Am I Too Much?

Find out if you get on other people's nerves!

It's good to be loud and proud, but it's not so good to make it other people's problem. Are you someone who takes up too much space? Are you too needy or demanding? Do people tend to run away? Are you... too much?

Answer a few simple questions, and we'll tell you if other people think you're going overboard!

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Questions Overview

1. Choose a vehicle to roll around town in:
  1. Sports car
  2. Reliable truck
  3. Classic bug
  4. Motorcycle
2. Have you ever been ghosted?
  1. Multiple times.
  2. Once or twice.
  3. Not that I remember, no!
3. Which of these activities sounds like the most fun for you?
  1. Cliff jumping
  2. Karaoke
  3. Beach day
  4. Watching a movie
4. Which of these light sources speaks to you most?
  1. Stained glass lamp
  2. Campfire
  3. Candle
  4. Chandelier
5. Do you ever double-text?
  1. Yes. And I triple or quadruple text, too. Idc!
  2. Totally. Who doesn't?
  3. I try not to, but it happens.
  4. Never!
6. Choose some sunglasses:
  1. Hearts
  2. Tortoiseshell
  3. Aviators
  4. Matrix
7. Are you the type to play music out loud in public?
  1. Totally. I bring the vibe to the people!
  2. Sometimes, like if I'm hanging out with friends.
  3. Nah. I'm using headphones.
8. Can you remember the last time someone shushed you or told you to quiet down?
  1. Yeah, this week, lol.
  2. It's definitely happened in the past few months!
  3. It's happened for sure, but not recently.
  4. Not really!
9. When the party starts at 7pm, you show up at...
  1. 9pm
  2. 8pm
  3. 7:30pm
  4. 7pm
10. Choose a theme for your next bday party:
  1. Destination! Let's all meet in a foreign country.
  2. Costume party! Come dressed as your fav character.
  3. Dinner party! Bring a dish or a drink.
  4. I'd rather not have a bday party, honestly.

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How to Avoid Being Too Much

There's nothing wrong with living unapologetically, but we have to remember that we share this life with other people, and we shouldn't get carried away and step on their toes. That's why we talked to psychologists and social coaches to teach us how to be the best without being too much:

  • Clinical psychologist Tala Johartchi, PsyD, says to watch out for the feeling that you constantly need to be around others. This can be "too much" for them, and is a sign you might need to take a step back.[1]
  • Etiquette coach Christine Ferrera says to take other people's feedback into account. If someone gives you a pointer, see if you can try to understand their perspective, and if it's a reasonable recommendation. For example, "If you've listened to feedback and someone says, 'Well, you talk so long' or 'talk too much.' that is your cue to go and fix it... record a conversation or ask someone to record you."[2]
  • Counseling psychologist Peggy Rios, PhD, says to focus on being comfortable in your own company. If you need or crave someone else being there, ask yourself if there's something you can do alone, instead, to practice being comfortable without roping other people into it.[3]
  • Life coach Seth Hall says that if the issue is overconfidence, then try to journal or self-reflect on where that confidence comes from and if it's earned, and also how you can more appropriately express that confidence.[4]
  • Communication therapist Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, says that at the end of the day, the best you can do is be genuine. "Authenticity is attractive. Be true to yourself and your interests, rather than trying to conform to someone else's idea of coolness. People are drawn to individuals who are confident in their own skin," she says.[5]

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References

  1. ↑ Tala Johartchi, PsyD. Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview
  2. ↑ Christine Ferrera. Etiquette Coach. Expert Interview
  3. ↑ Peggy Rios, PhD. Counseling Psychologist. Expert Interview
  4. ↑ Seth Hall. Life Coach. Expert Interview
  5. ↑ Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP. Communication Therapist. Expert Interview