Lisa Shield

Dating Coach

Lisa Shield is a Dating Coach based in Los Angeles. She is a certified life and relationship coach with over 17 years of experience, specializing in helping people find and maintain strong, loving, and healthy relationships. Following a divorce, Lisa went on 96 first dates until she met her now husband of over 20 years. She has since been dedicated to helping others find the power of true love.

Education

  • University of Santa Monica, MA, Spiritual Psychology
  • University of Texas at Austin, BA, Communications

Professional Achievements

  • Featured in The Huffington Post, Buzzfeed, LA Times, and Cosmopolitan
  • Hosts “Finding the Guardian of Your Soul” Podcast
  • Appeared on ABC News and the Millionaire Matchmaker

Certifications & Organizations

  • The Coaches Training Institute Certified Coach

Philosophy

Lisa became a certified life coach after fulfilling her lifelong dream of finding a soulmate so she could help others find true love. While she understands that not everyone wants to search for love, she is committed to helping those who do. Lisa knows nothing else we do in life can feel as frustrating, confusing, and disheartening as dating or a disappointing relationship. But she also knows that having true love is worth everything we must go through in order to find it.

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How do you know if conversation is flowing on a date?
I would add that really great conversation happens when you take one topic, and then you go deeper with it. You might say, "Where did you grow up?" And they may say, "I grew up in Detroit." And you might say, "Wow, tell me about Detroit. What was it like growing up in Detroit?"
What are some good deep convo starters to ask?
What I recommend to help you have incredible and deep conversations is not to just skip from subject to subject. Very often conversations turn into interviews, where people will ask "How many siblings do you have?" "Where did you grow up?" 'What do you like to do for fun?" "Where did you go to college?" They go from topic to topic. But really great conversation happens when you take one topic, and then you go deeper with it. For instance, you might say, "Where did you grow up?" And the other person may say, "I grew up in Detroit." And you might say, "Wow, tell me about Detroit. What was it like growing up in Detroit?" or "I heard that Detroit is really having a renaissance right now. I heard that the city is really coming back to life," and you can start to really explore that. If you really stick with a single subject, exploring before just going around from topic to topic, it allows for much deeper conversation.

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