​I​ ​will​ ​constantly​ ​surprise​ ​my  sensing​ ​function​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​that​ ​is​ ​the​ ​cause​ ​of​ ​this.  
friends​ ​and​ ​family​ ​by​ ​bringing​ ​up​ ​things​ ​they​ ​said​ ​or​ ​did.​ ​Perhaps​ ​the   
surprise​ ​is​ ​bigger​ ​because​ ​introverted​ ​intuition​ ​is​ ​often​ ​a​ ​less  Many​ ​INXJs​ ​will​ ​often​ ​describe​ ​themselves​ ​as​ ​carrying​ ​a​ ​near 
conscious​ ​learning​ ​process,​ ​that​ ​happens​ ​underneath​ ​rather​ ​than  constant​ ​state​ ​of​ ​hidden​ ​panic,​ ​while​ ​they​ ​will​ ​invest​ ​much​ ​stress​ ​and 
above​ ​the​ ​surface.   energy​ ​to​ ​maintain​ ​outer​ ​calm​ ​and​ ​patience.​ ​While​ ​their​ ​inner​ ​state​ ​is 
  nervous​ ​and​ ​antsy,​ ​and​ ​their​ ​responses​ ​to​ ​external​ ​events​ ​are 
This​ ​is​ ​often​ ​why​ ​I​ ​describe​ ​INFJ-3s​ ​as​ ​vain.​ ​INFJ-3s​ ​have​ ​been​ ​taught  unusually​ ​strong,​ ​their​ ​outer​ ​presence​ ​will​ ​often​ ​appear​ ​much​ ​more 
to​ ​focus​ ​more​ ​on​ ​appearing​ ​attentive​ ​and​ ​energised,​ ​because​ ​perhaps  calm​ ​and​ ​grounded​ ​than​ ​that​ ​of​ ​the​ ​XNXP​ ​types. 
they​ ​have​ ​been​ ​complimented​ ​for​ ​it​ ​by​ ​teachers​ ​or​ ​their​ ​boss​ ​at​ ​work.   
This​ ​is​ ​a​ ​shallow​ ​attention,​ ​that​ ​actually​ ​runs​ ​less​ ​deep​ ​than​ ​the 
Another​ ​issue​ ​here​ ​is​ ​managing​ ​or​ ​avoiding​ ​interruptions​ ​and  intuitive​ ​possibility​ ​or​ ​a​ ​vision,​ ​and​ ​more​ ​stressed​ ​as​ ​they​ ​become 
stressors​ ​by​ ​remaining​ ​in​ ​a​ ​predictable​ ​environment,​ ​even​ ​if​ ​it​ ​comes  distracted​ ​by​ ​demanding​ ​sensory​ ​stimulation.​ ​INFJs​ ​can​ ​easily 
at​ ​the​ ​expense​ ​of​ ​your​ ​more​ ​intuitive​ ​needs.​ ​Many​ ​INFJs​ ​seem​ ​to  become​ ​overwhelmed​ ​by​ ​stress​ ​and​ ​overwhelming​ ​sounds​ ​and 
exist​ ​in​ ​a​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​stasis,​ ​where​ ​they​ ​avoid​ ​anything​ ​that​ ​could  distractions​ ​from​ ​the​ ​world,​ ​and​ ​in​ ​times​ ​of​ ​overwhelm,​ ​they​ ​are 
potentially​ ​catch​ ​them​ ​off​ ​their​ ​guard.​ ​Other​ ​INFJs​ ​never​ ​have​ ​the  prone​ ​to​ ​getting​ ​caught​ ​up​ ​in​ ​the​ ​crowd​ ​mentality.​ ​They​ ​can​ ​suddenly 
time​ ​to​ ​hone​ ​or​ ​direct​ ​their​ ​intuition​ ​because​ ​they​ ​live​ ​in​ ​a​ ​stressful  become​ ​prone​ ​to​ ​lashing​ ​out​ ​“what​ ​the​ ​group​ ​thinks”,​ ​mirroring​ ​and 
environment​ ​where​ ​something​ ​is​ ​always​ ​happening​ ​to​ ​distract​ ​them.    making​ ​decisions​ ​purely​ ​based​ ​on​ ​environmental​ ​feedback​ ​and​ ​not​ ​on 
  their​ ​personal​ ​views​ ​or​ ​more​ ​idealistic​ ​goals.​ ​It​ ​is​ ​under​ ​the​ ​grip​ ​of 
Here,​ ​social​ ​media​ ​flashes,​ ​Facebook​ ​messenger,​ ​Whatsapp,​ ​phone  these​ ​nerves​ ​that​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​will​ ​suddenly​ ​back​ ​out​ ​of​ ​a​ ​relationship 
calls​ ​and​ ​distracting​ ​sounds​ ​can​ ​be​ ​constantly​ ​keeping​ ​you​ ​from  and​ ​decide​ ​“it​ ​is​ ​not​ ​going​ ​to​ ​work”​ ​and​ ​that​ ​it​ ​is​ ​“impossible”.​ ​ ​Nerves 
reaching​ ​the​ ​mental​ ​discipline​ ​necessary​ ​for​ ​your​ ​intuition​ ​to  will​ ​often​ ​get​ ​INFJs​ ​to​ ​back​ ​away​ ​from​ ​or​ ​pull​ ​out​ ​of​ ​stressful 
function​ ​optimally.​ ​But​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​compensates​ ​for​ ​their​ ​weak​ ​nerves  situations​ ​completely.​ ​It​ ​is​ ​therefore​ ​important​ ​that​ ​INFJs​ ​anticipate 
through​ ​a​ ​stronger​ ​than​ ​average​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​envision​ ​and​ ​to​ ​get​ ​caught  and​ ​recognise​ ​overly​ ​stressful​ ​situations​ ​and​ ​that​ ​they​ ​can​ ​avoid 
up​ ​in​ ​an​ ​imaginative​ ​tale​ ​or​ ​story.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​can​ ​share​ ​a​ ​story​ ​or  them,​ ​or,​ ​if​ ​impossible,​ ​at​ ​least​ ​reassure​ ​themselves​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​not 
simulate​ ​an​ ​experience​ ​with​ ​animated​ ​faces​ ​and​ ​strong​ ​expressions.  currently​ ​thinking​ ​clearly.​ ​That​ ​things​ ​will​ ​pass​ ​and​ ​get​ ​better. 
They​ ​can​ ​experience​ ​what​ ​they​ ​envision​ ​as​ ​if​ ​it​ ​was​ ​actually   
happening​ ​-​ ​right​ ​here​ ​-​ ​right​ ​now.​ ​The​ ​heightened​ ​sensory​ ​response  The​ ​presence​ ​of​ ​sensing​ ​and​ ​perceiving​ ​can​ ​drive​ ​an​ ​unusually 
gives​ ​the​ ​intuitive​ ​types​ ​a​ ​stronger​ ​response​ ​not​ ​just​ ​to​ ​sensations  conservative​ ​response​ ​in​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​as​ ​they​ ​start​ ​becoming 
but​ ​also​ ​to​ ​imaginative​ ​tales.   preoccupied​ ​by​ ​the​ ​limitations​ ​of​ ​the​ ​present​ ​situation.​ ​Stress​ ​from 
  work​ ​and​ ​distractions​ ​around​ ​them​ ​can​ ​appear​ ​suddenly 
The​ ​INFJ​ ​recharges​ ​their​ ​batteries​ ​as​ ​they​ ​can​ ​carry​ ​out​ ​this​ ​tale​ ​or  insurmountable,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​can​ ​feel​ ​that​ ​they​ ​will​ ​never​ ​get​ ​back​ ​to 
fantasy​ ​and​ ​as​ ​they​ ​can​ ​express​ ​this​ ​story​ ​or​ ​play​ ​out​ ​an​ ​idea.​ ​INFJs  a​ ​peaceful​ ​state.​ ​Practice​ ​calming​ ​yourself​ ​and​ ​your​ ​nerves​ ​and 
become​ ​less​ ​stressed​ ​as​ ​they​ ​take​ ​deliberate​ ​action​ ​towards​ ​an 
soothing​ ​yourself,​ ​find​ ​your​ ​way​ ​back​ ​to​ ​focus​ ​and​ ​flow,​ ​and​ ​avoid  important​ ​processing​ ​space​ ​for​ ​INFJs​ ​and​ ​fiction​ ​and​ ​literary​ ​analysis 
overwhelming​ ​yourself​ ​when​ ​you​ ​can.  can​ ​give​ ​them​ ​the​ ​space​ ​and​ ​time​ ​they​ ​need​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​and​ ​to 
  gain​ ​more​ ​wisdom​ ​and​ ​insight​ ​into​ ​life.​ ​But​ ​often,​ ​this​ ​wisdom​ ​needs 
3.​ ​Dealing​ ​with​ ​a​ ​sometimes​ ​hard​ ​and​ ​violent​ ​world  to​ ​be​ ​tested​ ​and​ ​put​ ​to​ ​practice​ ​in​ ​real​ ​relationships.​ ​INFJs​ ​need​ ​to 
expose​ ​themselves​ ​to​ ​real​ ​relationships​ ​and​ ​campaign​ ​and​ ​activism​ ​to 
INFJs​ ​will​ ​often​ ​elevate​ ​themselves​ ​to​ ​be​ ​perfect​ ​or​ ​near-perfect.  truly​ ​become​ ​wise,​ ​and​ ​in​ ​a​ ​sense,​ ​happy.​ ​While​ ​my​ ​own​ ​emotional 
They​ ​will​ ​raise​ ​expectations​ ​on​ ​themselves​ ​and​ ​will​ ​demand  landscape​ ​was​ ​nice​ ​and​ ​reassuring,​ ​the​ ​world​ ​of​ ​politics,​ ​love,​ ​and 
themselves​ ​to​ ​be​ ​tough​ ​or​ ​overly​ ​optimistic,​ ​as​ ​to​ ​avoid​ ​troubling  friendship​ ​gave​ ​me​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​true​ ​happiness​ ​and​ ​meaning,​ ​meaning 
their​ ​friends​ ​and​ ​family​ ​members.​ ​They​ ​will​ ​make​ ​a​ ​habit​ ​of​ ​appearing  that​ ​went​ ​beyond​ ​fiction.  
like​ ​they​ ​have​ ​it​ ​all​ ​together,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​they’re​ ​fine,​ ​when​ ​they’re​ ​in   
fact​ ​struggling​ ​with​ ​something.​ ​Their​ ​need​ ​to​ ​be​ ​strong​ ​for​ ​other  This​ ​changed​ ​my​ ​outlook​ ​on​ ​life​ ​and​ ​I​ ​started​ ​to​ ​realise​ ​that​ ​life​ ​was 
people​ ​may​ ​often​ ​put​ ​them​ ​at​ ​odds​ ​with​ ​friends​ ​and​ ​family​ ​members,  not​ ​just​ ​a​ ​story,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​the​ ​decisions​ ​I​ ​made​ ​actually​ ​had​ ​value​ ​and 
who​ ​feel​ ​that​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​distancing​ ​themselves​ ​from​ ​them.​ ​It’s​ ​the  an​ ​impact​ ​on​ ​other​ ​people.​ ​A​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​INFJs​ ​don’t​ ​realise​ ​this.​ ​I​ ​have 
sensitivity​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​that​ ​forces​ ​them​ ​into​ ​this​ ​corner:​ ​fear​ ​of​ ​pain  been​ ​lost​ ​in​ ​stories,​ ​art,​ ​literature,​ ​fiction,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​have​ ​found​ ​myself 
and​ ​conflict.​ ​It​ ​is​ ​important​ ​that​ ​you​ ​both​ ​come​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​and  unable​ ​to​ ​participate​ ​in​ ​life.​ ​Sometimes​ ​the​ ​harshness​ ​with​ ​how 
confront​ ​this​ ​inner​ ​sensitivity:​ ​that​ ​you​ ​learn​ ​and​ ​acknowledge​ ​that​ ​it  reality​ ​was​ ​sometimes​ ​painted​ ​would​ ​hit​ ​my​ ​sensitivity,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​would 
is​ ​there,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​you​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time​ ​don’t​ ​let​ ​it​ ​keep​ ​yourself​ ​from  just​ ​run​ ​away.​ ​When​ ​things​ ​got​ ​real,​ ​when​ ​things​ ​got​ ​tough,​ ​and​ ​when 
important​ ​life​ ​experiences.   I​ ​stood​ ​before​ ​challenge.​ ​At​ ​times,​ ​I​ ​thought​ ​life​ ​was​ ​a​ ​choice​ ​between 
  hard​ ​realism​ ​and​ ​comforting​ ​fiction.​ ​At​ ​times,​ ​I​ ​sought​ ​to​ ​harden 
A​ ​fair​ ​amount​ ​of​ ​the​ ​sensitive​ ​types,​ ​INFJs​ ​and​ ​INFPs,​ ​retreat​ ​into  myself,​ ​to​ ​become​ ​more​ ​tough.​ ​Those​ ​times​ ​were​ ​the​ ​worst​ ​times​ ​of 
dream​ ​worlds,​ ​fiction,​ ​and​ ​places​ ​where​ ​emotions​ ​are​ ​less​ ​dangerous,  my​ ​life,​ ​because​ ​such​ ​an​ ​armor​ ​is​ ​too​ ​heavy​ ​for​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​to​ ​carry.​ ​At 
less​ ​pressing,​ ​and​ ​less​ ​demanding.​ ​Where​ ​people​ ​just​ ​are​ ​and​ ​where  other​ ​times,​ ​I​ ​sought​ ​to​ ​run​ ​away​ ​and​ ​hide.​ ​It​ ​only​ ​went​ ​better​ ​when​ ​I 
there​ ​is​ ​no​ ​pressure.​ ​This​ ​mellow,​ ​comforting​ ​world​ ​can​ ​serve​ ​as​ ​an  realised​ ​life​ ​had​ ​more​ ​to​ ​offer​ ​than​ ​the​ ​hard​ ​contours​ ​I​ ​often​ ​saw​ ​at 
work​ ​and​ ​in​ ​school.​ ​Beyond​ ​the​ ​cocky,​ ​rough​ ​banter​ ​of​ ​classmates​ ​or  you​ ​than​ ​other​ ​people​ ​to,​ ​well,​ ​keep​ ​your​ ​shit​ ​together.​ ​You’re​ ​good 
coworkers,​ ​there​ ​were​ ​people​ ​who​ ​cared,​ ​there​ ​were​ ​sweet​ ​animals,  at​ ​understanding​ ​how​ ​life​ ​and​ ​people​ ​think​ ​and​ ​you​ ​have​ ​a​ ​knack​ ​for 
beautiful​ ​nature,​ ​and​ ​kindness​ ​and​ ​love.  reading​ ​people​ ​and​ ​animals​ ​and​ ​feeling​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​understanding.​ ​But 
The​ ​strength​ ​of​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​an​ ​area​ ​often​ ​unexplored.​ ​INFJs​ ​can​ ​put​ ​on  you’re​ ​not​ ​strong​ ​and​ ​you’re​ ​not​ ​meant​ ​to​ ​be,​ ​either.  
the​ ​resilience​ ​and​ ​the​ ​toughness​ ​of​ ​an​ ​EXTX​ ​type,​ ​maintaining​ ​this   
tough​ ​front​ ​to​ ​the​ ​world,​ ​but​ ​you​ ​will​ ​find,​ ​that​ ​this​ ​toughness​ ​is  Keep​ ​yourself​ ​in​ ​the​ ​back​ ​lines​ ​of​ ​the​ ​group,​ ​don’t​ ​try​ ​to​ ​play​ ​the​ ​role 
uncomfortable​ ​to​ ​maintain.   of​ ​the​ ​tank.​ ​INFJs​ ​have​ ​the​ ​weakest​ ​defense​ ​of​ ​all:​ ​arms​ ​held​ ​back, 
  open​ ​smile,​ ​receptive​ ​to​ ​others​ ​feelings,​ ​open​ ​to​ ​what​ ​other​ ​people 
The​ ​INFJ​ ​are​ ​sometimes​ ​exaggerated​ ​to​ ​become​ ​extremely​ ​violent,  think.​ ​We’re​ ​always​ ​forced​ ​to​ ​feel​ ​the​ ​blunt​ ​edge​ ​of​ ​what​ ​people​ ​think 
destructive,​ ​and​ ​almost​ ​hulk-like​ ​under​ ​distress,​ ​but​ ​this​ ​is​ ​more​ ​like​ ​a  and​ ​what​ ​people​ ​go​ ​through.  
temporary​ ​lash-out,​ ​than​ ​something​ ​that​ ​can​ ​become​ ​permanent.   
INFJs​ ​are​ ​inclined​ ​to​ ​let​ ​their​ ​guard​ ​down,​ ​to​ ​bear​ ​the​ ​other​ ​cheek,​ ​to  When​ ​people​ ​are​ ​sad,​ ​we​ ​feel​ ​it.​ ​When​ ​people​ ​are​ ​angry,​ ​we​ ​feel​ ​it.​ ​So 
let​ ​others​ ​strike​ ​the​ ​first​ ​punch​ ​before​ ​they​ ​fight​ ​back.​ ​We’re​ ​far  keep​ ​yourself​ ​in​ ​a​ ​position​ ​where​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​to​ ​overdo​ ​it.​ ​Where 
more​ ​likely​ ​to​ ​take​ ​a​ ​punch​ ​than​ ​to​ ​throw​ ​one.​ ​We​ ​are​ ​so​ ​aware​ ​of​ ​our  you​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​to​ ​bear​ ​the​ ​blunt​ ​force​ ​and​ ​the​ ​direct​ ​force​ ​of​ ​people 
own​ ​emotions​ ​and​ ​so​ ​careful​ ​with​ ​how​ ​swe​ ​show​ ​emotions​ ​and​ ​how  who​ ​suffer.​ ​Don’t​ ​put​ ​yourself​ ​in​ ​a​ ​relationship​ ​where​ ​negative 
we​ ​impact​ ​others​ ​with​ ​our​ ​emotions.​ ​We’ll​ ​think​ ​for​ ​a​ ​long​ ​time  emotions​ ​and​ ​anger​ ​is​ ​a​ ​minute​ ​to​ ​minute​ ​reality.​ ​You​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​to 
before​ ​we​ ​decide​ ​how​ ​we​ ​really​ ​feel​ ​and​ ​what​ ​we​ ​want​ ​to​ ​do​ ​about  live​ ​in​ ​a​ ​world​ ​of​ ​conflict,​ ​violence,​ ​war,​ ​and​ ​constant​ ​hardship,​ ​but 
our​ ​feelings.​ ​When​ ​we​ ​punch​ ​someone,​ ​we​ ​do​ ​so​ ​knowing​ ​that  you​ ​can​ ​instead​ ​live​ ​in​ ​the​ ​safe​ ​havens,​ ​around​ ​the​ ​campfires,​ ​where 
violence​ ​is​ ​wrong,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​take​ ​full​ ​blame​ ​for​ ​what​ ​we​ ​did.​ ​We​ ​don’t  the​ ​music​ ​is​ ​played​ ​and​ ​where​ ​people​ ​can​ ​sit​ ​down​ ​and…​ ​finally​ ​relax. 
make​ ​excuses​ ​and​ ​we​ ​don’t​ ​act​ ​like​ ​what​ ​we​ ​did​ ​was​ ​right.   You​ ​can​ ​be​ ​that​ ​place​ ​where​ ​people​ ​come​ ​to​ ​feel​ ​at​ ​peace,​ ​no​ ​matter 
  how​ ​stormy​ ​the​ ​world​ ​around​ ​you​ ​is.  
In​ ​this​ ​you​ ​may​ ​notice​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​not​ ​as​ ​strong​ ​or​ ​as​ ​enduring​ ​or   
tough​ ​as​ ​the​ ​average​ ​person​ ​in​ ​society​ ​and​ ​that​ ​it​ ​is​ ​more​ ​difficult​ ​for  4.​ ​Managing​ ​expectations​ ​and​ ​belief 
 and​ ​the​ ​tendency​ ​for​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​to​ ​be​ ​focused​ ​on​ ​“everyone’s”​ ​needs 
INFJs​ ​are​ ​sensitive​ ​types​ ​through​ ​and​ ​through​ ​-​ ​sensitive​ ​and​ ​deep.  may​ ​shroud​ ​their​ ​own​ ​needs​ ​and​ ​ideals,​ ​and​ ​sometimes​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be 
You​ ​will​ ​often​ ​find​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​strike​ ​out​ ​as​ ​if​ ​they​ ​were​ ​tough,​ ​only​ ​to  important​ ​for​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​to​ ​sit​ ​down​ ​with​ ​people​ ​or​ ​at​ ​least​ ​with 
end​ ​the​ ​exchange​ ​with​ ​surprising​ ​vulnerability.​ ​They​ ​want​ ​you​ ​to  themselves​ ​to​ ​do​ ​a​ ​personal​ ​reminder:​ ​I​ ​help​ ​other​ ​people​ ​because​ ​it 
know​ ​that,​ ​no​ ​matter​ ​how​ ​upset​ ​or​ ​disappointed​ ​you​ ​have​ ​made  helps​ ​me.  
them,​ ​they​ ​will​ ​always​ ​forgive,​ ​and​ ​they​ ​are​ ​always​ ​open​ ​to​ ​restart   
diplomacy​ ​again​ ​if​ ​there​ ​is​ ​a​ ​chance​ ​for​ ​change.​ ​Beyond​ ​this  Because​ ​INFJs​ ​value​ ​doing​ ​things​ ​in​ ​the​ ​right​ ​way​ ​so​ ​much,​ ​they​ ​may 
sensitivity​ ​there​ ​is​ ​a​ ​thirst​ ​for​ ​the​ ​right​ ​word,​ ​the​ ​right​ ​way​ ​of​ ​saying  become​ ​slower​ ​decision​ ​makers​ ​than​ ​average.​ ​They​ ​produce​ ​and​ ​do 
something,​ ​the​ ​right​ ​way​ ​of​ ​expressing​ ​something.​ ​INFJs​ ​live​ ​in​ ​a  less,​ ​but​ ​they​ ​do​ ​what​ ​they​ ​do​ ​with​ ​higher​ ​quality​ ​and​ ​with​ ​a​ ​stronger 
complicated​ ​emotional​ ​world​ ​where​ ​things​ ​are​ ​far​ ​from​ ​simple.   code​ ​of​ ​ethics.​ ​INFJs​ ​may​ ​feel​ ​bad​ ​about​ ​this,​ ​thinking​ ​they​ ​need​ ​to​ ​do 
  as​ ​much​ ​as​ ​other​ ​people,​ ​while​ ​retaining​ ​the​ ​same​ ​high​ ​standards​ ​of 
Emotions​ ​run​ ​deeper​ ​and​ ​in​ ​more​ ​nuance.​ ​A​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​emotions​ ​are  success.​ ​You​ ​might​ ​want​ ​to​ ​get​ ​rich​ ​and​ ​successful,​ ​just​ ​as​ ​everyone 
constantly​ ​interwoven.​ ​We​ ​do​ ​not​ ​just​ ​feel​ ​one​ ​thing​ ​-​ ​we​ ​feel​ ​many  else,​ ​but​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​do​ ​it​ ​in​ ​a​ ​way​ ​that​ ​respects​ ​human​ ​rights​ ​and 
things​ ​and​ ​to​ ​different​ ​degrees.​ ​To​ ​most​ ​people,​ ​questions​ ​and  follows​ ​your​ ​values.  
answers​ ​are​ ​simple:​ ​most​ ​questions​ ​can​ ​be​ ​answered​ ​with​ ​either​ ​a   
yes​ ​or​ ​a​ ​no.​ ​No​ ​personality​ ​type​ ​has​ ​a​ ​stronger​ ​personal​ ​code​ ​of  But​ ​you’re​ ​going​ ​to​ ​have​ ​to​ ​make​ ​a​ ​choice​ ​between​ ​doing​ ​the​ ​right 
conduct​ ​than​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​here.​ ​We​ ​look​ ​for​ ​the​ ​right​ ​way​ ​to​ ​speak,​ ​the  thing​ ​and​ ​doing​ ​the​ ​efficient​ ​thing.​ ​So​ ​overcome​ ​your​ ​negative​ ​views 
right​ ​way​ ​to​ ​say​ ​things,​ ​the​ ​right​ ​way​ ​to​ ​communicate​ ​to​ ​get​ ​our  on​ ​prudency:​ ​gain​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​respect​ ​towards​ ​your​ ​own​ ​work​ ​and​ ​the 
opinions​ ​and​ ​beliefs​ ​through.  quality​ ​of​ ​your​ ​work.​ ​Don’t​ ​rush​ ​through​ ​tasks​ ​to​ ​compete​ ​with 
others,​ ​because​ ​that​ ​will​ ​reduce​ ​the​ ​gratification​ ​and​ ​pride​ ​you​ ​take 
This​ ​includes​ ​showing​ ​people​ ​your​ ​personal​ ​interests​ ​and​ ​expressing  in​ ​what​ ​you​ ​do.​ ​Beyond​ ​that,​ ​when​ ​you​ ​do​ ​make​ ​mistakes,​ ​and​ ​when 
your​ ​personal​ ​viewpoints​ ​to​ ​other​ ​people​ ​so​ ​that​ ​they​ ​can​ ​“get”​ ​you  you​ ​do​ ​overextend​ ​your​ ​values​ ​and​ ​make​ ​promises​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can’t 
and​ ​why​ ​you​ ​are​ ​there​ ​and​ ​what​ ​your​ ​goals​ ​are.​ ​The​ ​veil​ ​of​ ​diplomacy  deliver​ ​on,​ ​you’ll​ ​dwell​ ​on​ ​it​ ​more​ ​than​ ​others.​ ​If​ ​you​ ​find​ ​yourself 
disrespecting​ ​your​ ​inner​ ​Diplomat,​ ​pushing​ ​through​ ​unfinished​ ​work  that​ ​life​ ​or​ ​work​ ​is​ ​just​ ​numbers​ ​and​ ​data,​ ​remember​ ​that​ ​all​ ​work​ ​can 
and​ ​saying​ ​yes​ ​to​ ​more​ ​than​ ​you​ ​can​ ​manage,​ ​you’ll​ ​find​ ​yourself  also​ ​be​ ​translated​ ​to​ ​people,​ ​human​ ​quality,​ ​and​ ​important​ ​ethical 
becoming​ ​more​ ​harsh​ ​and​ ​negative​ ​towards​ ​yourself.​ ​Plenty​ ​of​ ​INFJs  values.​ ​Remember​ ​what​ ​your​ ​work​ ​does​ ​and​ ​how​ ​it​ ​does​ ​things​ ​and 
walk​ ​with​ ​a​ ​negative​ ​view​ ​towards​ ​themselves,​ ​because​ ​they​ ​want  think​ ​ethically​ ​about​ ​how​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​reach​ ​and​ ​impact​ ​other​ ​people 
quality​ ​in​ ​their​ ​work,​ ​but​ ​never​ ​find​ ​the​ ​time​ ​or​ ​boundaries​ ​to​ ​ensure  through​ ​your​ ​work.​ ​Instead​ ​of​ ​looking​ ​at​ ​statistics​ ​of​ ​how​ ​your​ ​work 
this​ ​quality​ ​is​ ​met.   performs,​ ​look​ ​at​ ​how​ ​people​ ​feel​ ​about​ ​it,​ ​and​ ​how​ ​it​ ​impacts​ ​the 
  people​ ​you​ ​care​ ​about,​ ​including​ ​yourself,​ ​of​ ​course.  
Sometimes,​ ​people​ ​give​ ​the​ ​idea​ ​that​ ​INFJs​ ​actually​ ​struggle​ ​more   
than​ ​most.​ ​This​ ​may​ ​be​ ​true.​ ​Society​ ​may​ ​be​ ​poorly​ ​adjusted​ ​to​ ​INFJs,  Now​ ​comes​ ​the​ ​hard​ ​part:​ ​managing​ ​expectations.​ ​INFJs​ ​take 
and​ ​not​ ​as​ ​welcoming​ ​and​ ​inviting​ ​as​ ​we​ ​might​ ​have​ ​hoped​ ​it​ ​would  expectations​ ​seriously.​ ​We​ ​are​ ​intensely​ ​aware​ ​of​ ​what​ ​other​ ​people 
be.​ ​Sometimes​ ​people​ ​assume​ ​that​ ​we​ ​struggle​ ​more​ ​than​ ​most​ ​just  want​ ​and​ ​require​ ​from​ ​us​ ​and​ ​how​ ​we​ ​influence​ ​other​ ​people​ ​and​ ​the 
because​ ​we​ ​are​ ​more​ ​special​ ​than​ ​most​ ​-​ ​we​ ​are​ ​secretly​ ​gifted​ ​but  group.​ ​When​ ​we​ ​fail​ ​to​ ​meet​ ​up​ ​to​ ​human​ ​expectations,​ ​we​ ​feel​ ​like 
our​ ​skills​ ​and​ ​our​ ​healing​ ​abilities​ ​also​ ​make​ ​us​ ​broken​ ​or​ ​unable​ ​to  bad​ ​people,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​dwell​ ​on​ ​and​ ​think​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​about​ ​this.​ ​Our​ ​deep 
function​ ​normally​ ​in​ ​society.​ ​I​ ​don’t​ ​think​ ​that’s​ ​true.​ ​We​ ​are​ ​only  caring​ ​nature​ ​causes​ ​us​ ​to​ ​walk​ ​around​ ​with​ ​notes​ ​scribbled​ ​around 
broken​ ​in​ ​the​ ​same​ ​way​ ​a​ ​fish​ ​is​ ​broken​ ​because​ ​it​ ​can’t​ ​fly.​ ​We​ ​can  in​ ​our​ ​head,​ ​notes​ ​reminding​ ​us​ ​of​ ​what​ ​to​ ​do​ ​throughout​ ​the​ ​day​ ​in 
only​ ​judge​ ​ourselves​ ​based​ ​on​ ​how​ ​much​ ​our​ ​environment​ ​allows​ ​us  order​ ​to​ ​make​ ​people​ ​more​ ​happy.​ ​Rules​ ​to​ ​abide​ ​by,​ ​principles,​ ​your 
to​ ​flourish.   integrity​ ​is​ ​strong​ ​and​ ​admirable.  
   
INFJs​ ​are​ ​far​ ​less​ ​efficient​ ​in​ ​environments​ ​that​ ​require​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​of  The​ ​INFJ​ ​Men​ ​&​ ​Women 
critical​ ​self-review,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​do​ ​badly​ ​in​ ​environments​ ​that​ ​require   
rapid​ ​and​ ​aggressive​ ​decision​ ​making.​ ​We​ ​shine​ ​as​ ​communicators,  In​ ​my​ ​observations​ ​and​ ​experience,​ ​INFJ​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​dance​ ​on​ ​the 
and​ ​we​ ​fade​ ​as​ ​scientists.​ ​We​ ​prevail​ ​where​ ​quality​ ​is​ ​key​ ​and​ ​we​ ​fail  borders​ ​of​ ​both​ ​extreme​ ​masculinity​ ​and​ ​extreme​ ​femininity.​ ​INFJs 
where​ ​numbers​ ​and​ ​quantity​ ​matters​ ​more.​ ​So​ ​don’t​ ​fool​ ​yourself  tend​ ​to​ ​both​ ​embody​ ​characteristics​ ​of​ ​the​ ​stereotypical​ ​strong​ ​male 
leader,​ ​but​ ​also​ ​the​ ​feminine​ ​idealist.​ ​The​ ​values​ ​and​ ​goals​ ​and​ ​needs  INFJ​ ​male​ ​to​ ​be​ ​a​ ​“leader”​ ​compromising​ ​their​ ​own​ ​values​ ​and​ ​what 
of​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​are​ ​feminine,​ ​but​ ​the​ ​comfort​ ​zone​ ​and​ ​the​ ​strategy​ ​an  they​ ​think​ ​is​ ​right​ ​for​ ​the​ ​sake​ ​of​ ​the​ ​group.  
INFJ​ ​will​ ​choose​ ​when​ ​pursuing​ ​these​ ​goals​ ​are​ ​masculine.​ ​If​ ​we   
assume​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​developed​ ​to​ ​embody​ ​the​ ​traditional​ ​traits​ ​of  Because​ ​of​ ​this,​ ​INFJ​ ​men​ ​may​ ​seem​ ​unfeeling​ ​or​ ​cold​ ​or​ ​distanced,​ ​as 
your​ ​gender,​ ​which​ ​may​ ​or​ ​may​ ​not​ ​be​ ​the​ ​case,​ ​you​ ​will​ ​see​ ​yourself  they​ ​set​ ​aside​ ​their​ ​emotions,​ ​that​ ​they​ ​deem​ ​as​ ​“unimportant”​ ​more 
tapping​ ​on​ ​different​ ​sides​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​more​ ​than​ ​others.   than​ ​as​ ​a​ ​guiding​ ​force.​ ​Emotions​ ​and​ ​intuition​ ​is​ ​not​ ​meant​ ​to​ ​be 
  used​ ​when​ ​enforcing​ ​the​ ​decisions,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​is​ ​meant​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the​ ​direction 
INFJ​ ​Men  of​ ​the​ ​decisions​ ​enforced.​ ​They​ ​may​ ​want​ ​to​ ​aid​ ​and​ ​to​ ​help​ ​while​ ​at 
  the​ ​same​ ​time​ ​coming​ ​of​ ​as​ ​rational​ ​in​ ​their​ ​quest​ ​to​ ​help​ ​and​ ​aid.  
In​ ​a​ ​general​ ​sense,​ ​men​ ​are​ ​often​ ​more​ ​inclined​ ​to​ ​leadership​ ​and​ ​to   
assume​ ​leadership​ ​positions​ ​than​ ​women.​ ​They​ ​are​ ​also​ ​more  INFJ​ ​Women
aggressive,​ ​need​ ​more​ ​control,​ ​and​ ​they​ ​are​ ​usually​ ​more​ ​introverted   
and​ ​distanced.​ ​This​ ​comes​ ​at​ ​the​ ​expense​ ​of​ ​struggling​ ​more​ ​with  INFJ​ ​women​ ​are​ ​stereotypically​ ​more​ ​intuitive​ ​and​ ​emotional​ ​than 
being​ ​vulnerable.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-male​ ​is​ ​more​ ​in​ ​touch​ ​with​ ​their​ ​roots​ ​and  the​ ​men.​ ​They​ ​are​ ​beyond​ ​this​ ​more​ ​idealistic​ ​and​ ​more​ ​nurturing 
more​ ​balanced​ ​and​ ​calm​ ​than​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​women.​ ​I​ ​have​ ​found​ ​INFJ  and​ ​care-taking​ ​than​ ​the​ ​men.​ ​They​ ​need​ ​more​ ​freedom​ ​and​ ​privacy 
men​ ​to​ ​lack​ ​however,​ ​in​ ​a​ ​more​ ​repressed​ ​intuition.   than​ ​the​ ​men​ ​and​ ​are​ ​more​ ​self-directed.​ ​They​ ​are​ ​also​ ​more 
  rebellious​ ​and​ ​more​ ​prone​ ​to​ ​thinking​ ​outside​ ​the​ ​box.  
INFJ​ ​men​ ​may​ ​pretend​ ​not​ ​to​ ​have,​ ​or​ ​ignore​ ​their​ ​own​ ​feelings,​ ​as   
they​ ​try​ ​to​ ​pursue​ ​more​ ​traditionally​ ​male​ ​values​ ​such​ ​as  INFJ​ ​women​ ​may​ ​however​ ​struggle​ ​more​ ​with​ ​leadership,​ ​control, 
self-enhancement,​ ​power,​ ​and​ ​authority.​ ​They​ ​may​ ​compromise​ ​the  and​ ​authority.​ ​They​ ​may​ ​also​ ​find​ ​it​ ​more​ ​difficult​ ​to​ ​establish​ ​strong 
more​ ​vague​ ​and​ ​abstract​ ​characteristics​ ​of​ ​their​ ​intuition,​ ​demanding  boundaries.​ ​INFJ​ ​women​ ​experience​ ​overall​ ​less​ ​control​ ​and​ ​less 
themselves​ ​to​ ​be​ ​more​ ​concrete,​ ​loud,​ ​and​ ​direct​ ​than​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​would  stability,​ ​and​ ​are​ ​more​ ​prone​ ​to​ ​anxiety​ ​than​ ​the​ ​men.​ ​But​ ​INFJ 
normally​ ​be​ ​comfortable​ ​being.​ ​There​ ​can​ ​be​ ​this​ ​pressure​ ​on​ ​the  women​ ​are​ ​simultaneously​ ​more​ ​in​ ​touch​ ​with​ ​their​ ​inner​ ​muse​ ​and 
far​ ​more​ ​creative​ ​and​ ​conscientious​ ​than​ ​the​ ​average​ ​INFJ​ ​male.​ ​For  Preservation  Irresponsible  Responsible 
the​ ​INFJ​ ​female,​ ​the​ ​process​ ​to​ ​individuation​ ​is​ ​also​ ​the​ ​process​ ​of  Instinct 
gaining​ ​power​ ​and​ ​maintaining​ ​balance.    
  Enneagram​ ​5  Weak  Smart 
 
 
Enneagram​ ​1  Dissatisfied  Successful 
Enneagram​ ​6  Instability  Stability 

 
 
Enneagram​ ​2  Failure  Liked 
Enneagram​ ​7  Restless  Stimulation 

 
 
Enneagram​ ​3  Unpopular  Popular 
Enneagram​ ​8  Powerless  Power 

 
 
Enneagram​ ​4  Outsider  Belonging 
Enneagram​ ​9  Disharmony  Harmony 

 
 
Social  Lonely  Connection 
 
instinct 
INFJ​ ​Enneagram​ ​Types 
 
 
Sexual  Unloved  Loved 
Instinct  Like​ ​you​ ​see​ ​above,​ ​a​ ​normal​ ​INFJ​ ​will​ ​naturally​ ​switch​ ​between​ ​and 
  deal​ ​with​ ​all​ ​kinds​ ​of​ ​emotions​ ​and​ ​experiences​ ​at​ ​all​ ​times 
throughout​ ​a​ ​day.​ ​Some​ ​emotions​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​become​ ​more​ ​important​ ​to 
the​ ​INFJ.​ ​We​ ​can​ ​be​ ​fixated​ ​on​ ​a​ ​certain​ ​emotion​ ​or​ ​experience​ ​and   
we​ ​can​ ​think​ ​“this​ ​is​ ​how​ ​I​ ​need​ ​to​ ​feel”​ ​and​ ​we​ ​can​ ​choose​ ​to​ ​feel​ ​that  The​ ​INFJ​ ​has​ ​within​ ​them​ ​immense​ ​capacities​ ​for​ ​understanding, 
way,​ ​to​ ​deal​ ​with​ ​our​ ​reality.​ ​We​ ​can​ ​have​ ​ideas​ ​about​ ​how​ ​we​ ​need  empathising,​ ​and​ ​caring,​ ​but​ ​at​ ​times,​ ​their​ ​intuition​ ​and​ ​detachment 
to​ ​be​ ​and​ ​what​ ​we​ ​need​ ​to​ ​do,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​can​ ​use​ ​certain​ ​cognitive  may​ ​cut​ ​them​ ​off​ ​from​ ​this​ ​part​ ​of​ ​themselves.​ ​ ​The​ ​INFJ-1​ ​may 
functions​ ​more​ ​than​ ​others,​ ​if​ ​we​ ​have​ ​developed​ ​to​ ​find​ ​them​ ​more  believe​ ​they​ ​have​ ​to​ ​become​ ​“battle-hardened​ ​wanderers”​ ​who​ ​move 
important.  alone,​ ​and​ ​with​ ​strength​ ​and​ ​padded​ ​leather​ ​jackets.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-1​ ​may 
  mistake​ ​their​ ​empathy​ ​as​ ​a​ ​crutch,​ ​rather​ ​than​ ​a​ ​strength.  
INFJ-1:​ ​The​ ​Creator   
  Often,​ ​the​ ​INFJ-1​ ​is​ ​constantly​ ​working​ ​on​ ​reaching​ ​a​ ​higher​ ​state​ ​of 
The​ ​heavy,​ ​burdened​ ​visionary,​ ​forced​ ​to​ ​wander​ ​and​ ​to​ ​do​ ​what​ ​nobody  perfection,​ ​in​ ​moving​ ​exactly​ ​according​ ​to​ ​vision,​ ​in​ ​achieving​ ​exactly 
else​ ​can​ ​do.​ ​Sometimes​ ​frustrated​ ​and​ ​annoyed​ ​that​ ​other​ ​people​ ​can’t​ ​see  the​ ​results​ ​they​ ​saw​ ​in​ ​their​ ​vision.​ ​This​ ​hyper​ ​focus​ ​will​ ​often​ ​come 
what​ ​they​ ​can​ ​see.​ ​But​ ​full​ ​of​ ​energy​ ​and​ ​purpose​ ​and​ ​a​ ​strong​ ​conscience  at​ ​the​ ​expense​ ​of​ ​understanding,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​INFJ-1​ ​does​ ​not​ ​attempt​ ​to 
and​ ​a​ ​need​ ​to​ ​succeed​ ​in​ ​their​ ​aspirations.  understand​ ​or​ ​rationalise​ ​their​ ​failures​ ​or​ ​their​ ​path​ ​to​ ​success. 
  Instead,​ ​they​ ​will​ ​often​ ​be​ ​hypercritical​ ​of​ ​their​ ​small​ ​flaws,​ ​and 
The​ ​INFJ-1​ ​will​ ​often​ ​tense​ ​up​ ​their​ ​cheeks​ ​and​ ​narrow​ ​and​ ​focus  frustrated​ ​and​ ​dissatisfied​ ​with​ ​their​ ​perceived​ ​meagre​ ​results.  
their​ ​eyes,​ ​as​ ​they​ ​focus​ ​on​ ​a​ ​vision,​ ​while​ ​bracing​ ​themselves​ ​for   
what​ ​will​ ​come​ ​as​ ​they​ ​begin​ ​to​ ​walk​ ​towards​ ​it.​ ​ ​You​ ​will​ ​find​ ​INFJ-1s  INFJ-2:​ ​The​ ​Caregiver 
to​ ​be​ ​unusually​ ​cold​ ​and​ ​dispassionate,​ ​but​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time   
strangely​ ​driven​ ​and​ ​powerful.​ ​The​ ​coldness​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ-1​ ​can​ ​make  The​ ​somewhat​ ​tired​ ​and​ ​bored​ ​but​ ​loving​ ​and​ ​kind​ ​INFJ,​ ​always 
other​ ​people​ ​feel​ ​slightly​ ​put​ ​off,​ ​as​ ​if​ ​they​ ​had​ ​done​ ​something  understanding,​ ​always​ ​accepting​ ​people,​ ​and​ ​trying​ ​their​ ​best​ ​to​ ​help 
wrong.​ ​In​ ​reality,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​just​ ​that​ ​the​ ​INFJ-1​ ​is​ ​so​ ​focused​ ​on​ ​the​ ​future  people.​ ​Drained​ ​and​ ​annoyed​ ​by​ ​a​ ​feeling​ ​that​ ​other​ ​people​ ​don’t​ ​try​ ​hard 
possibilities,​ ​that​ ​they​ ​can​ ​never​ ​take​ ​the​ ​time​ ​to​ ​appreciate​ ​and  enough​ ​to​ ​change​ ​and​ ​to​ ​make​ ​their​ ​lives​ ​better,​ ​but​ ​determined​ ​to​ ​be 
understand​ ​the​ ​present.   patient​ ​and​ ​to​ ​remain​ ​at​ ​people’s​ ​side​ ​until​ ​they​ ​learn. 
  intuitive​ ​side​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ.​ ​And​ ​the​ ​INFJ-2​ ​may​ ​constantly​ ​feel​ ​drained 
The​ ​INFJ-2s​ ​will​ ​often​ ​push​ ​out​ ​their​ ​chin​ ​and​ ​upper​ ​lips,​ ​which​ ​will  trying​ ​to​ ​hold​ ​up​ ​this​ ​traditional​ ​hobby,​ ​even​ ​though​ ​it​ ​brings​ ​them 
often​ ​take​ ​some​ ​attention​ ​away​ ​from​ ​their​ ​eyes.​ ​This​ ​marks​ ​their  overwhelm​ ​and​ ​exhaustion.​ ​Other​ ​people​ ​may​ ​pick​ ​up​ ​on​ ​this,​ ​and 
increase​ ​of​ ​warmth,​ ​passion​ ​and​ ​affection,​ ​and​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time  will​ ​tell​ ​the​ ​two​ ​that​ ​it​ ​is​ ​okay​ ​to​ ​let​ ​go​ ​of​ ​some​ ​responsibilities,​ ​but 
signals​ ​a​ ​loss​ ​of​ ​interest,​ ​as​ ​what​ ​they​ ​believe​ ​in​ ​somewhat​ ​clouds  the​ ​INFJ-2​ ​may​ ​believe​ ​this​ ​is​ ​just​ ​a​ ​sign​ ​of​ ​being​ ​dismissed.​ ​You​ ​may 
their​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​consider​ ​new​ ​information​ ​and​ ​intuitions.​ ​So​ ​we​ ​find  feel​ ​that​ ​you’ve​ ​worked​ ​hard,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​you’ve​ ​done​ ​something​ ​to​ ​be 
the​ ​INFJ-2​ ​to​ ​be​ ​a​ ​person​ ​that​ ​believes​ ​that,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​care​ ​about  proud​ ​of,​ ​and​ ​if​ ​you​ ​stop​ ​doing​ ​it,​ ​you​ ​lose​ ​the​ ​pride​ ​you​ ​invested​ ​so 
someone,​ ​in​ ​particular​ ​a​ ​family​ ​member,​ ​you​ ​must​ ​be​ ​someone​ ​that  much​ ​in​ ​getting.​ ​If​ ​you​ ​let​ ​go,​ ​you​ ​also​ ​have​ ​to​ ​let​ ​go​ ​of​ ​your​ ​pride,​ ​and 
makes​ ​them​ ​proud.   this​ ​can​ ​be​ ​a​ ​difficult​ ​thing.​ ​But​ ​there​ ​are​ ​better​ ​emotions​ ​around​ ​the 
  corner,​ ​such​ ​as​ ​curiosity,​ ​and​ ​excitement. 
And​ ​the​ ​assumption​ ​is​ ​far​ ​too​ ​often​ ​that​ ​intuition​ ​is​ ​something​ ​weird,   
quirky,​ ​and​ ​pointless,​ ​that​ ​will​ ​only​ ​bring​ ​disappointment​ ​to​ ​the  INFJ-3:​ ​The​ ​Performer 
family.​ ​In​ ​the​ ​pursuit​ ​of​ ​pride​ ​then,​ ​the​ ​INFJ-2​ ​will​ ​often​ ​compromise   
their​ ​vision​ ​for​ ​more​ ​traditional​ ​notions​ ​of​ ​success.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-2​ ​will  The​ ​somewhat​ ​self-deluded​ ​INFJ,​ ​passionate​ ​and​ ​charming,​ ​everything 
set​ ​aside​ ​philosophy​ ​for​ ​more​ ​practical​ ​and​ ​established​ ​truth,​ ​and​ ​will  everyone​ ​admires​ ​and​ ​looks​ ​up​ ​to.​ ​But​ ​sometimes​ ​full​ ​of​ ​air​ ​-​ ​nice​ ​words​ ​- 
try​ ​to​ ​fit​ ​themselves​ ​with​ ​the​ ​school​ ​or​ ​family’s​ ​notion​ ​of​ ​what​ ​truth  but​ ​nothing​ ​deeper​ ​behind​ ​it.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-3​ ​is​ ​often​ ​overwhelmed​ ​by​ ​a​ ​feeling 
is.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-2​ ​has​ ​the​ ​habit​ ​to​ ​answer​ ​questions​ ​based​ ​on​ ​what​ ​they  to​ ​be​ ​heard​ ​and​ ​never​ ​believes​ ​themselves​ ​to​ ​have​ ​the​ ​time​ ​to​ ​sit​ ​and 
believe​ ​other​ ​people​ ​want​ ​to​ ​hear,​ ​and​ ​pursue​ ​careers​ ​that​ ​they  listen. 
believe​ ​will​ ​make​ ​their​ ​family​ ​proud.​ ​What​ ​they​ ​will​ ​find​ ​however,​ ​is   
that​ ​often,​ ​people​ ​will​ ​not​ ​appreciate​ ​you​ ​as​ ​much​ ​as​ ​you​ ​might​ ​want.   The​ ​INFJ-3​ ​aspires​ ​towards​ ​a​ ​higher​ ​position​ ​of​ ​fame,​ ​popularity,​ ​and 
  visibility.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-3​ ​follows​ ​traditional​ ​paths​ ​to​ ​become​ ​more​ ​liked, 
From​ ​the​ ​perspective​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ-2,​ ​this​ ​is​ ​a​ ​great​ ​and​ ​noble​ ​sacrifice,  and​ ​focuses​ ​on​ ​catering​ ​to​ ​what​ ​an​ ​audience​ ​will​ ​like,​ ​what​ ​will​ ​make 
but​ ​family​ ​members​ ​may​ ​actually​ ​want​ ​to​ ​see,​ ​and​ ​appreciate​ ​the  people​ ​laugh,​ ​and​ ​what​ ​people​ ​will​ ​appreciate.​ ​The​ ​idea​ ​is​ ​that​ ​people 
will​ ​not​ ​appreciate​ ​the​ ​more​ ​philosophical​ ​and​ ​existential​ ​musings   
you​ ​have​ ​within,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​your​ ​personal​ ​visions​ ​are​ ​too​ ​strange​ ​and  INFJ-4:​ ​The​ ​Rebel 
quirky​ ​for​ ​an​ ​audience​ ​to​ ​understand.​ ​The​ ​other​ ​issue​ ​is​ ​that​ ​the​ ​INFJ   
is​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​measure​ ​themselves​ ​too​ ​much​ ​against​ ​their​ ​audience.​ ​The  The​ ​somewhat​ ​torn​ ​and​ ​conflicted​ ​INFJ,​ ​torn​ ​between​ ​two​ ​worlds​ ​-​ ​the 
INFJ-3​ ​has​ ​come​ ​to​ ​confuse​ ​what​ ​the​ ​crowd​ ​believes​ ​to​ ​be​ ​truth.​ ​Just  real​ ​-​ ​and​ ​the​ ​world​ ​of​ ​dreams​ ​and​ ​ideals.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​that​ ​feels​ ​blocked​ ​from 
because​ ​other​ ​people​ ​suggest​ ​reality​ ​is​ ​a​ ​certain​ ​way,​ ​or​ ​just​ ​because  pursuing​ ​their​ ​true​ ​purpose​ ​or​ ​passion.​ ​Unsure​ ​how​ ​to​ ​proceed,​ ​but​ ​at​ ​the 
other​ ​people​ ​seem​ ​to​ ​like​ ​or​ ​laugh​ ​at​ ​something,​ ​does​ ​not​ ​mean​ ​that  same​ ​time​ ​determined​ ​not​ ​to​ ​become​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​masses. 
it​ ​is​ ​genuinely​ ​true​ ​or​ ​important.    
  The​ ​INFJ-4s​ ​will​ ​have​ ​unusually​ ​narrow,​ ​but​ ​open​ ​eyes,​ ​eyes​ ​that​ ​let 
The​ ​INFJ-3​ ​believes​ ​their​ ​message​ ​must​ ​be​ ​simple,​ ​clear,​ ​and​ ​easy​ ​to  out​ ​a​ ​signal​ ​of​ ​focus​ ​and​ ​determination​ ​in​ ​spite​ ​of​ ​a​ ​lack​ ​of​ ​energy​ ​and 
understand.​ ​Their​ ​pursuit​ ​to​ ​get​ ​themselves​ ​an​ ​audience​ ​may​ ​have  hope.​ ​There​ ​is​ ​a​ ​lack​ ​of​ ​energy​ ​and​ ​spirit,​ ​but​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time​ ​a​ ​sense 
gotten​ ​them​ ​lost​ ​from​ ​the​ ​pursuit​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​and​ ​to​ ​gain​ ​a  of​ ​stubbornness,​ ​as​ ​the​ ​INFJ-4​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​be​ ​determined​ ​to​ ​try​ ​their 
message​ ​or​ ​a​ ​bigger​ ​idea​ ​to​ ​share​ ​with​ ​their​ ​audience.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-3  best​ ​to​ ​win​ ​against​ ​all​ ​odds.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-4​ ​is​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​most​ ​reckless, 
may​ ​be​ ​echoing​ ​the​ ​crowd​ ​too​ ​much,​ ​merely​ ​repeating​ ​jokes​ ​and  and​ ​their​ ​goals​ ​are​ ​usually​ ​formed​ ​as​ ​the​ ​direct​ ​opposite​ ​of​ ​what 
thoughts​ ​that​ ​they’ve​ ​heard​ ​recently​ ​that​ ​day,​ ​rather​ ​than​ ​exploring  present​ ​society​ ​and​ ​the​ ​system​ ​wants.  
thoughts​ ​and​ ​intuitions​ ​that​ ​exist​ ​inside.    
  The​ ​system​ ​and​ ​mainstream​ ​society​ ​here​ ​is​ ​represented​ ​by 
Feeling​ ​that​ ​their​ ​own​ ​mind​ ​will​ ​only​ ​bore​ ​other​ ​people,​ ​and​ ​that  extraverted​ ​thinking​ ​and​ ​sensing,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​INFJ-4​ ​struggles​ ​with 
nobody​ ​will​ ​care​ ​for​ ​their​ ​more​ ​creative​ ​side,​ ​they​ ​may  feeling​ ​that​ ​their​ ​introverted​ ​intuition​ ​and​ ​feeling​ ​is​ ​at​ ​odds​ ​with 
overcompensate​ ​with​ ​a​ ​somewhat​ ​shallow​ ​extraverted​ ​sensing.  these​ ​functions.​ ​There​ ​is​ ​a​ ​rivalry​ ​or​ ​a​ ​tug​ ​of​ ​war​ ​here,​ ​and​ ​an​ ​envy,​ ​as 
Becoming​ ​simply​ ​what​ ​the​ ​crowd​ ​wants,​ ​and​ ​hiding​ ​what​ ​they​ ​really  the​ ​INFJ-4​ ​may​ ​feel​ ​that​ ​people​ ​who​ ​embody​ ​extraverted​ ​thinking 
are,​ ​INFJ-3s​ ​lose​ ​a​ ​little​ ​of​ ​the​ ​magic​ ​they​ ​can​ ​channel​ ​on​ ​stage​ ​if​ ​they  and​ ​sensing​ ​are​ ​far​ ​more​ ​superior​ ​in​ ​society.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-4​ ​may​ ​feel​ ​that 
become​ ​more​ ​in​ ​touch​ ​with​ ​their​ ​intuition.   these​ ​people​ ​are​ ​misguided​ ​or​ ​even​ ​evil,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​it​ ​is​ ​not​ ​fair​ ​that 
their​ ​values​ ​are​ ​predominant​ ​in​ ​society​ ​while​ ​the​ ​INFJ-4s​ ​values​ ​and  expectations,​ ​and​ ​to​ ​make​ ​people​ ​happy,​ ​but​ ​unable​ ​to​ ​represent​ ​their 
interests​ ​are​ ​seen​ ​as​ ​unimportant​ ​or​ ​less​ ​valuable.   own​ ​interests. 
   
At​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​the​ ​INFJ-4​ ​often​ ​feels​ ​powerless​ ​and​ ​as​ ​if​ ​no​ ​matter  INFJ-Sos​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​have​ ​very​ ​warm​ ​but​ ​expressionless​ ​faces​ ​and 
what​ ​they​ ​do,​ ​the​ ​system​ ​will​ ​always​ ​win​ ​in​ ​the​ ​end.​ ​This​ ​can​ ​drive​ ​a  disengaged,​ ​unfocused,​ ​distracted​ ​eyes.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-So​ ​is​ ​highly​ ​warm 
desperation​ ​or​ ​more​ ​destructive​ ​action,​ ​as​ ​the​ ​INFJ-4​ ​feels​ ​torn  and​ ​conscientious,​ ​always​ ​focused​ ​on​ ​doing​ ​the​ ​right​ ​thing​ ​and​ ​being 
between​ ​their​ ​personal​ ​identity​ ​and​ ​values​ ​and​ ​what​ ​they​ ​believe​ ​is  the​ ​good​ ​person.​ ​They​ ​may​ ​do​ ​the​ ​right​ ​thing​ ​even​ ​when​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​at 
more​ ​successful.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-4​ ​does​ ​not​ ​know​ ​if​ ​they​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​give  the​ ​expense​ ​of​ ​themselves​ ​and​ ​their​ ​own​ ​interests,​ ​constantly 
up​ ​on​ ​their​ ​values​ ​and​ ​just​ ​adjust​ ​to​ ​the​ ​system,​ ​or​ ​if​ ​they​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to  sacrificing​ ​their​ ​hobbies,​ ​passions,​ ​and​ ​personal​ ​boundaries​ ​to​ ​adjust 
maintain​ ​their​ ​values​ ​and​ ​interests​ ​and​ ​keep​ ​on​ ​going,​ ​even​ ​if​ ​they  themselves​ ​to​ ​outer​ ​expectations.  
may​ ​fail​ ​in​ ​the​ ​end.​ ​At​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​the​ ​4​ ​may​ ​be​ ​struggling​ ​to​ ​direct   
their​ ​personal​ ​goals​ ​towards​ ​a​ ​creative​ ​or​ ​productive​ ​approach.​ ​They  There​ ​is​ ​a​ ​high​ ​focus​ ​on​ ​appearance​ ​here:​ ​appearing​ ​beautiful​ ​and​ ​of 
may​ ​be​ ​too​ ​focused​ ​on​ ​getting​ ​other​ ​people​ ​to​ ​accept​ ​their​ ​ideas,​ ​or  qualitative​ ​value​ ​to​ ​other​ ​people,​ ​possessing​ ​positive​ ​qualities, 
fighting​ ​established​ ​ideas​ ​that​ ​they​ ​see​ ​as​ ​opposed​ ​to​ ​their​ ​own.​ ​This  virtues,​ ​and​ ​social​ ​value.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-So​ ​simultaneously​ ​struggles​ ​to​ ​see 
can​ ​distract​ ​them​ ​from​ ​actually​ ​developing​ ​and​ ​turning​ ​their​ ​visions  their​ ​own​ ​value,​ ​and​ ​need​ ​the​ ​reaffirmation​ ​from​ ​other​ ​people, 
into​ ​reality.   feedback​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​good,​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​doing​ ​the​ ​right​ ​thing,​ ​and 
  that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​appreciated​ ​for​ ​what​ ​they​ ​do.​ ​The​ ​interest​ ​here​ ​is​ ​to 
INFJ-So:​ ​The​ ​Everyperson  gain​ ​the​ ​approval​ ​of​ ​the​ ​community,​ ​to​ ​be​ ​a​ ​part​ ​of​ ​the​ ​group,​ ​and​ ​to 
  not​ ​stand​ ​out.​ ​INFJs​ ​may​ ​easily​ ​feel​ ​here​ ​that​ ​there​ ​is​ ​something 
The​ ​INFJ​ ​who​ ​becomes​ ​whoever​ ​they​ ​speak​ ​to.​ ​The​ ​ultimate​ ​chameleon,  wrong​ ​with​ ​them,​ ​that​ ​something​ ​about​ ​them​ ​keeps​ ​them​ ​from​ ​fitting 
what​ ​everyone​ ​needs​ ​at​ ​any​ ​time​ ​other​ ​people​ ​need​ ​it.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​who​ ​has  in,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​they​ ​must​ ​hide​ ​this​ ​part​ ​of​ ​themselves​ ​from​ ​other​ ​people 
forgotten​ ​their​ ​true​ ​face,​ ​who​ ​wants​ ​to​ ​appease​ ​people,​ ​to​ ​meet​ ​up​ ​to​ ​their  out​ ​of​ ​a​ ​desire​ ​to​ ​be​ ​accepted.  
 
Acceptance​ ​here​ ​comes​ ​closer​ ​as​ ​a​ ​priority​ ​than​ ​closeness​ ​and​ ​at  crutch​ ​from​ ​this​ ​feeling​ ​mission.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-So​ ​often​ ​work​ ​hard​ ​to 
times,​ ​this​ ​can​ ​lead​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​to​ ​have​ ​superficial​ ​bonds​ ​and​ ​friendships  present​ ​an​ ​“easy”​ ​version​ ​of​ ​who​ ​they​ ​are​ ​to​ ​other​ ​people, 
with​ ​other​ ​people.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​may​ ​have​ ​a​ ​deeply​ ​philosophical,  oversimplifying​ ​their​ ​feelings​ ​and​ ​thoughts​ ​to​ ​make​ ​them​ ​more 
introspective​ ​nature,​ ​but​ ​around​ ​people,​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​like​ ​a​ ​mirror  presentable​ ​to​ ​other​ ​people.  
reflection​ ​of​ ​their​ ​crowd.​ ​They​ ​mirror​ ​and​ ​echo​ ​the​ ​interests​ ​and   
behaviour​ ​of​ ​other​ ​people,​ ​pretending​ ​to​ ​like​ ​anything​ ​other​ ​people  There​ ​can​ ​be​ ​a​ ​pressure​ ​here​ ​to​ ​“process”​ ​your​ ​intuition​ ​and​ ​to​ ​make 
like.​ ​But​ ​they​ ​also​ ​feel​ ​that​ ​they​ ​can’t​ ​talk​ ​about​ ​the​ ​things​ ​they​ ​like  it​ ​understood​ ​and​ ​when​ ​other​ ​people​ ​don’t​ ​understand,​ ​INFJ-Sos​ ​will 
with​ ​other​ ​people.​ ​As​ ​an​ ​INFJ-So​ ​you​ ​may​ ​say​ ​that​ ​other​ ​people  fault​ ​themselves​ ​for​ ​not​ ​trying​ ​hard​ ​enough​ ​to​ ​get​ ​other​ ​people​ ​to 
“won’t​ ​get​ ​you”​ ​and​ ​that​ ​when​ ​you​ ​have​ ​tried​ ​to​ ​connect​ ​with​ ​other  see​ ​things​ ​their​ ​way.​ ​Typically,​ ​the​ ​INFJ-So​ ​will​ ​grow​ ​past​ ​this​ ​by 
people​ ​on​ ​a​ ​more​ ​real​ ​level,​ ​it​ ​has​ ​not​ ​gotten​ ​you​ ​anywhere.​ ​This​ ​can  developing​ ​communicative​ ​and​ ​visionary​ ​abilities,​ ​finding​ ​a​ ​message 
lead​ ​you​ ​to​ ​unnecessarily​ ​hold​ ​back​ ​your​ ​intuition​ ​and​ ​your​ ​more  and​ ​an​ ​idea​ ​and​ ​mental​ ​discipline​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​advancing​ ​it​ ​until​ ​it​ ​has 
introverted​ ​nature,​ ​to​ ​the​ ​point​ ​where​ ​it​ ​becomes​ ​something​ ​that​ ​you  become​ ​a​ ​clear​ ​image​ ​in​ ​other​ ​people​ ​as​ ​well​ ​as​ ​in​ ​themselves.  
can​ ​only​ ​truly​ ​access​ ​when​ ​you​ ​are​ ​alone​ ​and​ ​away​ ​from​ ​other   
people.   INFJ-Sx:​ ​The​ ​Lover 
   
INFJ-Sos​ ​often​ ​describe​ ​social​ ​relationships​ ​as​ ​draining.​ ​Being​ ​so  The​ ​INFJ​ ​that​ ​seeks​ ​to​ ​feel​ ​truly​ ​seen​ ​and​ ​connected​ ​to​ ​someone.  
overly​ ​adaptive​ ​puts​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​strain​ ​on​ ​an​ ​INFJs​ ​sensing​ ​and   
perceiving,​ ​and​ ​forces​ ​them​ ​to​ ​behave​ ​in​ ​a​ ​way​ ​that​ ​makes​ ​them​ ​feel  The​ ​INFJ​ ​in​ ​love​ ​is​ ​like​ ​a​ ​waitress​ ​and​ ​counsellor​ ​in​ ​one.​ ​They​ ​will​ ​put 
restless​ ​and​ ​on​ ​edge.​ ​However,​ ​the​ ​INFJ-So​ ​is​ ​often​ ​acting​ ​out​ ​of​ ​a  a​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​passion​ ​into​ ​getting​ ​to​ ​know​ ​you​ ​and​ ​your​ ​inner​ ​emotional 
strong​ ​conscience.​ ​They​ ​do​ ​not​ ​wish​ ​to​ ​make​ ​other​ ​people​ ​feel​ ​less  life,​ ​your​ ​past​ ​experiences,​ ​and​ ​your​ ​deeper​ ​essence.​ ​They​ ​will 
than​ ​or​ ​inferior​ ​to​ ​themselves.​ ​They​ ​are​ ​modest​ ​and​ ​do​ ​not​ ​want​ ​to  constantly​ ​be​ ​scanning​ ​you​ ​for​ ​what​ ​you​ ​might​ ​need,​ ​looking​ ​to​ ​make 
strike​ ​themselves​ ​apart​ ​from​ ​others.​ ​They​ ​want​ ​to​ ​cooperate​ ​and  sure​ ​that​ ​you​ ​always​ ​have​ ​your​ ​base​ ​needs​ ​met.​ ​That​ ​you're​ ​fed,​ ​that 
work​ ​together​ ​with​ ​other​ ​people,​ ​and​ ​find​ ​their​ ​own​ ​personality​ ​as​ ​a  you’ve​ ​got​ ​your​ ​coffee,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​in​ ​good​ ​spirits.​ ​They​ ​will 
often​ ​ask​ ​you​ ​what​ ​you​ ​want,​ ​and​ ​they​ ​will​ ​confirm​ ​frequently​ ​to​ ​see  This​ ​can​ ​bring​ ​up​ ​a​ ​struggle​ ​in​ ​the​ ​INFJ,​ ​where​ ​they​ ​begin​ ​to​ ​perceive 
that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​well​ ​supplied.​ ​Note​ ​that​ ​this​ ​is​ ​something​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​does  a​ ​false​ ​conflict​ ​between​ ​love​ ​and​ ​vision.​ ​At​ ​some​ ​point,​ ​INFJs​ ​may 
despite​ ​the​ ​fact​ ​that​ ​it​ ​brings​ ​them​ ​stress​ ​and​ ​drains​ ​them​ ​of​ ​energy.  decide​ ​that​ ​“this​ ​is​ ​simply​ ​not​ ​working​ ​out”​ ​-​ ​as​ ​they​ ​realise​ ​that 
They​ ​do​ ​not​ ​like​ ​to​ ​do​ ​this:​ ​but​ ​they​ ​see​ ​it​ ​as​ ​an​ ​act​ ​of​ ​love​ ​and​ ​care.  they’ve​ ​abandoned​ ​their​ ​personal​ ​projects​ ​in​ ​their​ ​aspiration​ ​to​ ​fulfil 
However,​ ​to​ ​the​ ​onlooker,​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​who​ ​does​ ​this​ ​may​ ​be​ ​perceived  the​ ​wishes​ ​of​ ​the​ ​one​ ​they​ ​love.​ ​And​ ​this​ ​is​ ​often​ ​a​ ​drastic​ ​experience, 
as​ ​restless​ ​and​ ​bored.   suddenly,​ ​the​ ​partner​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​can​ ​feel​ ​that​ ​“the​ ​waiter​ ​is​ ​gone”​ ​- 
  they’re​ ​looking​ ​to​ ​make​ ​an​ ​order,​ ​but​ ​nobody​ ​is​ ​there​ ​to​ ​take​ ​it.​ ​NJs 
The​ ​counselling​ ​style​ ​may​ ​also​ ​be​ ​difficult​ ​for​ ​some,​ ​as​ ​it​ ​can​ ​feel​ ​as​ ​if  are​ ​masters​ ​of​ ​the​ ​sudden​ ​disappearance​ ​act.​ ​Intuition​ ​is​ ​like​ ​an 
you​ ​have​ ​been​ ​put​ ​through​ ​an​ ​x-ray​ ​machine.​ ​But​ ​it​ ​is​ ​how​ ​an​ ​INFJ  invisible​ ​tug​ ​to​ ​the​ ​INFJ,​ ​a​ ​path​ ​that​ ​is​ ​always​ ​there,​ ​waiting​ ​for​ ​you​ ​to 
establishes​ ​intimacy.​ ​INFJs​ ​want​ ​to​ ​know​ ​what​ ​you’ve​ ​been​ ​through,  walk​ ​on​ ​it.​ ​When​ ​you​ ​step​ ​your​ ​foot​ ​on​ ​it,​ ​it’s​ ​like​ ​standing​ ​on​ ​a 
what​ ​life​ ​path​ ​you​ ​are​ ​on,​ ​where​ ​you​ ​are​ ​headed,​ ​what​ ​your​ ​dreams  moving​ ​escalator,​ ​it​ ​will​ ​just​ ​pull​ ​you​ ​forward,​ ​and​ ​you’re​ ​barely​ ​given 
are.​ ​At​ ​times,​ ​they​ ​can​ ​be​ ​so​ ​fascinated​ ​with​ ​this​ ​life​ ​path,​ ​that​ ​they  a​ ​chance​ ​to​ ​explain​ ​where​ ​you’re​ ​headed​ ​to​ ​the​ ​people​ ​close​ ​to​ ​you. 
forget​ ​their​ ​own.​ ​Where​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​typically​ ​fierce​ ​visionaries,​ ​love​ ​is  But​ ​there​ ​are​ ​healthy​ ​practices​ ​in​ ​this.  
the​ ​one​ ​thing​ ​that​ ​can​ ​get​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​to​ ​compromise​ ​their​ ​vision​ ​or   
their​ ​personal​ ​life​ ​path.​ ​The​ ​more​ ​service-minded​ ​mindset​ ​is​ ​often​ ​a  Just​ ​because​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​know​ ​where​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going,​ ​does​ ​not​ ​mean 
consequence​ ​of​ ​this:​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​so​ ​preoccupied​ ​making​ ​sure​ ​all​ ​your  that​ ​you​ ​can’t​ ​ask​ ​other​ ​people​ ​to​ ​come​ ​with​ ​you.​ ​Ask​ ​people​ ​to​ ​trust 
needs​ ​are​ ​met,​ ​that​ ​they​ ​have​ ​no​ ​time​ ​left​ ​throughout​ ​the​ ​day​ ​to  you,​ ​and​ ​to​ ​come​ ​with​ ​you,​ ​and​ ​to​ ​take​ ​a​ ​leap​ ​of​ ​faith​ ​with​ ​you.​ ​If​ ​you 
focus​ ​on​ ​their​ ​own​ ​mental​ ​projects​ ​and​ ​intuitive​ ​aspirations.​ ​INFJ-Sxs  can​ ​take​ ​a​ ​leap​ ​of​ ​faith​ ​for​ ​the​ ​sake​ ​of​ ​your​ ​curiosity,​ ​so​ ​can​ ​they.​ ​And 
do​ ​not​ ​only​ ​experience​ ​this​ ​in​ ​relation​ ​to​ ​someone​ ​they​ ​love,​ ​but​ ​they  the​ ​journey​ ​you​ ​take​ ​does​ ​not​ ​always​ ​have​ ​to​ ​translate​ ​into​ ​a​ ​good 
can​ ​also​ ​experience​ ​this​ ​conundrum​ ​when​ ​their​ ​“love​ ​interest”​ ​is  romantic​ ​dinner,​ ​a​ ​cozy​ ​time,​ ​or​ ​tangible​ ​benefits,​ ​the​ ​journey​ ​can​ ​be 
work​ ​or​ ​a​ ​particular​ ​project​ ​that​ ​is​ ​not​ ​their​ ​own​ ​vision.   a​ ​good​ ​time​ ​to​ ​explore​ ​your​ ​interests​ ​and​ ​dreams​ ​and​ ​to​ ​crystallise 
  your​ ​intuition​ ​into​ ​something​ ​a​ ​little​ ​more​ ​real.​ ​In​ ​the​ ​prehistoric 
times,​ ​many​ ​humans​ ​were​ ​blind​ ​wanderers.​ ​There​ ​are​ ​plenty​ ​of 
stories​ ​of​ ​people​ ​going​ ​out​ ​into​ ​the​ ​wild,​ ​with​ ​no​ ​map,​ ​and​ ​no​ ​clear  eventualities​ ​happening​ ​across​ ​the​ ​world.​ ​Needing​ ​to​ ​direct​ ​and​ ​to
destination,​ ​just​ ​looking​ ​for​ ​something,​ ​no​ ​clear​ ​idea​ ​what.   ensure​ ​peace​ ​and​ ​harmony​ ​prevails,​ ​but​ ​constantly​ ​stressed​ ​and
  tense​ ​as​ ​they​ ​try​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​this​ ​peace.
This​ ​is​ ​a​ ​point​ ​of​ ​recharge​ ​for​ ​the​ ​INFJ,​ ​and​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​who​ ​goes   
wandering​ ​like​ ​this​ ​will​ ​return​ ​full​ ​of​ ​energy​ ​and​ ​life,​ ​even​ ​if​ ​their​ ​walk  The​ ​self-preserving​ ​types​ ​are​ ​overly​ ​concerned​ ​with​ ​maintaining 
didn’t​ ​land​ ​in​ ​anything​ ​fruitful.​ ​At​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​may  harmony,​ ​balance,​ ​peace,​ ​and​ ​order​ ​in​ ​the​ ​world.​ ​For​ ​the​ ​INFJ,​ ​this 
perceive​ ​these​ ​walks​ ​as​ ​“selfish”.​ ​ ​There​ ​is​ ​this​ ​notion​ ​that​ ​love​ ​has​ ​to  presents​ ​itself​ ​in​ ​unusually​ ​sharp​ ​abilities​ ​of​ ​foresight,​ ​anticipation, 
mean​ ​sacrifice,​ ​when​ ​in​ ​reality,​ ​many​ ​potential​ ​partners​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ  and​ ​interpersonal​ ​awareness.​ ​This​ ​INFJ​ ​will​ ​be​ ​unusually​ ​aware​ ​of​ ​the 
would​ ​marvel​ ​at​ ​the​ ​opportunity​ ​to​ ​go​ ​exploring​ ​in​ ​ways​ ​like​ ​this.​ ​Yes,  existential​ ​state​ ​of​ ​the​ ​world​ ​and​ ​the​ ​concerns​ ​of​ ​the​ ​people​ ​across 
at​ ​times,​ ​this​ ​waiter​ ​like​ ​mentality​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​better​ ​switched​ ​for  the​ ​globe.  
the​ ​slightly​ ​more​ ​mysterious​ ​approach​ ​of​ ​your​ ​intuition​ ​and​ ​judging.   
Instead​ ​of​ ​moving​ ​to​ ​respond​ ​to​ ​your​ ​partners​ ​interests,​ ​predict​ ​the  This​ ​INFJ​ ​will​ ​also​ ​perceive​ ​their​ ​persuasive​ ​gifts​ ​and​ ​their​ ​visions​ ​as 
future,​ ​and​ ​use​ ​your​ ​foresight​ ​and​ ​your​ ​powers​ ​of​ ​speculation​ ​to  something​ ​dangerous​ ​or​ ​something​ ​to​ ​be​ ​treated​ ​with​ ​absolute​ ​care, 
intercept​ ​what​ ​is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​happen​ ​next.​ ​Loosely​ ​envision​ ​your​ ​next  causing​ ​them​ ​to​ ​somewhat​ ​hold​ ​back​ ​their​ ​personal​ ​ambitions​ ​and 
getaway,​ ​go​ ​with​ ​your​ ​partner​ ​where​ ​your​ ​intuition​ ​is​ ​pulling​ ​you.​ ​In  aims​ ​while​ ​being​ ​overly​ ​preoccupied​ ​with​ ​the​ ​aims​ ​and​ ​opinions​ ​of 
these​ ​circumstances,​ ​the​ ​one’s​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​intimate​ ​with​ ​will​ ​see​ ​you  others.​ ​To​ ​some​ ​extent,​ ​this​ ​will​ ​make​ ​them​ ​susceptible​ ​to​ ​being 
in​ ​a​ ​more​ ​natural​ ​setting,​ ​where​ ​you​ ​are​ ​truly​ ​“you”.​ ​And​ ​often,​ ​this​ ​is  manipulated​ ​and​ ​used​ ​by​ ​other​ ​people.​ ​They​ ​may​ ​distrust​ ​their​ ​own 
where​ ​deeper​ ​connection​ ​can​ ​begin.  voice​ ​while​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time​ ​overvaluing​ ​the​ ​opinions​ ​and​ ​values​ ​of 
  their​ ​peers​ ​and​ ​the​ ​people​ ​they​ ​seek​ ​to​ ​protect.​ ​The​ ​self-preserving 
INFJ-Sp:​ ​The​ ​Magician  types​ ​are​ ​suspicious​ ​of​ ​themselves​ ​and​ ​fear​ ​becoming​ ​corrupted​ ​or 
becoming​ ​villainous.​ ​But​ ​the​ ​INFJs​ ​may​ ​be​ ​comparing​ ​themselves 
The​ ​INFJ​ ​that​ ​feels​ ​ultimately​ ​responsible​ ​for​ ​the​ ​fate​ ​of​ ​the overly​ ​harshly​ ​with​ ​the​ ​INFJ-3s​ ​and​ ​INFJ-8s​ ​that​ ​are​ ​more​ ​about 
universe​ ​-​ ​responsible​ ​for​ ​the​ ​bigger​ ​picture​ ​and​ ​all​ ​the​ ​events​ ​and using​ ​their​ ​intuition​ ​and​ ​feeling​ ​towards​ ​a​ ​personal​ ​goal.  
  and​ ​aspirations,​ ​and​ ​your​ ​personal​ ​aspirations​ ​and​ ​dreams​ ​can​ ​be 
At​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​INFJ-Sps​ ​forget​ ​that​ ​the​ ​problem​ ​with​ ​these​ ​INFJs  shaped​ ​into​ ​something​ ​positive​ ​for​ ​the​ ​world​ ​and​ ​for​ ​the​ ​community. 
is​ ​not​ ​their​ ​powers​ ​of​ ​persuasion​ ​or​ ​their​ ​visions​ ​in​ ​themselves,​ ​but   
the​ ​lack​ ​of​ ​introspection​ ​and​ ​awareness​ ​of​ ​the​ ​existential  INFJ-5:​ ​The​ ​Sage 
consequences​ ​of​ ​their​ ​actions.​ ​INFJ-3s​ ​and​ ​INFJ-8s​ ​are​ ​not​ ​bad   
because​ ​they​ ​are​ ​visionaries​ ​or​ ​persuasive​ ​powerhouses,​ ​but​ ​because  The​ ​INFJ​ ​that​ ​seeks​ ​true​ ​objectivity​ ​and​ ​to​ ​confirm​ ​and​ ​to​ ​prove 
they​ ​forget​ ​to​ ​introspect​ ​on​ ​and​ ​understand​ ​their​ ​source.​ ​This​ ​can  everything​ ​they​ ​think​ ​and​ ​feel.​ ​Often​ ​confined​ ​to​ ​a​ ​drawing​ ​table,​ ​trying​ ​to 
cause​ ​INFJ-3s​ ​and​ ​INFJ-8s​ ​to​ ​take​ ​misguided​ ​actions.​ ​For​ ​the  find​ ​answers​ ​and​ ​explanations​ ​that​ ​can​ ​help​ ​make​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​a​ ​sometimes 
INFJ-Sp,​ ​the​ ​other​ ​side​ ​of​ ​the​ ​coin,​ ​the​ ​problem​ ​is​ ​not​ ​acting​ ​on​ ​your  strange​ ​intuition. 
visions​ ​or​ ​using​ ​your​ ​persuasive​ ​powers​ ​to​ ​guide​ ​people​ ​in​ ​the​ ​right   
direction​ ​that​ ​you,​ ​as​ ​a​ ​self-preserving​ ​type,​ ​will​ ​be​ ​so​ ​intimately  Do​ ​you​ ​feel​ ​like​ ​your​ ​intuition​ ​is​ ​a​ ​strength​ ​or​ ​a​ ​hinderance?​ ​How 
aware​ ​of.   much​ ​do​ ​you​ ​trust​ ​your​ ​own​ ​perception,​ ​and​ ​to​ ​what​ ​extent​ ​are​ ​you 
  suspicious​ ​towards​ ​yourself​ ​and​ ​your​ ​own​ ​reasoning?​ ​Enneagram​ ​5​ ​is 
The​ ​INFJ​ ​may​ ​feel​ ​shame​ ​or​ ​guilt​ ​or​ ​harsh​ ​judgement​ ​towards​ ​their  intimately​ ​tied​ ​to​ ​our​ ​own​ ​trust​ ​of​ ​our​ ​own​ ​mental​ ​state​ ​and​ ​our​ ​own 
own​ ​more​ ​selfish​ ​or​ ​personal​ ​desires​ ​and​ ​ambitions,​ ​feeling​ ​that​ ​they  intelligence.​ ​5s​ ​worry​ ​that​ ​they​ ​lack​ ​the​ ​necessary​ ​skills​ ​and 
must​ ​make​ ​themselves​ ​into​ ​a​ ​tool​ ​for​ ​harmony​ ​and​ ​peace​ ​in​ ​the  strengths​ ​and​ ​feel​ ​generally​ ​sceptical​ ​of​ ​their​ ​own​ ​thoughts​ ​and 
world,​ ​rather​ ​than​ ​using​ ​their​ ​powers​ ​and​ ​gifts​ ​for​ ​personal​ ​aims.  reasoning.  
They​ ​may​ ​as​ ​a​ ​result​ ​find​ ​themselves​ ​excelling​ ​at​ ​using​ ​their​ ​powers   
to​ ​grant​ ​the​ ​wishes​ ​and​ ​dreams​ ​of​ ​others,​ ​while​ ​struggling​ ​to​ ​use  Still,​ ​because​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJs​ ​love​ ​for​ ​thinking,​ ​there​ ​is​ ​a​ ​need​ ​constantly 
these​ ​powers​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​results​ ​in​ ​their​ ​personal​ ​aspirations.​ ​Often,  to​ ​prove​ ​your​ ​own​ ​thinking​ ​and​ ​to​ ​verify​ ​that​ ​what​ ​you​ ​think​ ​is 
the​ ​goal​ ​to​ ​self-actualisation​ ​for​ ​this​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​recognising​ ​their  correct.​ ​And​ ​the​ ​enneagram​ ​5​ ​struggles​ ​to​ ​move​ ​forward​ ​and​ ​to​ ​take 
personal​ ​desires​ ​as​ ​something​ ​neither​ ​good​ ​or​ ​bad,​ ​just​ ​human.​ ​There  necessary​ ​action​ ​based​ ​on​ ​their​ ​thoughts​ ​and​ ​their​ ​intuition,​ ​unless 
is​ ​no​ ​reason​ ​to​ ​fear​ ​attachment,​ ​desire,​ ​or​ ​to​ ​have​ ​personal​ ​dreams  they​ ​can​ ​prove​ ​that​ ​it​ ​is​ ​real.​ ​This​ ​drives​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​fear​ ​of​ ​change​ ​in 
the​ ​INFJ-5s.​ ​They​ ​may​ ​feel​ ​a​ ​pull​ ​towards​ ​a​ ​hard​ ​to​ ​describe​ ​vision,  other​ ​people.​ ​The​ ​values​ ​and​ ​opinions​ ​of​ ​the​ ​people​ ​will​ ​as​ ​a​ ​result 
but​ ​also​ ​a​ ​desire​ ​to​ ​explain​ ​and​ ​prove​ ​that​ ​this​ ​vision​ ​is​ ​correct.   have​ ​a​ ​risk​ ​of​ ​hurting​ ​you​ ​as​ ​an​ ​INFJ.  
   
There​ ​is​ ​a​ ​pull​ ​to​ ​investigate​ ​a​ ​certain​ ​theory​ ​or​ ​hypothesis,​ ​but​ ​also​ ​a  The​ ​INFJ-6​ ​is​ ​here​ ​trying,​ ​more​ ​so​ ​than​ ​the​ ​average​ ​INFJ,​ ​to​ ​shield 
need​ ​to​ ​ensure​ ​that​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​act​ ​on​ ​or​ ​shape​ ​your​ ​world​ ​around​ ​a  themselves,​ ​and​ ​to​ ​protect​ ​themselves​ ​somehow​ ​from​ ​critique​ ​and 
theory​ ​that​ ​could​ ​turn​ ​out​ ​to​ ​be​ ​incorrect.​ ​Objectivity​ ​is​ ​the​ ​core  negative​ ​opinions​ ​in​ ​other​ ​people.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-6​ ​will,​ ​unlike​ ​most 
desire​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ-5.​ ​That​ ​their​ ​inner​ ​experience​ ​can​ ​be​ ​proven​ ​and  people,​ ​do​ ​so​ ​by​ ​trying​ ​their​ ​best​ ​to​ ​cover​ ​up​ ​any​ ​flaws,​ ​and​ ​to​ ​live 
confirmed​ ​by​ ​evidence​ ​and​ ​reasoning.​ ​But​ ​this​ ​troubling​ ​suspicion  above​ ​everyone’s​ ​critique.​ ​Out​ ​of​ ​a​ ​desire​ ​to​ ​be​ ​liked​ ​and​ ​to​ ​protect 
can​ ​also​ ​cause​ ​the​ ​INFJs​ ​to​ ​miss​ ​out​ ​on​ ​important​ ​possibilities:​ ​by​ ​the  themselves,​ ​they​ ​will​ ​try​ ​to​ ​make​ ​choices​ ​and​ ​to​ ​conduct​ ​themselves 
time​ ​they​ ​have​ ​proven​ ​their​ ​theories​ ​were​ ​correct,​ ​they​ ​may​ ​have  in​ ​a​ ​way​ ​that​ ​is​ ​more​ ​or​ ​less​ ​infallible.​ ​This​ ​is,​ ​however,​ ​not​ ​possible, 
already​ ​missed​ ​out​ ​on​ ​important​ ​possibilities​ ​and​ ​ideas.   as​ ​it​ ​is​ ​human​ ​to​ ​make​ ​mistakes.​ ​The​ ​fear​ ​of​ ​becoming​ ​the​ ​subject​ ​of 
  critique​ ​can​ ​keep​ ​you​ ​as​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​from​ ​moving​ ​forward​ ​on​ ​a​ ​vision​ ​or 
INFJ-6:​ ​The​ ​Hero  voicing​ ​and​ ​communicating​ ​your​ ​values​ ​and​ ​standing​ ​above​ ​the 
crowd.​ ​People​ ​look​ ​and​ ​point​ ​to​ ​those​ ​that​ ​walk​ ​their​ ​own​ ​way​ ​-​ ​and 
The​ ​sensitive​ ​INFJ​ ​that​ ​wants​ ​to​ ​meet​ ​up​ ​to​ ​everyone’s that​ ​can​ ​be​ ​difficult​ ​-​ ​but​ ​it​ ​is​ ​more​ ​difficult​ ​to​ ​be​ ​lost​ ​from​ ​your​ ​own 
expectations.​ ​In​ ​their​ ​pursuit​ ​to​ ​live​ ​a​ ​life​ ​without​ ​flaws,​ ​honouring vision​ ​and​ ​to​ ​not​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​trust​ ​your​ ​own​ ​voice.  
commitments,​ ​they​ ​may​ ​find​ ​themselves​ ​giving​ ​up​ ​too​ ​much​ ​control  
over​ ​their​ ​own​ ​life​ ​and​ ​decisions​ ​to​ ​other​ ​people. INFJ-7:​ ​The​ ​Explorer 
 
INFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​live​ ​lives​ ​without​ ​an​ ​active​ ​guard​ ​or​ ​defense​ ​towards  The​ ​visionary​ ​INFJ​ ​that​ ​sometimes​ ​stays​ ​a​ ​little​ ​too​ ​far​ ​away​ ​from​ ​others, 
the​ ​world​ ​around​ ​them.​ ​They​ ​don’t​ ​hold​ ​up​ ​the​ ​shields​ ​most​ ​people  fearing​ ​making​ ​friendships​ ​and​ ​connections​ ​because​ ​these​ ​connections 
hold​ ​up,​ ​and​ ​so,​ ​they​ ​are​ ​exposed​ ​and​ ​sensitive​ ​to​ ​the​ ​judgements​ ​of  may​ ​keep​ ​them​ ​from​ ​their​ ​quest​ ​and​ ​their​ ​journey.​ ​Secluded,​ ​quirky, 
unique,​ ​and​ ​original,​ ​marching​ ​to​ ​the​ ​beat​ ​of​ ​their​ ​own​ ​drum.  
   
The​ ​INFJ-7s​ ​will​ ​typically​ ​have​ ​detached,​ ​but​ ​also​ ​cunning​ ​and​ ​clever,  The​ ​INFJ​ ​that​ ​wants​ ​to​ ​prove​ ​a​ ​theory​ ​or​ ​a​ ​belief​ ​that​ ​they​ ​have​ ​gathered 
focused​ ​eyes.​ ​They​ ​will​ ​squint​ ​and​ ​focus​ ​their​ ​gaze​ ​but​ ​will​ ​otherwise  over​ ​the​ ​years,​ ​getting​ ​people​ ​to​ ​accept​ ​and​ ​understand​ ​their​ ​intuition​ ​and 
seem​ ​cold​ ​and​ ​dispassionate.​ ​The​ ​INFJ-7​ ​is​ ​a​ ​true​ ​dreamer​ ​-​ ​someone  values.​ ​Struggling​ ​with​ ​boundaries​ ​and​ ​peace​ ​of​ ​mind​ ​and​ ​maintaining​ ​the 
caught​ ​in​ ​a​ ​search​ ​for​ ​answers​ ​and​ ​insights,​ ​reflective,​ ​contemplative,  bigger​ ​picture.  
exploring​ ​their​ ​inner​ ​world​ ​and​ ​their​ ​vision​ ​and​ ​seeing​ ​where​ ​their   
ideas​ ​will​ ​take​ ​them.​ ​INFJ-7s​ ​are​ ​the​ ​wanderers​ ​locked​ ​on​ ​existential  The​ ​INFJ-8s​ ​will​ ​typically​ ​have​ ​cunning,​ ​clever​ ​eyes,​ ​eyes​ ​of​ ​strong 
journeys,​ ​seeking​ ​for​ ​an​ ​answer​ ​they​ ​can’t​ ​communicate​ ​yet.   focus,​ ​but​ ​also​ ​warm,​ ​friendly,​ ​expressive​ ​upper​ ​lips.​ ​Their 
  expressions​ ​will​ ​appear​ ​highly​ ​deliberate,​ ​focused,​ ​poised,​ ​strategic. 
The​ ​emptiness​ ​that​ ​is​ ​so​ ​strong​ ​in​ ​the​ ​Enneagram​ ​7​ ​and​ ​the​ ​INFJ-7​ ​as  INFJs​ ​are​ ​the​ ​visionaries​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​rally​ ​people​ ​behind​ ​their​ ​visions: 
well​ ​is​ ​found​ ​in​ ​wondering​ ​what​ ​the​ ​purpose​ ​of​ ​your​ ​ideas​ ​and​ ​your  they’ve​ ​found​ ​an​ ​answer​ ​or​ ​something​ ​important​ ​and​ ​now​ ​they​ ​want 
vision​ ​is.​ ​Often,​ ​when​ ​you​ ​start​ ​up​ ​a​ ​new​ ​quest,​ ​you​ ​can’t​ ​really  other​ ​people​ ​to​ ​come​ ​on​ ​board.​ ​They’ve​ ​gotten​ ​an​ ​idea​ ​in​ ​their​ ​head 
explain​ ​meaning​ ​yet.​ ​Meaning​ ​tends​ ​to​ ​emerge​ ​once​ ​we​ ​are​ ​halfway  that​ ​they’ve​ ​become​ ​obsessed​ ​with​ ​-​ ​perhaps​ ​a​ ​long-term​ ​project​ ​of 
through​ ​our​ ​path,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​start​ ​to​ ​make​ ​friends​ ​and​ ​enemies.​ ​Perhaps  change​ ​or​ ​some​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​ideology,​ ​and​ ​now​ ​they​ ​want​ ​other​ ​people​ ​to 
we​ ​land​ ​ourselves​ ​in​ ​positions​ ​that​ ​we​ ​desire​ ​to​ ​keep,​ ​or​ ​we​ ​find  come​ ​on​ ​board,​ ​and​ ​so,​ ​they​ ​work​ ​with​ ​building​ ​bridges​ ​and​ ​getting 
hidden​ ​treasures​ ​ ​that​ ​we​ ​realise​ ​have​ ​important​ ​value.​ ​As​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​in  people​ ​to​ ​join​ ​them​ ​in​ ​their​ ​pursuit.  
the​ ​beginning​ ​of​ ​an​ ​existential​ ​pursuit,​ ​don’t​ ​worry​ ​about​ ​the​ ​lack​ ​of   
meaning​ ​in​ ​something​ ​-​ ​realise​ ​that​ ​meaning​ ​is​ ​everywhere.​ ​Make  The​ ​anger​ ​of​ ​the​ ​INFJ-8​ ​is​ ​found​ ​in​ ​that​ ​other​ ​people​ ​don’t​ ​see​ ​or 
sure​ ​you​ ​sit​ ​down​ ​with​ ​yourself​ ​and​ ​think​ ​about​ ​why​ ​you​ ​are​ ​doing  understand​ ​you.​ ​You’ve​ ​got​ ​a​ ​theory​ ​-​ ​and​ ​now​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​prove​ ​it, 
what​ ​you​ ​are​ ​doing,​ ​and​ ​who​ ​you​ ​are,​ ​and​ ​what​ ​your​ ​latest​ ​decisions  but​ ​people​ ​don’t​ ​seem​ ​interested​ ​or​ ​open​ ​minded​ ​enough​ ​to​ ​hear​ ​you 
meant​ ​to​ ​you.​ ​INFJs​ ​find​ ​meaning​ ​inside.  out.​ ​It’s​ ​important​ ​not​ ​to​ ​lose​ ​your​ ​normal​ ​superhuman​ ​INFJ​ ​patience 
in​ ​this​ ​process.​ ​You’ve​ ​got​ ​the​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​see​ ​clearly​ ​and​ ​to​ ​detach​ ​- 
INFJ-8:​ ​The​ ​Ruler  and​ ​to​ ​see​ ​the​ ​bigger​ ​picture.​ ​You​ ​can​ ​understand​ ​people​ ​and​ ​why 
they​ ​don’t​ ​understand​ ​and​ ​what​ ​they​ ​struggle​ ​with.​ ​Use​ ​that​ ​ability​ ​to  Like​ ​the​ ​Enneagram​ ​6,​ ​there​ ​is​ ​a​ ​fear​ ​of​ ​criticism​ ​that​ ​holds​ ​this 
make​ ​yourself​ ​heard.   creative​ ​spirit​ ​back:​ ​fear​ ​of​ ​sharing​ ​or​ ​standing​ ​up​ ​for​ ​their​ ​ideas.​ ​But 
  the​ ​9​ ​rees​ ​themselves​ ​from​ ​this​ ​fear​ ​by​ ​pretending​ ​there​ ​is​ ​no​ ​“I”​ ​that 
INFJ-9:​ ​The​ ​Innocent  can​ ​be​ ​critiqued.​ ​In​ ​practical​ ​terms:​ ​the​ ​INFJ-9​ ​can​ ​lack​ ​the 
  confidence​ ​to​ ​speak​ ​out​ ​about​ ​their​ ​ideas,​ ​and​ ​in​ ​this,​ ​they​ ​may 
The​ ​lazy​ ​and​ ​unfocused​ ​INFJ,​ ​caught​ ​in​ ​the​ ​twilight​ ​zone,​ ​and​ ​a​ ​chaotic  dismiss​ ​their​ ​own​ ​ideas​ ​as​ ​a​ ​joke​ ​or​ ​as​ ​a​ ​mere​ ​hobby.​ ​If​ ​there’s​ ​no 
and​ ​rampant​ ​intuition.​ ​Seeing​ ​every​ ​perspective​ ​and​ ​the​ ​bigger​ ​picture,  effort,​ ​there’s​ ​nothing​ ​that​ ​other​ ​people​ ​can​ ​question​ ​or​ ​attack​ ​you 
but​ ​with​ ​themselves​ ​edited​ ​out,​ ​struggling​ ​to​ ​think​ ​their​ ​own​ ​thoughts​ ​and  for. 
to​ ​stand​ ​up​ ​for​ ​what​ ​they​ ​see.   
  INFJ-9s​ ​can​ ​lose​ ​their​ ​normal​ ​perspective​ ​and​ ​peace​ ​if​ ​they​ ​don’t 
The​ ​confusion​ ​and​ ​uncertainty​ ​that​ ​plagues​ ​the​ ​INFJ-9​ ​is​ ​in​ ​their  remind​ ​themselves​ ​to​ ​slow​ ​down​ ​from​ ​time​ ​to​ ​time.​ ​Yes,​ ​INFJ-9s​ ​tend 
inability​ ​to​ ​consider​ ​the​ ​bigger​ ​picture.​ ​Staring​ ​themselves​ ​blind​ ​at  to​ ​be​ ​the​ ​most​ ​creative​ ​of​ ​all​ ​INFJs,​ ​as​ ​they​ ​hold​ ​an​ ​intuition​ ​that​ ​is 
rapid​ ​change​ ​and​ ​the​ ​chaos​ ​surrounding​ ​them,​ ​they​ ​are​ ​too​ ​caught​ ​up  overwhelming​ ​and​ ​beyond​ ​their​ ​control.​ ​They​ ​are​ ​creative​ ​-​ ​and 
in​ ​the​ ​chaos​ ​to​ ​see​ ​the​ ​bigger​ ​game.   confused​ ​-​ ​as​ ​there​ ​are​ ​so​ ​many​ ​ideas​ ​and​ ​possibilities​ ​and​ ​not 
  enough​ ​time​ ​to​ ​narrow​ ​down​ ​a​ ​conclusion.  
INFJs​ ​need​ ​to​ ​remove​ ​themselves​ ​from​ ​a​ ​situation​ ​or​ ​to​ ​look​ ​from   
above,​ ​but​ ​this​ ​can​ ​sometimes​ ​be​ ​difficult​ ​when​ ​you’re​ ​dealing​ ​with  Relationships 
demanding​ ​and​ ​intense​ ​relationships​ ​or​ ​drama​ ​and​ ​conflict.​ ​INFJs   
ENTJ 
have​ ​a​ ​very​ ​understanding​ ​nature,​ ​but​ ​INFJs​ ​can​ ​forget​ ​to​ ​extend 
 
that​ ​understanding​ ​within.​ ​INFJ-9s​ ​struggle​ ​to​ ​see​ ​their​ ​own 
ENTJs​ ​can​ ​push​ ​INFJs​ ​to​ ​set​ ​higher​ ​standards​ ​and​ ​to​ ​work​ ​harder​ ​to 
perspective​ ​and​ ​to​ ​hear​ ​their​ ​own​ ​thoughts​ ​-​ ​because​ ​they’re 
reach​ ​their​ ​goals​ ​and​ ​ambitions.​ ​They​ ​may​ ​get​ ​us​ ​to​ ​look​ ​a​ ​second 
constantly​ ​so​ ​focused​ ​with​ ​the​ ​thoughts​ ​and​ ​judgement​ ​of​ ​others.  
time​ ​before​ ​we​ ​put​ ​our​ ​work​ ​out​ ​there,​ ​and​ ​they​ ​can​ ​encourage​ ​us​ ​to 
 
work​ ​harder​ ​and​ ​to​ ​invest​ ​more​ ​ambition​ ​into​ ​what​ ​we​ ​do.​ ​More  and​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​humour​ ​is​ ​always​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​refreshing.​ ​Emotionally, 
negatively,​ ​ENTJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​be​ ​inclined​ ​to​ ​disagree​ ​with​ ​or​ ​disregard  you​ ​speak​ ​the​ ​same​ ​language,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​can​ ​easily​ ​gauge​ ​the​ ​other 
INFJs​ ​a​ ​lot.​ ​There​ ​is​ ​a​ ​tendency​ ​to​ ​applaud​ ​the​ ​creativity​ ​of​ ​an​ ​INFJ,  persons​ ​feelings​ ​and​ ​mood.​ ​It’s​ ​fairly​ ​easy​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​and​ ​decode 
while​ ​simultaneously​ ​dismissing​ ​their​ ​work​ ​and​ ​what​ ​they​ ​produce.   their​ ​actions​ ​and​ ​to​ ​know​ ​why​ ​they​ ​feel​ ​the​ ​way​ ​they​ ​do.  
   
And​ ​depending​ ​on​ ​who​ ​is​ ​in​ ​power,​ ​this​ ​can​ ​of​ ​course​ ​go​ ​both​ ​ways:  ENTPs​ ​and​ ​INFJs​ ​have​ ​an​ ​interesting​ ​connection​ ​-​ ​the​ ​ENTP​ ​is​ ​always 
both​ ​outsourcing​ ​a​ ​degree​ ​of​ ​perfectionism​ ​on​ ​the​ ​other,​ ​expecting  going​ ​to​ ​try​ ​to​ ​argue​ ​with​ ​the​ ​INFJ,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​always​ ​going​ ​to​ ​try 
more​ ​and​ ​different​ ​than​ ​what​ ​the​ ​other​ ​can​ ​deliver.​ ​Where​ ​the​ ​INFJ  to​ ​counsel​ ​the​ ​ENTP.​ ​So​ ​why​ ​did​ ​you​ ​say​ ​that?​ ​You​ ​might​ ​ask,​ ​as​ ​an 
has​ ​the​ ​strength​ ​of​ ​understanding​ ​and​ ​analysis,​ ​the​ ​ENTJ​ ​may​ ​expect  INFJ.​ ​And​ ​the​ ​ENTP​ ​will​ ​try​ ​to​ ​argue​ ​around​ ​the​ ​question,​ ​and​ ​you’ll 
more​ ​value,​ ​more​ ​pragmatism,​ ​and​ ​a​ ​deeper​ ​understanding​ ​of​ ​what  try​ ​to​ ​peer​ ​deeper​ ​behind​ ​the​ ​ENTPs​ ​statements.  
will​ ​work.    
  This​ ​makes​ ​the​ ​dynamic​ ​a​ ​great​ ​opportunity​ ​for​ ​learning​ ​and​ ​reaching 
Where​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​may​ ​expect​ ​more​ ​introspection​ ​and​ ​reflection,​ ​the  insights,​ ​but​ ​more​ ​negatively,​ ​it​ ​makes​ ​reaching​ ​clear​ ​conclusions​ ​and 
ENTJ​ ​may​ ​be​ ​too​ ​focused​ ​on​ ​day​ ​to​ ​day​ ​business​ ​patterns.​ ​This  decisions​ ​more​ ​difficult.​ ​A​ ​good​ ​question​ ​to​ ​ask​ ​at​ ​the​ ​end​ ​of​ ​a 
critical​ ​dynamic​ ​is​ ​common​ ​in​ ​all​ ​relationships​ ​between​ ​NTs​ ​and​ ​NFs,  conversation​ ​is:​ ​So​ ​what​ ​did​ ​we​ ​actually​ ​agree​ ​upon?​ ​Because​ ​both 
but​ ​more​ ​positively,​ ​it​ ​can​ ​drive​ ​a​ ​more​ ​intuitive​ ​realism​ ​in​ ​both  types​ ​have​ ​different​ ​motivations​ ​or​ ​core​ ​goals​ ​of​ ​everything​ ​they​ ​do, 
parties.​ ​While​ ​both​ ​can​ ​be​ ​creative,​ ​both​ ​will​ ​work​ ​hard​ ​to​ ​ensure  this​ ​can​ ​be​ ​a​ ​difficult​ ​one.​ ​INFJs​ ​seek​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​and​ ​comprehend, 
that​ ​the​ ​other’s​ ​ideas​ ​stay​ ​within​ ​the​ ​range​ ​of​ ​what​ ​will​ ​be​ ​successful  ENTPs​ ​to​ ​win​ ​and​ ​to​ ​overcome.  
and​ ​what​ ​will​ ​drive​ ​more​ ​understanding.   
  INTP
ENTP   
With​ ​the​ ​INTP,​ ​you​ ​have​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​most​ ​loyal​ ​companions.​ ​INTPs 
You​ ​will​ ​find​ ​ENTPs​ ​to​ ​always​ ​have​ ​a​ ​ton​ ​of​ ​energy.​ ​Their​ ​enthusiasm  and​ ​INFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​naturally​ ​work​ ​to​ ​support​ ​and​ ​hold​ ​each​ ​other​ ​up, 
backing​ ​each​ ​other​ ​up​ ​in​ ​advancing​ ​various​ ​theories.​ ​Both​ ​will  The​ ​INTJ​ ​is​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​key​ ​playmates​ ​for​ ​an​ ​INFJ.​ ​It’s​ ​a​ ​type​ ​that​ ​you 
encourage​ ​the​ ​other​ ​to​ ​look​ ​deeper,​ ​but​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​feeling​ ​that  can​ ​always​ ​have​ ​fun​ ​with,​ ​someone​ ​who​ ​shares​ ​your​ ​love​ ​for 
the​ ​other​ ​has​ ​missed​ ​something,​ ​that​ ​the​ ​INTP​ ​did​ ​not​ ​consider​ ​a  exploring​ ​projects​ ​and​ ​intuitive​ ​prospects.​ ​You​ ​can​ ​spend​ ​hours​ ​and 
personal​ ​quality​ ​or​ ​a​ ​hidden​ ​reason,​ ​or​ ​that​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​forgot​ ​about​ ​an  hours​ ​speculating​ ​and​ ​discussing​ ​various​ ​possibilities.​ ​There​ ​is​ ​always 
important​ ​essential​ ​mechanic​ ​on​ ​how​ ​people​ ​or​ ​things​ ​work.   something​ ​to​ ​discuss,​ ​and​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​a​ ​feeling​ ​that​ ​something 
  has​ ​been​ ​overlooked.  
At​ ​the​ ​worst,​ ​this​ ​can​ ​drive​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​distrust​ ​towards​ ​the​ ​other,​ ​that   
they​ ​can’t​ ​be​ ​left​ ​alone​ ​to​ ​execute​ ​something,​ ​that​ ​they​ ​didn’t​ ​listen  The​ ​INFJ​ ​and​ ​INTJ​ ​will​ ​both​ ​look​ ​at​ ​each​ ​others​ ​as​ ​if​ ​their​ ​thinking​ ​is 
properly,​ ​or​ ​did​ ​not​ ​take​ ​enough​ ​precautions.​ ​This​ ​may​ ​get​ ​us​ ​to​ ​be  in​ ​the​ ​right​ ​direction,​ ​but​ ​there’s​ ​something​ ​more​ ​that​ ​also​ ​needs​ ​to 
overly​ ​so​ ​on​ ​the​ ​lookout​ ​for​ ​the​ ​other,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​also​ ​adds​ ​one​ ​extra​ ​layer  be​ ​considered.​ ​This​ ​creates​ ​a​ ​chance​ ​to​ ​spend​ ​ample​ ​time​ ​thinking, 
of​ ​security​ ​and​ ​comfort​ ​for​ ​both​ ​types.​ ​In​ ​case​ ​the​ ​INTP​ ​missed  reasoning,​ ​predicting,​ ​and​ ​adding​ ​to​ ​one​ ​another’s​ ​thoughts, 
something​ ​or​ ​forgot​ ​something​ ​in​ ​a​ ​social​ ​situation,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​act​ ​as​ ​a  expanding​ ​awareness​ ​and​ ​learning​ ​more​ ​one​ ​insight​ ​at​ ​a​ ​time.  
backup​ ​to​ ​ensure​ ​that​ ​there’s​ ​no​ ​misunderstandings​ ​or​ ​conflicts.​ ​In   
case​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​made​ ​a​ ​mistake,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​double-check​ ​to​ ​ensure​ ​that  It​ ​is​ ​important​ ​however,​ ​that​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​become​ ​too​ ​dismissive​ ​of​ ​the 
everything​ ​was​ ​done​ ​correctly.​ ​But​ ​it’s​ ​important​ ​that​ ​this​ ​does​ ​not  other’s​ ​thoughts​ ​and​ ​that​ ​you​ ​take​ ​the​ ​time​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​the 
lead​ ​to​ ​smothering​ ​or​ ​invalidation​ ​of​ ​the​ ​other’s​ ​core​ ​strengths​ ​-​ ​that  meaning​ ​of​ ​what​ ​it​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​speculating​ ​about.​ ​Now​ ​that​ ​we’ve 
both​ ​can​ ​recognise​ ​that​ ​each​ ​has​ ​skills​ ​in​ ​different​ ​areas.​ ​There​ ​is​ ​a  run​ ​through​ ​this​ ​theory​ ​for​ ​a​ ​long​ ​time,​ ​what​ ​shall​ ​we​ ​do​ ​with​ ​it? 
tendency​ ​to​ ​look​ ​at​ ​the​ ​other​ ​as​ ​unusually​ ​flawed​ ​because​ ​we​ ​are  Should​ ​we​ ​do​ ​something​ ​about​ ​it?​ ​Does​ ​it​ ​mean​ ​anything?​ ​What​ ​does 
more​ ​focused​ ​on​ ​dimensions​ ​where​ ​the​ ​other​ ​type​ ​is​ ​less​ ​skilled.  it​ ​mean​ ​to​ ​you,​ ​compared​ ​to​ ​what​ ​it​ ​means​ ​to​ ​the​ ​INTJ?​ ​In​ ​this,​ ​it’s 
  okay​ ​to​ ​diverge​ ​in​ ​different​ ​directions​ ​and​ ​to​ ​move​ ​forward​ ​alone​ ​if 
INTJ  you​ ​have​ ​different​ ​intentions​ ​for​ ​the​ ​idea.​ ​The​ ​INTJ​ ​is​ ​best​ ​embraced 
  as​ ​a​ ​catalyst​ ​and​ ​speculation-mate,​ ​a​ ​companion​ ​who​ ​is​ ​just​ ​as​ ​good 
at​ ​overthinking​ ​as​ ​we​ ​are. 
  Both​ ​want​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the​ ​one​ ​with​ ​the​ ​original​ ​answers​ ​and​ ​ideas,​ ​and​ ​at 
INFJ  times,​ ​this​ ​can​ ​come​ ​at​ ​the​ ​expense​ ​of​ ​dismissing​ ​the​ ​others​ ​thoughts 
  as​ ​too​ ​simplistic,​ ​not​ ​deep​ ​enough.​ ​At​ ​the​ ​best,​ ​the​ ​identical​ ​dynamic 
Another​ ​INFJ​ ​can​ ​offer​ ​an​ ​in-depth​ ​look​ ​at​ ​yourself​ ​and​ ​your​ ​own  is​ ​a​ ​co-hero​ ​dynamic,​ ​at​ ​other​ ​times,​ ​there​ ​may​ ​be​ ​a​ ​degree​ ​of​ ​sibling 
issues​ ​and​ ​experiences​ ​from​ ​the​ ​other​ ​side.​ ​You​ ​can​ ​suddenly​ ​see  rivalry.​ ​It​ ​is​ ​important​ ​that​ ​this​ ​sibling​ ​rivalry​ ​does​ ​not​ ​lead​ ​to​ ​a 
how​ ​you​ ​affect​ ​other​ ​people.​ ​How​ ​other​ ​people​ ​see​ ​you.​ ​This​ ​can  rejection​ ​of​ ​the​ ​other’s​ ​natural​ ​strengths​ ​and​ ​qualities.​ ​If​ ​one​ ​gets​ ​to 
truly​ ​be​ ​an​ ​experience​ ​of​ ​learning​ ​about​ ​ourselves.​ ​INFJs​ ​tend​ ​to  shine​ ​more​ ​brightly​ ​than​ ​the​ ​other,​ ​the​ ​other​ ​can​ ​come​ ​to​ ​falsely​ ​hold 
naturally​ ​take​ ​turns​ ​counselling​ ​one​ ​another,​ ​asking​ ​each​ ​others​ ​deep  a​ ​negative​ ​self-esteem.​ ​This​ ​means​ ​you​ ​always​ ​have​ ​to​ ​be​ ​careful​ ​to 
questions​ ​about​ ​personal​ ​motivations,​ ​experiences,​ ​and​ ​values.​ ​Both  ensure​ ​that​ ​you​ ​give​ ​the​ ​other​ ​person​ ​space​ ​to​ ​express​ ​themselves. 
encourage​ ​and​ ​support​ ​each​ ​others​ ​in​ ​exploring​ ​visions​ ​and​ ​in​ ​going   
deeper.​ ​INFJ​ ​conversations​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​be​ ​dark​ ​and​ ​the​ ​topics​ ​difficult,  INFP 
often​ ​focused​ ​on​ ​human​ ​struggles​ ​across​ ​the​ ​world.    
  The​ ​INFPs​ ​often​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​serve​ ​the​ ​roles​ ​of​ ​healers​ ​to​ ​INFJs.​ ​Together, 
There​ ​is​ ​always​ ​an​ ​existential​ ​drive​ ​in​ ​these​ ​questions,​ ​where​ ​both  we​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​both​ ​encourage​ ​introspection​ ​and​ ​reflection​ ​on​ ​our 
will​ ​be​ ​asking​ ​each​ ​others​ ​why,​ ​why​ ​this,​ ​why​ ​that,​ ​why​ ​everything?​ ​In  personal​ ​experiences​ ​and​ ​who​ ​we​ ​are.​ ​We​ ​are​ ​both​ ​philosophical 
this​ ​interaction,​ ​INFJs​ ​will​ ​feel​ ​strongly​ ​affirmed​ ​and​ ​accepted,  types​ ​that​ ​can​ ​go​ ​deeper​ ​into​ ​a​ ​multitude​ ​of​ ​subjects.​ ​Both​ ​tend​ ​to 
acknowledged​ ​for​ ​who​ ​they​ ​are.​ ​More​ ​negatively,​ ​however,​ ​the  provide​ ​counselling​ ​and​ ​advice​ ​towards​ ​one​ ​another,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​INFPs 
conversations​ ​have​ ​a​ ​risk​ ​of​ ​becoming​ ​one-sided.​ ​Both​ ​may  tend​ ​to​ ​appreciate​ ​the​ ​INFJs​ ​natural​ ​ability​ ​in​ ​giving​ ​guidance.​ ​INFJs 
eventually​ ​feel​ ​sidelined​ ​or​ ​ignored​ ​by​ ​the​ ​other.​ ​Both​ ​want​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the  in​ ​turn​ ​appreciate​ ​the​ ​INFPs​ ​creative​ ​thinking​ ​and​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​think 
counsellor,​ ​but​ ​nobody​ ​wants​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the​ ​one​ ​who​ ​is​ ​being​ ​studied.  outside​ ​the​ ​box.  
Both​ ​want​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the​ ​one​ ​finding​ ​the​ ​insight.​ ​Both​ ​want​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the​ ​one   
giving​ ​guidance,​ ​and​ ​not​ ​the​ ​one​ ​being​ ​given​ ​guidance.   The​ ​most​ ​peculiar​ ​thing​ ​about​ ​the​ ​INFP-INFJ​ ​dynamic​ ​is​ ​that​ ​both 
  tend​ ​to​ ​feel​ ​an​ ​unusually​ ​strong​ ​responsibility​ ​towards​ ​the​ ​other. 
Both​ ​will​ ​become​ ​very​ ​careful​ ​and​ ​nurturing​ ​towards​ ​the​ ​other.​ ​You  these​ ​interests.​ ​ENFPs​ ​can​ ​force​ ​INFJs​ ​to​ ​think​ ​outside​ ​their​ ​comfort 
will​ ​be​ ​strongly​ ​aware​ ​of​ ​the​ ​issues​ ​and​ ​struggles​ ​of​ ​the​ ​other,​ ​and  zone,​ ​entertaining​ ​what-ifs​ ​they​ ​would​ ​typically​ ​disregard,​ ​and 
you​ ​will​ ​find​ ​yourself​ ​thinking​ ​frequently​ ​about​ ​what​ ​you​ ​could​ ​do​ ​to  pushing​ ​forward​ ​discussions​ ​INFJs​ ​would​ ​typically​ ​postpone​ ​or​ ​delay.  
help​ ​them​ ​move​ ​forward.​ ​At​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​you​ ​will​ ​be​ ​careful​ ​with   
how​ ​you​ ​influence​ ​them,​ ​and​ ​afraid​ ​that​ ​you​ ​will​ ​damage​ ​them​ ​in​ ​the  The​ ​muse​ ​dynamic​ ​has​ ​the​ ​positive​ ​side​ ​of​ ​driving​ ​both​ ​types​ ​outside 
process.   their​ ​comfort​ ​zone,​ ​helping​ ​them​ ​learn​ ​new​ ​lessons,​ ​and​ ​showing 
  them​ ​things​ ​they​ ​were​ ​not​ ​yet​ ​aware​ ​of.​ ​ENFPs​ ​give​ ​INFJs​ ​a​ ​chance 
And​ ​so,​ ​the​ ​overarching​ ​goal​ ​in​ ​this​ ​relationship​ ​tends​ ​to​ ​be​ ​to​ ​heal,  to​ ​test​ ​that​ ​intuitive​ ​wisdom​ ​in​ ​practice​ ​-​ ​how​ ​does​ ​your​ ​insight 
guide,​ ​and​ ​free​ ​up​ ​potential​ ​in​ ​the​ ​other.​ ​More​ ​negatively,​ ​we​ ​can  manifest​ ​in​ ​understanding​ ​change​ ​and​ ​progress​ ​in​ ​real​ ​time?​ ​How​ ​can 
become​ ​overprotective​ ​of​ ​the​ ​other,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​relationship​ ​runs​ ​the  your​ ​theories​ ​be​ ​applied​ ​in​ ​practice?​ ​How​ ​does​ ​your​ ​theories​ ​hold​ ​up 
issue​ ​of​ ​becoming​ ​stagnant,​ ​a​ ​refreshing,​ ​calm​ ​oasis.​ ​We​ ​become  to​ ​this​ ​or​ ​this​ ​possibility?​ ​Have​ ​you​ ​considered​ ​this​ ​or​ ​that​ ​what-if? 
afraid​ ​to​ ​shake​ ​up​ ​the​ ​boat​ ​or​ ​to​ ​harm​ ​the​ ​dynamic,​ ​but​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same  On​ ​the​ ​negative​ ​end,​ ​the​ ​muse​ ​dynamic​ ​can​ ​become​ ​highly 
time,​ ​we​ ​can​ ​be​ ​frustrated​ ​with​ ​the​ ​lack​ ​of​ ​progress​ ​in​ ​the​ ​other.​ ​We  overwhelming.  
hold​ ​back​ ​speaking​ ​out​ ​because​ ​we​ ​are​ ​afraid​ ​of​ ​saying​ ​too​ ​much,​ ​but   
can​ ​feel​ ​annoyed​ ​if​ ​the​ ​other​ ​does​ ​not​ ​change.​ ​And​ ​so,​ ​it’s​ ​important  INFJs​ ​may​ ​feel​ ​that​ ​ENFPs​ ​have​ ​unrealistic​ ​expectations​ ​on​ ​them, 
that​ ​we​ ​do​ ​in​ ​fact​ ​speak​ ​out​ ​and​ ​that​ ​we​ ​are​ ​not​ ​too​ ​afraid​ ​to​ ​push  and​ ​that​ ​the​ ​ENFP​ ​is​ ​asking​ ​for​ ​too​ ​much,​ ​too​ ​fast.​ ​ENFPs​ ​may​ ​feel 
once​ ​in​ ​a​ ​while.​ ​It​ ​keeps​ ​the​ ​relationship​ ​interesting​ ​and​ ​it​ ​gives​ ​both  that​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​giving​ ​an​ ​inauthentic​ ​image​ ​of​ ​themselves,​ ​pretending 
parties​ ​a​ ​chance​ ​to​ ​grow​ ​and​ ​to​ ​learn.   to​ ​be​ ​more​ ​perfect​ ​than​ ​they​ ​actually​ ​are.​ ​INFJs​ ​will​ ​go​ ​out​ ​of​ ​their 
  way​ ​to​ ​try​ ​to​ ​deliver​ ​above​ ​and​ ​beyond​ ​the​ ​ENFPs​ ​wildest​ ​dreams, 
ENFP  and​ ​the​ ​ENFP​ ​may​ ​feel​ ​disappointed​ ​by​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​making​ ​promises 
  they​ ​can’t​ ​deliver​ ​on.  
The​ ​ENFP​ ​is​ ​often​ ​like​ ​a​ ​muse​ ​to​ ​the​ ​INFJ,​ ​someone​ ​with​ ​similar   
values​ ​and​ ​interests,​ ​but​ ​a​ ​different​ ​way​ ​of​ ​expressing​ ​and​ ​channeling 
The​ ​INFJ​ ​may​ ​leave​ ​thinking​ ​they​ ​can​ ​never​ ​meet​ ​the​ ​ENFPs  ENFPs​ ​are​ ​naturally​ ​inclined​ ​to​ ​want​ ​to​ ​listen​ ​to. 
expectations,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​ENFP​ ​may​ ​feel​ ​that​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​constantly   
talking​ ​about​ ​changing,​ ​but​ ​never​ ​actually​ ​changes.​ ​The​ ​muse  ENFJ 
dynamic​ ​can​ ​drive​ ​transformation​ ​in​ ​both​ ​parties:​ ​but​ ​this​ ​requires   
both​ ​parties​ ​to​ ​rise​ ​up​ ​to​ ​the​ ​challenge.​ ​For​ ​you​ ​as​ ​an​ ​INFJ,​ ​this  An​ ​ENFJ​ ​generally​ ​becomes​ ​a​ ​person​ ​that​ ​encourages​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​to 
means,​ ​don’t​ ​wait​ ​too​ ​long​ ​to​ ​jump​ ​if​ ​an​ ​opportunity​ ​presents​ ​itself.  chase​ ​after​ ​their​ ​dreams.​ ​ENFJs​ ​can​ ​push​ ​INFJs​ ​to​ ​take​ ​new​ ​steps,​ ​to 
Don’t​ ​become​ ​too​ ​narrow-minded​ ​-​ ​entertain​ ​more​ ​possibilities.  try​ ​new​ ​things,​ ​and​ ​to​ ​put​ ​themselves​ ​out​ ​there​ ​in​ ​ways​ ​they​ ​normally 
Don’t​ ​hold​ ​your​ ​emotions​ ​in​ ​too​ ​much​ ​-​ ​speak​ ​out​ ​more​ ​about​ ​how  wouldn’t.​ ​ENFJs​ ​will​ ​promote​ ​you​ ​and​ ​your​ ​values​ ​and​ ​beliefs​ ​to​ ​the 
you​ ​feel.​ ​Don’t​ ​keep​ ​your​ ​emotions​ ​bottled​ ​up​ ​-​ ​express​ ​even​ ​the  world,​ ​they’ll​ ​say,​ ​hey,​ ​listen​ ​to​ ​what​ ​this​ ​guy​ ​had​ ​to​ ​say​ ​about​ ​this!  
feelings​ ​you​ ​do​ ​not​ ​yet​ ​understand.​ ​If​ ​there​ ​is​ ​anything​ ​I’ve​ ​learnt​ ​it​ ​is:   
ENFPs​ ​reward​ ​INFJs​ ​for​ ​being​ ​themselves,​ ​and​ ​that’s​ ​the​ ​strength​ ​of  They’ll​ ​give​ ​you​ ​that​ ​push​ ​in​ ​the​ ​back​ ​to​ ​step​ ​out​ ​on​ ​the​ ​spotlight,​ ​and 
the​ ​relationship.   they’ll​ ​have​ ​a​ ​more​ ​hands-on​ ​guidance​ ​to​ ​offer​ ​you.​ ​More​ ​negatively, 
  ENFJs​ ​can​ ​easily​ ​misunderstand​ ​the​ ​INFJs.​ ​They​ ​may​ ​forget​ ​to​ ​take 
When​ ​INFJs​ ​are​ ​less​ ​true​ ​to​ ​themselves,​ ​and​ ​let​ ​their​ ​shadows​ ​rule,  the​ ​time​ ​to​ ​process​ ​and​ ​listen​ ​to​ ​what​ ​you​ ​say​ ​and​ ​may​ ​push​ ​you​ ​too 
we​ ​immediately​ ​attract​ ​rejection​ ​from​ ​the​ ​ENFPs.​ ​I​ ​believe  much​ ​to​ ​share​ ​too​ ​early.​ ​This​ ​can​ ​cause​ ​you​ ​to​ ​lose​ ​some​ ​focus​ ​and 
inspiration​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​those​ ​who​ ​can​ ​express​ ​themselves​ ​and​ ​explore  insight​ ​and​ ​to​ ​miss​ ​out​ ​on​ ​important​ ​processing​ ​time.  
themselves.​ ​And​ ​there​ ​are​ ​many​ ​things​ ​working​ ​to​ ​you​ ​here:​ ​the   
natural​ ​detective​ ​mindset​ ​of​ ​the​ ​ENFP​ ​makes​ ​the​ ​ENFP​ ​the​ ​most  ESFJ 
fascinated​ ​by​ ​INFJs.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​usually​ ​the​ ​least​ ​available,​ ​the​ ​most   
hidden​ ​away,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​ENFPs​ ​are​ ​the​ ​most​ ​interested​ ​in​ ​what’s​ ​hidden  ESFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​make​ ​INFJs​ ​more​ ​self-aware​ ​of​ ​how​ ​they​ ​come​ ​across. 
away.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​most​ ​self-expressive​ ​of​ ​all​ ​types,  ESFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​make​ ​us​ ​more​ ​aware​ ​of​ ​our​ ​audience​ ​and​ ​how​ ​our 
constantly​ ​sharing​ ​new​ ​things​ ​about​ ​themselves​ ​and​ ​communicating  message​ ​is​ ​received,​ ​and​ ​ESFJs​ ​teach​ ​us​ ​to​ ​connect​ ​more​ ​with​ ​people, 
their​ ​day​ ​to​ ​day​ ​experiences​ ​with​ ​other​ ​people,​ ​building​ ​bridges​ ​the  to​ ​let​ ​loose,​ ​and​ ​to​ ​have​ ​fun​ ​with​ ​the​ ​people​ ​around​ ​us.​ ​Still,​ ​we​ ​can 
feel​ ​that​ ​there​ ​is​ ​a​ ​degree​ ​of​ ​shallowness.​ ​The​ ​ESFJ​ ​may​ ​feel​ ​that​ ​the  return.​ ​At​ ​times,​ ​we​ ​may​ ​feel​ ​however,​ ​that​ ​the​ ​other​ ​is​ ​not​ ​receptive 
INFJ​ ​does​ ​not​ ​truly​ ​live,​ ​does​ ​not​ ​truly​ ​embrace​ ​the​ ​present,​ ​does​ ​not  to​ ​us,​ ​that​ ​we​ ​care,​ ​but​ ​that​ ​they​ ​do​ ​not​ ​notice.  
take​ ​the​ ​value​ ​of​ ​life​ ​seriously​ ​enough.    
The​ ​INFJ​ ​may​ ​feel​ ​that​ ​the​ ​ESFJ​ ​does​ ​not​ ​look​ ​deep​ ​enough,​ ​does​ ​not  Interestingly,​ ​the​ ​feeling​ ​is​ ​often​ ​mutual,​ ​with​ ​both​ ​trying​ ​hard​ ​to​ ​be 
question​ ​reality,​ ​does​ ​not​ ​see​ ​the​ ​bigger​ ​picture.​ ​Both​ ​may​ ​end​ ​up  seen​ ​by​ ​the​ ​other,​ ​but​ ​failing.​ ​In​ ​this,​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be​ ​important​ ​to​ ​remember 
feeling​ ​that​ ​the​ ​other​ ​is​ ​slightly​ ​shallow​ ​in​ ​this.​ ​At​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,  to​ ​acknowledge​ ​the​ ​other,​ ​to​ ​say,​ ​I​ ​see​ ​you,​ ​that​ ​is​ ​interesting,​ ​tell​ ​me 
conversations​ ​are​ ​great,​ ​discussions​ ​are​ ​awesome.   more.​ ​Show​ ​an​ ​interest​ ​in​ ​the​ ​other​ ​for​ ​their​ ​weird​ ​eccentricities​ ​and 
  thoughts.​ ​The​ ​ISFJ​ ​is​ ​often​ ​hiding​ ​a​ ​world​ ​of​ ​knowledge​ ​and 
There​ ​is​ ​a​ ​great​ ​diplomacy​ ​and​ ​informal​ ​casual​ ​friendship​ ​here:​ ​two  experiences​ ​that​ ​are​ ​important​ ​to​ ​acknowledge.​ ​Everything​ ​from​ ​day 
people​ ​who​ ​can​ ​just​ ​have​ ​fun​ ​and​ ​talk​ ​about​ ​anything.​ ​Both​ ​share​ ​a  to​ ​day​ ​experiences,​ ​things​ ​they’ve​ ​seen,​ ​and​ ​things​ ​that​ ​are 
mutual​ ​skill​ ​and​ ​trust​ ​that​ ​the​ ​other​ ​can​ ​do​ ​well.​ ​Both​ ​will​ ​look​ ​at​ ​the  happening​ ​in​ ​their​ ​life.​ ​Similarly,​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be​ ​important​ ​to​ ​get​ ​that​ ​same 
other​ ​as​ ​if​ ​there​ ​were​ ​no​ ​flaws,​ ​no​ ​issues,​ ​just​ ​someone​ ​really​ ​good​ ​at  respect​ ​back​ ​from​ ​the​ ​ISFJ.​ ​To​ ​let​ ​them​ ​know​ ​of​ ​interesting​ ​thoughts 
what​ ​they​ ​do.​ ​At​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​both​ ​will​ ​also​ ​look​ ​at​ ​the​ ​other​ ​as​ ​a  you​ ​are​ ​having​ ​and​ ​experiences​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​found​ ​yourself​ ​thinking 
faker:​ ​what​ ​the​ ​other​ ​person​ ​does​ ​is​ ​somehow​ ​less​ ​real,​ ​less​ ​close​ ​to  about.  
truth.    
  ISFP 
ISFJ   
  ISFPs​ ​and​ ​INFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​adore​ ​one​ ​another,​ ​and​ ​both​ ​will​ ​be​ ​very 
An​ ​ISFJ​ ​is​ ​typically​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​very​ ​nurturing​ ​and​ ​caring,​ ​and​ ​they  focused​ ​on​ ​the​ ​other’s​ ​needs​ ​and​ ​experiences.​ ​Both​ ​work​ ​hard​ ​to​ ​be 
will​ ​encourage​ ​equal​ ​things​ ​from​ ​you​ ​in​ ​return.​ ​ISFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​instill​ ​us  “interesting”​ ​and​ ​fun​ ​to​ ​one​ ​another.​ ​They​ ​counsel​ ​and​ ​listen​ ​to​ ​one 
with​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​pride,​ ​pride​ ​over​ ​what​ ​we​ ​do​ ​and​ ​who​ ​we​ ​are.​ ​They  another,​ ​but​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​can​ ​sometimes​ ​become​ ​bored​ ​by​ ​the 
recognise​ ​our​ ​strengths​ ​and​ ​they​ ​provide​ ​a​ ​space​ ​for​ ​counselling,  other’s​ ​tangents​ ​and​ ​interests.​ ​Where​ ​the​ ​ISFP​ ​dreams​ ​about 
listening,​ ​and​ ​acknowledging​ ​our​ ​feelings.​ ​And​ ​we​ ​can​ ​do​ ​the​ ​same​ ​in  motorcycles,​ ​or​ ​starting​ ​family,​ ​or​ ​getting​ ​a​ ​tattoo,​ ​a​ ​good​ ​massage​ ​or 
change​ ​of​ ​hairstyle.​ ​Things​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​can​ ​find​ ​interesting​ ​for​ ​existential  forests,​ ​into​ ​unknown​ ​terrain,​ ​where​ ​nothing​ ​can​ ​be​ ​expected,​ ​and 
reasons,​ ​but​ ​not​ ​in​ ​themselves.​ ​In​ ​this,​ ​INFJs​ ​and​ ​ISFPs​ ​operate​ ​on  where​ ​everything​ ​is​ ​uncertain.​ ​There​ ​is​ ​nothing​ ​to​ ​touch,​ ​to​ ​feel,​ ​or​ ​to 
different​ ​frequencies.  see,​ ​and​ ​nothing​ ​standing​ ​before​ ​your​ ​eyes,​ ​yet​ ​something​ ​appears​ ​to 
  be​ ​happening​ ​to​ ​the​ ​INFJ.​ ​The​ ​INFJs​ ​dreamy​ ​and​ ​clever​ ​personality​ ​is 
It​ ​can​ ​be​ ​hard​ ​to​ ​follow​ ​along​ ​in​ ​how​ ​the​ ​other​ ​person​ ​thinks.​ ​We  fascinating​ ​here. 
want​ ​to​ ​understand,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​is​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time​ ​difficult​ ​to​ ​do​ ​so.​ ​The   
ISFP​ ​appears​ ​as​ ​if​ ​their​ ​consciousness​ ​is​ ​located​ ​on​ ​another​ ​planet  ESTP 
than​ ​ours.​ ​They​ ​can​ ​seem​ ​strangely​ ​absent​ ​and​ ​dreamy,​ ​interestingly   
enough,​ ​ ​we​ ​appear​ ​the​ ​same​ ​way​ ​to​ ​them.   The​ ​main​ ​issue​ ​with​ ​the​ ​ESTP​ ​friendship​ ​or​ ​relationship​ ​is​ ​that​ ​in​ ​the 
  beginning,​ ​we​ ​may​ ​be​ ​prone​ ​to​ ​invalidating​ ​them,​ ​focusing​ ​overly​ ​so 
ESFP  on​ ​their​ ​flaws,​ ​be​ ​it​ ​in​ ​communication,​ ​diplomacy,​ ​existential​ ​thinking, 
  or​ ​a​ ​lack​ ​of​ ​originality.​ ​Over​ ​time​ ​however,​ ​we​ ​may​ ​gain​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of 
ESFPs​ ​can​ ​help​ ​INFJs​ ​fit​ ​in​ ​and​ ​find​ ​a​ ​place​ ​for​ ​themselves​ ​in​ ​the  respect​ ​for​ ​their​ ​hidden​ ​strengths.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​common​ ​in​ ​rivalry 
community.​ ​ESFPs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​create​ ​a​ ​home​ ​for​ ​INFJs​ ​where​ ​they​ ​can  dynamics,​ ​often​ ​we​ ​start​ ​out​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​compete​ ​with​ ​these​ ​types,​ ​only 
land​ ​and​ ​just​ ​have​ ​fun​ ​and​ ​meet​ ​their​ ​peers.​ ​ESFPs​ ​tend​ ​to  to​ ​later​ ​gain​ ​an​ ​acceptance​ ​and​ ​even​ ​admiration​ ​for​ ​them​ ​and​ ​their 
completely​ ​overwhelm​ ​INFJs,​ ​however,​ ​rattling​ ​our​ ​nerves​ ​and  abilities.  
overwhelming​ ​us​ ​with​ ​their​ ​high​ ​energy​ ​and​ ​their​ ​need​ ​for​ ​attention.   
The​ ​ESFP​ ​gives​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​a​ ​feeling​ ​of​ ​being​ ​alive,​ ​but​ ​also​ ​a​ ​feeling​ ​of  Their​ ​attitude​ ​and​ ​skill​ ​for​ ​bartering​ ​and​ ​making​ ​good​ ​deals​ ​is​ ​seen​ ​as 
being​ ​tired​ ​and​ ​drained.   friendly​ ​and​ ​refreshingly​ ​casual.​ ​We​ ​share​ ​the​ ​ESTPs​ ​strong​ ​ability​ ​to 
  be​ ​amused​ ​by​ ​life​ ​in​ ​all​ ​its​ ​absurdity.​ ​We​ ​relate​ ​to​ ​their​ ​autonomy​ ​and 
The​ ​ESFP​ ​instills​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​with​ ​a​ ​feeling​ ​of​ ​thrill​ ​and​ ​reality,​ ​but​ ​also​ ​a  their​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​walk​ ​their​ ​own​ ​path.​ ​We​ ​recognise​ ​their​ ​strength​ ​and 
feeling​ ​of​ ​being​ ​nervous​ ​and​ ​rattled​ ​and​ ​like​ ​you’re​ ​on​ ​a​ ​permanent  pragmatism​ ​as​ ​intelligent​ ​in​ ​its​ ​own​ ​way.​ ​Street​ ​smart​ ​is​ ​a​ ​good​ ​term 
rollercoaster.​ ​The​ ​INFJ​ ​throws​ ​the​ ​ESFP​ ​into​ ​the​ ​depths,​ ​into​ ​strange  for​ ​it.  
  thorough.​ ​At​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​no​ ​type​ ​is​ ​more​ ​difficult​ ​to​ ​understand 
ISTP  for​ ​the​ ​INFJ​ ​than​ ​the​ ​ISTJ.​ ​Not​ ​only​ ​do​ ​they​ ​think​ ​and​ ​communicate 
  differently,​ ​but​ ​they​ ​think​ ​on​ ​a​ ​different​ ​level​ ​and​ ​their​ ​awareness​ ​is 
ISTPs​ ​and​ ​INFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​form​ ​a​ ​bond​ ​on​ ​the​ ​mutual​ ​desire​ ​to​ ​help​ ​one  placed​ ​differently​ ​than​ ​in​ ​the​ ​INFJ.​ ​At​ ​times,​ ​it​ ​can​ ​lead​ ​to​ ​a 
another​ ​develop​ ​strengths​ ​and​ ​abilities​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​more​ ​success.  misunderstanding​ ​that​ ​the​ ​other​ ​person​ ​is​ ​somehow​ ​less​ ​“there”​ ​- 
Both​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​be​ ​highly​ ​critical​ ​of​ ​the​ ​other,​ ​perceptive​ ​of​ ​the​ ​other  that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​not​ ​thinking,​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​not​ ​doing​ ​anything,​ ​or​ ​that 
types​ ​flaws,​ ​unimpressed​ ​by​ ​their​ ​thoughts​ ​and​ ​how​ ​they​ ​see​ ​the  they​ ​are​ ​lazy.​ ​I​ ​encourage​ ​you​ ​to​ ​look​ ​beyond​ ​this​ ​assumption,​ ​and​ ​to 
world.​ ​But​ ​overtime​ ​we​ ​can​ ​also​ ​find​ ​ourselves​ ​surprised​ ​by​ ​these  notice​ ​what​ ​the​ ​ISTJ​ ​is​ ​actually​ ​thinking​ ​about,​ ​and​ ​what​ ​they​ ​are 
types​ ​abilities​ ​to​ ​reach​ ​success.   actually​ ​doing.  
   
We​ ​often​ ​underestimate​ ​these​ ​types,​ ​only​ ​to​ ​later​ ​find​ ​ourselves  ESTJ 
realising​ ​that​ ​they​ ​were​ ​maybe​ ​more​ ​skilled​ ​than​ ​we​ ​thought.​ ​In   
learning​ ​this,​ ​we​ ​can​ ​only​ ​improve​ ​and​ ​gain​ ​a​ ​higher​ ​awareness​ ​than  ESTJs​ ​and​ ​INFJs​ ​tend​ ​to​ ​hold​ ​each​ ​other​ ​in​ ​high​ ​regard,​ ​admiring​ ​the 
we​ ​previously​ ​thought​ ​possible.​ ​We​ ​can​ ​accept​ ​thoughts​ ​and​ ​ideas  others​ ​powers​ ​and​ ​abilities,​ ​while​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​being​ ​critical​ ​of 
that​ ​we​ ​would​ ​normally​ ​dismiss,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​can​ ​think​ ​outside​ ​the​ ​box.  their​ ​values​ ​and​ ​interests.​ ​It’s​ ​important​ ​that​ ​this​ ​bond​ ​leads​ ​to​ ​a 
The​ ​difficulty​ ​can​ ​be​ ​opening​ ​on​ ​this​ ​level​ ​and​ ​listening​ ​to​ ​the​ ​other  mutually​ ​affirmed​ ​respect​ ​for​ ​the​ ​other​ ​without​ ​falling​ ​into​ ​jealousy 
and​ ​accepting​ ​their​ ​insight,​ ​and​ ​equally,​ ​having​ ​them​ ​listen​ ​to​ ​us​ ​and  of​ ​the​ ​other​ ​for​ ​their​ ​success​ ​and​ ​achievement.  
see​ ​our​ ​thoughts.    
  Often,​ ​we​ ​can​ ​think​ ​this​ ​type​ ​is​ ​better​ ​than​ ​us​ ​at​ ​everything,​ ​only​ ​to 
ISTJ  realise​ ​that​ ​they​ ​feel​ ​the​ ​same​ ​way​ ​about​ ​us.​ ​At​ ​times,​ ​through​ ​envy, 
  we​ ​can​ ​lend​ ​ourselves​ ​to​ ​the​ ​easy​ ​thinking​ ​that​ ​the​ ​other​ ​person​ ​gets 
With​ ​an​ ​ISTJ,​ ​you​ ​get​ ​a​ ​comrade​ ​that​ ​is​ ​like​ ​a​ ​solid​ ​pillar,​ ​and​ ​almost  everything​ ​for​ ​free,​ ​but​ ​at​ ​the​ ​same​ ​time,​ ​that​ ​the​ ​other​ ​person​ ​does 
equally​ ​effortless​ ​to​ ​work​ ​with​ ​and​ ​be​ ​around.​ ​Simple,​ ​rigorous,  not​ ​deserve​ ​what​ ​they​ ​have​ ​because​ ​their​ ​way​ ​or​ ​methods​ ​are 
somehow​ ​against​ ​our​ ​values.​ ​Growth​ ​here​ ​is​ ​recognising​ ​that​ ​it​ ​is​ ​not  have​ ​an​ ​inner​ ​muse​ ​inside​ ​you,​ ​and​ ​it’s​ ​waiting​ ​to​ ​reward​ ​you​ ​for 
against​ ​our​ ​values,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​just​ ​different,​ ​and​ ​their​ ​happiness​ ​and​ ​success  seeing​ ​the​ ​bigger​ ​picture,​ ​for​ ​being​ ​true​ ​to​ ​your​ ​ideology,​ ​and​ ​for 
does​ ​not​ ​come​ ​at​ ​the​ ​expense​ ​of​ ​ours.​ ​We​ ​can​ ​still​ ​succeed​ ​through  walking​ ​your​ ​own​ ​path.​ ​When​ ​you​ ​don’t,​ ​no​ ​big​ ​deal,​ ​the​ ​ENFP​ ​muse 
being​ ​ourselves,​ ​just​ ​as​ ​they​ ​can.  waits​ ​for​ ​you,​ ​so​ ​take​ ​all​ ​the​ ​time​ ​you​ ​need.  
   
Four​ ​key​ ​archetypes​ ​in​ ​the​ ​INFJs​ ​life  As​ ​soon​ ​as​ ​you​ ​think​ ​you’ve​ ​found​ ​an​ ​answer​ ​to​ ​help​ ​you​ ​understand 
The​ ​muse  the​ ​world​ ​and​ ​who​ ​you​ ​are,​ ​that’s​ ​when​ ​the​ ​ENFP​ ​shows​ ​up​ ​to​ ​test 
  your​ ​resolve.​ ​In​ ​this,​ ​the​ ​ENFP​ ​also​ ​represents​ ​your​ ​life’s​ ​difficulty 
You​ ​have​ ​a​ ​you​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​yet​ ​to​ ​become.​ ​A​ ​you​ ​representing​ ​all  level.​ ​The​ ​presence​ ​of​ ​the​ ​ENFP​ ​can​ ​be​ ​challenging.​ ​You​ ​might​ ​have​ ​a 
the​ ​ideas​ ​that​ ​you​ ​haven’t​ ​had​ ​yet,​ ​all​ ​the​ ​options​ ​you​ ​haven’t​ ​been  wisdom​ ​-​ ​but​ ​have​ ​you​ ​been​ ​able​ ​to​ ​translate​ ​it​ ​into​ ​the​ ​real​ ​world. 
able​ ​to​ ​process​ ​yet,​ ​all​ ​the​ ​voices​ ​and​ ​values​ ​that​ ​you​ ​haven’t​ ​found​ ​a  You​ ​may​ ​have​ ​acceptance,​ ​but​ ​have​ ​you​ ​been​ ​able​ ​to​ ​confirm​ ​that 
way​ ​to​ ​integrate​ ​with​ ​yourself​ ​yet.​ ​A​ ​you​ ​representing​ ​things​ ​that​ ​are  what​ ​you​ ​understand​ ​about​ ​other​ ​people​ ​is​ ​actually​ ​true?​ ​And​ ​you 
yet​ ​to​ ​be​ ​found.​ ​The​ ​secret​ ​to​ ​this​ ​you​ ​is​ ​found​ ​in​ ​the​ ​muse​ ​-​ ​the​ ​ENFP  may​ ​have​ ​vision​ ​and​ ​originality​ ​-​ ​but​ ​are​ ​you​ ​sure​ ​it’s​ ​not​ ​just​ ​you 
personality​ ​type.​ ​The​ ​ENFP​ ​personality​ ​type​ ​represents​ ​all​ ​the  charging​ ​forward​ ​stubbornly​ ​in​ ​the​ ​same​ ​old​ ​pattern,​ ​over​ ​and​ ​over? 
what-ifs​ ​that​ ​you​ ​sometimes​ ​forget​ ​to​ ​consider​ ​(when​ ​you’re​ ​too  That’s​ ​where​ ​you​ ​need​ ​the​ ​muse.​ ​To​ ​confirm​ ​yourself​ ​and​ ​who​ ​you 
narrow​ ​minded).   are​ ​and​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​on​ ​the​ ​right​ ​path.​ ​And​ ​in​ ​getting​ ​to​ ​know​ ​the 
  muse,​ ​it’s​ ​not​ ​about​ ​changing​ ​yourself,​ ​it’s​ ​not​ ​about​ ​becoming​ ​the 
The​ ​ENFP​ ​also​ ​represents​ ​all​ ​the​ ​opportunities​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​yet​ ​to  muse.​ ​It’s​ ​about​ ​standing​ ​in​ ​front​ ​of​ ​the​ ​muse​ ​authentic​ ​and​ ​honest 
realise.​ ​The​ ​ENFP​ ​represents​ ​all​ ​the​ ​opinions​ ​and​ ​ethical​ ​beliefs​ ​that  with​ ​yourself.​ ​Typically,​ ​it’s​ ​when​ ​we​ ​meet​ ​the​ ​muse​ ​in​ ​this​ ​way​ ​that 
you​ ​haven’t​ ​integrated​ ​with​ ​your​ ​personal​ ​ideology​ ​yet​ ​-​ ​and​ ​all​ ​the  we​ ​transform.​ ​It’s​ ​the​ ​videogame​ ​equivalent​ ​to​ ​stepping​ ​into​ ​the​ ​fairy 
personal​ ​considerations​ ​you’ve​ ​forgotten​ ​to​ ​make.​ ​The​ ​ENFP,​ ​finally,  pond​ ​and​ ​gaining​ ​a​ ​new​ ​power​ ​or​ ​ability.  
represents​ ​the​ ​spirit​ ​of​ ​change,​ ​adaptation,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​emerging​ ​future   
that​ ​you’ve​ ​been​ ​thinking​ ​about​ ​for​ ​so​ ​long.​ ​Think​ ​of​ ​it​ ​like​ ​this:​ ​you  The​ ​rival 
  100%​ ​sold​ ​on​ ​their​ ​own​ ​values​ ​and​ ​their​ ​way​ ​of​ ​life,​ ​yet​ ​feel​ ​at​ ​the 
We​ ​sometimes​ ​confuse​ ​the​ ​rival​ ​with​ ​being​ ​our​ ​inner​ ​punching​ ​bag.  same​ ​time,​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​weak​ ​or​ ​not​ ​as​ ​good​ ​as​ ​other​ ​people.​ ​And​ ​so, 
Because​ ​we​ ​don’t​ ​need​ ​these​ ​things​ ​as​ ​much,​ ​we​ ​may​ ​confuse​ ​these  often,​ ​when​ ​money​ ​or​ ​the​ ​world​ ​gets​ ​in​ ​the​ ​way,​ ​they​ ​are​ ​inclined​ ​to 
things​ ​with​ ​being​ ​unimportant​ ​or​ ​somehow​ ​negative.​ ​So​ ​plenty​ ​of  just​ ​give​ ​up​ ​and​ ​to​ ​not​ ​even​ ​try.​ ​And​ ​so​ ​they​ ​lay​ ​themselves​ ​blindly​ ​at 
INFJs​ ​are​ ​locked​ ​in​ ​a​ ​pursuit​ ​to​ ​fight​ ​against​ ​this​ ​inner​ ​rival​ ​-​ ​fighting  the​ ​feet​ ​of​ ​this​ ​rival.​ ​But​ ​as​ ​they​ ​mature,​ ​INFJs​ ​may​ ​find​ ​themselves 
against​ ​their​ ​more​ ​sensing​ ​and​ ​thinking​ ​self.​ ​Fighting​ ​against​ ​the  realising​ ​and​ ​acknowledging​ ​their​ ​rival,​ ​but​ ​not​ ​envying​ ​them. 
notion​ ​of​ ​self-enhancement,​ ​pragmatism,​ ​or​ ​system​ ​thinking.​ ​Critical  Realising​ ​their​ ​rival​ ​is​ ​not​ ​necessarily​ ​happier,​ ​more​ ​fulfilled,​ ​or​ ​more 
of​ ​the​ ​notion​ ​of​ ​physical​ ​needs,​ ​a​ ​physical​ ​body,​ ​or​ ​realistic​ ​lifestyle.   loved​ ​than​ ​you,​ ​just​ ​different.​ ​Realising​ ​that​ ​your​ ​rival​ ​does​ ​not​ ​have 
  opposing​ ​values​ ​to​ ​you​ ​-​ ​just​ ​different​ ​values​ ​to​ ​your​ ​own.​ ​And 
Plenty​ ​of​ ​INFJs​ ​may​ ​find​ ​themselves​ ​attracted​ ​to​ ​the​ ​thought​ ​of  moving​ ​forward​ ​without​ ​seeking​ ​to​ ​deny​ ​these​ ​values,​ ​but​ ​instead,​ ​to 
freeing​ ​themselves​ ​from​ ​this​ ​sense​ ​-​ ​so​ ​that​ ​they​ ​can​ ​just​ ​be​ ​intuitive,  pursue​ ​your​ ​own​ ​values​ ​and​ ​what​ ​you​ ​want​ ​for​ ​yourself. 
just​ ​be​ ​feeling,​ ​just​ ​true​ ​compassion,​ ​just​ ​true​ ​wisdom,​ ​and​ ​no​ ​world,   
body,​ ​or​ ​personal​ ​interest​ ​to​ ​complicate​ ​things.​ ​But​ ​often,​ ​the​ ​quest  The​ ​zombie 
to​ ​overcome​ ​your​ ​rival​ ​has​ ​nothing​ ​to​ ​do​ ​with​ ​your​ ​more​ ​heroic   
quest.​ ​The​ ​rival​ ​is​ ​not​ ​something​ ​to​ ​overcome,​ ​it’s​ ​something​ ​to​ ​grow  The​ ​zombie​ ​is​ ​the​ ​representation​ ​of​ ​your​ ​past​ ​self​ ​-​ ​who​ ​you​ ​used​ ​to 
with.​ ​The​ ​rival​ ​is​ ​like​ ​your​ ​inner​ ​baby,​ ​something​ ​to​ ​take​ ​care​ ​of,​ ​while  be,​ ​but​ ​who​ ​you​ ​are​ ​not​ ​anymore.​ ​Interests​ ​you​ ​used​ ​to​ ​have,​ ​that 
remaining​ ​true​ ​to​ ​yourself​ ​and​ ​your​ ​values.​ ​The​ ​rival​ ​is​ ​you​ ​-​ ​when  have​ ​lost​ ​their​ ​value.​ ​Feelings​ ​and​ ​values​ ​that​ ​you​ ​used​ ​to​ ​hold​ ​on​ ​to, 
you​ ​lash​ ​out​ ​-​ ​when​ ​you’re​ ​tired,​ ​hungry,​ ​and​ ​lacking​ ​in​ ​confidence,  that​ ​are​ ​no​ ​longer​ ​true​ ​to​ ​you.​ ​Still,​ ​you​ ​may​ ​cling​ ​to​ ​these​ ​values​ ​and 
when​ ​you​ ​get​ ​weak,​ ​irrational,​ ​and​ ​lose​ ​your​ ​temper.   actions,​ ​as​ ​they​ ​have​ ​become​ ​habit.​ ​You’ve​ ​learnt​ ​to​ ​do​ ​it,​ ​but​ ​it 
  doesn’t​ ​really​ ​give​ ​you​ ​any​ ​energy​ ​anymore.​ ​INFJ​ ​-​ ​as​ ​an​ ​introverted 
Other​ ​INFJs​ ​may​ ​find​ ​themselves​ ​locked​ ​in​ ​envy​ ​of​ ​this​ ​inner​ ​rival​ ​-  intuitive,​ ​you​ ​have​ ​to​ ​constantly​ ​update​ ​your​ ​worldview,​ ​think​ ​bigger, 
somehow​ ​thinking​ ​they​ ​are​ ​wired​ ​to​ ​fail,​ ​that​ ​who​ ​they​ ​are​ ​is  think​ ​deeper.  
somehow​ ​less​ ​than​ ​what​ ​the​ ​average​ ​person​ ​is.​ ​Plenty​ ​of​ ​INFJs​ ​are   
What​ ​you​ ​used​ ​to​ ​think​ ​is​ ​now​ ​sensing.​ ​What​ ​you​ ​have​ ​yet​ ​to​ ​think​ ​-   
that’s​ ​your​ ​intuition.​ ​What​ ​you​ ​used​ ​to​ ​think​ ​can​ ​become​ ​a​ ​burden​ ​on  Someone​ ​people​ ​question.​ ​Are​ ​they​ ​truly​ ​heroes?​ ​Are​ ​they​ ​truly​ ​as 
your​ ​wit​ ​and​ ​can​ ​cloud​ ​your​ ​judgement.​ ​The​ ​intuitive​ ​judging​ ​type  strong​ ​as​ ​they​ ​seem?​ ​Are​ ​they​ ​really​ ​able​ ​to​ ​stand​ ​up​ ​to​ ​the 
walks​ ​on​ ​a​ ​hidden​ ​path,​ ​a​ ​path​ ​that​ ​no​ ​person​ ​has​ ​walked​ ​before.​ ​That  challenge?​ ​Who​ ​knows.​ ​Maybe​ ​sometimes.​ ​Maybe​ ​not​ ​all​ ​the​ ​time. 
can​ ​feel​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​like​ ​stumbling.​ ​The​ ​path​ ​you​ ​used​ ​to​ ​walk​ ​on,​ ​the​ ​path  Still,​ ​the​ ​hero​ ​is​ ​the​ ​ideal​ ​archetype,​ ​the​ ​ideal​ ​us,​ ​the​ ​challenge​ ​we 
your​ ​parents​ ​used​ ​to​ ​walk​ ​on,​ ​that’s​ ​not​ ​for​ ​you:​ ​you​ ​have​ ​to​ ​find​ ​your  need​ ​to​ ​try​ ​to​ ​succeed​ ​at.​ ​Being​ ​yourself​ ​is​ ​no​ ​easy​ ​task​ ​-​ ​but​ ​nothing 
own​ ​footsteps.​ ​And​ ​be​ ​wary​ ​here​ ​of​ ​the​ ​autopilot,​ ​the​ ​archetype​ ​of  is​ ​more​ ​difficult​ ​than​ ​wearing​ ​a​ ​mask,​ ​being​ ​a​ ​fraud,​ ​or​ ​hiding​ ​from 
the​ ​zombie,​ ​because​ ​the​ ​zombie​ ​is​ ​not​ ​like​ ​the​ ​rival:​ ​the​ ​zombie​ ​is​ ​not  yourself.​ ​The​ ​hero​ ​is​ ​also​ ​constantly​ ​in​ ​transformation​ ​-​ ​acquiring 
an​ ​aggressive​ ​and​ ​irrational​ ​lash-out.​ ​The​ ​zombie​ ​is​ ​you,​ ​when​ ​you’re  new​ ​powers,​ ​new​ ​abilities,​ ​learning​ ​new​ ​things,​ ​paying​ ​attention, 
lazy.​ ​When​ ​you​ ​stop​ ​thinking​ ​-​ ​stop​ ​paying​ ​attention​ ​-​ ​stop​ ​seeing​ ​-  being​ ​aware,​ ​being​ ​conscious.​ ​Living​ ​life​ ​and​ ​pushing​ ​boundaries.  
and​ ​feeling​ ​where​ ​you​ ​are​ ​and​ ​where​ ​you​ ​are​ ​headed.    
  Final​ ​remarks 
The​ ​Hero   
  The​ ​INFJ​ ​is​ ​a​ ​person​ ​of​ ​symbolical​ ​importance​ ​to​ ​our​ ​society.​ ​INFJs 
And​ ​so,​ ​the​ ​final​ ​archetype​ ​of​ ​importance​ ​for​ ​us​ ​is​ ​the​ ​hero.​ ​The​ ​hero  define​ ​if​ ​the​ ​future​ ​is​ ​something​ ​positive​ ​or​ ​something​ ​negative,​ ​if​ ​we 
is​ ​the​ ​us​ ​that​ ​we​ ​are​ ​-​ ​our​ ​core​ ​-​ ​our​ ​centre.​ ​The​ ​hero​ ​is​ ​peace,  can​ ​believe​ ​in​ ​humanity​ ​or​ ​not.​ ​If​ ​we​ ​can​ ​work​ ​together.​ ​We​ ​define 
satisfaction,​ ​joy,​ ​passion,​ ​comfort,​ ​security.​ ​Just​ ​you,​ ​just​ ​the​ ​way​ ​you  complexity​ ​-​ ​and​ ​we​ ​tell​ ​people​ ​if​ ​they​ ​should​ ​fear​ ​the​ ​unknown,​ ​or​ ​if 
are,​ ​nothing​ ​that​ ​needs​ ​to​ ​be​ ​faked,​ ​changed,​ ​or​ ​hidden.​ ​The​ ​hero​ ​is  we​ ​should​ ​embrace​ ​it​ ​as​ ​something​ ​positive​ ​and​ ​complex.​ ​We​ ​show 
sometimes​ ​overconfident​ ​-​ ​yeah,​ ​sometimes​ ​overestimating  people​ ​what’s​ ​happening​ ​next,​ ​making​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​all​ ​the​ ​crazy​ ​changes 
themselves.​ ​Sometimes​ ​thinking​ ​everything​ ​will​ ​be​ ​alright,​ ​as​ ​long​ ​as  in​ ​the​ ​world​ ​around​ ​us.​ ​Emerging​ ​technology,​ ​new​ ​communities,​ ​new 
you​ ​are​ ​true​ ​to​ ​yourself.​ ​A​ ​hero​ ​is​ ​someone​ ​that​ ​stands​ ​out,​ ​no​ ​matter  movements,​ ​new​ ​people​ ​being​ ​born.​ ​You​ ​have​ ​the​ ​potential​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the 
the​ ​personality​ ​type.​ ​Someone​ ​people​ ​look​ ​and​ ​point​ ​at.​ ​Someone  person​ ​connecting​ ​all​ ​the​ ​dots​ ​and​ ​showing​ ​people​ ​what​ ​this​ ​all 
people​ ​challenge.   means.  
   
What​ ​is​ ​to​ ​become​ ​of​ ​us?​ ​Who​ ​are​ ​we?​ ​Where​ ​are​ ​we​ ​headed?​ ​INFJs  I’ve​ ​read​ ​many​ ​books​ ​and​ ​many​ ​articles​ ​about​ ​many​ ​personality 
are​ ​more​ ​needed​ ​than​ ​ever,​ ​and​ ​we​ ​do​ ​seem​ ​to​ ​be​ ​rare,​ ​so​ ​try​ ​to​ ​do  types,​ ​and​ ​this​ ​book​ ​feels​ ​more​ ​like​ ​a​ ​manifesto​ ​than​ ​a​ ​book​ ​in​ ​the 
your​ ​best.​ ​If​ ​we,​ ​as​ ​INFJs,​ ​get​ ​caught​ ​up​ ​in​ ​fakeness,​ ​shallowness,​ ​if  traditional​ ​sense.​ ​I​ ​think​ ​INFJs​ ​need​ ​that.​ ​As​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​myself,​ ​I​ ​can​ ​give 
we​ ​don’t​ ​understand​ ​enough,​ ​if​ ​we​ ​don’t​ ​look​ ​deep​ ​enough,​ ​the  a​ ​personal​ ​account​ ​of​ ​what​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​is,​ ​and​ ​how​ ​an​ ​INFJ​ ​thinks.​ ​I​ ​can 
symbols​ ​that​ ​we​ ​represent​ ​will​ ​become​ ​polluted​ ​by​ ​falsehood.​ ​We  give​ ​you​ ​a​ ​position​ ​to​ ​orient​ ​yourself​ ​from,​ ​a​ ​rock​ ​to​ ​compare​ ​yourself 
will​ ​be​ ​spreading​ ​fake​ ​myths​ ​about​ ​what​ ​people​ ​are​ ​-​ ​and​ ​what​ ​we  against,​ ​someone​ ​to​ ​bump​ ​heads​ ​with.​ ​I​ ​can​ ​be​ ​a​ ​person​ ​you​ ​send 
can​ ​be.​ ​If​ ​what​ ​we​ ​say​ ​and​ ​speak​ ​out​ ​about​ ​is​ ​less​ ​deep​ ​or​ ​not​ ​big  letters​ ​to,​ ​someone​ ​you​ ​question,​ ​and​ ​someone​ ​you​ ​think​ ​with,​ ​as 
enough,​ ​people​ ​will​ ​miss​ ​important​ ​perspectives,​ ​and​ ​they’ll​ ​be  you’re​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​figure​ ​out​ ​yourself​ ​and​ ​your​ ​friends​ ​and​ ​your​ ​family. 
walking​ ​forward​ ​blindly,​ ​without​ ​them,​ ​making​ ​bad​ ​decisions,​ ​based  Hopefully​ ​this​ ​book​ ​can​ ​serve​ ​as​ ​a​ ​starting​ ​point​ ​in​ ​that​ ​journey. 
on​ ​inaccurate​ ​beliefs​ ​about​ ​the​ ​world.   You’re​ ​more​ ​than​ ​welcome​ ​to​ ​meet​ ​up​ ​with​ ​me​ ​in​ ​my​ ​communities 
  and​ ​to​ ​reach​ ​out​ ​to​ ​me,​ ​wherever​ ​you​ ​live.​ ​Thank​ ​you​ ​for​ ​taking​ ​your 
It’s​ ​a​ ​crazy​ ​thing,​ ​to​ ​have​ ​a​ ​consciousness.​ ​We’re​ ​confined​ ​to​ ​our​ ​own  time​ ​and​ ​for​ ​joining​ ​me​ ​in​ ​my​ ​personal​ ​mental​ ​monologue.​ ​I​ ​hope​ ​I 
selves​ ​and​ ​to​ ​where​ ​we​ ​are​ ​right​ ​now.​ ​We​ ​only​ ​have​ ​the​ ​experiences  could​ ​meet​ ​some​ ​of​ ​your​ ​expectations,​ ​though​ ​I​ ​am​ ​sure​ ​there​ ​is​ ​more 
that​ ​we​ ​have​ ​had.​ ​The​ ​thoughts​ ​that​ ​we​ ​have​ ​had.​ ​The​ ​right​ ​now,​ ​that  to​ ​be​ ​said,​ ​and​ ​more​ ​nuance​ ​to​ ​be​ ​discovered.​ ​If​ ​you​ ​have​ ​any​ ​notes 
we​ ​are​ ​living​ ​right​ ​now,​ ​is​ ​the​ ​only​ ​now.​ ​We​ ​can’t​ ​experience​ ​more  or​ ​thoughts​ ​after​ ​reading​ ​this,​ ​let​ ​me​ ​know,​ ​write​ ​a​ ​blog​ ​post,​ ​a 
than​ ​one​ ​thought​ ​at​ ​a​ ​time,​ ​there​ ​is​ ​no​ ​such​ ​thing​ ​as​ ​multitasking​ ​(just  review,​ ​or​ ​a​ ​comment.​ ​Send​ ​me​ ​an​ ​e-mail​ ​or​ ​a​ ​message​ ​on​ ​social 
quickly​ ​jumping​ ​from​ ​one​ ​thing​ ​to​ ​another)​ ​and​ ​there​ ​is​ ​such​ ​a​ ​thing  medias.​ ​And​ ​let’s​ ​keep​ ​the​ ​discussion​ ​going.​ ​Thank​ ​you​ ​for​ ​all​ ​your 
as​ ​being​ ​more​ ​and​ ​less​ ​conscious.​ ​There’s​ ​such​ ​a​ ​thing​ ​as​ ​being​ ​alive  help.
and​ ​such​ ​a​ ​thing​ ​as​ ​being​ ​a​ ​zombie,​ ​having​ ​a​ ​closed​ ​mind,​ ​not​ ​thinking 
big​ ​enough.​ ​There​ ​is​ ​such​ ​a​ ​thing​ ​as​ ​virtue​ ​-​ ​and​ ​such​ ​a​ ​thing​ ​as​ ​vice. 
There​ ​are​ ​things​ ​that​ ​matter​ ​-​ ​to​ ​you​ ​-​ ​and​ ​you​ ​will​ ​be​ ​less​ ​happy 
without​ ​them.