Showing posts with label family vacation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family vacation. Show all posts

Friday, August 11, 2017

"A good practical sort of immortality"


Just a couple of hours outside of Los Angeles, you pass through the most incredible landscape of farms and hills and endless road. It's where most of your produce is grown, folks, and last I heard, a lot of California farmland is filled with rotting produce because of that goon in office and his henchmen, busy Making America Great. They've cracked down on brown immigrants who work the fields, and the Real Americans are not stepping up to do the work. You can read about that here.


That isn't fake news either. But this isn't a post about the Pussy Grabber in Chief or his racist Attorney General Keebler Elf, so let's move on.

We stopped in the town of Earlimart to get gas and victuals.


The gas station had the best moniker I've ever seen yet was in direct sight of the Earlimart Market for World Peace.


Doesn't she make you want to pile the Bud into the trunk of your car and drive backward to when America was truly great?

Bless her heart.

Cast my memory back there Lord, sometimes I'm overcome --

Despite the Goon in Chief and his Band of Billionaires, you can pass through a lot of California now and see only a few "white" faces. This evidently terrifies a lot of people.

I find it thrilling that boundaries are blurry.




You can drive approximately five hours from Los Angeles, the sprawling home to over 8 million humans of every color, creed and culture and reach the south entrance of Yosemite National Park. My friend Cara, her two girls and my two boys have been numerous times together, and this year we stayed in a little cabin in the woods inside the park in an area called Wawona. We largely avoid the crowds in the valley and stay up and around the secret places near the park entrance.

We don't do much of anything, really, but wander around and look up and down, float on the river and lay on our backs on sun-warmed rocks. We laugh a lot, mostly at Oliver who can imitate anything and anyone. We all have riotous senses of humor. The girls balance the boys, while Cara and I eschew exercise and adopt the life patterns of marmots for the most part. Oliver did not let us forget our general "cringiness." If you need a translation, let me know.







We do this kind of thing:





and a little of this kind of thing:







and some of this kind of thing:










We even had a roadside "adventure" this year. Cara's car had an electrical short, we think, so we were mysteriously locked out of her car in the middle of Nowhere just after finishing up a roadside picnic. Our purses and phones were locked inside the car, and the teenagers, despite their phone appendages, were not connected to the world wide webs or the vast cell satellites arcing overhead, so we basically did one of those survival kind of things and put our privileged heads together to try to figure out WHAT TO DO.



I can tell you that everyone has an idea or opinion on how to break into a car.




You know what? We city slickers now marvel at just how hard it is to break into a car. Given how many of ours have been broken into in the big shitty, who knew that the windows are virtually indestructible, the locks un-pickable, the whole American metal machine invulnerable?

A few tourists did try to help, offering hangers and various tools. I have actually quite successfully broken into several of my cars, during days of yore, but my tried and true techniques just didn't hack it. I'm a woman of twentieth century crime, I guess. Other tourists just stared at us and took videos. Stupide americaines.  Our favorite samaritans were two women with blue hair and heavy Eastern Europeanish/Russian accents (think female versions, just barely, of what you might imagine our goon-in-chief's best Russian buddy sounds like)who walked over with crow bars from their rental and said, in what became a sort of anthem that Oliver repeated, over and over for the rest of the trip: Let me help you break open car.

Henry, who had otherwise made the women, men and children of Yosemite swoon everywhere we went, had no luck with a rock and muscle, and neither did the rest of us. I thought, in my optimistic way, that a solution would come to us, eventually, that we wouldn't perish with so much cheese and crackers and cans of limonata in the cooler and surely two marmots and a passel of teenagers wouldn't be attacked by any animal or human should it get dark.

Eventually, though, a couple of rangers pulled up on the scene, hammered a few wedges in the doors and saved us. To be fair, it did take them at least twenty minutes, and they were armed. We secretly hoped they'd shoot the car open, but that didn't happen.








We also did some more of this:











Oh yeah, and this:










I know. I know. It's almost ridiculous, except it's not. It is respite and wildness, air and water and earth and fire. I honestly think Yosemite is one, if not the holiest places on the planet, and my gratitude both for its proximity and my privilege to visit it, over and over, is boundless.



Another glorious Sierra day in which one seems to be dissolved and absorbed and sent pulsing onward we know not where. Life seems neither long nor short, and we take no more heed to save time or make haste than do the trees and stars. This is true freedom, a good practical sort of immortality. 
John Muir,  My First Summer in the Sierra, 1911

Friday, July 28, 2017

Hilton Head Family Vacation


I don't even know where to start! If what happened last night hadn't happened, I'd probably have titled this post Hilton Hell Family "Vacation" instead of the more prosaic Hilton Head Family Vacation. Because of last night's vote by the Senate to NOT repeal the Affordable Care Act, and because I only found out about it this morning when I woke up in Los Angeles, (much to my shock because when I went to bed it looked like it was going to be the opposite, and I did go to bed filled with anxiety and dread, much like I've gone to bed for the last six months), I would have had a harder time getting on the old blog not sounding bitter and angry. As long-time readers of the old blog know, there is some pretty hard-core partisanship in my immediate family, and things can get very testy. I have a mother who is half Syrian and a father who is full Italian. Let's just say that the three daughters are opinionated, our progeny vocal and we're all -- well -- passionate.

It's a beautiful house, but it's not big and all of us stay there. It's tight and it's raucous.


Long-time readers of the old blog know that every year my extended family meets for a week or so at my parents' home on Hilton Head Island. We've been doing this for over eighteen years, and the kids adore the experience. My experience is, let's say, less joyful, but that's because for the first decade or so I brought Sophie along and have a bit of PTSD, I think (if I were an atheist, I would have become one during "vacation" on Hilton Head Island with Sophie), as well as this aching feeling that she will never truly be a part of these kids' lives or memories. That's a big, complicated feeling that those of you in similar circumstances will probably understand better than those of you who might have the fleeting (and somewhat accurate) thought that I need some gratitude or awareness of my privilege or -- well -- whatever.

The Progeny


The kids are all getting so big, and despite the geographical distances between us (Los Angeles, New York, St. Louis and Washington, D.C.), with social media and this annual get-together, the cousins remain remarkably close and are a joy to watch. Not only are they all, literally, beautiful, but they're also a kind and very funny bunch. We had many a laugh, particularly one night when we each used our Bitmoji characters and texted one another from the same room, with one text more clever than the next, all of us laughing so hard that we cried. 

O.K., I cried. 

I'm really proud to say that most believe my Bitmoji to look exactly like me:


Where was I?

The Big O with his drone

Genes are mighty strong

Family meals

The best-looking incoming freshmen in any university anywhere

My amazing 81 year old father with Henry

Beautiful Atlantic ocean

We're a big crowd on the beach (and those giant houses behind are not ours)

My sexy, adorable sister who fights in her home state for safer gun laws. You don't want to mess with her.

Look closely at what's in the lagoon right behind my parents' house. Scroll down for details.

I love this picture of me and my father. 

What I wore in lieu of actually screaming at every single person I saw in South Carolina that I suspected of being a Trumper

I showed them, right?

Ha. Just kidding. I felt desperate sitting out there on the hot beach, under a tent, watching our beautiful children play volleyball. I felt angry and nervous and anxious all afternoon on Tuesday, and when I checked my email and saw that the Senate was taking up the debate, that McCain had voted yes, I stood up and stormed off the beach and back to my room where I sat for the next hour, furiously dialing people through my Indivisible resistance app, speaking to constituents in West Virginia and Nevada. One 83 year old woman told me that she'd called Senator Capito every day for weeks, but she didn't think her voice mattered. I asked her to please call again, that her voice did matter. I hope it matters, I said. The calling helped me to feel sane and productive and less anxious, but can I tell you something? This whole thing has made me, generally not an anxious person, a very anxious person, often filled with dread and -- yes -- anger. The thing is that it's not only about me, about Sophie -- it's about so many of the people I've met over the last couple of decades and what I've learned about community and disability and vulnerable people. It's existential.

My beloved sons and I in the best light of the day

In the lagoon behind my parents' house

It was also Henry's 19th birthday, so we celebrated by going to a Mexican restaurant.




I won't show you the picture that my brother-in-law took of the my sistahs and I shooting birds into the camera. As Mary said when I showed her, I'd party with ya'll.

Speaking of Mary, I hope you wish her a happy birthday because today's her birthday and I love her to pieces.

What else?

I arrived back on the left coast and walked down the baggage claim and out into the not-humid Los Angeles air and to my love.


Waking up this morning to the good news -- well -- it was awesome. I know we'll still have to fight, but I'm ready and willing. The relief that I don't have to worry that Sophie's health insurance will be ripped away or her access to MediCal messed with, at least for now, is indescribable.  The Turtle put his head back in the shell, 45 is still tweeting insanities, and we've got a dude in charge of 45's communication who seems like he stepped out of the show Entourage. There's a lot going on, right?


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